Maximizing Returns: The Power of Real Leverage In Your Life

24:18So maybe when that hour goes off, you know what flashes on the screen? Your outcomes and your goals. Hourly, the alarm goes off. Hourly the alarm goes off. It'll begin to train you to begin to measure the time frame of your performance every hour. Now let me ask you a question. There's a group of people that measure their performance, their race, their marathon is once a year. Then there's those that do it once a month that make adjustments and measure where they are and increase effort. Then those that do it monthly, weekly, daily, hourly. I can tell you that I run many days and I measure my performance hourly.

24:52it will transform your life you will become more productive in your family in your personal relationships in your faith in your business in your fitness in your nutrition in your money in every area if just something goes off every by the way it's a five second just reminder am i closer to my outcome if i move closer to my to-do list today what adjustments do i need to make you'll be reminded at that time of someone you forgot to call an email you didn't return a meeting you haven't asked for yet, something you're supposed to eat, hydrate, whatever it is, if you can begin to have that alarm, just go, it's just five seconds.

25:24It's just every hour. It's just five seconds. And I'll tell you, it happens to me constantly now. And I know that one of the reasons my life has improved is because I've shrunk the timeframes down of where I measure my results, where I recalibrate, where I course correct, where I make an adjustment, where I realize I'm behind, or I've made a mistake, and I improve a performance. And so so far can you imagine if you started just being a bigger hurry and you had perception Correct about how close you really are to your goal the difference in winning and losing is this much It's like a veil and when you remove that veil you see my gosh I'm so much closer I promise you one of the things that you suffer from isn't just like a lack of vision and clarity I wish you more clarity and more specificity in your vision and I wish you more proximity, that you knew how much closer you were to achievement than you think you are.

26:15In fact, it's the fact that you think you're so far away from achieving these things that's causing them to constantly stay that far away from you because you're not running fast enough towards them. You're not measuring them fast enough. You're killing your goals and your dreams by thinking they're so far away. It kills everything. If you knew how close you really were, you'd run so much faster. So if you altered that, if you altered the first 30 minutes to an hour of your day, and you just stopped letting yourself be a reactor, but you took control and became a dictator of your time. If you manipulated and bended time like I have to where a day is six hours, let the rest of the world think a day is 24 hours.

26:55And by the way, someone just made that crap up a long time ago. An hour of measurement, 24 hours is a day, 365 is a year. Someone just made that up and everybody's bought into it. Well, guess what? I've made mine up. My days are six hours long. I've just manipulated and changed time. It's a figment of our imagination is how time works. And what if an alarm could go off every hour in that mind of yours, in that heart of yours, just checking, just a wake up call, just a wake up, just an alarm. Hey, am I closer to my goals? Am I closer to my outcome? What adjustments do I make? What course corrections?

27:27What was achieved? What am I grateful for? It's just a five to 10 second reminder and you're back off to the races again. If the earth spins around once, we call that a day. If the moon goes around us once, we call that a month. If we go around the sun once, we call that a year. It's just stuff people made up, right? And so time is a figment of our imagination. And if you'd use your imagination, imagine what you could accomplish if you shrunk the timeframes down. The last thing I want to tell you about time is that the best people I know have a focus on the future and use their time in the present.

27:59They focus on the future and use their time in the present. Too many of you are focused in the past and are thinking all the time about the future dreaming and aren't taking advantage of the present. The present is a gift and we need to treat it as such. The past is literally gone forever and in many cases it's a figment and a manipulation of our imagination. The future is grand and powerful and we need to be focused there and thinking about it and dreaming about it because we are pulled towards it. But the best people can simultaneously be dreaming and optimistic about the future and take massive action right now.

28:36Most of the max out achievers I know in my life spend almost 0 % of their time on the past. And I'm talking about people who have pretty darn good pasts in some cases as well. It is wasted time. You are wasting time. You're stealing and robbing your future and your present by focusing any of your attention or thoughts on the past. The past, if it's negative and wasn't positive for you, is a place you should avoid forever. It's not coming back. It doesn't exist anymore. All we really truly have is this moment right now and our dreams about the future. If the past was wonderful and you were a high school quarterback or had a business victory or got a college degree or had an achievement there, those things aren't your present and aren't your future and dwelling on them and focusing on what you've done previously is not going to produce for you a future.

29:26Here's the truth. Your past does not equal your future. What will equal your future is what you do in the present. And so I want to encourage you to take these tips I've shared with you today. And I want you to know if you would make a couple of these changes, I can assure you your future is closer to you than you think it is if you'll take massive action right now in the present. So hey guys, as you know, I've partnered up with my good friend Brennan Brouchard, who's created the greatest personal development system that has ever been designed called Growth Day. There's everything from journaling to accountability programs, live messages every Monday from myself and other influencers.

30:02There's an opportunity for you to get courses that would cost thousands of dollars completely for free. It's incredible. Go to growthday.com forward slash ed and check it out. I want you to remember something. Comparison is the pathway to unhappiness. I'm telling you that in every area of your life where you find unhappiness, you will find comparison. In fact, the antithesis to that is also true. When there is no comparison, you cannot create unhappiness in your life. That's a pretty bold and powerful statement, but it's true. We only feel unhappy in our lives when we compare something to maybe something in our life that was a different time.

30:37Maybe perhaps when we were wealthier, or in a different relationship, or we were healthier on some level. Comparing our current conditions to previous ones, that comparison is what creates the unhappiness. It's actually not the condition itself. Or perhaps you're in a relationship where you compare it to a previous relationship you had and how they treated or how you felt at that time. Perhaps you compare this time in your life just to simply a different time. And that comparison will always create unhappiness in your life. If you can remove yourself from comparing both yourself to a previous time in your life, a previous condition, a previous situation, or even comparing yourself to other people in your life.

31:15This is a recipe and a formula for unhappiness. Every single time in your life where you're experiencing unhappiness, you are doing a comparison to something. It's the contradiction between your current situation, current relationship, current body, current finances, current anything, and something exterior. Either a previous time in your life, a previous person in your life, or you comparing yours to someone else's. It is an insidious disease that so many people in society suffer from today, particularly because of the advent of social media. We watch someone's video of what they're doing on a Friday night, and it's not what they're doing that makes us unhappy.

31:52It's comparing what they're doing to what we're doing that makes us unhappy. It's seeing people laughing and jovial, or jet setting, or seeming to be having a great time compared to what we're doing, and that creates unhappiness. It's not the success of people you know that's making you unhappy. It's you're comparing your situation to the success they're having that creates unhappiness in your life So for those of you that are struggling and saying you know one of the things I suffer from is I'm just not very happy very often I can tell you that that presence of Unhappiness you will always link to a comparison of some sort either in your own life or in other people's lives and just being aware of that fact and stopping the comparison embracing this moment, embracing this time, knowing that you can't go back to that previous time, knowing that you can't be in somebody else's life.

32:40You're not gonna have that other body right now. And so if you're looking to be happier, I can promise you the number one key that I would give you is to stop the comparison game. You'd say, well, that's not completely true. I mean, what if someone passes away? That makes me unhappy. There's no comparison there. Let's take the most extreme example. Or when someone's sick in my family, you know someone in my family's got a really bad illness that makes me unhappy that's not a comparison in fact it is the fact of the matter is that when someone gets sick in your family or passes away what you do in your mind is you compare it to when they were healthy so that comparison of I wish they were healthier again that is a comparison between the previous situation and the current condition if someone passes away it's comparing the time that you had them that's why people say if I could just have one more moment with them if I could just have another conversation.

33:32It's comparing it to when you had the moment. It's comparing it to when you had the conversation. And so those are extreme examples, but we reduce it all the way down to anything right now in your life that you say, it brings me unhappiness. There's no joy there. There's a comparison happening that's not serving you. It's so important to take a look at it because I really believe most people think, and I've covered this before from a different angle, that if I can just change my exterior circumstances, I will be happier. And that's because they're comparing their current circumstances to someone else.

34:02That'd be like somebody sitting in their home who's unhappy in their current home and saying, what I'm going to do is I'm going to rearrange the house and then I'll be happier. And so they rearrange the exterior furniture, the exterior conditions of the house. And then when they sit back down, they're still unhappy. So they go, okay, what I'll do is I'll rearrange the exterior of the house again or the interior. They fix it again and they're still unhappy. The reason that's so important is when you accept the fact that it's not the external conditions of your life that create happiness. What creates happiness in our life is realizing that we are not our possessions.

34:37We are not our titles. We are not our recognition. We are not our accolades. We are not our popularity. That we're perfect as we are. We're perfect as we are. That we begin to accept ourselves and love ourselves as we are is when we find true happiness. But comparing yourself to another time where maybe you had more recognition, you had a better title, you had more influence, will always lead you to a pathway of unhappiness. Now, I'm not talking about self-love in the sense that you just accept everything in your life and you sit around. What I'm suggesting to you is happiness and success are often two different things.

35:12Happiness comes from acceptance. Happiness comes from surrender and loving ourselves as we are. Because if we think we're just going to rearrange the furniture and then we're happier, we still live in the house that is us. We are still housed, our souls, our hearts and our minds are still housed in the same home, which is our body. And if we can't begin to love it without the comparison of some change, we're never going to love it. We will always be trying to exchange the furniture of our life. We'll always be trying to change the exterior. So many of you achievers are listening to this right now and you're nodding and you're saying, my gosh, that's why I'm never happy.

35:49I'm always thinking if I could just exchange the furniture if I could just change the external conditions then I'll be happy then I'll be happy Then I'll be happy and every time you switch the furniture every time you change the conditions of your life You find yourself very short term finding happiness and then right back to the unhappy state That's because you keep comparing your situation to someone else's no matter how good yours is You have to compare it to someone else someone else's recognition someone else's well someone else's supposed happiness someone else's relationship, someone else's body, someone else's confidence.

36:22And that comparison is flooding you with unhappiness no matter how good or how bad the external conditions of our lives are. Now, having said that, we've now found a formula, haven't we? That we know when we compare to something, it creates unhappiness in us. This is a key to success now. So we know to find happiness in our lives, we have to stop comparing. However, when there's an area we know we must change. Stay with me here. When there's an area we know we must change, now we use comparison as a weapon to our advantage because most people are motivated by avoiding pain, right? That's their motivation, to avoid unhappiness.

37:03And so I use comparison as a weapon, as a catalyst to get leverage on myself to change. So I'm very conscious when I'm feeling unhappiness in an area that I'm I'm not conscious of changing to not do comparison. But when it's an area I must change, I do use comparison as my own weapon to get leverage because the gateway to get people say to me all the time, how do I get leverage? How do I get drive? How do I get that voiding pain thing? Comparison, comparison. So it's a two-edged sword. We use it against ourselves too often in our life that gives us misery and unhappiness and takes our bliss away.

37:40And not enough of us leverage the power of unhappiness using comparison to our advantage. For a perfect example, right now I'm not in the physical shape that I want to be. I am comparing myself to the previous fit version of me. And this discomfort, this dislike, this pain, this unhappiness that I'm flooding myself with by using the weapon of comparison to my advantage is a catalyst to get me going forward. I shared a story on social media the other day. I was at the gym and I was working out and already not feeling great about how I've looked. I've had enough people comment, man, you're looking.

38:12When you're a fit person or if you're a male and you're kind of a, I don't know, a bodybuilder or whatever, but you have muscle on your body, when people see you, they haven't seen you for a long time, they'll say things like to you, hey, you're looking pretty lean. Look like you're slimming down. That's not what you want to say to someone who's sort of muscular, right? And that's usually code for, you don't look as good. You're shrinking, right? And so I've been hearing that lately from people. I had a good friend of mine hug me the other day and he's like, wow, I can get my arms all the way around your back.

38:37He used to have these huge lats. Couldn't even get my arms around. Your arms were so big too. Like, wow. So I'm working out at the gym and a young man's behind me and I hear him say, Hey, Hey. And I finally lift my earphones off. And he says, Mr. Mylett, would you please get out of the way so I can look at myself in the mirror when I'm working out? I'm not kidding you. And I looked back at him and I went, are you crazy? I won't even give you the words that I really said to him. Right. And, uh, and I, I just will leave it at that. So he let, I let him know that that wasn't an appropriate thing to say to me.

39:08But what I did is I used it as leverage when I left there. I'm like, my gosh, two years ago, no one would want me to get out of the way. No one would talk to me like that. But right now I look so average or bad. He's like, get out of the way so I can look at somebody who's really jacked up and fit. Right. And I'm leveraging that comparison to what I used to look like to my advantage that's causing me to eat cleaner. I'm telling you, since that's happened, every meal that's been put in front of me, I think about in slow motion. I could see it in slow motion. Him telling me to get out of the way and me feeling like the most out of shape, not fit human being on earth.

39:43And what I was doing was comparing myself to the two year ago version of me when I was much bigger. And that comparison is giving me leverage, okay? And so I will use leverage to get me to do things. I will let people, see a lot of people say, that would knock a lot of people down. But that's not what it did to me. It gave me fuel to my fire. The winners use fuel to their fire. They will use comparison as a weapon when I see people succeeding in different areas I don't use the comparison of them doing it to create unhappiness with me I will use it tactically in specific situations to cause me to want to move away from how I feel about that comparison Either my previous body my previous wealth my previous energy my previous influence Mike my cameraman and I were just talking today outside and I said to him, you know, I used to be better speaker than I am now.

40:34And I said, man, if you'd have seen me years ago, you'd have seen the energy I brought, how dynamic I was, how articulate I was compared to this version of me now. And the reason I'm doing that is I want to get better as a speaker. I'm using that comparison. It makes, it gives me pain and unhappiness to think about the kind of communicator I am now compared to how I viewed the previous situation. So I compared it to give me leverage to improve, to make it a catalyst to change. I understand when to use comparison and when not to. When I want to create a situation of change, I will leverage comparison to my advantage.

41:09When I want to create a situation of bliss and happiness and I'm feeling unhappy in an area, I just always evaluate what I'm comparing at that time and I remove the comparison and it creates a happy situation. Remember this, when there's no comparison there's always happiness where there is no comparison unhappiness cannot exist comparison and unhappiness only coexist together and so I will only leverage this very dangerous thing called comparison when it's an area I must change in my life to get leverage for those of you that want to create change it's okay to leverage it from time to time but when you become addicted to the mechanism of comparison to get you going, to competing to get you going all the time.

41:52When you're always competing against others, always comparing with others, people say, well, there's a difference between competing and comparing. Truthfully, not much. And the fact of the matter is to compete against somebody, you are typically comparing where you are to them. It's not necessarily a bad thing, but when you leverage that mechanism over and over, it's a pathway to unhappiness. When a woman goes out in the evening and she's feeling great about how she looks that evening. And she walks in and she immediately compares herself to the other people in the room. She will inevitably find a woman that she thinks is more attractive than her.

42:26And it steals your unhappiness for the entire evening. Men, same thing. Where maybe you've had some financial success and you're proud and you've gone out and you're whatever, your new car or your new suit or you've got a new watch on or whatever. You're just feeling good about yourself. And then immediately when you go out, you begin to compare yourself to other men or other people. And what it will do is immediately steal all your joy. Or if you're a couple and you're having a beautiful date night and you happen to observe, you're comparing to other couples in the restaurant, for example, and there's just some couple who's more affectionate or holding hands differently, or he opened the door for her, and you immediately steal your joy and create unhappiness for the evening.

43:06When you compare the treatment of your partner in the relationship to how your girlfriend's husband or boyfriend treats them, or if you're a male in a relationship and you compare it to how one of your friends' wives or girlfriends treats them, you've immediately created a formula for unhappiness. You will never win the comparison game if your outcome is happiness. You will win the comparison game if your outcome is change or pain avoidance. So you've got to get clear on what your outcomes are. There's areas of your life where comparisons should never exist. And in most times, that's your relationships with other people.

43:41Don't compare to a previous time in your relationship because it'll create unhappiness. Don't compare to other relationships or other people. So I understand in my life where to use this weapon and where to put it down. And if you want to create more bliss, if you want to create more connection in your life, you need to learn to put the weapon, the very dangerous weapon, the very insidious weapon of comparison down most of the time. And only pick it up where you want massive change. And the truth of the matter is there's probably one or two areas of your life at any given time that you're really working on changing.

44:13And you can harness the power of the comparative relationship to your advantage there. But what the vast majority of us do, and I know this from my own experience, is we're always in comparison mode. We're comparing our home, our relationship, our fitness, our happiness, our strength, our energy, our looks, our brains, our accolades, our achievements to other people all the time. And we wonder why we live unhappy almost all of the time. It's because you're always comparing you lose that every Single time you think well, no sometimes I compare it. I'm ahead It's not how your brain works your brains eventually looking for the person that you lose to your brain is eventually gonna find the better looking funnier wealthier fitter happier better relationship having person to why are you for pain?

44:57It's a part of our brain that was wired all the way back for survival mode in order to keep us functioning The reason that this is so important is we both have two parts of ourselves. We have a higher self and what I'd call a lower self. And it's okay to live in both those places, but most happy people live in their higher self state the vast majority of the time. The higher self state is very inward. They're focused on themselves. They're focused on creating bliss and happiness. And the only thing that they ever focus on outside of there is their spirituality, the universe, their God, their connection with something bigger than them.

45:29Our lower self is always external. but we need to have that lower self because that lower self is that catalyst that gets us to move that lower self does compete that lower self does compare it's a matter of having a life of both of success and fulfillment happiness and achievement happiness is achieved in the higher self by not comparing and not going external not thinking the external furniture our life or external people or comparing outside of ourselves or comparing to a different time outside of ourselves that that that person right there that doesn't do that, they end up living very happily.

46:05The person who achieves leverages the lower self by competing and comparing when needed. And remember this also, the more we begin to learn about ourselves is always a win. The more we have a breakthrough and a discovery, there's probably some things I've said today that have made you think. There's probably some things you're evaluating and seeing in yourself that maybe you were blind to before, and just that discovery is a win. The more we begin to evaluate and discover what our thoughts really are, what our behaviors seem to be, our habits and our patterns. The more we become self-aware, the more we have the capacity to live as the higher self, and the more powerful it is when we leverage the lower self and we leverage comparison.

46:44And so don't beat yourself up over what I've covered today. Self-awareness and self-discovery is what life's all about, and it's a win even if you discover something about yourself you're not proud of. Even if you discover something about yourself that you wish didn't exist or that you wanted to change, that's discovery. That awareness is 80 % of the step to changing it. And so give yourself some credit today for being aware, for being honest. Oftentimes when content like this is covered, people sort of like to check the box of who they'd like to be and that it doesn't apply as opposed to who they really are.

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48:33Go to shopify.com slash my let now to grow your business. No matter what stage you're in shopify.com slash my let. This is a segment from Ed's interview with Dean Graziosi. Let's stay on this, everyone. This is like kind of breakthrough stuff, even though you, you, I want you to hear me on this. There's a lot of talk in personal about breaking patterns. I talk about all the time you do tony does There's also a lot of power in leveraging them And this idea there's two things that are going to move every human being dean's told you it's either to avoid pain moving from pain or to gain pleasure absolutely and usually Most human beings I think in general pain avoidance is the stronger of the mechanism, but it works for both people You need to know which one moves you so you've already said yours is pain avoidance.

49:19Yep, right? So is mine the truth is i've become a pretty big dreamer visionary guy, but I wasn't yeah It took me a long time to get there long time to get there And the fact is I only really got really good at that after certain dreams were achieved But why I had to figure out which one moves me more? Okay avoiding pain moves me more even to this day Why it's more familiar to me. Yeah, I grew up in pain So go take a look at the video of your life Did you grow up in a really beautiful environment with lots of love and dreams and bliss and all this great stuff? Maybe your mover is more bling dreams and bliss if you grew up in some pain chaos angst fear anxiety stress That's probably your pattern and instead of trying to spend all your life breaking that pattern There's parts of it.

50:00You need to break your beat your behavior from it But the mechanism itself for change for me is pain and pain avoidance I'm familiar with lots of pain and so to this day Why do I prepare for speeches or podcasts or things so bad is it because I want the pleasure of a great podcast? Yeah, that's there. You don't want to screw up. I don't want to screw up. Yeah, I don't want to make a mistake I don't want it not to be good. Why do I work so hard is to make difference in the world Okay, so you I don't think anybody listening would know the kind of work you put in it seriously I don't think they know that you started at 3 30 gonna do four podcasts They're gonna jump you're gonna go take a suit.

50:33You're gonna go do an event tonight You're gonna get up in the morning fly someplace I don't think anybody realize that are you doing that because you want to sell more books? Are you doing it because you don't want to sell just one I'm doing it cuz I don't want to just sell one right now Now you've evolved because you know every time a book gets in someone hand you get to change their lives I do right so just nail it I was just gonna say the other part of it is impact right so you know the impact yep But you're not saying but I know for a fact you're getting up tomorrow morning subconsciously.

50:56Yes, not saying I'm getting up tomorrow I don't want to say you're getting up subconsciously because you don't want to fail I don't pain hurts. It's a major and everybody told us we weren't gonna make it and our parents probably thought we weren't gonna Make it and all that kind of stuff. It's a major driver And by the way my impact stay with me on this because I know you're this way too because you grew up in pain The impact I make still comes from pain meaning this I know so many people are in pain and because I connect with their pain their lack of belief in themselves They're feeling invisible.

51:22They're hurting right now. They want to be happier. That connection of pain is still the impact I want to make. So a lot of it is connected somehow to pain in my life. And it is for you, too. It's like one is avoiding the pain of failing or not being successful or not ending up in heaven, which is that picture of who I'm capable of becoming. Like, do I really want to just get to heaven or is it the pain of not becoming that man? It's both. But also even the impact part where I go, I want to make an impact in people's lives is because I connect with pain. I connect with the discomfort and you want to get it out of them.

51:52I want to get it out of them. Yeah So that's a major driver for me is pain and I know my map and I know my pattern and that's why so many athletes by the way When their career is over They have a very difficult time one their identity was tied to their athleticism But also there's no pain to avoid anymore now. They're getting pat on the back. You were great. I loved your games There's no pain to avoid. There's nothing to fill so I gotta think you're that way, too I am and and the only reason I share that is because I hope You don't use pain to be successful for the rest of your life But you can use it as that launching pad.

52:22Yeah, it's a leverage you can use as a launching pad to start the business to show up for the challenge to play full out to do something uncomfortable Right the the term i've been using since covet is we all need to take more uncomfortable action Did it surprise you that I said I don't want to just sell one book or did you think that's what I was going to say? I knew that's what you're going to say. Okay. Yeah, because it's me, right? I play like i'm 10 points down tony and I are doing this challenge, right? We're going to put a million people in it. That's the goal last year. We put 900 000 in right and it changed a million people's lives right this year i i attacked this ed as if two people are going to show up because i know if you show up i know the end result i saw hundreds of thousands of comments a day of like oh my god i didn't know it was going to be like this oh my god i love you tony i love you dean i love you thank you thank you and you know that driver just like the come i see the comments coming in for your book you want to sell another 200 000 copies in the next two weeks so you can help people I will play like i'm 10 points down through this entire challenge.

53:19I will rehearse I've already watched the last two years that we did this. I watched what tony did I watched what I did. He's doing the same thing. We're prepping if people are going to show up Even we want to deliver something that's transformational But i'm going to look through the lens of not wanting to fail still because that's how That's this the i'm avoiding the pain of it not working at the level of the impact that I want to make Yep, right and and I know we went down a couple different rabbit holes But I just want to give people permission today heading into a recession heading into a shifting world again I hope it doesn't but it looks like an economic winter is here I'm gonna tell you use whatever leverage you can use to move Yep, just move in a direction investigate look where the puck is going look for something different explore question every story that comes into your head Know your enemy that story that's already screwed you over and cost you too much.

54:10You know that How do you shift that story? How do you barricade it? How do you not let it in? How do you talk to someone like whatever you got to do? I just believe this is an crucial time I do too in people's lives. I think that what you do the next There's this analogy in anti-aging David Sinclair dr. David's Claire's been on my show a few times He goes hey if you can get to like 75 in this day and age You're probably gonna live to 100 if you can get to 70 Wow and in the world today I really believe that if you can get this next two years nailed yeah you've got 20 year type multipliers of wealth bliss and happiness in your life if you can get the but if you don't these next two years i think the difficulty of getting there is magnified by a huge factor i think right now is a chance to get way ahead that same analogy to get to 75 gets you to 100 i think if you can get these next two years just momentum you have to make millions of dollars but you just get momentum you get in your groove you get moving but if you stay stagnant another Couple years you don't get something going the longer you do that.

55:10It's harder to get that sucker going again And I feel like it'll be much harder those people that get moving now They get and by the way it might evolve you may start marketing one thing right now and it evolves into something else over time But you've got to get in motion right now. Do you agree with that? Oh true story? I heard somebody say it's a strategic byproduct how many times in life have we had a goal and when we have the nerve to go after the goal We find something as a strategic byproduct the goal. It's way bigger way bigger you never thought you'd have one of the top podcasts in the world one top books in the world it's a strategic byproduct of you going all in on your businesses wanting to impact others right that's a great point so know that when whether it's god the universe rewards you for just having the nerd to go after it and usually your goal you're something so much bigger or something different that actually aligns with you there's a couple things i i think as we as we're at this point in the podcast i want to say this is a couple things if you're going to protect yourself build a moat build a moat on your emotions and what i'd say is the news is going to get worse that's a fact conversations with your negative friends is going to get worse that's a fact i would say if you really want to stop dabbling you know it's somebody who said they want to lose weight but when no one's watching they're eating the wrong food or someone says they want to start the business but no one's watching they're binging out on netflix you know if you're that person and i'm not knocking you if that's who you are enjoy it live it but don't say You want it don't talk out of two sides of your mouth like either go all in burn the boats and do it or just accept the life that you have Like I hate to be real But you can't lose weight and not work out and eat bad like it just doesn't where you can't make more money Have Ed's life or someone else's life that you see you can't have that without putting the work in So if you're gonna put the work in you have to have the mindset to be committed and dedicated to it, right?

56:54We have to be disciplined. Yeah What robs discipline is lack of confidence? insecurity uncertainty whatever word you want to use so here's what i'm going to share what are the things that make you uncertain or lack of confidence i would build a moat around those things if there's certain people in your life that are going to make you feel insecure believe me it's going to feel worse during a recession and tough time spend less time with them or find a way to be a mirror or be a teflon if watching the news whether it's cnn or msnbc or fox whatever one you want to watch if when you watch the news you get frustrated you get scared you get uncertain You get pissed off Stop watching the news You need that energy for you So what I'd say is I would figure out the things That rob your confidence And rob your certainty And this is going to sound like Oh Dean's really smart Is do less of those Like especially over this next year You want to take a challenge Go on a 30 day news diet Don't talk about it Don't watch the news Don't talk And spend 100 % of that energy On you 2.0 Take the next 30 days And do not surf the internet All of you are getting sucked into Let me just see what Ed Milet did and an hour later like oh my god.

57:58I just burned an hour online, right? I would say just find the things Avoid the things that rob your confidence Don't talk to the negative people that are hurting you don't focus on your weaknesses Identify who your villain is who that inner that inner story that's already cost you too much and protect yourself against it Investigate to where the puck is going you do those things in this time You're ahead of 95 % of the world and they're simple. That's not I didn't give you a business plan I gave you just the foundation of of what can make you thrive in this shifting time when I hear you say all those things I think about energy I think about do things that preserve and increase your energy and don't deplete them so if there's people around you that rob your energy you got to reduce it if there's things you're doing that take your energy whether it's worry fear surfing the internet watching news those other things energy you know and we all talk about I don't know who's first at it or whatever but energy is influence we've talked about this a lot Tony talks about it a lot you do I do and energy is also the most important commodity you can possibly have in your life.

58:59And you're going to watch a bunch of people, whether you call it words, thoughts, et cetera, you're going to watch a lot of people starting now through the next two or three years of their lives. You're going to watch their energy change. You're going to watch their vibrational frequency shrink. You're going to watch them shrink. And that's incumbent upon you to feed your energy right now. That's podcast, that's books, that's events. That's a challenge like what you're doing right now with Tony. You gotta feed your energy highest energy wins highest energy will win and though Amen to that and i'm going to tell you everyone's energy is going to evolve and change It is difficult when everyone's thriving why everyone's energy is pretty good High energy will stand out now positive energy optimistic energy Movement energy is momentum energy is going to stand out more than ever and you're going to see energy change in your investments, in your mindset, in your businesses, all over the place.

59:50This is a segment of Ed's interview with Tom Bilyeu. How's the next step happen? I began to discover brain plasticity. So I'm laying on the floor of my apartment. I'm flirting with depression. I just don't know how I'm going to make anything in my life feel hopeless and lost. And so I start reading about the brain and reading in college revealed itself to me as the way to gain knowledge. And so I start reading, reading about the brain. I see there's this debate going on. This is like late 90s, early 2000. And there's a camp of people saying, no, no, no, you can learn, even like to your last day on this planet.

1:00:27But it was highly debated. It's not anymore, but it was then. And I said, I choose to believe that. I choose to believe that I can grow and change. And so I start reading voraciously. I start thinking about brain plasticity and getting better. I take a job as a teacher and realize in teaching them, I'm able to make their films better. And if I can make their films better, why can't I make my own films better? So that starts to rebuild me. And I start thinking of myself as someone that needs to grow and learn and get better. So it's now called a growth mindset. You can now get a book on it. You can watch a thousand YouTube videos.

1:00:56None of this existed back then, which is why I was stumbling around. But I start reading and I start reading voraciously and it starts to build my belief system. And that belief system ultimately is what completely changes my life. but first I need some more pain and suffering. So when I meet my wife, part of what she's attracted to is I'm talking growth mindset, man. I'm like, I can do this. This is what I'm gonna do. My dreams are big. I went through this. I've learned from it. I know how to do this now. I got it. Trust me. Come with me, kid. You're gonna be rich one day. And literally, that's what I'm saying to her.

1:01:29And she's into it, ready to go for the fight, wants to be a part of it. Like, my wife is a real slugger. and so we then are doing the back and forth because she started as my student at the film school and we fell in love and but she's in london and i'm in la and so we're having to do back and forth and i find myself living in london and now i want to ask her hand in marriage and i know she's old school so i need to go to her dad yeah and i go to her dad and i say you know i want your blessing to ask your daughter to marry me and in the nicest way possible he says no and my wife lisa had always warned me my dad's gonna quiz you when i introduce you my dad's gonna quiz you introduces me he almost doesn't look at me okay no quizzing gets to know him a little bit no quizzing seems kind of disinterested he'd ask me a question and then wouldn't even listen for the answer so but when i say i want your blessing do do do just like starts going through all these questions And the final question was, how do you plan to take care of my daughter?

1:02:34Because he was very successful. And he said, my daughter's become accustomed to a certain lifestyle. And how are you going to provide that for her? And I said, sir, I know what you see right now is a broke, unemployed kid. But I'm the most ambitious person you've ever met. And I will one day make your daughter rich. And he said, thank you. I hear that. I still don't want you to marry my daughter. Now, important to acknowledge, he's always been incredibly kind to me. He was just very clear that he did not want me to marry his daughter. And so that was like, whoa, like the gauntlet has been laid down.

1:03:09I'm going to rise up to this. And so in my soul, I'm like, I've got this, man. I'm going to do this. I'm committed. There is no way I will not get rich now because I'm going to take care of that woman. I'm going to show him that I'm right. And then the next morning, I lay in bed for three hours, maybe four. And the day after that, three, four hours again. Why? Because it was cold. I didn't want to get up and put a sweatshirt on and literally walk the eight paces. And so I would sweat it because she was working and my job was to make her lunch. And she would come home and we'd eat lunch together.

1:03:39And when we get to the punchline of what I'm like today, even I have a hard time believing that was really me. So then these two successful entrepreneurs walk into my class. And up to that point, I'd promised myself two things. So I grew up chubby in a morbidly obese family and with no money. And I said, one day I'm gonna be rich and one day I'm gonna have six pack abs. And that was my promise. And these guys walked in and they were rich and they had six pack abs. And they said, look, we're starting a technology company. Why don't you come be a copywriter? And I was like, absolutely. And it's one of those where people are like, what are you doing?

1:04:11Like you're leaving the secure job. For me, I was like, they're like unicorns to me. They are literally the thing I'm looking for. They are rich and they have six pack abs and they're gonna let me into their company. And so their whole pitch was, look, man, this is a startup. You can have any job in this company you want. You just have to become the right person for the job. So it was a tech company. It was in this beautiful office overlooking the Pacific Ocean. Every single person in that company had a floor-to-ceiling window overlooking the Pacific Ocean, except me. And they put me in the server room, which had no windows and a bunch of computers, all worrying and making noise.

1:04:45And I remember one of the guys was like, who's the kid in the server room? And so that's how I became known. I was the kid in the server room. I didn't know anything about business. I would bring my wife to visit me in the office. and I'm like, look how beautiful the office is and this is where I'm at. You know, and like literally like those makeshift desks that are like really like a table that you would use on a picnic, but you've got a computer stacked on it. That's where I worked all day. Come on, brother. And so that just being around other people now who had that same kind of drive. And I remember, now people are really gonna enjoy this one.

1:05:13We used to race to see who could relax our bladder the fastest and finish peeing sooner. And that like, that got me thinking at tempo, right? Like you're snapping. And that literally, I could feel it make my brain speed up. It's one of the most surreal things. Now, since then, I've read studies. You can, the number of patents filed in a city is directly correlated to the speed at which the average citizen walks 20 yards on the sidewalk. Let that sink in. And I'm obsessed with the chills now. I'm obsessed with the physiological hooks that can help you develop your mind and moving fast and being made fun of, by the way, when I move slowly.

1:05:49That like, oh, if I got out of the car last or, oh, you take too long to piss. It's like, any of it, you're going to get teased. And so now I'm in this environment where like the standards are crazy high. Yeah, baby. And I've now got the drive. I want to be held accountable. I'm thinking I'm going to make her rich. I remember being in the gym. I hate working out. And I would sit in the gym. Especially the shape Lisa's in and you're in. Well, she's a beast. Don't confuse me and my wife. I don't, by the way. She is a monster. We flex together. I know there's a difference. You know the drill. I do.

1:06:17I am not cut of her cloth. Can we say one second on something? I just want to go back from it because I think, man, there's like so much stuff in here. And again, it's your story, but like I can't get over that all of these things lead to you because that's a lot of turns, right? But I do want to touch on one thing because you changed environments. And to me, it sounds like one of the key things was having some thoroughbreds you started to run with, like that power of environment. So before we talk about that part, I want you to just speak to that because we're going to be everywhere today on this stuff.

1:06:48but I'm a monster believer that the way you change your identity is your associations. And so what you just described to me was this guy who's trying to find an identity for the better part of his life, right? I'm ambitious, but I'm not driven, right? I break down barriers for two years, then I get a big ego. Then I do something great, then my ego gets smashed, right? Then I start, then my mouth writes these big old checks to my father-in-law, I'm all fired up, then I sleep in bed all day long, right? But do you believe big time that identity is shaped by these associations in everybody's life?

1:07:19100%. Talk about that for a second. It's so aggressive and it's now getting repeated. So I fear trite words, but words become trite because they're so true that people repeat them until they lose their meaning. So you're the average of the five people you spend the most time with. That's just true. But now it's become so common to say, and it's like every Instagram post, that I fear it's gonna lose its meaning. Who are you spending time with? Because if you're spending time with people like you, you're spending time with people like me. I'm raising you up or I'm just not gonna spend time with you.

1:07:50So it's like now if you get in a mix of people like that who are like, man, we'd love for you to raise up to this level. But if you don't, it's fine. But we're just not gonna spend time with you. All of a sudden that desire to belong to something powerful that you can see is gonna lead you to your dreams. And I remember saying to my wife over and over and over, they are the surest path to my success. I don't know anything else. I just know if I can hang on to these guys, they're gonna make me better. And so that was through all the years of being embarrassed in developing actually massive anxiety because I was always behind.

1:08:20I was always the dumbest person on the phone. I was always the dumbest person in the room. And it was like, was I gonna be willing to emotionally go through that to get great? And most people can't. So here's the thing. Now imagine, I'm not the only person they said, hey, this is a startup. You can have any job you want. I saw 12 people, maybe more, come and go over the years. They just couldn't emotionally deal with it. And so I remember thinking to myself, why is it that I'm able to do this? And the answer was I could self-soothe faster than anyone else. So I would get kicked in the face and I would do something really dumb.

1:08:51I'd be called an idiot, told how stupid I was. And then I'd just be like, all right, I need to recenter. And that just became my obsession. I need to be able to emotionally get back to complete neutral so fast that you don't even see it register on my face. How do you do it? How do you do that? Literally practicing. So remember, at the same time I'm reading about the brain, voraciously I'm reading about people that understand human behavior. I'm getting into cognitive science, neuroscience, like really going into it. So I'm reading all this stuff going, whoa, we're just a chemical processing plant.

1:09:19There are physiological hooks into these chemicals. So hey, if you're mad, scared, whatever, but you force yourself to laugh out loud, you will change your neurochemical state. And you literally, your experience is the neurochemistry. So I was like, whoa, so I could get, I could be in a situation where I'm being berated or I legitimately mess up and it costs money and it's like, whoa, that's on me and it is nobody's bad but my own. And I realized that what most people do, their strategy is to deflect it. It's your fault, it's not my fault. So I started thinking of this as a metaphor. People are throwing gold at me.

1:09:52They're throwing it really hard and I can put a shield up and deflect it, but then I lose that piece of gold. If I drop my shield and just take the pain, let it hit me in the head, then I bend down and go, this thing, which was me being stupid, there's a lesson here. And now I have this piece of gold. But the whole thing is I have to be defenseless. So I have to own it, I have to take it, I can't fight. If someone is like this to this day, if our team is like, hey, there's something we need to point out to you, I'll do this. I square up to it. I want them to know like, hey, I want to hear it. I want to know.

1:10:22Like I want to be literally physically open. I'm not going to close down. I'm going to do everything I can to square off, to open myself so that they know I'm receptive to the criticism, right? Because that's the nugget of gold. What I know is it's going to hurt. It's going to sting. But if I can emotionally recenter so fast, you don't even see that I went through something. Now I can just process, how do I take this information you've given me and get better? This is a segment from Ed's interview with Darren Jones. You talk about, here's some of the steps that you went through to start to turn your life around that you weren't doing prior.

1:10:53So I want you to just share some of these things. I'm going to not rapid fire, but like, I want to talk about them. Voluntary discomfort, which included some phone calls you made to certain people too. I'm sure it was uncomfortable. So just take the bow around that. Yes. So I didn't know that you can't change what you're not aware of but i was changing and i didn't realize that it was rapidly changing my life so everything i'm about to share with you is as i connect the dots looking backwards i saw the power of apologizing to somebody for something that i did when i was seven years old that i didn't know that she held like i i hit this girl over the head with a backpack when i was seven and then i messaged her like six years ago and i was like hey kids do the stupidest things uh i know you don't remember this but i just want to say that i'm sorry she goes number one why did you do that i'm in tears right now two what about me made you do that three um the same thing is happening to my kids and i don't know what to tell them so it was that moment right there i was like oh people keep things they remember how you make them feel yes i wrote a list this is great and i didn't know it was going to turn into as many people from kindergarten up to present date i wrote a list of 250 names of everyone that i had ever impacted negatively thought of negatively not even in the physical thought negative thoughts wow and anybody who had ever hurt me with the intention of apologizing for my part and not expecting them whatever their response was their response i was clearing myself i wanted to be truly free because you can't fight fight for something that you can only give to yourself which is internal freedom the the person who molested me people who who jumped me but i held on resentment for 30 years i was like i just want to apologize for when we had that fight i want to apologize for holding resentment towards you for 30 years they're like what are you apologizing for we were the ones who who jumped you and i was like but i held on to the resentment that resentment affects me and so i just want to create the possibility of just having no negativity when i think of you instantly freedom so i did that for 250 people up into present date including forgiving the two men and i don't know where they are in the world forgiving the two men who murdered my father wholeheartedly simultaneously simultaneously I'm watching all of this business come.

1:13:45I'm like, where are these people coming from? I forgive these two people, two new people come into my business. I let go of this thing, this new thing. It's almost like this universal order of this magic trick. I do this and, and I spoke to my, uh, my spiritual advisor, Monica Zanz. She said, Garen, you released hate from your heart. these were all little subtleties of hate so any level of resentment and it doesn't matter what they do the forgiveness is freedom and letting go of resentment will complete the cycle brother whoa yeah one of the top things ever said on the show ever ever ever yeah out of a bazillion episodes i'm convinced what that is by the way is that you're um when you have negative stored energy in your body either through holding we come back to that again yeah when you store it to your point, either something you've done that you want to apologize for or forgiving someone else for trauma they've caused you, that energy is blocking you.

1:14:44And when you release that energy, your vibrational frequency increases tremendously. And that's when you begin to magnetize the things into your life. We've all had those moments where you're like, I was thinking of so-and-so, and then they called me. That's when you're vibrating at a high frequency. But usually for most people, that is like once a year, deja vu or some fluke thing. But you know this now that you're on the other side of it. When you do begin to live with this type of intention, when you are a vulnerable person, that frequency increases and it's just unbelievable. Perhaps all these things were already there, but your reticular activating system was blocking you from seeing, feeling, or hearing them, or perhaps they weren't there and now you're attracting them.

1:15:18But all I know is they've appeared in my life the last 30 years in ways that are what you would consider to be miraculous, which now has become habitual. What was once miraculous is now habitual. And that can happen in everybody's life who takes some of the steps that we're talking about today, putting yourself through voluntary discomfort, doing uncomfortable things, but the apologies, the forgiveness, these are real things. The other thing that you say about vulnerability, and I want people to really hear this because there's different aspects of what we're going to talk about today that hit different people.

1:15:48But you're so right. I've only, I said this 20 years ago. I haven't said it since, so I know you didn't get it from me. It's yours. But causing people to feel safe in your presence is one of the great keys of being a leader of anything is that people can feel safe in your great father, great mother, great brother, great sister, great business person, right? Great coach, great anything. People have a tendency to feel safe in your presence. And you say the pathway to that happening ironically is to be what? Man, there's so much. There's so much to that. That's such a loaded question. But when you accept who you really are and are willing to share it yeah and you're willing to share it and you're willing to create this um it's like a pathway there's an energy that just comes through you through the presence of vulnerability yes that level of openness it taps into the voiceless or the it taps into the voiceless part of you that you haven't yet given a voice.

1:16:55And so this, because you can't be what you can't see. So the second that you, you talk about something that most people won't talk about and they can, they listen to who they relate to and then they can relate to it. Then all of a sudden that part of them that they haven't given a voice goes, I'm not alone. i learned this skill because in the scariest time of my life where i'm still living in my car i'm still i was still two hundred thousand dollars in debt i got tired of living a life trying to put on a mask or pretend to be what everybody else thought i should be and i say you know what and then rihanna's song we out here living a lie had came on is like out here living a lie i couldn't get it out of my head i was like no more true freedom is power to possess your own mind and like use it in a way that uplifts yourself and other souls really good that's really good drop the mic he paused because i about fell out right there that's really good keep going i went on facebook and the post is on facebook facebook right now i say you think you know me you have no idea here's what you know you know this this this and this you know I've dated this person you know I was in this music video 15 years ago you know this because this what I told you but what it really is right now I'm two hundred thousand dollars in debt I'm living in my car I've cheated on every girlfriend I ever had I have no relationship with my family and I just put it all out the scariest moment in my life first message I got

1:18:45was from a stranger and said how did you have that kind of strength when I read your testimony I put the gun down I put the gun down and it was in that moment my purpose was birth I said

1:19:07I know why I'm here to speak to be the voice of the voiceless or the parts of you that you haven't yet given a voice and I know there's all those people doing all these other things but when it comes to that deep dark treacherous place that people mask and they try to overcompensate and do all these other things that's my playground yeah that's so unbelievable uh most people are listening to this on audio so they didn't just see your face but like I watched your face when you said that it's like there was like a spiritual soulful transformation in those moments you can see it right now it's happening again right um by the way thank you for listening to the audio and share the podcast today but I have to tell you like it's all over you now by the way just when you think we're getting real foofy here we're you're not so foofy you're pretty hardcore too when you're prank with people so there's this piece and then there's like hey bam and i i was watching some of your content the other like you literally said on something i watched i don't feel sorry for you if you're broke i don't feel sorry for people to tell me they have no money this was interesting to me from everything we just said i'm taking you a whole other direction how i do this yeah i want people to see the whole perspective here um and then you said uh people that say hey i don't feel scene, you said you kind of chuckle and laugh.

1:20:29So there's a part of you that's like, Hey, and I think the reason that you do that is, you know, now so deeply that people can change, that you're not going to give them their BS ways of getting out of it. Right. Yes. But just talk about that for a second, because like, it's one thing to be what we're both talking about, being vulnerable, sharing these parts of our souls, making people feel safe. These are all things that are beautiful for two masculine men to be willing to talk about. Absolutely. Same time though same time there's just other parties like i don't feel sorry for you yeah and and and why is that and well i want you to elaborate well i'll tell you this um i'm a big context guy me too so in the same conversation my story will always live there the vulnerability of my story so but karen you don't understand i don't have any money and i'm like somebody said to me the other day oh knows it's easy for you to talk about that you you have this big house and you have the wife and you have that yeah i've been saying the same thing when i was living in my storage unit and sleeping on bubble wrap sleeping in an abandoned building y 'all are just now catching up you know i've been like when i was living in my car you probably had a home i don't want to assume by the way i have a photo of the storage unit right there that he was living in just so you all know yeah so i i have it keep going so it's it's difficult and now i can have empathy and compassion absolutely but i wouldn't just come out if somebody was like oh you don't i wouldn't just laugh in anybody's face sure there's always context and my story that goes with it so if somebody saying that and I'll be like, Hey, I experienced the same thing.

1:22:13And you know what I did when I was living in my car, I went to Starbucks every single day and I wrote down 10 things that I'm good at 10 things that I absolutely love to do. Found a way to weave that. And then I went on Craigslist and I found a way to make money every single day. And then finally something hit and then something else hit so what you're seeing now is the overflow of what i was doing when i was living in my car it's almost like god was like i want to see if you are really serious about what you say you want to do okay pay me no money and i will still do it and i will do it to excellence and that's what i did so therefore when the money does coming in now like more money is coming i'm like it doesn't surprise me it makes sense because I put in the work well the reason you did though and this is important you make a big just um you paint this distinction you didn't try okay you did this like your life depended on it you say there's a big difference between this and everybody really close if you keep trying things that is the lowest possible commitment level is to try now I'm not saying in my book I literally have a chapter called one more try so I believe in trying something again.

1:23:28But behind that, there has to be something in you that has already sort of pre-negotiated the price you're going to have to pay so that you're not constantly navigating the price you're paying because you talk about trying versus mastery. And by the way, I think the money comes in. You're earning the money while you're trying to get good at something, but the money doesn't come in until you've mastered it typically, or at least increase your capacity to do it. Like in business. I earned most of the money I make now when I was broke years ago. It just comes in now, but I earned it back then when I was making an effort with no reciprocity.

1:24:06I was making an effort when nothing was coming in. In fact, I was making an effort as my life went backwards. So it was earned then. I'm just getting paid now. So good. So good, Ed. So good. It's just true. And that's the hard part of watching successful people because they behave in a particular way often when they get there. I didn't earn my money now. I earned it back then. And you, you had to make a, you cannot go from living in a storage unit, being incarcerated, blowing through a record deal, having a dad that's murdered, having someone try to murder you in your life, right? All these mistakes you've made.

1:24:46And like, I'm going to, I'm going to give it a go. That couldn't have been what it was. You don't go to where you are by giving it a go. so what's the difference i would say the difference is most people don't realize the value of not giving it a go so i'm gonna try it a time or two see if it works here's what doesn't work everything that you've done up until this point where you felt like it didn't work and then you kept doing that so what you did is master it not working so you're actually in mastery any direction you go so this is why i teach a lot at my retreats on energy transmutation tell us what that means yeah who i was when i was sleeping around with all those women breaking in the cars and everything that there's an energy behind it it's not the action it's the energy behind it that's driving that level of success that same person is the same person that messaged 900 uh producers say get my song on a record get my song and then in 30 days i had 28 songs and then uh two months later i had a record deal with ludicrous it was the same i just transmuted the energy in a different direction so you come into mastery when you're doing something over and over and over and over like the little kid learning how to walk over and over and over and over and and walking is not even our natural state it's something that we adapt into so you adapt into mastery mastery and excuses and security devaluing yourself devaluing people around you and if you could see that you are actually in you're actually a mastery-esque person you just need to transmute that energy in a direction where it's moving you forward not keeping you stuck or keeping you back so all this is is a redirection because you can't see the picture while you're in the frame of what really matters to you staying in the same spot or moving forward and creating an extraordinary life for yourself and your family i started caring that my mom was working at a job that was killing her.

1:27:10And she's got these back-to-back surgeries, colostomy bag, barely alive. I started caring that maybe, maybe I can do something about it. I started caring that I could support my daughter's mother and we can come together and create Kylia's college fund. I started caring. You know what? I want my mom, I want to retire my mom. So what would that mean to put this energy into these actions and whatever it takes? By 2015, I will have my daughter's college tuition paid for three years before she graduates high school. And by 2015, I'll be a multimillionaire. This is back when I was living in my car.

1:28:01By 2015, I'm going to retire my mom. And it all happened. I started caring about the things that actually matter to me. And I put all the energy in that direction. That's heart power, right? Yep. Yeah. You talk a lot about heart power. And I think in life and in business, you win with your heart, not your head. I think you have to have good strategies, right? But I think you win with your heart and most people aren't willing to put their heart into it. If you're listening to this, you got to put your whole heart into it. You're going to be in a really blissful, loving, incredible relationship with somebody.

1:28:30You have to have your whole heart in it. Just like you do with your kids. If you're going to build a great business or a great, body. You have to have your heart into it. Your heart's 50 ,000 times more powerful than your brain. The electrical current is, the power of it is. Now you get your head and your heart in congruency and you have that. Now you're unstoppable. And that's really what you did.