Why You Should Be Romanticizing Your Life

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1:49This is The Admirate Show. Welcome back to the show, everybody. This week's episode is going to be incredible. We're going to talk in some real specificity about your thoughts, programming your mind, being ready for life's moments. This one's going to be an extraordinary ride. Before I get into the show, though, I just want to say one thing to you. You know that all of my content is free. I put out hundreds and hundreds. It's now thousands of hours of content for free. But every once in a while, I do something where you can participate with me one-on-one or in a group. And so I've only done this one other time in my entire career, and it sold out in about 10 minutes.

2:25But this year, if you're watching this before 2025, I'm recording this in 2024. On December 9th, I'm doing an event, a group event in my home, very intimate event, less than 30 people to spend a day with me. You can go to maxout2025.com to get the information. It's not cheap, but it's a day with me. I'm going to take you through my entire 12-step system I've used for the last decade to plan my life and my year. So if you want to make 2025 the best year of your life, you can come to me and you can be in my home with me with a very small group of people for an entire day. But take you through that entire system.

3:01I'm also going to go through all the mental programming techniques that I usually only teach my one-on-one clients. So very limited seating. It may even be sold out by the time you see this video or hear this audio. But it's December 9th, 2024, in my home. MaxOut2025.com. Okay, now let's get into today's episode. This is going to be an awesome one. So I love this quote. Let me start off with this quote. Ralph Waldo Emerson said, I'm going to read it so that I get it right. To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived, that is to have succeeded. Say it to you one more time. To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived, that is to have succeeded.

3:38That's Ralph Waldo Emerson. I love that quote because I think a lot of times in the personal development space, we just get caught up in all this accumulation culture. Got to get this next goal, this next level, this next income, this next watch, this next car. Take my business to a certain point. But when you really break life down, and you were born to do something great with your life, by the way, it's helping another human being. But oftentimes, we get in our own way, don't we? And what gets in our own way is this thing between our ears, our minds. And that mind causes us to take actions that aren't in congruency with what we say we want in our lives.

4:13So I want to take a look at that a little bit with you today because I have this other theory. I'm going to play a clip for you from the great Teddy Atlas in a moment here. So I'm going to say something to you. The difference between winning and losing in life is so small, it is almost too scary to talk about. It's a game of inches. It's a game of moments. It's sometimes millimeters. The difference, you think about sports, the difference sometimes. I watched the Chief Ravens game this year. The end of the game came down to a guy's toe touching the line that was the difference between winning and losing.

4:40Sometimes it's one pass, one catch. In life, oftentimes it's that one moment you did or didn't ask that person out. In business, sometimes it's that one investor or one sale. The difference between winning and losing is often so small. It's almost too scary to talk about. And that's why you've got to fight for those inches and you've got to be ready for them at any given time. I have this theory that really, even if you live 20 years, 50 years, 70 years, 140 years, life comes down to a handful of moments. And those handful of moments define us. And how we perform in that moment means the difference between winning and losing.

5:17It can mean the difference between life and death. It can mean the difference between living a great life and not. Yes, living greatly every day matters. Having standards and being a consistent person matters. But let's just be honest. Life comes down to a handful of moments. If you're an athlete, it may come down to that at bat you have when the scouts in the stands, right? Hitting three home runs in the third game of the season is not the same as hitting three home runs in a World Series. Making a pass in a preseason football game for a touchdown is not the same as doing it in a Super Bowl. And sometimes making that big sale matters.

5:53Asking that person out at the right time. Think about if you're with somebody you love right now and you ask them out. What if you didn't ask them out? How different would your life would be? Or how different would your life be without the birth of your child? Or for some of you that have suffered trauma or loss, how different would life be had that moment not happened? And so our lives come down to these moments, and I really believe this. Ironically, having high standards and living consistently prepares you for those moments so that no matter when they show up, you're ready. but for so many people because they're so inconsistent in their thinking, in their habits, in their actions, that they only can rely on luck, that they get caught on a good day and the moment happens to match the good day.

6:40Well, I'm not willing to live my entire life based on luck. I want to be prepared all the time because luck is really, truly, people say, oh, you got so lucky. Luck is truly when preparation meets an opportunity. and oftentimes so many people aren't prepared when their opportunity comes or they don't even know it's happening they're oblivious that this is the moment this is the time this is your shot and all you got to do is be great on that one moment the successful people they just showed up in the moment they showed up in the moment when the moment presented itself and they crushed it in that moment the thing is you got to be ready in every moment because you don't know when that moment is coming.

7:21There's this great Toby Keith song, the late Toby Keith. And I play it when I play golf. He's got two. He's got one that it's called a crappy golfer. I'm paraphrasing. I love that song, but he's got this other song that says, I may not be good as I once was, but I'm as good once as I ever was. And being ready in life in that moment means everything. And I'm going to talk to you today about that moment. Listen to this clip right now by Teddy Atlas is going to fire you up. Play that clip, guys. On one given night, if you're determined enough, if you train hard enough, if you're prepared enough, if you care enough, if you're ready enough, and you can even the playing field, you can make life fair.

8:01On one given night, with all that, no matter who your parents were, no matter what they went through, no matter where you came from in the world, no matter your race, your creed, your religion, anything, no matter what, one given night. On one given night, you can dispense justice. On one given night, life can be fair. Because for so many of you listening to this, you didn't start life on third base or second base. There is a deck stacked against you. There has been adversity. There has been trauma. You were born into the perfect family or the perfect race or the perfect background or the perfect socioeconomic environment, right?

8:37I know that I wasn't born into the perfect family. My dad was an alcoholic and a drug addict. so I didn't start on third base. We were on welfare when I was a little boy. So I know what that's like. Those are the most inspiring stories. But I could tell you this, when opportunity came along, I was ready. And I would not have normally been ready, left up to who I was when I was young. I had to change. I had to grow. And just to validate this point, think about your life. When you think about your life, don't you think about those moments, good or bad, traumatic or dramatic or victorious, magic moments of your life?

9:16Don't you? Think about that. If I said, tell me about your life, you're going to describe five, six, seven moments, a couple from your childhood, maybe your marriage, a divorce, the birth of your children, a promotion, some incredible sporting event you went to, some moment you witnessed something, an experience you had. That's greatness. And so being ready for those moments when they show up requires a certain type of thinking, a certain type of discipline. And so I want to talk to you about vibrational frequency a little bit. I know that often I talk a lot about my faith being a Christian, but I also believe in energy.

9:48I believe in vibrational frequency. You can't deny that. When you're around somebody with a certain energy, you feel it. And you've also felt energy in your life that didn't feel right from somebody. It gives you almost an intuition, right? Some type of energy is attractive. Some of it repels us. Well, same with our thoughts, same with our personal energy. There's a certain type of energy when you create it. You attract things to you. And there's another one where you repel things that may be for you. And two people with identical talents, with the identical moments, end up with very different results based on their thinking, which creates a vibrational frequency.

10:26So let me give you some stuff that's interesting. There's a theory in physics that basically says this, that if you can hold a thought for about 15 seconds, so if you can hold a thought, people do this much easier with negative thoughts. So take a negative thought you've got. If you hold that thought for 15 seconds, what happens is that vibrational frequency, and by the way, negative thoughts have a lower vibrational frequency than positive ones, and truth vibrates at a higher frequency than does something untrue or a lie. So the highest vibrational frequency is truth, But when you believe something to be true, it starts to vibrate.

11:04And so what happens is if you start to repeat a thought long enough, you believe it's true. And then it vibrates at a higher frequency and you end up drawing those negative things into your life or that lack or that scarcity or those negative emotions into your life. So stay with me for a second. If you hold a thought for about 15 seconds, it begins to vibrate at a frequency that begins to cause something called, I call, thought stacking, which means that vibrational frequency after about 15 seconds, if you ruminate on a thought, it begins to draw another thought to it very similar. And then another thought very similar to it.

11:37And then another thought very similar to that. And if you do that for about a minute, you actually create a personal vibrational frequency that begins to draw those negative or positive things to you. That's how thinking actually works. That's how manifesting, which everybody talks about and knows very little about, actually happens. And what actually takes place after about a minute of those thoughts stacking, not only have you increased the vibrational frequency, but what's actually taken place is you've actually begun to program your reticular activating system in your mind. The RAS, which I talk about a lot, is the filter for your life.

12:15It filters into your awareness things that were probably already there, but that you were oblivious to because those things weren't important to you or you weren't vibrating at a frequency where they mattered. So the RAS keeps you sane. So that's why you don't feel the blood rushing through your right ear. You're not cognizant of your breathing. You don't see all of the stimulus in a room at any given time because you would go crazy. It focuses you and it shows you with your eyes. It lets you hear with your ears. Those are the two primary ways, but you can also touch things as well. But you basically see and hear things that are important to you, number one, or a threat, important or a threat, or that you believe very deeply.

12:57It's a prover. So it's almost like the beginning of a thought is like a table with no legs under it. And if you repeat that thought and hold it for a while, it'll stack another one and another one and another one. Then what happens is your RAS goes out to prove it's true. And you begin to find references in the real world to give that table legs. And then all of a sudden, you have an immovable object, it feels like, and you're just totally sure you're right. So this happens all the time with people that have strong political beliefs, Let's just say I mean, once they believe so and so is a bad person and they are going to filter into their awareness more and more and more proof.

13:31They're probably going to hang around people that prove that to be true. So that's another reference. They talk about it together and then they see it on their social media feed. Then they see it on television. And then there's some evidence when they see someone on the street that's homeless, whatever it might be. It validates that belief system because it filters it into their awareness. You've all also had the experience before where you walk into a very crowded room and it's audibly all of a sudden someone says your name in a room. and you can hear it audibly over all the other noise in that room.

13:57Why is that? Because our own name is important to us, right? You've all bought a new car before, and all of a sudden you see that car all over the highway, right? They were always there, but now they're important to you so that you see them. And this is just really, really important to know. And the way that that reticular activator gets turned on is by thought stacking. So the vibration changes. Not only does it change the frequency where it increases, It begins to create more thoughts that are similar to it and then drive it. So if you really believe that the world's out to get you for whatever reason, you're going to have another thought and another thought.

14:30And if you hold that thought long enough, it'll draw another one and another one and another one. And then you will get out into the world and everything that basically happens around you will begin to prove you're right over a long-term basis. That person was out to get me. I got caught off in traffic over there. I got overlooked for that promotion. And all of it feeds that original belief. And so you are right. And that's why when you try to change someone's mind about something they believe deeply, whether it be their religion or their politics or something about someone they're dating, whatever it is, it's almost impossible.

15:00Because they're right in their prism, in their filter. Their eyes, their ears see that world. Your eyes, your ears see that prism, that filter. It's your world. They are both true. They are both true.

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16:38Even if it's true, does it serve you to believe that? And what could you believe that would serve you about it? Because do you really want to get to the end of your life just to prove that this adversity or negative thing was true? Because that's what you're doing. You're going to get to the end of your life and you go, told you, I was right. I had no shot. Good for you. Nice victory. You ever ask somebody who holds these thoughts that don't serve them, what exactly is the victory to prove that you're right? So you get to the end of your life and you die and you accomplish nothing. You get to the end of your life and you're not happy.

17:15You get to the end of your life and you're lonely. You get to the end of your life and you repeated a trauma that happened to you when you were 8 years old or 15 years old or 27 years old. The rest of your life or even worse, you make it worse in your mind and you live out these events in your mind that don't even exist. What are you trying to prove? How does it serve you to believe this? So I remember in baseball, come back to the dugout, this guy is throwing heat, 96, guy's almost unhittable. I remember one of our guys got in the dugout, and I said, dude, what are you talking about? Dude, he's throwing 96 miles an hour.

17:49That was true. Unhittable? We're all now going to go up and prove him right by getting out. I don't believe that. I believe, by the way, my belief system is if I can get on, if one guy can get on and get a hit against this guy, it breaks up his rhythm, shows everybody else in the dugout this guy is hittable. And so my job here is to get a hit against this guy, increase my vibrational frequency. I'm visualizing me getting the hit, and then another hit. and I'm stacking that thought for over a minute, then it becomes real. Then my RAS, when I get up to the plate, is going to see the pitch I'm capable of hitting when he throws it, and I'm going to hit it.

18:20Ironically, in baseball, in professional baseball, it's a well-known thing that they will tell you that in professional baseball, you usually get one good pitch to hit per at-bat. So when you come up to bat as an MLB hitter, as a major league hitter, you may see two pitches, four pitches, eight pitches. But in any given major league at bat, one of those pitches is really hittable that you should be able to hit. And that's why I say life is a handful of moments. So is an at bat in baseball. You may see six pitches, one of them you're capable of really hitting. And you better jump on that one moment and that one time, like Teddy Atlas says, and life becomes fair in that moment.

18:59Everything's equal in that moment. All you got to be is ready for that one pitch and that at bat. Not all of them. But the way that you're ready for that one is by being ready for everyone and having the reticular activating system reveal to you the one that is hittable. I know this sounds deep, but I want to give you the juice today. And so let's step back even further. When you're thinking, ask yourself, who is it that's aware that I'm thinking? Who is it that's aware that I'm even thinking? And when you begin to understand that you are so much bigger than your thoughts, so much bigger than your thoughts, you're bigger than what you do.

19:38See, some people say, I am the universe. Whatever that belief is, that's fine. What I believe is the DNA of the king of kings is running through my blood, that he holds me in the palm of his hand, that I was made in his image and likeness. I'm a part of him. I'm his son. whatever your belief system is. You could believe that you're a part of the universe or you are the universe. That's your business, believing what you believe. But either of those beliefs tells us we are bigger than our thoughts. We are bigger than what we do. You are not your thoughts. You don't have to believe everything you think.

20:12You're bigger than that. You're better than that. And you can change them. And when you do change them, life begins to change. So what I want you to begin to do is attempting to hold a positive thought about something you want for longer than 15 seconds. Because if you can hold that thought for over 15 seconds, your frequency changes and you begin to draw another thought to you similar to it. It's like a cousin thought. It's a thought stack. And then another one will come if you can hold it. And then another one. And if you can do that entire thing for over a minute, you've started to program your reticular activating system.

20:45Now, Now, life is not about what we think. It's about what we do. But we have a higher likelihood of doing the right thing in the right moment if we're thinking the right thoughts. And we can change the way we think because we are not our thoughts. We don't have to believe them. And we are bigger than them. That's the good news. And so you are bigger than them. So try to hold that thought, thought stack it, repeat it. And all of a sudden, if you do that repeatedly, you begin to go out into the world and that frequency begins to attract to you things that were always there, but that you weren't seeing or hearing because they weren't important to you.

21:19You ever been on an airplane or in a restaurant and for some reason you can overhear a conversation three tables over in a loud restaurant? Maybe it's a couple that's disagreeing or, but suddenly you almost can't help yourself. You feel good. You're like, you're trying to stay in the conversation you're in. It's loud. Why can I hear this? They're not talking louder than anybody else. Why? Your RAS picked up on the conversation because it's interesting or important to you. Well, what if your RAS was able to pick up? What if that, instead of it's a gossipy conversation three tables later, it's someone who needs your product or service.

21:49You're in a party and they need your product or service. Or you see somebody who needs you in your business life. Or you see that person who could change your life. They're there. They're there. You're missing them. It's called the matrix. I call it the matrix in my book, The Power of One More. I write a whole chapter about this called The Matrix. You are literally living in your own matrix that is inside this mind of yours. And when you begin to understand and become an observer of your thoughts, that you realize you are not your thoughts, you're the observer of your thoughts, and you are bigger than them, and you are the orchestrator of this symphony called your thoughts, that you can begin to either disregard the negative ones, or you can begin to replace them with these positive ones that I'm referencing.

22:31Or at least when you're having the negative one, interrupt the pattern before that 15 seconds hits where all of a sudden now you're drawing another negative one and another negative one. One of the things I've become pretty good at doing is when I'm in this thought pattern, I'll interrupt that pattern before it gets to 15 seconds. Because I know if I'm ruminating on this thought for more than 15 seconds, I start thought stacking and I bring another one in that's its cousin. And if I hold that one, then I bring in another one that it's its cousin. And all of a sudden, if I do that for over a dadgum minute, now my RAS is looking for these things in my life.

23:04And my matrix changes, my filter changes, my existence changes, my life experience change, my emotions change, my life changes. We are our emotions, not our thoughts. And we can change those emotions on a very regular basis by simply interrupting these thoughts that we have. So who's aware of that? something a whole lot bigger than everything else. Let me say this to you. One of the things I would love you to start to do, you ready for a term I'm going to give you? Maybe you haven't heard before. I want you to begin to romanticize with your future. One of the things that your brain has become very accustomed to doing is romanticizing things.