The Wake-Up Call That Changed Stacey Kay's Health, Career, and Life

27:33Right. Yeah. It was a fricking mess. Yeah. Broken, a mess, um, addictive personality, um, partying. It took me nine years to get through college, but you beat me. I think it took me six. That was always like, you should have your doctor by now. Yeah, you did. Good. Congratulations. Thank you. Yep. I worked really hard at it. Yeah, for sure. And I went to, you know, five different colleges. I just couldn't get it together and yeah. Yeah. You know, um, the, the mental health aspect, right. And, and I want to touch on the body image thing. Like I'm sitting here, like in this conversation, like there's so many valuable points that you're making in educational things that the audience can pick up on.

28:22i'm sorry i think and and again this isn't a study i've done but from everybody that i know deals with some type of body image issue and i do as well like i still have it and no matter what i do i don't see myself for what maybe you see or kyle and dan see i see that old sean right and I'm constantly fighting myself to heal from that and to tell myself like, you're not that dude anymore. You don't even look like that. And what people that may not deal with body image issues don't understand is every time you walk out of the freaking house, you're worried about what everybody thinks you look like.

29:06That is a lot to deal with. Sure. Yeah. And especially in our professions that we were in, right? You have to look the part. We're entertaining doctors. We're out late at night. We're eating. We're drinking. And it truly is, and you always hear about it, but it truly is an inside job. So those three years I paused and I was like, you're going to have to freaking like it or love it. You got to get comfortable in your own skin, Stacey. and not worry about what anybody's saying and the gossip and the noise and that voice that I learned that's always happening, that narrative. I fed into it all those years and it was negative.

29:51So naturally it was guiding my life in a negative way. And I just bought into it until Michael Singer came along and taught me there's another way. And so TM teaches you to focus on a mantra word so you can quiet the noise, quiet the brain, and then not be so reactive. Let's be honest. Finding a therapist is hard enough. But finding one who actually takes your insurance, that's where most online therapy platforms fall short. I lost my grandma in 1997 to pancreatic cancer, and the depression hit me so hard. She was everything to me, my best friend, gone forever. I could have used RULA back then.

30:33Affordable and accessible mental health care shouldn't be out of reach, but too often it is. Have you used your insurance to cover your physical health? So why shouldn't it also cover your mental health? RULA makes sure it does. RULA partners with over 100 insurance plans, making the average copay just$15 per session. Rula also partners with a network of over 15 ,000 therapists and psychiatrists nationwide, helping you find the right fit based on your needs, preferences, and where you live. Thousands of people are already using Rula to get affordable, high-quality therapy that's actually covered by insurance.

31:12Visit Rula.com slash TDS to get started. That's R-U-L-A dot com slash TDS. you deserve mental health that works for you, not against your budget. And it's a daily reprieve, right? It doesn't just you sit down and do it. I mean, one minute felt like an hour. Oh, I bet. Like I'm like listening to my transcendental meditation. Like I cannot be left alone with my own thoughts for more than a minute. It's when I'm trying to be quiet about it. Sure. Now, so continue to walk me through the, through TM and the audience through TM because, you know, I think there's a lesson here for the audience because some people meditate in different ways.

31:57I firmly believe in active meditation. For me, if I'm moving my body, I go so deep on myself. Like really, like I have that people would say like bitch face in the gym. I'm like the nicest guy ever. If I see somebody and you come into contact, I'll smile. But if you see me across, I'm just locked in and it almost looks like I'm pissed off, but I'm not. I'm really focused. Yes. I'm focused on me. How do I feel physically? How do I feel emotionally? Okay. If I feel down emotionally, what did I do the night before? Where's this coming from? What am I worrying about that's outside of my control? So for me, you know, the active meditation, if I'm not in the gym, then I'm not a person you want to be around.

32:43Right. So how how did you get from one minute seemed like a year to being able to practice it consistently and then heal from some of these past traumas? Same way I someone asked me how I trained for my half marathons. You know, I literally did it one foot in front of the other. And I live my life by this motto from Picasso. It's a quote. I ingrained it in my daughter so much that she's got it tattooed on her body now. So she has to live up to it. And it's action is the foundational key to all success because it truly, truly is. I've had ideas. We got the driveway, you know, where we're going up and parking in the parking lot and we're going to go in to see the sales guy and we don't, we turn around.

33:32We're not going to get anything accomplished if there's no action. So I was holding myself accountable at that moment with my daughter and my husband that this is a me problem and I need to fix me. And I need to get comfortable with me and I need to love me because I haven't loved me or trusted me. And I just knew I had to do the work. And I was at such an emotionally drained time that the only person I could blame was myself. and things just started to align, right? Like the message that day with Michael Singer, like I just am, you know, very spiritual, very religious and the timing, God will just plop things in your life when he needs you to wake up.

34:18And that's what happened that day was, cause I could have been walking past it and not been alert to it, but I was, and I laser focused and probably like you being in sales, when we do something, we go all in. So that's what that three years was for, was sitting and getting comfortable and taking those pieces of Stacey that caused so much self-destruction in the past and saying, okay, I see you. I hear you. You're a part of me, but I'm going to take over from here. Very interesting. And I agree 100 billion percent on this. That timeframe of the three years, what years was that? Um, so the, I was still in sales.

35:06Um, so that was prior to COVID

35:1315, 16, 17. Yes. 15, 16, 17. Yeah. About 10 years ago. That, that, okay. Good. You know, how, how often are you still doing TM? So it's easy to get off. Um, and I've noticed little, I'll get off like with eating, with anything you've, you've realized that you're off track a little bit because you're short fused or you're edgy or you're not happy. And so my husband will look at me and say, I think you need to start meditating again. It'll Marco. So I need to tell you what's up. I know he will. He's actually grounded me so much just from being so different than me. And he was also divinely plopped into my life at the time when I needed it.

35:55But I try to get up every morning and I give myself grace, right? I think, I think we need to give ourselves grace. I love to walk five miles, but if I only have time to walk two, at least I walked two. Exactly. So on those times where I was like, oh, I only walked two. No, Stacey, you walked two and that's great. Go on with your day. Yeah. So I try to incorporate at least five to 10 minutes a morning. You know, it's interesting because you're talking about a process and a standard. And I think a lot of entrepreneurs and a lot of human beings just in general will not go deep enough to understand that a standard is something that they do not break.

36:32You cannot break a standard. And for you, the standard is keeping up on this because if you don't keep up on this, you're not taking action. Right. Right. You're not. And you're going to evolve throughout the years. I mean, that was 10 years ago. Now you might have different triggers. You might have different traumas. You might have different worries and concerns. And so, but if you're not sitting quietly with yourself, then you cannot identify what those things are. One of the biggest things that you mentioned is, um, accountability, right? You really, without saying it, or maybe you did say that word accountability, but when you dive into yourself and you know that it's a hundred percent you, that's what you said.

37:13Like, this is a hundred percent, a me thing that I need to fix. You know, that's a very powerful statement because I think a lot of times people get it twisted. Extreme accountability, I think is very healthy. I'll fight it tooth and nail. Like people can tell me that's not healthy. No, I think it really is because you can either lie to yourself or you can tell the truth to yourself. And if there's things that we need to fix, then being honest with, with you is very important, but I will take it a step further, right? You have to be very careful not to shame yourself in the process. So throughout the years, for me, I'm struggling with weight, I was always trying to get in better shape.

37:51I wanted to be shredded. You know, I want, you know, veins popping out of my arm. I want to look like a threat, right? I'm still on that grind. I want to look like a threat. I have two daughters. Like I want people to be scared of me. Like I had a lot of work to go. People are looking at me like, I'm not scared of you. You've got great veins. Well, yeah, we're, Hey, it's starting, right? But I think for me in the past, it was always done out of shame. Like I hate myself Yeah. Because for the audience, you know, watching and listening, I can openly say it wasn't until last December I started truly loving who I am and understanding what I need to do to get back to myself.

38:30and my wife always told me which obviously you know jackie she was she's like you know you have this reservoir that is empty i'm like what are you talking about just confidence i was like no i'm confident she goes no no you are on the surface but deep down there's a reservoir that That is a very small level of confidence. And over the last five years, I have filled that bucket. There's no longer a void, but it was three steps forward, a hundred steps back. And it wasn't until last year that I took complete control with my friend, Jeff Delaney, and he helped me get back on track. And he helped me understand what I put in my body matters, what I supplement, with as far as hormones, like all this stuff matters.

39:24And I was able to then take full accountability with love, with love. Like I'm doing this because I love myself. And now I feel much better about who I am. Sure. And, and when you have those, that's, that's awesome. I mean, it's, it's so in line with how I felt too. And I think it's not an uncommon story, right? We're all dealing with this. We all have the insecurities. We all have the pressures of the family and the job. But if you're, you just have to get to that point where you're loving yourself and you're giving yourself what you need. And I always lead right now with intention. I know if I'm skimming and I know when I'm not, and I know when my intentions are good and when they're not, and when they're not, I don't move forward with it.

40:13It has to have good intentions like this. It has to have safety first because we're dealing with people's lives and blood and nutrition. But I'll be honest with you. I have more conversations with people about their stress level when their IV is dripping than nutrition. I bet. People are riddled with anxiety these days. And I want them to get to a point where they can take control of that, understand where it's coming from, go right through the process and deal with it so they can live this beautiful, self-secured, successful life. Because if you don't have that in order, you're not going to move forward and advance and evolve.

40:56And it saddens me when I see people in their 70s with, you know, no direction like that. It's hard because I look at these two words that come up a lot nowadays, right? We have a mental health problem. Social media, constant comparison. Am I up to snuff with that person or am I doing enough to get ahead? But anxiety and depression, right? Obviously, depression, you're worried consistently about problems that are rooted in the past. And if we are living in constant state of anxiety, we are worried about things that have not happened yet. We are projecting or creating a narrative about something bad that might could happen that probably won't.

41:44And all the things that I worry about happening, I would say maybe less than 1 % of them actually do. Absolutely. Right. Like, but for me, and I, and again, I always touch on this and it's almost like I'm a broken record, but different people listen every single week. So I like to go over it is I live in the past or I live in the future. So depression or anxiety, if I'm not taking care of myself. Yes. If, if I'm out being active, very little anxiety, but when it hits, it hits so fucking hard. Last week I took my, my middle daughter to gymnastics. I texted my wife. I go, I am so anxious right now.

42:33I think I'm going to throw up like in the, out of nowhere. And I think what's important is that these things are going to come up. Like you're not going to be 100 % cured of these things, but how we respond and how we move through those emotions intentionally mean everything. and staying present so you've mentioned the past and in the future which is really where everyone lives right in the state in the past like with depression anxiety in the future and through the meditation and the teachers that i listen to and and the people that i um get my information from and my strategies and and um protocols basically i really when that's happening it's i work on grounding techniques.

43:23So touch, feel, smell, you work on your senses and the grounding techniques, but also staying present. There's nothing. We're as young as we're ever going to be right now, Sean. Right now. We're in a present environment. And yes, we have families and we have jobs and we have to cultivate and we have to think about, but ultimately whenever I get anxious or whenever I'm in a situation like that, you know, uncomfortable. That's how you grow. First of all, which is why I try to seek them out. Um, but staying present really helps me stay focused and being grounded, like feeling the ground under your feet, you know, and you see those techniques with the fingers.

44:06It just keeps people grounded. So those are some of the conversations I'll have with people about stress levels and of course meditation. Well, I think what's cool is like when you're having conversations, when people are hooked up to your bags and they're getting the nutrients, there's a sense of calm, right? Because at that point they're taking care of myself, of their self, right? And they're more open, right? You know, I would imagine there's a lot of great conversations with some of your clients that you go to their house and, and you probably leave them much better than when you found them.

44:37And they attribute not just the treatment to them feeling better, but also talking to you. The conversations. It's amazing that I'm able on some of my clients who are struggling with addiction to be able to have some of those conversations. It kind of comes full circle for me as a struggling addict in my 20s. I almost get like an out-of-body experience talking with them because I'm able to kind of give them, you know, some advice or education or be able to relate to them, you know, and I just, I want to help them, but you're right from a physical standpoint and a mental standpoint. It's really cool.

45:19So you dealt with addiction in your twenties. I did. Alcohol drugs, drugs. Wow. Yeah. You know, I asked that because I actually love that. I think it's a prerequisite, right? Because if you did not have those experiences, the things that you're doing now with your business and identifying of those types of those clients when they open up to you, like they're look, they're looking for more than just fluids. They want to talk to somebody. And the fact that you've been through it, that, that, that you're able to help that person. I think it's super important to give back. Absolutely. It's on purpose and mission focused.

45:59And I couldn't be happier with the decision I made to do this. So walk us through it. Right. So like, okay building a business is not easy i mean like i thought this was a business and it wasn't until 2025 really right and then massive explosion of growth it's in right but but building something doesn't matter what it is it always comes with worry anxiety and now wow, it's all on your ass. Like you don't have that salary. You don't have that, those benefits walk the audience through the building of this company and the brand and acquiring clients. And some of the, some of the things that you may had to counsel yourself through in order to do so.

46:50Well, um, so by the time I decided to do this and go back to school, I was a regional sales manager at that time. So I had a team and it was a, it was a nice transition for me, from the grind on the street to then being able to mentor and teach a group, which I loved. And, you know, I was in a corporate environment, but it wasn't a really bad corporate environment. It was just the numbers, right? They grow every year. They grow every, you know, quarter. In your comp strengths. Yes. So the stressor is there. But I, just with the evolution of myself on the meditation journey and the nutritional journey and loving myself, my job and the character didn't align with my purpose and where I was mentally.

47:40So COVID happened. I had gotten IVs before. That was when they were just getting going. I've been always into nutrition before. My last 12 years, like I said, was in home health. And I always noticed a gap in care. Always. There was a gap in care of the non-emergent needs having to go to the ER that clogs up the ER, you know, it triages a little bit differently. You need to have room to get your, you know, high, you know, emergency, um, clients in and people would just go on a bag of fluids. They'd run some tests for dehydration. Um, and then they'd leave, you know, they'd get a$2 ,000 bill and they were on their way home and it was a non-emergent need.

48:24So I always noticed that gap again in the 65 and up population, cause that's what I was in and how they didn't drink water and dehydration. But my daughter in that meantime was hospitalized for at the time, um, it was a confusional migraine episode and a small seizure. Yeah. And one of the triggers was dehydration. So that really took me down the rabbit hole of what happens to the body when electrolytes are, are not in balance. So sick of the job, right? grind every day felt like I was on a hamster wheel just not evolving right my just internally I knew I was meant for something different the thing happened with the it said it happened with my daughter um and I said I'm going to nursing school I want to I want to know what's happening in the body I've put it off for 10 years let's do it I I'm not happy in my career and I I went I jumped off with both feet, like from a corporate, great corporate job, making great money.

49:28And I went to nursing school. I was in this classroom with 20 year olds, right? I'm in my forties. It was like, shit, I don't belong. It was humbling, but I wanted to feel it. I wanted to go through it. I wanted to, to, to scrub down and go into these accounts that I'd been in clicking around in high heels and makeup and hair done, and then go in and scrubs. And just, it was, it was such a great experience. And I talked with attorneys and I developed a business plan and said, I can do this. I took, I didn't take a dime from anyone. There's no investors. So I took my savings from healthcare and I said, I can do this.

50:05This is good. This is what I want to do. Was it scary? So scary.

50:12And, um, my first year out, I had other nurses that contract with me out doing the IVs because, you know, I was getting my degrees and getting IV certifications. And my first year out, you know, I would practice on all my friends and anyone who wasn't going to sue me and I could do like six pokes on, right? And I loved it. It was great, but better yet, just being able to be responsible for the outcomes because it was mine. I loved nutrition. I loved hydration. I had a personal story. I was stuck in my job. This was a way for me to get out of that and build it. And I remember like a year and a half in before we kind of knew patterns and, and, and, you know, history, as far as this, this industry, one of my nurses looked at me in the summer and which was a slower time for us.

51:02And she goes, man, I hope it was all worth it. And I looked at her and there was a fleeting moment, you know, those moments you get. And I looked at her, I go, this is the exact moment where people give up. And I'm not willing to do that. Yeah. So, you know, you mentioned something that I thought was very interesting when you were sitting there wanting to go back to nursing school. Right. And so you can understand all these things and create something. You know, at that point, when you're in a room with 20 year olds and you're thinking, well, wow, do I belong here? Here I am, you know, grown ass adult, but you know, I'm committed to this.

51:40You know, there's a certain level of becoming a lifelong learner that I think that people really need to embrace a lot more is understanding that we're never done learning. And that's what you did. And you created something pretty special. Let's be honest. Finding a therapist is hard enough, but finding one who actually takes your insurance, that's where most online therapy platforms fall short. I lost my grandma in 1997 to pancreatic cancer, and the depression hit me so hard. She was everything to me, my best friend, gone forever. I could have used RULA back then. Affordable and accessible mental health care shouldn't be out of reach, but too often it is.

52:20Have you used your insurance to cover your physical health? So why shouldn't it also cover your mental health? RULA makes sure it does. Rula partners with over 100 insurance plans, making the average copay just$15 per session. Rula also partners with a network of over 15 ,000 therapists and psychiatrists nationwide, helping you find the right fit based on your needs, preferences, and where you live. Thousands of people are already using Rula to get affordable, high-quality therapy that's actually covered by insurance. Visit Rula.com slash TDS to get started. That's R-U-L-A dot com slash TDS. You deserve mental health that works for you, not against your budget.

53:08that. Yes. In fact, I'm going back next year to advance the nursing degree. So I just feel that I don't want to stop learning. I don't want to stop growing. I don't want to stop evolving. I want to, you know, perfect this business. And if it leads into other things, fantastic. But I feel like I wasted and no regrets, but I feel like I wasted a lot of time when I was younger that I'm just trying to embrace every moment I can now by doing something positive for me, for my family, for my body, for my mind. I mean, I was a pack a day smoker. Were you really? Yes. Yes. That shit ain't good, huh? No, it's terrible.

53:49So I really try to be really good to my body now because I did so much damage to it early on. But yeah, I'm going back to the classroom. See, like lifelong learner. You know, it's funny because I hear this a lot, right? I hear, I want to do this, but I can't because I'm too old or because I have children, because I have responsibilities. And I want to encourage the audience that if they're feeling a pull in a certain direction, that they want to start something or create something that they always can. And they may not be able to go all in right away and leave what they're doing, but do what you don't want to do, you know, so that one day you can do what you want to do.

54:33What kind of advice would you give the audience that is sitting there telling themselves a story like, I just can't do this. I'm too old or it's too late. I don't have much time. Being down this path of mental health and physical health has for me given me the, and just loving myself, right, has given me the confidence that I need to advance. And I feel 50s are young. I feel younger and better right now than I did in my 30s. You know, each decade has such an important message, an important time in our life. And the 40s for me was just a great year or decade to grow and self-love and find out what I really want.

55:22And I think the 50s are just go get it. That's awesome. Don't stop. Why would I? I want to age appropriately, but I mean, our parents age terribly. They just didn't have the resources and the information and knowledge that we have these days. So as long as my brain is working and I'm clear, I want to continue to work it because I think sedentary lifestyle is the new cancer. Mentally and physically, we have to move, but we also have to use our brains. So listen, I just dropped my daughter off at college this year. We're empty nesters. I have the time to do it. So this is what I want to do. Empty nester.

56:01How's that going? It's good. You're going to live with a boy now. Yeah. It took some transitioning time. Her and I are very, very close. And it did. It took a lot of transitioning and I found myself coloring and doing puzzles. Like, cause I wasn't, you know. That's some old lady shit, dude. Like, yeah, yeah. Diving into it. But it took me a few months and now I'm good. And there's a whole different level of worry that you have when your kids leave the home, right? Like, did they listen to, you know, all the safety tips that we gave them? and are they okay and safe? And so, but I have the time and I'm where I'm enjoying the freedom and yeah, I just want to keep evolving and moving forward and advancing.

56:46That's really freaking awesome, dude. That's really awesome because I just truly believe that what you said about as we age, right? Like when I look at my 40s, I think they're better than my 30s and specifically the latter half of my 40s. Like when I was 42, I figured out what I wanted to be when I grew up. It's this. Yeah. Like I had the purpose and I had the passion, even though I was really bad at it for a very long time. Right. I look back at some of the episodes and I thought, wow, dude, you're it, man. I'm like, holy hell, no wonder, no wonder like you were at where you were at because you just weren't ready.

57:24But I just, I stayed delusionally optimistic about my abilities to have conversations. And I remember when I first started, I would literally be talking to somebody and they I would go off on a two to five minute monologue and I'm like, oh shit. I'm going to reel this in. What are we talking about? Like I had to get so good at it, right? Because in conversations, like there's conversations that flow very nicely like this. But then there's conversations that I have to like reach in and pull and carry the whole time. And it took a lot of work. It took a lot of skill. And my whole point of this is the skill that I had to refine, obviously.

58:08I think that I was born, you know, a good conversationalist and then learning how to continue to enhance that and make that better and turn the dial up is what I really had to get good at. But the reason I'm saying this right now is, is that if you're in your forties or in your fifties and you're still searching for something, it's not too late. You can still pivot. You can still have the next great big idea. And worst case, at least you're doing something that you love. Absolutely. And I think when people are pushing too hard or they're pulling too hard in a direction that's not meant for them, they're going to be met with resistance and challenge.

58:53You know, not like overcoming obstacles, obviously. And if it's a true passion of theirs, they'll continue forward. But I feel like when it if it's meant to be like in in my situation, it just flowed naturally to mean that it wasn't hard when I started. It was very hard. And I blew through, you know, quite a bit of money getting it going. Right. I'm not laughing at you. I'm laughing because I get it. Yeah. But it meant something to me and I had the support of my family. and yeah, it was scary as hell. But I was determined to make it work and I'll continue to advance and do what I'm doing that makes me happy now.

59:34And I've got a great clientele base. And if in five years it moves onto something else and it moves onto something else, but I'll go with the flow and be flexible and pivot when I need to. That's great. What was the hardest thing that you went through when you were building this? Like the one thing that you look back and you're like, I don't know how I got through that. You know, in the sales world, it was like go constantly and go fast and go hard. And this was the first time in my life that I had to slow down and get outcomes, right? am out very outcome driven but i was responsible for the outcome so it was great right so the service component of it so the heart one of the hardest things for me aside from the financial component of it which is is um that's another animal oh yeah um because it's scary shit um the hardest part was to slow that sales cycle down and you know slowly is the quickest way to get to where you want to go.

1:00:49And I heard that one time and I'm like, no, that's BS. No, it's fast, but it really isn't. I always, I went fast in my twenties. I went fast in my thirties and look where it got me. So just learning how to slow down, become very mindful of my actions and then get the outcomes and then just go hit the next one and the next one. So referrals, word of mouth, you know, and I'm still growing. No, absolutely. Right. If we're not growing, we're dying. You really need to be growing all the time. One of the things that I started focusing on and my partner in the business, Pat, he said this thing one time and it stuck with me.

1:01:30It was focus on making this the best show we can. that's it like it's so basic but really what it means for me and for people listening is focus on the thing that matters the most all the other things will come yeah and I did that and now all the other things are coming now again you know we still have issues I mean, this is a company, it's, it's always hard. It's never a lot. It's there's lighter days, right? That usually means I'm just not recording. Right. But there's still things going on in my mind, but thankfully I have an amazing team now that is insulated around me. Like Dan to go do things that I could only trust somebody like him to do like transparently.

1:02:27Like I have to have him in that position because he knows me like the back of his hand. He helped build me. I think it's so cool. Isn't it cool? It's awesome. Yeah. I tell him that all the time. I love it. It just, it's, it just, people are, are in your life for a reason, whether to teach you something, to learn, to grow, to, you know, um, overcome hatred or, you know, I remember I had, you know, some difficulties with a couple, um, adults, you know, in the last couple of decades and I just couldn't shake. And I'm like, I have to get rid of this. And when I was going through all of my, my meditation journey, I was like, I need to start praying for them.

1:03:09And just to even mention their name and a prayer was like, yeah, yeah. The, the, the, The 19-year-old kid that pulled out in front of my dad and ended up in an accident that was fatal. Is that how you lost for that? In a motorcycle accident. Oh, Jesus. In two seconds, he was ripped from my life. I had to pray for that 19-year-old kid. It took me a lot of energy and effort and compassion to know that we all make mistakes, but I had to pray for him because it was healing me. I always knew I had to heal myself from it. Forgiveness is always for you. Always. Right? It's never for somebody else. And I think that's something that people really need to dive into.

1:03:50We don't forgive for them. We forgive so we can release that. Yes. Right. And it was super important for me to have a team that I could trust, that I could bring along to keep me in check. Right. And, and again, going back to that statement, focus on making the show the best it possibly can be. And every single time we record every episode, I get with Kyle, I get with production. You go, damn it. How was it? What do I need to do better? You know, and there's, there's times where like, Hey, there's nothing I could have done, but I think there's a healthy aspect of always searching for ways to get better.

1:04:29And I think that's being a true professional. Well, I'm just taking accountability for your actions and intentions throughout the day. Yeah. We're not perfect. We, but we have to give ourselves grace too. We're not very good at that at times. We're very hard on ourselves. Why do you think that is? I think it's from just, you know, for me, I made a lot of bad decisions. And so I feel like I have to make up for that, or I feel like I have to do it perfectly because I didn't do it perfectly for so long. And so we're hard on ourselves because I think we know our capability and we know our potential and we don't live it out.

1:05:09Action is the foundational key to all success. potential is a funny word right it's like you either myself or you have all this potential or whomever right but if we don't take the action and we don't tap into that potential then it's wasted and i and i truly feel like the potential that we were giving the gifts that we were given from god we have to use them because if you don't it's the ultimate act of disrespect absolutely like for me it's like i can just i can just imagine like when i give my kids a gift and they don't use it or they break it or they don't value it, it really upsets me. Think about what the big guy feels if he gave you a gift.

1:05:50Like if I wasn't using my gift of conversation, like I'm wasting what I'm put here for. Yep. There is a bigger purpose to everything and everyone. And when you find that, you just, you'll do it. You know, people are like, would you do this if you won the lottery? And I say, yes, because I know this is what I'm meant to do. This is my passion and purpose. And I'm meant to make people feel better than when I found them and to have some of those hard conversations along the way about nutrition and lifestyle. And, you know, people are eating so much negative food and wondering why they feel like shit.

1:06:28And most people don't want to do the work, though. That's what I'm finding. Yeah. They're eating the food that was made in a lab by men. It's man-made food. Yeah. And going to actual Whole Foods and eating real food is simple. It's not easy. Right. And people go, well, I don't have time for that. Yeah, you really do. Like if you have to go to Chick-fil-A, then you can get the salad with the grilled chicken. You know, you can get the grilled chicken sandwich. You can get the grilled chicken nuggets. but people they say they go to their default right if i go here i'm gonna get this and it's always like the fried chicken or whatever my buddy matthew hadn't told me this one time you need to have contingency plans if you're out and about and you go to if this then that if i'm at chick-fil-a then i'm gonna have this so i created systems in my life right whether it's nutrition or within the frameworks of my show i'm sure you have it within your business that if this happens this is my default yeah if my kids say i want chick-fil-a then i know okay great i don't have stress now because like okay i know what they're gonna get i'm gonna get this grilled chicken sandwich grilled chicken salad i'm gonna ask them to add extra chicken on it so now i'm hitting my protein and now i'm getting my leafy my vegetables and some tomatoes and some fruits in there but i set those i set those guardrails for myself yeah and i think that ultimately helps me It helps me in my business.

1:08:08It helps me in everything. Sure. Yeah. You know, I don't know. It's not rocket science, right? It's so basic. And we have to just check in with ourselves every once in a while. Like, how are you feeling? Well, if something's off, then, you know, let's take a deeper dive, you know? Maybe, you know, if we did a drip on someone and it made them too anxious, then let's rework the, you know, we always, lab work is really what we go to to see where people are, you know, deficient or not. So it's, it's customized. Not always, but a lot of times if we want to take deep dives or, you know, maybe we did it too late and it kept them up and disturbed their sleep, you know?

1:08:47So check in with your body, check in with your mind. What are you thinking? How are you feeling? Let's switch it up. I'm a big fan of that. It struck a thought and I know we're coming down to the end here, but you know, I, there's times right where before the last year, if I was feeling tired, I was feeling a certain way. I was ingrained in this hustle culture where no matter what, just keep going, right? Burn yourself out. There was a couple of weeks ago where I had five episodes scheduled in a week. It's a lot. it's only five hours of work but the lift is so heavy because you're different guests different energies different conversation you know it's it's it's a big lift and I didn't feel good on that Friday and so I rescheduled that show because I know now like you're about to hit a tipping point Sean if you do this episode like you are going to take so much from yourself because it was something that I started thinking, I'm like, I don't even know where to go with this right now.

1:09:53Like, I don't even know, like, I know what I'm supposed to be talking about, but I can't set the framework in my mind because I'm so overwhelmed. I'm like, okay, well, let's move this. And I think understanding yourself, that's also part of determination. See, determination isn't the sexy thing where you're constantly grinding. It's gritty. It's a thousand miles an hour, you know, 24, seven, 365. It's also knowing when to lay off. It's also when to know, like you said earlier, one foot in front of the other and to continue to do the things when you don't want to do them emotionally at that time.

1:10:28That's why I started this platform because I wanted to bring those stories to people. What is your definition of determination? Hmm. Determination for me is never giving up on something that's so important and so passionate. And, and it's, it's, it's looking at or feeling the obstacles and challenges ahead of you and going and moving forward anyway to get past it and through it. just to never give up and to continue doing things that make you happy and that you're on purpose with. And like that, that moment with that nurse that I have at a year and a half and, um, you know, her saying that it it's, I hope it's worth it.

1:11:23Nobody's going to take your business as serious is you. No. And so that determination and drive is in you and only you know what that is and you know how to feed that and you know whether you're skimming or not. Yeah. So I think I have to check in with myself every once in a while and just make sure that I'm in check. I think it's smart. I mean, there's times where I'll sit there and I'll go, all right, dude, what are you actually doing? If I'm not recording that day, I say to myself, like, what are you actually doing today? And sometimes it'd be like, nah, I'm just going to be, I think those are important days to balance.

1:12:00Yeah. Balance is key. Yeah. Mentally, physically give yourself some grace. Um, just checking in with your body, checking in with your mind and just doing the best job that you can. I love it. This has been amazing. Awesome. Where can the audience find you? So I am, um, on Instagram at, at hydrate girl with a period after the R and a website, ivhydratellc.com for all the drip information. I love it. So audience, and we're going to put that website in the show notes. So you people here locally, go ahead and click on that, get some treatment from Stacy and really skim her website. There's so many different modalities that you have from, you know, know glutathione drips you know to detox the liver to the meyers cocktail for you know immunity support but you also do a lot of different things that i think not a lot of these concierge services actually do right you know so you know when you go check her out guys look at everything that they do and give her give her a chance here if you're local because i tell you what like that was a good.

1:13:09That was a good one. Nice little coolness the whole time through. And I feel great. I appreciate you. I appreciate you. It was so good to see you. This has been an amazing and impactful conversation. And the thing that I love most about it, we went deep. We went really deep. The audience got to learn a little bit about you, of what you went through. And you were very successful in sales, but money isn't everything. You know, that's a very stressful business. And And a lot of times we have to pivot and work for ourselves. Cause I tell everybody, I just became unemployable. I was like, I just didn't give a fuck anymore.

1:13:44Like I'm like, I'm not, you're not going to call me and ask me where I'm at. And that was more of my medical days is like, I'm performing. I was like, I know you're not going to call me and, and, and ask me where I'm at. That's what I noticed. Like there needs to be a pivot in my life. So I think you gave a peek behind the curtain in your, in your own journey for the audience to kind of decode and marinate on what they're dealing with right now and be able to move forward in their passions and their dreams. So thank you for that. Thank you, Sean. Absolutely. Now for you guys, for the audience, just like every single time, I need you to share this episode with somebody you know, love and trust.

1:14:21Let me know what you loved about it. And if you're in the area, go check her out. Click the link in the show notes and schedule your concierge service at your home, at your office, wherever the hell you're at, in your podcast studio. And until next time, guys, stay determined.