When Have You Been That?

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1:09that, but I do control how I respond, right? That's stoicism, but it's also what Dr. Becky talks about. Dr. Becky is a clinical psychologist and a best-selling author, and she founded Good Inside, which is there to give parents practical, actionable tools for handling those everyday challenges with confidence. My wife introduced me to Dr. Becky's books. I love them. I've recommended them a million times. I've had her on the podcast. And as it happens, Dr. Becky is hosting two live Q &A events for good inside members. I am one of them. She signed me up for it about a year and a half ago. I've loved it ever since.

1:48On December 1st, you can join Dr. Becky for her How Not to Raise Assholes event, which is about avoiding entitlement and raising kind, empathetic kids. And on December 15th, she's hosting her How Not to Lose It Over the Holidays event, which I'm sure we could all use. As I said, I'm a big fan of Dr. Becky. She's been a great influence for me as a parent and just as a human being. And Daily Stoic listeners can join for 15 % off with code STOIC15. You just got to head over to goodinside.com to catch the events. When have you been that? That person you just can't stand, that person in traffic who won't get out of the way, that person on the airplane who keeps bumping your seat or whose stuff is spilling in your area, that person talking loudly on their phone at a restaurant or on the train.

2:39Ugh, right? Don't they realize how annoying they are? Probably not any more than you did when you were that person. And that's what we have to realize when there is someone who drives us nuts, that we are that someone to someone else or have been at one time or another. In meditations, one of the things that Marcus Aurelius reminds himself to think of whenever someone does him wrong is all the times that he had acted like that. We were talking on our phone because the call was important. We were driving poorly because we were lost or we'd just gotten terrible news. We didn't know our jacket had fallen into someone else's space.

3:14We didn't mean to push anyone's buttons. Well, for the most part, all of this is true for everyone else too. So let's give them the grace we give ourselves. And let's try to fix our own behavior before we judge anyone else too harshly.

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