The SECRET To Finding Real Love! | Stephan Speaks EP 334

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1:12There's a lot of people that are like, I've been single for years. I can't find the right man. I can't find the right woman. What is wrong with them? Or is nothing wrong? There is something wrong with them. And listen, like, and I won't say it to insult them because I don't want anyone to feel bad or beat themselves up. But the reality is that if we're not getting the results we want in life, there's an adjustment we need to make. You know, people who are successful, they understand that. We didn't get to where we are by simply saying, oh, it's just the way the world is and I can't do anything about it.

1:46There's nothing wrong with me. No. If we're not seeing progress, we need to make adjustments. So, in regards to relationships, I think one of the biggest issues is that men and women refuse to accept what the other gender desires and is looking for in a partner. They want the other person to accept them as they are. This whole take me as I am, flaws and all nonsense, all right, that only keeps them stuck in being single or having to settle for less than they actually desire and would actually make them happy. If people would just accept the qualities and things that the opposite gender needs, they would see greater success and a lot faster.

2:27So what do you think is the number one reason people are single who don't want to be single? Again, I think it boils down to not tapping into what the opposite sex is looking for or not tapping into what the type of person you desire is looking for. so it's like okay for example if you have a man who says he wants a woman that I'll let him be the leader of the household all right and and will trust his decision making so on and so forth but you refuse to accept that she needs financial stability from you you refuse to accept that you may have to take on some of the burden of the bills not that she won't contribute but if you want that kind of dynamic that kind of woman is looking for a man who will first lead financially All right?

3:14On the flip side, if you're a woman saying, well, I want a man who has his stuff together, who's an alpha man, but you're exuding nothing but masculine energy all the time, you're not going to get that kind of man. You have to tap into femininity because that's what attracts the alpha man, the masculine man, so on and so forth. So again, it's like we're not tapping into the qualities and things that that person would desire in a partner. We just want them to take us as we are and give us what we want. And it's like, no, it doesn't work like that. Why do so many people continue to live in that?

3:51What's the famous quote? Like, if you don't accept me at my worst, you shouldn't deserve me at my best or something like that, right? It's like, I get that men and women and individuals are gonna have bad moments in their life. We're not all gonna be perfect. We're not always gonna be at our best, but we shouldn't always be at our worst either. And if you're always at your worst and not improving, why should someone settle for you at your worst consistently. Is that fair to say? That is fair to say. And I think that's another big problem is that people are looking for partners who will take their worst.

4:22And it's like, listen, yes, they should be able to get past the rough moments that you have. As you mentioned, we're going to have those moments where not perfect, cool. But you're supposed to bring your partner your best, all right? Like you shouldn't always be coming home and bringing nothing but drama and stress to your partner and say, hey, deal with it because you're supposed to love me. All right. And it's like, yeah, cool. If you had a bad day, a bad week, I'm there for you. But if every damn day is bad and you're stressed out and you're stressing me out, you can't expect to have a healthy relationship with that.

4:56So absolutely, people have to get out of that mindset.

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