Transform Anger to Love & Acceptance | Sadhguru EP 391

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0:50When we have emotions, thoughts, or feelings, emotions of anger, resentment from something that happened in the past, upset that we see on social media, frustrations in the world. Where should we be redirecting these thoughts, feelings, and emotions? You must punch a windowpane or a wall better. A stone wall is good. That is the model that the Hollywood and the television shows everything is setting up. When you get angry, you break something, all right? See, first of all, people are assuming that Anger is happening to them. You are creating anger. You are creating misery. You are creating joy.

1:29You are creating whatever. All this is happening from within you. Human experience is happening from within us, isn't it? Right. Whether it's love or hate or anger or misery or joy or anything is only happening from within us. What happens from within you? Should it happen your way or somebody else's way? It should happen your way. Of course. Because the world will never happen your way hundred percent. Because there are so many stakeholders in the world, little bit will happen my way, little bit your way, that is fine. But what happens within me must happen my way. If what happens within me does not happen my way, this is the worst form of slavery, isn't it?

2:08Wow. Somebody decides what happens within me. Somebody decides where I should sit. This is slavery, everybody understands this. Now somebody decides whether I am happy or unhappy. Isn't this the worst form of slavery? So this is the liberation that humanity needs to work at. This is what inner engineering means. Inner engineering is not some mechanical process. Because engineering means this essentially. You will say something is well engineered only if it works the way you want, isn't it? If this one doesn't work the way you want, what are you expecting other things to work the way you want? It's just an accident.

2:46When you live accidentally, anxiety is normal. No, let us not think anger happens to us, resentment happens to us. No, these things we are creating, we have the power to emote. We can make it love, we can make it joy, we can make it ecstasy, but people have chosen to make it tension, anger, resentment, hatred, they have turned it that way. Now they will claim this is because life has been unfair to me. Life has not been fair to anybody. Life is simply rolling, it's for you to learn to ride it. Sometimes we are in uncomfortable situations, sometimes we are in situations where we know exactly what to do, and sometimes we are in situations where we don't know what to do.

3:26Sometimes somebody else is controlling the situation, sometimes you are controlling the situation. This is how life is. If you are constantly stepping into unfamiliar situations in your life, that means you are growing at a rapid pace. If you are in constantly uncomfortable situations, that means you are a stagnant life. Because the moment your thoughts and emotions are going to torment you with external stimulant, external stimulation that happens, what will you choose? You will choose a comfort zone. This means you will limit your life. So the moment somebody can cause you pain or suffering, this means unknowingly you will make the very scope of your life very limited.

4:06only when a person loses this fear of suffering that no matter what happens this is how I will be then you walk full stride because whatever happens in the life around you it will not really make you suffer once you are free from suffering only when you're free from suffering when you're free from the fear of suffering that is when you will explore your life in full depth and dimension How do we rid ourselves of the fear of suffering then? The suffering is happening because your faculties are not held in your hands. See, for example, if I ask you a simple question, do you want your intellect to be sharp or blunt?

4:49What is your choice? Sharp. The sharper it is, the better it is. It's like a knife. So if it's like a knife, it's a cutting instrument. So if you give anything to your intellect, it will dissect everything and see. This is the nature of our intellect. You don't have to physically dissect, but it dissects everything and sees, what is this, what is that? This is the nature of the intellect. Without dissection, it doesn't know because it is a knife. It's like a scalpel. It must be sharp. A knife that is not sharp is no good knife, isn't it? If you are using a knife to do everything, let's say you eat with a knife, you brush with your knife, and you do everything with your knife, of course you will be bleeding.

5:29That's all that's happening. Only one dimension of intelligence within us. This intellect is just one part. Because our education systems are such, which are totally intellect-oriented, human beings largely are using only one dimension of their intellect to do everything. You use a knife to stitch your clothes. What will you wear? Only tatters. Right now, human life is in tatters, mainly because of this. Instead of using a needle, you're using a knife. So intellect is a very good instrument of survival. If you want to survive on this planet, you need a sharp intellect. The sharper it is, the better you will survive.

6:08But that will not make life, that will not put everything together. Right now, because through intellectual process, people are trying to handle everything. With so much care, they're trying to do everything right, right, right, right, and a blunder. The result is a blunder. Everything right but the end result is a big blunder because you're using a knife to do everything. Till I was 23, 24 years of age, from the age of probably 11, 12, I was always 24 hours angry. I was on this binge of what is justice and injustice. So once you start looking what is justice and injustice, just about everything in the world looks unjust.

6:50Everything, anything unjust means it makes me angry. And everywhere I see, whether at home, in school, on the street, in the society, in the country, in the world, wherever I see, I think this is unjust, this is unjust, this is unjust. So much injustice, always angry. See, the reason why people think anger is some kind of a virtue, because they say righteous anger, all right? Right now America is sheathing with anger and they think it's righteous anger. This is simply because it takes some horrible thing to stimulate them into action. There's not enough love in your heart to stimulate yourself into action.

7:30Something has to poke you, you must get angry and then it propels you into action. So that kind of action sometimes will produce results, of course. But if you want genuine results which will be good for everybody, we must do it when everything is right. But when everything is little comfortable, nobody does anything. When something horrible happens, then we will get angry and propel ourselves into action. Right now, propelling yourself into action with anger, how long will you keep it up? If you keep it up forever, you will destroy yourself and you will destroy everything around yourself. Most people are so lethargic in their responses.

8:09Once in a way, when they get angry, they feel empowered and seem to be doing right things once in a way. You must be doing those right things all your life. Then by the end of your life, everything might not have changed, but you would have made a difference. That's the way the world works. How do we get people to wake up when things are calmer so that they can act with love and get the change and the results they want? We must understand, if we want to live in a wonderful world, it's only us and us and us who can make this happen. No other force from anywhere is going to make this happen. Unless we realize and transform ourselves from religion to responsibility, that it's here.

8:52So one first thing that we must decide is, those who are in extreme states of poverty, war, other kinds of misery imposed upon them, only for them you must give solace. Rest of us who have eaten our breakfast today morning or dinner, we should talk about solution, not solace. Solace is just a psychological process to settle something within you. But why? People who have eaten well, people who are healthy, people who have a life to live, why are they psychological problem? They should not have any psychological problem, that's all I'm saying. I know this will be very cruel for a lot of people, but they better get it because life is brief.

9:33If they don't get it now and they think being psychologically disturbed is normal, they will spend their life like this. It is not normal. To be healthy is normal. To be balanced is normal.

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