The Key To Achieving Inner Peace | Gary John Bishop EP 801

0:00Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

0:11There's only two changes you'll ever make in your life. It's the ones that you've discovered for yourself or the ones that you're forced to make. That's it. There's nothing else. It's either what you've seen for yourself and what you're forced, just kind of getting shoved in your face, right? Like it's right there, which is a lot of my work. You know, I present people with something that you're either going to try and escape from or you're going to push through. But you should know that if you're trying to escape from it, it's still there. You know, like it's amazing how folks, when you confront something as serious as this, they will fight for their misery.

0:51Absolutely. They'll fight for it. They will argue with you for it. Like I'll say something like this. I'll say, it's not what happened to you. It's what you decided after. And they'll say, no, no, it's what happened to me. And I'll say, no, it's what you decided after. And they'll say, no, no, no, it's what happened to me. Because if that hadn't happened, then I wouldn't have had that thought after. And I'll say, well, no, there's 50 ,000 thoughts you could have had after. You had that one. And you held on to it. And you held on to it. And you constructed from there. The benefit of you seeing something like that is, oh, I made the beast.

1:24Now, if I made the beast, then I can at the very least come to terms with the beast. But I could create something else. I have a profound ability to create who the heck I am. You can't get there until you confront and deal with the impact of who you've been. If you can't confront and deal with the impact of who you've been, then it's just like shellac on top of nonsense. Yes. If you're not fully responsible in that stage of things, you'll take yourself down another rabbit hole. You got to be like, you got to kind of be flat about it. So one of the ways that I did it is this whole notion of who's to blame.

2:09So it's a massive part of our makeup as human beings. So if you start with the idea that blame is the anchor to the past. So you're either blaming yourself or somebody else. And that thing, this thing about who's to blame will ruin you. like it will ruin you. Yes. Right? And I just got like, there's nothing to blame. There's no one to blame. Everybody was doing what they were doing at the time given their logic and I responded in a way that I responded given my logic. I'm not making that okay. Right. I'm not making a case for any of that. I'm just getting and that's what's so. And when I could get it that flat, like that's what's so, I noticed there was no charger on it for me.

2:57Yeah. Like nothing. Even people who have done, quote unquote, really bad things in my life. Like really bad things. That was their logic at the time. As flawed as it was, as messed up as it was, the connection between what you say and how you feel is just there. Right. Right. And so you are tied to all of that language. Right. Like I said, it was this kid at school who bullied me. And it was relentless. And it was incessant. And it was every other day. And it was cruel. And it was da, da, da, da, da, da, da. Right. And then I went with, well, there was this kid who used to say things. Because that's actually what happened.

3:33You can either believe what he was saying or you don't have to believe it. And all the damage was in how that was kind of captured for me in language. Like, I really realized how attached I'd become to the narrative. Like, attached to the narrative because it justified this. That narrative justified and explained this. And so I was no longer able to get free of this because I was so attached to that narrative. And so when I broke that down for myself and was able to get a little bit of space about it and really bring a sense of nothingness to it, you know, as cruel as it might sound, so what? If you ask somebody about your characteristics, your personality, for instance, what your strengths might be, that's what you've come across that you feel as if is a good machinery to make it in this life right so this is like you know i'm maybe i'm charismatic maybe i'm hard-working maybe i'm analytical maybe i'm you know competitive maybe i'm these ways somewhere along the lines of your life you realized this would be a good thing and this gets me a little further forward yeah very So then there I am in life being this way.

4:49And the more successful it is, the more I'm going to be this way. So now I'm more and more and more like this to the point where there's no distinction between this thing and me. Like we're the same now. There's no line anywhere. It's just all how you would explain yourself now. What you also realize, though, is that those ways don't work everywhere. And so what people call imposter syndrome is basically just the realization that your shtick don't stick. Like you're like, my stuff don't work here. And so people are like, oh, I feel like I'm an imposter. Well, you are in many ways, but not in the way you might think.

5:27You are an imposter. There's a you there doing another you. But behind that you really is you.

5:46I am so excited for you to finish the rest of your day strong. If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to click the link in the description and it'll take you to the full episode of my other show, The School of Greatness. Make sure to come back tomorrow for another episode of The Daily Motivation Show.

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