Turn Your Fears Into Unstoppable Growth | Tony Robbins

0:00Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

0:11What happens when we don't lean into our fears or we just allow our fears to stay inside of us, our insecurities to stay inside of us for years or decades, and we never actually learn to act on them and improve them? What happens to us if we just allow these fears to hold us back? Well, what happens to a muscle if you don't use it? We say you lose it. You don't actually lose it but it gets weaker and weaker as you well know right and what happens the minute you start making demands on it especially if you haven't made demands in a while it doesn't take much to see real muscle growth right and so it's like if you if you constantly live in fear your world gets smaller and smaller and it tends to get more fearful like who's more fearful someone has broken 10 bones in their body and healed them as a kid or someone never broke a bone you know the answer is the kids that are over protected are fearful all the time but if you've gone out the street and you know you got in a fight and you know you busted your arm or your hand or finger or you played football or whatever the hell it is or boxed or something it's like now it's like i'm not afraid of that crap because you've lived it and there's no substitute i always tell people a belief is a poor substitute for an experience you think you know what china is but i take you to china you have a little different experience and so almost everything i do is give someone an experience.

1:28That's the reason, you know, I did the firewalk. I still do, but did for so many years. I did before that, I used to do skydiving, but it's hard to get 15 ,000 people above the sky in New York in the middle of the night. So I'd come up with other tools, but the firewalk was again, giving you an experience of something that seemed difficult or impossible. And then you get yourself to do it and your brain goes, wait a second, if I could do that, what else could I get myself to do? That psychological shift is the most important shift that people can make. It's a shift in your identity. Why is identity so important for us to shape a positive, powerful identity?

2:00Well, first of all, so everybody understands what I mean by identity is we all have a way of identifying ourselves. We have a way of labeling ourselves. So most of us came up with our labels based on how we behaved. But really smart people can do stupid things. Really nice people can be mean. Mean people can be nice. And so if you judge yourself too soon, and most people's identity, their labels for themselves, who they think they are, has been based on their past and often many years ago. And so they don't update it. So the metaphor I'd give for identity is like, it's your comfort zone. It's not your goals.

2:33So if you like, if you took a temperature in the room and said 68 degrees is my comfort zone, physically, emotionally, financially, I want more in my relationship, I want more physically, energy wise, I want more financially in my career, but this is what I'm used to. And so what happens? People stay in their comfort zone for the most part. And then let's say something happens and you dip, you're a 68 degree or that's your mentality. And you drop down to 62, 61, 60, somewhere around 60 or 59, the heaters kick on and go, whoa, whoa, whoa, you're a 68 degree or what the hell are you doing? We've all experienced that.

3:07All of a sudden you go, I'm not going to live like this anymore. I'm not going to be in this relationship. I'm not going to be fat like this. Boom. And you get this drive and you start to change. But what most people don't understand is it happens on the upper end too meaning let's say you got momentum you start crushing it you start doing even better than you think you go from 68 to 78 to 8 you're 98 degrees financially emotionally spiritually whatever the metaphor is and then what happens you're going hey hey your brain goes who the hell do you think you are you're not a 98 degree here right get back to 68 and if nothing else the heaters stop you lose your drive and that'll drift you back and not enough the air conditioning can kick on you start to kind of sabotage yourself till you get back to your comfort zone.

3:47So unless you expand your identity, change is temporary. It's like when someone says to me, I've stopped smoking. It's been eight days. And I go, why are you counting? And I say, why are you counting? So you can tell people how long you lasted this time. Like if I went to somebody and I said to you, Hey, you know, Lewis, you want a cigarette? You're not going to say, what brand is it? You're going to go, no, I'm not a smoker. Notice how people are. I'm not one of those. That's not my identity. Identity is the strongest force in the human personality. If you look at Lance Armstrong who has a mixed identity now in the culture, this is a guy that had to win and found a way to win.

4:24So when he was told he had cancer in his lungs, in his brain, and in his testicles, and he rides a bike and he's going to die, his answer was no, I'm a champion. I find the way. I will find the answer. And he did. Now, unfortunately, he bent the rules around the sport and it kind of ruined his reputation, obviously. but that mentality, his identity is why he survived. Other people told they have cancer and they're like, it's over. They give up. They start arranging their affairs. And so that psychological difference is the number one thing I work with people on because unless you expand your identity, you're going to basically keep where you are.

5:01You might improve a little or not. You might go up and down a bit, but you're going to stay within a realm. If you're going to have an explosive breakthrough to another level, physically, mentally, financially, spiritually, then we got to not only give you the tools, we got to shift that internal sense of who you really are and have you find that you are more than anything that's ever happened to you, that you can handle whatever shows up, even if it's incredibly scary or uncomfortable.

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