Maxout Your Mind Masterclass Ep. 10 | Your Future Isn’t Found. It’s Designed

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1:16And you'll still get your Saturday episodes. We're going to take a pause on Thursdays. But every Tuesday, you're going to get a masterclass from me that I've created to help you finish 2025 strong and go into 2026 and make it the best year of your life. I'm calling this masterclass, Max Out Your Mind, Faith, Focus, and Fire, Mastering Your Internal World so you can navigate your external world. It's gonna come out every single Tuesday. I think you're gonna love it. All right, guys, hey, this week's the final lesson in this entire masterclass we put together, Maxing Out Your Mind, the max out mindset for 2026, building the foundation for your best year ever.

1:51I hope you enjoy. What we're gonna talk about today very briefly is reinventing your life. And I was looking it up. People ask me all the time, Ed, can you talk, you know, give us some of the keys about how to reinvent my life. So I looked it up a little bit and I thought, what does invent mean? What's the definition of invent, right? And the definition of invent is to create or design something that has not existed before. And so what we're really talking about today is creating something, but more importantly, designing things in your life that have never existed before. And then I looked up reinvent.

2:26Like, is there a difference between invention and reinvention? And reinvent talks about changing something so much so that it appears to be entirely new. So today is really about two things. It's about inventing or designing something new in our life and taking control of the design of our life and changing something, right? So it's about designing and changing. That's how we invent and reinvent things in our life. So when's the last time that you just gave yourself the gift of taking a look at your life and designing it? Now, as a person of faith, I believe that you're the co-author of your life.

3:01You and God co-author all of the chapters of your life. And in any given time, you can grab a pen, a new pen, and just decide you're going to design a new chapter of your life and a new difference in your life, a new direction in your life. But when's the last time you actually asked yourself, if I want to do that, what are the things I want to change about my experience? You know, recently I've had some very good friends pass away at very young ages. My friend Jesse Lee Ward passed away at 34 years old. And I just think sometimes we think we have forever to get around to designing our life to be the one that we want, or we have forever to change things.

3:37But what if you don't have forever? What if that needs to start right now? Like this second, as you're listening to me or watching me today, start to ask yourself the questions that matter. When's the last time you gave yourself the gift of, what do I want my life to look like? And am I truly one of the designers of that life? Do I have any input, any control over it? And I'll tell you that I believe you do. I believe God gives you free choice and free will in your life. You do have free will. You do have choice. You do have input along with God's blessings in your life. And so ask yourself this question just as we begin today.

4:14What do you want it to look like? So specifically, what do you want to feel in your life? What are the emotions you want to experience more of going forward? What would you like to experience? What achievements and accomplishments do you want to have in your life? What relationships do you want? What do you want to look like? Where do you want to live? What do you want to drive? How do you want to feel? What do you want to have matter to you? First thing when you wake up in the morning, what would you like to feel in the morning? Have you ever asked yourself that? Like right when I wake up, what do I want to feel?

4:46Do I want to feel excited and grateful and proud and looking forward to my life? Or do I want to wake up and feel worried and angst or boredom or stress? What do you want to feel? When's the last time you took control over that? How would you like to spend the hours of your life? Where would you like to retire someday? What are the things you want to do for other people? Just begin to ask yourself and take an inventory of these questions. It's such a great gift. You know, dreaming is free. It doesn't cost you anything. Yet so few people give themselves the gift of just dreaming again, just designing again, just creating again.

5:23This idea that some of you would dispute whether or not you have any control over the design of your life, you have to look no further than your own body. Is it God's will that you're 50 pounds overweight or not strong? Is that God's will? or do you have some choice over what your body looks like? Of course you do. You have choice over the food you put in your body. You have choice over the working out you do or don't do, the cardio you do or don't do, the disciplines that you have. Now, are there things out of your control? Could you get a disease? Could there be a genetic issue in your life?

5:53Yes, but so there's this balance between destiny and design. But all we can do in our life is pray in our lives that we have some insights into the direction and the destiny that we should be pursuing, but at the same time, we should take control over all of the things that we can design, that we can change. So how do you want to live? Who and what do you want around you? Begin to ask yourself this, and I'm going to recommend a few things to you. You know, there's this notion in personal development that I talk about a lot too, which is to be fully present. You hear that a lot, don't you? Be present, be in the moment, live in the moment, find more presence.

6:30Don't worry so much about the past and don't look into the future so much. And there's a lot of validity to that. But I'm going to say something, that if you're going to reinvent your life, one of the things that you have to do is to have a compelling future. You ever have a morning where you wake up and you know that night you've got something cool you're going to do? Like you're going to have a dinner with a great friend or a romantic evening with a loved one, or you're going to go to a ball game or a concert or a comedy show or see a movie you've wanted to see. doesn't that expectation that looking forward help you get through the morning?

7:04Doesn't it? Of course it does. Or if you've ever been about to have a family and you're, if you're a woman, you're pregnant, or if you're a husband, your spouse is pregnant, that looking forward to something, I think human beings need to live in the present. But this notion that you should have no forward projecting of what you're looking to have in the future is someone who's going to have a formula for not being very happy. I think human beings need something to look forward to. Even in your faith life, like if you want to break that down, if we're going to get really honest, you know, part of whatever your faith is, whether you're a Christian or a Muslim or you're of Jewish descent, whatever your faith might be, isn't part of that faith the promise of the future in heaven or paradise, that you have something to look forward to beyond where you are?

7:50Of course it is. Of course that exists. And so a human being that needs to live fully present, yes, but it also has something they look forward to that they're working towards. The other thing is that progress is power. That you find me a human being who may not be where they want to be, but they feel like they're making progress in getting there, I'll show you somebody pretty happy. So I think the first step is to ask yourself, what do I want to design and what do I need to change? But then the next thing is progress. To look forward to something and be making progress. There's all this data now that They studies the brain about dopamine, which is our pleasure chemical, that essentially says this, that in the pursuit of your goal, in the making of the progress towards something that you want, that you have a greater hit of dopamine in the brain, much higher levels than when you actually achieve it in the present moment.

8:36That actually there's a crash of dopamine that happens after the achievement that falls off the earth, just goes away. And so this pursuit, this idea of progress, of growth in our life is such a requirement to peace and happiness and bliss. So yes, be in the present, but you better be making progress towards something because that's when you're getting all the dopamine. And you've got to be growing and changing. And here's the thing about growth and change. I want to say something to you. Human beings underestimate their capacity to get good at something that they get fully intentional and immersed in.

9:12I mean, they begin to dedicate a full focus in something. Human beings have an amazing capacity over even a short window of time, like a year, in getting great at something they were no longer great when they get completely committed and dedicated towards it. So one of the things I want to recommend to reinvent your life is not only things in your career that you want, benchmarks, achievements, give yourself the gift of all of that, but what's something new you could try? And then at some point, we just get into our life, don't we? And now there's not as much progress. There's not as much growth.

9:43There's not as much change. There's not as much designing. Listen to me. Anything you want to get great at that you become fully passionate about and fully committed to and dedicate a lot of time to, you will get great at. There's this study that's out right now that a human being who picks up a new hobby, who dedicates three hours a week to it for a year, regardless of what the hobby is, finds themselves in the top 5 % in the world in that hobby within one year. because most people dabble. Most people don't do anything. Most people don't get creative at all. Most people don't change things at all.

10:17They don't design things at all. So this is how you reinvent your life. Try some new stuff. Get a new design. Get a new dream. Check in with yourself. Do an audit. Is my old dream still my dream? Is this thing I thought I wanted what I want anymore? As I get closer to it or further from it or I have it, is it what I thought I wanted? Is this progress still juicing me? Or is it time for a new design? Time for a new change. Time to reinvent or invent yourself. You should be conscious. Listen to me. All of the structures of your body are being reborn all the time. You can Google it. Your lung tissue is redesigning itself on a very regular basis.

10:56So are your bones, your skeletal tissue. Your cellular structure is reborn on a very regular basis. So should your spirit. So should your mind. It's nature for it to be reborn. The lung tissue you currently breathe with will not be the same tissue. It'll be literally totally different a few years from now. Same with your digestive tract. Same with your skeleton. It remakes itself. Same with your skin. Same with your cells. The body sheds the old and reinvents the new. It redesigns itself. It recalibrates itself. It changes itself. This is nature. But it's not nature to do it in our mind. It's not nature to do it in our spirit.

11:34Take an inventory. Take an audit. What things did I used to want? I don't want anymore. I don't want them. what progress do I need so I'm getting that dopamine hit? And then the more I achieve it, my vibrational frequency picks up. It's a muscle I build. And all of a sudden, you know the scary thing? Those of us that are listening to this, that are watching this, that know that what I'm saying is 100 % true, you can increase your vibrational frequency so high when you start drawing things into your life that you want that you actually have to start to really be careful about what you think about because you're going to draw that into your life as well.

12:06A lot of people right now listening to this that have been achievers or have had good things happen and go, he's right, because it is a muscle. I got to the point in my life many times where the things I thought about, that I reinvented, that I focused on, that I got intentional about, I drew them into my life. And I got so good at doing it that I had to start to be careful that I didn't start to focus on my problems and my worries and my fears because I got so good at drawing what I thought about into my life, I started to draw right to me my fears and worries because you increase your vibrational frequency.

12:35So again, I can talk about energy and vibrational frequency and not understand that there's a blessing, not understand that there's a grand design for our life, not understand that you can have all the best plans in the world and God still has his hand on your life. Now, back to this, you underestimate the power of what you could be doing if you were fully focused on something just even in one year. Remember that. Someone who dedicates three hours to a new hobby or business or routine within one year is in the top five percentile in that in one year. See, the older we get, the more we don't want to look bad.

13:11The more we become a collection of patterns and behaviors and thoughts. Our life just sort of goes on repeat. We drive on the freeway, and we don't even need to think about the exit we get off of anymore. It's so autopilot. We just do it, and we're at the house. And then you go, how did you get home today? And you don't even remember. I don't want to get home to heaven someday and not have anything to remember in my life. And metaphorically and literally in many people's lives, they're just now going through the patterns and the emotions. They do the same five or six things with the same five or six people and wonder why they're not happy.

13:41Because they haven't reinvented anything. So pick a new business. Pick a new hobby. Pick a new interest. Start painting. Start listening to different music. Start doing something to just reinvent you. Because guess what? As I said earlier, you're being reinvented all the time on the inside. Digestive tract, lung tissue, your organs, your bones, your cells. What about your spirit? What about your mind? Now, how do I change this, Ed? Here's one of the things I found out. Watch this. Create in stillness, trigger and anchor in motion. So let me tell you what I mean by that. Get still. Get quiet. Listen to your spirit.

14:25Let your intuition begin to speak to you. In my case, let God begin to speak to you. Get very quiet. Get very still. Give yourself the gift of some meditation time or some quiet time or some alone time. And I think you'll begin to hear things and feel things that were always there, but the world's too noisy around you and you're too caught up in your patterns to do anything about it. You know, there's this great saying that says the average person dies at 25. We just don't get around to burying them and putting them in the ground until they're 75 or 80. Don't be that person anymore. You can be reborn and become alive again today.

14:59So get quiet and ask yourself these questions. And then once you start to get some of those answers, you trigger and anchor them in motion. Because life is physical. These are some of the things that I believe can help you reinvent your life. This is a never-ending process. When I was young, I got taught this process called CANI. C-A-N-I. Constant and never-ending improvement. Constant and never-ending improvement. C-A-N-I. Constant and never-ending improvement. And what I'm here to tell you is that this is a constant and never-ending process in your life. And the happiest people that I've meet in my life are constantly and never-ending improving.

15:43So although they're fully present, they are also working hard on their future, reinventing their future, inventing and changing things, co-authoring their life with their God. And I'd recommend you do these things today to reinvent your life. I'm going to remind you of something. This is just part of the pie, by the way, part of the puzzle. You were born to do something great with your life. Maybe you've heard me say that before, but maybe you never have, and maybe no one's told you in a while. But I want to tell you. you were born you were made to do something great with your life and if you're having a hard time picturing what these things are that you want to do it probably involves serving other people it probably involves experiencing things with other people and you were born to help those people in big ways and small ways you're most qualified in life to help the person that you used to have you noticed your sheets slipping off the corners lately or maybe your pillows just don't feel supportive like they used to you want to get a better night's sleep and be healthier replace your bedding.

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19:25And so I want to talk about what that means because I think that that's the pathway to happiness and fulfillment. See, many people delay their happiness until a particular destination, a particular time. They cheat themselves from happiness now. And there's two types of people that do it. Maybe you can relate to this. And they also confuse happiness and satisfaction. Those are different emotions. And remember this, the quality of our life is made up by the quality of our emotions. And our emotions come from meaning. So it's not the events of our life that define us. It's the meaning we attach to those events because meanings give us emotions.

20:02And emotions literally create a different blood chemistry in our body. They literally alter us. So the quality of our life is the quality of our emotions. Those emotions come from meanings. And those meanings are what we attach to events. So the key to a happier life, the pathway, is not the different events of our lives that happen to us. It's the meaning we attach to those events. And so do the meaning we give to events serve us or not serve us? You need to begin to ask yourself that in your life. And so I'm after, and I want you to be after, blissful dissatisfaction because that's the formula for happiness and fulfillment.

20:34That's where the science and art form of achievement comes together so that you can be happy as you achieve. And so what happens is people confuse happiness and satisfaction. You can be dissatisfied and still happy. In other words, seeking more abundance, seeking more of something, but simultaneously enjoying the journey, enjoying the process. So there's two types of flawed thinking that I see in that realm. First is the achievers. All you achievers listening to it, you think, boy, if I enjoy this right now, I'm going to lose my mojo. I'm going to lose my drive. I'm going to lose my ambition. You know, part of your recipe, your formula, all your life has kind of been, I always leave a little happiness in reserve so that I stay driven.

21:14because total happiness means I'm laying on a beach all day long, right, with no drive and no ambition because we've all seen people like that. That's not total happiness. I can promise you that people in their life that are laying around golfing seven days a week, laying on a beach every single day are not as fulfilled as they could be if they were chasing something that they believed in, if they were contributing, if they were making a difference in the world at their maxed-out level. And so don't confuse those people for the most happy and fulfilled. They're not. But what happens is achievers think man if I enjoy this too much i'll lose my drive Completely, not true at all the best analogy that I give in the book about that is If you've ever bitten into a delicious piece of food if you're a meat eater a steak if you're a vegan, you know The best I don't know lettuce wrap you've ever had in your life, right?

22:01And you and you bite into that and it's just so delicious. It's blissful, right? Does that bliss cause you to be less desirous of the next bite? Think about that steak, you meat eaters, right? No, it makes you want to have another one, right? So there's actually a correlation that's between blissfulness and drive. In other words, the more blissful you are, the more driven you are. Your brain gets this hit of dopamine and you want more and more of it. What happens though over time if you're an achiever is if you cheat yourself out of enjoyment and celebration during the journey, during your victories, slowly but surely you get what we call burnout.

22:36And what burnout is, is that you never get a dopamine hit in your brain. You never enjoy it and eventually you just go I don't want to try that hard next time I don't want to achieve again. It's not worth it. I don't get from it what I thought I would That's the definition of burnout Is that we stop enjoying something to the point where we don't want to do the work anymore? So it's a very dangerous recipe for those of you that are achieving to cheat yourself out of enjoying and celebrating And in fact, you'll eventually burn out on it. So do not do that You've made a mistake in doing so in fact There's a correlation between enjoying it and wanting more of it I can promise you that the more dopamine you get, the more you enjoy it, the more your brain will chase the next victory, the next level, etc., etc.

23:15So that is a misnomer that somehow enjoyment steals drive. It does not. In fact, it feeds it just like biting into that lettuce wrap or biting into that steak. It will give you more and more of it, and you'll seek more of it. The second type of person says, well, I'm delaying my happiness until I get something. I'll be happy when. Many of you can relate to this. I'll be happy when I find the perfect relationship. I'll be happy when I get my dream house, when I get my promotion, when I get a certain amount of money, and they delay the happiness level until a destination in the future. The challenge with that, listen to me on this, is you have to bring you with you to that destination.

23:56And if you can't be happy now, if you can't find a way to love yourself and be happy now, I can promise you, you will not love yourself at that next destination. I have many many friends who are at the destinations you think you want to get to in that dream home at that dream income with the dream Amount of money the dream car the dream jet And they're no more happy than they were prior to having it because they didn't learn the tools of loving themselves Now believing in themselves now both of those are flawed thinking a great life is someone who lives blissfully now And stays in a state of dissatisfaction and drive So I want to talk to you about how to do that You know one of the things I think that's important to start out by saying is is you cannot love yourself if you're not being yourself You cannot believe in yourself if you're not being yourself so the first step towards Really enjoying happiness now believing in yourself and loving yourself now is truly being yourself What do I mean by that?

24:55The first step is being proud of you acting in congruency with your standards, with your values and your character and your beliefs. The more and more you do that, the minute you begin to step away yourself by behaving in a way that's not congruent with your faith, congruent with your character, congruent with your values, the more and more you lose a little bit of yourself, the more you can't love yourself, the more you can't believe in yourself. That first step to self-love, to enjoying you and your own company is truly being yourself. The other side of that is by how other people treat you and more importantly, how you let other people treat you.