The Science Of Why Trauma Runs In Families | Dr. Mariel Buqué

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0:37What's the difference between the traumas that happen to us and the generational trauma that happened to our ancestors? So the major difference is placed in biology. So there's a genetic component to intergenerational trauma. And so intergenerational trauma has this way in which there is a genetic transmission that happens from parent to child. Really? And so it creates a predisposition to vulnerability to stress. Give me an example. What's a common example you see in your practice that is a generational story? Well, I mean, you know, there are people that will come in and say, you know, ever since I was a child, it was, like, difficult to soothe.

1:20And I was, you know, I had like this hyperactivity. There's a lot of trauma survivors that also like believe that their symptoms coincide with ADHD because there's a lot of overlap in the experience and in the symptomatology. So there's a lot of that. There's like people that, you know, reflect back to their childhood and they say like, I've always had like this experience that felt like I was always anxious. When we dig into the layers and we dig deep, we start noticing, okay, especially because I do a lot of like family tree work and like really going down the lineage to know like, well, what are some of the trauma responses or what are some of the responses around also like inflammatory responses like depression or anxiety or other kind of like mental illness, you know, kind of experiences that were held in the family.

2:09And when we start going down the family line and we start exploring not only their childhood and how they responded in their childhood, what their attachment patterns were in their childhood, but also how perhaps like their mother had an inner child wound and the mother's mother had an inner child. And they never healed it. Never healed it. Express it as a trauma response. Yelled and screamed in the home. You know, had like emotional outbursts. What did that do? that actually created a disruption in the attachment that you could have had, like in your childhood. It created an insecure attachment.

2:42You then went out into the world and experienced bullying, a pandemic, like all kinds of things. And then that trauma, that trauma, you know, propensity or vulnerability got triggered out. And so now you are continuing the cycle of intergenerational trauma because it was modeled to you. Genetically, it was passed down. And then, you know. Now, is it genetic or is it, let's say the mother breaks a cycle before she heals her trauma, the generational trauma, before she has her child? She can. And she creates an environment of peace, you know? Yeah. Is it the environment or is it the biology, the genetic code that is passed down?

3:28Because it's like these environments are kind of passed down. You witness your parents doing it, you just follow the pattern, and you follow the environment pattern. Is that genetic? Is that environment? What is both? It's both. It's like, you know, for as long as psychology has existed, we've had theories on nature-nurture. Darwinism also kind of just started that way back when. So nature being the biological aspects of our experiences, and then nurture being the social aspects of our experiences. and intergenerational trauma is really the only trauma that is situated at the intersection of both.

4:04So we have the nature side. Yeah. So, you know, on the nature side, the genetic expression, like we're getting a lot of information from like the field of epigenetics, which helps us understand how behavior like impacts genes. And so basically what happens is that let's say a mother, a mother has stress and depression in her life. Let's say that this mother is actually pregnant at five months gestation. So she's pregnant. She has a baby in utero. And because she's at five months gestation, that baby also has all the precursor sex cells that they're going to have for their lifetime,

4:40Dr. Mariel Buqué:regardless of whether it's male or female. They already have those. So the mother, she experienced chronic trauma her entire life. And so because that became the status quo, her genes re-expressed. So her genes said, okay, this is the way that things are. We are a stressed body. And so because her genes are now saying we are predisposed to stress, that's being handed down to the baby in utero, actually at conception. Wow. So the baby is conceived into genes that are predisposed to stress. And because she is already still stressed while she's having this baby, all those stress hormones, namely cortisol, those are being passed down to the baby in utero.

5:22And what's happening to the precursor cells. Those are also ingesting a lot of that stress environment. So you have three generations in one body. Wow. Genetically being passed down the stress vulnerability. But also the social piece, the mother's stress. You know, like she has all her things going on. She's predisposed to trauma. She's got all these things going while she's, you know, still pregnant. Her environment is still stressful, yeah. Yeah. And so everybody in that lineage of three generations in one body is experiencing stress.

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