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Podcast Summary: The Ed Mylett Show - Episode with Mike Posner
Episode Title
A Journey of Finding Your True Purpose Feat. Mike Posner
Overview: In this episode, Ed Mylett engages in a profound conversation with Grammy-nominated artist Mike Posner. Known for hits like "Cooler Than Me" and "I Took a Pill in Ibiza," Posner shares his transformative journey, which includes climbing Mount Everest, walking over 2,900 miles across America, surviving a rattlesnake bite, and undergoing substantial emotional and spiritual growth.
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Key Themes
- Redefining Success
- External vs. Internal Fulfillment:
- Despite his fame and success, Posner discovers that true achievement lies in emotional well-being rather than external validation.
- He emphasizes that changing his emotional "set point" from negativity to joy and love is his greatest accomplishment.
- The Pursuit of Significance
- Chasing Validation:
- Posner reflects on how wanting to be liked and validated fueled much of his early career, a struggle many people can relate to.
- He contrasts this with the importance of living a life of service and authentic connection.
- Life-Changing Questions
- Four Transformative Questions:
- Posner introduces four pivotal questions that he used to redirect his life:
- Do you actually want to live?
- Why do you want to live?
- What do you truly want?
- What would really make life worth living?
- These questions serve as a catalyst for self-reflection and intentional living.
- Awakening and Purpose
- Inner Work:
- Posner highlights that true purpose often requires confronting one's fears and rewriting self-narratives.
- He reflects on how success does not equate to internal peace, advocating for a deeper understanding of one's inner self.
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Key Takeaways
- Emotional Set Point: Changing your emotional baseline from negativity to positivity is a crucial achievement in life.
- The Trap of Recognition: Seeking external validation can lead to emptiness; true fulfillment comes from genuine human connections and contributions.
- Self-Reflection: Honest self-questioning can lead to significant life changes, allowing individuals to align with their true purpose.
- Living Intentionally: It’s essential to regularly audit your life to ensure that your goals and desires still resonate with your current self.
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Insights from Mike Posner's Journey
- Transformational Experiences:
- Posner's journey through physical challenges and emotional struggles has led him to valuable insights about life and purpose.
- His experience of walking across America served not only as a physical challenge but also as a means to connect with deeper truths about himself.
- Spiritual Growth:
- The importance of spirituality in Posner's life is evident, as he discusses evolving his relationship with God and the significance of faith in navigating life's challenges.
- Personal Contribution:
- Posner aims to use his platform not merely for fame but to genuinely contribute to others' lives, reflecting on the joy of serving and connecting with people.
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Conclusion
This episode of The Ed Mylett Show is a powerful reminder that true happiness and fulfillment come from within. Both Ed Mylett and Mike Posner share a deep understanding of the importance of living intentionally, pursuing genuine connections, and continuously evolving through life's challenges. Their conversation serves as an inspiring call to seek out one's true purpose and to engage in meaningful self-reflection.
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Chapters
Tap a time to open that second in VOMike's Journey from Depression to Joy
2:12 to 3:26
Mike shares his journey from addiction and depression to finding joy.
“And it's humbling to hear that introduction.”
The Catalyst for Change
3:26 to 7:40
Mike discusses the turning point that led him to seek help and change.
“I think that's literally the best opening sentence of any guest out of 850.”
Facing Fear and Finding Love
7:40 to 11:52
Mike reflects on the importance of facing fears and embracing intimacy.
“He's leading some exercise and he didn't teach this.”
The Story We Tell Ourselves
11:52 to 12:20
Ed and Mike discuss the narratives that shape personal identity.
“I want to ask you, that was, whoa, here we go.”
Understanding Love vs. Significance
14:04 to 14:28
Explore the distinction between superficial love and genuine connection.
“Meaning when I was a little boy, if I brought home an A or I hit a home run or I had big muscles when I got older, I got what felt like love.”
The Artist's Search for Significance
16:29 to 17:28
Discuss the psychological motivations behind artists' pursuits for recognition.
“I organized, you know, first two and a half, maybe three decades of my life around.”
The Three Stages of Artistic Love
17:29 to 20:54
Examine the stages artists experience in their relationship with fans.
“You know, and so I talk about the three stages of artistry and their relationship with their fans.”
Transforming Significance into Contribution
20:55 to 22:34
Learn how shifting from seeking significance to contributing can change lives.
“life and it doesn't replace a primary relationship or your family, but it's a place for you to pour love out and contribute.”
Addressing Mental Health and Purpose
22:35 to 25:56
Explore the importance of mental health and the pursuit of life's purpose.
“I think it's human nature to be this way.”
Reflecting on Life's Expectations
25:57 to 28:06
Delve into questions that prompt deeper reflection on life and purpose.
“The first question was, do you want to live?”
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Facing Low Points and Seeking Purpose
28:06 to 29:54
Mike Posner discusses his struggles with depression and the search for meaning after personal losses.
“Like there's something inside me that I'm not expressing.”
The Question of What You Want
29:54 to 31:04
Posner reveals a pivotal moment where he realizes the importance of asking himself what he truly wants in life.
“Like, like I, I, there's something about how I'm showing up in the world that feels like it's taking away from the world, not adding to it.”
Walking Across America: A Life-Changing Decision
31:04 to 33:09
Posner recounts the journey of his decision to walk across America, which transformed his perspective on life.
“And it even has a giant list of things that haven't happened yet.”
Focusing on What You Want in Life
33:09 to 35:18
The discussion emphasizes the importance of focusing on what you want rather than what you don't, influencing personal fulfillment.
“But this concept has been around for a long time and it's true.”
Living with Intention and Self-Awareness
37:19 to 40:06
The conversation stresses the need to audit your life and live intentionally, asking profound questions about your desires.
“This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease.”
Understanding the Mind and Consciousness
40:06 to 42:04
The discussion explores the distinction between the mind and the true self, emphasizing that we are more than our thoughts.
“I also love, you know, as much as Tony, equally in a different way, Eckhart Tolle, who teaches we're not our mind.”
The Nature of Consciousness and Identity
42:04 to 43:54
Dive into the exploration of identity beyond the mind and societal expectations.
Evaluating Life and Seeking Change
43:54 to 46:00
Discuss the importance of self-reflection and creating personal challenges for growth.
“And so that's why a life that's not evaluated is an unlived life.”
Evolving Challenges and Family Life
46:00 to 48:28
Understand how personal challenges evolve over time, particularly in family dynamics.
“And life will give you these challenges anyways.”
External Success vs. Internal Fulfillment
48:28 to 50:48
Explore the balance between achieving external success and cultivating internal happiness.
“Listen, some of us have just chosen our giftedness, if we're great at it, grabs attention.”
The Evolution of Spiritual Understanding
50:48 to 54:20
Learn about the changing nature of spirituality and its impact on personal growth.
“I want to ask you, if I'd have met you at 30, East 37, when we're recording this, you have a certain, and everyone's hearing it, there's a spirit about you that's, I'd call it wise, like an old soul, but very gentle.”
Faith and Transformative Experiences
54:20 to 56:00
Discover how personal experiences and relationships shape one's faith journey.
“I said, why didn't, why'd you raise us like that?”
Finding Security Through Faith
56:00 to 57:00
Learn how personal faith influences security and fulfillment in life.
The Journey of Transformation
57:00 to 59:20
Discover the process of personal transformation and its spiritual aspects.
“But Louise Hay says, my security does not come from my bank account, my spouse or my parents.”
Reflecting on Past Success and Growth
59:20 to 1:02:30
Explore how past experiences shape our present and future, particularly in music.
“And I'm going to make you come back on here and do this again.”
Rewriting a Hit Song
1:02:30 to 1:03:20
Hear the story behind rewriting a popular song to reflect personal growth.
“Finally, my fiance says to me, well, you keep doing this post about how your life changed.”
Transcript
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1:02Mike Posner:This is the Ed Myland Show.
1:30Mike Posner:nominated. I took a pill in Ibiza. You all know that song. Cooler Than Me. Great song. That's just two of a whole bunch of them, right? But on top of that, the same guy who's done all that, he's climbed Mount Everest. He's done the 31 mile continental divide trail journey trek. He's hiked across America 2 ,900 plus miles. He's been bitten by a rattlesnake on top of it and almost died. And he's like got this very gentle, kind spirit about him. He's also gone through like a major life transition as well. And this is all in 37 years. So I'm pretty sure he qualifies for the category. Mike Posner, finally, welcome to the show, brother.
2:10Mike Posner:Great to have you.
2:12Ed Mylett:Hey, Ed, good to meet you. And thanks for having me on. And it's humbling to hear that introduction. But all those things that I've done, they've been amazing. And I'm mostly proud of them. although I'm also keenly aware that some non-trivial part of the inspiration to do them was I was addicted to getting other people to like me and they're not my biggest accomplishment even all those added up together on the external my biggest accomplishment is I went from somebody whose emotional home base, their set point was depressed, was negative, to somebody whose emotional set point now is joy, faith, and love.
3:04Ed Mylett:And not saying I don't dip down every once in a while. And sometimes I go even higher, you know, moments of bliss and ecstasy, but you can change your emotional set point. And that's my greatest achievement. And I hope that we can put other people on the path of doing the same thing because it's possible. If my depraved rear end could do it, then anybody can.
3:26Mike Posner:I've had 850 shows. I think that's literally the best opening sentence of any guest out of 850. No disrespect. We usually ease into the good stuff. You're already getting off to a fast start here. Sorry. No, it's awesome, man. So let me ask you, let's just start there. we're going to let this thing flow. By the way, I relate to that set point being kind of, I don't know if I'd call mine depressed, I'd call it kind of melancholy.
3:50Ed Mylett:Yeah.
3:51Mike Posner:You know what I mean? I relate to that very much. And I think a lot of people do. So is there some way you would say initially that there was a catalyst to change that? Did you hit a bottom of some type or, and what did you do to begin the journey upwards?
4:04Ed Mylett:Yeah, man. Like I had accomplished all these things. I had walked across America. I climbed the tallest mountain in the world, Everest. I had millions of dollars, millions of followers, everything that a perfect life was supposed to be on the outside. Even, listen to this, I even had an Instagram account full of followers that I had convinced I was inspiring, right? I was already teaching, selling people the dream that I got it figured out. and then I remember I was at my home in Michigan and it just was like the juice ain't here I am and I remember this year I was eating clean I was doing the ice bath I was in actually my body looked beautiful but I kept getting sick and I kept getting depressed and I couldn't figure out why.
5:00Ed Mylett:Like what is missing here? I got everything on the external, including that it's supposed to be health, right? I'm doing all the right stuff. And what is not working? But something was not working and everything was irritating me. I got this lakefront home. I'd get out of the ice bath. I'd look in the reflection on the sliding door and like if my abs didn't look just perfect, I was upset with myself. Someone was wrong. I'd go in that sliding door and my mom was there because I knew what a good person was supposed to act like. A good person, they're kind to their mother. So I'd invited my mom up to stay at the house for a week.
5:41Ed Mylett:But she was putting some dishes away and the sound of the dishes clanging against each other. It was like sandpaper grating against my very being. Everything irritated me. And then I remember I went downstairs and I checked my phone and I had a message from one of my managers at the time and it was a screenshot and he goes, I just need to know if this is true. And it was a screenshot from Instagram and someone said, a singer who walked across America got my friend pregnant and abandoned the child. And I said, I knew I didn't abandon a child because I would never do that. But the way I was living my life, I wasn't sure that I hadn't had a child and maybe the person just never told me because I was being sloppy with my energy.
6:34Ed Mylett:And I was afraid of intimacy. So I would get in weird relationships, one night stands on the road, things like this. And I wasn't sure. I'm like, dude, do I have a kid out there? And the stress of all these things start to add on to one thing after another. and I called my friend Doug and I go, hey man, like I need help. I either need like a high level therapist because, you know, I have a freaking ego, right? At the time, like I'm special. So I need like some special therapist who like knows about famous people or I need some high level life coach, you know, that gets it. So Doug, he goes, well, you could just talk to me.
7:18Ed Mylett:I said, with all due respect, he's one of my best friends. I go, you're about to have a child. And I got I got a lot of problems. If I had just one, come on, I'd ask you for help. But these things are stacking. And before I would get over the one, another one was hitting and I was overwhelmed. And I think a lot of people know that feeling like I'm just underwater with problems. And great description. And so he said, OK. and a few days passed and then he forward forwarded me a voice note and the voice note was from Tony Robbins and Tony said Mike Doug shared a little bit with me about your story and I'd be honored if you came to my event Date with Destiny as my guest in December and it was like you know August I was like what the hell do I do till then but uh and I almost didn't go I was like man it's kind to fart but that's my whole life was like just kind of negative i'd look for the negative in it so anyways doug said you got to go man so in this december came around i i went to the conference and i was a little skeptical at first i was sick again and i was like dude should i even like do this and there came a moment i think it was the third day of the conference and tony's leading some exercise.
8:47Ed Mylett:By the way, I love Tony. He changed my life. He's leading some exercise and he didn't teach this. He was doing some kind of meditation thing, like a visualization. And he didn't say this in the activation, but it's like God just spoke to me in the moment. It just landed in my nervous system in a way I knew was true. It was like, you are getting sick. You are getting depressed because you are avoiding the fact that you are scared to death of relationships. You're scared of intimacy. And until you address that and face that fear, life, hey, life, I'm only giving you pain to wake you up because I want you to go this way so you can have what you actually deserve, what you're actually here for.
9:34Ed Mylett:You got to stop lying to yourself because I have this whole story, you know, if love happens, great. but I'm not really looking for it. The truth, and I believe myself, but the truth underneath all that was, I really wanted to have love. I really wanted to have a family. I'm here to have a family. We as men, we're here to provide. We're here to protect. It's part of our nature. And so I was letting this part of my nature die underneath all these lies I was telling myself. And life told me in that moment, or I call it God. I believe in God. But for some people, maybe they don't like that word. The word doesn't matter.
10:12Ed Mylett:Whether you call it life with a capital L, I think God and life are in many ways synonymous. I think God, life, love, maybe all one thing. It's above my pay grade. But whatever it is, it gave me the message clear. Face the fear, or we're going to give you louder warning signals. The pain is going to get worse until you wake up. So I had a choice, a crossroads. It was like, I'm either going to change my emotional set point. I'm going to stop lying to myself, which I had these stories. I'm an avoidant person. Relationships are hard. You know, my relationships don't work out. Give up all these stories rooted in the past, rooted in fear and step into who I really am, which is a man, a leader.
10:58Ed Mylett:And it's one or the other. You're going to go that way? And I knew where that was going to end. If I kept going the way I was, I was going to be a dude with six-pack abs and millions of dollars at his mansion alone. 60 years old and people knocking on the door, Mike, how you doing? I got a big fake smile on my face. I'm doing good. But inside, I'm a lonely man. That's where my life was headed. My gosh, bro. And and or is face the fear. And it's a whole bunch of expansion, growth, freedom, beauty, joy, faith, love, some pain also. Right. There's pain on the journey, but way less suffering. Right.
11:42And so that was it.
11:45Ed Mylett:That was the turning point. And I have not looked back. It's been, I think, three plus years since that moment. And I cured my own depression. Wow. I want to ask you, that was, whoa, here we go.
12:00Mike Posner:So I want to ask you about that. First off, this story thing, everybody is real. This story you tell yourself about yourself in your life, you're doing everything in your personal power you possibly can to quote Tony, personal power, to confirm the story and make it true. Amen. Because you validate it over and over and over again to find more proof. That's your reticular activating system in your brain. It's scanning your environment to find more and more proof that what you're saying about you is true. That's why that old adage of if you believe it, it's true, actually comes to fruition. But I want to go back a second.
12:33Mike Posner:And we'll talk about what you did to shift. But before we do it, I want to ask you something. Maybe you haven't considered this. Maybe you have. But I, too, relate to that. I had a story one time. I was building my first big home. It's just a great blessing. I had financial resources for the first time, building this mansion. It was just a stressful day. I was mad at the contractor. We had just lost a business deal. I'll never forget it. I walk in the living room of this house that's being built, and I'm just furious. If the quality of your life is the quality of your emotions, I was losing big time.
13:06Mike Posner:In the kitchen, building my kitchen, were these about six men. They had Mariachi music playing. They were dancing. They were working. They were doing work they were great at that they were proud of. And they were joyous and blissful and passionate. And I remember standing there like an idiot in the middle of this house under construction going, they're winning in life and I'm losing. But on Instagram, I'm the dude with the mansion. But I'm the dude living in these emotions of stress, fear, anxiety, worry. These men live in bliss. And I remember going, you better change something right here. And in my case, this is what I want to ask you about.
13:46Mike Posner:I want to meet you in the middle here. I had to try to figure out why it was this way first. And maybe that's not relevant. Maybe you just decide to change. But in my case, I realized something about me. Since I was a little boy, and I think a lot of people do this, I confused significance or recognition with love. Meaning when I was a little boy, if I brought home an A or I hit a home run or I had big muscles when I got older, I got what felt like love. It's like superficial love, acknowledgement. And so in my little brain, significance and recognition was love, except it's not. They're two totally different things.
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16:29Ed Mylett:Yeah, of course. I organized, you know, first two and a half, maybe three decades of my life around. You know, why do you think us, you know, artists become artists? You know, it's like we want that hit of significance from the audience. We have often some psychological flaw that we haven't cleaned up yet. And we want to manipulate the audience to giving that fake love or the attention, that significance. So we don't have to look at that thing. And so that's unfortunately a large percentage of the artists we have. They don't feel the love, the real love. And so they're trying to outsource it, crowdsource it.
17:18Ed Mylett:Right. And I'm not saying that with judgment because I did it for years. And sometimes, to be honest, it'll try to rear its head to this day. And I say, hey, you know, I love you, but you're not you don't get to drive the car anymore. You know, and so I talk about the three stages of artistry and their relationship with their fans. And it probably applies to influencers, podcasters, things, too. But, you know, I come from the music world. So I see the first stage is puppy love. You start to get some recognition and you go, wow, like this is incredible. And what could ever go wrong with this? Like, I actually, maybe I don't even need to have a wife or girlfriend because I get all this love.
18:03Ed Mylett:Like, I feel so filled up from these strangers who all see the essence of how great I am. And if you've done great work, that's true. There's only seeing your essence and not all your, you know, your flaws. And so there's something to that because you're presenting the jewel inside yourself and your art. and a bunch of people are relating to that and you're getting this attention back and acknowledgement so that's stage one is puppy love stage two i call disillusionment because something happens where you go
18:40dude some of those people they don't like me they're not paying attention anymore there could
18:46Ed Mylett:be a dip in popularity and just go wow this changes or some people flip and they go from liking you to hating you or some people just come out of nowhere and they're hating you so this is man i thought i had this security from this this significance but now it's gone and that's painful that's why i call it disillusionment now a lot of people get stuck there and they're getting this love hate relationship with their audience but there's a third level a third stage in that service it's going okay once i actually address the thing that you just got clear on you addressed it hey this came from when i was a child and you know i'm gonna stop i'm gonna stop living under that programming because it's just programming that i've that i've operated down there for years and we can change any habit we can change and it's one of the things i love about tony because you don't have a disease depression was a disease i had it's not something i had it's something i did yeah and so you get clear on in stage three you get clear on okay what what are these flaws or these pain points that maybe come from childhood and sometimes and they even come from before childhood sometimes they come from your mom's childhood i mean i know for sure there's some some stuff that i picked up from my mom and when i was in my early 20s i was kind of like upset with her about it but then when i learned more about her i said you got it from your mom and then i and then it probably you know went on from there so sometimes it's not even us but it's up to us to to end the cycle so you get clear on okay what are my pain points?
20:34Ed Mylett:What are these old stories? What is the new ones I'm going to tell? And where am I going to start real relationships with real love? And then I'm going to go back to my audience. I'm actually going to serve them. It's not about manipulating them anymore to get this hit of significance. It becomes about what can I give? And it can become one of the great joys of your life and it doesn't replace a primary relationship or your family, but it's a place for you to pour love out and contribute.
21:06Mike Posner:It's so true, brother. By the way, I don't think, I think you could replace artists with human. I think most humans are figuring, well, if I get enough money or I get a bigger house or I got the right shoes or, you know, people look up to me, I'm going to feel different about me. This thing you just said on Significance, I could tell you an inside thing. It's interesting. Rob Dyrdek is a good friend. He's been on the show a couple of times. and we had this running thing because this is a topic once you have a breakthrough in your life that you really discuss with one another and so i remember telling him i go man i'm not into significance anymore recognition he's like me either like almost like we were above it right and uh so we went like six months bantering back and forth about how evolved we had both become you know and we're at a rams game together and our wives were sitting in between us and i can't hear him and he's like hey hey and i'm you know what he goes and finally i can't hear him.
21:55Mike Posner:I go, what did you say? He goes, I'm a liar. And I go, what are you talking about? He goes, let's go get a hot dog. And I'll tell you when we walk up, he goes, bro, I still love significance and recognition. I go, good, dude. I'm so sick of lying about this. So do I. Right. But he said something, what you just said, he said, but I get it now by contributing. So I feel significant when I'm giving the difference, bro. And so I think I get it in a healthy way now. And he goes, and that contribution is because I love people. And so it's just a subtle loop that changes, but this is like one of the more profound conversations we've had on the show, because I think this is just humans.
22:34Mike Posner:I don't think it's just singing or just speaking on stage. Like I do. I think it's human nature to be this way. So let me ask you, I mean, this is a broad question, but if someone was listening, that's going, bro, I'm with you. And I live kind of in a lower state of being a lot where I'm down or melancholy or worried or anxiety or all the way to depression, like you've described. And they said to me, hey, brother, like, what do I do? What do I do? What would you say to that person?
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23:02Ed Mylett:I would ask them four questions, but they can answer the questions themselves, you know. So I would challenge or invite that person to ask themselves these four questions. The first comes from my buddy Chris Wark. Chris Wark wrote the book, Chris Beat Cancer. It's an incredible book. He cured himself of cancer without Western medicine. And he's helped thousands of others to repeat this miracle. and he credits his entire journey of healing back to i think he was getting a massage or a reiki or someone he went to get some body work done and the healer asked him this question they go before we start this journey i gotta know do you want to live
23:56yes or no and most of us have never really asked that question seriously to each to ourselves
24:05Ed Mylett:because you know these things build up the you talked about them early these micro resentments there's a little bit of feeling a lot of us have of hey you know i'll do this but i don't really want to i'm here but i should be doing something else and it's so it's so ubiquitous in a lot of our experience of life that it's just kind of running in the background and a lot of us think that it's it's actually part of life it's not part of life it's an impediment of life and so most people answer that question yes but they realize like there's something sort of not as good as they they think it should be and that that part of going a small side tangent and i get back to question two that part of oneself that goes hey i i think i think my life is supposed to feel better than it does where does that come from because that's really interesting A lot of us have this idea that life should feel better than it does, but better in a way that maybe we've never even experienced.
25:17Ed Mylett:So how is the mind telling us about some experience that we don't know anything about? So I have a theory. I don't know if it's right, but I think it's right. And I think it comes from beyond the mind. I think that feeling is true. I think that's our soul. Or if you don't like that word, your higher self or like your deeper self going, hey, there's more for you here. And the pain you feel is actually the chasm between where you are and where on some level, you know, life should be not externally, but the feeling the experience of life. right it's like when you see those guys working on the house the pain isn't just that you felt anger that day because we all feel anger sometimes the pain is something's recognizing there's a chasm here and and the amount the the further the wider the chasm the more the pain so oh i think that part of ourselves is correct and it's a larger part of ourselves calling us to grow, calling us to become more.
26:27Ed Mylett:So that's the end of the tangent. Now, what's the second question? The first question was, do you want to live? Yes or no? The second question is, if yes, and most people say yes. Why? Why? And this question, it comes from Viktor Frankl. Chris asked it also, but it's man's search for meaning. you know and what Nietzsche say he who has a why can endure almost any circumstance any how any condition can overcome anything and all of us have a purpose of being here but not all of us have uncovered it yet and by the way it changes your purpose when you're 15 is not the same as your purpose when you're 30 and it might change week to week and Viktor Frankl talks about that in the books.
27:21Ed Mylett:He goes, stop measuring life and saying life isn't meeting my expectations and start asking, what does life expect of me? What does life expect of me in this moment? And the purpose, your purpose of life might not be some overarching thing, some crazy thing. It might just be to hold that old lady's hand, to look at that child and it might be something very immediate yeah so that's the second question and the third question come my buddy uh my buddy elliot bisnow so it comes with a story am i rambling too long not in the least okay so the third question is came from elliot i was at a point another low point in my life this low point came before the one before there was a bunch of little boys right and so and so um i had reached this point in my life where my father had just passed away a couple of my my peers that i worked with the music industry avicii and mac miller they had just died and there was this feeling like exactly what I just referred to.
28:41Ed Mylett:Like there's something inside me that I'm not expressing. Like there's some difference between what I have to give and what I'm actually giving. And, and it doesn't feel good. It feels like I'm wasting life. And I got, um, just real down, real down. And I grew a big beard at the time I just turned 30. And I remember I had a new album coming out and, you know, at that it was about maybe seven eight years ago at that time you would still go to a lot of radio stations and you basically schmooze you know shake these guys hand make make you know pretend like you're their best friend and so then they put your song on the radio and they can get like these 12 year olds addicted to your song and that's supposed to be success and i'm just like telling elliot we were we were in Alaska on a camping trip and I'm like dude I'm done like I don't I'm 30 I'm what am I doing I don't want to play this game anymore like I'm through I don't want to do it and and when I say I'm done I'm like I was really there Ed like I had thoughts of like I should kill myself.
29:55Ed Mylett:Whoa. Like, like I, I,
30:02Ed Mylett:there's something about how I'm showing up in the world that feels like it's taking away from the world, not adding to it. And so I said to Elliot, I go, dude, I don't want to do this anymore. I'm done. He looks at me and by the way, I think friendship is seeing another's potential so clearly that they can see it themselves so that's elliot he's incredible and my like depressing words just kind of like bounce off him as if he's got a force field and he looks at me and he goes because i just told him i don't want to do it i don't want all this stuff and he goes well what do you want
30:43Ed Mylett:yep i never i never asked that question i'm sitting here bouncing around my life making lists and lists of what I don't want. And if any of your listeners, like if your mind is like mine, by the way, you're not your mind. But if your mind is like mine, it creates lists of things that happened in the past you didn't want. It's got a list of things right now that are happening you don't want. And it even has a giant list of things that haven't happened yet. But if they did, you sure as heck wouldn't want those too. So no wonder I was miserable. I sat there, I thought, what do i want what a question and i couldn't believe the words that came out of my mouth they were i want to walk across america well i almost couldn't believe i said it had you ever thought that before yeah i'd heard about a guy who had done it five years ago and i remember i thought that was that's pretty freaking cool you know and then i just threw on the back burner like it i thought maybe i'll do it one day but But then I got back to business as usual, make album, go on tour, make album, go on tour, make album, go on tour.
31:53And then in that moment, he asked what I wanted.
31:56Ed Mylett:And that was the answer. It came from beyond my mind. I almost heard the words come out of my mouth as if someone else said it. I was surprised. And I reeled back because when I heard the words come out, my mind came back in. And I said to Elliot, I said, but you know, I told my manager about this once and he said it was a crazy idea. Elliot goes, that's great news. I like Elliot. I like him too. I said, what do you mean it's great news? He goes, that your manager said it's a crazy idea. I said, what do you mean? He goes, you got to understand, man. Not all crazy ideas are great, but all great ideas are crazy.
32:44Mike Posner:Oh, so good.
32:46Ed Mylett:And he goes, so your manager thing is crazy. It's a great sign. He goes, and I think you walking across America is a great idea. So I eventually did that walk and it changed my life. It didn't cure me of my depression, but it gave me some amazing tools. And eventually put me on the path that got me to where I did. So that's question number three. and um i'm stealing that steal it because i steal from him all the time by the way i asked him i go later you know because it was such a deep moment i said because he's he's one of my best friends so i go dude did you make that up he goes what did not crazy the idea line and he goes i don't know probably he didn't even know so maybe he got it from someplace else but i i think he did i think he channeled it but uh the last question is sort of just an expansion on that which is you know what really would make life worth living so i would start there you know answer these four questions and and get a little momentum focusing on what i do want you know what i do want by the way it's best way to give someone feedback right don't tell them all the things that they just did that piss you off ask them to do what you want them to do hey hey this this would really make a difference for me it would light me up if you did x y or z it works so life is rigged in a way where we get what we focus on so life is rigged in such a way where when you focus on what's wrong you notice more of what's wrong you get more of what's wrong when you focus on what you want right and jesus said pray as if you've already received it right i think that's true right we got all this new age stuff came out about law of attraction right and it's all true but jesus was talking about it 2 000 years ago pray as if you've already received it right um it didn't come from the secret and I love the secret, right?
34:56Ed Mylett:But this concept has been around for a long time and it's true. We get what we focus on. And so you got to get clear on what you want. You got to get clear on, do you want to live? You got to get clear on what's your purpose? What's your why? Because without a why, dude, I don't care. You can have the craziest life. It'll turn to mush. It'll turn to drudgery if you don't know what that why is. You got to get clear on what you do want and what would make life really worth living so you know what everybody i really appreciate the comments
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37:18Mike Posner:These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. This is a masterclass, brother. I didn't know we were going to go this deep. The only thing I would add, I just want to keep rifting, and I want you to be doing both the teaching here today, but everybody, this is what we're really talking about is beginning to live your life with some intention, auditing where you're at. Is this still my dream? Is this still what I want? Is this what I wanted when I was 15, but now I'm 30? That's not what I want anymore.
37:48Mike Posner:It's okay to audit your life and audit and ask yourself these questions because that's a life that's lived with intention. That's a life when you get to the end of it, you go, I gave it everything I had and I maxed out my life. But one where you just live unconsciously with all of your patterns running all of the time. It's just like a book that's the same chapter on every, the same page, same chapter. Every time you turn the page, it's the same experience. So if you want a different experience, you've got to ask different questions. And one thing Tony does talk about that I do as well is the quality of your life is often the quality of your emotions.
38:22Mike Posner:But a lot of times your emotions come from the questions you're asking yourself. Huge, huge. You said something really profound earlier that was like of a million profound things. and I'll mess up how you said it. So to explain, you said you're not your thoughts or you're not always what's going on in your mind. You said something like that. What did you mean by that?
38:42Ed Mylett:Yeah, absolutely. I mean, this, this machine in our brains, that's just saying words, saying thoughts. It's not who you are. It's some very small part of your being as, as, as a soul, You know, what's it? Chardin said, we're not human beings having a spiritual experience. We're spiritual beings having a human experience. So the mind, right, was evolved to keep us safe. It's a scanning device often for what's wrong. Because, you know, our ancestors, if you believe in evolution, the ones that scanned for what was wrong, that noticed all this little sound or that, or they were paranoid, they survived.
39:31Because they noticed the potential danger when it occurred.
39:38Ed Mylett:And so all of us have what's called a negativity bias built in, meaning we tend to focus more on what's wrong because this mind thing is here to keep us alive. It's not here to make us happy. It's not designed to. And so if you live your whole life in your mind, you're not going to be fulfilled because your soul is way bigger than the mind. And so I'm a big meditator. I also love, you know, as much as Tony, equally in a different way, Eckhart Tolle, who teaches we're not our mind. And I don't know about you, but we talked about earlier, you know, this thing is always saying what you don't want.
40:26Ed Mylett:but it's just always saying stuff all day long. And some of the stuff it says is great. And some of the stuff it says is really stupid. And most of what it says is very repetitive. If you ever take a day, you know, a lot of people, I've had this blessed life of a lot of freedom. So I've been able to do weird experiments. So like I've gone to a retreat center for a total of two months of my life where they put you in a little cabin. And they just leave you there. And once a week they drop food off in the bear box. So you're taking, you're taking care of the woods already chopped. So you just sit there and you meditate.
41:06Ed Mylett:And, and when I watched my mind, just sitting there for hours a day, seven hours, it's like, Hey, this thing, it's often pretty negative. Not always. And it's super repetitive.
41:21Mike Posner:Yes.
41:22Ed Mylett:If you ever take a day, if you ever take a day and i know not everyone has this luxury but even if you take two hours and you just sit down without your phone and you just observe the thoughts in your head i forget who had to quote all of humanity's problems stem from the fact that a man and woman too is the old days right is that we cannot sit quietly alone in a room so if you ever take just two hours and just watch the thoughts you have you'll be amazed first of all you'll forget you're doing it almost immediately and you'll get carried away with your thoughts but then after a while you notice it keeps thinking the same thing and it's like so our culture is almost a monument to rationality to the thinking mind right we we have for better or worse gotten away from the churches the synagogues the mosques and we worship more the university the scientists right and science is amazing right it makes all our lives great and comfortable but it's not gonna make you fulfilled
42:43Ed Mylett:so you are not your mind i'm not my mind ed is not his mind we are the consciousness i'm the consciousness that gets to move mike posner around i'm not even mike posner right that's like i believe a costume that i'm wearing this go around and the more we can identify with the part of ourselves is actually beyond language beyond words you can just feel it and in moments of quiet and everyone's had these moments virginia wolf called these moments of being right everyone's had a moment where it just made sense the the mind actually stopped it was it was pure blue that's you that's the real you right tell you like i just tell you this idea i just
43:28Mike Posner:want to say this too i just want to acknowledge you just for a second you you are making a difference this is a real contribution i just want you to know like legitimately like um this is extraordinary what you're sharing and um that's worth acknowledging in you like god's really using you mike i mean truly truly and um you know everyone what mike was saying earlier about your brain and you know these repetitive thoughts your mind is always trying to move towards what it's most familiar with and so if it's familiar with these you know these ruminations of what you're worried about and afraid of or not liking or not going well you're going to get more of it because your brain's designed to conserve energy.
44:05Mike Posner:It's lazy. And so that's why a life that's not evaluated is an unlived life. And so what we're really talking about here is just the gift of today because you and I are both blessed. We could go somewhere for a week. Some people are going, I've got three kids I've got to pick up from school. I've got to do homework. I've got to take them to soccer. I've got to get back to work. But here's the thing. You have to give yourself those couple hours once a week somewhere to just sit with yourself, sit with God, and just be with you. And if you can't do that, you have to ask yourself, why do I not enjoy my own company?
44:42Mike Posner:Why do I need other people around me all the time? That's worth at least asking why. And then I think it's building your own recipe that causes change in you. I want to ask you about this. And maybe it's not one of the formulas, but as I read about you, and I've known about you obviously for a long time, but it's not normal resume, bro. I mean, let's just be honest. I mean, I haven't climbed Mount Everest. I haven't walked across the country. I haven't done the continental divide. I almost haven't died of a rattlesnake bite. I don't have, you know, Grammy nominations. Like I'm just a dude with a flag behind him doing a podcast, right?
45:13Mike Posner:That's all I am. But like, so I don't relate to all of that. Having said all of that though, humans develop sort of recipes to their, their wellness, their bliss. If you look at your life, it looks to me like challenging yourself to do something is one of those recipes. Like you, it appears as if part of you living your life is a challenge that then you go pursue and see if you can expand your being relative to the level of that challenges. I always say I'm addicted to the expansion of my being. Right. Thank you. Is part of your formula from time to time coming up with a challenge for yourself to see what you're capable of?
45:56Mike Posner:Or is that something in the past?
45:58Ed Mylett:It's evolved. It's evolved, but it's definitely part of it. Right. And life will give you these challenges anyways. Right. So it's like I like to put challenges in my life. So I'm inviting in the girl. I like to set a goal sometimes where I go, hey, the version of me setting this goal cannot do this. I actually have to become some version of myself that I'm not now in order to get this done. So I like a goal like that. In the past, they've been some physical challenges, some expeditions, things like that. But I'll be honest with you, Ed, because I was an army of one for so many years, the challenge now that, you know, and I have somebody, you know, I still run the ultras and stuff right here and there.
46:53Ed Mylett:It's important for me to keep that sort of warrior part alive. But the number one challenge, right, I want to be humble today, right? Because it's like I receive what you said. I know God, when I'm at my best, God is working through me, right? And not all the time because sometimes my brain gets in the way. But my challenge now is I'm building a family, you know? And some of the things that I'm teaching today, dude, like when I'm with my fiance, who's the most wonderful woman in the world, I sometimes get angry, right? I'm like, oh, where did that come from? Oh, that's the part I need to work on now, right?
47:34Ed Mylett:This is life pointing me in the direction of what I need to work on. And so for me, when I said it evolves, it's less about going and doing something really hard with my body, although that does do a certain flavor of the expansion. But having done a bunch of those, the one that's more challenging for me is being less selfish, being in a family unit, putting others before myself, doesn't come naturally to me. Because I've been doing the Mike Posner thing for a lot of years. And so that's where the juice of my life is now. It's the most challenging part of my life now because I need to grow the most to have the family that I will have.
48:24Ed Mylett:So there's some pain in that for me. And I welcome it. And so the other things have been training. and the other thing about there's been a lot of external achievements in my life and like I said part of that was by design I wanted to become somebody I was proud of part of that was I wanted to you know get attention I wanted to be able to go in the podcast and have my like oh he's the most interesting right so part of it was not good it was significance and part of that I think is grace i think that listen
49:03Ed Mylett:i want to share light with the world and for some people they'll listen to me versus someone else
49:11Mike Posner:because i got all these things that's right and i got to report back hey i was still at that
49:17Ed Mylett:michigan house depressed i was still in alaska with elliott thinking maybe i should kill myself and so maybe i think so god gave me all those blessings and then he gave me the pain with it so i could teach from a place not not from from having read it in a book but from having lived it hey like i got the external stuff but i wasn't winning the internal game and you want to be there so let me help you win the internal game and you can win the external game too There's a lot of teachers on that, right? And you can't have both.
49:54Mike Posner:Amen. I agree with you. Listen, some of us have just chosen our giftedness, if we're great at it, grabs attention. My sister, I think, is the greatest schoolteacher. She's actually an assistant principal now. Her gift is to work with children, right? She's expressing her gift and pushing the expansion of her being daily. She's not going to get lots of recognition for that gift. She'll get it when she gets to heaven. Right. So many of you, your recognition won't be here. It's okay to go chase money. There's nothing wrong with that. There's nothing wrong with that. I want to have a big house. That's okay.
50:27Mike Posner:It's just what we're both telling you. Nothing's worse than a couple of rich people telling you it's not worth getting rich. It's certainly better probably to have financial means than not. If something's a goal of yours and you and God work together to make it real, that's wonderful. But when it becomes your identity, you will be empty. And so that's the difference. I'm just curious. I'm watching you. Well said.
50:53Ed Mylett:Well said.
50:53Mike Posner:Thank you. Well, you embody it. I said it. So there's a difference. Some days. I want to ask you, if I'd have met you at 30, East 37, when we're recording this, you have a certain, and everyone's hearing it, there's a spirit about you that's, I'd call it wise, like an old soul, but very gentle. There's a peaceful spirit about you. Had I met you seven years ago, would that same spirit have been present? Or has that changed in you? In other words, externally, are you different also? And the way that you communicate, you vibrate, you go about your life. Has there been a difference in that? Or did you always have a little of that?
51:37Ed Mylett:I think there's a huge difference. I mean, I feel way different. My frequency, like we talked about my set point. 30 was that 30 was like that conversation with Elliot that was like and that's part of what I want to share too with people like because maybe there's someone listening to this who's really in a tough moment like really in a tough moment and maybe no one knows about it but keep going because at 30 I had no idea it would be this good not not the external stuff the I didn't no idea could feel this good and you can't have a life without pain but you have a pain with a lot less suffering so at 30 to answer your question i i would go through a lot of pain i think i was seeking a lot already i was already in the meditation i already read i'd already spent a lot of time um seeking out answers because i i was searching for them i was just getting ready to walk across America.
52:42Ed Mylett:Um, so I think I could probably spit some, spit some game at that point, but looking back was, was I really mastering that, that the feeling part, the internal part yet? No, I hadn't, I hadn't figured that out yet and I haven't fully figured it out now, but I got it more figured out than then.
53:08Mike Posner:Is part of that figuring it out, you talk about relationships earlier. I just have this feeling listening to you, and I don't know this, that I have to believe, this is just my belief system. You can believe whatever you want, everybody. I love all of you. But doing this alone without a knowing or a growing relationship with your version of God sure is hard. And for me, you know, I'm where I'm at in my life through God's grace. And I'm pretty bold about that fact. I love people that, you know, I love people. And so whatever your faith choice is, that's not what today's episode is about necessarily.
53:48Mike Posner:But I'd be making a huge miss if I didn't ask you about that part of your life. Has your relationship or understanding of God changed over this time as well? And is that a big, is that the most important relationship you have or one of them?
54:03Ed Mylett:Yeah, it's the most important. And it has changed. I grew up in a Jewish household, but I was raised what was called secular humanistic, meaning I went to Sunday school, but I wasn't taught anything about God. I asked my mom about this later. I said, why didn't, why'd you raise us like that? She goes, I, I had a childhood where a lot of stuff was forced on me. And so we raised you that way, not because I don't believe it. She believes in God, but we raised you that way because we wanted you to make a decision when you're an adult. Sorry, but actually that makes a lot of sense.
54:51Ed Mylett:So then, um, And the spiritual part of my life really started with my friend Big Sean. Big Sean. Yeah. Do you know Big Sean?
55:00Mike Posner:Yeah, I do. I know who he is. Yes.
55:02Ed Mylett:So he and I, we met in Detroit when we were kids. So we're the same age. So I knew him when I was 18. And then my music started to take off. Then his took off. And I saw him about, I think we're probably 23, 24. And he was like glowing. like glowing and his the external part of his life was exploding as well and i said to him like dude what what what do you what changed he goes you gotta read two books one was the alchemist and the second one was asking it is given it's a book all about the law of attraction so i read these books and they start opening my eyes to have a spiritual part of my life.
55:49Ed Mylett:I would run. I would say, well, I used to be depressed. I would say, I am joy. I would say, I am faith. I am love. And it taught me to reframe challenges when they came. But I learned to ask this new question. What am I supposed to learn from this? Inherent in that question, you know, assume the subtext is like, there's something out there that is is like actually gifting me this experience by her and katie says life life's not happening for you excuse me life's not happening to you life's happening for you right her book right there yep and so that that was a big part of faith and then it's it evolved like even it's evolving excuse me in the last year in 2025 i had some excuse me i had some wild experiences with with jesus moving in my life signs in my life um something like just i don't want to go it's like you know crazy excuse me crazy stories but just having wild signs where jesus was moving in my life and so um it's evolved so much and is evolving um but it is the most important relationship But Louise Hay says, my security does not come from my bank account, my spouse or my parents.
57:18Ed Mylett:It comes from my ability to connect to all that is, which I call God. Right. And that's the only place. I'm always messing up this line from Scripture. Jesus says, you know, don't store up your treasure where we're rusted thieves can get them or something. I don't know the exact way to say it, but what he means is everything on this earth, it changes, it goes away. You can't place your security in another person. Even in my fiance, I love her. If she could give me that security, she would, but she's a human being, right? She can't be exactly what I need her to be at all times. What kind of man would I be?
58:02Ed Mylett:That's what I needed. so you can only get that security from one place and and that's God I think that's what we're all searching for and it's a personal it's a personal um relationship and um I'm like you I I love people I'm here to just be a blessing the more we can realize you know our life actually my life actually doesn't belong to me that this higher power and and we talk about not being the mind i think that's how you connect to it faster right you you identify with this part of you that's connected to it and you start to live a life that i'm stepping into more is scary for me ed where you just you just listen to that thing as it guides you and sometimes it speaks to us in dreams sometimes speak to us in um through other human beings and sometimes it speaks to us through that still small voice inside us and that's the life that i'm interested in leading not one that's like hey i read this this is the next step let me go do that i was like i feel like i'm on a magical journey and um and the breadcrumbs get left for me by by god and i i just try to follow
59:25Mike Posner:what it says and here we are bro i'm sitting here emotional i'm being this quiet because um i can't believe we've had this conversation today and i i first off i just remember this as you're afraid jesus holds you in the palm of his hand and so he's always with you he'll never leave you nor forsake you and so you don't have to have that fear but i know exactly what you mean i have it from time to time as well it just makes me emotional to see this the whole conversation I've done 800 and some odd 900 of these none have flown by this quickly and none have I felt like I'm just in the beginning, not the end of this conversation.
1:00:05Mike Posner:I truly mean that. And I'm going to make you come back on here and do this again.
1:00:11Ed Mylett:I would love it. It'd be my pleasure.
1:00:13Mike Posner:Because bro, like, you know, I'll just tell you that you're being used for good and, and you're remarkable. Just accept that, please. And I also something's out right now that we need to talk about at the end, because here's the good thing about this conversation. It's been so incredible. I'm 100 percent sure everybody stayed to the end. That's how good this is. And I think everybody's with me saying, please come back. But what's up with I went back to Ibiza? We need to know about this. So tell us.
1:00:44Ed Mylett:Yeah, this is incredible. So it's such a blessing. We talk about my life story, you know, today. And I get to encapsulate a lot of these moments with music. You know, so you want to know how I felt, right, at this moment at Elliott? Listen to a real good kid. You know, I made an album, a lot of these chapters of life. And so when I look back on this body of work and music, it's pretty cool because it's all there. um but i think it's 12 years ago now i wrote a song called i took a pill in ibiza and it's a very successful song and it was a heartbreaking song about how empty my life was having reached fame but kind of on the other side of it and the chorus was all i know are sad songs i maybe two years ago on my birthday because i wrote the song on my birthday 26th birthday I wrote an Instagram post I said you know 10 years had gone by and this song every lyric in it is now untrue in my life so I went through each line I said you know what I was talking about in my life at that time when it was honest and vulnerable and it was real at the time I go all these things they transformed in 10 years like what a great what an amazing 10 years thank Thank you.
1:02:10And I had a guy that works me on social media.
1:02:14Ed Mylett:So he would, the post went viral. So then he would like every six months, he would change the post, repost it up. It'd go viral again. You know how they do that. Right. And they keep telling me all this keeps going, keeps being, taking off. People keep resonating with the message. Finally, my fiance says to me, well, you keep doing this post about how your life changed. She goes, why don't you rewrite the song with new words about your life now? So I said, hey, I'm supposed to come up with the song ideas. Come on, you're creeping on my territory. So I said, that's a good idea. So I did so. And it came out, it just came out more beautiful than I could have imagined.
1:03:00Ed Mylett:So I'm really excited to share that song with the world. and people can go check it out. It's called I Went Back to Ibiza and it's about transformation.
1:03:13Mike Posner:You're coming back to the Ed Milets show. Yes, I am. Yes, I can't wait to meet you in person, man. Yeah, brother, same here. We need to do that. We'll do it soon too. So everybody, I just sometimes already know what your response is. So I'm not going to add anything to today. This was extraordinary. And put this one in a time capsule and I'm really grateful for you, bro. Really grateful for you, too.
1:03:35Ed Mylett:God bless you.
1:03:36Mike Posner:God bless you, man. Hey, everybody. This is this is why I do the show. It's why this old man is still doing this thing right now. It's days like today. This is why I do the show right here. God bless you, everybody. Please share this. Max out your life.
1:03:54Ed Mylett:This is the Ed Myron Show.
From the publisher
What If Everything You’ve Achieved Still Isn’t Enough to Make You Happy?
Today’s conversation with Mike Posner is one of the deepest and most powerful discussions I’ve ever had on this show. You probably know Mike from his massive hits like Cooler Than Me and I Took a Pill in Ibiza. But the man sitting across from me today isn’t just a Grammy nominated artist. He’s climbed Mount Everest, walked more than 2,900 miles across America, survived a rattlesnake bite, and gone through a profound spiritual and emotional transformation that completely changed his life.
Mike shared something that stopped me in my tracks early in this conversation. He said that despite all the success, the money, the recognition, and the adventure, his greatest achievement wasn’t any of those things. It was changing his emotional set point from depression and negativity to joy, faith, and love. That shift didn’t happen because of fame or accomplishments. It happened when he finally stopped lying to himself about the fears and stories that were running his life.
We talked about something so many people struggle with but rarely admit. The pursuit of recognition and significance. Mike was honest about how much of his early career was fueled by the desire to be liked and validated by others. And if we’re honest, most of us do the same thing in our own lives. What makes this conversation so powerful is how Mike explains the transformation from chasing significance to living a life of service, contribution, and authentic connection.
One of the most powerful moments came when Mike shared the four questions that helped him turn his life around. Questions that forced him to stop drifting and start living intentionally. Questions like “Do you actually want to live?” and “What do you truly want?” These questions sound simple, but they have the power to completely change the direction of your life if you answer them honestly.
What I love about Mike’s story is that he’s proof that external success does not guarantee internal peace. But he’s also proof that you can change your internal state, rewrite the story you’re telling yourself, and build a life that is rich both internally and externally. This conversation is about awakening. It’s about purpose. And it’s about learning how to live a life that truly feels worth living.
Key Takeaways
• Why changing your emotional set point may be the most important achievement of your life
• The dangerous trap of chasing recognition and significance instead of real love
• How the stories you tell yourself quietly shape your entire reality
• The four life changing questions that can help you rediscover purpose and direction
• Why success without inner fulfillment still leaves you feeling empty
• How shifting from seeking validation to serving others transforms your life
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