Turn Anger Into Unstoppable Drive With This Mental Shift | Tony Robbins

0:00Hi, my name is Lewis Howes, and welcome to The Daily Motivation Show.

0:10What is the story of the lesson your natural father taught you versus your adopted father, who you took on the Robin's name, taught you? I think what I've learned today is I judged my natural father and didn't want to be him. I wanted to be anything but him because I wanted my mother's love. I was closer to my mother because my father was, my mom was alcoholic too, but she was more there. He was more of a quiet by himself kind of guy. And I realized that as much as I love my mom, her interpretations I allowed to become mine. And I won't let that ever happen again in my life. Interesting. Because it affected it.

0:47And I've actually, you know, it sounds corny, but I've actually had prayers and so forth to my natural father saying, you know, I'm sorry, I love you. Please forgive me for the judgment I had. And at the same time, I'm proud that Jim Robbins, I think he and I, our natures were more aligned. Yes. And so he fanned the flames of my true nature and my grit and my capacity to push to anything, which has been a part of my entire life, was expanded by that. And then it got tested because he got kicked out by my mom. My mom chased me out with a knife. I knew she wasn't going to kill me, but I wasn't going back in that house.

1:23And I was working as a janitor in San Marino, California, where some of the fires were, Pasadena area. And I realized if I could be paid not by the hour, but by the result, if I clean two banks, I could do it in the same amount of time in the middle of the night going to high school. So I had to take buses there because my mom kept my 1960 Volkswagen. I'd warrant it 40 bucks a week. So I would take all the buses all the way there. It'd take me about 90 minutes because you had to switch buses and all that. And then I'd finish about two in the morning, clean two banks thoroughly. But I was the guy that left notes for people and left candy canes for Christmas as a janitor.

1:54I was just still a people person. Yeah. And I came out one day, it was two o 'clock in the morning, and that's the other day that changed my life. I'll never forget, I'm standing by the thing, and I'm standing, waiting for the bus, waiting for the bus. I mean, I got to get home and get some sleep for two or three hours, and I can get up and go to school. And finally, no bus, like after 20 minutes. And I'm like, that's really late. And I'm standing by the bus stop, and this car comes cruising up. It's the middle of the night. And the guy rolls his window and goes, hey, buddy, didn't you see there's a bus strike?

2:21So. You'd be sitting there all night. I'm 16, 17 miles from home. I have no one I can call. I have no net, no money, nothing of that nature. There's no Ubers, right? I don't have the money for an Uber anyway in those days. They're like, what the hell am I gonna do? And then there was such anger in me about my mom kicking out and everything else. I started with anger and I'm like, F this, I'm gonna run the whole way. Now I'd never even run three miles in my life. And it was 16 miles, I actually drove it one day, I think it was almost 17 miles. But the last mile I walked is I got shin splints, it was so bad.

2:53And, um, but so from two in the morning till like four, whatever it was, I ran, but the wall I ran, I did incantations, not affirmations. Cause I remember when I first got kicked out, I realized I need to feed my mind. And so I took a little bit of money. I had a gun on the bus and I went up to this spiritual bookstore. It was like 20 minutes to my home by bus. And I was up a book's going to guide. There's a book that's going to be here. And I got a magic of believing by Claude M. Bristol. And in the book, he talked about your beliefs control everything. And the way to condition them is through not just affirmations, but what I became called incantations.

3:32He still called them affirmations. But he taught the difference was saying, I'm happy, I'm happy, I'm happy, I'm happy. And your brain goes, I'm not happy. Versus I am ripping this open where your body, your voice, your mind all engage with enough repetition. And whatever you attach the words I am to, with enough consistency, enough emotion, you become. It's a little hypnotized you into it. So I start out with every day and every way I'm getting stronger and stronger. And then I go every day and every I'm stronger, every day and every I'm stronger, stronger. And then I got burned out of that one.

4:02So then it's like healthy and healthier and more and more happy. I did that the whole way. To this day, that energy lives in me. It's like it's an energy of like pure effing will that you tell me can't be. I'll run through the effing building. You will not stop me if what I'm doing is for a greater good. Right. But I left from the anger part in the middle of it, the anger disappeared. And I didn't need that because anger fuel will run out. And I got into the excitement of becoming more. Let's go. Right. And it's like, this is, this is my juice. Yes. It's always, I tell people, there's like two types of motivation.

4:37There's willpower. There's what I call push. And I got a lot of that. I know you do too, my friend. That drive. Yeah. That push. That push is invaluable. But there's a limit to willpower. No matter how much you and I both have. Burnout. Yeah, yeah. But pull motivation is very different. Pull is there's something so magnificent you want to serve more than yourself, you want to create, you want to make it happen, then it pulls you through those times. And pull is way more powerful than push and pull does not wear out. And so I discovered pull on that trip and I also discovered this part of me. So I always tell people, it's like this Tony Robbins guy, I created him, he's always me, but I shaped and created this MFO, right?

5:14I decided who I'm here to be now and I created it through incantations. Wow. Again, not affirmations, but saying it, feeling it, envisioning it with such intensity for hours and hours. And I didn't stop after that. I go on runs and I do this over and over again. I did it with abundance because I grew up with no money, no opportunity. There's no money in my family. They have no money for food. That's why I fed a billion people. Now it's 62 billion. I don't know if you know. I'm a hundred billion meal thing. I've done 62 billion meals. So it's insane. I've never been able to do. but it started with me being able to get inside that head of mine and just create absolute certainty and train it into myself until I built an identity.

5:54This is who I am. And your identity is the strongest force you have. The strongest force in any personality is to stay consistent with your identity.

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