The Psychological Tricks To Build Confidence | Ed Mylett EP 254

0:00Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation show.

0:10I firmly believe that taking charge of your mindset allows you to be in the driver's seat of your life and unlock your potential. And that's why I'm thrilled to share that my new book is out right now. It's called The Greatness Mindset. In it, you'll learn how to build a plan for greatness through powerful exercises and toolkits designed to propel your life forward. This is the book that I wish I had 20 years ago. It's everything I've learned in the last decade with the research and the science to help you unlock your mind. Make sure to go to lewishouse.com slash 2023mindset to pick up your copy of my book, The Greatness Mindset, today.

0:51The confidence trilogy is faith, have confidence. So if you're a person of faith, no matter what you believe in, so that's number one. Number two is my intention. And third is my associations change my confidence. but here's the biggie. If you don't have self-confidence, here's what you have. You have a really bad reputation with yourself. Yes. You have built a habit of not keeping the promises you make to yourself. We've all heard this before. Here's how I built what I would call almost superhuman confidence in spite of my insecurity. If you don't have self-confidence, you've never kept the promises you make to yourself.

1:21Check that box. If you have self-confidence, you've started to keep the promises you make to yourself. If you want to have superhuman self-confidence, you keep the promises you make to yourself and one more. So if I'm going to get up and I'm going to work out, I'm going to do 10 reps in the gym. I do one more. I'm going to do 45 minutes on the treadmill. I do one more. If I want to make 10 contacts in a day, I do that. And one more, if I'm going to tell my daughter, I love her every day. I'm going to do that. And one more. And so that higher standard, because in life we don't get our goals, we get our standards long-term.

1:52And so if your standard is one more starts, what starts to happen as you go, I'm willing to do things. Other people aren't willing to do. and I combine that, that I have great faith, great associations, and I intend to help people. This is a formula to build wonderful self-confidence and never lack humility when you have it. So when did you learn this one more mindset? Was this from your dad early on or was this? From my dad. My dad had these couple theories he would always say to me. And so one was when he got sober, he gave it one more try. He was going to stay sober one day at a time. And my dad would always say, you know, I was one decision away from changing my life the whole time.

2:28One choice. And he'd say, Eddie, you're not as far away from these dreams as you think you are. And I'd say, really, Dad? And he'd go, no, you're actually a lot closer than you think. But because you think it's so far away, you behave in accordance with that belief system, and it always keeps it that far away from you. So how do we bring our dreams closer to us? The first thing is, that's a great question. The first thing is you need to believe and know that you're one decision, one relationship, one meeting, one book, one thought, one something away from a completely different life. And when you know that, then you begin to look for them.

2:59And so in the second chapter of the book, I have a thing in the book called the matrix. And your matrix is your reticular activating system in your brain. It's the filter for your entire life. Okay. And this filter reveals to you the world that's in front of you. The other component too, I have a chapter in the book called become an impossibility thinker and a possibility achiever Here's how most people's frameworks. They don't have an ras program. They're not intentional So they keep getting if the things most important to you are your worries fears anxieties problems bills You will continue to have people places and things revealed to you that confirm it and if you operate out of your memory And your history if this is your pattern your framework, you will continue to find those things You need to learn to operate out of your imagination and your dreams.

3:41This is a different framework for life. Imagination is different than dreaming. Imagination causes you to create dreams and thoughts that never happen. When you imagine something, you create a space. Once you have a thought, this is powerful, you create a space that did not exist in the world before you had that thought. And that space now exists. And the way your brain works and your life works and the universe works is it tries to furnish that space. Whether it's a negative or a positive thought, it starts to hear things it wouldn't hear. That's why like when you're in a crowded room and they say Lewis, you can hear Lewis auditorily over all the noise.

4:13Why? It's in your RAS. The key thing is being able to operate out of this imagination. Why is imagination so important? When you were a child, three, four, five years old, you were probably happier than you are right now. Why? Two reasons. A, you were closer to God. You had just been with God more recently. And two, you operated out of your imagination. You didn't operate out of a history and a memory because you didn't have one. And slowly over time, by the time you were 10, 11, 12 years old, loving people installed their limiting thoughts and beliefs, their software into you. Because most things in life are caught, not taught.

4:46You catch them. And so now you're starting to operate out of history and memory. And you repeat it. And your RAS begins to see the things that reinforce that history and memory. And so you basically have the same life over and over again with a different cast of characters in a different environment, but the same emotions. You have the same emotional home. So a lot of these things that you believe, you were defenseless when you started to believe them. They were installed in you by loving people who were around you. And even though your life may look differently, your emotional home, the four, five, six emotions you experience pretty regularly, might be very familiar from your parents, one or two of them, right?

5:20And so you need to look at your emotional home.

5:33Thank you so much for listening to today's episode of The Daily Motivation, and I hope you have an amazing rest of your day. If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to click the link in the description. That will take you to the full episode of our main podcast on The School of Greatness. And if you are loving the daily motivation, please follow us over on Apple Podcasts and Spotify and leave us a review over on Apple Podcasts right now. And if you want more exclusive content and ad-free listening experience, make sure to subscribe to our Greatness Plus channel on Apple Podcasts right now. And if you want to get even more inspiration from our world-class guests and learn how to improve your life and take it to the next level, then make sure to sign up for the Greatness newsletter and get it delivered right to your inbox over at greatness.com slash newsletter.

6:23Again, have an amazing day, and I'll see you tomorrow with another episode of the Daily Motivation Show.

6:38Thank you.