You Can’t Be Afraid To Lose It | Ask Daily Stoic

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1:09worked out for most people in history. This is the paradox of wealth. Once we have it, instead of becoming free, we become obsessed with wanting to preserve our money, with not wanting to lose it, with wanting more of it. When Seneca said that slavery resides beneath marble and gold, he wasn't just talking about the time and cost and upkeep of nice stuff. He was talking about how easily we become prisoners of the status quo. That's why he would often experiment with what it was like to be poor, dressing in rags, going without food. He wanted to be able to say, is this what you feared? He wanted to remind himself that losing what he had wasn't so bad.

1:45And it's good that he practiced this because Seneca did lose much of what he had when he left Nero's service. Although whether he should have gotten it in the first place is a different moral question, which James Rahm discussed in his amazing book, Dying Every Day. One ancient historian noted that Nero had trouble poisoning his former advisor because the meager natural diet that Seneca reverted to presented so few opportunities. The Stoics remind you that the point of financial security is to feel secure. The point of plenty is to realize that you have enough. You shouldn't fear losing what you had.

2:17There was a time that you didn't have it and you survived. And besides, no one can ever take from you what you learned in order to get it. And this idea of enough, it's a simple idea, this idea of feeling secure from your financial security. This is simple enough, but of course, it's very difficult. It requires a certain amount of self-awareness, a certain amount of discipline. It requires, I think, some study and understanding and wisdom. And that's what we built the Wealthy Stoic on. The Wealthy Stoic, A Daily Stoic Guide to Being Rich, Free, and Happy, I think is one of our best courses. It's a deep dive into what the Stoics thought about money, how to be wealthy in every sense of the word, not just to have a lot, but to feel like you have a lot, to feel like you have enough, to feel secure, to feel good, right?

3:01To feel good and secure even when you don't have much. It's nine weeks to deep dive into the ambitions and motivations that fueled the Stoic definition of wealth and success, how to find your own definition of wealth and success, how Stoics spent and saved money, what the Stoics prized above money, a bunch of other stuff. It's great. I think you'll love it. There's deep dives and interviews with me and some great minds on money also, including the one and only Morgan Housel, my friend Cal Newport, Allie Webb, who's a hugely successful entrepreneur. A bunch of awesome stuff. If you want to tackle your relationship with money, we'll sign up for the Wealthy Stoic Daily Stoic Guide to being rich, free, and happy.

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4:42Enjoy so many ways to save on your Thanksgiving spread at Whole Foods Market. Hey, it's Ryan. Welcome to a Thursday episode of the Daily Stoic Podcast. We talked about the Scipionic Circle before, right? This group of Stoics that would get together in ancient Rome and talk philosophy, talk life, talk business, talk politics. And the Scipionic Circle, you hear about it from Plutarch, you hear about it from Cicero. It was sort of one of the first, you could call it a mastermind group. And obviously that's a thing now. I've belonged to a couple. I've spoken at countless ones. I've been bringing you some excerpts of a talk I gave back in February.

5:20Ten guys from all over the country get together four times a year. They bring out a speaker. This time they all flew in Austin. I drove out to Lake Buchanan. There's like five lakes in a row going out from Austin. And it was a very cold day. As I said, I swam in Barton Springs that morning. It was like 28 degrees and I was freezing. So you might hear some of the shivers or the shattering of my teeth in here because it took me quite a long time to get my body temperature up. But otherwise, this is me answering their questions. And if you are looking for a little Sipionic Circle, that's what we try to do in Daily Stoic Life.

5:54You can join us at DailyStoicLife.com. You get all our Daily Stoic courses. You get Q &As. You get a bunch of other awesome bonuses. We've been doing it a really long time. It's one of my favorite things. I get a bunch out of it and I think you will as well.

6:15I was talking to Molly Bloom one time, you know, the Aaron Sorkin movie, Molly's Game. She was the poker entrepreneur. Anyways, we were talking about someone we both knew who we always see him in pictures of private jets and they're always whatever. And I go like, I know what their business is. That math doesn't like, I know what that costs. This isn't like private jet money. Math isn't mathing. And she goes, one thing I learned that you should never forget is that that person could just be a criminal. And I was like, oh, yeah. In our world, right, most of you are like, oh, you're on the up and up.

6:46If they're beating me, it must just be because they're better or smarter or got lucky or whatever. Her peek into the underbelly of a very different world, you're like, oh, they could just not be paying their taxes. Or they could just be, you know, this could be a fraud. The Ponzi scheme guy from the thing or whatever. And so I just sometimes like when I find myself being jealous, even if it's not true, I just go like, it could be a criminal. Like, you don't know. That's the justification. And then I don't have to think about it, right? Then I'm all of a sudden you're not comparing yourself to that person.

7:13So that was always very helpful to me. How does AI first, being a writer, an author, are you implementing anything, certain technologies in your processes? I'm thinking a lot about this, actually. The book that I'm just finishing, I tell this story at the beginning. there's this sort of wealthy Roman who, you know, he wants to be smart. He wants to impress people and he's got money. So he could, you know, go back to school. He could learn a bunch of stuff. He could study, put in the work. Instead, he hires this group of slaves, each one who's very smart with a specific sort of ancient writer. So he picks one who knows Homer, one who knows Euripides, one who knows Aeschylus.

7:52And then they follow him around and like at dinner parties and stuff when he needs to say something, they whisper in his ear what he should say. And he thinks he's kind of getting away with it. You know, everyone thinks he's so smart. And a friend comes up to him and he says, you know, this is such a lovely party. You're so smart. Have you ever thought about becoming a wrestler? Wrestling being sort of main sport for the Greeks and the Romans. And he goes, why would I become a wrestler? I'm an old man. And then his friend looks at him and goes, yeah, but your slaves are still young. and Seneca's point is that like wisdom like all things that takes work and that you never get it by chance there's no secret there's no shortcut there's no magical thing that just gets you what you want I think we could say safely that our kids their life is going to be defined by how good they are at using AI right so that's my next question I'm thinking a lot about how do I teach that like it comes down to what they call prompt engineering yep like how good are you at getting what you want from this thing.

8:53Like it's a tool, it's magic, but how good are you at summoning the magic? I think is that. So I, I've been fooling around with my kids a lot. Like one of the things they did, we've done this for a year or two now is like, if they want to color something, we like work with AI to make something cool for them that we print out and they color or, you know, if they want to hear a story, we like ask it, like they're putting in the inputs and then getting the outputs or they're like, what did that look like? And we're like, well, let's have it do it. Go through it, think through it. Like, yeah. So, and then going, okay, hey, the reason this isn't what you want it to be is because your question is unclear and how do you refine it?

9:33So kind of teaching them how to not just be comfortable using it, but good at using it. In your chat with Jay Shetty, you talked about ambition as an addiction. How do you keep your drive in check so it doesn't burn you out or blind. And you talked about it a little bit with your writing on this. I just try to be driven about stuff that I control. You know, so like if your drive is to like be the number one of this or to be recognized as that or to, you know, beat this or that, you better hope it goes the way that you want it to go or you're gonna be unhappy. But if your ambition is tied, this is basically the core of Stoes.

10:13If you're more rooted in like the parts of it you control, then no one can prevent you from getting that thing or fewer things can prevent you from getting that thing. So it's like, if my ambition is to write a really great book, it's still going to be super hard and there's no guarantee, but I control my own destiny more than if my goal is to win the Nobel prize for literature.

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