What TRULY Matters in Leadership and Life | Simon Sinek

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0:38Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to The Daily Motivation Show.

0:49What makes your heart hurt? What makes my heart hurt? Or do you allow things, do you allow your heart to hurt? Of course. I don't like bullies. Mm-hmm. I was never bullied as a kid, so it's not like... You're standing up for... It's not some childhood thing. I just don't like it when the strong pick on the weak.

1:12That doesn't mean they have to help them, but they don't have to pick on them. You know? And like, I've been in meetings where somebody's being a bully, and I know... I know what it is. They're insecure, they're becoming sinning, they would bully themselves. You're supposed to show some empathy. I can't. It like really upsets me. Yeah. I'd be like, why don't we let somebody else talk now, Steve? You know? All right. Thank you, Julie. I think Lewis is trying to say something. You know? I kind of help myself. You care about fairness. I care about fairness. Yeah. Yeah. I think it's an ADHD thing.

1:49Somebody told me that ADHD kids have an over-exaggerated sense of fairness. Interesting. Yeah. So that's something that makes your heart hurt. I mean, heart hurt. Do you feel connected to your heart a lot? I probably could work on that. It's not about could or should or right or wrong. I'm just curious. Better than I was. I think there's room for improvement. Sure. What do you think is possible for you, Simon, if you were able to trust your heart more rather than your head? I trust my gut. I mean, with the one exception that I'm telling you about, I'm pretty good at trusting my gut. Uh-huh. and it might take me a couple iterations to be able to articulate it or figure out how to say it to other people but I'm pretty good at trusting my gut it's not always right but you know yeah it's done me okay and I think a lot of a lot of people who we look to for guidance will offer very similar advice trust your gut you know and I think we have to understand what gut is gut is the it's your limbic brain.

2:52It's not actually your stomach. It's where all your values exist. It's where your beliefs exist. And the limbic brain controls all of our feelings. It controls all of our behavior, but it doesn't control language, which is why it's hard to put our feelings into words. It's why we use analogies and metaphors all the time. It's hard to express anger. It's hard to express love. It's hard to express our feelings. It's hard to express frustration. right and so we use we use analogies and metaphors or sometimes we just say stupid things or we use or we use you know banal tropes we send memes to each other because somebody else has said it better you know we send we send quotes that we saw online because this person perfectly captures what i've been trying to tell you right yeah so that's what we do and so So to have a, I think you should, before you can trust your gut, you have to have a clear sense of what your values are.

3:51You have to have a clear sense of what you believe in. Because otherwise, I'm not sure your gut is a good compass. Gosh, it's so interesting you're saying this because we're going back to something else you talked about, which is the skill of conflict resolution. Yeah, most people haven't been taught the skills of conflict resolution. You said the first thing is listening. We're in a world where most people aren't listening. They just want to get their... We're in a broadcast culture. They want to broadcast their feelings, but they don't know how to express feelings, which I think is another skill, is learning how to express your feelings and emotions without throwing up on everyone and demeaning people or calling names or screaming at someone.

4:30Calling for their canceling, whatever it is. Everything. It's all emotional. And I think the third thing that you just said, the people, correct me if I'm wrong, people who usually scream the loudest sometimes aren't even clear what their values are. That's true. They think they know what a value is maybe, or they just see that's unjust, or I don't like that because that happened to me, and I don't agree with that, or I'm whatever. I think that what we see in our country, our country is a ship without a rudder, and has been for many years. This is not a Republican or Democrat thing. Under both Republicans and Democrats, We've been kind of like out at sea, kind of just going with the wind.

5:13And, you know, we can probably trace it to the fall of the Berlin Wall and the collapse of the Soviet Union, where we knew who we were and we knew who we were against. Who were we and who were we against then? And who are we now and who are we against? And unfortunately, you know, there's a great irony in this, right? Which is America without competition is a monopoly. And monopolies, as capitalists, we don't like monopolies. Right? Because we know monopolies stifle competition. They know we're not good for the consumer, not good for the employee. Like, we don't like monopolies. We like viable competitors because we think competition, this is our fundamental belief in Adam Smith economics.

5:48We fundamentally believe that competition is good for the consumer and good for the employee. Right? And it's good for society. And so an America without a competitor is not a great America. Right? And I think we've been pretty rudderless. And I'm uncomfortable with this, but we need competition. It's called an enemy, but we really need a peer or greater than peer competitor.

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