This Powerful Mindset Will Transform Your Life Today!

23:54There's all kinds of gifts. They're patience. and these, if you end up pointing out those gifts to somebody in their life and you say, look, I see you, by the way, it's one thing to go, you're going to do great. You're awesome. You're incredible. That's just, that's just floats by somebody. But if you say you're going to do incredible because, and then you tell me something about me that I know to be true. You know why Ed, you know why you're going to be incredible here? Not because you're the smartest guy in the world, even though you're a bright guy, because you love your family so much, man, you will fight for your family.

24:22You will do anything for your family. And I'll go, whoa, that is true about me. Or you know why you're going to do very well here, Lisa? Because you care so deeply. You've got this heart to serve people. Your intentions are so good. That's why. So it's when you link what you'd like them to do to the gift they have that they already believe to be true about them. Now you got it. Now you're leading. Now you're changing. And by the way, you will be on this many. I'm showing one hand up. You will be one of one to five people in their entire life that made them feel this way. You're 32 years old and how much that stood out from your dad.

24:57And if I said to you, who are the two or three people in your life, Scott, that have really believed in you? There's not 30. If you're lucky, there's two or three. For me, it's Mrs. Smith, right? A couple of coaches I've had. And these are the people that I cherish in my life because they found something in me. If you're a person of faith, they found God in you. They found the gift in you. And so this is what great leaders do. They take the time, even if it's in brief to say, well, I see this special in you. You're special because that makes me feel seen. Not you're awesome. You're incredible.

25:30Thanks for being here. Grateful for you. Nah, that's nothing. I see you. And let me tell you what I see. I see X, Y, and Z. And then they go, no, they really, they will never leave you. They will be loyal forever. They will be talking about you on podcasts 20 and 30 years later, like I am with Mrs. Smith, 45 years later. That's how deeply a leader can impact someone's life when they see the giftedness in them. This episode is brought to you by Progressive Insurance. You chose to hit play on this podcast today. Smart choice. Progressive loves to help people make smart choices. That's why they offer a tool called Auto Quote Explorer that allows you to compare your progressive car insurance quote with rates from other companies.

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27:15Very short intermission here, folks. I'm glad you're enjoying the show so far. Be sure to follow the Ed Milet Show on Apple and Spotify. Links are in the show notes. Here's an excerpt I did with our next guest. Here's a clip of Ed Milet appearing on the podcast from Stuck to Unstoppable with host Stephen Scoggins. You mentioned something called becoming an impossibility thinker and a possibility achiever. Yep. And so many people that I see are self-sabotaging because they're not viewing it through that lens. So talk to us a little bit about that. OK, I'm sorry. I'm typing this great note down.

27:50Here's the thing. Here's the governor that you put on yourself if you're someone who is not an impossibility thinker. Being an impossibility thinker is really simple. It's being willing to envision things you're ill prepared to do. See, the people that I know that I think have achieved this level of success, they have a lower threshold for what they need to know about something in order to imagine it and believe it's possible. So unsuccessful people have a very high threshold of what they have to know or what they have to have everything in place. And so they won't step into the unknown. I used to coach a race car driver.

28:27I won't say his name because I had an NDA with it, but a very successful NASCAR driver. And he told me, he goes, Ed, the most difficult thing in racing is not the normal race. It's when there's a crash in front of you. And when there's this crash in front of you, I want you to imagine you're going 180 to 200 miles an hour. And all there is is a cloud of smoke. It's all you see. And you have to drive into that cloud of smoke, not knowing that on the other side, there may be a stalled car, but you're going to hit head on and kill yourself. And he said, it's your ability to drive through that fog, drive through that unknown, drive through that smoke that separates you from other drivers.

28:59What most guys do is they start looking at the wall and they veer towards it. And he said, my ability to drive through that crash smoke, even though I don't know what's on the other side of it, is what separates me from other guys. And man, that's so true in business and life, too. Successful people are willing to drive through the smoke, not knowing what's on the other side, but believing I'll be resilient enough when I get in the room to figure it out. Unsuccessful people are people who are not successful yet. Go, I'll go. I'll drive once I know. I'll go once this, once the conditions. Once my kids are growing, once I have this much, once I read one more book, once I do one more, once, once I get, and then the threshold keeps getting higher and higher and higher and they never take action.

29:38That's a big separator in order to achieve the impossible. You have to be willing to imagine it and actually allow your brain to go there knowing you don't have all the information. I have a podcast is probably the most successful business podcast, you know, weekly podcast on the planet entrepreneurship, man. I started out, I didn't even order the microphone. The first one I did, I didn't record it. I forgot to record it. Right. Like my son was the editor. He was 16, but I was willing to get into the space, not knowing everything. I didn't know who the guest was going to be, man. I didn't even know how you posted it.

30:08Once you recorded it. I remember, I remember Tony Robbins was like, Hey man, you, you put that thing on the chip. I'm like chip. He goes in the recording device, dude, you have to have a micro chip in there to record the show. And I'm like, shit, I didn't know that. I thought you just pressed record. He goes, what did you think you're recording it on? I'm like the machine. oh gosh there's a so what if i would have thought about all i didn't know i wouldn't have the number one show in the world yeah so you got to start to drive through the smoke yeah no gosh that's so good you know i was just thinking too um one of the things that you mentioned in the book is this that goals are energy i've never heard somebody actually phrase it that way yeah you know there's lots of things on goal setting make smart goals let's do this but then you said goals are energy and i got to thinking about it i'm like anything that i that i intentionally went after with my, with my full heart, with my full self always manifested in some way, shape, or form may not look like exactly like I thought it was going to look.

31:04Or when you thought it would happen either. Oh yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. Talk to me about goals and energy. Cause I had never heard someone actually say it that way before. Well, goal is a thought and a thought creates a space that didn't exist before you have it. And I'm not going to get really quantum on you, but it actually creates an energy feel that didn't exist before you had it. So when you have a goal, it creates an energy around it. that goal now has a vibrational frequency. And the more you feed it and the more it vibrates faster and you start to feed it and feed it and feed it, its energy level can get up to a point where it achieves itself.

31:34And most people don't look at it that way, but that's exactly how it is. I'm a Christian. You are as well. But I also believe there's an energy field that just the almighty created. And so I believe goals have energy to them. Now, having said that, I don't think you get all your goals. And I say it in the book, I think you always get your standards though. And that's why the next chapter is on standards. Goals without standards are empty. What I really focus on is what my standards are that can help deliver on the goals that I have. So the goal creates the energy. The standard creates the delivery mechanism.

32:03Jeez. Can I be transparent with you about something? Please. So as a Christian, I've been on the fence for probably 24 months. Right. Because I'm meaning not with my faith, but with elements of how quantum and energy and stuff relate to my faith. um i discovered dispensers work you know a couple years ago probably when everybody else really started to and i started to kind of go through some of this work and and it wasn't until you at max out live where you actually stood up in front of my say look i believe in jesus but i also believe in energy and i believe this resonance and this vibration is real that i actually felt okay yeah because i've been carrying that with me for so long not sure because you know i i go to a you go to a traditional pastor kind of scenario and not everybody kind it gets it.

32:52And then you can, if you go new and you go too far new age and then, then you kind of start losing a little bit of your faith. I've been walking this time. Yeah. Me too, brother. The new age is like your God. And I don't buy that at all. Yeah. I know me really well, by the way, I'm really, no one's ever said that to me before ever. And I have too. In fact, the chapter I wrote on faith and energy took longer than the rest of the book combined. And, um, I really struggled with it because I wanted to honor my faith at the same time, be honest about it. Listen, And this interview is going well. Why?

33:20There's an energy frequency happening here. You always know when you're in a space. God gave you this energy. God gave you discernment. Discernment is energy. Talks about it in the Bible. Doesn't call it energy, calls it discernment. But what discernment is, is you're sensing energy. Discernment tells you this person. I don't, you ever meet somebody you're like, nah, I don't feel it. Absolutely. What's that come from? That's discernment, which is energy. So you're already proving that there's an energy field. Or you've met other people like, man, I can't explain it. Man, I like this dude. I like her, right?

33:46There's an energy frequency. so to deny that is ridiculous also highest energy wins people that make us feel good what is a feeling it's an energy right it's an energy so everything is energy we're always feeling energy highest energy wins i'm trying to transfer energy when i speak so to deny its existence is insane in fact take churches a really a good church is on fire for the body of christ has an energy that's infectious and people are excited like why do you want to bring Why do you want to bring people to church? Because the energy, the feeling, right? We do something special here. So actually, I think great pastors understand energy.

34:23And I will say this to you. I struggle with it as well, because I, as a devout man of God, as a Christian, I always worry I'm sounding new agey. Me too. Right? When I'm like, oh, you can tap into this field. And so I always am. I always am reluctant. But I've I've come to the conclusion that all of the beautiful things in life that have served me have come from the almighty come from God. Yeah. And I know energy exists. Yeah. I think and I think success has an energy. I think failure has an energy. I think slumps have an energy. We all know this. As I say it, you're all nodding. So to deny its existence is crazy.

35:01Having said all that, I believe that energy is spirit. Yeah. And when I when I speak, you go, man, when you speak, sometimes I'm like, hey, man, that's not always me. That's the Holy Spirit. And I'm not sure how to put it all together quite yet. But I'm not so sure that the Holy Spirit doesn't have something to do with energy. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? And so I think we'll, you know, guys like you and I that talk openly about this stuff, maybe we'll find better ways to phrase it. Yeah. But we certainly feel it. We certainly know it. And I don't believe the fact that you buy into energy discounts the fact that you have a Lord and Savior.

35:31here. And I think the notion of it's crazy. Does that mean you're not going to get criticism for people to think any word like that's blasphemous? Yeah, but I've just decided that's okay. I'm not religious. I have a relationship with God. It's my relationship with Jesus, right? And sometimes it's roaring and doing great. And sometimes I'm like, Lord, why are you doing this? My dad died. What's going on here? I was at Chalk Hospital this week with kids that are, you know, one of the little boys has leukemia. You don't think for a minute, I went, Lord, come on, man. Let's get this, you know, but I understand there's a higher purpose.

36:01I understand there's a calling. I understand there's an energy to it. So, man, I really appreciate you're transparent about that. It's probably the most difficult thing I've struggled with in my life, too. Here's a segment of Ed Milet appearing on Mel Robbins' podcast. They're the one. The second chapter of the book is called The Matrix, and the reason it's The Matrix is about the RAS, but also in The Matrix, Neo, they call them the one. See, when you see a really happy family or a successful family or both, if you go all the way back in their lineage, At one point, they weren't. It's true. And then the one shows up.

36:34The one arises in that family and stands up and goes, the world's not treating my family like anymore. The Milets are rising up. We think different. We operate different in the world. And the one changes that family forever. And it's typically a lot closer than you think. My dad did say this to me. He'd go, Eddie, this is the whole premise of the book. He'd go, I don't know about that beach house stuff, how you get there. But here's what I do know. It's closer to you than you think it is. and he goes, Eddie, please don't spend your life thinking that's a hundred years away. Cause if you think like that, you will act in accordance with that belief and you will perpetually keep your dreams that far away from you.

37:07And he said, I think it's one decision away, one relationship away, one meeting away, one thought, one emotion away. You can change your life. And he goes, look at me now. One decision to get sober completely changed my life. And I've always believed this moment because I believe that it's been true. I'm one decision away. I'm one meeting away. I'm one this away. I'm one relationship away. And it's, I'm a stacking of those one mores in my life. The truth is the difference between winning and losing in life is sometimes so small. It's almost too scary to talk about. And it's one new thought like, Hey, I'm going to give myself a high five every morning.

37:42That one new thought can change your life. It's one decision. It's one dinner I walk into and I meet Mel Robbins at a dinner table with some other folks that I know that changed my life. My life got better in that instance. And so if you begin to believe this, then the question becomes, how do we find these one mores? What are the things we need to know in our mind to get them? What are the things we need? What are they? Because I'm like, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Like, what are they? Well, there's a lot and they're in the book. But one of them, for example, is the RAS, which is the filter that sort of reveals what's most important to you in your life.

38:13And so you know exactly how it works. But for the benefit of everybody else, it keeps you sane. It's why you don't feel the blood rushing through your right ear right now. It's why when you walk in a crowded room and there's all this noise, but someone says Mel, not even loud. You can hear auditorily over all the noise what's important to you, which is your own name. It's like for me right now, I just bought a Tesla. I don't know if Musk is buying Twitter. You bought a Tesla? I did it because I like this dude's just disturbing stuff. I have no idea whether he's a good guy or not. I just this guy's just rocking out a little bit.

38:42Which Tesla did you buy? I bought the Plaid. I bought the good one. What's that? I don't even know what that is. I was bitching about the fact that I now have to drive back and forth between Vermont and Boston. As if it's a problem. And she's like, why don't you get a Tesla and let the car drive you? And I was like. I like it. And I'm going to tell you the other thing I like. Is this the thing with the wings? I don't know. Well, the doors open that way. But what it does do is that you can hit the mode and it'll drive for you. But I don't I don't trust it. But what I do have that I like is I have this mode on the car that it'll not let you hit a car.

39:18even when you're driving. So like, if you're stupid and you're not going to break, it breaks. If you're drifted into the wrong lane, which I do all the time, it goes, I'm not surprised by that, by the way. I know. I know. And I can't wait for the call that you're going to have where you call me and you're like, Mel, you know, that boat I bought in Miami, I just ran it up on some rocks in Maine. It's at the bottom of the Atlantic Ocean. That's actually way more likely than you might think. That's it's extremely possible. Oh my gosh. You saw me drive a boat and you see me drive. Well, I'm not going to comment.

39:50It's probably possible. I need to test the thing on the boat is what I need. But I bought this Tesla. Right. It's crazy. It's driving my wife nuts. I'm like, babe, red Tesla, white Tesla. There's another white Tesla. Three lanes over the other side of the freeway going the other direction. I go, honey, there's a black Tesla. She's like, what is wrong with you? And I said, yes, yes, yes. I said, these Teslas were always there. But our daughter, dude, this just happened to us. I'll give you a different car that that is not a Tesla. So the used Subaru Crosstek, a Toyota RAV4, our daughter's shopping for her first car.

40:26And now she's like, everybody drives one of these things. I'm like, no, they don't. It looks like it. Right. And that's because it's part of my RAS. Here's how life works. You already know this. If you can program your matrix, your RAS, that the Teslas of your life become these meetings, these decisions, these people, these relationships, these thoughts, these emotions, you got it. And what I'm here to tell you is that these things have always been around you, but you're oblivious to them because what's in your RAS are your fears, your anxieties, your worries, your to-do list, your problems, what's right in front of you, you see.

41:03And so you validate it and prove it to be true. So do you have an exercise that you recommend for people that are so mired? Yes. In the negative, like it's not going to work out. this is going to be awful. It never worked. Like what is an exercise that you would tell somebody to do so that they can start to reprogram that way of thinking? Yeah. I'm a big believer in daydreaming, lucid daydreams. And so I have lucid daydreams mean lucid daydreams means very clear, very specific and repetitive. The big one is repetitive. So here's what you already do. Your mind moves towards what it's most familiar with.

41:37We all know this, or maybe most people don't know this, but it moves towards what it's most familiar with. And here's, I have a chapter in the book where I say become an impossibility thinker and a possibility achiever. So I'm going to combine two things. I'll give you the technique. Okay. 99 % of the people in the world operate out of a frame of reference, a pattern of thinking that is history and memory. 1 % of the people operate out of imagination and vision. This is a different frame of reference. That's why my friends, it's very difficult when I'm around most of my friends to go, remember when you guys remember, remember that my friends almost never do that.

42:11If you surround yourself with people where you're reminiscing most of the time, not only do you operate of memory and history, but you're reinforcing it with the conversations you have with people. I very when you and I are talking, we're flying back with Jamie Kern Lima. There was no reminiscing. We're talking about the future and we're operating in the present. This is a different pattern of thinking and it must be it must be worked on. And so why are we happier when we're kids? I have two philosophies. One, I think you were just more recently with God. And two, you operate out of imagination because you have no history and memory.

42:42But by the time you're about 10 years old, you begin to slowly operate of history and memory. Oftentimes, the history and memory of the emotions of your parents. Did you guys lose me? No, I'm thinking because this is super, super helpful to me right now. And it's super helpful to me right now because Chris and I just sold our family home where we raised our kids for 24 years. and um i've lived there almost half my life uh my parents have never sold the house i grew up in my grandfather was born on the family farm that my mother was this has never been modeled for me and so i was not prepared for the avalanche of grief and panic and uncertainty that happened when all of a sudden in 24 hours the house sold and i have spent the last three weeks in an up and down emotional breakdown around like literally when you said reminiscing something snapped for me ed because i was like oh shoot i am wallowing in the memory and that is now becoming this loop like cyclone yep of sadness and regret and maybe we shouldn't have sold it and maybe this was too soon and maybe we weren't ready that has blocked my ability at times the last two weeks to even remember why we were all so excited and now is the time and so it's the reflecting back and then allowing myself to stay there that has made the kind of grief that's normal with a transition that big really weigh me down and so you just broke something open good and gave me i think the keys to really connect back into what you and i both do so well which is staying inside the imagining of where is this going and why are we doing this and what's possible because as we both know the brain also can only imagine what you're losing it can't actually imagine something beyond your wildest possibilities and so i gotta get back the fuck into the imagination piece of this versus the memory and reminiscing and all that stuff yes and what and i love that that helps you and what we do when we're reminiscing or we're going down that pattern is we're flashing in our mind pictures and videos of other times we actually see them and it creates this emotion in us and so this is not complicated the most successful people are the people in life that can get very clear in their vision and their their memory in their um imagination repetitively.

45:27Like when I work with top athletes, Mel, one of the things that, and by the way, there's really simple visualizations in the book that you just do very simply and you do it repetitively. And then I teach you like, slow it down. Now speed it up. All it's doing is forcing you to focus on it, add color to it, make it black and white. It's very easy. And it's, it'll change your life. But when I work with pro athletes, I'll give you an example. I work with a fighter who won last weekend in the UFC. And what he does, when things get really fast, when he gets hit and fights he speeds things up and awfully goes into brawl mode and what happens is it's when he's lost a couple fights he had lost his last two fights and i have a chapter in the book called equanimity one more level of equanimity when you were visualizing in your res things will begin to slow down like in the matrix and bullet time and in this particular fight mel what was incredible is he was getting hit and he started to speed up and you watch him consciously i'm ringing in his ears he steps back and he gets slows down and finds that equanimity and he ended up knocking this guy out with a leg kick mail that knocked the man out.

46:26I don't like this stuff for four minutes out on the mat. It's one of the most devastating knockouts in the history of fighting. And afterwards he gets interviewed and he goes, I don't know what happened. I've never practiced that leg kick before in person, only in my visions and imagination. And he executed it to save his career to win the fight. And so this is something you can do over and over again. One more thing on this visualization. We think we visualize well, but the more we practice it, it's a muscle. So when I work with like a B-level baseball player, I'll say, hey, let's visualize the pitch coming in.

47:02They'll go, I got it. I saw it. I said, where'd you hit it? They go up the middle. I go, okay, good. Where's the camera? They go, huh? I go, where's the camera? Is it over the center field camera shooting over the pitcher like you watched it on television? Or is it from the batter's box and you're watching the view out? Inevitably, average players will go, I'm not, I don't know. And I go, then you weren't really visualizing. Let's find the camera. They go, okay. It's from the batter's box. I go, great. Can you see the rotation on the ball? Is the pitcher left or right handed? Can you see the stitches on the ball as it comes in?

47:32And I make them start to see it more clearly. And then I'll say, can you see the ball hitting the bat? No. Well, let's work on that. Have the bat hit the ball. Do you see the stitches now rotating the other way back out? My point is that I'm getting them to visualize with specificity, but when I work with an all-star player, they do this naturally. the difference in their athletic ability is their ability to repetitively specifically visualize. And this is not complicated stuff. I even know when I say it, you already do it. Some of you with your fears and your worries, you're really good at this.

48:04You can visualize it with clarity and you can make it bigger and bolder. You can change it to black and white to make you really sad about it. You can slow it down. You can add sounds. So you already do this. How do you interrupt that? So if you are in that negative visibility loop, right, where I immediately my my visualization was, oh, my God, we just sold the container that has held our family together for 24 years. Now that that's gone, I'm never going to see my kids. Yep. Yeah. How do you interrupt? You interrupt. You know what it is. It's a pattern interrupt. It's a pattern interrupt. OK.

48:44And so I have this on how to create habits in the book. I teach you actually how to create a habit. It's a pattern interrupt. And so we'll just be real here. For me, it's usually a physical move. I'll move myself. I'll snap my fingers. I'll do a jumping. You may think this is nuts for me. A physical move will snap me out of a thought pattern. That's for me. For some people, it's an auditory thing. And this is so funny. I have someone that I coach right now and I sneezed on one of our first calls. And this person goes into negative thought loops, Mel, like you can't believe. Most people say, God bless you, right?

49:14Or excuse you or whatever this person was old school except she's young and she goes gesundheit and i go what the fuck did you say she goes gesundheit i go i haven't heard that since my grandfather in like 1977 and so with her we laughed about it was a belly laugh that word then became a trigger for laughter and so her way out of her negative thought patterns this sounds so stupid she goes gazoot tight gazoot tight and she throws her arms back and we make a laugh out of it and what happens is it doesn't put her into the good loop it interrupts the negative one right it's an auditory funny one for a lot of people it's a physical move it's a snap of the fingers it's a grab of any of the ear and this is not complicated stuff you ever watch an athlete when they get into the batter's box a baseball player they'll tap the plate two times adjust their batting gloves Tom Brady gets over the center.

50:08Let's fucking go. Peyton Manning used to say, Omaha, these were plays, but they were also triggered. They were cues. Yes. And so it could be a physical, you and I both, by the way, unconsciously boom, the five second rule is a matter interrupter. You got it. So there's a, that's the best one, but that's, I don't use that crap that I, you know, teach. Stop it. No, I'm just kidding. When I am in a death spiral, I'm wallowing. You know, I'm doing it. Sometimes though, sometimes it's a physical move for me. Yeah, I think a physical move's a good one. A snap of the fingers, I like that a lot. Okay, there you go.

50:43I like that a lot. That's good. Thank you. What do people not know about you? You're one decision away from completely changing your life. One new recruit, one new relationship, one new thought, one speaker away from totally changing your life. Here's how I know it. This is my dad. I got to tell you this quickly. This is my dad and me. Goofiest picture ever. No idea why my team picked this. That's my dad and I. My dad is my favorite human being that's ever been here. Because he changed. See, if you really want to impress people, tell them how perfect you are. That's what most speakers would have come out here and done.

51:14But if you want to connect with people and you want to do this in recruiting, reveal to them your imperfections. Too many of you are trying to recruit like we're making big money. You know what you can say? You know what? I'm struggling myself, but I'm going to get this going. I have insecurities myself. I don't know everything, but I'll get you the answers. I'll tell you the truth. We'll root for you. We'll believe in you. Show them your imperfections when you recruit people. You will connect with them more deeply. Tell them where you come from. Tell them what your fears are. Tell them your anxieties.

51:39I promise you I'm right. This is my dad and I at my sister's wedding, just to prove at one time we were both good-looking men. This is my dad, my papa, and me. I'm Edward Michael Joseph Milet III. Papa there in the middle is Edward I. I want you to take note first of what my dad's wearing, which is his patented white golf shirt and glasses. My dad had no money. My dad played golf on my dime. Papa, on the other hand, was the man who believed in me when I was young. Did you have anybody when you were really young make you feel special, like you were the special one? Picture their face right now.

52:15A teacher, your mama, your daddy, a grandma, a coach. Prove them right, because they were right. If they've passed away, honor them with who you become. A week after this picture, Papa died. It's the last picture I ever took with him. Papa has a fourth grade education. You wouldn't be impressed with that. Let me tell you why he has a fourth grade education. This is where I come from. His dad died when he was in the fourth grade. You know how his dad died? In a gutter in South Boston in front of a bar. He drowned, drunk, passed out. That's what I come from. I went from that to here. you can go from where you are to anywhere you want to go Papa, by the way, stormed the beaches of Normandy on D-Day he's a stud I remember when this happened thinking, oh my gosh, dad's in Papa's seat now I'm in dad's like that, like a flicker you young people in here, I was once the young cool dude in the front row now I'm the old wise guy speaking like that you know what your problem is?

53:24listen to me you think everybody else is going to die not you You know it's probably going to happen, but you don't really believe it's going to happen So you're going to get around to winning. You're going to get around to making your dreams come true You're going to get around to making memories. You're going to get around to giving your best You're going to get around to getting closer to god. You're going to get around to making those things work You're going to get around to being happy Until you can't get around anymore This is me and my dad golfing My favorite thing to do in the world was to sit in a golf cart with my dad for five hours and be with my best friend.

53:56He knew everything about me. I knew everything about him. We didn't agree on a whole lot either. That day, my dad, who has the exact voice I have, a deep voice that day, went, thumbs up. I'm like, well, you need to go to a doctor Monday, man. He did. Tuesday, he had a 12-hour surgery to remove a tumor the size of a football that had been growing in him for eight years that he didn't know about. He was diagnosed with liposarcoma, very rare cancer. And when he got the cancer, I'll never forget, my dad said, hey, listen, I'll fight this thing once. I'm not shriveling up. I'm not getting all wrinkled, not losing my hair.

54:31I'll fight this once. If it doesn't happen, that's it. I'm out. That's not what happened. My dad had surgery, surgery, chemo, chemo, radiation, proton therapy, chemo, surgery, surgery, experimental chemo over eight years. And I would say, Dad, why are you putting yourself through this horrible suffering? My dad said, Eddie, I'm not suffering. I am in pain, but I'm not suffering. Suffering is something we choose. He said, Eddie, remember this, please, so you don't have to get sick. You will only understand the power and the blessing of having one more day until you're threatened with never having one again.

55:07I'll do anything to have another day with your mama. I'll go to another chemo, another surgery, more pain to be with your mama. To me, to get to spend another day with you, we could no longer golf again. So I taught my dad all these visualizations of how to visualize he and I playing golf that I teach in my books. He said, for me to get to my granddaughter's wedding, to go see my grandson Jacob play another football game, I'll do anything for one more of those. They're so precious. That's my dad about three years into chemo. He wore his golf shirt and his glasses every day. He couldn't play. and he started to shrink and shrivel and he lost his hair.

55:47And every time I would see my dad, I would know I'm losing my best friend, my father, my hero. I'm losing him. If your parents are still alive, even though that may not be happening, listen to me. You're losing them. I had the blessing of God showing me it physically. Your children are losing you. the world will lose you.

56:15This is a year later.

56:22I don't give this talk a lot anymore and I don't like giving it because I don't like this picture he's still wearing it

56:35but i knew i was losing him thank god i knew because i sure appreciated him more i sure listened a little closer i sure picked up the phone when he called and didn't put him to voicemail i sure figured out what really mattered which is not a jet in fact my jet was parked a mile from my dad's house he could walk to it you know how many times my dad ever flew on my jet Zero in his life. I said, Dad, let's jump on the jet and go to Maui and play golf. He'd go, why would I go all the way there? I can be with my son in Chino. We can play. My dad was not impressed with my wealth, my houses, never told anybody about it.

57:08It was always in the golf cart. You helping people? You being good to Christiana? You making sure you get in time with the kiddos? You calling your sisters? What kind of a man are you? What kind of money do you have? What kind of a man are you? Okay. This is my dad in the hospital. I got four minutes left. This is my dad in the hospital during COVID. First, take note of what he's wearing. My father would get up every day and shave and put his golf outfit on and visualize us playing golf. I would sit in the parking lot of Pomona Valley Hospital every day with my dad up because I couldn't go see him.

57:45I couldn't hug him, I couldn't touch him, and he was a couple hundred feet away. We would talk every day. this day my dad called and said hey sometimes my dad would breathe five times a minute sometimes 25 hey what's you i said i'm downstairs just working on the podcast some other stuff i'm good writing this chapter for the book okay i said how are you doing he goes i'm good okay okay we just played pebble beach i said we did he goes yeah i said how'd you play he goes Lights out. I just played awesome. Shot 67. I finally birdied 18. It's awesome. I said, how'd I play? He goes, oh, like shit.

58:37I go, I gotta go. He goes, all right, I gotta get some lunch. Two hours later, the phone rang. Hello? Hey. I go, what's going on? Yeah, I wasn't honest earlier. I said, what's up? I'm not doing so good. I said, okay. He said, I want to go home. I go, Dad, you can't go home. You know that. No, no, I... Take me home. I want to go home with Mom. I want to see you and your sisters tonight. I go dad stop it. We're gonna get you on the steroid shot. You're crazy goes listen to me. It's the power of one more You listen to me

59:28I have one more day What I have one more day Please let me go home My stomach sank I Said I'm gonna call the doctor I I called the doctor. I said, hey, he's talking crazy. He goes, I'd go get him, Ed. I'd send an ambulance. Take him home. I said, what? He goes, Eddie, they know. I said, who's they? He said, someone is going to die. They know. This is four hours later. That's my dad coming home one more time. Walking through that front door one more time. In an ambulance. By the way, you're going to come home one more time someday. Your husband, your wife, your mom, your dad, you, you will someday come through that front door one more time.

1:00:27Who do you want to be when you come through that door? What do you want to accomplish? Seen, felt, experienced, tried, done, contributed. Who do you want to be in that one more day? It's coming for you at some point. That's my mom right there. His high school sweetheart. his wife of 50 years, watching her husband come through the door one more time. The staircase to her right that you can see there is the staircase I would send her up when I sat at that front door as a little boy. That's the same front door of a man I was terrified of would come through. A totally different man came through that door 35 years later.

1:01:07A totally, you can come home a different person someday. You can totally change your life. I'm in this space. I'm giving this speech. I write my books. I do my show because I know human beings can change because I watched my father do it. Right left of that paramedic is the liquor cabinet that I used to try to get him to avoid through the hallway. Totally different man came home. Who do you want to be? This is my father with one more hour left, and I'm holding his hand. He's still wearing the same clothes. my father refused to take morphine for the excruciating pain because it would violate his sobriety about 20 minutes after this I'm holding his hand my dad goes

1:01:56I'm so proud of you I can't believe God gave you to me as my only son I love you

1:02:10and he closed his eyes. I've never said this, but I feel family here, so I'm going to tell you something. Then I got into the bed with my dad and I held my dad like he held me when I was a little boy. One of the most beautiful moments of my life. Got to hold my dad. This man I was terrified of. And it made me think, who do I want to be in this moment when my children are gathered around me? What do I want them to know about me? Who I became? What I did? Who their dad was? Who's Christiana going to think her husband was? My sisters. Who do I want to be when I've got one more hour left? And about 20 minutes later, he took one more breath.

1:03:03And he was gone. And his temporary pain was over. and I was a different version of me because of his pain. See, the other thing that's going to happen is if you'll survive the temporary pain is it will change the people around you for the better. And my dad did that.

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1:04:42Let's talk about baseball. Imagine if you could slow down time. Even I could bat, like you were leading the nation in average. I could be better than Ed Milet if I could slow down time and slow that 95 mile hour fastball down. How do we slow down time? Well, that's the best question. It's chapter two. It's called The Matrix. and the best do exactly what you just said. Tom Brady has the ability to slow things down under duress and pressure. I have another chapter called equanimity. One more level of equanimity. The athletes that get rattled, things speed up. I watched Michael Chandler fight this weekend, and Michael's been in some really intense fights a couple times.

1:05:16He's a good friend of both of ours. And sometimes under the duress in these fights, things have sped up for him, and it's not served him well. This fight, I watched him step back, get equanimity, and slow things down. and he executed one of the most dramatic knockouts ever. How do you do it? There's a thing in your brain called the reticular activating system. It's the filter that reveals the entire world to you of what's important to you. So I just bought a Tesla, for example. I just like what Musk is doing. I told my team, get me one of these Tesla plaids. Next day, it's in my driveway. And now, David, everywhere I go, there's Teslas everywhere.

1:05:48I mean, literally everywhere. In front of me to the right, three lanes over other side of the free. I'm like, babe, another white Tesla. Here's the thing. They were always there, but they've become important to me. So my RAS now filters them into my awareness. You begin to see, feel, and hear things that were always around you that were not a part of your awareness and your filter. So the key thing to slow things down, Tom Brady, when he's pre-snap, he slows things down. His RAS finds the coverage and the open receiver. The rookie quarterback finds the covered guy. So the difference in life is can you make your dreams, your goals, the meetings, those relationships, those thoughts, you're Teslas.

1:06:24And the way you do it is by repeatedly reprogramming your reticular activating system in your brain. And I go very detailed on doing it. And the other reason I love the matrix as an analogy is that Neo is the one. They call him the one. And in every family, the one eventually shows up. In your family, you're it. Dave, in mine, I'm the one. Meaning you find a rich and successful family. If you go back in their delineated somewhere they weren't. And then the one shows up, the one that changes everything for that family that cares for their mom, like you do, right. That just changes everything, how they live, how the world treats them, how they think their emotions, the one shows up.

1:07:03So Neo in the matrix is the one I teach you how to be the one in your family by using your RAS to slow things down. So you see here and feel things that were always there that can change your life. and one of the other things that you do really well is utilize that time so not only can we slow down time but utilize the time productively with accessibility when i say accessibility people would be amazed how accessible ed my lead is you know i've always found it interesting that mark cuban ed my lead jack canfield bob proctor would always immediately text me back or email they'll be back. And yet everyone perceives them differently.

1:07:43So accessibility is not only accessing what you want, but it's accessible to others to give of yourself and be of service. And then also this lens of gratitude intertwined in productivity, accessibility, meaning there's a nuance in your book that when we look at being grateful, finding the light, the love and the lessons, having faith and everything, we have to integrate time. is it worth my time to spend with Ed Milet over Gary Vaynerchuk, right? Which one's going to feed me more or whoever or whatever we're doing. And so many people don't reconcile time into the productivity, accessibility and gratitude lenses of our activities during the day.

1:08:24How do you, cause I know you talk about 21 days in a week. I talk about the power of 64, 64 hours of productivity a day, 60. I get 60, uh, so eight times seven, 56 days a week. You're only at 21 brother. I can start mentoring you, but more importantly, how do you do that? Because we can beat people with time in a quantitative sense. Well, that's the, it's one of the most important chapters in the power of one more. Here's the deal. The 24 hour day is the most archaic antiquated, ridiculous concept that is currently existing in mankind. My second day is noon to 6 PM. And in that same thing, I want to get as much productivity, contacts, calls, fitness, faith, whatever it is in that day.

1:09:03Third day is from 6 p.m. to midnight. And some days these are just chill days, right? Some of the days are just family days. But the point is what happens now is because I've shrunk and compressed timeframes at the top of every day, like around noon, every day, this alarm clock goes off. I'm going to say, hey, what did I get done the last day? What do I need to redouble? What do I need to be accountable for? What did I miss? So instead of, you know, average person once a year checks off of themselves, New Year's resolutions, really productive people. Maybe they do it once a month or at the end of the week.

1:09:30Some people end of their 24 hour day. All right, what do I have to do tomorrow? But I'm now doing it three times in a normal day. So two things happen. Number one, I get 21 days a week. I get way more productivity. And these are real days, too. You can actually get a full day's work done on them. But the other thing that's important about it is other people begin to respond to you differently because now time is precious. That's why diamonds are more valuable than paper, right? Which rare is precious. The more rare your time is, the more precious it is, the more other people respond to you in a particular way.

1:09:59So it's one of the most important, I would say single-handedly, there's maybe five things in the book that are all really detailed. I don't know where they rank, but this is on there somewhere where I completely changed my perception of what a day looks like. And then the last thing is this, in life, you don't always get your goals. You don't. People say, I want more self-confidence. Everybody knows. Keep the promises you make to yourself, you'll probably get more self-confidence because self-confidence is a relationship and reputation with yourself. And if you can keep the promises you make to you, You can be a pretty productive person.

1:10:28But what if you had a higher standard? There's a chapter called One More Higher Standard. You always get your standards. You don't always get your goals. But if your standard is I always do one more, I always do one more. Now I keep the promises I make to myself and one more. I'm going to tell my daughter I love her every day and one more time. I'm going to do 10 reps on the bench and one more. I'm going to make 10 contacts and one more. I'm going to text message five friends, tell them I love them and care about them today and one more. Now you've changed your life the way you manipulate time because your standard is different for how you conduct yourself.

1:11:01And you've elevated that standard, which has an energetic aspect to it. We have a frequency that also gets into that reticular side of things where things become or you become aware of them by what we think, say, do, believe and feel those five different levels. It gives us a deeper purpose. And you and I are both extremely faith based people. And through that aspect of faith, we integrate energy and quantum science, the mathematical side of things. How does your purpose and faith that is integrated together relate to energy and quantum science, the quantitative side of the world? No one's asked me that.

1:11:42So that was the hardest chapter for me, brother. One more prayer, because I wanted to talk about my faith because I'm a faith based person. But I also didn't want to put off people who didn't share my faith. And because I'm also science and quantum based, I believe there's a quantum field. In fact, I don't believe it. I know it. I just happen to believe there's almighty creator that created it. That's all. I don't know why that's in conflict with people. And so, right. So there's this whole notion that, well, if you're faith based, you're not scientific or energy. And if you're energy based, you're not faith based.

1:12:12You and I know tons of pastors and rabbis. that are very energy-based people that are also dogmatic in their faith. And so why do I love you so much? Because we vibrated a similar frequency. And so there's a connection there. We've all felt energy before. We've all been able to vibrate at a frequency where there become answers to things that really we're not capable of answering on our own. And so for me, I know I feel energy. The key thing for most people is that if you don't believe in energy, you don't really believe in influence. You don't believe in inspiration. You don't believe in connection.

1:12:41You're always making people feel something. you're always emanating an energy you ought to start to take control of what that is and be intentional about it and work at it because that is energy is influence energy is love energy is emotion and so every part of my money and money everything is and so it all has an energy frequency a vibrational frequency and so although i'm extremely faith-based i'm a christian you and i've sat around and talked about these things many many times i'm blown away by the fact that I, that people would think, well, that would, I would deny the fact that there's quantum energy in the world.

1:13:15That's like denying that there's gravity. I just happen to think that the gravity and nature and oxygen, the way it relates with animals and all that stuff came from one place. But having said that, I'm very much, you know, some of my dearest friends are the people that are the best in the world that are like Dr. Joe Dispenza. So, and yourself and others whom I admire greatly. So I'm super energy based. I'm super quantum based. And I can tell you that I I believe even this podcast has a particular energy frequency to it that people will respond to different than other ones because there's two dudes that vibrate a particular way, spending some time together.

1:13:47You know, what's so amazing is we grew up similar in so many respects, but also differently in our face. And yet we ended up in the same place as faith. And one time when we first met, you had a statement and you said, God is good. And it wasn't just you were saying it. I almost cried when you said it. And I thought to myself 20 years ago, if I met Ed Milet, because I was at a different frequency, I would have had judgments and conditions that separated a brother of mine, someone that I'm so connected to and through inspirationally, energetically. And I would have let those three words, which I state every day as many times as I can today and believe full heartedly, despite my background, which is different than yours religiously in the dramatic sense.

1:14:34And no one in the world, I think I share beliefs with as much as I do at my left. And I hope he takes that as the compliment. I mean, I study very hard to understand that. why do you think people resist that defining moment for me and faith that look, there's something bigger than us that loves us more than our mom loves us. And that gives me the faith to be protected and promoted at all times. And everything I look upon, I say to myself, God is good. And I don't want to separate myself from anyone when I say that, but I know that there's listeners right now going, I didn't know Dave Meltzer was, was a Jesus freak.

1:15:13You know, I know they're saying it and I know they're saying it. I know my rabbi brother's saying, oh my God, did he not learn anything? But I believe God is good. And so do you. And that's what has blessed me to be where I am today with you on this podcast. Yeah, brother. I love you. I think that it's resisted because the truth is that religion has gotten the way for a lot of people getting to know God and religion's done a lot of negative things in life. It's done a lot of positive things, too. But organized religion, I think even some of my most devout pastor friends would say, hey, there's it's bumped up on doing some stuff.

1:15:47There's been a lot of wars over religion. Right. There's been a lot of judgment over religion. And I don't really I guess I'm religious in the sense that I'm a Christian, but I'm not a religious person in the sense that I subscribe to a particular dogmatic church. And so I think that's what the gap is. I think. And by the way, I think it's a it's a a reasonable assessment of people over time. I'm I know something you don't know. I'm right. You're wrong. Right. And that's not something God would ever say. That's not something that's true. And so what I have is a relationship with God, which means it ebbs and flows.

1:16:23When my dad died, I wasn't happy with God. Right. When my dad got cancer, I'm like, what's going on here, man? What are we doing? Right. So it's OK to question one's faith. In fact, if you don't, someone that never questions their faith will never grow in it. And so I just think the answers to life lie there. And I would just tell everybody to embrace your version of what God is. And the more you explore that in your heart, I think the more, by the way, any of you listening to this, here's what I do know about you. You wonder, you wonder, it's a calling that's been on your heart since you were a little boy or a little girl.

1:16:55You've always wanted to know. You always wanted to explore that. In fact, it's always going on in the back of your mind. What's true? What's life all about? What happens when I die? Right. Most importantly is what happens when I live. And so I think these questions are beautiful and I don't think you should avoid them. And I think you should be open to whatever inspiration and answers you get and not use the judgment of other human beings or dogmatic religion from people to cause you to be suppressed in your pursuit of it, because it's a beautiful pursuit. It's what life's all about. And you will find more bliss and happiness as you find your version of those answers.

1:17:31And that beautiful pursuit in this idea of one more takes that faith, that understanding. And you've really helped me understand what is the paradox or the paradigm of my life that I don't need to go get more healthy, more wealthy, more happy, more worthy because of my faith. I am happy, healthy, wealthy and worthy. I just got to figure out what I'm doing to interfere with it. And the concept, the concept of one more to me is clearing the interference, is clearing the interference. Because every time we say I'm going to call my daughter, you know, I have minimums in my life. I'm a caller one more time or one more minute, which isn't easy with teenage girls.

1:18:15But I'm going to do it even if they I feel rejection at times. But it's never too late to have this one more philosophy of clearing the interference of our potential. and everyone has different potentials. How come so many people think, well, it's too late? Yep, because they're carrying around baggage of the things they're ashamed of, the things they failed at, they think, their defeats. They think they're invisible. They think they're not qualified. They're not special. You don't know about the things I'm embarrassed by. You don't know about my bankruptcy, my divorce, my financial setback, this sin I've had.

1:18:50And we carry those things around with us. And because, so we think that somehow that disqualifies is from helping other people and living our best life. In fact, the opposite is actually true. I got to tell you something, bro. I haven't told you this yet. So I wrote this book, The Power of One More, basically when my dad died and all the lessons in it. About two weeks ago, I woke up about 3.15 in the morning crying. This is just for me and you, but everybody gets to listen. And it answers your question perfectly. And I woke up and I told, I woke Christian up. I said, babe, and she goes, yeah, because what changed my family life forever is my dad got sober.

1:19:25That one decision changed our family. I'm not talking to you right now. If my dad doesn't do that, I don't help millions of people unless my dad makes that one decision. I said, babe, she goes, what? I said, someone helped daddy. She said, what, honey? I said, someone helped my dad. And I've never thought about it before. Someone helped my dad get sober. She was, oh my God. I said, I don't know who they are. that family by helping my dad changed millions of other people's lives and max and bella's lives my children are deeply affected by this precious soul helping my dad in some quiet place in some room somewhere that no one will ever know about and i said here's what's amazing babe do you know what qualified that person to help my dad their messed up life.

1:20:18They were a drunken and alcoholic. All their mistakes, all the things they were ashamed of, all their life experience, that's what qualified them to change my dad's life and change my life and change millions of others. Whoever this person is, it's some quiet coffee shop somewhere or a room somewhere. They saved my family. Little did they know all those years they were drinking and using drugs was preparing them to change the world. And it just occurred to me two weeks ago. So if you're listening to this, your mistakes, your setbacks, your experience, your failures, your sins are the very thing.

1:20:57That mess is your message. It's the very thing that qualifies you with your intents to serve, your giftedness and your experience to make a difference in the world and live greatly. And there's no better example of that than whoever this precious soul is that changed my family and millions of families forever because they were an alcoholic at some point in their life. And there's great significance to that in our lives. One of the things that I can't still fathom is the size, scope, and scale of how what I call the protection and promotion in my life, the mistakes, failures, setbacks, and sins, as I see them as a hot stove that as a three-year-old I try to reach out to.

1:21:39And of course, my mom slapped my hand and she's never really hit anyone and screamed at me and she screams at very few. And I immediately said, why am I being punished? Because I didn't understand the stove was going to burn me. And, you know, here with faith, whatever your dogmatic beliefs are with faith, there's something bigger than us that loves us more than my mom loved me at that moment to protect me. there is no punishment. That person that saved your father and saved his legacy and saved his family and now has saved millions around the world because it has given you the opportunity to be saved, to be saved from yourself, from the lessons and the love and the light that has always existed through you to others.

1:22:22But I can't still get choked up fathom when we have a young kid that begs me, Hey, Mr. Meltzer, there's only two podcasts in the world. I listened to Edmire letting you, and can I please meet him? He has changed my life. I come from the Bronx and his family and I, you know, and I've got a college education. I'm inspired to do great things, to be kind to my future self and to do good deeds in the world, to touch other people exponentially brother right exponentially doubles and i see you doubling the thousands and then millions of people that are going to sit there someday and say thank you ed my letter thank you whatever the name of those guys were on their podcast together that somehow planted a seed or watered a seed that changed an entire legacy how do you deal with the importance of the ability to touch that many lives first i love you uh you're special you're the special one of all this stuff i've been doing um and i know you know that i feel that way i don't know why i'm gonna get emotional too it's this first time step back it's pretty cool that two rich guys are talking about this stuff you know i mean right like there's very few profound conversations and um you and i've had several of them now and i'm glad this one's being recorded I just deal with it like this.

1:23:49I don't think God calls qualified people. I think he qualifies called people. And I just feel like I'm called to do this. And one of the things I talk about in the book is like, how do you change your identity and your self-confidence? And I say, well, there's a trilogy, faith, intention, and associations. But the second one's a biggie. How do I deal with it? Because I'm not, I don't have every answer. I do make mistakes. I'd like to sound I like my life to be as smooth and as beautiful and as elegant as it sounds like in an interview but it's not there's mistakes I make all the time but I know this about me when I was a very young man I know you know the story well not that young compared to a lot of people listen I was 30 years old I won an incentive trip to go to Hawaii and I'm running down the beach in the morning before the sun got up and this man's running towards me and he gets closer and closer and closer and I realize it's Wayne Dyer and those of you young bucks if you don't know who Wayne Dyer is, Google him, but Dave definitely knows who he is.

1:24:43And I said, we were, I was running him with a Sony Walkman on Sony Walkman. And I go, Dr. Dyer, you changed my life. And he lifted off his Walkman after he had ran by me and goes, I doubt that. I bet you changed your life, but he goes, how did I help you? And he walked towards me and we sat on the beach together and watched the sun come up. Can you imagine? And at that time he was writing a book called the power of intention. And here's what he said to me. And I'll impart this wisdom on everybody else on this topic. He said to me, Ed, you're going to change the world. And I'm sure he had said that to other people.

1:25:15But for me in that moment, I felt like I was the only person he goes. And it's there's a there's a spirit about you. There's a God gave you this voice and he gave you this ability to communicate. You're brilliant. And I'm just my hero saying this to me. And he goes, and none of that's why you're going to change the world. You're going to change the world because you intend to do well. You intend to serve. You intend to contribute. He said, I sense beautiful intentions on you, Edward. And I knew that was true of me. I've never believed I was talented or smart. I've never believed I was special, but I do know my heart.

1:25:48I do know I intend to help people. And he goes, the rest of your life, never link your confidence to your ability to do something, link it to your intention to serve. And I've never forgotten that. That makes me emotional because I'm not the most talented guy in the world. I'm not the smartest. I'm not the biggest, the fastest, the strongest, the blah, blah, blah. I'm none of those things. But I do have a pretty good heart. I do intend to serve people. And so before I do a podcast like this, before I give a speech, before I do any business meeting, I do remind myself of my intent and I have tremendous confidence in my intentions.

1:26:19And I would acknowledge, I would tell everybody out there, maybe you should take a page out of that book. Maybe you should read that chapter in my book too. But your intention to contribute, to have a pure heart, to serve people, to make a difference is where your confidence should come from. Because you'll find whether it's your God or the energy field or a combination of both, the answers will come your way. The answers, you will find the people, places, and things that you need that are requisite to you delivering on this intention you have. But it starts with the intent. And that's how I carry that, you know, that not burden, but honor and privilege of some people wanting to hear what we have to say is that I know I intend to help.

1:26:55And usually the spirit helps me move them in the right way. Here's a clip of Ed Milet appearing on the podcast, The School of Greatness, with host Lewis Howes. I mean, you're at a stage right now, 51. You're going into the 50s decade. You've accomplished so much. You've made so much. You've got the homes. I've been to a lot of your homes. I've been in a plane of yours. I've seen the lifestyle. It's an amazing lifestyle that you've created for yourself. You had nothing. You had a vision in your mind, and then you got yourself to that vision. Yeah. What excites you for this next decade? What are you thinking about now that you have everything externally, let's say?

1:27:33I'm sure you want to create more and build more, but what is the main mission for the next nine years of this decade? I want people, bro, I'm so glad you said this. I believe all this stuff's connected. I'm not like this is an entrepreneur, but sometimes I come across that way. I believe entrepreneurs and business people in general are the change agents in the world. I don't believe it's going to come from a political movement. I believe that entrepreneurs like ourselves are the people that are going to change the world. And I believe the planet's at a tipping point. And I think that we're trending in a direction where so many people feel invisible.

1:28:09So many people feel that they lack something. There's a lack of kindness and gentleness and love, particularly expressed by business people. Business people in general, the last 30 years have contributed to this in a major way. The brutal nature of business, the cutthroat nature of it. And I think the next 10 years that entrepreneurs, hopefully people like myself that are in the thought leader space, can begin to show people that entrepreneurs are the ones who can bring the most love and change and solutions to people's lives. And for me, because I do have this platform, I want everyone to feel seen.

1:28:46I want people to know you do matter. That person, that alcoholic and drug addict that helped my dad mattered big time. Yeah. And you matter. And we need more people to come to you and say, you matter. And here's the actual reasons why you matter. It's not just a saying. You matter because of this. Yeah. And I want to give people the tools and the resources to do it. I really would love to think that when I'm done, that all of us collectively have turned the corner on this way we treat one another in the world. Yeah. It concerns me so deeply, man. that my experience every single day with most people is that we have a lot in common and that we really do want to love and care for one another and that sometimes success gets in the way of that.

1:29:30The financial pursuit gets in the way of it. Some of these thought leader entrepreneurs that are so aggressive about money, money, money, money, money. And I don't mind that because I think that that money can do a lot of good, but I believe there's a more beautiful and elegant way to get there. I don't think business has to be brutal. I think that there's an elegant and beautiful way to create wealth in your life and bliss that there's not a lot of examples of. And I intend to be one of those examples. And for those that want to become more entrepreneurial, but maybe have that fear of believing in themselves, would you say there's a shift in the mindset between scarcity and abundance when it comes to money?

1:30:08Like, do you remember a time when you didn't have any? Yes. And then it started to shift and it started to really roll. Was there like a shift in the mindset or what? Yeah, I was raised thinking that wealth people got their money through some ill-gotten means. And that maybe it had to be a little bit cutting corners or shady or something to get money. Some illegal stuff or whatever. Yeah, maybe just hurt people to get it, is what I thought. And so, yeah, when I started to make some money, Christiana and I, when we were kids, we actually live on the actual beach I used to walk on with my wife when we were in high school.

1:30:40I know, isn't that crazy? In Laguna. in Laguna. And I would say, babe, I'm going to get you one of these houses someday. And she goes, you will? I go, yeah. How? I don't know yet, but I'm going to get you one of these houses. And I would ask my dad, I go, dad, who are these people that live in these oceans? Who are they? They're like Martians? Who are they? My dad would go, I don't know, but man, I wonder how they got there. You know, I don't know. And then what I would do is I'd go touch my dream once in a while. So like on a weekend, I'm a big believer. I love how you do this. You move towards what you're most familiar with, right?

1:31:12So I would go, hey, babe, let's go. If I make 12 sales this month or XYZ, we're going to do one night at the Ritz-Carlton in Laguna Beach in Dana Point. And we'd go down there and get the valet and I'd give the dude my keys and feel like a big shot. I had like five bucks to tip him, you know? And then we'd check into the hotel and she'd go get a massage and I'd go play golf. Then we'd hang out at the pool and have a nice bottle of wine. Just one night, every 60 days, touch it and then go back. Then we'd do it again, then we'd do it again, then we'd do it again. All of a sudden, I became familiar.

1:31:38You do it every week. Your mind starts to become familiar with this dream, right? And then I'd meet the people that were there. I was like, these are actually pretty nice people. But a lot of them are very kind. Many of them are very charitable. Not all of them. But you know what? Not all of the broke people I know are very kind. In fact, these are just human beings that have solved people's problems, that are willing to take risks, that are willing to dream. And so the more familiar I became with my dream and the people associated with them, the more I became comfortable. And the more I thought I belonged there.

1:32:08Over time, you begin to believe you belong in your dreams when you touch them periodically. And so for me, it just was this periodic shift of actually a lot of them have helped people. Yeah, that's cool. A lot of them make a difference. And you know that as well. You've interviewed some of the richest people in the world. And not all of them are great people. Yeah. But about the same percentage that are broke are good people. They're rich are good people. What's the one skill you would like to develop in the next nine years? I'd like to develop the skill of more presence. And I want my meditation abilities to expand.

1:32:38I'm a pretty good meditator, but I think there's another level I could get to of emptying my mind more regularly. I would like to be able to do that. I would like to have the skill of being more comfortable in public environments. I'm good in them, but a lot of people can relate to this. I'm very drained when it's over. Yeah, I know the feeling. You know? Yeah. And I'd like to be charged up by being around people more than I am drained by it. And it's not that I don't love them. I do, but there's an element of me that's working at it. and it's because my love for people is off the charts. I know you can relate to this.

1:33:12You have so much energy when you're on stage. You bring all of it. All of it. So do you, right? You know what that's like. And so I'd like to have that ability to enjoy that more. And I think probably the pathway to doing it though is my meditation. And so for me, it's just, I want to grow that part of my life and that muscle. That's powerful, man. I'm so excited about this book. I got to dive into some of it. I want to get to the rest of it though. Thank you. But the power of one more, The Ultimate Guide to Happiness and Success. I can't recommend enough to buy a few copies of this. Give it to your friends.

1:33:43Do a book club and share this out on social media. The Power of One More. It's going to be a very inspiring book for you. It's going to help you transform the way you think, your emotions, your actions. So make sure you guys get a few copies of this book. And make sure to support Ed and follow you on social media. You've got an amazing podcast. I had a great time when I was on there. You have some incredible people. and you ask amazing questions as well. So make sure you check out your show, social media. You're mostly on Instagram and YouTube. Yeah. You on any other places? I'm on Twitter and Facebook and all that.

1:34:16But my podcast is on all the platforms too, all the audio platforms. Yeah. But edmyled.com is where they should get the book? No, you can get your book anywhere. Go anywhere books are sold. And if you go to thepowerofonemore.com, there's great tools on there. It'll help you with the book, enhance the experience of the book. And it's a heavy book. I'll be honest with you, there's a lot of tactics and strategies in there. So if you want to read a heavy book, that'll really help you. It does not lack for details. I love this, man. How else can we be of service to you? Oh, brother, I want to see you keep changing the world.

1:34:44I want you to continue to grow. I'm so proud of you. I love you. You're the future. Thanks, man. And I mean, you know, I told you I got in here today. I just watching you shine makes me so happy. Thanks, man. And I just want you to be enjoying and loving your life. And the way that everybody can help me is just be kinder to people and be kinder to yourself. and really, really begin to operate out of your dreams and your imagination. If you're a praying person, those dreams and your imagination are a form of prayer and they can be answered. Absolutely. This is a question I've asked you before. It's called the three truths.

1:35:15So imagine it's your last day on earth many years away. You get to accomplish everything. You're the best meditator in the world now. You're more present, loving, all these things. You've accomplished everything and you've been the man you want to be. Yeah. But for whatever reason, it's the last day. And this could be any time in the future. And you can't leave behind the wisdom that you've shared, the books, the podcasts, the videos. It's all gone for whatever reason. Hypothetical. But you have three things you can leave behind, three lessons to the world. This is all we would have of your wisdom.

1:35:50What would those three truths be for you? One, there's a God in heaven who loves you that made you in your image and likeness and his image and likeness. So there's a God in heaven too. You were born to do something great with your life in big ways and small ways, just like that person who helped my dad. They thought that was a small thing. It may not be on Instagram. It may not get 20 million likes or views, but you were born to do something great. I'm going to say that to you again. You, you were born to do something great with your life. You are not average and ordinary. And the third thing is this.

1:36:21There's a power to doing one more. And if you'll do one more, you're one decision, one relationship, one meeting, one encounter, one thought, one podcast interview, one book away from a completely different life. You don't lack vision. You lack depth perception. You think you're further than you are and you keep keeping it in that distance because you think it's so far away. You're one more away. I'll give you the last example of it. I played golf two weeks ago with this dude. Everyone says, you got to meet this dude. He's a similar net worse. I showed up to the first tee. He goes, man, Ed Mylett, big fan.

1:36:52I can't wait to spend the next five hours talking about you. I go, that ain't how it's going to work, bro. I already know about me. I want to know about you. And he goes, well, I can tell you the whole thing on the first tee. I go, give it to me. You got to hear this, Lewis. He goes, 1986, I loaned a guy 50 grand. So did my best friend. I said, you both loaned him 50 grand. He goes, yep. He goes, a week later, my friend got cold feet, asked for the money back. I kept the loan. It turned into$750 million. Holy cow. I said, come again? He goes, 750. I said, who'd you loan that money to? Jeff Bezos.

1:37:21Oh, he did not. I said, come on, man. Are you serious? He goes, yeah. I go, man, you really were one decision away, one relationship away from totally changing your life. He goes, yeah. Now that's an extreme example. I don't have one of those, but I'm a series of those one mores in your life. And so is everybody listening to this. So you're one away, one relationship, one meeting, one person, one thought away from changing your life. That's a good story. Before I ask the final question, I'll acknowledge you, Ed. This is the Ed Myron Show.