Use This As Practice | 3 Stoic Exercises For Your Best Month Yet

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0:14Use this as practice. You woke up with a sore throat. You've been vomiting all day. You got a fever that won't break. Feels like you're going to die. You won't, almost certainly, because it's just the flu. But it sure feels like it. Which is why you should use this as practice. Not memento mori practice, but practice dealing with pain. Practice with dealing with a body that's being put through something that doesn't control and doesn't have much of a say about. Marcus Aurelius, who dealt with a series of chronic illnesses, tried to use these bouts as a chance to be philosophical. For times when you feel pain, he writes in meditations, see that it doesn't disgrace you or degrade your intelligence, doesn't keep it from acting rationally or unselfishly.

1:01And in most cases, what Epicurus said should also help, that pain is neither unbearable nor unending as long as you keep in mind its limits and don't magnify them in your imagination. Your symptoms will abate eventually. You'll get through this in a couple of days or a week. That's the blessing here, that it's not more serious. In the meantime, though, use this as practice. Get your reps in, because none of us have any idea what life has in store for us in the future.

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4:12hello it is ryan welcome to another episode of the daily stoic podcast okay so i was in phoenix last week for the talk i was giving and i was joking on stage that you know i feel like phoenix doesn't really have doesn't really have seasons it's just like uh really hot and then there's that period of the year where it's not that hot and i was pointing out that it's like it's kind of crazy that like spring is almost here like winter is almost over i was saying they might I missed the signs, you know, that it was happening because the desert, it has a remarkable consistency to it there. It's almost tropical, but then it's not.

4:49I don't know. There's something about Phoenix that doesn't feel real. But it also feels like not real to me that we're spring, that it's like officially March. And so what I wanted to talk about in today's episode was some stoic exercises that help you get back on track. If this was a long winter for you, which it was for me, if you got a little bit knocked off, if you got pushed out of it, if you got distracted, if you fell off on some of your goals, well, we've got some Stoic exercises that will help you create your best month yet. And I think hopefully even your best season yet. Have a great spring.

5:23This episode is narrated by Katie McGurl, who is the editor of Daily Stoic. I write the emails. I give them to her. She edits them and then gives them back to me to read. and I think you're going to like this episode just giving you a little bit of break from my voice but if you do want to get serious about having an awesome spring I'd love to also have you join us in the Daily Stoic Spring Forward Challenge 10 days of Stoic inspired challenges you're going to do some Q &As with me a bunch of stuff in the Daily Stoic community and I think it's going to be awesome that's actually what I was talking about when I was in Phoenix like how you reset, realign and get back to the rhythm, as Mark Srelis talks about, when you have been jarred by the crazy circumstances of the world.

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6:38Three Stoic exercises that will help create your best month yet. For more than 2 ,000 years, wise men and women have relied on an ancient philosophy known as Stoicism to help them live their best lives. It's been a source of guidance, wisdom, and practical advice for millions. It's been used by everyone from Marcus Aurelius and Seneca to Theodore Roosevelt, Frederick the Great, Montaigne, and now coaches like Pete Carroll and athletes like Carrie Walsh Jennings to help them live better, more resiliently, and more peacefully. Here are three stoic exercises and strategies that will help you have your best month yet.

7:16Rise and shine. On those mornings you struggle with getting up, keep this thought in mind. I am awakening to the work of a human being. Why then am I annoyed that I am going to do what I'm made for, for the very things for which I was put into this world. Or was I made for this, to snuggle under the covers and keep warm? It's so pleasurable. Were you then made for pleasure? In short, to be coddled or to exert yourself? Marcus Aurelius, Meditations. Nobody likes Mondays, so it's comforting to think that even 2 ,000 years ago, the emperor of Rome, who was reportedly a bit of an insomniac, was giving himself a pep talk in order to summon up the willpower to throw the blankets off each morning and get out of bed.

8:01From the time we're first sent off to school until we retire, we're faced with the same struggle. It'd be nicer to shut our eyes and hit the snooze button a few more times, but we can't. Because we have a job to do. Not only do we have the calling we've dedicated ourselves to, but we have the larger cause that the Stoics speak about, the greater good. We cannot be of service to ourselves, to other people, or to the world unless we get up and get working. The earlier, the better. So come on, get in the shower, have your coffee, and get going. The chain method. If you don't wish to be a hothead, don't feed your habit.

8:36Try as a first step to remain calm and count the days you haven't been angry. I used to be angry every day, now every other day, then every third or fourth. If you make it as far as 30 days, thank God for habit is first weakened and then obliterated. When you can say, I didn't lose my temper today, or the next day, or for three or four months, but kept my cool under provocation, you will know you are in better health. Epictetus. Discourses. The comedian Jerry Seinfeld once gave a young comic named Brad Isaac some advice about how to write and create material. Keep a calendar, he told him, and each day that you write jokes, put an X.

9:17Soon enough, you'll get a chain going, and then your job is to simply not break the chain. Success becomes a matter of momentum. Once you get a little, it's easier to keep it going. Whereas Seinfeld used the chain method to build a positive habit, Epictetus was saying that it can also be used to eliminate a negative one. It's not all that different than taking sobriety one day at a time. Start with one day doing whatever it is, be it managing your temper or wandering eyes or procrastination. then do the same the following day and the day after that. Build a chain and then work to not break it.

9:53Don't ruin your streak. How you do anything is how you do everything. Pay attention to what's in front of you, the principle, the task, or what's being portrayed. Marcus Aurelius, Meditations. It's fun to think about the future. It's easy to ruminate on the past. It's harder to put that energy into what's in front of us right at this moment, especially if it's something we don't want to do. We think, this is just a job. It isn't who I am. It doesn't matter. But it does matter. Who knows? It might be the last thing you ever do. Here lies Dave, buried alive under a mountain of unfinished business.

10:33There's an old saying, how you do anything is how you do everything. It's true. How you handle today is how you'll handle every day. How you handle this minute is how you'll handle every minute. A final trick for having a great month comes to us from the Stoic philosopher Seneca. In a letter to his older brother, Seneca describes a beneficial exercise he borrowed from another prominent philosopher. At the end of each day, he would ask himself variations of the following questions. What bad habit did I curb today? How am I better? Were my actions just? How can I improve? We shouldn't just do this daily, but also monthly, quarterly, and yearly.

11:16We should reflect on our lives and on our actions. What could we do better? How have we kept our chain of progress and good actions unbroken? Or indeed, where have we failed? And finally, have we done our proper job as people? Have we done the work we've needed to do? The more we think about this, the more we follow these habits, the better we will get at them.

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