How To Begin a New Stage in Life With Candace Cameron Bure

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1:00This is the Ed Myland Show. Welcome back to the show, you guys. So this week's really special for me because I'm actually fanboying here a little bit. Really? Yeah. Actually a lot a bit. And so the woman to my left, she's an entrepreneur. You all know her from Full House. She's an actress. She's a producer. She's a best-selling author. She's an amazing wife. She's got all kinds of incredible things going on. Found out she's making tons of movies that we're going to talk about still. And so I cannot wait to pick your brain about your life because it's been so interesting. By the way, she's so nice and humble in person as well.

1:37So Candice Cameron Bure, welcome to the show. Thanks. Thanks for having me. It's great to have you. You know what I wanted to ask you first? Because the audience is, everyone listening or watching today, they're all at some different stage of their life, probably trying to make some type of a dream come true. and I've followed you for all of these years. You've had staying power, but you've had to remake yourself, right? And so what would you say to somebody, or how did you do it, where you have one thing in your life, and then it kind of ends? So you have Full House. You're known for that. I mean, that's a big deal, and then that's over.

2:10And for a lot of people, I think their career or something they've done and achieved becomes their identity. And so there's a lot of people today that just something's ended. Maybe a marriage has ended. A business has ended. Maybe they're an empty nester now. Their kids have moved out. So they're at this stage of life where something new is beginning, but something just ended. How did you deal with that? Or what advice would you give to somebody who's at that stage? I feel like the little engine that could. I just, I have a drive. And I think there are a lot of people that are motivated with that.

2:40And sometimes you just don't know what the first steps are. But I've always been a driven person. And if you have that drive and you're like, my life's not over, there's so much more living, there's so much more to do, whether you've been in that field before and had success or you want to try a whole new field, I'm the encourager to say, go do it. Go try it. Do it again. Who cares if you fail in the process? That's all part of the learning experience, right? Yes. Yes. That's easy to say, though, don't you think? Like, I mean, if someone's just had, well, like in your case, was there ever a dark period of your career?

3:21Or did you just go from project to project? Like when Full House ended? When Full House ended, I was 18 years old. I worked for a couple more years. But then I got married at 20 and had my first child at 22. So I then was out of the business for 10 years while I had kids. So I took a 10-year break. Wow. And then I came back in my early 30s and it was a new I mean a whole new thing because while there was success I was a kid I was on television I mean I've been working since I was five years old. Wow. So from five to 18 but on full house from 10 to 18 years old then you come back as an adult as a 30 something year old and you have to remind people.

4:10Yeah. Why they liked you. what you did and but yet you're coming back in a new position as a new revelation to people as you know there's some qualities that are the same and yet there's maturity that's gone on that you have to tell people you know hey this is who I am today and so I I had such a love and passion for the entertainment industry and storytelling and I had wanted to continue doing it. So that's why I feel like the little engine that could, because there was just been so many roadblocks along the way. I can't even begin to tell you. Maybe we'll talk about a few. That's interesting.

4:51You say the little engine that could, because I would think being gone that long, at least in my case, I've struggled with my confidence most of my life. You know, even the things that I'm good at when I don't do them for a while, or I'm starting over again. Did you, were you, did you come back? Like I can like with confidence or did you have to do something to rebuild that confidence again. I'm a fake it till you make it in the confidence kind of girl. I feel very nervous and I lack self-confidence often, more than I care to admit. I really wish that I was that person that could boldly walk into a room with confidence.

5:29And yet I've just motivated myself to fake it. And so I'm the girl that would have huge I still do I got the big armpit sweat stains because I'm like leaking through my clothes with nerves and yet I have that little drive that's like you can do this Candice you can do it just just do it go for it I'm so grateful that you would share that because I think most people in your position I've had a lot of people in the entertainment business on the show I think sometimes they think they have to like reveal perfection for people to think they're somehow Now, we almost look at celebrities as if they're different than us, when in fact, I've got to know through doing the show, they're just us.

6:12But I think a lot of celebrities sort of posture themselves as different than us and as special. You don't seem to have the need to do that. I just want to be myself. I don't want to walk through life being anyone else. I don't, when you have, whether it's an ego or there's a boastfulness, there's a pedestal and a standard that you have to live up to. Isn't that true? And who wants to do that? I don't. I would much rather boast in my failures and let God shine through of what he carries me through to do. I love that. But that was your kind of doing the interview for me to some extent, because I think there's certain people when you meet them, I'll just give you a compliment, that I think you see what I call the Holy Spirit on them.

7:03You see light in them when you meet them. And when you meet them, you're almost like, I'd like to have that in my life, too. And right when you walked in here, because we've not met before today. I mean, I know a bunch of people that know you. And likewise, we have mutual friends. But right when you walk in, there's a lightness to you in both ways. I mean, light, not heavy, meaning you're pleasant to be with. But I mean, you bring a light, God's light with you. Has that been part of your recipe of maybe when you don't believe in Candice necessarily, you do know that God's always got his hand on you?

7:34Oh, 100%. I know that God is walking with me every single step. That's where my confidence lies. Absolutely. Yeah. When I lack confidence, I know he has confidence and he's going to carry me through. Same here. Just went out on stage. Yeah. And if it was me alone, there's, I don't know how many thousands of people out there. When I, if I were out there alone, I'd be really scared and nervous because I know how inadequate I am, but I know he can carry me through that. Yeah. One thing I respect about you, and I'd like you to speak to this, you don't mind. It's kind of a serious thing too. You are pretty bold about your faith.

8:10I would say more than pretty bold. You've been bold about your faith, about expressing what you believe in. And a lot of blessings have come with that. However, so is criticism. And there's people listening to us today that wherever they are or want to speak up about something, it could be their faith, it could be some injustice they see at work, it could be something political. And here's the truth. Most people don't because of fear of retribution or criticism or hate. And you seem to be such this gentle, kind soul, but when it comes to the things you really believe in, it's like, get out of the way.

8:43I'm going to tell you what I really feel. Has that been something you've had, you've had to deal with criticism from it, right? And how have you? The word I've disliked most that I've heard back from people, it's not even people, but it's the people in positions of power that can determine the things I do and don't do in the entertainment industry is the word polarizing. And I just hate I'm like, okay, well, she's too polarizing. And so that's just been a word that I laugh out now. But my faith means so much to me. I can't leave it at the door when I walk outside of my home. It goes with me everywhere I go.

9:31And all the things that I do in my life, from my heart, I want to do them for the glory of God. I know I'll fail in many ways in doing that, but that is my greatest intention. And I care more about what God thinks about me than what people think about me. And that's a lesson I've had to learn over the years. That doesn't come naturally. I'm very much a people pleaser. And yet God has given me, because I believe in the Bible. I believe that the Bible is true. And when I read the words that are written, I believe them wholeheartedly. And so when I read from the words of Paul and he talks about considering that it's great joy to face trials because it produces endurance.

10:22and also talks about endurance producing proven character and character producing hope and the joy that we have within us. I believe those words to be true. So I want to live them out and rest on that hope and assurance. And that is what gives me, I guess, the confidence or strength to just say, I'm going to be unapologetic about this because guess what? I'm not facing you when I die. I'm going to be facing a holy God when I die. That's so beautifully said. Has it cost you a bunch? It has. What's it cost you? I mean, it's been incredible in some ways. So not to just focus on the negative. I didn't go into the entertainment industry thinking, thinking, hey, I'm going to use my Christianity to get ahead.

11:14I think anyone that goes into that is crazy because it doesn't necessarily get you ahead. It's probably, we'll put you two steps behind because it costs a lot more than usually helping you out in your career. However, I've had many blessings from it because I was bold in my faith. I co-hosted The View for two years. I mean, that was already 10 years ago, but that was a position. Yeah, that was a position I never thought that I would have done to be a co-host on that. And yet it has cost me things. It has cost me contracts, partnerships, relationships, friendships. I've been, yeah, dropped by companies and have lost out on interviews and even parts as an actor.

12:05promotional things because here's that word I'm too polarizing that's such a strange word for such a nice person you know I I wonder what it's like so were you raised in your faith because your brother's also bold about it I assume you're both raised with with faith is that true yes and no yeah yes and no so the first time I went to church I was 12 years old okay my dad was not a believer. My mom was a believer. And my parents, when I was 12, almost got divorced. A friend had them go to marital counseling together through the church. And that was a big deal because my dad was basically an atheist and was like, you guys can decide what religion you want to be when you're 18.

12:53I don't want religion. So when we started to go to church as a family, I became a believer at 12. But again, growing up in my home, my mom was a believer, loved it, was encouraging us. We would go to church, and she would talk about God to us, but my dad was never there. My dad is a Christian now, and he's been a Christian for a long time, but I don't think he became a Christian really until I was probably 25 years old, something like that. Okay. So this was something you sort of ended up building on your own. I mean, through mom. I really did. Through mom. Yeah. Through mom. But just at 12 years old, I really had a deep desire to know God once I was told about him.

13:41I'm like, there's a God out there that created the world and loved me, loves me. Like that was exciting. Yeah. You know what? I think, I think you're so right. I think everybody does. Yeah. I think everybody wants to know why they're here. Now, people have come to different conclusions and different answers for themselves. You and I have reached the same conclusion. But I do think that's the primary question of life. Why am I here? Where do I go when it's over? And everybody should be exploring that for themselves instead of having the noise of the world distract them all the time. I'm curious for you, because most people have never had what you've had.

14:14You're so humble, but you've had a life in many ways that's one that people would dream of in some senses, but it's just a very unique ride meaning this incredible fame right you're on the basically the number one tv show on the planet that was a decade long to this day probably you can't go anywhere where there's just raving fans who feel like they know you and you had all this hit young then it goes away for a while kind of i would think and then it comes back in droves now you're making four or five movies a year again which we'll talk about in a minute what is fame like because so many people want it Right.

14:52Like most people want some level of fame. They're they're obsessed with how many likes that I just get on my Instagram account. So everyone, it seems not everyone, but so many people are chasing some sort of adulation outside of God's or their own their own families. What's it like? Is it what it's cracked up to be? How's it what's the negatives and the positives? Yeah. Well, some of the positives of fame. I think the number one thing I think about is influence. You have influence over a lot of people. What you use that influence for determines who you are, what you want to put out into the world.

15:30But what an opportunity to have fame equals influence is very powerful and can be used for so much good. The opposite can be true as well. you know being famous typically if you have good people around you can mean financial security you know that helps with life sure but the negatives I would say to fame is lack of privacy and people don't realize what that feels like until it's gone you know some of us and I and I say this myself um like I love social media I love sharing with people and some people share a lot of their life on social media however when things get shared about you that you did not give permission for or photos are released or things are said about you that lack of privacy whether it's online or in person, people following you, wanting something of you or your time because they feel that they deserve it and you need to give it to them because they feel a certain way towards you, even though you don't know this person, but they feel like they know you.

16:49It's a strange place to be in and you just don't know it until you experience it. It's really true because you grew up with notoriety. my form of it however I get it happened much later in life as like a middle-aged guy and it's shocking I think it used to be cooler to be well known and famous before social media so I only the only thing I disagree with because of what you just said it's the never-ending things that can be said about you that are out of your control yeah so it is a very different thing but it's branding notoriety it's almost business has almost become to me it's used to be who do you know now it's more who knows you yeah you know it's much easier to get marketing done and branding done and attention for projects so it's a it's a double-edged sword for sure so you're you speaking of projects I didn't know any of this about you till I started prepping for the interview my son is the producer and so he's like dad this woman is fascinating look at these successes she's had and these different things she's done and I didn't I didn't know that and I apologize for that but don't oh my gosh like you're a legit big-time entrepreneur so so the other night my daughter's home from college we're like hey let's have a great healthy meal and guess what we did and it's because of butcher box i'm so grateful we found butcher box i'm so grateful they sponsored the show right now if you're leaning in you want to feel stronger or clearer a little bit more put together before the summer sneaks up it starts with what you're eating but for me i want to eat healthy but i want to enjoy the food too you want results you want energy but you want it to taste good butcher box focuses on clean protein raised right because you are what you eat butcher box delivers over 100 premium protein options straight to your door it's all responsibly raised and thoughtfully sourced so you're not guessing about what's on your plate so as an exclusive offer new listeners get their choice between chicken wings sirloin tips or ground beef for life plus 20 off when you go to butcherbox.com slash my let that's right your choice of chicken or top sirloin or ground beef the rest of your life plus twenty dollars off your first box and free shipping always that's butcherbox.com slash my let don't forget to use our link so they know we sent you there so i'm trying to keep fewer things but i'm trying to keep better ones pieces that are well made and easy to wear all the time and that's why i'm coming back to quince the fabrics feel about the fabrics feel elevated the fits are thoughtful and the pricing actually makes sense i've been getting a lot of compliments on what I've been wearing on the show and 90 % of what I have on, I got at Quince.

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20:05They're taking control of their body or their finances or something like that. And so you've been successful in many different businesses, you and your husband. But one of them I want to talk about, just because I think it's cool, is the wine business. Okay. So how the heck does that happen, Miss Christian Girl? I know. Now that we're talking about alcohol. So let's hear what this is. Honestly, I'm happy to talk about it, but it's really for my husband. I know that. He runs that. So my husband was a professional hockey player. He was in the NHL for 12 years. And when you're a professional athlete, you usually have to have a second career.

20:41And my husband was drafted by the Montreal Canadiens. So we first lived in Montreal. He's from Russia. And he came here at 17 years old. And when we were living in Montreal as a very young married couple, he was exposed to great food and wine for the first time in his life. Such a great city. And so we are big foodies and enjoy great wine also. And so as Val played the years through hockey and was starting to think about what is my next, my second act, what am I going to do once I retire? He knew immediately he wanted to be in the food and wine industry. So we actually had opened a restaurant at one point, had that for a couple of years during the last two years of his career.

21:27but we had been to Italy, we had been to France, fell in love with the wine region, and then we went to Napa Valley, and Val said, this is it. And there was a lockout year in the NHL. So that lockout year, nobody was playing. He came to Napa Valley, spent the year during harvest and making relationships, understanding, just learning the whole business, spent about eight months, so that when he was ready to retire, he said, this is what I'm going to do, and did it. And I just know my husband. He is a very driven person. He is also an Olympian. And I say that because Olympians have a whole different mentality in terms of a standard that they can accomplish that I'm like normal people just don't have that kind of dedication and commitment.

22:17And so I know when he puts his mind to something, he will do it 110%. And so he's like, this is what I want to do. And I was like, fantastic. Fantastic. Let's go do it. So there's two of you in one relationship then, right? So there's two mega achiever doers. Yes. And so you've got businesses. He's got business. You're also, like, you're really busy. How long does it take to make a movie, typically speaking? Well, for television movies, because I produce all of them. I know. So my, you know, it's about five to six months from start to finish. So that's finding a script, prepping the movie, which is about three to four weeks.

23:02The shooting is the shortest part of it. We're shooting these movies in 15 days. And then you have a post, which is about 12 weeks or so. Okay. So listen to this, everybody. You're doing like four or five a year. Yeah. I have five movies this year. Oh, my gosh. So you have five movies, businesses. He's got a business. Kids, you're now an empty nester. Is that right? Our youngest still lives at home, but my kids are, two are married and, you know, they're all adults. Okay. So a lot of people wonder this, like, plus you got church life and this stuff, and we're both speaking at the same event here today.

23:38It's a fair question. By the way, sometimes people say, well, women get asked this more than men. I asked the same question to men. Like, how the heck, like, do you have a system of how you hold all of this together, a way of being? Like, that's bananas. It seems to me like, you know, like, like she got here, you guys. Just so you know, FYI, she was here 10 minutes later. Bam, we're sitting down doing the interview. When the interview is done, bam, she's up on the stage. Like, it could be out of control, but it seems to not be with you. No, I have an incredible team of people. And so I have, I mean, I have a company, Candy Rock Entertainment, and I have two incredible business partners.

24:16And then we have our team that works for us. So I had to learn how to delegate because of that drive that I have. And once I learned how to do that, I'm like, oh, I don't have to be the ringleader and master of all things at all times. And so that's how I managed to do it. But I have a great team that helps put the schedule together and make sure that I'm prepped and ready to go. But, I mean, I do my homework. I do the work. But I couldn't do it without my team. And I would say the hardest part is balancing home life. My marriage is incredibly important to me as it is my husband. And so we make significant priorities in our relationship to be together because we both travel a lot as well.

25:04But to be together, to stay connected, to have the conversations, to be physically together with one another in person and not just talking on the phone or FaceTime. I mean, that is a key priority. And I also, that is a key priority within my team that they know that sometimes we have to say no to things because if I need to be with my husband, that takes priority over everything else. What's it look like though? Like how do you do that? So is it a scheduling thing? It's a scheduling thing. We kind of have this two-week rule. We just made that up. That's what my husband would say. It would be a two day rule if he could have his his preference.

25:47But because I travel and I go away for a movie for a month, we don't like to be apart for more than two weeks. So he'll come up to visit me as soon as I come home. I just kind of know that, hey, once I come home from something, I need two weeks at home. I need substantial time to nurture our relationship and keep it going. We've been married, it's going to be 30 years in June. It's Valerie, right? Yeah. Yeah. What a great player, by the way, too. Congratulations. That's a long time. Thank you. Yeah. And you seem very much in love still. You had dinner last night with a friend of mine, and he's like, yeah, they're still whooped.

26:23That's so cool, though. That's so awesome. What do you do? Do you have any rituals or things you do to hold it all together? I know you have a prayer life, clearly. Yeah. But you're also, you appear to be in great shape. So, like, what do you do to keep this whole thing, this train, moving all the time? Do you have some daily rituals or habits that you would share for super busy people? I'm in the gym every morning or out for a walk. My fitness is incredibly important. I'm also turning 50 this year. And so I want to do all the things that will make me feel my best going into the second half of life.

26:59God willing, I live to 100. So fitness is important. And that clears my brain. It helps me mentally focus. And so I schedule and prioritize my fitness time. And it's like an hour. You know, it's not crazy. And I would say my prayer life is very big in my Bible time and focusing on my time with the Lord. Because I'm not walking my life for me. God's given me my life. And he's entrusted me to live it out. And so I got to check it in with him daily. God, is this what you want me to do today? Is this the plan that you would have for me? Is this the road that you want me to walk on? Is this the decision you'd like me to make?

27:44I have to check in with him about everything because it's really his life that he's given me to live out. Can I ask you something personal on that? I think people that hear that sometimes, especially if they're maybe they're new to their faith or maybe they don't have faith yet. and they hear something like that and they say so what like she hears voices and i mean this sincerely right what how because i've asked a lot of believers this how is it that you get an answer is it is it you feel something do you think you audibly hear something is it just your discernment kicks in and there's a sense of direction or certainty about it i think a lot of people would really be interested as to how that sort of plays out or manifests itself with you and over probably over your life, you've become very accustomed to whatever that sense is that you have.

28:32Yeah. And I would call it that. It's a sense. I do not hear God's voice audibly. Wish I would. I haven't. But a lot of times, it's what we feel when we feel our conscience. You can feel conviction. Maybe your heart pitter-patters a little bit faster. Maybe your palms get sweaty. Sometimes there's a physical reaction in that way. But it's, you know, when you walk into a room and maybe it's scary looking in there, you kind of, there's something in your being that says, hey, the red flags are going up or the hair on your arm stands up. Hey, this isn't right. It's kind of the same feeling. So when I'm praying and I'm talking to God, a lot of times, again, I don't hear a physical voice, but sometimes I don't necessarily hear anything.

29:25And to me, that just means it's a go. There's no red flag coming up. So if I'm praying through this or have a decision to make and I'm saying, God, this is what I'm going to do, tell me if you don't want me to. And if I don't hear anything, then I go, great, it's a go. When I feel something that I go, ah, I'm going to halt. I'm going to stop. I'm going to think about this some more. It's kind of that reaction of your conscience or just when you get a red flag. Maybe it's in your gut. It can be anything. And then the most important part, because then I know all of us can say, well, this is the answer I really want.