This Essential Mindset Shift Will CHANGE YOUR LIFE | Greg McKeown EP 325

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1:13What was the thought process that stuck in your mind the longest, that was the hardest to let go of that when you let go of it, life became more effortless, whether it be in your relationships or your career or whatever it might be. Well, I'll give you one answer though, which is that the work at what's essential needs to kind of be hard, drudgery. And then you've got separate to that play and fun. And that those two things are just two different categories. Yes. They don't have to be, but we often divide them up. and so we just have the fun and the play separate. What if the essential things can be the fun things?

1:53What if you can make the things that used to seem like drudgery into like fun rituals? Yeah, how do you make cleaning your laundry or mopping the floor or cleaning the toilet a fun and enjoyable experience? Or, which is a specific example in my family, cleaning up after dinner. So we have pretty good rituals around the actual mealtime. Like we actually eat together. I've got four kids, and my wife and I, we will do toasts for each other at the end of each day. Like, what's gone right today? And we have some good rituals around this. But as soon as the dinner is over, my kids are just, like, gone.

2:27They're like, see you on the phone. Disappeared. They're like ninjas, man. They're just gone. It's, like, so silent. And, like, where do they all go? Then I have the unenviable task of, like, come back and pulling them all back. Where did you all go? Oh, no, I've got homework. It's hard to argue with that. Go to the bathroom. Okay, that's hard to argue. And it's just this cat and mouse game to get them back in. So I'm like, okay, how do we make it effortless? And so we divide up the chores. So everyone's got a certain part of it, right? Many hands make light work and we train them on each piece.

2:57And I'm like, okay, we're going to set this up. We wrote it all down on a piece of paper where everyone can see it. Okay, ready to start. What happens? Nothing. Chaos. It is back to the same. They're gone. The next day they're gone like ninjas again. And it wasn't until Mail the Store to Grace added just a particular kind of music to the occasion that it became like karaoke. There was like classic Disney tracks. It was I mean, she's a teenager. She's just turned 18 now. But it's just like sing along stuff that you can't not sing to all kinds of music. And it turned it into just like a little party.

3:30And even now, we'll start to do the same problems as soon as someone puts on the right music. You all do it. You play. And it's like that now. In fact, I didn't think people would believe me, but the other day I wasn't even helping them. Music got put on. Everyone's doing it. I grabbed like five seconds of video and put it on Instagram just to like prove like it really is like that now. So the idea is, one of the ideas that's hard to let go of is that essential stuff has to be the drudgery. You know, the important stuff is just hard work. Some things are just hard. And then there's fun stuff and that's play over here.

4:00But what if you make it? What if you combine those? What if you make essential stuff enjoyable? well then it becomes relatively speaking endless. And I would add into that and say, if you don't make the essential stuff enjoyable, then you will be burnt out. Yeah. Even if it starts out as like fun, like practice and sports for me, there were many different sports that I played growing up and some of them I burnt out on because it started to become a job where it was only like you got to show up to practice, you got to work hard. This is a business mentality now and it kind of lost the idea of having fun.

4:34Yeah. when we're playing a game, but it's like the business of the game. Right. And so what could start out as really fun could turn into drudgery. Right. And what could be like this thing that I don't like could be this incredibly fun experience based on the parameters you create for yourself. I love what you're saying. And it really is sort of a lot of what I mean when I say effortless state. There's nothing so hard that complaining and whining about won't make it harder. So some things in life, once you decide, I'm going to do this thing, I'm dealing with this. This is a responsibility that's important to me.

5:11I'm taking on. Now you just have to decide, do I want to do it the hard way or the easier way? Yeah, exactly.

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