The Ultimate Path to Create MASSIVE Value For People with Dean Graziosi

25:18I'm an observer of humanity. I'm an observer of other people's lives. And so, the more I started to condition myself to be more observational, to notice more, to perceive more, maybe I even slowed down just a The depth of the gratitude in my life, the depth of my ability to make decisions, my discernment, my intuition, frankly, my intellect, I have tapped into a superpower by becoming more observational. I'm going to give you examples and the teachings in a second. It's also caused me to be more grateful, more present, more peaceful. yet at the same time when I need to be even more intense and competitive than I've ever been before.

26:09That's because I'm in my life. Most people are just in their life and they never are aware of it. They never observe it. Observation causes awareness. The happiest people, and by the way, the people that I love to be around the most in my life are the most self-aware. I think it's one of the reasons I love stand-up comedians so much, so many of them are my friends, because they're so funny because they're so self-aware. They also, many of them use observational comedy. They observe things about life that we miss every single day. And then when they point it out, it's funny. Am I right? That's the only thing, really most comedy, a lot of comedy is observation.

26:48It's like, well, we just miss it, but it's there. And so when a comedian tells us a joke about something, we go that way, or even don't take a comedian, take in your religious services, Any of you that practice, your pastor or priest or rabbi or whatever it might be will point something out. And it's something that you should be seeing and observing every day in your life, but you just miss. And then when they point it out, you go, yeah, that's obvious. So I want to talk to you a little bit about this for a minute. Number one, start to show more respect for people. What do I mean by that? What I mean by that is put your phone down.

27:22When someone walks in a room, put your phone down. when you go to dinner or lunch with them, don't put it on the table. Put it in your bag. Put it in your purse. Put it in your lap. Leave it in the car. This forces you to become more observational and present with people. And when you do that, it changes your life. So I become observational of these various things. I'm going to teach you how to do it. God's stuff. I observe God's stuff more into a level of depth that I never did. And this is going to sound hokey, but I'm going to give you some insights in it. I spend more time when I go outside and I hold my gaze at God's beauty longer.

28:01It's not that you don't walk outside and see a beautiful field or a stream or even a building that one of God's creatures was an architect created, but you hold it quickly. I've started to observe. This may sound really weird, but I did this this morning. I walked out behind my house. There's an ocean out there, which I can observe God's beauty there, but I did something much more simple. There's a, like, I wish I could show you. Well, I kind of could. I don't know if you guys can see that right out there. If you're watching on YouTube, there's like a garden above my water feature there. And I just walked out there and I sat there for a few minutes and I just stared at one leaf on one tree.

28:37And I kind of forced myself to observe it longer than I might. Just one leaf. I narrowed my focus down to one leaf and the nuances of it and the crevices. And I started to notice the different color in it and where it was cracked in one place. And I held that gaze for a good minute. Very different than normal. Oh, there's a tree. And then I moved to another one, another tree with a different leaf on it. I spent some time observing it. I was much more present with myself, much more present. I then walked back in the house and my family was having breakfast. Instantaneously, I was more present. And when I walked in, I paused for a second and I held the gaze and I watched my family and the beauty of them.

29:27My precious son's home from college. So is my daughter. They were both actually in the kitchen at the same time. I said, hey, what's going on, guys? I stopped. I just held a gaze. It's my only son. It's my only little girl. And I watched him for a little bit. And I appreciated him. for a little bit. I let myself feel love for them just for a little bit, just for a little bit. It filled me with gratitude. So I'm grateful for that. There's all these things around us all the time that if we just held the gaze a little longer and stopped looking around, not just put our phone down, that's basic, but just became fully present with a leaf, with a building, with a water feature, with a piece of...

30:21I do this lately where I stare at my hand and I just notice things about me that I've never noticed before. You know, most of you aren't familiar with your own hand. If I showed you your hand in a picture of the inside of your hand, you're probably not even familiar with where the lines are. I think that's my hand. I'm not sure it's my hand. Well, if I don't even know that about me, what else don't I know about me? That's a pretty basic thing. I've been so busy, man. My gosh, I went decades and never even looked at my own hand. I mean, I see I have a hand, but you know what I mean? That depth of observation causes you, by the way, to vibrate much faster in a higher frequency.

31:02It causes you to have more gratitude and appreciation. It causes you to be more present with other people. I'm going to tell you right now, your decision-making, your thought processes, your ability to control your emotions are exponentially connected to your ability to observe and be present. And this is a skill. It is a talent, and it is not easy. I want to also tell you what I observe that's changed my life. I take time every day now to observe my breathing. You take for granted your breathing every single day. But if it stops right now, you end. It's probably something to pay attention to.

31:37So if I can get quiet and just pay attention to my breathing and hear myself and feel myself breathe, I'm much more self-connected. I'm much more grateful. I'm much more centered. I'm much smarter instantly. Instantly, I'm stronger and smarter and more present. If you can't be present with yourself, you have no way in the world of being present with other people. You're like, hey, man, I'm busy. Number one thing in business, ability to build rapport and connect with people. If you can't connect and build rapport and connect with yourself, you can't do it with other people. People say to me all the time, your interviews are just different.

32:14In fact, Ed, I see some guests on one show, I see them on yours. It's a completely different conversation. Why is that? I think it's my ability to be present with them and connect with them because I'm connected with myself. So I ask a smarter question in the moment. I can feel something and energy from them that others don't feel and they feel from me. Now, that makes a good podcast, but it also makes a good salesperson. It also makes a good mother. It also makes a good everything. And so it's something that I really work on. So I perceive God's stuff. Art, I perceive. Architecture. My breathing is a huge one.

32:56Just for today, give yourself a gift just for a second right now.

33:04feel yourself breathe

33:08remember that guy remember her she's been there all the time you busy you distracted you she's been there all the time pay a little more attention to her pay a little bit more attention to him it'll help you pay attention to everybody else. She's with you all the time. He's always been there. There's only been two constants in your entire life, God and you. How much attention do you pay to each of you? You got to give yourself that gift. It's why you're not happy. It's why you're not more productive. It's why you're not more influential. It's why you're not richer. It's why you don't have the emotions you want.

34:00It's why you don't have the body you want. It's why you don't have the things you want. Whatever the things are that you're lacking, it comes down to self-awareness, presence, and connection with oneself and one's maker. I pay attention to humanity. One thing I do a little bit more of than I've ever done in my life is when I walk into places, I observe people. I observe people. I walk into a restaurant. I'll watch until they come up to me. I'll watch people. And even when they do come up to me while they're talking, I observe them. I'm present with them. I look at their face. I wonder what their story is.

34:33I wonder what their history is. I love to people watch when I'm not noticed and I'm alone in an airport or somewhere. And I love just to watch God's creations, these precious humans. I know this may sound hokey, but I do it a lot. And I pray for them. People walk by me on the street. If they don't recognize me, I'll peace be with you. I just have that thought. this connects me to people. This gives me gratitude and depth. I don't want to be a one-dimensional human being. I want to have multiple dimensions and experience multiple emotions. And the way I do that is I observe. It sounds corny, but I love if there's stars out at night just to observe and take the time and notice them.

35:15You've all done this once or twice in your life, and it's just felt good. You can give yourself the gift of that every single day. Something I do kind of semi-regularly is I just look at me in the mirror and notice things about me that are aging or that have changed. But I like being present with me. It makes me more comfortable with me. I never liked myself before. I never liked myself. I built muscles on my body and made millions of dollars and knew famous people and did all these things to sort of hide from me. that's not a way to live. Pay attention to your breathing. Pay attention to people.

35:54Pay attention to humanity. Pay attention to God's stuff. Pay attention to people. Give them the respect. Show up on time. Show up early. Hold your gaze with someone longer when you see them. Hey, man, how are you? You know, you do. Hey, man, how are you? And hold the gaze a little longer. Hi, sister. I love you when you walk into your office just hold the gaze a little longer ask the question and listen just another tick how are you no man how are you see the difference how you doing buddy alright my man hey man how are you hold the gaze and listen it's good stuff It's how I sold so much. It's how I got so rich.

36:51It's not why I did it. It's why I got the biggest podcast. It's why people think I'm the best or one of the best speakers in the world. So if you're thinking, hey, man, this is FooFoo, this is business too. How are you? You okay? What's going on? What do you got that you're excited about? And listen. And here's a biggie. This was a hard one for me. Hold the hug longer when you see somebody. Hold the hug. Let me give you some data. After six seconds in a hug, the brain starts to release oxytocin and serotonin. Before that, it doesn't. So if I hug you, hey, what's up? Right? Or hey, it's nothing.

37:37If you hold a hug for six seconds, your brain now floods, starts to release, by the way, serotonin and oxytocin into both of you. Oxytocin, you're getting pleasure from that. People get addicted to this. You're getting pleasure from that. It also increases your immune system and reduces depression. If you can hold the hug for 10 seconds, you get what they call a serotonin oxy flood. A flood. So you're not only giving yourself that gift if you can do it, but you're giving yourself the gift to other people. What I'm basically saying here on everything is, if you could just hold the gaze a little longer, If you could pay attention to your breathing a little more, if you could just take a flower or a book or your hand or something and just get present with it and notice the different things, become an observer and noticer of things.

38:26If when you hug somebody, all the data tells us, hug it for six seconds, you both get the gift. You wait. If you do four seconds, you don't get any of it. Hold it for two more seconds. And you get this flood of oxytocin and serotonin. That's just one of God's greatest gifts. It's basically the gratitude chemical. if you want more gratitude. And so I know this is not stuff you think, wow, man, my tattoo jacked up, you know, super rich guy that's podcasting. Let's do it. Now he's talking about holding hugs longer and looking at flowers and staring at his hand and paying attention to his breathing.

39:00And yeah, because the question was, Ed, what is something that I can do to have more happiness, success, and gratitude that most people never talk about? So I could give you the normal list that everybody else talks about that I've talked about, or I could start on Thursdays to give you stuff you don't hear anywhere in the world. And it's this. And that's why right now I can shift gears and get super intense because I'm fully present. I'm fully self-aware in the moment. Doesn't mean I always am, but it's helped me control my emotions. It's helped me control my thinking, my intellect, my relationships, all of it.

39:35And overall, be a more blissful, peaceful human being, a more connected one. If you really want to know the truth, it's so many of you pray every single day, but you're just checking the box. Can you be present in that moment and have an appreciation and gratitude for this beautiful time you're connecting with your maker? In my case, my savior. Can you just get a little bit more of the juice? Because here's what you're thinking. I'll get around to that, man. That's cool. I'll get around to that once I'm successful. I'm telling you, you won't be successful if you don't. You won't be. These are the things that have taken an average ordinary man like me and built a pretty good life.

40:16I don't have bad days. I have ups and downs. I have emotions. I'm human. I think I pretty much share that on Instagram all the time. I want to experience the bad emotions, whatever you think is bad. I don't think there are good or bad emotions. They're just our emotions, right? I want to have all of them. I want to be present for them. I want to observe them. I want to be aware of them. I don't want to just go through my life busy, grabbing, accumulating stuff and thinking someday when I'm old, I'll get around to it. And what I found out was I started doing this young and that's how I got all the stuff.

40:53But at the same time, you can't love yourself if you don't know yourself and you can't know yourself if you don't spend any time with yourself. And so you got to spend some time. game. Man, it's such a great gift just to walk outside and go, what can I observe? Or even in your office, what can I observe? You know that before I started this Zoom, I'm like, I want to make sure the background's together. This is a true thing. I want to make sure the background's together. I've done a million Zooms from where I am. Can I tell you something? I started this and I went, what is that belt buckle? If you're on audio, it doesn't matter.

41:27What is that belt buckle? Oh my gosh. That's when I won that golf tournament with Milt Walker. Do you know how many Zooms I've done? And that thing's been there the whole time. I've never noticed it once. It's right in my spatial awareness and I haven't noticed it. What does that say? Right? So then I got up and before this, we started and I'm like, I stared at the belt buckle and I'm like, oh, Wyatt Earp. I remember that term. And then there's a sign that we won it. And they put this thing on our locker. And I remember the shot I hit to the 18th green. that was a crazy good seven iron I hit. And then Miltie had to make the putt from like six, eight feet.

42:05And he drained the putt and we jumped up and down and hugged. Everyone cheered and we won this golf tournament. It took me all the way back to that moment of total bliss. And it's only because I noticed it finally. But guess what that did for me? Then I'm like, crap, man, that was a victory. I win stuff. I'm a winner. Forgot we won that sucker, man. I've been winning stuff forever, right? And it changed my state. and it reminded me I win. It reminded me I'm supposed to win. It reminds me good things happen to me. Because quite frankly, this morning, a bunch of bad things happened. And I had to record two podcasts today.

42:40And I sat in here for like an hour before I recorded the first one thinking, how can I deliver? Man, I just thought I don't have the juice today. I don't know that I want to do it. Someone wants me to talk about gratitude on a day where my day just started out crappy. And it was one small observation of the belt buckle over my head on Zoom that I didn't just take note of. I got up and looked at it. And it took me into that moment. And it completely shifted me. Something that simple. So observation changes everything in your life. And let's go back to that golf shot I hit. You know what required me to hit that golf shot at that time.

43:20And I'm not a great golfer. This is just a golf tournament. But you know why I had the capacity to hit that golf shirt? My best golf shot under that most pressure? Because I was fully in that moment. I had fully appreciated that moment. And I took it all in. By the way, I can tell you, because I remember before I hit the shot, I was debating, is it a six or seven? I threw the grass up in the air. And I can tell you right now, I can see that grass kind of just dropped down right onto my shirt and didn't blow over me. I can see those blades of grass right now. I remember going, no, the wind's not blowing that bad.

43:52I think I can hit seven. And I remember I stepped back. I took one practice swing. I had a bad back then. I go, my back feels pretty good. And I got over that shot fully present, fully in the moment. My golf ball says max out on it. And the M was facing me. And I remember just keep your eye on the M. Hit the M. I noticed the smallest possible observation. And right when I hit that thing, I knew it was clear. And he had a good golf show. Gave you that compression sound. I'm like, that was a good one. That was a good one. And there was about 100 people, 150 people gathered around the green. And I remember when it landed.

44:32That must have been a good one. Milt Eagles, that was a good one. Right? Remember all the way back to that moment. That moment in just a nothing golf tournament. It's just a simple example of observation, being fully present, controlling and paying attention to my breathing, by the way, in that moment, too, and then executing. All the way back, I don't know what that was, 15 years ago, I've done probably 2 ,000 Zooms in this seat and never noticed that belt buckle sitting right up there until today. because I'm an observer and I wasn't having a great day. I turn and look, there's the belt buckle.

45:10And I'm like, I'm going to go observe more of it. I'm going to take the nuance and the detail, not a glance. I'm going to hold the gaze a little longer. And as I held that belt buckle up to me and I looked at it, it took me right back into that moment of when we won, completely changed my state. That's why this stuff matters. So hold the hug a little longer, Give people the respect of showing up. Notice and perceive a little bit more. Pay attention to your breathing. Notice God's stuff. Notice architecture. Notice people. Notice humanity. Hold the gaze. Take in more detail. Get more of the juice.

45:45And all of the juice you want in your life of the other things are much more likely to happen as a result. The man to my left is literally one of the most interesting men in the world. This is Rob Dyrdek. Thank you for being here, brother. Thanks for having me. I've seen it in video now to experience what it's actually like to be here live. It's so much more beautiful and remarkable than I could ever imagine. Your show was on in the background when I was at his house. I'm like, this dude's hilarious. And the guy checked me. He goes, just so you know, he's not just hilarious. This dude's special.

46:15This dude's like a freak. He's like a super, super successful guy. As a business guy, I'm like, yeah, right. Then I started to research. I'm like, oh my God. Now, having the conversation, I get it. I understand why. Let's talk about Brianna for a second though. Sure. So you said something, man, that just like blew me away because I think it's true in business. It's true in family. It's true in fitness and everything. You said that you were kind of one kind of a dude living a certain way and that you knew that you needed to become a certain version of you in order to attract the spouse, the mate, the life partner that you wanted in your life.

46:53And I think that's true. Like in business, we have to become that person too. So tell them about how you did that and what you were thinking. You know, I would almost equate it the same way that I was saying earlier, where I was just doing all of this, like, different stuff, thinking that one was going to show me the way. I would think that I was thinking, like, eventually I would find the right woman that would make the right man, you know, like. Make you the right man. Right. You know what I mean? Like that sort of idea. and I just knew that at the same time of sort of this revolution of mindset of like, no, you need to start to be the person that you want to be.

47:37And I think that ultimately it allowed me to create the narrative and the storyline of like this, if the perfect woman for me should love the way that I am not wish that I could change to be the way they wish I was, if you will. Right. And to me, I tried to be, to create that, um, in all aspects of life. So when I did finally found her, cause God brought her right to me, You know what I'm saying? It was like, man, it was like, like I did a year of like really in this like deep mindset, kept telling every one of my friends, you have got to, you have got to be like this. If you want to find great love, you've got to prepare yourself for great love, which I mean, I was like preaching it.

48:29And they were just so when she showed up, they were like, it worked. It wasn't like it wasn't like, oh, Rob, like he's I preached it so loud and so pure to like every single one. of them on how they need to act and if you really wanted to and it was it was i kid you not every single one of my friends i had preached it so much that when like i it i would introduce her it happened you know what i mean like i like it really like like can you believe it like and i and the trippiest thing about it is you know you there's all these expectations and thoughts and excitement that comes into like thinking you met the one right now let reality set in right like oh it's this and imagine now the opposite is the reality of your love and life is actually 10 times better than you could have ever envisioned when you laid out the most perfect scenario you're such a good guy too you know the other thing you won't say about yourself but everybody that knows you that knows me is just the first thing they don't tell me is about your brilliance or your success it's not the first thing that time i say he's just such a good man he cares about people so much and that's why this is so real and which is ultimately you want that you know what i mean like you also like like you want that to be part of your reputation and ultimately why people respect you you know i mean i want to be respected for like being like the man the father the husband the family man like someone working i want like to be respected for the way that I live life and the type of person I am as opposed to what I simply achieve.

50:17Yeah. Yeah. I think you are. I think you're becoming that and I'm proud of you and we're just getting to know each other. I want you to do one thing for me though. I want them to know this about you. I think all people should be, I think people matter, things don't, right? I have that philosophy and I think you're amazing at like creating moments and I'm not talking about like shark attacks and jockey and a horse or anything. I'm talking about like life moments like you're conscious of creating moments so within this structure of your life which you are like in your businesses you're very systematized you're very you need that you you want that yet you have this complete freedom to have all these magic moments so like just real quick I'm gonna go through a couple with you that I just know about like your first date with Brianna wasn't even normal didn't you like go rescue puppies or something on a first like is that right or yeah look so look I mean you take this just for For granted, that's not a normal first date.

51:09Look, no, you don't know. That wasn't it wasn't intended to be that way. It was, you know, just just taking a shot. Right. Yeah. And we had we had we met via DM on Twitter. The modern way that love formed. And she was posting about like these like, you know, a big thing that had been going on is like this kennel was getting they're euthanizing all the dogs in Bakersfield. And so, you know, I was texting her and, you know, asking her, you know, would you like to hang out this weekend? You know, what do you have in mind to do? And so I was thinking it was in Ontario or somewhere close. I was thinking, let's go rescue these puppies.

51:51We can drive out there. And I'm like, ah, it's like six hours away. But I still, you know what? I was thinking we'd take a helicopter to Bakersfield, rescue these puppies. You know what I mean? Just being all like, you know, slick and funny. He's so funny. And like a half hour later, she was like, sure. Or no, she was like, perfect. And I'm like, what? I'm like, that was kind of a joke. And then I got to, can somebody get me a helicopter? Oh, my God. And we never spoke on the phone, anything. Like, you know, first time we met was like, you know, like, picked her up and drove straight to the airport and jumped in a helicopter and got to know each other by flying to Bakersfield to rescue somebody.

52:36some puppies and look and I was so deep and now we're in a moment okay now we're in a moment and and throughout that flight I was like not even a question this is who I meant to marry and spend the rest of my life so it's instant for me so I'm like since this is so instantaneous I'm like we got to get a puppy to remember this by but it's still like first date like you still want to try to get this puppy into this helicopter right now like like the fact that we did not actually rescue a puppy that day. So you did not get a puppy that day. You did not. But then you repeat these moments. And by the way, there's dudes listening to, well, I can't afford a helicopter.

53:12Just do something special, man. Just find a way to make a moment. Make a memory, right? Take a walk. Do something. You just took another helicopter ride on your anniversary, though. Yeah, much sketchier one that she was not happy with. When we get in this tiny, where I was like, I didn't even think about the first one. It was such a long trip. It was a more sizable, manageable one. When we get in this like somebody's backyard copter, we take over there. But look, again, it's let's go have fun. Like I am and my success is not predicated on trying to achieve some sort of financial milestone that I can do anything other than live an amazing life.

53:57and being able to surprise her with a helicopter trip to Catalina, having the kids taken care of and she doesn't know what it is. And then like, oh, then this super unique adventure where we land on the top of a mountain. I don't know if you've ever been there, but you've got to land at an airport in the sky at 1 ,600 feet. Then take a 40-minute drive down a sketchy road to get to the town. Super weird. And driving by Bison because they did a movie in the 20s and left all these bison over there. It was just this. It's Catalina, right? Yeah. It's like, have you ever been to the, okay. I have a helicopter over.

54:33Look, I've never been there. I don't even know what it was. But for us, that should be what life's about. Yeah. It's like, go on, go experience just a 12-hour adventure. You know what I mean? We left at four, came back at eight the next morning, had to take our daughter to the pediatrician. I had to go do meetings all day, right? That's amazing, brother, how you navigate these different spaces. And it's such a fun, great experience. And I think not only do I set the precedent for it in our life and I'm, you know, whether it's like every occasion I try to put that level in. You do it every morning.

55:11You do it every morning with your little ones. And I want to add those experiences long term for the kids, too. You know what I mean? like so that there are moments that they can look back and and that you know their dad is a you know i'm not a normal dad you know i'm a little bit nutty you know and that uh how that ultimate you know i'm pretty disciplined and militant with with the children from a structure standpoint which does include full-fledged full-scale singing every single morning at like the highest level dancing sometimes i'll make him just like dance before he gets out of bed you know like and hit him with the positive reinforcement of like been drilling in his head over and over he's happy i'm happy i'm happy strong strong smart smart healthy healthy um and just self-belief of just you can do anything because you believe in you say i believe in me i believe in me right it's it's amazing it's let's give this them this beautiful house of love and peacefulness and then and just try to guide them to have belief in themselves and help nourish that.

56:22Cause at the end of the day, it's the only way you ever do anything, right? It's like, even when people call it experience, experience is just gaining knowledge to believe that you can go achieve something at a higher level, right? And your only, your pursuit, why you stay in lanes that you fully understand because you believe you can do it because you understand it well enough, right? And when you take that step out to learn something new, you have to be sitting there with some doubt on whether or not you could do it because you've never done it before. You don't have a foundation of belief. But if your life is about taking risks and you believe that you can figure anything out along the way, you take that leap into that new thing in a system of how you create belief to make sure that you can, irregardless of whatever that may be.

57:15That's amazing. People watching this, two of the more successful entrepreneurs under the age of 50 in a room together. And then, like, you know, what do you do with your families? He gets up every morning and sings with his. I dance with my daughter every morning. I show her a move in the 90s every morning. I told you that. And you do your sayings with your kids and mine with my son as you're a leader, you're a gladiator. You're the greatest of all time. He's been hearing that since he was a little boy. My daughter is that she's a superstar and she can do anything. Hugs, not drugs. I do these sayings.

57:43They're at the age where they roll their eyes now, right? But the fact is we both do these things where we do this wacky crap with our kids. This episode is brought to you by Marshalls. where you never have to compromise between quality and price. The buyers of Marshalls hustle hard, working to bring you great deals on brand name and designer pieces because Marshalls believes everyone deserves access to the good stuff. Visit a Marshalls store near you or shop online at marshalls.com.

58:42When did making plans get this complicated? Very short intermission here, folks. I'm glad you're enjoying the show so far. Don't forget to follow the show on Apple and Spotify. Links are in the show notes. Now on to our next guest. I always put these polls out to you guys saying, who do you want on my show? And there kept being this name coming, this beautiful name, by the way, Fallon Taylor. Fallon Taylor. Get her on your show. But she's probably best known for being a world barrel racing champion. I'm so excited for you guys to hear this story. So thank you for being here, Fallon. Thank you so much.

59:11Talk a little bit about some of the things you've transitioned. So then that happens. Right. And then what I think is remarkable about you, and I bet maybe this has happened, but then it's got to be now you've got to find the next identity. Right. Right. It's like you get to different levels in life. And that could be, someone could be listening to say that my dream was always to become a mother, let's say. Just pick something. And I've become a mother. And I'm a world-class mother. And it's the most fulfilling thing you'll ever do. Or maybe it's a business you want to start and now you've got that business.

59:37But all of us need to be searching for that next identity, that next thing we're chasing. Life is about the chase to an extent, right? Like it's always growth and contribution, growth and contribution. If I can continue to grow, then I can continue to contribute. And that's where the real fulfillment comes from. Because if I go see my name in lights and I win the world title, well, guess what? At midnight that night, pro rodeo was on a search for a new world champion after that. And I woke up that next morning after I won the world, like, okay, well now you've caught the tiger. You caught the bear.

1:00:07Yeah. Now what do you do? Yeah. And I went into a horribly dark, depressive state. Yeah. Horrible. And then I started to research athletes. And I saw this cycle. Right. Of they've won, you know, you see people that have won amazing things and then they just, you know, they just puddle. Yes. And it's because you catch the tiger, you catch the bear. And then you're like, well, what do I feed it now? What do I do with this thing? I thought that all of those problems would go away. I thought that I would have the perfect relationship by now. Or I thought I would have the dream car by now. or I thought all these things would just magically line up.

1:00:41There's no limo waiting for you when you finally reach that thing. You're still going to have people, the person that didn't think you could accomplish anything, once you accomplish it, will say, but I bet you can't do it five times. Yep. Yep. Well, why would I try that? Yeah. You know, why would I do that? So I think in the space of one foot in front of the other, I started to have to get myself out of this really dark space. So I started to just work on making sure that I was okay. you know making sure that gone through all the strength i know how strong i am let me go back and put some instead of band-aids on these bullet wounds of my relationships or my finances or what i really want to do or could i actually help other people do this when i started to really mend that yes and put some buttons on some things that really need to be taken care of i found so much more fulfillment when i found true fulfillment and i continue to find it you know it's never done.

1:01:35Yeah. Never done. You know, you do this show. It's fabulous. It's amazing. Everybody's learning so much, but then there will come a point when you're like, I'm going to feel fulfilled some other way. I'm going to do some other thing. That's going to make me feel really great. Maybe spending time with family or going to, you know, your place in Idaho that you love so much. It's the same thing. And that's, but you found the formula. Let me just tell you, it's growth and contribution. And I want to say something that you've said. I'm so glad you just said this, particularly for the female listeners and watchers and that is I you ladies especially but there's a lot of dudes like this too but ladies you don't take care of yourself right you're always caring for other people you're expending all of your energy for the people that you love and the people that you're caring for or you're expending the energy on the things about yourself that you don't love yet right self-care like whether it's like I mean it could be simple like just like read a great book and relax take a bath do something kind for yourself get a massage if you don't have any money give yourself the gift of meditating or taking a walk yeah right absolutely isn't that true because a lot of your followers are women i found a lot of really great free drugs basically okay because i'm not a drinker you know i know you're not i tried to get her to have a drink before so i did it very straight-laced yeah found free drugs you know there's all sorts of things dopamine from things we love or endorphins from working out all of these things that I can get from fulfilling myself.

1:02:59And especially for the female audience, you know, I think that it's, we're, we're meant to be nurturers and homemakers, and we're meant to be people that are always fulfilling everyone else's needs. And just like you said, if we don't take care of ourselves, those people don't get the parts of us that they love. And there's nothing worse than trying to love a woman that's 20 % herself or 10 % herself or 5 % herself. You can be a mother and you can be beautiful, or you can be a mother and you can be somebody that expresses yourself through all the arts and crafts that people told you to put away and become an adult, or you can do all of those things.

1:03:32But the real contribution back, if you really want to be nurturing and you really want to give the most to your family is to give them you at 100%. Oh, give them your full version. So totally, amazingly agree with you. And I can see 99 % of the women nodding their head going on with you. Then there's the 1 % of the ladies who go, oh, that's not me. You know, I'm in a career. Well, take a look at your career. Like, I bet you at your career, you're nurturing and taking care of the people around you. Heck yeah. Caring about them, loving them, doing three people's jobs and covering up for the people who don't work.

1:04:04So it's you too, girl. Absolutely. Trust me. It's something. And by the way, men have this as well. but it is more, I'm so glad you said it because oftentimes super achiever women often aren't willing to express that thought to other women. And so it's wonderful that you give people that gift. Today, we're going to cut through all of the BS and get to two of the most fundamental things that I think you have to have in order to go achieve at the highest levels. You know, we talk oftentimes about strategies and tactics and mindset, and there's a million different things that we could talk about that contribute to winning in life.

1:04:37But at the highest levels, if you were to distill it down to two very simple things that I would wish for you, that I see in the people I coach. Like if I'm going to recruit somebody into my business, what are the things I look for in them? Is it background? Is it intellect? Is it people skills? Is it their ability to close? There's all these things. The things that I look for in people are hunger and focus. It's their ability to be super hungry for what they want, incredibly after it, and the ability to be laser focused. And I want you today to evaluate those two things in you. Let's start with hunger level.

1:05:13I mean, how bad do you want your goal right now? I think there's a lot of people in the world today because it's a really niche thing to talk about. I want this. This is my outcome. This is my goal. Like how bad do you want? Do you want as bad as breathing? Do you want it as bad as anything you ever wanted in your life? And if you calibrate it at the highest enough levels, what I found is the people that are the hungriest, they find a way. When you know why you want something, when it's desperation, the power of being desperate is something that most people avoid. They think desperation is a weakness.

1:05:43And I'm here to tell you, desperation is one of the most powerful emotions you could possibly possess. Because when you're desperate, you find reserves and reservoirs of ideas, talents, and a strength that you don't know you have when you find yourself in a desperate situation. So ironically, the one thing most people avoid in their life, hunger, which is caused by being desperate. When you're starving, you become desperate. Think of somebody who's starving on the street. They've got to, how resourceful would you get if your children were literally starving and you had to feed them, right? So the number one thing we need more than anything to win is hunger, which comes from a state of desperation.

1:06:22Yet we're constantly trying to comfort ourselves in the real world to avoid the state of being desperate And i'm telling you that I think you need to embrace Desperation again in your life. Like do you want it so bad? That you're desperate for it. Let me give you an example I can tell you that I think the times that you've achieved at the highest levels in your life You might have been the most desperate. Let me give you an example If you were sitting here and you're in a meeting right now and someone tapped you on the shoulder god forbid this ever happened and they said, your child's been in an accident, and they've been rushed to the hospital, and it's grave.

1:06:57Instantly, you'd be desperate to get to your child, wouldn't you? Those of you that don't have children, if it was your parents, you'd be instantly desperate to get to them. And think about what happens when that desperation kicks in. All of the things we worry about, all of our fears, all of our concerns, all of the lack of resources we have immediately fade away, because we must get to this child of ours, this loved one of ours. And so if you were in the middle of a conference and they said, here's another, your, your child has been in a serious accident. It's grave. You need to get to them.

1:07:28Would you sit there and think for a minute? Well, I don't want to get up right now in the middle of their speech because what will everybody think about me? I mean, I don't want to make waves here. That would go away. Wouldn't you get right to hell up and run out of the room? If when you got to the back of the room, there was a security guard that said, hold on a minute. Stop. Nobody leaves this room. A very important person's up there speaking right now. Would you go, you're right. Sorry. I don't want to violate protocol. I don't want to go. I don't want to color outside the lines here. You're right.

1:07:55I'll go back to my seat. Would you do that? Of course not, because you're desperate. Whatever is required of you to get to this child, this loved one of yours, you would do. And when you went out to the parking lot and you got into your car and you realized, my gosh, I forgot my keys. I left them in the room. Would you go, well it's just a sign I mean maybe I just don't have what it takes to get to my child that silly stupid story you wouldn't do that at all would you you'd immediately respond you'd get back up you'd run in the room you'd knock the security guard down you'd go back you'd get your keys you'd run back out when you turn the car on it didn't start the battery was dead would you go yeah that's just another sign you know maybe I'm just not cut out to to get to my destination to get to my child to get to this loved one of mine no because you're desperate to get there aren't you so you'd throw the keys away and you'd run if you had to go to the next stoplight and carjack a car you'd say listen drive me to the hospital I have to get to my child and the person said no would you stop at the first objection would you say well yeah I don't know exactly what word you say no you don't understand you're taking me there and if they hesitate if you had to carjack the dadgum car you'd carjack it wouldn't you when you got there and when you got to the hospital if they tried to stop you again and said no no no you got to sign in and fill out all this paperwork.

1:09:09You got to do it perfect. You say, no, that's my child. I've got to get to them. Wouldn't you? Whatever it took, you'd get to that loved one of yours. Nothing would stop you. All of the silly things that happen that we let slow us down is related to our lack of hunger and desperation. And so I'm here to ask you, how desperate are you for what you want? Like, here's what I think. I think most people would just like their goals. They'd like their outcome, but they're not hungry for them. They're not starving for it. They're not desperate for it. But when you start to feel that desperation, it's one of the most powerful emotions in the world because you become so resourceful.

1:09:50You become so determined and all the noise goes away. See, all of these objections, all of these fears, all of these old stories you tell yourself, all the excuses that you're making, and I love you, so I'm saying this to you, are all going back to a lack of real hunger, real desire, real desperation, because real desperation is beautiful. The most alive you'll ever feel, ironically, is when you're the most desperate. You talk to people who are the closest to death in an accident, and they'll tell you, ironically, it was the most alive I've ever felt, because you're so desperate to survive. You're so desperate to get through it.

1:10:27Yet in life, we try to avoid this all the time, and I'm here to tell you embrace the desperation seek the desperation so if you ask me what do I look for in someone I'm coaching and an athlete in a business person show me somebody hungry I'll take hunger and desire over IQ over knowledge over skills every day of the week because I can teach you skills I can teach you the lessons I can teach you the words but I can't give you heart I can't give you hunger I can't give you desire I can't give you the courage to be desperate because desperate people look a little funny. Desperate people don't fit in.

1:11:02Desperate people stand out. You see someone desperate. You're like, whoa, what's going on with them? Desperate people get criticism and most people would rather not stand out. They'd rather not leave the crowd. They'd rather not take the criticism. They'd rather not take the heat. So most people say, I'd love to be a millionaire. I'd love to win. I'd love my dream relationship. I'd love the best body I could have. I'd love to be happier, but I don't want to look bad doing it. I don't want to seem desperate. I don't want to seem different. I don't want to step out of the crowd. And as long as you're one of those people who won't step out, who won't look a little bit funny, who worries more about what other people think about them than truly winning, you're always going to be held back.

1:11:43The number one thing I want is hunger and desperation, man, every single time. So evaluate that right now, listening to this audio or watching this video, what's your level of real hunger? What's your level of real desperation? How bad do you really want it? Or would you just like it? Do you need it like you need to breathe? Do you need it like you need to eat? Do you need it like you need to exist? Or do you just kind of want it? Because you show me two people. You show me one person who's desperate and hungry. You show me another one who'd like it or wants it. You show me one person who's willing to look bad and get uncomfortable and color outside the lines and do whatever they got to do to get to their destination, to get to their child, to get to their dream, and you show me another one who won't, I'll take this person every day of the week.

1:12:32Maybe they don't come from the perfect background. Maybe they don't have all the perfect words. Maybe they don't have all the right relationships, but they got the goodies, man. They got the one thing you got to have to win, which is hunger and desire and some heart. And I know you've heard these things before, but now I want you to be self-aware. Really, how hungry are you? What are you doing to feed your hunger? What are you doing to feed the fact that you feel like you're starving? Because the more you want something, the lack of it makes you more and more hungry. For example, if I were really hungry and I needed some food, it's one thing to want it.

1:13:05It's another thing. When that food's right in front of me and I'm not allowed to eat it, I become hungrier. So the closer you bring what you want to you increases its hunger level. The more repetitious it is, the more you think about it, the more you bring it into your thoughts over and over and over again, the hungrier you get. That's why repetitive thought about what you want is so critical. So evaluate that. Am I as hungry as I could be? Am I as starving as I could be? Do I want it so bad I'm desperate for it? Do I want it like that person who has to get to their child or their loved one? Or would I just like it?

1:13:39Would I hope for it? Because as long as you're one of those people. See, in a fight, you show me two people. This is why it's so hard to repeat as a champion in the fighting game, because you show me someone who's up and coming, who's hungry for that title, who's never had it before, who can taste it, who knows if they win that belt, their whole life's going to change. They're going to be champion of the world. All the endorsements, all the money, all their family life, all their parents' lives are going to change. You show me somebody chasing that hungry for it against someone who's just trying to hold on to a title, and that's why Most of the time, the challenger beats the champ.

1:14:12It's hard to repeat as a champion because the hunger goes down just a little bit. The greatest athletes, the Cobys, the Bradys, the Jordans of sports, have a way of feeding their hunger all the time and increasing it. What separates them isn't just their work ethic, isn't just their talent, although those things matter, isn't just they practice more. What separates them is they're just hungrier. They somehow find a way as they climb up the ranks and win championships to get even hungrier for more, where 99 % of the athletes lose just a little bit of their edge once they get that first championship, that first pro contract, that first big amount of money, that first world championship.

1:14:51They just lose their hunger a little bit. And then there's the elite. They get hungrier. It feeds the beast. For some of you, have you been hungrier in the past? Let's be honest. In the past, were you hungrier for that first promotion, hungrier for that first goal hungrier for the first house hungrier for the first relationship hungrier for the first time you got fit and if you lost a little of that hunger where you're just not quite as desperate as you used to be and so it's feeding your desperation and the way we do that is we feed it to ourselves over and over again because it becomes something we must have we have to have it like we got to eat like we got to breathe feed the hunger feed the desperation embrace it.

1:15:32Don't try to look so pretty because this desperate state eliminates all the things that hold you back. Your fears, your worries, what you don't know, what the obstacles are, signs, haters, lack of information, lack of blah, blah, blah. It all goes away when you're hungry. The second thing is focus. Can you get laser focused? Human beings can get incredibly great at anything they put their minds to. Total immersion at any topic. Most human beings can become great if they give themselves enough time. The truth is most people overestimate what they can do in a month or a year and they dramatically underestimate what they can do in five years or 10 years.

1:16:10If you get total immersion in a business, total immersion in your body, total immersion in your faith, you totally get laser obsessed focused at something. It's incredible how great human beings are at adapting and becoming great at it. One example is cancer. My dad, as many of you know, is fighting a particular type of cancer called liposarcoma. I didn't know how to spell liposarcoma three or four years ago. I didn't know it existed. I didn't know what it was or how it functioned. I'm not an oncologist. I'm not a doctor. I'd never read anything about it. But all of a sudden, liposarcoma became pretty important to me.

1:16:46And I consider myself now, I've read hundreds of periodicals and articles, and I've asked questions and talked to other doctors. And you know what? I know an awful lot about something I knew nothing about many years ago and I've become kind of an expert on it. I've had my own conditions with my heart. I know a lot about the heart. I know a lot about the medications. I understand inflammation in the body. I've become sort of a quasi expert on two things I knew nothing about. Many, many years ago, I knew nothing about communicating on camera or starting a podcast. I'll tell you a funny story. When my podcast started, I was encouraged to do it by Tony Robbins.

1:17:21And when my podcast started, he said, Hey, you got to order. People say, I know you're listening to the number one business podcast in the world that didn't even exist two years ago. Okay. I knew nothing about podcasting, nothing about how this worked. I did not even know what a podcast was. I want you to understand something. When I was first told to have a podcast, I did not know what one was. And so he says, you got to have one of these. I said, what are they? You know, where do you get the microphones? Where do you get the stuff you talked to before I had this stuff on camera. This is a true story.

1:17:52He goes, I don't know, figure it out. My team did it all for me. I'm like, okay. So I Google how to start a podcast. This is how I began what you're listening to right now. Number one in the world right now, fastest growing show on earth. I Google how to start a podcast. And Tim Ferriss, who had a successful podcast, had done a podcast on how to start a podcast. And so I listened to his podcast. And at the end of it, there was notes. And he said, if you click on this link, it takes you to Amazon. There's a kit there with the microphones and the recording device and all the stuff you do to start a podcast.

1:18:26I thought, okay. So this started by me Googling how to start a podcast. Tim Ferriss had a kit. I listened to the show. I bought the kit. I got back and I said, Tony, I said, so now what do I do? He goes, I don't know. Set the mics up and just start talking about something. And I'm like, all right. So I do like a 30 minute audio. I set the mics up. I got all the equipment Tim Ferriss said you should have, and I'm done, and I call him back, and I said, hey, brother, I did the podcast. How do I get what I said out of the machine? And he goes, I don't know. Well, you got, it's on the chip. Take the chip.

1:19:05Now, here's how stupid I am. I'm like, chips? I don't, there's no chips. He goes, yeah, there's a chip you put in the machine. I go, I, no one said anything about chips, man. I don't, you, you know, are these, what do you eat these? Like, we just, no dummy. There's a chip, like a micro something or other. He didn't know either. You put it in the machine and I go, I didn't, I don't think I have one of those. So I look and there's no chip. So I literally talked for 30 minutes into a microphone that never even recorded anything. So then I go get the chip. I put the chip in the machine. I do the 30 minutes again and then I call like okay it's on the chip how do you get the chip into the universe where people hear what you're saying right like I didn't know this baby goes because I don't know I think you stick it in your computer so I'm on the phone I stick the chip in my computer this is the number one show in the world now I stick the chip in the computer I go okay it's in the computer what button do I hit so people in the world can hear it out of my computer I'm not kidding you.

1:20:02He goes, I have no idea, man. I don't know how this stuff works. So finally I figure out, oh, you got to download the chip onto your computer. And then it goes to a thing called Libsyn. And I knew none of this stuff. The first podcast I did never got recorded. I Googled how to do it. The chip sat in my computer for two months because I couldn't figure out how to get it out of my computer into the internet. Okay. That's how my podcast started. but I've become laser focused about podcasting. I'm like, Oh, then people said you should record it and put it on YouTube as well. So I've learned where do you get the cameras?

1:20:37How do they do it? How do they post it on YouTube? What do you type? I knew none of this stuff. My first Instagram video, literally true story. I do a 30 minute video. My son's kind of the guru. I do the one minute story. Rather I posted, I got three views the next day and one like, and I call up. This is what I hear. I call up Tony and I go, Hey, no one listened to my Instagram video. He goes, well, you posted it at one o 'clock, man. You need to post around breakfast time. And this is what I hear him say. I don't know anything about this stuff. True story. Swear to you. He goes, you've got to post around breakfast time and dummy, you got no hash browns in your post.

1:21:18And I'm like, trying to not pretend I don't know anything. So I'm going, why do you, I got to post at breakfast time and for why does there need to be hash browns this makes no sense to me so now i'm mad but i pretend to know what he's saying and i call my son i say hey you said you knew about this stuff you're 15 years old you're internet savvy don't you know all the videos have to be posted at breakfast times and you got to have hash browns in the video my son's like dad why would it matter what food is in your video i don't know but he's telling me it has to be breakfast time with hash Browns.

1:21:56We went the whole day, my first post, lamenting the fact that I had no hash Browns in my video. Turns out he was saying hash tags, but I didn't even know what a hashtag was two years ago. And so finally we figured out the hashtags, how to post, how to do a podcast, and it leads us to where you and I are here today. That's because I've been focused and obsessed in this field now for the better part of a year and a half to two years. So not only did I figure out how to get into the internet, not only did I figure out it doesn't matter what breakfast foods are in my posts, that it was hashtags. Not only did I understand how, what chips were, you don't even know what kind of chips I think he was talking after the hash browns.

1:22:38You don't even want to know, but suffice it to say, I figured out what type of chips a year and a half later for my podcast now. And I like him to do more downloads than Tim Ferriss does after, and he does a great podcast, but after learning about his kit and Googling how to do it, to think that it's come this far is mind-blowing because human beings that get obsessed and immersed in any topic can become great at it, and so can you. So pick what you want and get laser-focused. Begin to eliminate all the distractions. You are not hungry enough. You are not starving enough, and you are not focused enough.

1:23:10I say this to you as a friend. What are the things that are stealing your focus? Who are the people that are stealing your focus and begin to eliminate these distractions. Get laser focused and obsessed on what you want. Be starving and hungry to get it. Be desperate to get it. The combination of desperation and hunger with laser focus over an extended period of time is the formula to be great at something. And you can apply this formula. Get laser focused. Eliminate distractions. Eliminate the things that steal your laser focused on it, your research on it, your obsession on it. Begin to do these things and you will begin to change your entire life.

1:23:51Yes, I want your mindset better. Yeah, I want your identity higher. No question it's important to have great associations in your life, but dad got it. You've got to get hungry and you've got to get focused. And I know these sound like basic things, but go to any area of your life you want something right now. Pick the number one thing you want to change. Body, money, business, relationship, faith. I don't care what it is. Pick it right now. One to 10, how hungry are you? How desperate are you? One to 10, the most desperate and hungry you could be. Rank yourself. Number two, how laser, crazy, obsessed, focused are you on what it is you want?

1:24:27One to 10. 10 being hyper, psycho, crazy, obsessed, focused, nothing's in your way. And to the extent you can increase your desperation and hunger and your obsessive focus will be to the extent that you can flourish. Because when those things convene and converge, all of a sudden the collaborations, the people, the circumstances, the breakthroughs, the insights necessary begin to reveal themselves to you. And not only that, reveal themselves to you with momentum and speed at which you cannot believe. You can wake up a year and a half later, be number one in the world at something that you didn't even know existed before.

1:25:06I'm a testimony to that. And you can be as well. Your success is going to be predicated more than anything on your hunger and desperation level and your ability to get laser focus and eliminate the distractions in your life. This is what makes us great. I think of athletes that I know, I've watched them get obsessed and hungry early in their careers. And as they make a little bit of money, they start, you know, they're a rapper now. Now they're an actor. Now they're a producer. Now they're a business person and their basketball or football or baseball or boxing or UFC career begins to suffer as their focus gets diminished, as their obsession gets diminished, as their immersion gets diminished.

1:25:47The great ones never lose that. They never lose the hunger. They only increase it over time. I always try to lay out for you what the solutions are and then I like to give you a plan. I want to give you a four-step plan to both increase your hunger and increase your focus at the same time. So the first step is always to evaluate where you are currently. So give yourself an evaluation as I've asked you, one to ten, how would you rank your hunger and desire level? Are you all the way desperate? Are you the most desperate you possibly could be? Because again, I promise you this is a healthy form of desperation.

1:26:19okay so one to ten evaluate where you are and then also give yourself an evaluation of where you are in your laser obsessive focused one being completely unfocused distracted constantly even forgetting what our goals are five is we're on it from time to time we keep some notes we evaluate ten is just obsessed crazy nothing else matters focused if you're not at least at a level eight or nine you're not optimizing your effectiveness level at both of those areas. Number two, you must become more intentional to change those things. So it's just starting out. Everything in life comes from intention.

1:26:54You must intend to increase these things. So I want you to become incredibly intentional at feeding your hunger level, bringing the goal closer to you, repeating it over and over makes you starving for it. And the more you can increase that state, the more you stay focused. Ironically, there's a connection between hunger and desperation and focus. They're related. So be intentional about them. The story I gave you about if God forbid a loved one or a child of yours was in an accident, can you imagine how focused you immediately become when something becomes that important to you, that desperate to you?

1:27:30What happens is everything else, all the distractions of what other people think about us, any other circumstances, what we don't know, what we don't have, anything scarce to us goes away because we're so desperate, it increases our focus. If you think about anything you've had that becomes desperate to you, if there was a burglar in your home, for example, and you were desperate, think about the millions of things you're no longer thinking about and how focused you are in on that one thing. We've all had that time when we're laying in bed at night and we think we hear a noise, right? You become so focused.

1:28:04You hear every little creak in the ceiling, don't you? every little movement of the floor you hear your sheets move oh my gosh there it is again you become hyper aware and hyper focused when you increase desperation so become intentional is step two third what is your plan what is your strategy to increase your hunger level and to increase your focus level so part of that plan might be I need to be around people more immediately who can hold me accountable and repeat back to me what I've told them my outcomes are. I need to put myself in situations where I'm accountable, where I'm a part of a group where I have to report my results to them.

1:28:42Perhaps it's going public, if it's your body, and going public with this is my intention the next 30 days. This is what I'm going to do. Putting additional pressure on yourself. Perhaps it's shrinking the time frame down. The sooner we must do something, the more desperate it becomes. In other words, if something has to be done within 10 years, how desperate is that? But if it has to become sooner and sooner and sooner, or even if it just has to be a real date put on it gives us some desperation knowing that date is coming sometime soon. So what is your plan and strategy to increase your desperation, increase your hunger level, and then focus.

1:29:16What's your plan to increase focus? Oftentimes that could be a plan to eliminate distractions. What's your strategy to eliminate distractions? It might be, I watch too much television at night and it distracts me from my goal. Perhaps you should remove that television from the room. That's a plan and a strategy to eliminate the distraction. Perhaps it's you're being on the internet too long or playing video games Maybe you need to eliminate them perhaps in your nutrition You're trying to get fit the distraction are snacks that you have in your home or alcohol Maybe they need to be removed from your home What is your strategy and plan to eliminate distractions and increase focus because without the evaluation without the intention and without the plan and strategy an actual plan to increase desperation an actual plan and strategy get creative get resourceful it's only with a plan that you can begin to make changes and a strategy otherwise it's just a thought and then fourth what immediate massive action are you going to take right now I'm talking about right when this audio or video ends what's the immediate first massive action you're going to take towards that plan the first step the first it's unplug the TV it's remove the video game.

1:30:23It's throw out the junk food. It's remove a certain person from your life. I don't know what it is, but what is the immediate massive action? Because if we can evaluate where we are and get very clear, because we can't know where we're going if we're not very clear about where we are. In other words, if life is like a GPS and we want to get to a particular destination, the only way we can get clear on getting there is to understand and evaluate and be specific about where we currently are. That way we can build the directions. There's no sense of direction, not just with where you're going, where are you?

1:30:58You must know both places. Evaluate what you want and be very honest and evaluate where you are. Now the directions can be drawn out. So we must evaluate number one. Number two, we must make it our intention to do so. We must get intentional, get specific. There's a power to intention. There's a power to pointing our mind, which is a weapon. at these issues. Third is our strategy. What is the exact plan we're going to take? Without a strategy, you have no shot. You must have a strategy. The strategy doesn't have to be perfect. The strategy can evolve, but there must be a game plan. There must be something you're doing immediately to start towards this journey.

1:31:38It tells our mind we're making progress. It sends a message of, I'm serious about this. And then fourth, you must take immediate massive action. Knowledge is not power unless it's applied. And you haven't really made a decision and changed anything until you've taken an action. And if we delay the action to later, we can have all the evaluation, all the intention, and a great game plan. No action, no momentum, no progress. So what's the one step, the one action that you're going to take immediately towards increasing your focus and increasing your desperation level? What is the immediate action.

1:32:14Once you have those four things, we now have a recipe to change. And so today's message to you was to wake you up as a friend, as your brother, is to say, listen, if we're going to get this done, if you're going to make things great happen, you've got to get very clear on what you want, very clear. But we have got to get starving. We've got to get desperate. We've got to get hungry to perform at the elite level. And for some of you who are already performing pretty high, The reason these next goals are coming more and more slowly, the reason that progress is slower the higher you climb, is because you're less hungry, you're less desperate, and you've got more distractions.

1:32:51Some of you that are starting out in the very beginning of your journey towards chasing goals, I'm giving you the recipe. You must increase the hunger level, the desperation level, and you must get more focused. But for some of you who have already achieved that are listening to this, I'm telling you, I understand it. I relate to it. You're like that champion who's trying to repeat. And although you're not satisfied with where you are and you have big goals and ambitions, you must get honest. Am I as starving and as desperate as I was in the very beginning of my career, in the very beginning of my business, in the very beginning of my journey in my faith, the very beginning in the journey of my fitness, whatever it is?

1:33:27Because I can promise you, if we drew a line back to where you made the most progress, you were the most desperate. And the goals start coming slower, don't they? As we become less and less desperate. You've got to feed that and then the other thing is there was a time in your life if you were achieving at a high level Whether it was getting your master's degree or graduating college or passing an exam for your business or getting to your first big promotion I can promise you if I went back and looked at you you were laser focused and all the distractions went away This is the same formula and the same recipe success leaves clues I have a great audio should listen to called unlocking your success code It's one of the original ones I've done.

1:34:05If you're on YouTube watching this, go over to my audio platforms on iTunes or Spotify. Search for unlocking your success code. I talk about how the fact that you have a code to your success, if you can repeat that code and apply it to all your goals and dreams, you'll produce the same results in different areas. And so today, I want to challenge you to get very clear on what your recipe is. If you've already been achieving in your life, evaluate these two areas. This is the Ed Myland Show. We'll be right back.