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26:48Coeur d 'Alene. Tony Robbins. Okay. Give me another one. We're not going to do this. No, give me one more. Give me one more. John Elway. Okay, give me one more. No, I'm not doing that with you. Just one more. A third one. Because you're the third. Adam Levine. See, I told you. Okay. I'm sweeping up after. I told you it'd be a second before you start dropping names. And someday Grant Cardone is what I hope. But anyway, what happened was I got up there, and one of the reasons I sought those, it was beautiful. I bought a place I could relatively afford. It was a stretch, but not crazy. And I got around.

27:16It wasn't the sports guys. It wasn't the entertainers. It was the business people. It's on the lake. Yeah, but it was the - You've got a fancy boat out there. There's two top 50 golf courses. Yeah. Actually, I got three boats, but that's another story. But there's two top 50 golf courses on this lake. One's called Gaza Ranch that I'm a member of. One's called the Club of Black Rock. They're wonderful golf courses. But more importantly, the membership are people that were further along in the game of life than I was. Access. And one thing about golf, as you've known, is you get four or five hours.

27:43You get to know somebody. It's not like a five-minute lunch where everyone's chewing their food. You play golf with somebody four or five hours. I remember one of my mentors told me, Eddie, rich men play golf. And I'm like, well, I'm not rich yet. I don't want to golf. It's boring. It's slow. You can't hit anybody. It doesn't require weightlifting. You can be fat and win. It's not even really a sport, you know? And then he goes, you didn't hear what I said. Rich men play golf. And he goes, if you want to be around these people, you need to play some damn golf. Rich men play golf. By the way, there's some validity to that.

28:10There's some broke dudes that play golf, too. Well, it depends on the golf course. It does depend on the golf course. Right. And by the way, there's some posers everywhere. So let's say there's a guy or gal or family out there, and let's say they're doing$58 ,000 a year. Yeah. They're just getting started, trying to put it all together. Maybe the husband and wife both make 80 grand a year. Yes. And they like golf. Okay. Should they be playing golf just to play golf or should they be going to the country club where the players are, where the rich men play golf for access? Okay, let me tell you how I did it.

28:40So I don't think you should be playing much golf at all at that level. There's a way that you can play success golf though. And so - Success golf. Yeah, and the way that you do that in my opinion is first you have to start a business. Nobody lives in any of these places are employees. Because I heard you're not even a good golfer. Well, I don't know where you heard that. All over. Everybody that's played with you. Maybe I told you that just because we're going to gamble. Because you're not out there to play good golf, right? No, but you're ill-informed. But that's okay. I mean, it's fine. But I'm not a great golfer.

29:08Good, thank you. But I know I can beat you because I've seen some tricks. I can't wait to find out. Yeah, me too. But anyhow, here's what I did to get into golf. We're going to video that whole thing. Yeah, wow. There's like$34 there. That's awesome, man. Thank you. Rich man. Anyway. There's like 200. Rich man play golf. When you can hold your money like this, you need to get a bigger stack. You hold a whole bunch of stuff like this. That's your normal grip, isn't it? Right there. Anyway, here's what I did for golf. Yeah, yeah. Okay. I think you've got to find a business you're going to start.

29:46And here's what I did. I played a game with myself. And that game was this. If I hit my certain goals in a given month, I think you should go touch your dreams. I think you should live in your dreams. I think the more familiar you become with your dream or whatever it is you want, the more you can touch it, feel it and be around it. The more likely you become comfortable in it, the more likely you'll acquire it. And so one of the big things that I did was I would set these goals up, whether it be an income goal or a production goal. This is when I was part time as an entrepreneur. And I'd say, if we hit X, we're going to go away for one night.

30:13And that one night would be to a nice place. It might be like the Ritz-Carlton Laguna Beach, right, where I would go. or the La Quinta Resort in Palm Desert. And I'd do one night of my dream. I'd spend the$300 or$400. My wife would do a nice massage. Just get a taste of it. And I'd go play golf. And guess who you run into those golf courses? Yeah, yeah. You run into some rich dudes. And I'd run into those guys on the golf course, and I would get to know them for that weekend, that time. So it wasn't golf. You're touching possibility. You're living in your dream. The more you can touch it. If your dream is to feed a million people, spend one day a month actually in those charities feeding people.

30:43The more you get comfortable in your dream. So you don't wait until you're set to do it. You never do. You know this. Every little thing you've acquired, even getting a lane. You talked about how you chased her for 13 months. You got around her a little bit in the meantime because the more comfortable she could get with hearing your voice messages from you, the more likely she's going to get in your dream. Because you belong in your dream, but you have to touch it regularly before you get it. So I would do that. So give me an example of when you started touching stuff. Like before you were married, when did you get married?

31:10How old were you? 25. 25. That's young. I was young. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Like how'd you know that she was the one? Well, we started dating in high school. And so I think just that was a long time to wait, really, if you think about it. So I mean, it was a long time to wait to get married. Did you have money then? I had no money then. No, no, in fact, she paid for our wedding. And we got married at the Shiloh Inn in Pomona, and my wife paid for the entire wedding. And it's because she worked at that hotel in the banquet department. And my honeymoon that night was one night at the Shiloh Inn in Pomona.

31:39That was the entire honeymoon we took. So I had no money. I mean, literally no money. In fact, my car was repoed like about eight months after that wedding. Wow. You had a car repoed? What kind of car? I had a car. Acura NSX. No, Acura, not NSX. Acura Integra. Uh-huh. I had that repoed. They took it away from you? They did. I had my water turned off in my house at one time. We were showering down in the condo. So that's part of being an entrepreneur. I think a lot of entrepreneurs think, oh, this is a sign to stop, right? I've gone broke. This isn't working for me. Most of us, most entrepreneur stories, if you really looked at it, they're nasty.

32:10They're ugly. There's a whole bunch of down, embarrassing times. We just stayed. we got off the mat faster. It's not that he didn't go broke at some time or I didn't go broke at some time or there wasn't setbacks. We just kept getting back up. And that's the difference. Yeah. So when you made from baseball player to the financial company. Yep. So what made you successful there? What were the one or two or three things that like got you off the mat? The same things as in baseball. Okay, so the massive one, everyone asks me, they ask you this too, what's the one thing you have somebody have if you were going to put them in business?

32:42Yeah. monster desire and hunger massive desire you show me somebody with just monster desire i'll show you somebody who will eventually find the right people you take that over skill big time you know that because i i could teach you know there's tons of people with tons of skills with no heart no desire no courage they lose yeah you show me a bunch of i mean tremendous like tenacious relentless obsessive yeah yeah you'll acquire the skills or they'll find the people who have them around i heard you were going to write a book about being obsessed i was in the middle of writing a book about that topic when his came out.

33:12It cost me 30 grand with an author and it's in the trash can somewhere. And yours was unbelievable by the way. Yeah thank you. It's an awesome book. Me and this guy, me and this guy, we literally have similar frequencies. We do. We think about different, this Mandalay Bay shooting that just happened, me and Elena were up in Vegas when the whole thing happened but he was calling me. We have similar thoughts about some things. Okay number two thing, desire and hunger. Okay and then Norm, this is the basic stuff but here's the thing, ferocious crazy psycho work ethic. So they're aggressive, right?

33:41Like you, just about you and I, like right now we're outworking guys at our income level. If you took guys at our income, our net worth level, and they're, I don't know if they're similar or different, but they're decent, right? That's the fact of the matter is we're outworking them. We're outworking them when we were broke. We're outworking them when we were in the middle. We're outworking them when we got to the top. We outwork them when we fell down. I outwork people. I get there earlier. I show up sooner. I leave later. I make more phone calls. I dick around less. I'm not small talk, BS, nothing.

34:05I'm about making money, closing people, growing my business. And I think it's that the third thing is that ability to literally focus in and remove distractions. I don't care what's going on in the world. I don't believe the world's coming to an end. I think what happened when you were in Vegas yesterday is a total tragedy. I prayed about it. I worried about it, but I'm not obsessed about it. I'm not going to let the media or the world distract me from my dream, get me off track. Because in a year, we're not going to be thinking about Las Vegas. You're going to be back to your life thinking, I don't care what happens in the NFL today, Iraq.

34:33I'm aware of it, but I'm not putting energy into it. So you know this. It's how distracted people get. Can you get laser focused on what it is you want? But more importantly, what the hell you're supposed to be doing? Literally, just show me your habits and what you do. Anybody in any sport will tell you that too. The best guys have this massive, massive hunger. They outwork everybody and they have this ability to get in. Smaller guys. Slower guys. Slower guys. And they get into the hyper focused zone. This episode is brought to you by Progressive Insurance. Do you ever think about switching insurance companies to see if you could save some cash?

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36:22But this is Nick Sanatostasso. And I'm so excited that I'm going to help even get you further exposure to the world. I'm excited. I'm excited. I am too, brother. So you were born with something called Hanhart syndrome, right? Nick has a story to tell. As you can tell, it's probably different than anyone you've ever heard before. This guy's a weightlifter and a bodybuilder and a really good one. We're talking off camera about our diets and training and the pros and cons of doing that. And it's interesting, right? I just keep flashing back. I keep wanting to say this to you, but it's only when you tell me a story like that, or when you make that move that I think about you like, oh, he does have that because your spirit's so massive.

37:01Thank you. I just don't think about it. It takes me aback that I don't, frankly, right? Like you're stud in every sense, man, like a massive freaking champion in every sense. By the way, the Lord also wired you with this unbelievable ability to communicate your thoughts in a really passionate, intense, emotional way, which is why he's such a sought after speaker, because it's one thing to live what you're living and to achieve what you've achieved. It's another thing to be able to articulate it where people can actually picture it and see it emotionally. Like I'm picturing you on that airplane.

37:35That's a gift. So God also wired you with the gift to speak. And so if you have an organization, everybody, right? And you want somebody to come in and inspire them and teach them, take their excuses away, give them the tips and strategies that does it. This man has just got the example beyond belief, but also the ability to communicate it. And so before we move into the bodybuilding stuff, we might as well tell them in the middle, because you always don't want to wait to the end, right? So how do they find you? Do they go to your social media? If they do, how do they find you there? And how do they find you to speak?

38:03Because I know people watching this are like, okay, I want more of this dude. More of it I'm even going to get in the time with Milet. How do they find you? So on all my platforms, it's at NickSantoDestasso, my Instagram. If you type in NickNoLegs, you know, your boy pops up. Is that right? Yeah, yeah, yeah. So keywords, Ed. NickNoLegs, okay. That's good to know. But it's my, for booking, it's booking at booknicksanto.com. Okay. But, you know, that email is linked to my Instagram. And my Instagram is at Nick Santanastasso. And so they can find me there. But I'm on YouTube and everything. He's everywhere.

38:31Which, by the way, Wes will do that before bodybuilding. Let me go there first. So one thing you may not know about him, but this dude blew up on Vine, right? And doing, I love that you took your gift, right? Because I actually consider this now your gift. It is a gift. Amazingly, it's your gift. And what you've done with it has magnified it, right? And so you've taken that gift and you used it for like humor and pranks and stuff. So a lot of them may not know this, but like also social media is a place where they can be entertained and informed and inspired, which they can through with you. And some of these videos are out there still YouTube and stuff.

39:01So tell them a little bit about what you did. Cause it's like, man, you talk about parlaying something, like taking something. Some of my things are deficient. You go, nope, I'm flipping this into a massive strength. You did that on Vine with these pranks and stuff. So tell them about that. So when I was a senior, when all that wrestling stuff and, you know, I was gaining that confidence, the app Vine came out and I was like, oh, I'm going to put myself on the internet. you know and my thing was okay if I can motivate and inspire people that's great but I also want to make them laugh because I love making people laugh yeah yeah and so you know I had a mastermind little like group session with my friends I'm like what has never been done before you know what has never been done because if I post something that's never been done it's got to go viral and I'm like guys how many is there any legless guys crawling around Walmart pretending to be a zombie no no let's go you know so I lived in New Jersey I was in regular clothes and I put fake blood on my face, fake blood, you know, my clothes.

39:51I said, let's go to Jersey, which that Walmart had been kicked out like three times. They're like, dude, just don't come back anymore. You start too much trouble. And they really, yeah, yeah. I've been kicked out of that Walmart for Franken. And so we were looking for a victim and there was a, we, we go down the aisle and this guy's looking at paper towels and I'm like, yo, pull out the camera. And so I come around this corner like, and he throws the paper towels at my face. And I'm like, was it six seconds? And like, dude, we got it. Six seconds. You got to have six seconds on mine. Yeah, six seconds.

40:19So be creative as you can at six seconds. Oh, my gosh. And so I'm on my way home, still in school. Yep. And on the way home, I told myself, I said, if this reaches 500 kids, 500 kids and adults, and they could just see, they could see, look how happy Nick is. Yes. You know, look how happy Nick is joking around. Maybe I could be a little bit happier in my situation. That's all I wanted. God. I woke up the next day, had over 80 ,000 likes and over 80 ,000 revines. And it went internationally viral. Gosh. And, you know, news articles from all over the world. but Ed, the one that stood out to me the most, the title was NJ Teen, Born with Disability, Turned into a Positive.

40:52And that's all I wanted from people. That's all I wanted people to say, well look at him making the best of a situation because life hands you one hand, one hand, and you gotta make the best of that hand. You gotta play it to the best of your ability. So I wanted people to show, oh well maybe my situation's not that bad or maybe I could play my hand a little bit better. That's all I wanted for people. So you know, that picked up and I posted a bunch of, now I was just funny. Now I was just posting funny videos, some zombie pranks, some other things. And I gained a million followers in under a year doing that and created this outlet.

41:20And that led me to Fox international hiring me to scare Norman Reedus, the main actor, the walking dead in Tokyo, Japan, which, you know, I always tell people the meaning, the, the, the meaning behind all this is when you start to focus your energy on serving others and helping others, the universe comes back with amazing opportunities, amazing opportunities. And it's not, that's not some voodoo stuff. Like that's real. Like, you know, the, the energy you put out, it comes back tenfold when you try to help people. So that's all I wanted to do is help people. And so, yeah, I just wanted to make people laugh.

41:48No, but seriously, like you, you, you like fully embraced the, the noise in that to me. Like it's hilarious. It's funny, but you're like, Hey dude, it's like you just say, look, I know you're thinking this about me. I'm going to make it hilarious. Right. And I, I got to tell you, like I'm picturing this dude in middle school, starting to get pointed at and made fun of. And then he finds himself just a few short years later in Tokyo, Japan, million views, doing something that high profile. It's just freaking unbelievable to me, right? I appreciate that. You've also, though, I talked about earlier, I don't want to just tease it because you know, I'm an athlete or at least I used to be, or I think I am.

42:21I still think I'm an athlete. You've turned this thing into now, like, you lift real weights, bro. Thank you. It's not like cute, like, oh, he lifts weights. Isn't that neat? I'm like watching your stuff. I'm like, you have found, it's like, you just won't be stopped. It's like, okay, I'm going to do bench press. You think I can't do bench press? I'm going to do it. And you, I'm watching your, I'm like, what the heck? This dude's unreal. So you end up going, nah, I don't want to just like lift weights. Like, uh, I want to do some bodybuilding. Well, yeah. So I, yeah, so I was posting the pranks and I actually moved out to LA.

42:50I was supposed to be a core cast member of like an impractical yoga show with like a disabled cast. So you could pull some pretty cool pranks. Oh gosh. Yeah. That would be, that's a great idea. Yeah. I moved, I was 18. I moved out there with a roommate. Um, just me and my roommate and you know, 18 year old kid, LA is expensive to live in and I was living, it was paying$2 ,000. a month for a little shack of like a loft. And two weeks after I signed my lease, they canceled the show and I didn't have any income. I went broke. I went and I, and, and, you know, talk about how my, my mom was like, as long as you're happy, you know, we love you.

43:19My dad was like, well, you're happy, but you need to be independent. You need to make money. So that was always in my head. I was scared. I didn't know how to be financially independent. I didn't know that I can't work some regular jobs like people. Oh my God, like, what am I going to do? So I'm sitting in LA and I'm broke and I've refused to tell my dad I'm broke. I mean, I'm eating like peanut butter and tortillas, like, you know, low, low point for me. And, but like, I'm grateful for that experience. I'm grateful because I live like that. I know that, I know that I can live like that if I ever went, you know?

43:44Yeah. So I moved home, I moved home, went back to my parents in Jersey and I said, Nick, what's next? And I said, that could have been a low point. Yeah. Yeah. But I was like, you need to stay on. What's next? And my, the kid I wrestled, one of my best friends, Josh that I wrestled with, you know, we're still best friends to this day. He was always a big dude. He was always lifting. and I thought to myself, I said, well, if I get in super good shape, which I don't know how to do it yet, but if I get in super good shape, if I get in super good shape, how marketable is that? Because you can't buy a fit body.

44:13They can't take away from me my shape. I put, you know, put my blood, sweat and tears in this. They can't, it's very marketable too. So from a business standpoint too, but I did, I did want to look good naked. You know, I wanted to look good. And, um, and I knew that would, that would instill more confidence in me. I'd be more comfortable in my body because I was out of shape doing pranks. So I'm like, Josh, you know, Josh, and I had another buddy Ryan that helped me right in the beginning and I said, this is what I wanna do, I wanna take over the fitness industry because there's no one like me.

44:37I'm a unicorn, so if you put me in the industry and I excel, it's gonna catch. So for the first year I posted these lifting videos, I had no idea what I was doing. And that's what I always tell people, we are the architects of our life and each and every day we have the ability to learn whatever we wanna learn and implement it. If you don't know it, learn it and implement it. But that's the thing, maybe people are just learning things and not taking action, but you gotta implement it. So I'm posting these fitness videos for a year. And, you know, I told people, I told all my following from, you know, pranking.

45:05I said, guys, this doesn't make me happy anymore. This doesn't fulfill me. And, you know, when I have kids, I want them to know me for much more than crawling around Walmart. So I was like, I want to become a fitness model. I want to become a bodybuilder. I want to become a keynote speaker. And I want to break into the mainstream modeling industry. I put out all my goals. I put out all the things that I wanted to accomplish. I said, these are the things I want to accomplish. I don't know how I'm going to do them. You either support me or not. But this is what I want to do. So for the first year, I was posting these lifting videos with my buddies and I was getting unfollowed, you know, hated on.

45:35Dude, we love your pranks. You know, why are you doing this? You know, how are you going to become a bodybuilder? You have no legs and one arm. Like all this stuff. The same cycle, you know, when I wanted to be a wrestler, same cycle. So I was used to it. I was used to the people. You've seen this show before. I was like, you guys are thinking this is a phase for Nick, but this is going to be a lifestyle. I'm going to crush this. So that's what I tell people. I was going into the gym and it was just trial and error. And that's life. You know, falling on your face and figuring out which approach for you, which approach works for you.

45:59Because I couldn't go in the library and say, oh, no legs and one arm. This is how you lift. You know, it wasn't there for me. So we would go into the gym and figure out, you know, how to work. Well, actually, the first six months I wasn't even working this side. I was like, oh, I don't need this side. You know, I'm just going to bench press on this side, work this side. And then I fell in love with bodybuilding. I fell in love with the way it felt, you know, therapy, you know, the iron, this is a therapy. And so I was like, this is something that I really want to do. And, you know, I don't want to, you know, I don't want to do it half ass.

46:25I want to do 100 percent. So I need to I need to figure out this side. So basically it was just like going in there Which micro movements can hit this, you know with the bands or with resistance and how I'm gonna activate that latch Just going in and figuring out different ways and my knowledge in nutrition got better My knowledge and training got better. My physique started to change and people like oh this it changed big time though What ended up happening? Tell them what happened? I mean one of the things that happened is you ended up being competitive in shows, right? So yeah so I I wanted to immer you know immersion I wanted to basically just get in a better environment in new jersey there wasn't much of a bodybuilding environment okay so i moved to tampa about nine months ago i moved to tampa nine months ago and when i moved i promised myself i promised my family my friends and my supporters i said guys i'm going to step on the stage the competitive bodybuilding stage for men's physique before 2017 was over so not only was that holding me accountable but that was basically throwing myself in an uncomfortable situation it forced me forced me to level up and that's what people need to realize is if you don't think you're ready for something, jump into it.

47:23You know, like just because it's going to force yourself to learn what you need to learn to excel. And so embrace the uncomfortable time. So I'm like, Nick, you know, you don't know it, but you'll learn on the way. And so I did a 12 week prep and my, my, my best friend to this day, Cody, Cody and Mitch, Cody trained me, you know, basically dedicated, you know, my whole 12 weeks of the prep to training me. And, you know, I, I gave everything to that prep because I was basically making history. You know, no one stepped on the stage looking like this. So I was like, Like, I was, and the thing is, Ed, people would have gave me an applaud if I stepped out at 12 % body fat.

47:57But that wasn't me. No way. I'm like, you know, people clap anyway. I'm coming out shredded. Just like the wrestling. Same thing. Don't grab when I lose. I'm going to win. Yeah, exactly. So I was like, I'm going to come out like the best I could possibly be. How shredded were you? I was pretty shredded. I was probably like 5 % or 6%. Damn, dude. And so 12-week prep. and actually 10 weeks into my prep, I went out to Mr. Olympia to, because I had, I had a big, I have a big following in fitness, you know, bodybuilder, people know me all over for body building. So I wanted to go there and that's a recharge for me for people saying, you know, Oh my God, you motivate me.

48:26You know, that's where I get my fulfillment is, you know, people telling me how I impacted them. So I'm going there, I'm recharging. And you know, we talk about like moments were guided, you know, moments that were just like, Oh my God, this happened for a reason. The Friday I didn't, I went to the expo Saturday. I went to the expo Sunday, you know, I was chilling. I was like, I'm not going to go to the expo. I'm just going to hang. I was in a hotel room and I'm like, you guys want to go to the gym? And they're like, yeah. So we went to city athletic club, which is a super famous gym in Las Vegas.

48:51And I remember my boy, Casey Mitchell, he, right when I walked in, he was like, dude, the rock, the rock is upstairs lifting. I'm like, really? And I'm like, he's like, yeah. I'm like, well, I need to still get a lift in, you know, I'm on prep. Like, can I still lift? And he's like, yeah. So I go up there and here, here Dwayne was, you know, with the security guards. And prior to that, he, he had retweeted one of my bodybuilding videos on Twitter. So just like, Nick, much respect, love what you're doing. So I was like, I told my guys, I'm like, he already knows who I am. We don't need to bug him.

49:15I don't, I wouldn't want to be bugged in the gym, you know, if I was him. So let's just like chill. So like, we're lifting, we're lifting. And he, he was in the corner and he pulled off his headphones and then, you know, everybody bombarded with pictures and you know, everyone's taking pictures. CT Fletcher was there. Kai Green was there, a bunch of studs. Yeah. And then, you know, yeah, that is a stud gym. And you know, I'm sitting there and I'm posing in the mirror, you know, I'm like two weeks out, just like doing me. And his security guard comes up and he's like, can Dwayne meet you? And I'm like, yeah, please.

49:42And he's like, we'll escort you so you can privately meet him. And so they put me in a corner, I have it all filmed. And you know, we dabbed me up and he's like, hey man, how you doing? You know, I love your stuff. And he's like, I'm a big fan. And I'm like, dude, I'm a big fan of you. And I was like, I'm gonna do what you did. And he's like, what do you mean by that? And I'm like, dude, you're the rock. People knew you for college football, flag football. And then you went into WWE and then you just took over every industry, bro. You're like crushing everything. I said, I'm going to do what you did.

50:07And he said, Nick, you're right. Because people like me and you, they put us in any industry and we adapt. We adapt and we overcome. And he's like, you're going to do it. And talk about a moment of confirmation for me that I was doing the right thing. And after that, he's like, can I grab a picture? And, you know, another fangirl moment. I'm like, dude, of course you can grab a picture. I love you. So, you know, we took a picture and I told him about my competition. You know, he's like, dude, you're shredded. I'm like, I'm two weeks out. That's the only reason why I'm shredded. Right. And so I told him about my competition and everything.

50:34you know flew home and two weeks later i'm backstage and i'm pumping up i'm pumping up for my show and cody comes over he's like dude the rock just posted you on his instagram come on man i'm like i'm like really yeah and he wrote this really heartfelt message it's still there if you scroll down and you know very heart heartwarming message and at the end he said nick i want to thank you for you know sharpening sculpting my perspective a little bit more on life and you know i and i and i tell the guys you know i tell my buddies when i'm up on stage it's really hard for me to it's still hard for me to realize the impact i have on people because it's nick just nick yeah like i forget to tell people that i drive a car but i drive a car you know it's just me doing me yeah so for someone like that to be like dude you are moving people it was just like oh my god like i'm like i'm going the right way i'm going how'd you do in the show i took so i i placed third in men's physique novice so it was my first competition so that like the amateur i took third and i beat an able but i beat some able-bodied guys and i'm like yes you know like you crushed thank you how cool is it by the way because by the way all of you should know this too You can someday inspire your own heroes, which is what you did with Dwayne, right?

51:35You can someday your example can inspire heroes You said a couple things I just want to go back to because we're like here we go flying out of time again, right? Because this is like unreal number one Several times you said I don't know how I'm gonna do it, but I'm gonna do it So many people are stopped by thinking they need to know how to do something without chasing it More important is why and your passion for it the how will reveal itself in the chase So many people are held back by I don't know how right get your butt in there start chasing it the how begins to get revealed. Also, I think Dwayne used an unbelievable word for you, which is adapt.

52:07He said, guys like you and I adapt. If you think about it, your life, because of the way that you were born, you've had to adapt all of your life. And champions in anything, yeah, they have drive. Yes, they have goals. They have their incantations. They have the gratitude. They have all that. They also have the ability to adapt. It's one of the things not covered on my show, often enough, or any shows that I see like this, is adaptation, adapting to your environment, and adapting to conditions, adapting to circumstances that happen to you. And I agree with him. Guys like you, me, and him, and I'll just say you specifically, we adapt and we become great at whatever we do.

52:41You're about adapting your entire life. And so stud story, dude. Like now you go dominate. Because it's interesting. You did the bowling thing, not real good at that. Wrestling, you got even better. Then you've taken the fitness and the bodybuilding to like a legitimate world-class level now, brother. It's like I want to acknowledge that. I think it's freaking awesome. Thank you. We are almost out of time. and I do, I feel like there's something special about you for every audience. You obviously know why you should book Nick to go speak. Let's be real here, okay? You're not gonna have somebody like him ever come into your life, come speak to your organization, your school or your company, who's literally, I mean, his example's unreal, but his ability to put these words together is unheard of in this space.

53:20I mean, like, you're gonna come speak to my company. I can tell you that for sure. What an honor it is to be with this gentleman here today and to share him with all of you. Most of you are probably familiar from him for the first time from The Secret. He's one of the stars, if not the star of The Secret. And it's an honor to have him today because I consider him on earth one of, if not the greatest expert on the brain, on the inner mechanics of the brain, mindset and peak performance. So I know it's what all of you want to talk about. So I have John Assaraf here with me today. John, thanks for being here, brother.

53:52And it's so good to be here. And thank you for giving me the honor to be here with you. So there's two prolific entrepreneurs who are now in this space that are saying, these are the things we do. And isn't it ironic that we both do them and we're both addicted to them and we both attribute it to our success. So please talk about that, brother. So I have my vision boards and I actually have my exceptional life blueprint that I've created. It's about 50 pages of my prayers, my rituals for my spiritual growth, health, wealth, my money story, my inner mission, my outer mission. You know, some of the stuff, you know, either that I have or that I'm creating.

54:34And so I create these visual representations to trigger the biggest part of my brain called the occipital lobe and to activate my memory center. So I have vision boards for what I want to create. So I'm giving my brain the exact instructions so that not only it focuses helping me achieve that, what most people don't understand about vision boards or creating goals in writing that are specific is that your brain is a deletion and distortion tool as well. so if you give your brain the instruction of this is the stuff that's important to me for health god spirituality charity fun experiences my children my mother my father myself whatever it is and you say this is what i want to trade my life for delete and distort everything else now all of a sudden you're using your brain as a deletion and distortion organism in order to be able to help you hyper focus on what you want so part one is get absolute clarity on what you want so your brain helps you eliminate what you don't want.

55:38Part one. Part two, right? Part two is I tend to be a goal-seeking guy, right? And I used to not celebrate the small stuff. And I used to just like, you know, bigger goal, bigger goal, bigger goal, more, bigger, bigger. And somebody says to me, like, are you going to like slow down just to enjoy some of the stuff that you actually have done for yourself and for people in your family and I was like well Let me create an accomplished board. so good so good so accomplished board you passed that test on your own 40 years ago celebrate that you helped this person who was challenged and celebrate that you know you did this for him or for her or for yourself celebrate that stuff to remind yourself because i i'm tough on myself.

56:33Like, I'm, like, I'm, let's come on, let's go. It's a goal. Let's go. And sometimes I forget the stuff that I have done, the stuff that I do do that I need to remember. So I created an accomplishments board and a list so I can just go to it when I feel like, holy shit, am I, am I smart enough to achieve that next thing? Am I good enough? What a lot of people don't know, Ed, is when I was a kid, I used to feel like I wasn't smart enough. And when I was a kid, it helped me back. And today I still feel like I'm not smart enough. And that fuels me to get smarter. So I use it. I set big goals. I go, God, I don't have the skills.

57:11I don't have the knowledge, but I can figure it out. I've got contacts. I've got friends and there's books, there's Google, there's, there's YouTube, there's holy mackerel. I don't need to have all the specialized knowledge anymore. So I have accomplished where we also, you know, a crap board is what conflicts are are happening right now. I often say that there's only four things that are holding you back as a human being. Only four. There's not 25. There's four that are the core. One is if your vision and goal is bigger than your self-image. Okay. So if you feel you deserve it, you can have this vision and goal and be excited about it and motivated about it.

57:50You will not do what it takes to achieve. One. Two, if you have limiting beliefs. If you have a vision and goal, but you have a limiting to believe that you're too young, too old, whatever the case is, your limiting beliefs will drive your behavior. Three, fear. Fear of being embarrassed to shame, ridiculed, or judge. Fear of failure. Fear of disappointment. And we'll talk about disappointment in a moment or fear of succeeding and failing again. Disappointment. And then the fourth one, by the way, is you're lacking the knowledge and skill required. So that actually sets up a self-doubt trigger, which activates the Frankenstein brain, which causes you to lose motivation.

58:25But most people prefer to master disappointment and comfort zones instead of mastering change. So if I master disappointment, I know what I got. I just have to deal with, well, okay, this is what I got. And if I master my comfort zone, that at least this is the devil I know. Yes. Versus mastering change. And we know what's going on in our brain. We know what's happening neurologically, biologically, emotionally, physically. And all of that is a skill. Yes. It's just a skill. So why not just master change? Why not become an adaptationist right now in the time that you need it the most in the world?

59:14because if you don't, then you're just going to keep repeating the same patterns that are going to get reinforced and it makes it harder in three months, six months, and six years. So master change now and make that one of your core competencies and then you master your life. Oh my gosh, you guys, anybody familiar with my work know how much I love this man and how much we line up on these things similarly. I love the way that you phrase things and guys, one thing about change, one of the reasons we hesitate to change as humans is it's an energy depletion too. Humans kind of want to conserve energy.

59:46You have to realize one thing, everybody, then we're going to go to one more part and then I'm going to ask you about grief. But yeah, guys, we love to gravitate towards what we're most familiar with. We create these patterns in our life and we repeat them over and over and over again. And if you're not conscious of what they are, if you don't create new ones, you're just repeating the same life in a different year, over and over. And that script that John talked about, your script is the same as it was five years ago, 10 years ago, 20 years ago, with slightly different characters and slightly different dressings in the room.

1:00:20I'm fired up about today's show because we're getting right into what it takes to win. And that is this, write this down one more, one more. See, I accepted a long time ago. I wasn't the smartest, the best looking, the fast enough with the best background, the most connections. I didn't have any of those things. What I could control was my work ethic. You've heard me speak many times about outworking everybody, but I think that just feels good when we hear it, but most people don't take it seriously. If you think that I have a little bit of success in my life, I can tell you what I attribute it to.

1:00:54Yes, self-confidence, yes, mindset, visualization, goals, all the things I talk about all the time, listening skills, influence, energy transfer, how to be happier, all of that stuff applies. When you get to winning, For me, it's come down to maxing out. And what maxing out means is you do one more at least than you think you're capable of. So when you're done, whatever you're doing, whether it's at the gym or phone calls or meetings or in sports, one more shot, one more throw, one more swing of the golf club or the baseball bat, the separator is for the winners, they do one more. I'm addicted to one more.

1:01:29And so I want your mantra going forward to be one more. What does that look like if we're working out? That means when we're in the gym and we say, I'm going to do five sets of 10, I'm crazy. Like I'm a psycho because I want to win. I want to be somebody. I want to separate. I want to compete. And the way I do that isn't with my giftedness because I wasn't born with a bunch of gifts. And I think gifts are crap. I think for the most part, gifted people struggle in life because things come easy to them. I like that things haven't come easy for me in my life. I like that I don't have natural talents in every area.

1:02:02And maybe you like that about you too. Maybe you've looked at yourself all your life and thought, man, I don't have that natural beauty or that natural talent or this gift for creativity or intellect or humor. I don't have any of those things. But what I got is I will outwork you. And so at the gym, one of the things I focus on, they say it's five sets of 10. When I'm at 10, I go one more. Bam, 11. If I'm running on the treadmill and it's a 45-minute run, I never finish at 45. I always go one more minute, 46. If I'm at the office and I'm supposed to make 25 phone calls that day, when I'm at the end of the day, I always do one more.

1:02:37If I've got meetings, I always do one more. My mantra for three decades in business has been one more. Why? Because we get out of life what we think we deserve. And I'm the kind of guy that I know when you do 45 minutes on the treadmill and I do 46, I deserve to be fitter. I know that when I'm lifting weights and I watch you do five sets of 10 and every single time, I do one more. When it's a set of five, I do six. When it's a set of eight, I do nine. When it's 45 on the treadmill, I do 46. When it's supposed to be 20 phone calls, I make 21. When it's supposed to be an eight hour workday, I work nine.

1:03:13Whatever it is, I always do one more. And what that does is it makes me eventually think I'm doing things other people aren't willing to do, so I should get things other people aren't going to get. And if you go to the root of the things I believe philosophically about winning, the people that win, the great athletes that I coach, when I watch the really gifted golfer and the one who actually wins, the gifted golfer, they do what they're supposed to do. You'd never know they weren't working hard. It's not like people don't work hard. Everybody works hard. That's a given now. But what's the separator to where you become the maxed out version of you.

1:03:49See, the gifted golfer, they hit their 100 balls because they're supposed to, but the not so gifted one that ends up winning, they hit 101 or 110 or 120. I watched them on the driving range and you can hear them say, one more, one more. What's the difference between Kobe Bryant and other gifted NBA players when he played or Michael Jordan when they played or right now Kevin Durant, people tell me, or Steph Curry. They're constantly, when everyone else is done shooting in the gym, they say one more. Larry Bird was legendary for one more, one more. The people that would throw the passes to him, the ball guys in practice, he always wants more.

1:04:26He always wants more. The great hitters that I know, the Mike Trouts and MLB, they're gifted, but they just take a little more. They take that extra batting practice, that extra session. They're always doing extra. That's the separator. You can learn all this stuff. You can digest all the tactical information that I give out, but if you're not willing to do one more, eventually there's a part of you that says, maybe, maybe I don't deserve it. I'm just doing what everybody else is doing. And that's not good enough. It's not even good enough to do more than everybody else. It's your maxed out level.

1:04:58It's one more of everything. And so whether that's a phone call, an email, a text, an appointment, one more time you tell your spouse you love them. One more time you go in and kiss your children goodnight. One more hug of somebody. One more phone call. One more everything. I want your theme to be one more. Have I said that enough times for you today? So what's that really look like an application? Well, the second thing it does for you is you actually do more reps of whatever it is you're doing. And when we do more repetitions, we get better. And when we do more repetitions, we're more productive.

1:05:30So number one is the psychology part. If you're someone who's always doing things other people aren't willing to do, you always max out, you always go to the next level you convince yourself you deserve to win you can take low self-esteem low identity low confidence and change it over time by building this habitual addiction to doing one more this obsession of one more all the greats do one more and all the average don't it's not that the average don't work hard it's not that the average at your company they don't it's not they don't work hard they probably work pretty hard but do they always do extra do they always do one more do they always do ten more if they need to do they always get after it the other part of it number two is you just get better because of the reps you're just doing more of something you get better you get you get stronger you you become a better phone caller when you make one more phone call every day you become a better communicator when you do one more meeting every single day you get better at coordination in your sport or at the gym by just doing more reps yes you get better so that's the second layer but the third one is you stack the odds in your favor.

1:06:34See, for me, I want the odds that I'm going to win to increase. The larger numbers we play in life in every area, more is always better. People tell you, more isn't always better. And almost everything more is better, just so you know. And almost everything. People who tell you more isn't better in most things are lazy and they try to justify their own weakness. Don't let people who are justifying their own weakness convince you that you working hard, you doing more isn't the pathway to your success. People say, well, you got to work smarter, not harder. That's a lie because everybody who wins works smarter.

1:07:09The separator is who works harder. And by the way, we become smarter through working harder. All the new revelations, all the breakthroughs, all the new discoveries always come when you're doing one more. Always come through more repetitions. You find new ways, new strategies, new words, new keys by higher repetitions. So even if you believe working smarter is more important, you will become smarter by doing more. So if you work 300 days a year, let's just say, 300 days a year, that's 300 more phone calls every single year. Over five years, that's 1 ,500 more contacts. 1 ,500 more contacts. Just think about that just for a second.

1:07:49Over 30 years, that's 9 ,000 more contacts. What are the odds the person who makes 9 ,000 more contacts or even 300 more a year are going to win? You give me two average people that walk in a room, same ability, same skills, same backgrounds, same product. One of them makes 300 more contacts a year than the other one. Who's going to win? We know. How about over five years? One of them makes 1 ,500 more contacts over five years. Who's going to win? Over a lifetime, 30 years of work, one makes 9 ,000 more contacts. who's gonna win? You stack the odds in your favor. Never mind the person who made the 9 ,000 more contacts is better.

1:08:26They've got more reps. They've got more confidence. They believe they deserve to win. They just have 9 ,000 more opportunities. How about a golfer? One of them makes 300 more swings a year. A year. And that's just one more swing a day, right? And over a year, over five years, 1 ,500 more. 9 ,000 over a lifetime. Who's more likely to win? So you pick anything you want. You begin to stack the odds in your favor. How about at the gym? if every day you went one more minute in your cardio, so it's supposed to be 45, you do 46. Do you know what that starts to do to you? You start knowing you're different.

1:08:57You start knowing you obliterate standards. You start knowing you can break through. When you break through an artificial barrier, like 45 minutes, you do one more. It sets a catalyst for your entire day. It sets a syntax. It sets a mindset for the rest of your life. Nevermind the fact that if you do 300 more minutes, which is 9 ,000 more over your lifetime, who's going to be more fit? So you begin to stack these things and your entire life changes. This is what I like to call compound pounding. Most people underestimate what time can do when backed up with massive activity. Right as I'm speaking to you, I'm looking out at the ocean right now, and there's a massive rock formation, and you can see the rivets and the rocks.

1:09:39And what caused those rivets and the rocks was compound pounding of the ocean hitting that rock over and over and over again. Over and over. Compound pounding against that rock. And over time that ocean breaks the rock down. Over time. Where you can see the breakdown in a rock that water does hitting it. Think about that over time. Not one time when the water hits it. Not two times. Not five times. When you add up years and years and years of that water hitting the rock, it breaks it down. And that's like getting through to your dream. You have to be like that water hitting the rock I'm staring at right now that over time, that compound pounding breaks down the barriers, breaks down the obstacles, breaks down anything in your way of getting to your dream.

1:10:24So I'm sold out on all the strategies and tactics that I teach you. But what I believe in completely is the power of compound pounding. And here's the crazy thing about most people. They will give up on their dream before the compounding has been allowed to kick in. So they'll work at it and they'll work at it and they'll work at it and they don't see the breakthrough. But what they don't understand is that rock was getting ready to break if you just keep pounding against it. But because most people don't see the evidence, see if you watch that water hit that rock over one day you're gonna see no difference.

1:10:56Two days no difference, five days no difference, maybe even a year there's no difference, maybe even five years. But you have the compound pounding of every wave hitting that rock over and over again, there's an inevitability to the breakdown of the rock. That's true of your goals and dreams as well. There's an inevitability to success. It's not a matter of if, it's a matter of when, when we adopt one more, when we adopt compound pounding. Do you know the kind of confidence you begin to have when you just accept in your life that I am going to be relentless, I'm always going to do extra, and you accept the fact that all things break down over time.

1:11:35All the barriers will go away. All the obstacles will go away. Everything in your way will go away if you keep after it over an extended period of time. Most people overestimate what they can do in a year. They do. They set up goals for a year and they overestimate where they're gonna get to. And they dramatically underestimate what they can do in a decade. And the reason for that is most people don't understand the power of compound pounding. So I want you to accept today that you're going to be relentless, that you're going to keep coming, that you're like a dripping faucet. You're like those waves hitting the rock.

1:12:08Other people are going to get slowed down. Other people are going to take a break. Other people are going to flinch. Other people are going to cool it. Other people are going to believe they've made it. Or maybe some people are going to believe they can't make it. But you're going to be relentless. You're going to be repetitious. You may not be the fastest. You may not be the smartest. You may not be the strongest. You may not be the most beautiful. You may not have the most articulate thoughts and ideas in the world. But what you got is compound pounding. What you got is one more. And when they get weak, you just keep company.

1:12:33When they flinch, you blow their doors off. That's how you win in life is you keep getting after it and keep getting it after it until the job gets done. You show me somebody who can succeed. So a lot of people can be excited for a day. They can be excited for a month. Some people can be excited for a year or two or three years, but the winners, they stay excited as long as it takes to get the job done. They keep after it until the job gets done. They never stop. They're always after it. And that's where their strength comes from. That's where their confidence comes from, is knowing their capacity to keep coming at you.

1:13:05And that all your competition's going to get weak. They're going to get tired. They're going to surrender. They're going to give in. They're going to think they made it. They're going to take a break. They're going to cool it. And you just keep coming. It's just nature. Just like the nature of the ocean against that rock, It's just nature that you run down your dream, that you knock down your dream. I want you to implement all the things that I teach on Max Out, all the tactics, all the strategies, but more than anything, I want you to buy into the fact of an inevitability of you winning, that it's inevitable, that it might not be a year or two years or three years, but you're going to stay excited and you're going to keep doing one more until the job gets done.

1:13:41Today's message is very simple. You can win. You should win and you will win. I want you to feel this you will win if you just keep coming you keep getting after it you keep doing one more You can control this you can't control all the exterior things in your life people's attitudes how they treat you Who cancels on you who changes their mind who hates on you who lets you down? But you can control this you can always go 46 instead of 45 you can always go 11 instead of 10 You can always make the next phone call always do one more meeting always do one more always always always and I promise you, you will knock down that rock that's in between you and your dream and make them come true.

1:14:22Today's really simple. You're gonna knock down whatever that rock is that's in between you and your dream. You're gonna keep after. You're gonna be relentless. You're not gonna give in. You're gonna be the person who stays excited until the entire job gets done, until that dream is real, and you know long-term, all these other people, they're gonna flinch, they're gonna get weak, and you won't. You've adopted a max-out mindset, it. And I want to remind you today to stay connected with me. I want you to win. Hope you can feel it today. I want to break it down to its most simple form, which is that you use nature to your advantage.

1:14:54You use the force of you, the force of effort, the force of sustained effort over an extended period of time to wear out the obstacles in front of you in your dream. I want you to feel the confidence that comes with it. I'm telling you, look at me, listen to me. You're going to do this. You're going to win if, and it's a big if, if you'll just adopt it. It ought to be written everywhere. One more, one more, max out everywhere you can put it. It's inevitable. It's not if anymore. It's just when. And I want to remind you of that. And another reminder is the max out two minute drill. I'm trying to stay so connected with you.

1:15:30I want to know what you're going through. I want to know what your issues are, your thoughts, your hopes, your aspirations, your dreams, so that I can help you with the right material, the right tactics, the right inspiration. So, every day on Instagram, we run the Max Out 2 Minute Drill. And it's very simple. Here's what winners get, by the way. The winners of the Max Out 2 Minute Drill win coaching calls with me, with my guests, tickets to see me speak, copies of my book, Max Out gear. There's some going forward now in a few weeks that are riding on my jet with me, doing their coaching call live on my jet.

1:16:00There's so many great things that you can win. And there's three ways to win that prize. When I make a post in my main feed on Instagram, you just make a comment within the first two minutes. And not just hashtag Max Out. Make a comment in the first two minutes. We pick a winner every day who just makes a comment in the first two minutes, and we usually extend it to about five minutes. Number two, make a comment on other people's comments. So after you've left your comment, comment on a few other people's comments. I'm going to begin to reward people who connect and collaborate, because I want you doing that with each other in the community.

1:16:27So make a comment on someone else's comment. And third, if you miss the first two to five minutes, that's not a problem. Just make a comment every day on every post I make. And at the end of the week, we pick winners who just Just make a comment every day, regardless of whether it's at two minutes or four hours or eight hours afterwards. It doesn't matter what time it is. So there's three ways to win. I want to encourage you to participate in the Max Out 2-Minute Drill. Share and subscribe to today's program. I hope it gave you hope. I hope it gave you certainty. I hope it gives you a very simple recipe to dominate.

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1:17:48that was a great conversation and if you want to hear the full interview be sure to follow the ed my let show on apple and spotify links are in the show notes you'll never miss an episode that way we're going to talk today with the great rob dierdick welcome to the show brother hey thank you for having me speaking of life and needle moving i don't know if you texted me this or you posted it so it probably doesn't matter but that's the micro stuff the macro is you're so obsessed with this that you look at like duration of time on the planet and it was something about you just realized you read something on your you're laughing but you did you text me this or did you post it i just posted that i wanted to live one million hours that's exactly right So you read something that convinced you that you're going to that you could live to a particular age and you deduced how many hours there.

1:18:36So I actually think this is brilliant because this type of focus causes us to live with intention and attention and the lack of. I think all the time, do you know when I pray at night, you're going to laugh at this. Never said this out loud, not even to my wife. I'm going to tell you and about 70 billion people right now. When I pray at night, one of my last prayers is that I'm going to live to 128 years old. Mm-hmm. Okay. And I really believe now, again, someone will listen to this in three years. Wow, it's so sad he passed away. But I have that prayer and that intention, and I've repeated it over and over and over and over again because I believe if I don't pick a number, if I don't pick a time, if I don't set a goal, if I don't, then I'll be up to the whims of whatever else comes my way.

1:19:21And I really believe that you create a space when you set something like that that didn't exist before you did it. And then you find the behaviors, the people, the things, the thoughts, the technology, the nutrition to fill it up what i didn't do was calculate the amount of hours that it gives me to then optimize that time so speak to that whole thing yeah and look i'm you know it makes it really makes me happy that means we're gonna we're literally we're gonna be friends deep into our hundreds i love it we're gonna be having these conversations about well what do you think you're thinking you're going to 128 you think you're good i don't know i'm bush i'm feeling pretty good right now but i think about it more from a this is what i'm big on this is your existence right and this is this is the framework of the the experience the human experience right you only truly can judge anything your energy how well you're using time everything that's happened in your past how you actually feel in the present moment you can only do it in the present moment and you only experience it in your mind right and then you have to make a decision of like i want to change um all of these things so am i i'm going to create a better future experience that is the human experience and i realized that it that i wanted to make it last to 112 i initially wanted to live to 104 and be shot in a rocket into space and explore the universe without the light pollution from planet earth for the last year before i died and then floated out into the cosmos now that was before i had a wife and kids and so it's like now the audacity of don't worry about me and then like i'm up there for like 24 more years like so that changed and then when i read the book icky guy right the japanese long life and happiness book um they talked about super centurions and i'm like oh like that brand i want to be a super centurion so then i made it at um then i made it uh that i would want to live to 112 and then as i started getting deeper into okay how many days is that all right okay that's how many days i have this is how many days that i've done so far then when i was going going through my time matrix and looking at all these different things where I spend time of like, wow, I spend nearly as much time shooting a television show as I will picking up my kids and taking them to school for the year.

1:21:50Right. And, and to me, as I just started looking at these hours and then where am I, where am I losing a lot of time on the couch watching Netflix? You know what I mean? It's, it's me and the wife on there watching our favorite show but boy when you start looking at what that is man you're letting you're letting the hard eight to nine percent go on the couch you know what i mean like it's it's cold hard reality but as i looked at that you know i'm i then was like you know what is like what's a round number of time and like wow one million hours is 114 years and 54 days i'm gonna i'm gonna experience a million hours on this earth, right?

1:22:31And so, of course, a lot of people push back on like, oh, it's good, yeah, you're like a vegetable. What are you going to do? And it's like, I didn't even contemplate that. And it's because you live in two different mindsets. I live in a mindset that I just keep getting healthier and happier, more balanced, lighter. Life is more effortless. My system, that is, my entire body is more efficient. And I can show you in blood work. I can show you in net worth. I can show you in time and I can show you in qualitative data that I have collected about how I feel about my life, work and health, that I am in healthier, better physical condition, wealthier, more balanced and happier in the data, which only proves to me there's no reason why you can't keep getting healthier, happier and wealthier.

1:23:24for the remainder of your life. And then I'll just fall right off a cliff. You know what I mean? Whatever it ends up ending. But again, what's it go back to? I want to live with absolute intention. And I want to experience every moment that I get into and feel the vividness and the richness and the beauty that is the human experience and life. You know, you don't want to be so future focused and trying to create a better future that you never feel the present, right? And so for me, I really began to understand what state my mind is at all times and how do I learn to control that and begin to put in systems and solutions that keep my mind in a balanced state is really one of the bigger things that I've learned to do over the last year or so.

1:24:19Share with us one of those systems. Well, you know, if you can imagine this, your mind is balanced in this way, right? It's past, present, and future, right? And so there's sort of five sections as I see it. And on one end, it's dwelling in the past. You ain't doing nothing. You want to sit and dwell about something you did? You ain't doing nothing. Then the next level up is rectify, right? You are problem solving, taking action, something that happened in the past. So now you're in the present past where, okay, I'm, I'm dealing with something that happened. Now I'm problem solving, taking action to make a better future, right?

1:24:58You sit right in the middle and you experience it or you go to the next level is creating, right? And so now you're in this future present, right? Where you're experiencing the present while creating the future. That's, that's where you want to toggle, right? Because what goes beyond creating the future is wishing, right? Because if you're sitting there wishing the future was better and wishing like this will be like this or your dwelling, you're not moving, right? And so you want to be either experiencing the moment or handling something that happened in the past, present, or creating something in the future, present state and swing between that, right?

1:25:38And so if you can imagine that's your mind, what you think about on an ongoing basis is ranges between all of that. That's where the action lives. Now it's the quality of your mind and your mind's quality is either in a proactive state, a reactive state, an inactive state, or a magnetic state. And for me, when all aspects of my life are in order, meaning I'm eating super clean, everything, all my goals and visions and everything is running smooth, I'm spending very little time rectifying the past because I've designed my present future experience with such intention. I'm dealing with very little disruption that then I eventually go beyond just being proactive to this magnetic state.

1:26:27And I know you've experienced this before because this is when your everything is going at operating at such a level that answers start coming to you without you asking the questions. It is the law of attraction that that's the unexplainable force that lives in the quantum field where your energy is at such a high level. You are so clear of not only being present and experiencing, but creating your better future. And you rise to this, you vibrate to this level to where the answers show up and you never ask the questions, right? And for me, I'm trying to master all aspects of my existence to where I basically sit in that state of toggling between future present and proactive and magnetic at all times oh my god it's a deep one it's a deep no okay that's an all-timer right i want everyone to go back the last five or six minutes there that's an all-timer um when we talk i always filter it through my life and my perspective i just realized something because i do know what that vibrational frequency feels like when I am getting answers to questions I haven't even asked.

1:27:40It's not frequent enough. And the reason it's not frequent enough is I'm depleting my energy reserves to not put myself in a state where I can have that type of energy and what I call vibrate at that frequency. And you're exactly right. And that's the other reason why rest, recovery, being present matters. I just really pulled something here. I just really did. But let me say this. Every single thing matters. Every thought, every action, every decision, every single thing that you do is interconnected to get you to that space. And for me, it's like I think, oh, I'll have a glass of wine. I'll have a couple chips.

1:28:21It will pull away from that. I'll make one bad decision from eating bad that will then cause me to be short with my wife that leads to this entire – pulls me right out of the magnetic state. right because it's like even when you're there it's really sensitive and you could just get one thought that could rip you out of that you could look at one text it could rip you out of that right it's like and so that requires really really understanding every single bit of you and then giving value to everything you do rather than trying to like pocket your values oh if I eat healthy oh if I stay focused oh if I clear out this stuff oh if I rest or recover versus like no it is all works together to make the best version of you how committed are you how disciplined are you to live it at the level that you know you have to live at at a consistent enough basis that it becomes to compound effortlessly and become a way of life rather than getting disciplined again.

1:29:27That's really what it is, you know. Well, for me, I burn myself out going from those states to the good state back to the bad state. I'm still having wine with you at dinner tonight, but I know exactly what you're talking about. And everybody, you all hear the show every single week. It's pretty rare that I'm this quiet because I just, I really process a lot of information when you and I go like this. Yeah. It's good for me. I'm already thinking of stuff I'm going to say and I'm going to teach that I'm going to steal, that I'm going to make mine. Here's a clip of Ed Milet appearing on Impact Theory with host Tom Bilyeu.

1:30:03Your actions also have to line up. You're never going to be able to think your way to success. I love Think and Grow Rich. It's my favorite book other than my scriptures, but I got to be honest with you, you don't just think and get rich. You got to do stuff. The question then becomes, what do I need to think and what do I need to do simultaneously or in congruency that produced the result? And that's why I did the things that I had the things in the book. Second chapter, as you know, and I know you're a huge Matrix fan. As I'm writing this chapter, this is Tom's chapter. I was like, this is the greatest chapter ever written.

1:30:29I love this. But one of the points that I make in the book is being able to slow things down and get into bullet time. But there's two things I love about the Matrix. One, I think that's an absolute example of the reticular activating system in the brain. And so you do have to be good. But the question in life becomes, listen, I believe you're one decision, one relationship, one meeting, one show, one thought, one new emotion, potentially away from changing your entire life. I've proven this in my life. So have you. And the question then becomes, how do you find them? And this RAS is super powerful in our brains because it's the mechanism that filters the entire world to us.

1:31:02It literally reveals to us our reality. Just like you just said, it reveals our reality. I just bought a Tesla. I drove it here today. I like what Musk is doing. I'm like, I'm gonna get one of these Teslas. Man, every freaking where I go, I see Teslas now. Red one, babe. Hey, there's a white one. There's a plaid. Three lanes over, other side of the freeway. Babe, black Tesla just drove by. She's like, how in the world do you know this? Because it's become important to me. And it's now in my filter. It's now a part of my RAS. That's why when you're in a loud room, all the auditory sounds, someone doesn't even say it loud.

1:31:33Tom, you can hear your own name in a room because it's become important to you. See, the question in life is, can you make your goals, your ambitions, the emotions you want, the thoughts, the relationships you need to become your Teslas? And if they become your Tesla's things slow down the other part of the matrix I love I'll come up for air is Neo is the one He's the one and when my wife and I were little I literally live on the beach now brother that we used to walk on We were in high school We were dating and we'd walk in this beach go babe I'm gonna get you one of these beach houses or we're gonna get one of these beaches because you are you yep And I have no idea how and I go home.

1:32:05I go dad. Who are these freaking people who lives there? He's like, I don't know if they are but they don't work with me, you know And I figured something out. When you find a family or a person that's happy and successful or either one, somewhere back in their lineage, they weren't. That family wasn't. And then the one shows up. The one. And that one changes that family forever. It changes the way they live, the way the world treats them, the way they think. They're the neo. They're the one in their family. And in my family, I'm the one. I'm the one. I didn't like it. I didn't hope for it. I fought for it.

1:32:43I fought for it. I did the things in this book to become the one in my family. And if you're listening to this or watching it, why don't you consider the fact that potentially maybe you're the one? And the fact that you don't think you are or that you're not qualified to be the one or don't have the background or the skills or the confidence probably makes you the one because that was me. Now, what what does the one do? What do they introduce to the family that changes it so profoundly? I think they introduce a different way of thinking Tom. I think they introduce a belief system that the world doesn't dictate the terms to our family anymore.

1:33:15We're going to dictate the terms to the world and that we have some measure of control over the results of our lives. I think most people go through their lives thinking they have no measure of control. and I had a huge breakthrough brother two weeks ago after I wrote the book and as you know as I wrote the book when my dad died I thought I need to write this book because my dad taught me all these profound lessons of one more and I'm the next to go I don't know if it's this week or 60 years from now but I'm the next to go and I woke up about three o 'clock in the morning 3 15 exactly and I woke up Christian I said babe wake up and I was in tears this was just two weeks ago I said, babe, someone helped daddy.

1:33:52I'm 51, bro. My dad was sober for 35 years. This never occurred to me. She goes, what? I said, someone helped my dad. She goes, what do you mean? Someone helped my dad in his darkest moment of his life, get sober. In some coffee shop or quiet place when my dad was down on his knees, losing his family, some precious human being helped my dad. I don't know who they are. They changed our entire family. Max and Bella's lives are changed because this person that we don't know. Millions of people I've reached because this person helped my dad. She goes, that's amazing. I said, here's what's more amazing.

1:34:29What qualified them to help my dad? Their shame, their mess, that they were also a drug addict and alcoholic. This precious soul, the things that the most ashamed of that they think disqualified them the most in life, is the very thing that qualified them to help my dad in the most important moment of his life is where their giftedness, their experience, their shame, their setbacks is what qualified them to change my life and my dad's life in this dark space. I've been in personal development. My dad's been sober forever. It never occurred to me. The mess you have in your life, the things you are most ashamed of and embarrassed by that you think are the most insignificant, that disqualify you the most are probably the very things that will qualify you to connect with another human being in your business or your personal life to change their life.

1:35:21And don't ever underestimate the ripple effect. They were just helping some man get sober in some dark space in his life, never knowing the one was his son. Never knowing that this whole existence of my family was changed, not just by me being the one, not just by my dad's decision, but by a completely flawed person. Remember, think about this person. At some point, maybe they were stealing from their family, driving drunk, did things they're completely ashamed of in those states. That was the experience that qualified them to change my dad's life. So if you're listening to this or watching it, stop discounting yourself.

1:35:56Stop carrying these bags of your life of the things you're embarrassed or ashamed of or that you think are insignificant that don't amount to anything. Those are the things, you, precious you, that could change another precious human being's life in a moment where they need you the most. And if you don't believe you're qualified, if you don't believe you can do it, you're going to miss those moments in your life. And your entire existence here wasn't what it was supposed to be. Here's a clip of Ed Milet appearing on the Heavy Checklist podcast. The scripture says, hey, where there's no vision, the people will perish.

1:36:27If you dig deeper with that, it's not that people don't have any vision. Look, would you rather be fit or fat? Would you rather be happy or sad? Would you rather be rich or poor? Would you rather have a private jet or fly commercial? These are easy questions. People have a vision. Their issue is depth perception. They think they're further away than they are. And because they think they're so far away and it's so complicated, everything stays that far away all their life. They keep it there by their behaviors. But what if the truth is you're one decision away from changing your life, you're one relationship, like I said earlier, you're one podcast, you're one YouTube video, you're one new book, you're one new meeting?

1:37:03Check this out. about three weeks ago, I'm playing golf. And a really good friend of mine goes, I want you to meet this guy. I want you to play golf tomorrow. Your net worths are similar. And he's a fascinating dude. And there's, you know, meet guys every single day worth hundreds of millions of bucks. Let's get together. I go, all right, I'll play with him tomorrow. So I go to the first tee and he goes, oh, Ed Milad, I'm a huge fan of yours. I can't wait to spend five hours. I got all these questions for you. I go, that ain't how it's going to work, bro. I already know about me. I want to know about you.

1:37:29Yeah. Tell me your story. And he goes, I can do it on the first tee. It's really simple. I go, give it to me. He goes, 1986, I loaned a dude 50 grand. So did my best friend. This is fascinating, bro. And he goes, a week later, my best friend said, got scared, said, give me the 50 grand back. I kept the loan to the guy. He goes, it turned into 750 million bucks. I said, get the heck out of here, dude. Who'd you loan that money to? Jeff Bezos. Shit. I went, you got to be kidding me. That dude was one relationship, one decision, one loan away from completely changing his life. Now, that's an exaggerated example.

1:38:03I don't have that story. But I have a series of little, as you've said, one more decision, one more meeting, one more breakthrough, one new emotion, one new thought. And every single time I've changed my life, he did it in one big one. But you're right. You're way closer to the change than you think you are. And oftentimes it's a very simple change. This is the Ed Myron Show.