Sometimes This Is The Only Way To Grow | Ask Daily Stoic

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1:09growth comes to us. Marcus Aurelius, as we've said many times, had a rough go of it. Floods and wars and plagues, betrayals, loss. Yet this was also the fire that forged him. He could not have been great without it. In his haunting book, Ghost Rider, one of the best road trip books ever, I think, we've got it at the Painted Porch, Neil Peart is writing after the loss of his wife and daughter. He has been devastated by these tragedies, as anyone would have. Yet it is only at some distant roadsides stop thousands of miles into his journey across North America by motorcycle, that he begins to think, he writes, of the ponderosa pine seeds that germinate only after a fire, or certain desert plants that germinate only if their husks are worn away by stones in flash flood, thereby ensuing that they will have enough moisture to grow.

1:59An avid reader, Pert also recalled reading about how many fruit seeds are designed to be eaten and thus dispersed through an animal's digestive system. The metaphor that occurred to me, he writes after meditating on this, concerned the ordeals of new growth, that in order for a little baby seed or soul to grow, he said, it would have to pass through fire, flood, or shit. Hopefully we will be spared the hammer blows of fate that Marcus Aurelius and Pert received, but we will nevertheless be subjected to adversity. Things will not go our way. We will be chewed up and spit out. We will be burned.

2:38We will be flooded. We have to understand that this is a good thing. This is what we need to grow. And this is how we discover what we are truly made of and how strong we truly are. To me, that's the whole idea of the obstacle is the way and amor fati, two ideas I have, tattooed on my body. We also have some cool sort of physical manifestations of this in the Daily Stoic store. I also have behind me in my office one of those Ponderosa pine cones as a reminder that sometimes it's only adversity and difficulty that can open up what we're truly capable of being. That's what amor fati means to me.

3:22If you want to check that out, you can go to store.dailystoic.com and do read Neil Peart's book. It's one of the most beautiful and haunting memoirs I've ever read. I read it many, many years ago, and then I just reread it last year because I thought, hey, why don't we carry this in the bookstore? And now we do. So check that out.

3:40Hey, it's Ryan. Welcome to another Thursday episode of the Daily Stoic Podcast. I often bring the sort of Q &A sections from my talks here. Sometimes I'm overseas. Sometimes Sometimes I'm as far out as you can get in America and still be in America. Whether, you know, I just gave some talk in Hawaii. Sometimes I'm down on the tip of Florida. Sometimes I'm in New York. Sometimes I'm in all those places in the same week. I travel a lot. I do generally like when I don't have to go very far. Back in January, I dropped my son off at school, drove back to the painted porch, parked my car. And then a car was waiting for me.

4:16It drove me to Houston, gave a talk at the Weston Oaks Galleria to this legal company, and then got to answer some questions. Then I hopped on a plane and flew somewhere further away. It's all blurred together. I don't even remember. But here is me in Houston, got into Houston, went for a run, gave a talk, answered some questions. Now I'm back at home, got a couple of weeks at home. So that's been fun. I've been doing this series on the Cardinal Virtues in my talks. And so I was there in January answering some questions about this idea. When we say the obstacles away, what do we mean? We mean it's an opportunity to practice virtue.

4:52And so here is me answering some questions from some lovely folks at what they called their BAM, their big ass meeting. Enjoy.

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6:22There were places I could go now that I couldn't go before, especially out here in the piney forests, through the fields, and on the unpaved roads like the one that I lived in. We got to go deep into the hill country's wild beauty. We've driven all the way out to East Texas. We've driven it across the country. And by we, I mean not just my wife, but both my kids who I drove home from the hospital in that truck. Toyota trucks are built for those who understand that the best adventures happen when you're willing to veer off course because you never know when you'll end up on a Toyota adventure detour.

7:00And of course, this is stoicism too, because every detour, every obstacle is an opportunity. But it's helpful if you can handle the difficulty inherent in that. If you've got the resilience and the right companion to make it wherever the road takes you, discover your uncharted territory. Learn more at toyota.com slash trucks slash adventure dash detours. Hello. Hey, so one, I do enjoy your books, especially Robert Greens as well. He's the best. Yeah, he's terrific. What are some of the books this past year that you've read that this kind of stood out or what are you reading now that this really stands out?

7:37Yeah, great question. General Stanley McChrystal has a new book coming out in May that I just read called On Character, which I really, really liked. That was the most recent book that just sort of absolutely blew my mind. I read Patrick Radden O 'Keefe's book on the troubles in Ireland called Say Nothing, which I think there's a Netflix show about also. So I really enjoyed that. What else have I read recently that kind of blew my mind? Let's see. Oh, speaking of fires, there's this great book by John Valiant called Fire Weather about the similarly devastating set of fires in Alberta, Canada. You know, we all live in fire country these days, he was saying.

8:18So I really enjoyed that book. I'm trying to think. My bookstore is just all the books I like. That's why I have it. So if you're ever in Bastrop, come swing by. And I got a few out there for you. Yeah. Besides the ones you've read, what would you say is the most important book? Oh, well, I wouldn't choose any of my books. that would be I can't write a book called Ego is the Enemy and then say that there's something to me and this is kind of my life's work is talking about Mark Stavilius' meditations because I think it is just one of the accident quirks and wonders of history that the most powerful man in the world wrote these notes to himself about how to be a good person about how not to be corrupted by power about how to deal with responsibility and fame and, you know, just everything that was, and he was writing this book for himself, not for publication.

9:15So there's just something incredibly vulnerable and raw and unperformative about it. And so it's, it's the book that I talk about the most, that I read the most, that I recommend the most to me. It's just, uh, you know, it's a, it's a wonder and, uh, I can't get enough of it. So I, I, maybe I'd start there. How much do you consider yourself a modern day philosopher versus historian? Oh, that's a great question. I don't like that there's that much of a distinction between the two. What I try to do is take philosophical ideas that I did not create, because I think most of the good thinking has already been done, and I try to illustrate it with historical ideas.

9:55So my talk was about Stoic philosophy, but I mostly used much more modern examples. And that's kind of what I learned as a research assistant for Robert. I try to take philosophical ideas and illustrate them through history. So I guess I wouldn't call myself a philosopher or a historian. I'll leave that to other people. But I try to see myself as a writer. And those are the intersection of those two things is what I tend to write about. So you had mentioned earlier fables growing up, Aesop's fables, Sherman and Peabody. That was a big influence for me in the way that I think. If you had to give advice to the parents here today, what one fable would you recommend that they teach their children in the modern age?

10:35Ooh, what's one fable? Well, we talked about Lincoln here. And obviously, Lincoln, they said there were two books that shaped Lincoln's life the most. And it was Aesop's Fables and the Bible. And most of his famous images or metaphors come from either Aesop or the Bible. And, you know, a house divided against itself cannot stand comes from the Bible. He tells a story about the lion who allows himself to be declawed as a famous fable and then is promptly killed, which maybe applies to this group. So anyways, I think fables as a way to learn is to me, I mean, Mark's really, you know, the Aesop fable about the town mouse and the country mouse.

11:20he alludes to that in meditations which and to think those fables would have been hundreds of years old by the time he heard about them right like that's that's one of the things that gets me excited the idea that stoicism was an ancient philosophy to most of the stoics also because we tend to think of like Greece and Rome being like I was all like in the same period it's like no it's like a thousand years so I don't know if I have one fable that I would pick off the top of my head that's my absolute favorite but actually you know what I'll give you one so we're talking about virtue here. I open all the books in the virtue series with the fable of Hercules at the crossroads.

11:59Do you know that one? Hercules, the mythical figure, whether he exists or not, he comes to a crossroads in Greece and it's basically the easy way or the hard way. One way he can have everything he wants right now in his life will never be challenged. He'll never know pain, or he can go this way and he has to fight for all of it. He has to work for all of it. It's going to be challenging. It's going to be hard. And one version of this crossroads is it's the crossroads between virtue and vice also. And it's this choice, the choice of Hercules that not only inspires the founding of Stoicism, Zeno hears this story being read in a bookstore in Athens, and it sends him down the philosophical path.

12:43But it's actually this story, the choice of Hercules that John Adams suggests as being the illustration for the seal of the United States as they were debating, you know, should it be an eagle? Should it be this or that? He said it should have been the choice of Hercules. And this goes to his famous quote about how a people without virtue can't protect or survive in a republic, which gives all sorts of freedom as we're talking about today. But just because you can do something, just because a law doesn't forbid you from doing something doesn't mean you should do it. This is, I think, a challenge people seem to not understand about the First Amendment.

13:27You're allowed to say whatever you want. It doesn't mean you should say a lot of things, right? So the idea of virtue being this restraint, this check, right? Marcus Rios could could do whatever he wanted. There was no power over him. And yet, these virtues, these ideas, were the check on him that constitutionally or legally could not be enforced any other way. And that, to me, is the idea. So maybe the choice of Hercules would be the story I'd leave you guys with. Awesome.

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