Unlock The Power Of Your Mind To Achieve Your Full Potential | Shi Heng Yi EP 233

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0:50When we were young and we didn't get what we wanted, we became angry. As a teenager, somebody took something away from you, you got angry. Nowadays, 21st century, somebody takes something away from you, you're angry. The reasons why this anger came up are always different. But the anger is always the same. The anger you feel today is the same anger that you felt when you were in young ages. So that means there might be the feeling that outside circumstances are triggering something inside of you. Yes, it's triggering something. But what eventually comes up is what you have not been able to adjust in a proper way yet.

1:34And the same is like ill will. Ill will is a state of the mind. Doesn't matter if it's towards yourself, towards another person, towards an animal, towards your colleagues. It's always the same ill will. It is something inside of you, which if you don't pay attention to, is going to be a hindrance along your way of walking. How do we heal ill will so that it's no longer inside of us? Go Beyond It, I think, is the more proper expression because we don't try to get rid of all of these things. You don't want to get rid of the body that it's never going to be inside of your body anymore. You don't want to get rid of your jealousy when it comes up.

2:19You don't want to get rid of the joy that you feel. You don't want to get rid of your feelings. You want to have a very great variety of different feelings that you can tap into. The only thing which makes the difference is if you are tapping into this world of feelings consciously or if that world of feelings is just unconsciously imploding inside of you. This makes the difference. So to overcome it means to realize it is there. But now you need to find something, the state of level on which you are coordinating. which means you have to stand above you. Learn to get into a perspective where you are standing above you, which means this is not about you.

3:10You see that person at the moment has an issue. How would you, as somebody watching at you, help him? How would you coach, guide, teach? How would you coach yourself, guide yourself to the better version? And this is what it only means to de-identify yourself with this one. If you are caught inside here, I think it becomes difficult. These emotions or feelings of ill will, anger, jealousy, frustration, how often do you feel them? And how do you teach or coach yourself beyond them? If I want to, I can tap inside of it right away and my whole day is filled with it. No matter where I watch around on the street, there's no problem at all for me to generate the feeling that ill will starts to dominate.

3:59Really? At any moment you could go there? Yes. Then I just ask, this feeling that you're in, does it feel good? No. You know? And then the point is just like I said, it doesn't even feel good to be in it. Right. You know? So if we would say ill will, if at least it would give you something by staying inside that state of the mind, at least then I would understand. But if you watch at it, there is nothing positive, zero. There is no benefit to yourself and there is especially no benefit to the people around you that this ill will is going to cause. That means what is the first thing that I do when I realize I have this feeling?

4:43First of all, I need to know from what does it come? What is it at the moment that triggers it? so I try to identify very quickly what is at the moment the source that is triggering it I say it's so super helpful if you already have let's say some type of concept some type of teachings they tell you already where it comes from very simply and this ill will to a hundred percent in all its different variation that it comes in this world mainly from three reasons either from greed greed of not getting more than you want hate or jealousy of not getting what you want and sometimes it's called ignorance or not knowing greed hate ignorance and especially it will easily falls into one of these categories or sometimes a combination of these things.

5:44So ill will can be, why does he get it? I deserve it. Why do you deserve it? Because you think about yourself, you are the hardworking person in this room. So what is that combination? In that combination it is like there's unfairness from your subjective view, unfairness, jealousy, no respect towards yourself so which then also can maybe mean a low level of self-esteem self-confidence a lack of it so it's very often like a variety of these attributes i think i'm curious if someone is feeling anger unfairness or any emotion around ill will and they have this anger or defensiveness what is the intention that they can think of during those moments, 60 seconds, 10 minutes, however long it takes to go beyond it?

6:38What is the intentional thought while they're in that stressful, the heart is pounding, I don't like this, I want to break free of this. What can they think or say internally along with the breath to help them go beyond? Especially in such moments, you have something you always tell to yourself continuously repeat. And now these can be different things. If you merge together the thoughts, they don't know better. Together with the cultivation of a heart quality of compassion inside of you, then I think even this thought together with that heart quality and the breath has a very powerful impact.

7:20The greatest love you have ever felt in this lifetime, how did it feel? How does it feel? So if somebody would ask you nowadays, when was the moment you really felt love? Well, first of all, you can't make it on the go. Second of all, even probably people nowadays are ashamed of even getting into this state of being while other people are watching around. This is why you need to do these practices alone. Where nobody is watching you and where are you sure you are only with yourself. And there what you do, you start to travel. you travel into the world of your memories and you travel into everything that you are still able to recall in your mind that has happened in the past when somebody hugged you your father your mother your grandfather your first girlfriend your first boyfriend it doesn't matter recall the situation where you think this was the greatest feeling i have ever felt when i hear about that word love.

8:22So then at least in the 21st century, you are at least recalling it again and now know how it feels. And after you have this feeling, now you ask yourself if something like this is existing and you would have the chance that the people in this world can choose in which state of being would you yourself personally would like to live and what would you wish the others to live in?

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