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28:41And then without saying anything, she starts crying. And then I start crying. And her parents were right there. And my parents were right here. And all of them are crying. And then I step back and we start talking. I get to meet Kelly. And I get to hear about her story. And I get to hear about what she's gone through and what she's been through. and the courageous young woman that she is. And I just felt it on my spirit to ask her to be my date the next night for the red carpet and the awards ceremony. And thankfully she said yes. And so the next morning my uncle took her out with her parents and her sister to get her a dress so she could be the belle of the ball.

29:26And then all of us went to dinner that next night before the red carpet and the awards ceremony. And I mean, we're dying. We're laughing. We're having the most fun at dinner. We're enjoying the whole thing. It was amazing. And then we go into the red carpet and we're walking down the red carpet and the crowd's going crazy for her and they're cheering for her and all of this. And she just looks so happy, so joyful, so beautiful as we walk down the red carpet. And then we go into our seats and I think I was sitting literally like row one, seat A and C's like right beside me and her family's near us and my family's right behind me.

30:06And I was up for quite a few awards that year and maybe six, something like that. I can't remember exactly, but something like that. And man, I'll tell you what, the night was amazing. It was so awesome. And then the award show starts and the first award that I'm up for and I lose. and I'm like oh it's okay you know it's not about that it's about Kelly the second award starts and I lose it's okay it's about Kelly third award and I lose all right it stings a little bit you know I'm getting a little irritated fourth award lose fifth award lose and now all of those emotions and selfishness and bitterness and everything that was about me is coming back and it's flooding me and then as they're getting ready to announce the sixth award and as i'm sitting here i can't even tell you what it's for right but at the moment you would have thought this is everything and before they announce it my mom sitting behind me leans forward and she whispers in my ear timmy you already won tonight you just don't get your award till heaven oh bro what is she talking about.

31:22She's not talking about this college football award. She's talking about what mattered in the moment. What mattered in the moment was Kelly and her family. And you see, what was happening was when I was at the banquet the night before, in that whole week, everything was about me. It was about me. It was about me. It was about me. And then I met Kelly and it changed because I was inspired by her. And so I stopped focusing on myself for one minute and I started thinking about her. And you know what happened? I finally refound joy and peace and, and, and a happiness, but happiness in the right word, joy is more of the right word.

31:59And, and that was there until it started to become about me again, right back, went right back into it until I was reminded until I was reminded. And that's, you know, one of the things I think is so important is we have to remind ourself over and over and over again, what matters? You know, what are the things that we believe? What do we hold fast to? What are our convictions? What are our non-negotiables? We have to remember and we have to meditate on those things to remind us because if not, other things are going to fill our brain, fill our heart, and they're going to start to creep in. Not all together, but the creep in.

32:33Oh, no, no, no. You need to put yourself first. Oh, no, no, no. You shouldn't be happy if you don't win. No, it's about you. No, it is about you. And all these things are going to creep in over because that's what society tells us. It's so true, man. It's about you. And if it's not about you, then you need to be like this other person because you need to be more like them. They have more followers. And you need to be like their highlight reel on their Instagram, on their social media. And it's just constantly saying either it needs to be about you or you need to be more like them. Yes. And I'm just so grateful for Kelly that day.

33:08And by the way, we're still close friends and she has raised hundreds of thousands for the foundation and she's a mama bear to so many other kids and she makes such an impact and she's so incredible. But I'm just so grateful that she reminded me on that day what really matters. and going back to what I was just saying about remembering is, I think there's a reason why in Deuteronomy, Moses 22 times says to the Israelites, remember or do not forget. Wouldn't you have, I could imagine if God had rescued you and parted the sea and you're like, you would never have to say, Tammy, remember what happened.

33:50But instantly they started focusing on a lot of other things and forgot the goodness of God. Gosh, man. And so we need Moses reminded them we need to be reminded over and over and over and over again. And we need to go back and we need to remember what matters are non-negotiables, our convictions, all the amazing things that God has done in our life. And we need to focus on those things. And so, you know, when when we get out of bed and we focus on those things, then we we reframe our mind. We go back to what matters. We go back to what's important. We're encouraged by good things. And now we go get ready to head out to life.

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36:20That is one of the great stories. Like it kind of reads like a movie script. Let's be real, right? Like even the people in the studio over there are like nodding. Like that is one of the Greg. It's not easy to give me goosebumps. Like it is, it isn't right. I got like goosies everywhere because it's exactly true. You know, I think what a lot of people think, by the way, and I've thought this, when I ever say a lot of people, when you're listening to the show, I mean like I also am a lot of people, right? But I used to think when things weren't good in my life, what you just said sounds really good.

36:53And once I get my own life together, I'm going to really start serving other people. When I can get my head above water, when I stop drowning, then I'll do it. And what I have found in my life is that you're going to take you with you when you get to these next destinations. And if you can't find a way to find joy and bliss and what you talk about in the book, a great deal, gratitude in the moments of your life where it's difficult. In other words, if your bliss, if your service, if your love, if your faith is conditional on everything being dialed in in your life right now, you're going to have very few moments of bliss and joy in your life.

37:27And it's actually not real. And so the hard thing to do in life when I was the most broke and my water was turned off and friends were abandoning me was to find things to be grateful for in those moments, which is why I love your book. Because it's just a reminder on a daily basis to find the small things in life that we're grateful for. And everyone in personal development talks about you got to be gratitude. You got to have gratitude. But I think listening to you and being with you, this is a real pattern and benchmark of your life, right? Gratitude. Absolutely. But see what happens with gratitude is a lot of people think that, oh, gratitude is an emotion or a feeling that I get.

38:06And sometimes it can be. But it can also be a choice of when I choose to focus on the things that I'm grateful for. And the University of Miami did a study. And I don't remember necessarily every part of the study, but a main part of the study was in one of the control groups that they had to write down one thing every day that they were grateful for, and I think for 10 weeks. And then they had some of the other control groups write down other things. But the point of it was that that group that for 10 weeks wrote down one thing every day, and you think, well, that's so easy. I can write down one thing every day for 10.

38:37That's not a lot. At the end of the study, that group had a biological chemical reaction for the better. Literally, their health improved. Their mindset improved. They were better off because for 10 weeks, they wrote down one thing they were grateful for. There's something to choosing gratefulness. It's so true. Not just feeling grateful, choosing it. Because sometimes we don't feel like it. But I'm so grateful we don't have to live always by our feelings. because feelings are really fickle. And they come and go, man, do you know how many days, you know, when the alarm goes off at five, you're like, I don't want to wake up.

39:16I don't want to go do this, but we don't have to live by our emotions. We get to choose our convictions of what we believe, of what we want to live for, of what we want to stand for. And that doesn't mean we're perfect with it. We screw up all the time with it. But if you live by your emotions, then your life will be a roller coaster. Gosh, that's so true. Yeah. It will be a roller coaster. You're going to have some awesome days. Man, I feel like it. I feel grateful. But then you're going to have other days where you don't feel like it. Yep. And in those moments, what do we go back to? Can we still write down what we're grateful for?

39:53So good, dude. Can we reframe our mindset? Can we find encouragement? Can we remember all of those things? Yeah. Yeah. And Tim, are you listening to you? I don't think sometimes I do the show. It becomes out of body for me every once in a while. I'm like, I'm so proud of this guy right now. And it's not about you. It's just like I do this show because I love humans and I want joy and the love and and the techniques and the strategies and all that in life, too. But no one has ever sat there ever or all the shows I used to film in my house and said that gratitude is not just an emotion It's actually a conscious choice.

40:28Yes It's also part of the you know, my book I read about the matrix of our life like the filter that we see life through and that story you're telling yourself Alters this filter and if that filter is to find the things that worry you that give you anxiety They give you fear that give you depression to give you anger You will find them on a daily basis because they're there. Yes But if your filter is to choose to find gratitude daily to see that you will then begin to see those things that have always been there before. Isn't that really about perspective, what you're saying? One million percent.

40:57I gave an example, too. You're going to love this. My mother-in-law, Patricia, is the most godly woman ever. She sees the Lord everywhere. You know, like your mom might be like, no matter what, she sees the Lord. I used to, when I was young, I've known her since I was 14, I used to kind of laugh about it. I was like, gosh, she's so Pollyanna. Like, my gosh, like she doesn't work in the real world. Like if she was in the real world, she know there's stuff and things and stress and worry. And the older I've gotten, like, we'll walk outside, literally, Timmy, like outside, Tim. And she'll go, the wind will blow on her face.

41:28Thank you, Jesus. And she'll just feel she's constantly her her matrix. Her filter is to find. It's not even just gratitude. To be honest with you, my my mother was looking for the Lord everywhere. Yeah. And she sees it everywhere. And you know what? she hasn't aged. Yeah. My mother-in-law is almost 80 years old. She looks 40. And I think one of the things you just said is her biochemistry has changed. Her health is better. She's just a remarkable person based on her perspective. And now I want to go to perspective because one of the great moments of all sports for me ever, let me tell you when it was.

42:04Okay. Because I also think in life, it's not just, it's not just the story we tell ourselves, But it's how we respond when adversity comes our way. So my favorite was back in 2008. And there's this football team that loses 31 to 30. I think it was, was it Ole Miss? Who was it? It was Ole Miss. So, you know, your face just changed again. Right. And this young man who has no business being this wise or this strong or this humble or this courageous at a young man. I mean, people forget when you're watching these college athletes because they run and look like grown men. These are still very young people.

42:41And I knew who you were, but, yeah, he's another player. He talks about God. That's great. Then I watched. I watched this press conference. I saw it live. Let me tell you what happens. This young man, we'll probably play it on the YouTube or the audio here on the audio. This young man gets up and says, and he's down. You look at his face in this video. He's down. He says, to the fans and everybody in Gator Nation, I'm sorry. I'm extremely sorry. You know, we were hoping for an undefeated season. That was my goal. something the floor is never done here. But I promise you one thing. A lot of good will come out of this.

43:13You have never seen any player in the entire country play as hard as I will play the rest of the season, and you never see someone push the rest of the team as hard as I will push everybody the rest of the season, and you never see a team play harder than we will the rest of the season. God bless, and he walks out. I'm thinking, how does he respond like this when this happens? And if you know the rest of the story, they did exactly that. But don't you think part of life is how you respond in the times when adversity hits like that? And has that been a benchmark for you like throughout your life and the advice you'd give to people who are facing adversity and challenges right now?

43:50Well, I would first say that adversity is here. It just left or it's on its way. life I just don't think we should ever give people the false notions that adversity is not a part of life it is it's a part of life I think it's important because we're talking about gratitude and all this stuff but this other thing will be grateful even in the midst of it not when it's perfect because it's never going to be perfect we can be grateful even in the hard times and and I think for me in that in that moment I felt such a weight a burden and a responsibility because I missed the mark. I did. As a leader, as the quarterback, as a part of Gator Nation, I bleed orange and blue.

44:35So it wasn't just as a player. It was my grandfather's dream for him to see Florida win an SEC championship. He died before that happened. I didn't know that. Yeah, it was part of life. And so I had dreamed about this since I was a boy, and Florida's never had an undefeated season. So for about an hour, I was waiting for the press conference, and I was sitting there, and Coach Meyer was sitting beside me, and I keep getting emotional, keep getting emotional, because it just meant that much to me. And then as I go to do the press conference, my parents are walking down, and so I get emotional again, and I have a cool down again, and so then I go in and I answer all the questions, and then I want to say something.

45:22I wanted to say something. I didn't have to, I didn't need to, but I, I felt like I was supposed to, and there's a difference. And the first thing that I wanted to say, because I believe when you do something wrong, the first thing you should do is apologize and not just say, Oh, I apologize. That's not an apology. Apologize is to say, I am sorry. And so I wanted to apologize first and foremost. And I did it twice to say, I'm sorry, because when you feel like you did something wrong, you need to apologize. And that's the first thing I wanted to do. And so I apologized twice, but then I just believe and, and, and, you know, I'm just so grateful for my parents and trying to instill this is to apologize and then say how it's going to be different, right?

46:05Because it's, it's, it's not just, um, a disappointment or a wrong, but it's a learning moment. It's a learning curve. It could be one of the greatest moments of your life. If you take a down and you learn from it and you adjust and you adapt and you grow so that that moment might be the reason you don't have to face those moments for a long time because you change, you learn, you grew, you adapt. And sometimes that sucky moment could be one of the greatest moments you ever have in your life because I learned so much from it or I could sit in. And so I just, I wanted to, to, um, apologize. And then I wanted to say, and see what's funny is people will, will sometimes quote and they'll be like, Oh, you promised y 'all we're going to win the national championship.

46:45I'm like, I never said that. I can't make a promise that I don't know if it'll come true. And so I promised something I believed I could control was that I was going to be the hardest working player. Cause I believe I could control that, that everything, everything I could do. And that our team, because I believed how our team would respond. This is so valuable for people because they're in the mindset of a champion, because I think one of the words I'd use for you is obsessed. And I think your obsessions become your possessions. I think you were obsessed with becoming this version of you. I just believe that.

47:15I think at some age there, whether it was eight, nine, 17, or whatever, you became obsessed with being this person that you've become. Right. And so now you possess him and now you're in this hunt to improve him even more. I like that. Just cut that clip for me. It's actually a fact though, man. It's like, it's very, very true. So you've also transcended multiple industries though. So it's like you just did one thing, right? So you did American gladiator, right? He's only got to do both programs of American gladiator. He's been in the fitness business. He's also done well in business. He owns different real estate.

47:44He's done well in the business world too, but you also are an actor, right? And so he's pursuing some things right now. Maybe you'll share with us a little bit, but like they're going to redo Conan, aren't they? They are redoing Conan. Amazon is doing it. So how are you involved with that, hopefully? I mean, this is an outcome of yours, right? This is a goal of yours, fair to say? This is. Acting's always been. And like my first movie was Death Becomes Her with Bruce Willis and Goldie Hawn and Meryl Streep. And I actually got felt up by Meryl Streep. That's hot. So it was like, look at those things.

48:14She grabbed me. So just politically correct, she grabbed me. But yeah, I've been acting since 1990, and it's something I love. And yes, Gladiator's the original, but I was still athletic enough when I got the second Gladiator's. Now, here's the funny thing. This is interesting. Nobody will know this. Or a small percentage will know this. They called me up for the new Gladiator's and said, hey, you're on the show. And I go, no, I'm not. Let me try out like everybody else tries out. If I deserve it, I deserve it. um then i went out and you can see it online and and i destroyed all the tests and there was over 20 000 people tried back out for it and how old were you in the second time i think uh it was 2008 came out so it was 10 years ago 40.

49:00and so i came out and i did 35 pull-ups and i i ran a 4740. and so it was one of those things i what did you weigh when you ran a 475. come on man so it was one of those things i didn't want to just get something handy i wanted to fight for this and i there it is and i love it again i love the fight two more yeah so there's a running theme here though this is good okay so those are great but um i've been doing some fun shows like workaholics and sunny in philadelphia and guest spots and take a daytime tv and soap operas and so now we're up for uh he-man and the remaking conan so the crazy hair is that's huge fitting right now that's so huge i'm excited for you i'm hoping i'm excited for you but it's fun it's a fun battle and and regardless what when i tell people they go what keeps you motivated and i try to say i know it keeps me motivated it won't make them motivated but if you're passionate about something and i don't care how small it is to you it might be something big and i'll give you something so minute to most people but it was so big to me um that uh you will continue to work out you will continue to eat right you will continue to go and make right choices about things um and and push you beyond any limit you possibly think is possible you'll get up every morning going i don't want to work out today you'll be up going no i got that okay that thing is right in your frontal lobe and you're passionate about it and that's what's going to keep you training and dieting right so um i got a a puppy 18 years old and and and there's there's it's a a a huge part of me because of the fact that not only is she my dog my first adult dog and she's 18 um your whole face just changed yeah i know man i'm gonna cry now yeah instant your whole thing um uh yeah i know i know it's my heart yeah and uh i train harder and i've trained harder in the last six months to a point where i was better than i ever was when i won the universe now this is 20 years later i decided to get in the best shape of my life so what triggered it what was different Maybe mature muscle in my consistency, but there had to be something that drove me to a different level.

51:22I'm pretty obsessed as is. I was beyond obsessed. Was it Christmas that I fasted? So as everybody else is going through Christmas and New Year's, my goal was New Year's. I want to look better than I've ever looked in my life. And the only passion I had is that I'm losing my puppy. and that I wanted to spend time with her and I wanted to be able to hold her and kind of show her, to me, that made sense. And it's something minute to somebody else. Mostly if you have a kid, it should be tenfold. Yep, yep. So I got in the best shape of my life to the point of where, I don't care if it was Jay Cutler or Kai Green going, what the heck?

52:07Right, yeah. This shouldn't be done. Yeah, right. What are you doing? How do you look like? Yeah. And so, again, it's a puppy. It's me. It's motivation. It's passion. And I got to a place that I've never got in my life. But I can attach things to me on goals that are so much more meaningful in view. And it's not a trophy. No, it's what you just did. Here's what it is, man. The goal's huge. The passion's huge. And, you know, you're a freak. There's freaks running around the world. I'd like to think that I'm one of them, right? Like your discipline level is freakish. Your competition level. But when you give someone who's already a freak a massive reason attached to their goal, it goes ballistic.

52:45So you attach a massive, compelling, emotional reason, right? Is this the puppy you were telling me about from the first shoot? Is that the puppy you're with? Yeah, yeah. Just so you know, because all these people say all these alpha males, me and him were telling us beforehand, right? You either get us talking about either our kids or our dogs, and we just melt. Any man, right? So just tell them why, because that reason's huge, but also how big this dude's heart is. Like, how did you end up with her in the first place? photo shoot uh millennium cover uh so i go to the photo shoot and it's muscle and fitness nothing out of the you know different except i was honored to be on the the millennium cover the 2000 that was great joe white joe weeder calls me goes out of everybody in the world you're the guy how cool and i'm like dude this is awesome show up i'm excited uh they pull out little two puppies and uh i shoot with the two puppies all day long and then at the end of the photoshoot they're like all right we're gonna take these pups back to the pound and i'm like uh that ain't gonna happen um i thought they were actually somebody's puppies that they brought to the photoshoot and in the pound everybody tell them what yeah i don't know you guys even know what a pound it's an old term that uh they would keep the dogs for maybe 21 days and then put the dogs down and so uh when they said that i was like no here here's uh some money and and i took the puppies home yeah and that's the puppy that he's referring to that's his reason to this day so for everybody that's 18 years old that dog's been alive as long as that and still with me and because i think that's an elite thing like first off shows your heart like one of the things that like struck me about she's like you're this big study dude like you're really just this humble super sweet good dude like you kind of talk a lot of smack but he's like this really gentle really kind dude who could just break you in half right but but what's what you if you're an elite person out there and you're you're already doing very well like he was already one of the most fit men on the planet, how do you go to that next level, like that crazy freak level?

54:35It's a bigger reason. It's going to be because your disciplines are there. Your habits are there. Your rituals are there. Your obsession's already there. If you're at that level, the only separator is to have a bigger reason, whether that's another competition, something you're trying to surpass. Usually big reasons are your dreams or other people or a pet. Those are your bigger reasons. That's what you did. You put that formula together. And I'm curious for you, I want to go through it because I think there's metaphors everywhere. So he's, by the way, the reason I started with 30 and 50 is he's done that.

55:02And then when you do the 50 and 50, I'm like, bro, I like you're out of your damn mind. Right. And then to go do the conquer 100, but I'm reading about both, you know, both of those last two, it's inspiring. Right. But this time, like day five, your shins start exploding, right? Like you're on day five. Talk, talk us through that. Did you think of quitting then? So, so two really cool things happened that took me a little bit of time to realize. I went into it knowing that you can't train for a hundred consecutive. You have to adapt and evolve along the way. And I knew, look, the first 15 and 20 of these are going to be hell because you've got to get to the point where you're broken physically, mentally, and then push through that.

55:47And that's where everybody quits. And if I can push through that, my body's going to adapt and evolve and it's going to become the new normal. Everybody, I want you to write this down, pull over, adapt and evolve. That's in your business. That's in your family. That's in your fitness. That's, that's the key. Go ahead. Keep going. Yeah. And so when I went into it with an ankle problem that I didn't tell anybody about and it immediately exploded into my shin to where we developed a stress fracture in the bone and super long story, but a miracle happened. We ended up getting a carbon plated shin brace that allowed us to offload the shin and continue on to heal that stress fracture by doing the marathon portion every single day.

56:36It was a total miracle, but a complete testament to me that you give the body the tools and assets that it needs to recover, it can still do so under stress. And that was amazing to me to watch the body heal like that. Now the, the, the shin and the, and the imbalance that created a hip problem became so painful. Some of my worst days, um, I don't remember them, but we have the video footage where I would be, um, trying to move and the pain would get to a point that I could no longer manage it. And I would black out. and my my we called him the wingman my wingman would catch me i'd come back to and he would do a 10 second countdown and then say here we go and we would repeat that until i got to i'm gonna get emotional but until i got to the finish line that night and um again it's just a testament to how powerful the mind is now i i was angry because um i wanted to showcase how strong our team was mentally and physically and i wanted to make the hundred look easy i believed we could do that um and i was angry that i couldn't run and that i was forced to walk

58:03and it turned out to be the biggest blessing of the entire campaign um why my my um my pain and discomfort forced me to walk and every single day we had people from around the country fly in and locals to support us. And without fail, they said, I'm so grateful you're walking because I wouldn't have been able to join you.

58:36if you if you weren't walking and uh and I was hard on myself because I was like, look, I'm an athlete. I want to destroy this. And, um, as, as I, as I got deeper into it, I was like, I'm so grateful for this injury. I'm so grateful I'm walking and, and my, my pain has turned into to a blessing that other people can join and have an experience. And every single day, somebody did their first 10 K with me or their first marathon or their first full distance or their first hundred, a hundred mile bike ride. And every single day I got to experience somebody else's first. And it was humbling and it was yeah.

59:30Humbling. Wow. I mean, by the end of this, you guys, a couple hundred people riding cyclists with them. And you, I actually, for you, I'm grateful that it didn't look easy because I think you connected, at least with me, watching you struggle. I'm on Instagram every night watching these videos when it was happening. And like, there were literally times for me watching you, like I'm in tears, like not wondering the next day. Just, but it's one of the most, I don't even like to say one of the most, because when I say that, then I have to think of something that I think is more. It's just insanely inspiring.

1:00:05And I can't think of something mentally or physically I've ever seen close to this because of the adversity, because of all the people that got caught up in it with you. Also, though, there's another element of this that, you know, this idea of adapting, I'm so glad that you said that for everybody's sake. but I'm curious of all of them. The one time you did the 50 or this time, was there a moment where you're like, I'm out. I'm going to tap. You're literally blacking out, right? So that's insane to me. But was there a time when you just consciously went, I'm in too much pain. I'm in too much.

1:00:42Because guys, these are icy roads, snowy sometimes. You imagine shin issues on a snowy ice. oh my gosh like like was there a point or are there lots of points where you're like I'm out was there one particular bro where you're like no no like this time I'm really out so um my team is world class um and and there's there's the core four of us it's my wife Sonny Joe and then the two wingmen, Casey and Aaron. And they were the four of us thick and thin through the 50. And then I brought those boys back on for the 100 and they played massive roles. And Sonny is obviously the head of this entire thing.

1:01:27And we just know from experience that it's okay to feel. It's not okay to quit. It's okay to problem solve. It's not okay to quit. and it and it's okay to process and i think that's what a lot of people don't do especially men is they they don't allow themselves to feel and process before they hunker down and keep going at no point in time was ever any of us saying you know we're quitting we got to be talked back into it but every single one of us had moments where we just needed to cry to feel uh be um supported to where we said, okay, I've had my two minutes. I'm not going to dwell on it. We're going to quickly turn this around and we're going to get back to work.

1:02:15And that's the reason the four of us are so strong together because all four of us have that mindset. And I will tell you this, the closest that I ever came to even considering it was somewhere between 15 and 20, where we were at the peak of that pain, where I had a couple of days where I was blacking out. I don't remember portions of it. And I remember standing in the shower and I kind of just shrugged my shoulders at Sunny. And I said, I don't know how many more days I can manage the pain at that level. Because when you've got 85 more days to go, that is so, it's so daunting. And when you're broken, it's hard to conceptualize what it's like.

1:03:02and I'll never forget what she said. She said, um, you're done today and you don't have to do anything else. And all you have to do is now trust in the team, get out of the shower, go lay on the table and let them take care of you. And then we will face whatever comes tomorrow together. And I think that's what a lot of people don't do is, is you've, you've got this today's mentality of the people that do decide to show up that it's like, I got to go in all the time. I got to go all in all the time. I got to hurt more than he does. And they don't take two seconds to reset mentally. And I can't tell you how important that was.

1:03:47And the valuable lesson that I learned was you've done enough today to take two seconds and reset. And as soon as I got into that rhythm knowing and and again it it takes it takes putting the right team together and then it takes letting go and trusting the team that you have put together to do their job to do their part and that's hard too as a man to let go of like control of every piece of that puzzle and to go i i surrender and i trust you to do your part and it's hard to find good people nowadays that are willing to do their part. And I have that team. And so when Sonny said, you've done enough today.

1:04:34And I think that's so important because we go through life and I think we're so hard on ourselves. We see ourselves differently. And how many times in our lives, on our journeys, do we take a minute and say, you're enough? You've done enough. And I think it's so important, especially as men, to be vulnerable and just say, I've done enough today. I'm going to take on tomorrow when tomorrow comes. Rinse takes your laundry and hand delivers it to your door, expertly cleaned and folded, so you could take the time once spent folding and sorting and waiting to finally pursue a whole new version of you, like tea time you, or this tea time you, or even this tea time you.

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1:06:03I'm just curious. You burned your legs and your feet. And by the way, he's in this hospital. It's unsanitary. There's a cat walking over his body. And again, his mom comes. And what if after that, because he decides, by the way, I just got to give this away to everybody. It blows my mind. He's like, his mom says, what's your Everest? Basically, while he's laying there. He's like, I don't know. I'm never going to get out of here. I'm never going to walk again. And I'll just speak at four call. And Colin says, I'll do a triathlon. 18 months later, this dude does a triathlon after he was told he could never walk again.

1:06:35And he freaking wins it. He freaking wins the triathlon. It's insane. And then you've gone on. What if you had never pushed yourself, never known what you were capable of? Because there's a lot of people, Colin, that go through this whole life in the five, six range, never knowing what they're capable of. What if you would have never done that in your life? How much different do you think you would be, your marriage would be, you as a person would be just, I mean, I don't know if you ever sit back and think about that. What if I'd have never seen what I was capable of? It's such a powerful and important question.

1:07:09And it just, I'm smiling because it just strikes at the heart of the, what I'm passionate about sharing, what I've shared about those ones and tens. You know, people have asked me, and it's a different question, but it's come from the same place of, I was 22 years old. The reason I got burned in this fire was I was, I jumped a flaming jump rope. I was on a beach in Thailand, 22 years old, clearly not a fully formed prefrontal cortex. And I saw a couple of guys with a kerosene soaked jump rope. And I was like, gee, that looks like fun. What could possibly go wrong here? Right. And I wrapped that rope around my body, lit my fire completely on, lit my body on fire to my neck.

1:07:43And I thankfully was near the ocean, jumped in the ocean, saved my life, but not before about 25 % of my body was burned. As you mentioned, predominate my legs and feet. And doctors thought I would never walk again. And I spent months in rural Thai hospitals. I was in a wheelchair, all these things. And people have asked me, well, if you could go back in a time machine and whisper to your 22 year old self, would you tell them not to jump the jump rope? And it's an interesting question because the knee jerk response is, of course, don't jump the jump rope. Don't light your body on fire. And I wouldn't wish the physical pain of that injury on my worst enemy.

1:08:19And I'll tell you what was worse than the physical pain was the emotional trauma, not only that I suffered, my mom, thank God she saved me from that mess, but she also had to stare and see her child severely burned in a place where no one spoke the language in the middle of nowhere that she couldn't move and the hurt that that caused her and my family. So on one hand, I wouldn't want to cause that hurt to anyone in my family. But here's the thing. I learned some of life's most valuable lessons from the resilience gained to recover from that, from having that specific goal, at least for me, which was a triathlon.

1:08:53And so that's all to say, I sit here with 10 world records. And we're not talking about the 10 world records that I set before I stupidly burned myself in a fire and screwed up my entire life. I set those records after that burn. And I only could have walked across Antarctica if I had burned myself in the fire and forget about the external achievement. I love that you brought up marriage into this. I show up for my wife with love and compassion and grace, and I don't always get it right. I'm not perfect, but I am a better person because I have sought out what, what, what, uh, the limitations and the challenges and I've suffered some.

1:09:31And so it's a weird thing. I know, I know you were, uh, uh, I was just listening to your most recent episode with Eric, the hip hop preacher. Love that dude. What a guy. And you're saying, you're saying to him, he's like, you know, he's, he's been homeless and he's been in the four seasons, you know, you know, he's been illiterate and he's got a PhD. There is something about pushing the edges of what we're capable of in any given moment that teaches us so much about life. And that's why people ask me, even after I share a story about five of my friends dying, Five of my friends died. There's not a day that goes by.

1:10:06I tear up often still 18 months later thinking about the tragedy of that moment that I shared. And people sometimes ask me, they say, hey, Colin, aren't you afraid of dying? I think about it. Yeah, I'm afraid of dying. I'm super afraid of dying. This life is such a gift. I am afraid of dying. But you know what I'm more afraid of? I'm afraid of not living. I'm afraid of not living. and just sitting there in that five day after day after day and never seeing what you're capable of and never seeing what you can create and never feeling into your full potential, even if to feel into that hurts a little bit for a moment in time, those ones, those twos, those threes.

1:10:47That is the juice of life. That's the spice. And the 12-hour walk, even the walk itself is a metaphor for this experience. Guess what? If you walk for 12 hours, even if you take a ton of breaks, your feet are going to get tired at some point. You might be a little bit out of your comfort zone in terms of bring some food with you, bring some water. You might be a little dehydrated. You might get a blister on your foot. You might be tired. You might think to yourself, I hate being alone. This is uncomfortable. Yes. You are likely going to experience some ones and twos and threes on that day. But how many five days over the last 365, can you not even remember?

1:11:19What'd you do last Tuesday? What'd you do a month ago? What'd you do two months ago? There are so many days in our life that don't even imprint and register in our memory because they're just because you're not alive you're not fully living you take this 12-hour walk you're going to seek some discomfort it is going to be challenging at times but i guess guess you what if i ask you a year from now five years from now 10 years from now have you ever walked very far you know what 10 years ago i did walk by myself alone in silence it's not going to be a five day you're going to feel some ones, some twos, some threes, but every person I know to get back to their front door, every person I know that wakes up in their bed the following day with a few sore muscles, this, it's a seven, it's an eight, more often than not, a nine, a 10.

1:12:01Thank you. I felt alive. I am not afraid of as afraid of dying as I am afraid of not living. Oh my gosh, Colin. Again, I just have to tell you, I'm so grateful. I'm sharing this time with you, brother. I feel the exact same, man. So fun to be here with you. When you're talking, I think about this thing I say often, which is extremity expands capacity. When you do something to what you think is an extreme, you expand your capacity to do extreme things, even if they don't seem very significant to you. And then I think about, this might be an ironic thing I just wanted to tell you when I was prepping.

1:12:34Take this the right way. And I know that, I just say it the way I mean it, I have no grain of salt. This is a dude who struggled to jump rope with some fire, right? I know you're a college swimmer, but he's joke. And the same dude who couldn't jump rope was fire that almost ended his life is now doing world records across Antarctica, climbing peaks, doing the grand slam. So it's amazing. I think oftentimes we think, well, I'm not very good at something now, so I'll like never be good at it. Well, this is a dude who didn't even jump rope correctly when he was 22 years old. I know there was fire with it and all that.

1:13:06But then to think that same dude is now the dude shattering all these records that literally no physical living human being has ever done before is a dude who couldn't get the jump rope thing right when he's 22 in Thailand. Do you ever think about that? Like that proves extremity expands capacity. Right. I'll go one step further, which is after the Antarctica crossing, I had a lot of doors open to me. There was so much press media, 2 billion media impressions, most widely viewed expedition in modern history. and of course um that's going to open some doors right yeah and it was a beautiful experience a beautiful moment in time that i'm deeply humbled and grateful for was able to build a very successful and lucrative series of businesses on the back of that etc etc but i decide if ever sounds what's your next expedition and i get this idea to row a boat across drake passage so a rowboat tiny little rowboat for people who don't know drake passes most treacherous stretch of ocean in the entire world.

1:14:01So from the southern tip of South America, all the way to Antarctica, 750 miles, it's where the Atlantic and Pacific and Southern Ocean all converge. And that convergence of those ocean currents creates like 40 foot waves and there's icebergs, it's freezing cold. I mean, it's insane. There's been a laundry list of thousands of boats that have shipwrecked in Drake Passage, but not just like 100 years ago. 10 years ago, a cruise ship sunk in the middle of Drake Passage. Like that's how crazy, like that's a modern time cruise ship still sunk in Drake Passage. And I'm thinking I'm going to get a couple of buddies and we're going to row a boat, no motor, no sail, 28 foot long, three foot wide, two feet off the water's edge and open hole.

1:14:39So we're getting crashed the entire time. So I go to discuss discovery channels. Like, I want to film your next thing, whatever it is, tell me what it is. And so I go to them and I say, well, my next thing is a rowboat crossing a straight passage. No one's ever done it. And they say, great, great, great. They, they, they sign this big, you know, seven figure check to produce the whole thing and pay me, you know, hold whatever. Great, great, great. It's going to be awesome. i'm leaving in three months this is a pretty quick turnaround and i finally i feel all the paperwork signed everything's down ready to go i turn to the producers my family knows this but most people don't realize this i'm rowing a boat across drake patches that's great and i said but i got some one thing i gotta tell you i've actually never rowed a boat anywhere come on man anywhere literally not at summer camp not it not oh my god come on dude not at uh you know not in college not not like ever i've never i mean i've also not spent you know it's like i'm a sailor so i don't know like everything about ocean and sea frang i this is a 100 fully unfamiliar thing that's the thing that's not unfamiliar is pushing my body right or pushing my mind or taking on big goals or things of that nature but i have literally never rode a boat anywhere ever and so i reach out to a buddy of mine who's a rowing coach in portland oregon where i grew up and I said, I need you to come meet me down at this dock and teach me a little bit about rowing.

1:16:02And so he's like, yeah, sure. And I kind of explained the whole thing. He thinks you're out of your freaking mind, maybe five years from now. When are you doing this? I said, well, I'm leaving in three months. And so he gets me on this one man's single rowing school. You may be seeing people do that or pictures of it or whatever. And I get in there. I'm in six inches of water on the dock. I try to take my first stroke and I fall flat on my face. I literally fall out of the boat and I'm like flailing around in six inches of water and I stand up soaking wet. And this is that moment where you go like, either I am an idiot.

1:16:36And of course, this is an extreme example. I'm never going to be a rower, but here's the thing I said to him, I look at him and I go, well, I guess I'm not a rower, but one word changes that. I guess I'm not a rower yet, yet i'm not a rower yet we've got three months for that and that is everything right we talk about that is it i'm not whatever you are right now no matter what age you are you're listening to this podcast wherever you are your hopes your dreams your mount everest what's your everest you haven't reached the summit of your mount everest yet here's the thing kobe bryant had to shoot his first hoop at some point.

1:17:17Stephen King had to sit down and write the first paragraph of his first novel before he could write 65 of the best-selling books of all time. Meryl Streep had to try out for her school play. All of these people were not at the top of their game when they came out of the womb. But at some point, they chose to say in their identity, in their own confidence, in their own strength, in the story that they are writing about themselves, I am not this yet but i can be and become anything i set my mind to and three months later i became the first person in history to row a boat successfully across the most stretcherous stretch of ocean in the world you can see the the documentary discovery plus as it's called the impossible row if you want to see me get bashed around in some crazy ass situation in the middle of the ocean but we can be and become anything we set our minds to and that's the truth that's just unbelievable And the way you tell the story and weave in the point, it's just so freaking good.

1:18:12I really do believe this too. The people that I know that are the most happy and successful or just one or the other have a lower threshold of how good or how prepared they think they have to be before they actually start something. And the people that aren't very happy or that aren't very successful have this massive threshold of what they think they have to know to just begin. And so they don't begin to your point. Now that is rather mind blowing. It's like Rob O 'Neill was on my show, Kill Bin Laden. He couldn't even, he didn't know how to swim weeks before becoming a Navy SEAL. Then I have you on and you're telling me I've never rode a boat and you're doing something that freaking bananas.

1:18:50Just, it just, it just blows my mind, bro. I see this video and it changed my life. I'm going to tell you two stories that I think are going to affect you that you'll remember forever. And then I'll be done. Number one, my son. So this is my son whom I love. I only have one son. His name's Maximus. I love him, but I'm going to share some things with you that would embarrass him. He's the most uncoordinated human being I've ever met in my life. To this day, if you put a gun to my head or his mama and said, is Maximus left or right-handed? And he's 21 years old. We probably should have figured it out by now.

1:19:24I have no idea whether he's a lefty or a righty. Let me tell you why. In baseball, if I put a glove on his left hand, he would still wear a fly ball right in his face. Bam. We'd switch the next year to the other hand. Bam. He struck out 64 times left-handed when he was nine, 63 times right-handed. In flag football, any of you that have kids that play flag football, my son was the blocker. You know what that means. Don't give that kid the ball. Basketball. Played a whole season of basketball. Actually, three seasons. He scored two points in three seasons. And here's the one that he scored. He went up to grab a rebound, missed it, turned to run back the other way.

1:19:57The ball bounced off his head, went back into the basket. and he runs down the court like freaking Jackie Moon or something like he had scored. Played golf, lefty, righty, lefty, righty. In fact, for a long time, in the same golf bag, he would have some left-handed clubs and some right-handed clubs. And it just dawns on me as I look at this picture, look how he's standing. You know anybody with any coordination who stands like this for a photograph. What is he doing? so we finally settled on golf and we moved to the desert so I want you to picture this and you can see in that picture right there I was probably dabbling in a little bit of creatine at the time let's just call it creatine and um so and that's very little creatine quite frankly there's some other photos I could show you where there's a lot of creatine um anyway I'm transparent as anybody you'll ever hear speak So we decided to settle on golf.

1:20:56Well, where we moved, it was all professional golfers and their sons. So here's what you got out there. You got Mr. Creatine. I'd mainly wear a tank top. I got tattoos. I'm jacked. My son's wearing ragamuffin golf clothes with used golf clubs. And we're playing against Joe Blow and his son. They got matching Ricky Fowler outfits. The dad's won on the PGA Tour. The kid's got three golf instructors, a fitness guy, a massage therapist, a chef. Max has me. So we played for three years on this tour, about every single Saturday. And I did this because you could caddy for your son, and I'm busy. So it was five hours with my precious son.

1:21:31We finished last in every tournament for three years. When I say last, I mean last by a mile. This is a true story. If you don't believe it, my son tells it on my podcast. And so we had finished last every year. And by the way, it got to the point where we didn't even try to win. I would literally tell Maximus, hey, Max, you know, Dad, when you get out of the car to warm up, I'd say, you know, Daddy won't love you anymore if you win today. and I won't love you any less if you lose. He goes, I know daddy. And he would kiss me and go out to the course. When he would get home, his mom would never ask him, what did you score?

1:22:00It was always, did you have fun? Max goes, man, daddy and I had so much fun. We talked about birds and we talked about grass and what I'm doing in school. And he's such a sweet boy. He'd tee off and top one right in the lake. Okay, hey, dad, we're having fun. I'm like, yeah, Max, we're having freaking fun, right? and the other kid would like bomb one good shot jacob and they're just looking i'm like you know the object here right so we played for three years we're halfway through the fourth year this particular day our life changed and your life could change right now let me tell you what happens by the way well i'll tell you what happens we played nine holes max is 11 back he's in last place by 11 shots and we're way behind because max is playing so bad and so at this tour when you make the turn at nine, you grab a sandwich and a drink, and you keep going, the kids keep playing.

1:22:47Well, that day, the sandwiches were over there, and I'm not exaggerating, the next tee box was over there, and we were behind, and a life-changing moment happened. One of the dads, who has won on the PGA Tour, and his dad has won on the PGA Tour, says this. He goes, hey, the other two boys, hey guys, you guys go get over there and hit your tee shots. Max, he'll go grab your lunch, he's out of it, and he doesn't give a crap. And I watched my son shoulders hunch over like they normally do and start to walk. I said, stop. I'll give you the clean version because I think there's some Christian folks in here, okay?

1:23:21I said, stop. I said, what the fuck did you just say to my son? Don't you ever speak to my family like that, ever. You understand me? Ever. I said, listen to me. Here's what we're going to do. You guys go get your tee shot. Max, you stay with me for a second. We'll be right over there, and I'll grab the food. I said, Max, and the screen goes, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. We're having fun. I go, come here. Come here. Come here. And I grab him. I go, listen to me.

1:23:52We're going to fucking win today, Max. We're winning. But, Dad, what about, you know, we're having fun. I go, listen to me. Winning is more fun than fun is fun. Max, winning is more fun than actual fun is fun. Dad, Dad. I go, this shirt sucks. You got another shirt? I'm trying to change his state. He had a gray shirt on. I go, I got a blue one. I go, give me that. Take that shirt off. I go, here's your blue shirt. Max, this is the winning shirt. And I start anchoring and triggering that we're going to win in him. I said, we're going to win, Max. We're going to win. We're going to win. He goes, OK.

1:24:25I go, listen to me. We've never done this before. You take no practice swings. We're not dicking around here. And I will tell you what club to hit, and you will hit it because you've got a great great swing and you're a great player. My son would hit balls two hours before school every day and into the dark every day. And watch this, by the way. My son didn't have a bad golf swing. That was him warming up that day. He goes, okay, daddy. I said, hit the driver, go get it. He walks away and I watched my precious boy, shoulders hunched over like he always walked. and I'm walking to get the sandwich.

1:25:03I'm like, God damn it, what did I do? Possible assault. I've scared the hell out of Max. We're definitely losing again. And I remember watching my son walk up, and he's so uncoordinated. You know, a normal player just tees the ball up. My son would have to get down on his knee, like tee the thing up. Jesus, Max. God. But he hits it right down the middle. And I'm walking. and I go, I get up there, I go, hey. He goes, okay, daddy. I go, great shot, great shot. We're walking, I'm grabbing, I'm anchoring. We're gonna win, we're gonna win, we're gonna win. Okay, dad, we're gonna win. We get up there, I go, you got 120 max, hit an eight iron.

1:25:47Hit this sucker 10 feet left of the hole, let's go. I've never talked to him like that before. He hits it about 20 feet left of the hole. I go, good shot. He goes, thanks, hands me the club back. We walk up to the green and he's getting ready to putt. I go, Max, line the putt up. Because my son would just putt. I said, line the putt up. See how the other boys walk around and read? No, I don't know how the putt breaks. I don't know. My son, but now he's doing this BS make pretend reading of the putt. He's doing this. He goes, I think it's two feet left to right, Dad. I go, that's exactly what I see, son.

1:26:21Do that. Takes it back. Dunkaroonie for a birdie. Yeah, Maximus! Yeah! The other boy's bogey. And he kind of twirls the club back at me like this. I go, how'd that feel? He goes, that felt pretty good, Dad. Pretty good. All right. I go, hey, we're down nine, man. Let's go. Now he's kind of walking like this to the next tee box. I'm like, hey, you're walking like your old man now. All right, Max, par five, smash that driver. No practice swing. Okay, Daddy. Smashes it down the middle, actually further than the other two boys. We get up. It's a par five. There's a lake in front. The other two boys lay up because they should.

1:27:00We're down nine. We got no choice. I go, Max, you got 220 of the hole. Smash that three. I go, don't hit it. Now, just so you know, my son has never hit a three-wood at that point in his life, 220 yards ever. So like any really good story, there's a little Jesus involved. There just has to be. Just has to be. So, so, so I said, I immediately started praying.

1:27:29Lord if this thing lands on the green I will stop immediately 23 % of all the bad crap I do like right in this moment I'll never do them again literally never do it again and if it lands on the green I'll mention you in every talk I ever give the rest of my life so my son hits this thing in the air now it's in the air and I'm going back to my Catholic days man I'm like hail Mary full of grace, our father, sign of the cross, whatever I got, dude. And it hits the wall in front of the green. And bounces straight up in the air. And lands on the green. And rolls to about two inches from the hole. Max goes, there you go, dad.

1:28:12I go, nice shot, baby. Woo! And the other boys lay up. So here we go. Max squats up, taps in for an eagle. I go, how'd that feel? He goes, Dad, really good. I go, now we're total conversation. Now he's walking to the next tee box. Hey, guys, I'm playing Callaway. What are you guys playing? You guys like Titleist? Like, what's the deal? Like, think I'm going to get some foot joys? I'm not real sure. You know, I think the wind's blowing a little bit. You know, he's totally talking like he knows what he's doing now. So we're down seven shots now. Fast forward to 18th hole. We're down one. numb nuts who made the comment dipshit over there and his son are in first i go let's go max let's win this thing what i tell my son not to do don't take a practice swing about 100 degrees my son takes a practice swing most important shot on my uncoordinated son's life let me tell you what he does takes a practice swing club slips right out of his hands helicopters into the middle of the lake.

1:29:11Yeah. True story. You don't believe me? He tells it on the podcast. Most important shot of our life. My son throws the weapon he's going to use into the water before he can use it. Dead story. True story. Dead serious. I go, all right, Max. Power one more club. Here, hit the three wood. My son hits the three wood down the middle. All there's a lake in front of the green and I hear numb nuts tell his son hey I won't say the kid's name hey don't hit it in the lake I go Max get over here hurry up he's gonna hit it in the lake you never tell someone what not to do man sure enough he hits it in the lake I go Max you got 122 hit this eight iron ten feet left of the hole let's get the f out of here with a w buddy we have never talked like it's the same boy I love you whether you're all that bull crap right yeah which isn't bull crap but you know what I mean and it's at about 10 feet left of the hole this little boy's so good he holes out from the other side of the lake so here's the deal max makes the putt we win he two putts we go to a playoff he three putts we lose he goes into his little bs walk around the putt to read it and my stupid butt mr motivational mindset I go hey max little downhill don't run it too far past the hole my son who never cared once goes daddy I'm going to make it we're going to win I almost cry right now telling you this I go well then make it man let's go because I got it and he gets over that putt and our life changed I'm shaking look at this he takes that putter back dunks it yes Maximus I'm carrying them around the green.

1:31:00Woo-hoo! How's that feel, buddy? Dad, this is awesome! Winning is way more fun than fun is fun! I'll prove it to you. Watch this face. Look at his little face. That's him after the win right there. Right? There's his blue shirt. Now, now, now, I still got to point out, still uncoordinated, you ain't ever seen LeBron James with an NBA title going afterwards. But he did it. He went on to win 22 straight tournaments. Same swing, different mindset. That day he shot 64. And I'm on a lot of creatine in that baby right there. 64. Then he finished third, and then he won 16 more. This is me and him playing golf in Kabul last year.

1:31:49He ended up growing quite a bit, and I probably should do a DNA check. His feet are still completely crooked in the picture, by the way. Look at his feet. Still does it. After this picture, he lost 80 pounds because that's his college golf scholarship being signed.

1:32:07This week, this week my son played in the national championship and made a hole-in-one in the national championship yesterday. I should probably show you the video. So I tell you all this because he was the same swing, the same person, but totally shifted his mindset into winning. Too many of you here are playing with this. You're a fan. You're messing with it. You're casual. And until you decide you're going to win, nothing's going to change. And you don't have to be loud or yelling like I am. In fact, for me, at most events like this, I didn't say a whole lot. I just kind of went, yep, yeah, now I'm serious.

1:32:47And I planted my flag. I'm not going anywhere. I'm going to make this happen. This is where I do it or I don't do it. This is my place. This is my people. And that's what's got to happen for you here today. You've got to decide you want to win. By the way, it's all kinds of people win here. But you've got to make that decision. Because when you make a decision, your life changes. You're one decision away from completely changing your life. One new recruit. One new relationship. One new thought. One speaker away from totally changing your life. I've also heard you speak to appreciating that people with limiting beliefs about themselves, about the world, about you, often project that onto you.

1:33:28And I'm guessing it goes both ways, right? We also have limiting beliefs and we project it onto others. Will you speak to the power of understanding when you might be in a relationship with a partner, a spouse, a boss, a leader, where their own limiting beliefs might be projecting onto you and diminishing your self-confidence, your self-esteem, or even your self-worth? Yeah, often people that project their limiting beliefs onto us, they love us. They're actually concerned about us. Why are you working so hard? Why does this money stuff matter to you? Why do you want to achieve so much? And they're just projecting their small thinking and small beliefs onto us.

1:34:05They're not always antagonistic against us. But how do we know if our friends, our associations serve us? I have a chapter in the book about becoming an impossibility thinker and a possibility achiever. And I have a point that I make in the book, that 99 % of people on earth today operate out of a filter, a frame of reference in their life, which is their memories and their history. This is the filter in which they think and operate out of. 1 % of people operate out of their imagination or their vision. So stay with me. History and memories, 99%. Imagination and vision, 1%. Okay? This is a fact.

1:34:43Why are we happier when we're children? We're happier when we're children because we're operating out of our imagination because we have no history. But then by about age 10, we have a history that's been installed in us with limiting beliefs by loving parents. In fact, Scott, I make the contention there's all kinds of child neglect. There's alcoholism and drug addiction. There's a family where we don't show affection like what you said. I don't say I love you or I'm proud of you enough. But the most insidious form of neglect of all children in the world is a child being raised by a parent who is not pursuing their potential and their vision and their imagination.

1:35:16This is a form of neglect because everything with children and leadership is caught, not taught, as I said earlier. You are limiting, you're projecting, you're limiting beliefs into those children by not pursuing your potential and your dreams. So here's how you know when you're around somebody who serves you. Are they often saying to you, do you remember? Remember when? Remember this, when you're around your friends or your spouse. Remember this, remember, remember. How about this? Remember, remember. And they're constantly remembering. This is someone who operates out of history and memory. I try to surround myself with friends who don't do that, where my friends say, where are you going?

1:35:53Isn't this moment amazing? What's your vision? What are you dreaming on? What are you working on right now? Where are you heading? Man, isn't tonight special? So they're in the present, focused on their imagination and their future. This dialogue, if you really think through it, most of you, and I love you, I'm saying it, when you're with your friends, you're reminiscing. There's nothing wrong with doing a little of that. But if it's the dominant conversation, they operate out of their history and memory. And here's what's going to happen. They're going to repeat it. The same emotions, the same thoughts, different circumstances, different people, same life to tie the two topics together.

1:36:27I want people and most of my friends, I can't get them to reminisce like, ah, man, let me tell you where I'm going. This is where we're headed. This is how amazing it's going to be. And today's a gift, man, because I get to do it today. hey, those are the people I want around me. I don't want to be going backwards all the time and repeating the same history by thinking the same stuff.