Are You Responsible? | Practice True Joy

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2:54Are you responsible? Somebody should do something about that. You've probably said some version of that. We all have. The world would be better if. You probably said some version of that too. We all have. We all know what the world needs. We see the gaps, the problems, the injustices, and then, well, we wait for someone else to do it, to make the changes, because it's their job. That's the institution's duty, because it's too big, too complex, too much to do ourselves, because we're not responsible, right? Someone else is responsible for this. The phrase, I am not responsible, has become a standard response in our society to complaints of a job poorly done, Admiral Rickover once said.

3:33This response is a semantic error, though, he says, because generally what a person means is, I cannot be held legally liable. Yet from a moral or ethical point of view, the person who declaims responsibility is correct, he says. By taking this out, he is truly not responsible. He is irresponsible. The single most important practice in Stoic philosophy is differentiating between what we can change and what we can't, what we have influence over and what we do not. Too often, as we talked about recently, this practice is wielded to turn Stoicism into a selfish philosophy. But the Stoics were deeply concerned with our collective struggle with the fate of the world, what we owe one another, how our individual actions impacted the whole.

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6:42Practice true joy. This is this week's meditation from the Daily Stoic Journal, 366 days of writing and reflection on the art of living. There is no audio book of this journal. So the weekly podcast episode is the only way to hear this sort of weekly meditation that we do inside the journal. And it's always been weird for me. I don't know if I should call the journal that I wrote a book. It's 20 ,000 words. It's got writing in it. Is it a journal? Is it a book? In any case, here is today's meditation. The Stoics held joy to be one of the good passions worthy of practice in everyday life. But Stoic joy isn't about the delights of the senses or material pleasures.

7:26To Marcus Aurelius, joy was being kind to others. To Seneca, it was freedom from fear or suffering and death. Let's laugh with Democritus, as Seneca says, and engage in our proper human work with joy. So consider making your study of philosophy this week around the idea of where you might find joy and what good you might find to do with it. And here's Marcus Aurelius on meditations, joy for human beings lies in proper human work, and proper human work consists in acts of kindness to other human beings, disdain for the stirring of the senses, and identifying trustworthy impressions and contemplating the natural order and all that happens in keeping with it.

8:08Then we have Seneca in his moral letters. He says, trust me, real joy is a serious thing. Do you think that someone can, in the charming expression, blithely dismiss death with an easy disposition, or swing open the door to poverty, keeping pleasures in check, or meditate on the endurance of suffering. The one who is comfortable with turning these thoughts over is truly full of joy, but hardly cheerful. It's exactly such a joy that I would wish for you to possess, for it will never truly run dry once you've laid claim to its source. And finally, we have Seneca in On Tranquility of Mind. He says, Heraclitus would shed tears whenever he went out in public.

8:45Democritus laughed. One saw the whole as a parade of miseries, the other of follies. And so we shall take a lighter view of things and bear them with an easy spirit, for it is more human to laugh at life than to lament it. There is this sense, right, that the Stoics are joyless, that the Stoics are humorlessness, that the Stoics don't appreciate existence, that they're just here, beasts of burden, unfeeling and ready to face death with barely a whimper. But I think there's, first off, too much humor in the Stoics, whether it's Marcus Aurelius or Seneca, or of course Chrysippus, who allegedly died laughing at some inside joke whose meaning barely even survives to us.

9:27I just don't think that the Stoics were without joy. You could look at Seneca's enormous parties. You know, he famously has like 300 ivory tables as hypocrisy, or it could be an insight to a side of the Stoics that perhaps doesn't appear in their writing very much, but clearly was a big part of their existence, which was, you know, socializing and connecting and having fun with people. But I think what the Stoics, what Seneca most of all is trying to say here is that joy is not hedonism. It's not just pure happiness and lightness. The joy comes from that place of resilience, from removing the unnecessary disturbances that cause misery.

10:11I'd probably define Stoic joy as the absence of misery that a lot of people experience, whether it's fear or anger or jealousy or anxiety. Instead of joy is drinking, joy is luxury, joy is parties. I think for the Stoics, it was joy was the absence of the longing for those things or anything that made you unhappy. But then we have to add in Marcus Aurelius's wrinkle, which I think Marcus truly found, although he seems to be an introverted, quiet person who loved his books, he clearly found joy in being of service, helping people, of making the world better. And we have to see that as a key part of our role.

10:56As an introvert myself, I do empathize with that expression that hell is other people, that life is easier when you focus on your stuff. But this is also its own form of misery, ultimately. because it makes you lonely, it deprives you of purpose, it deprives you of connection. The Stoics did celebrate joy. They did believe it was an important passion, an important part of life. They just would have disagreed with the Epicureans who seemed to find joy in external things, external pleasures, external experiences. I think for the Stoics, joy was something deeper. It was a way of living. It was a way of thinking.

11:34It was a deeper emanation of self-sufficiency, but also connection, a locking in on one's purpose, doing the work that one is put here to do. When Marcus Aurelius says the fruit of this life is good character and acts for the common good, I think he's also talking about what gives him joy and what makes him happy in this life. And I hope you find the same thing. Seek out joy. Certainly don't disdain joy and certainly don't think that this philosophy is about not experiencing the joy, I wish you much happiness and joy. You deserve it. My life is better when I have it. And it's something that I actually actively have to work on.

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