Tips for Sustaining Your Authentic Self on Social Media | Pokimane EP 480

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0:51I'm curious, did you ever feel alone yourself growing up? And did you ever feel alone while you were streaming to millions of people? For starters, growing up, I feel like I was lucky in the sense that I'm a very extroverted person. I love to talk to people. I find great interest in other human beings. So it's very easy for me to talk to others. But I felt it was very, very difficult to feel like I belong anywhere. Really? Absolutely. And I think that's something that I've struggled with, frankly, most of my life, even though I have good friends. You know, I learn a bit more about this sentiment year over year.

1:28And I found that a large part of that, especially growing up, was due to my upbringing being very different than my friends. I grew up in a more like cultural, religious, strict household than most of my friends did. So things like staying out late, sleepovers with boys, going on trips, those were not things that I was really allowed to do or were common practice for us. And so I'd find myself kind of going to school and having some friends and getting along, but not necessarily relating on a very deep or fundamental basis. And I also missed out on a lot of like the bonding experiences that they might have been able to have that I wasn't allowed to experience.

2:12Being culturally different from people and not finding many people similar to you makes it hard. You want to fit in, but you, in a sense, will never be able to because no matter how hard you try to be like another group per se, you can never fully become that and you always end up being somewhere in the middle. I also feel like my whole life I've had this sentiment of being very indebted to my parents for the sacrifices that they've made and that's just not something that someone can really relate to especially when like you're in middle school you're in high school some kids are just like what do you mean like your whole life is about making your parents proud like you just maybe don't get it I think that's what personally made me feel lonely initially but I found so much solace and like comfort in bonding over gaming with people online actually yeah now fitting in and belonging what's the difference for you i think fitting in is being like socially acceptable you know it's like i walk and talk the part i am easily digestible to others but belonging is more so the people around me understand me to my core, to my soul.

3:29They get where I'm from. They understand like your decision making, your purpose in life. That's more so belonging. And I am lucky enough to have like built at this point in my life, some really deep friendships. Why when I'm around these people, I feel like I belong. I think another part of that is that there is such a cultural and racial aspect to belonging. When people around you don't talk or look like you or come from a background like you, it's hard to feel like you belong. Interesting. So how did you learn to fit in and belong in the streaming world when maybe not everything in the streaming world or the gaming world also fits into your cultural values?

4:15I think for all content creators, it's a bit of a trial and error process. It's just a feedback loop and you want to make that feedback loop as positive as possible. Initially at least, right? You're just like, oh, I think I'm doing the right thing. How do I optimize those positive reactions? But sometimes somewhere along that path, you start thinking, wait, am I even enjoying what I'm doing? Am I losing touch of what I want to do versus what I know my audience wants me to do. Did you ever feel that way? Of course. Really? I'd assume most content creators do at some point. I do think luckily for a lot of my career, it was just so exciting that I didn't think too much about that until someday you burn out and you're like, hold up, let's take it back a couple steps and reevaluate.

5:06And since then, I've just come to view it more so as you need almost like a Venn diagram. What do people want from me? What do I want to do? Let's make sure I'm focusing on what I want to do. And maybe that middle part are the things that you do the most. Right.

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