There’s a Difference Between Urge and Action

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2:53There's a difference between urge and action. It's pretty simple, but we are sometimes so hard on ourselves that we forget. There's a difference between urge and action, being tempted and indulging temptation. As we've talked about the stoic response to anger, we've made this distinction. Getting angry and making a decision out of anger are not the same thing. That's why Seneca said that the greatest remedy for your temper was delay. feeling the feeling and acting on the feeling are separated by a space. And the bigger the space, the better the choice we can make. In her wonderful book, Good Inside, Dr.

3:27Becky talks about teaching this to children. Parents often have the goal of getting rid of the urge, she writes. What's wrong with you? Why would you want to hurt someone? But it's better, she says, if we can try humanizing the urge and then shifting where we allow a child to discharge it. Because it allows the child to gain regulation and over time make better decisions. But this is just as important for us as adults. Marcus Rios talks about how we have the power of no opinion over events, and he's right. Still, as we said recently, that's an incredibly advanced power, maybe one that only the sages can regularly wield.

3:59More realistically, we can set our sights on the more attainable power of just deciding not to express unhelpful opinions too. The urge is human. The ability to restrain from to mitigate and redirect that urge, that's stoicism. That's what we should be trying to get better at. And that's the idea in the Daily Stoic Tamer Temper Challenge, which I haven't talked about much recently, but I think it's one of the best things we've done. I'll link to that in today's episode, but I think you can grab it at dailystoic.com slash temper, or just go to store.dailystoic.com. Or if you're thinking about joining Daily Stoic Life, you can get that course and all the courses for free as part of the membership.

4:38My temper is something I'm always working on, as I say, just because you don't have an anger problem doesn't mean anger is not a problem. And that's true for a lot of these impulse and urges that we all have. That's what we talked about in the course. And I think you'd like it.

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