Change What You See, Change What You Get

0:00Alright, welcome back to the show everybody. So excited to get a chance to spend some time with you again this week. And just to start, I just want to thank so many of you that are sharing the episodes every single week. We're really going viral almost every week, particularly solos episodes, where I spend time with you together. Just you and I, where I share ideas and content with you. And so thank you in advance for doing that today. Today's going to be a really important one. I want to talk to you about perspective today, and I think one of the most critical components in life to bring you more fulfillment and more success, more bliss, more happiness, more of the things you want.

0:33and that is to start to become aware of the lens through which you see the world through how you experience your life most of us do this unconsciously and because we do it unconsciously oftentimes we default to a mode that we really don't want one of the critical things in life is to be able to see the world through the lens through the filter through the prism that serves us the most serves our bliss serves our success serves our productivity our joy Our peace and in the past.

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1:40Power of one more in my book, I write about two lenses. I'm going to give you two more today. But the two lenses I write about in the books, I say there's two types of people. One type of person views the world through history and memory. And they basically walk through life kind of living in the past. When they reference something new. It's usually connected to something of the old. And by the way, people do this on positive and negative things. Some people live through past successes. Some continue to live through history and memory and the past of failures, setbacks, things that have gone wrong, traumas.

2:10But the bottom line is most of their filter is the rear view mirror of their life. The second type of person, which is more rare, they see things through dreams and imagination. They're in the present, but they're looking forward. They use their imagination. They use their dreams. They don't spend a lot of time in the rear view mirror. They're looking more through the windshield of life and looking forward. And I find those to be the people that create, that innovate, that are more happy, that grow, that expand. But there are a couple other filters that I want to talk to you about this week. And there's really two lenses that I want to go through with you.

2:43And one type of person scans for God and favor, protection, safety, increase, light, love. They see all these things. When they scan the world, when they experience the world, they see more God. They see more favor. They see more protection. They feel more safety. They feel more increase and light and love. The other types of people scan for things they're afraid of. They see the negative. They filter into their lens evil, loneliness, darkness, despair. And these two people are in the exact same world, yet they experience two totally different lives. And really the life you experience is seen through the lens that you feed yourself And so which of those lenses are you history and memory or are you imagination and dreams?

3:27Are you someone who sees light love favor protection increase growth beauty? Or do you scan and see a lot of things you're afraid of the negative the people taking advantage of the evil the loneliness in your life? These two lenses will feed you the life that you see and it's really important because If you're not aware you're doing it, you can begin to think your reality is the only truth When in fact the same people going through the same type of life are having a totally different life experience than you Simply because of the lens and most of us do it unconsciously But we can become conscious of this lens and start to scan for the things we want Listen to me.

4:02It's a mental act of ignorance To scan for the things you're afraid of for the negative for evil for loneliness for darkness for despair For lack for what you don't have That's a mental act of ignorance. And after today, you will be doing it consciously because I've pointed it out to you. And the reason that I pointed out to you is because I've done both and I do both. But I probably lived at least half my life as somebody who scanned for, you know, how lonely I was or how I was being taken advantage of or the past or trauma or darkness. I'd see the I'd be on an airplane and I'd scan for the loudest, most obnoxious person rather than the kindest and most gentle and the person who's helping everybody put their bags away, you know, and the most polite person.

4:48You know what I'm saying? Those are same exact flight, two totally different experiences. So what if you became somebody, what if you were one of those people who began to believe that good things are going to happen to them? Because the people who believe that good things are going to happen to them, they're usually right. And the people who believe that average and ordinary or negative things, or maybe just the same things are going to happen for them. They are also usually right. The world reveals to us that which we're most certain of. And if we're not cognizant of our lens, because you do have one, and maybe it changes from time to time, maybe a certain trigger triggers a different lens for you.

5:28When you're slighted by somebody in your personal life, your spouse or a boyfriend or girlfriend, or they're passive aggressive with you or whatever it might be, or maybe you miss a sale, it switches the lens and now you're scanning for all the other negative things. But I'm telling you, this lens is your life. And I think when you get to the end of your life, it's going to be revealed to you through a different lens. And I think at the end, we want it to be revealed through the ones that we most hopefully want to see through. So remember this, people who believe that good things are going to happen to them, they are usually right.

5:58Not every time, but far more of the time than if they believe things aren't going to work out for them. What if you started to move through your life like you think it's rigged in your favor. You always say, hey, the system is rigged. Okay, well, it's rigged for somebody. And that somebody doesn't necessarily have to be different than you. And I'm not suggesting that there aren't lots of people in life where they didn't start on third base. Heck, they didn't even start at home plate. They weren't even in the stadium. They were born on the wrong side of the tracks, or their parents weren't even married, or they grew up incredibly poor.

6:31and that there are disadvantages to that life because there are. But if you're scanning for proof of that all of your life, you'll prove it to be true. But if you begin to scan like, well, however, there are certain things that are scanned in my favor and I'm favored because God's going to give you the life that he most wants to give you, but your lens is going to process it. A lot of times in life, your expectations are the most important thing. If you expect things to go well, if you have an expectation that you're going to get a hit when you're up to the plate or make the putt when you're putting or close the sale or get the date or have a good time or that people are going to think you're interesting and funny, most of the time your expectations are accurate in life more times than not.

7:20Remember this, confidence bends reality. It does. When you walk into a room confident that something's gonna work out in your favor or you walk into your day It begins to bend reality and the truth of the matter is reality is reality But what it does is it begins to change your filter and that filter is your life experience What if you started to walk like you just got the best news of your life? What if you talk like man the universe is listening to me in my case god is listening to me He's hearing my prayers You have to remember that this is important stuff And if we don't start to be conscious of it, we're going to continue to produce the same life because we're seeing life through the same lens and the same filter.

8:02And so you can have 10 people treat you great. But if you believe you're a victim to something, that 11th person is all you're going to see and experience and feel. If you believe you're not going to close sales, you're not going to close the majority of the sales. So what if he started to walk through your life like it was rigged in your favor? And you go, well, it isn't though. But what if you worked so hard that you made it so? People just like you with the same disadvantages, the same hardships, the same setbacks. Look, I grew up on welfare. I had a drug addict and alcoholic father. I could easily see the world through, man, I didn't even get a good hand when I was born.

8:37We didn't have any damn money. Nobody in my family was ever financially successful. So I'm not going to be. or I can go, I'm going to be first. I'm going to change this family curse of this addiction stuff. And so that confidence began to bend reality. So the same people would have entered my life probably either way, but I filtered for the ones who could support what I was seeing as opposed to filtering for the ones that would support the negative things I was seeing. There's going to be enough people, enough circumstances, enough situations in your life to deliver either reality to you. But your reticular activating system is going to scan to prove you right.

9:11And so starting to wrestle this, I'm going to be someone who operates out of imagination and dreams. I'm going to operate as somebody who walks through life like it's rigged in my favor. My confidence will bend reality. I'm going to get the world to conspire to my dreams. God made me in his image and likeness. He holds me in the palm of his hand and he will never leave me nor forsake me. I'm not alone even when I filter through life and feel alone. I think when we get to the end of your life, all those moments you felt lonely, all those moments you felt alone, I think God's going to whisper to you and go, I was with you the whole time.

9:42You were never alone. You were never alone. What if you never felt that way again? What if you gave yourself the gift of saying, there's a loving God who's got my back, who made me in his image and likeness, whose DNA runs through me. Man, this is rigged in my favor. I woke up today with another breath. Maybe you woke up today and you don't have a disease that millions of other people have. Maybe today no one that you love passed away. And so many other people woke up today and lost a loved one. Maybe you woke up today with food in your refrigerator and water and two-thirds of the world doesn't have it.

10:20So what if you started to walk like you just got the best news of your life? Talk like the world is listening. Remember this. Energy is magnetic. The energy you put out is like a magnet. It draws to you that which you're putting out. That's what you see. You know, here's the truth about you. You've come a whole lot further than you realize And you've overcome a lot more than you give yourself credit for haven't you just for a second Right as you sit there today Think about how far you've come now. I know some of you are listening to this or watching this today And it's not an uptime in your life.

10:57It's a downtime But just stay with me for a second Look how far you've come even to have this downtime The way you grew up The situations you've had The people who have hurt you Taken advantage of you Abandoned you Lied to you Talked bad about you The opportunities you should have been given But you weren't Maybe because you weren't born on third base Maybe because you weren't even born in the stadium Maybe people have always overlooked you Always underestimated you Man, you've come pretty darn far, haven't you? and you've overcome a lot more than you give yourself credit for. In fact, those of you that had the most disadvantages, the most negative things happen, you've overcome a lot more.

11:47If you could overcome all that, this next 10 yards isn't such a big deal. Oftentimes, people ask me, what's it like to have been so blessed and have had, you know, a measure of success, hundreds of millions of dollars, beautiful homes, influence, great friends, beautiful family. Overall, until the last year or two, good health. I'm very grateful for all of that. But every once in a while, I go, man, I've overcome a lot. I've overcome a lot. Thank God I had this filter and scan for the world most of the time that found the light, that found the person who could help me, not hurt me. If you keep drawing people into your life that are hurting you.

12:28That's a you issue. You're filtering for them. You are finding them and you are bringing them into your life. If most of the people in your life are just kind of a neutral charge, they're not so great. They don't lift me up and they're not so bad. That's what you're standing for. That's your lens. But when you have a lot of people around you who love you, who believe in you, who support you, who do even more than support you, they go to work on helping you make your dreams come true. They go to work on trying to help you be happier and more at peace and more faithful. You're scanning for that.

13:02If you look at the current conditions of your life, it's what you've been filtering in. It's a hard thing to accept. I just started to accept that in my late twenties, that I'm responsible for my life. In some way, I've actually created this because I filtered through my lens, these people into my world, these circumstances into my world. And if I don't change this lens, they're going to show up in a different body with a different name, but it'll be the same person. They'll show up in a different situation, a different business, a different product, but I'm going to get the same business results.

13:32Got to change that lens. You are so much more than you think you are. My precious friend, you've done so much more than you realize. You've helped so many more people that you don't even know about. What a thing that is, huh? You know, you've helped more people than you realize You're not not me. I've not really accomplished anything You'd be surprised how someone's quietly watched you and your kindness has been an example to them to be more kind Or they've watched how you treat your spouse or your significant other and just for that day They went home and were a little bit more gentle and generous and kind with theirs Simple things like manners and holding a door open and saying thank you for somebody helps humanity.

14:19Never mind the big things you've done, things people will never know about, things you probably don't even realize you've done because you filter them out. You take it for granted because it's just everybody's as kind as you. Everybody's as giving as you. No, they're not. Everybody has beautiful intentions like you do. Everybody's rooting for their friends to succeed like you do. You know, just your rooting and supporting and believing in your friends makes you very rare.

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16:06So you're so much more than you think you are. You've done so much more than you realize. You've come so much further and helped more people than you realize. What a beautiful thing. What a good life. Now, I know as I say that, some of you, but you don't know about this mistake. You don't know about this thing I'm ashamed of. God does. He knew it before you were going to do it. You're human. You've made some mistakes. Okay. Made some bad decisions. So have I. Join the club. Join the club. Now, Does that mean what you're going to do is filter for that the rest of your life and repeat it over and over again and live those same emotions?

16:45Or can you believe you can grow and expand? Can you believe you can move from here to the next place just like you have in the past? You've already proven you can move from certain circumstances to other ones You've already proven you can grow and change Maybe you've changed in a way you're not proud of What that does prove is you can change You can change again What you focus on and if you can somehow begin to look at light and gratitude You can begin to look at that what you focus on expands You're going to get more of it. I'm serious if you can begin to find things that you're grateful for In your life, okay It will expand It begins to expand that lens starts to look for it Focus equals expansion.

17:32What you focus on will be expanding. Let me ask you a powerful question Just stay with me. Like, I don't know what to be grateful for right now. Who or what do you take for granted? Let's do the who. Is there anybody in your life that you take a little bit for granted? Maybe you take for granted that, I don't know, I'm making this up, that your mom's still alive and you can talk to her anytime you want, if she is. Maybe you take for granted how much the little things your significant other does for you. Maybe you take for granted that your girlfriends or boyfriends, your friends that love and support you in their quiet way.

18:03Maybe you take for granted the fact that there are people around you fighting battles. You know nothing about And they're doing it with grace They're doing it With strength Maybe you take for granted that there's someone that you love and care about that's hanging on by a thread right now But they're hanging on and that's admirable. What do you take for granted? That was the who now? What do you take for granted? You know, i've had real big health issues the last couple years for about 50 years of my life, I took my health really for granted. I woke up every day and my chest didn't have any pains.

18:35I woke up every day, there was no cancer in my body. I woke up every day and my back wasn't hurting me or my jaw. I had high energy. I just took that for granted. I've had a beautiful family, but they were there every day. I have some really good friends. I've had some good financial success. I make an impact in my life. I do work that I enjoy. I took a lot of that for granted. So when you begin to go, I don't know what to be grateful for, flip it. What am I taking for granted? What am I taking for granted? You know that right now you could probably walk to your refrigerator and there's some food in it.

19:12The more you begin to ask yourself, who or what am I taking for granted? Your mind flips into the antithesis of that and it changes the lens and you begin to be grateful. Maybe today, if you're married and you just walk in a room, just before you say anything, just take a look at your spouse or your girlfriend or your boyfriend or your children or your parents or your siblings or a friend. Just take them in for a second. Just see their soul. Don't see all the bad things you know about them, all the things they've done that you don't like. Just see their soul for a second. Just see their soul. How precious they are.

19:51Thank God they're still here, right? Thank God. They've also come a long way. They're also overcoming things. They also may not be aware of their filter or their lens, which causes them to behave in a way that doesn't serve them. So focus equals expansion. Who are you taking for granted? What are you taking for granted? And when you begin to understand that, the little things become the big things, and that focus equals expansion. And now you're starting to change your lens. You know the thing about you? You're probably being underestimated right now. In fact, you've probably always been underestimated.

20:24But here's the hook, and I have too. No one would pick me in high school to become successful or anybody anyone would listen to. There was nothing exceptional about anything about me. My grades, my abilities, my personality, my background, my track record. So I've always been underestimated. And probably you have too. Maybe you are right now. But here's the hook. You can't underestimate yourself. That's a killer. And too many of you have walked through your whole life underestimating you because you're waiting for someone else to see you a particular way. And if they see you, then you'll believe in you.

20:58Well, you'll be waiting a long time because that lens rarely comes back. You got to see you. You got to not underestimate yourself. You got to believe that confidence bends reality, but the lack of confidence bends it in an equivalent way, the other direction. You got to start to walk through your damn life. Like something great's about to happen. Like you expect it by and large, we get what we expect in our lives. Ask yourself, stop listening. I know you're going, Whoa, this is okay. I got it. Okay. This is great stuff. Now stop. What have you really expected the last year of your life? What have your expectations been.

21:37Expectations financially, expectations in your emotions, in your faith, in your relationships, in the way other people respond to you because you're getting what you expect. And when you begin to shift those expectations, reality begins to bend over time to some extent. You know how we know that? You're already proving it. It may take a while, but your life will eventually come back to the filter in the lens that you see it through. Be the one they never saw coming. Train in your life like you're a big underdog, but start to think like you're world class. All my life, I've known I was supposed to be somebody.

22:11And all my life, I knew I didn't have the talent. I didn't have the size. I didn't have the strength. I didn't have the intellect. I didn't have any of those things that people might think you need to have. But I know this, there's never been a test design, nor will there ever will be that can measure the heart of a champion. You cut open anybody who's done anything great in their life. One might be six foot four. One might be five foot four. One might be one part of the world. One might be another. One might be black. One might be white. One might be straight. One might be gay. One might be a Christian.

22:40One might be a Muslim. But when you cut them open, they're identical. And they train like an underdog, but they got the heart of a champion. Be patient in your life, but never wait. You have to have patience, but you got to be in a hurry. Be intense in your work, but calm in your mind. Be disciplined and be structured, but be willing to innovate. You got all this stuff. You can be the one they never saw coming. You can train like an underdog. You got the heart of a champion. Remember this. Focus on your energy. Energy is influence. Vibrational frequency is real. When you're vibrating at the highest possible frequency, you begin to draw things into your life, circumstances, places, things, people, emotions that were always there, but they are outside your energy's influence.

23:23They are outside your lens. You weren't seeing them, hearing them, or feeling them. By the way, the highest level of vibration is truth. And so when you actually begin to see your truth, as opposed to this lie that everything's stacked against you, that you're average and ordinary, that people don't like you much, that there's nothing to be grateful for, that nothing ever goes your way, that's a lie. And so what happens is it reduces your vibrational frequency. You believe it because it's in your lens. But when you switch the lens to truth, which is that you are favored, you were born to do something awesome with your life.

23:57The world is going to conspire to make your dreams come true over time. God did make you in his image and likeness. He did die for your sins. You are saved if you accept that and live forever. That vibrational frequency is real. The higher the frequency, the more you draw things into your life. Highest possible frequency, truth. So you have to ask yourself, is my lens, is my filter giving me truth or sort of a lie and a bias that I've been carrying for a long time. That lens is essentially your life bias, your mind virus, and it's going to keep giving to you that which you filter for. You got to become the type of person who runs towards the fire.