What Separates Dreamers From Quitters

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0:43this is the Ed Mylett Show welcome back to the show everybody so grateful that you're here with me today today's question was very simple Ed how do I change my present right now by the way if you have a question you want answered on the show you can submit it on my Instagram at Ed Mylett E-D-M-Y-L-E-T-T You submit it there. We get thousands of them, but there's a chance your question will get answered on the show. And so today is all about leadership and vision and dreams because I've been asked about this topic a lot. And don't discount yourself. If you have a child, if you have a company, a business, if you are a human being, you're a leader in the context that I'm going to cover today.

1:22Okay? So today's topic is this. I want you to write this down. Here's the title. It takes leaders with vision to help people with dreams. Let me say it to you again. this is big stuff. It takes leaders with vision to help people with dreams. That's not my saying. I heard it somewhere many, many years ago, but I've lived by it. It takes leaders with vision to help people with dreams. What does that mean, Ed? Well, here's what it means. The first thing is it's a reminder that everybody you meet has a dream. Everybody's born with a dream. There's a heart that dreams. As we get older, those dreams can change.

1:57They can evolve. They can even die and get buried, but every human being has a dream. That dream could be to be a multimillionaire billionaire. That dream could be to lead millions of people. That dream could be to be a mother or a father. That dream could be a particular career. That dream could have a particular body. That dream could be to live with a particular set of emotions. For some of you, your dreams as simple as my dream is to begin to be happy. I'm tired of living sad or down or worried or angry, dream, but remember this, every human being you meet has a dream. It might be a big one that's long-term, and it might be just a short one.

2:33Their dream might just be, man, can I get through today with a little bit of peace, with a little bit of bliss, but everybody's got a dream. And I've reminded myself of that when I meet humans, that they have dreams. Every precious person has one. And like I said, there's millions of them, and there's varieties of them, and some people have lots of different dreams. But this is a context and a syntax that you begin to see your brothers and sisters differently. That server at the restaurant that's serving you, that you don't make eye contact with when they ask you, how's the food or what would you like to order?

3:05That person's got a dream. That dream might be just that you acknowledge them. That dream might be that they want to be the best server that's ever lived. That dream might be that they want to have a big YouTube channel someday. That dream might be they want to write a book. That dream might be that they want to meet the love of their life, but that person's got a dream. That's why they were born. You were born to live a dream. You were born to make your dreams come true. And I know this. And so what those people are looking for is a leader. And all a leader means is I can help you. I see something that you don't see.

3:41I see a potential. So as a leader in a company, Many of you run companies or businesses. Remember this. It takes leaders with vision to help people with dreams. What does that mean? That means that you need to begin to work on your vision because everybody you meet has got a dream. If you're a mother, what's the vision for your family? What's your vision for your children? Are you sowing seeds in them of vision and visionary leadership in them? I read a book a long time ago that really changed my life. It's an old book. It's written by a guy named Guy Kawasaki. And it's called Selling the Dream.

4:17And what he was really writing about was Apple. He was the guy that kind of marketed the old Macintosh for Apple. The entire book is the context of what Apple was doing to become a great company. And if you really understand and study that company, Steve Jobs was a great dream seller. See, selling the dream is a skill and a talent you build. Listen to me. But most people are oblivious that it's important. Most people think that's only for the Steve Jobs of the world or the Ed Milets of the world. You want to be a great father? You get great at selling a dream to your children and your family and your spouse.

4:50You want to be a great business person, entrepreneur? You get great at selling the dream and having a vision for where you want to go. You want to be a great anything. You want to lead yourself in life. You better have a big-time vision. You'll be able to sell yourself on that dream. Life's about vision. That's why the Bible talks about where there is no vision, the people will perish. They will literally die. You're a dead human without a dream. You're a dead human without a dream. So you should constantly be working on your dream muscle, your vision muscle, and your ability to sell yourself and other people on that vision.

5:24I am talking to you today because I had a dream and a vision that I could help millions of people, that I could use an ability I thought I might have to communicate to reach people. Remember this, we constantly move in our life towards what we're most familiar with. We move to the familiar. We gravitate to the familiar. We develop patterns and behaviors that are familiar. That's why when you drive home, usually from wherever you work, you don't even have to consciously think about how you're getting there. You just kind of pull right off the freeway when it happens, don't you? You're not even thinking about it because it's familiar to you.

5:57You get in the shower, you don't think, you know what? Today I'm going to soap here first and then shampoo. You got to root. You just do it unconsciously. Your life, most of it is unconscious because your brain is trying to save energy by creating habits that are repetitive and that are familiar. Well, if you're only familiar with the tasks you have to do, or as a mom or a dad familiar with, I got to cook them lunch, I got to get dinner, I got to pick them up for school, and you just do the monotonous stuff, and you never have a family that's loaded with a vision or a dream of where they're going, or for each individual child you have, or for your spouse that you're selling them a dream and a vision of who they could be and how much you believe in them.

6:35Of all the things I'm not very good at, I'm amazing at selling people on themselves. I'll tell people that all the time. Server in a restaurant is a great example. If I say, I say, man, you're awesome. You are awesome. You're amazing. Thank you. Man, you're not even going to be here someday, are you? You want to do something out of here. I could see you out of here doing more. Or if they do want to be there, I'll say, man, I could see you running this place someday. With my kids, since they were little, I was selling them a dream and a vision. I used to say, dad, my let's are going to do something awesome.

7:03I'm telling you. Hey, listen to me. The my let's are doing something awesome. They still get text messages from me. Hey, let's do something great today. We're going to do something freaking great as a family. Woo! Kick some butt today. Making a difference. The Milets are leaders. We got a vision. And I'll sell them that dream over and over again. Think about all the people you admire in your life. Think about them. What's one thing they all have in common? They had a big old dream, a vision, and a dream that they sold either themselves or you. Let's go through a few. And by the way, when I'm saying this, what about you?

7:37What vision are you constantly selling yourself on? What vision are you selling your colleagues on? What vision are you selling your spouse or boyfriend or girlfriend on? Your children on? Your parents on? Do you do that? Are you conscious of it? Because that's called being alive. The ability to grab a vision and develop it is a muscle. And to do it repetitively, even when people are rolling their eyes at you going, I heard this before. And here's the kicker. Get good at selling it. That's the second step. Think about who you admire. Let's just go through a few people. Let's say you're a follower of Jesus.

8:11Just curious. Did he have any dream he sold? Do you have any vision? His vision, his dream was everlasting life for you. That's about as big as it gets. You bought the dream and the vision if you're a believer. Whatever your faith is. You've bought the vision and the dream of this person that is your deity. In my case, I'm a Christian. And then what did he do? He sold the dream. He cast the vision and he sold the dream over and over and over and over and over again. And then he built a team of people that sold it and it's become the biggest movement in the history of mankind. Maybe you're not religious.

8:52How about Martin Luther King? Do you admire him? Wow, that's interesting because his most famous speech is, I have a dream. And he sold the dream. He did it with his oratory skills. He did it with his physical labor in the marches and the standing in the difficult times up against adversity. And then he had other people who caught that dream, like the Rosa Parks of the world, who started to carry that dream and that vision. Okay, maybe you're into politics. Who do you like, Trump or Obama, because you don't like them both. What did Obama have? Hope and change. If you loved Obama, you were all about hope and change.

9:34And he embodied that hope and that change that you love. Maybe you didn't like Obama. Maybe you're a Trumper. You love Donald Trump. Did he have a vision? Does he have a vision? Make America great again. That's the vision. And he sold the dream on it. Now, it's even more powerful when you embody that dream. So imagine it's midnight, you're on the couch, you're scrolling through this new website, hitting the add to cart button, and you decide to check out, but you remember that your wallet or your credit card is in the other room and you don't want to get off the couch. That's okay. You don't need to because there's that big iconic purple shop button.

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11:55So let me give you some steps. You've got to get great at seeing a vision for yourself and other people. Then you've got to sell a big enough dream that the dream of everybody within your stewardship can fit inside the one you're selling. So if you're a business leader, you got to sell it big. Here's your number one problem if you're running a business right now. You ain't selling it big enough. You got to see it bigger. Ready for this? Get in the big, man. Sell it bigger. Get in the big. When Apple was just a board company, Jobs was talking about being the most transformative company of all time.

12:26That was crazy. How about me? Some guy that's just plugging away as an entrepreneur 25 years ago, a dream of being worth hundreds of millions of dollars, of influencing millions of people, of using my story to change. You'd have laughed your ass off at me back in those days. Well, people aren't laughing anymore, are they? Because I got a big old vision. I started selling myself the dream. And when you sell it and then you embody it. So that's step one, get a vision. Step two, start selling that dream. Step three, make it repetitive. Being in business or being a mom or being a dad or being a leader is not coming up with new things you say to old people.

13:00It's saying old things to new people. Let me say that to you again. Too many of you are trying to create some new thing you're saying to the old team. What you need to be doing is saying the old things to new people. So I've said it over and over and over. So you've got to sell it big enough that everybody's dream fits inside of it. So the Milets are going to do something awesome. Max, you can play on the PGA Tour. Bella Boo, you can have your own business and run for president someday. It fits inside the dream that I'm selling. If you're running a company, you've got to get the dreams of everybody to fit inside that.

13:32The third thing is you got to back it up with massive action. It can't just be words. People got to watch you go, oh, she means it now. You get good at selling that dream and you do it repetitively. You don't end up suffering from what I call leadership fatigue, where you get tired of hearing from yourself. You get tired of saying it. Most businesses fail because the leader gets tired of selling the dream and acting like it. Most parents fail because they get tired. If they ever sold a dream, they get tired of selling it because the kids don't behave. they don't act like it and they finally just quit.

14:03The more you sell the dream and sell the vision, I'm convinced the problem for most kids is they're being raised by parents who don't sell a big vision and a big dream and tell them how amazing it's going to be. When you're a leader, that's a position. That means you have a viewpoint the people behind you can't see. You have a job as a leader, as a mom, as a dad, as a business leader, as a coach to say, hey, let me tell you what I see because you can't see it. Let me tell you how it's amazing it's going to be when we get there, how worth it it's going to be to go through the trials and tribulations, how worth it is to go through the ups and downs and put the work in.

14:35Let me say it to you again because this is going quick. You've got to see something they don't see because of your position as leader, and you've got to be able to say, let me tell you what I see. And you tell them over and over and over, and you tell them in different ways until they get it, but you say the same thing. And you tell them how amazing it's going to be when we get there. Go all the way back to Jesus. Let me tell you what I see. I see you in heaven someday. Let me tell you how amazing heaven's going to be. Let me tell you how amazing it is. Right? Over and over and over. Then you tell them how to get there.

15:07Over and over and over again. It's got to be big. It's got to be bold. It's got to capture people's hearts. And they've got to see themselves fitting inside the one you're selling. It can't be a selfish dream unless you're just leading you. Then you've got to do the hard one. You've got to validate it with your action. They've got to see you go, wow, she's serious. She's in here two hours earlier than she used to be. Oh, my gosh. She's got this dream of doing this bodybuilding contest she's doing. Look how disciplined she is with her diet. My gosh. You know, she takes off on lunch and works out in addition to her morning workout.

15:37They start seeing it. Man, he's talking big stuff for the company right now. He's talking major plans, major vision, unbelievable stuff. Have you seen how he's working right now? This dude's a maniac. He means it. You validate the dream with your actions. You tell your kid they're going to play high school basketball. How often are you getting out there shooting with them? How often are you getting up early? How many videos are you sending them on shooting stuff? How many articles? What coach are you trying to get work to get them with? Validate it with your actions. You become a powerhouse. And then it starts to get momentum.

16:11This is what happens in life. You've got to learn to do this. If I was to tell you one thing about your life I would wish for you is that you would get a bigger vision for you. If there's one thing I would wish for your company is that you get a bigger vision for your company. If there's one thing I'd wish for your family is that you'd get a bigger vision. And after you have those things, then what I would wish for you is that you work on the development of selling that dream and getting better at selling yourself and others on that dream. Then I'd wish you'd repeat it almost to the point of people thinking you're crazy.

16:45And then what I would wish is that everybody can fit inside the one you're selling. And then what I'd wish is that you'd validate it by taking massive action. You start doing that, your life changes. The reason your life is not changing if you want it to is you don't have a compelling vision that's greater than your fears. And the way you make a dream happen, by the way, you might say, I don't know what my dream and my vision is. Let me tell you what it is. Your dreams, what will move you in your life always is either the future you want or other people. You'll never do anything for yourself, but you'll do stuff to achieve your vision.

17:22and you'll do stuff to make other people happy. What I recommend you do is once you get that vision, is you link your love for other people to that vision and dream. Because as long as you tell yourself, I love these people more than I'm afraid that this dream won't happen. I love these people more than I'm worried about the obstacles and the roadblocks. I love my family. I love my whatever it is more than I'm scared, more than the adversity. My love is greater than anything that will get in the way. Most of you are afraid to get a big vision because you think you're going to miss it. And then you're afraid to really pursue it and chase it because you're afraid you'll fail.

17:59Many, many times I wanted to quit. And I would remind myself, I love my family more than this obstacle. I love my family more than I'm afraid. I love my family more than this adversity. I will love my family longer and it will endure far past this problem. And once I attached my love to the dream, the people I love to the dream, I became a pretty unstoppable force because there was no cop-out. And by the way, if you know someone who's quit on their dream, you know the hard reality? The adversity was greater than their love. The adversity was greater than their love for their family. They sold their family out.

18:46That's the hard truth. I can sell out my family. There ain't any word game, any adversity, any obstacle. Anything you're going to put in front of me is going to get me to sell my family up the river. And that's exactly what you're doing when you quit. Let me ask you this. Let's just get this straight. Is there anything bigger than your love for these other people? Is there anything that would come in your way that would be bigger than your love? Maybe your love for your Lord, your love for your family. Anything bigger than that? Good. I hope the answer was no. because if there's nothing bigger than that, you're going to win.

19:24Unless, of course, you renegotiate that at some point, which a lot of people do. You ever seen someone who's been defeated in their dream? Quietly, they might blame someone else. They might have their excuse. But deep in their soul, deep in their intuition, deep inside them, they know they sold out. They sold out. Here's the great news. I've quit many things before but I got back up again it's not too late when it comes to what your family eats and drinks you know your choices matter you're the expert because you know what fits your life and getting it right starts with good information that's why America's beverage companies are sharing more information about our ingredients at goodtoknowfacts.org no spin, no judgments just the facts straight from the experts for more than 140 beverage ingredients.

20:20Visit goodtoknowfacts.org. You can decide right now. That's it. He's right. I'm going to start attaching my vision and my dreams to my love for these other people. And I'm getting up. I'm going to be a different force now. Let me ask you this question. Any of you that have kids, and if you don't have kids, just pick somebody you love. Let's say you were sitting in a meeting right now. and someone walked up to you and handed you a note and said, that person was in a serious car accident. Picture your children if you have children or your grandchildren. If you don't have children, your mom or your dad, your boyfriend or your girlfriend.

20:54You're in a very big meeting room and you got handed a note. So-and-so has been in an accident and it's serious. You need to come now. What would you do? You'd get right up and run out of that room, wouldn't you, in a minute? Wouldn't you? Would you stop and go, well, wait a minute. I don't want to be rude to the speaker. I don't want to get up and bother the other people in the room. What's everyone going to think about me when I get up? Is everyone going to say, wouldn't occur to you at all. That's stupid stuff of what other people are going to think. Because you got to get to this person you love, right?

21:26Because your love is greater than that moment. And when you got up, if you started to run out of the room and someone stopped, you go, hey, someone stopped. What are you doing? You can't get up in the middle of the meeting. There's no way you can do this. That's rude. Sit your butt back down. Would you go, oh, okay, I don't want to be rude. Would you do that? Or would you go, get out of my way. My baby, my child, my girlfriend, my mom has been in an accident. Get out of here. And you steamroll. And when you got to the door, they said, hey, you need to get back in there. This door is locked. There's no way out.

21:56What would you do? Go, well, I guess that's a sign I'm not supposed to get to my dream. It's God giving me a sign. Too much adversity. Is that what you say? It's a sign? Nah. You know what I bet you do? I bet you'd kick the door down, wouldn't you? You sure would. You'd kick that door down. Bam. No obstacle. When you got out to your car and it didn't start and it wouldn't go, you're like, well, I guess that means I'm not supposed to get there. Man, one thing after the other. I guess I'll just lay down here. Another obstacle, another sign, just not meant to be. I just don't have what it takes to get to my child.

22:30Would you do that? Heck no. No, you'd go carjack a dadgum car if you had to, wouldn't you? You'd ask, I need your car. I need your car. I need your car. I need to get, take me right now. You'd get a new, you'd do whatever you could. You'd get an Uber, you'd get a taxi. You'd run and get anything it took. When you got to the hospital, if you got to the door, they go, hey, slow down. There's procedure here. You got to sign in. Are you family? You got to be like, hey, I got to get to my family. No obstacle. Well, hey, we need these. Would you say, well, man, before I do it, I need to know the exact words I'm supposed to say.

23:02I need to be totally prepared for when I get to the hospital. I need total preparation before I can get to the hospital. Screw preparation. You're never going to be totally prepared for that moment. You don't have to have the perfect words or the perfect moment or the perfect knowledge or understand everything. That's all out the damn window when you want something to get somebody that bad. You'd get to your baby, wouldn't you? You wouldn't need the perfect words. You wouldn't need to know everything. You wouldn't wait to get started for the right timing. None of that crap would matter, would it?