You've Been BLOCKING Your BLESSINGS! Do THIS To MANIFEST Like CRAZY! | Tabitha Brown

0:00Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

0:11why did you feel like you needed to put a mask on i know from a personal experience i wore a mask to feel like i needed to fit in and feel safe for many years yeah uh growing up playing sports and school and you know as a young adult i felt like i needed to protect myself with a mask but why did you wear masks for many reasons one you know i'm from north carolina right from the south i grew up up learning how to code switch and conform watching my mama, right? So we go to the bank and if she talking to, you know, the white lady that work at the bank, but her voice is different, I'm like, oh wait, is this how we talk?

0:48Oh, okay. If my mama came to school and talked to teachers and you know, all my teachers were white. I mean, my tanner was only black and white. There was no in between. I ain't seen like Hispanics or any of that stuff until I grew up and became an adult. So I learned very early, oh, this is how we have to talk to people who are not black. I didn't know that that was code switching back then, but it was like, oh, to be treated a certain way, to be respected, to be seen. That's what we have to do. And then growing up and working in corporate America, being told like in a call center, people hearing my voice say, oh, are you black?

1:21I don't want to speak to somebody black. No way. Oh, absolutely. Come on. Oh, absolutely, honey. And so I would learn to mask it even more, to push it down even more. And then getting into entertainment, hearing, oh, you sound country, you're going to have to learn to cover that. So it became like, I'm doing it for, you know, just my normal school and work. I'm doing it for corporate America, now I'm doing it for entertainment. And then it came to like, oh, you come to L.A., I used to, you know, have, my hair was already natural. but they were like for your skin complexion straighter hair okay certain size sound neutral used to be the the word i would always be given no accent yeah no accent be as neutral with no one should know where you're from and i believe that and so i created that tabitha to get jobs right the one thing that my mom and they named me tabitha so my first job at winn dixie i'll never forget i put in the application dropped it off and i got a call um and they were like oh we want to bring again for an interview.

2:25I was like, okay, great. So I get there and the assistant manager, when I walked up, clearly thought I was white from my name and how I sounded on the phone, right? So when she looked at me, I was like, I'm here for an interview. She was like, did somebody call you for an interview? I was like, yes, ma 'am. Said her name and it was her. She was like, I'll be right back. Ended up getting a job because the actual store manager had came. His name was David. He was an older man who was great. He was like, I'll interview him. My name always used to get me jobs, crazy enough, because people thought I was white.

2:59They weren't no black tabithas around. It was like, it's a Bewitched name. It was named from Bewitched. Wow. That's where my mama named me from. So it was conforming to survive. My ancestors had to do it to survive, right? And it was passed down, but we don't have to do that anymore. I'm enough just as I am from Eden, North Carolina. Honey, the very thing that I used to cover about myself is the thing people love about me the most now. Wow. It's crazy, but I didn't know. I believed what I was sold. Somebody sold me a lie and I bought it. But now, honey, I returned it and got all my money back.

3:41I bet so, with interest. Yeah. Do you feel like it was more challenging, you know, in North Carolina growing up trying to succeed or get opportunities or more challenging in Los Angeles, Hollywood? Oh, definitely Los Angeles. Really? Oh, yeah. Yeah. The thing about the South is, especially North Carolina, I love my, you know, North Carolina is the best place in the world. I mean, I love it. But it was always very clear. It wasn't hidden. You know exactly who you're talking to. Interesting. Right? Ain't no secret about it. Right? Whether they like you or not. Yeah. It's clear. Yeah, if I want you around or not.

4:17It's very clear. Out here. Out here. It's Hollywood, honey. They hide the truth. You don't know that they don't really fool with you until after the fact, right? Or if you find it out in an email or you see it in the trades or whatever, you're like, oh, wait a minute. You acted like we was cool, but we really won't. You didn't really like me, you know? So it's more hidden here. People be out here acting. They be wearing masks out here. And you know what? I don't even care about that. like whatever is meant for me I wholeheartedly in this season of my life I truly know what God has for me it is for me I was just saying this to my my fiancee Martha I was telling you she got excited she did a great audition recently for something she was really excited about the possibility I go you're gonna get this if it's meant for you and if it's in alignment with your truth and your future and if you don't get it it wasn't meant for you it wasn't meant for you huh that's right you don't need to be upset about it or you know maybe you can have a little moment of like, oh, okay, this idea of I wish I could have got it, but you don't want to go through years of stress on something that's not meant for you.

5:18That's right. That's right. Listen, when the thing is meant for you, there is nothing that will stop it. Like, God is not even complicated. He's not. He's very clear. We complicate things. We're in our head too much. Yeah, we're in our head too much. We're overthinking it. You know, we'll get an opportunity, and before the opportunity is ours, we will play out every single thing. Oh, if I do this and then I do this and then. we ain't even got it yet. Let's see if it works out for us first and then we can expand on it.

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