8 Simple Reminders You Need to Hear Right Now

25:23So here's what I want you to start practicing. When someone comes at you with an attitude, when someone's energy is off, when a text feels weird,

25:32Mel Robbins:when you catch yourself spiraling, when you start feeling like you've got to become the police or the parents to grown adults, I want you to say to yourself out loud, if you can, let their mood be theirs. And then you say, my life is mine. Let them deal with themselves. Let me protect myself from this. See, you can care about people without absorbing their problems. You can have compassion that somebody is in a bad mood or feeling disappointed or sad or low or whatever without making it your job to fix it. You can be compassionate without becoming someone else's emotional dumping ground. And you can also be a supportive listener without becoming a sponge and absorbing what everybody is expressing or sharing with you.

26:33And I'm going to say something that will change how you move through the world. Other people's emotions are information. That's it. They are not instructions that you have to follow. If somebody is disappointed, it doesn't mean you did something wrong. If someone's angry, it doesn't mean you need to suddenly fix everything and make them happy. If someone is cold, it doesn't mean you're unlovable or that you have to somehow warm them up. It's not your job to parent or fix other adults. It's your job to let them have the dignity of their own experience and the space to process their emotions. And then you get to decide, what do you want to do?

27:21What support do you want to provide or not? And what do you need to protect yourself from? It's the best boundary in the world. But here's the thing that I've noticed. Even when you teach yourself how to stop taking everything personally or become the fixer of everybody's problems.

27:39Mel Robbins:Even when you learn how to hit the pause and protect your energy by asking yourself, okay, is this worth my energy? No, it is not worth my energy. You still are probably exhausting yourself, waiting for the right time, waiting to feel confident, waiting to feel ready, waiting to feel less anxious, waiting to feel like you're back to normal, waiting for the perfect time. And that's why this fourth reminder is so important right now. And that also means you don't want to go anywhere because I'm going to hit the pause button. We've been talking about taking a pause so I can give our amazing sponsors a chance to share a few words.

28:18Mel Robbins:But don't you dare go anywhere because when I share reminder number four, you're gonna be like, Mel Robbins, how did you know that was exactly what I needed to hear today? And I guarantee you there is a person in your life right now who is going to have the same reaction if you share this episode with them. You don't need to do an explanation. You can just say, hey, there's something in this episode that made me think of you. Thanks for doing that. Don't go anywhere. I cannot wait to share reminder number four with you when we return. So stay with me.

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31:55Mel Robbins:Welcome back. It's your friend Mel Robbins. I'm so thrilled that you're here. I love this topic. I'm sharing eight simple reminders that really lift the stress, that give you a little power, that make you feel better. We've already covered the first three, so let's jump right in to reminder number four. And you're gonna love this one. If you wait until you feel better to start living your life, you will be waiting forever. Go live your life today. If you're sad, do it sad. If you're anxious, do it anxious. If you're uncertain, do it uncertain. because healing, happiness, change, it doesn't come before the experience.

32:38The experience of doing it is what makes you heal and makes you happier and makes you change. That's the secret. This is from the account AwakenOne, and I absolutely love it.

32:52Mel Robbins:And here's another thing about life that I've learned the hard way, and I bet as I share this with you, you're gonna look back on your own life and go, that is so true. Have you ever noticed that every prolonged period of your life where you have felt alone, you've been lost, uncertain, broke down, you're suffering, you're struggling, they are always followed by these periods in life where you have these massive quantum breakthroughs. You're down in the gutter. You have no idea how you're going to get through this. And the very next chapter. Oh my God. It's like the most growth, the most happiness that you've ever experienced.

33:37Mel Robbins:I mean, just stop and think about that truth of that. Think about the most painful breakup. Think about getting fired from a job and you're miserable and you're lost and you have no idea if you're ever going to feel happy again. And it's after these periods of struggle that all of a sudden, boom, the massive breakthroughs come. See, the reason why these periods are so hard is because I think that this is where most people give up. You kind of give up hope. You think you're never going to be happy again. And here's what I want to tell you. If you're going through a period in your life that's very challenging, the only thing you need to do right now is keep going.

34:17keep going and trust that things are about to come together in a shocking way, a shocking way. You know, I was walking through the woods this morning and I noticed there were so many little plants just sprouting, just forcing themselves up through the leaves and the mud shooting up through the muddy ground. And it's such a beautiful reminder that what can look like literally nothing, like the little thing, is actually something powerful pushing toward the light. That's what you're doing right now, especially when you're struggling. I bet you're waiting. I bet you're waiting to feel happier. You're waiting to feel motivated.

35:04You're waiting for the storm to pass before you can step outside of it. You're waiting for the sadness to lift before you make the plans that would actually make you feel a little better. And I'm telling you, that's not how life works. You don't wait for healing and then live your life. You force yourself to live, and that's how you heal. Think about something that you're avoiding right now. I get it. There's a lot going on. You feel extraordinarily heavy and tired, exhausted, beaten down. but there is something that you're avoiding right now because you're waiting to feel better before you do it.

35:50Maybe it's getting back out there after a breakup. Maybe it's applying for a job after a layoff. Maybe it's going to the gym. Maybe it's saying yes to a dinner invite. Even though you're grieving the loss of someone you love, maybe it's starting therapy. Maybe it's just calling somebody back. back. See, there's this trap that you and I fall into where we say, okay, once I feel better, then I'll do it. No. Do it while you don't feel good. Do it sad. Do it anxious. Do it uncertain. Because it's the experience of doing it that makes you feel better. It's the experience that restores your confidence in yourself.

36:37It's the experience that gives you proof that, yes, I can handle it. Yes, I'm sad. Yes, I'm beaten down. Yes, I'm lonely. Yes, I don't feel like doing this. But you know what? I'm going to do this because I'm tired of waiting. I'm tired of waiting for the day that's not coming. And that's the irony. The day that you're waiting for starts today when you take action. You know, I just had the most fantastic conversation on this podcast with this extraordinary woman by the name of Carla Harris. Now, Carla is one of the, like capital T-H-E,

37:15Mel Robbins:most successful women of all time on Wall Street. And she came on this podcast. She gave us a masterclass on success in the world that we are living in today. And she said the most beautiful thing after we were done recording to our team. Here's what she said. You have to put your foot on the gas right now. It is time to accelerate because in the world, half of the people out there are completely distracted. The other half of the people in the world are paralyzed and exhausted. And you know what that means? It means no one is in your way. So let me tell you one more time. If you have been waiting to feel better to start living your life, you will be waiting forever.

37:57Mel Robbins:go live your life starting today. And here's the thing. The second you start taking the action in spite of how you feel, the action changes everything. It absolutely changes everything. And that brings me to the next reminder. No one is coming to do it for you. No one. Which is why reminder number five that you and I need to hear today is so special. In fact, I want to read it to you. It's from the Let Them Theory book. This is from page 297. Ooh, this one hits. You can have the life you've always wanted. You can be a millionaire. You can have the beautiful love story you've always dreamt of. You can build a career that challenges and fulfills you.

38:46The question is, will you let yourself do it? Because no one else can stop you. It's all on you. See, the most important part of the let them theory is understanding that you are responsible

39:05Mel Robbins:for your own happiness. You're responsible for the energy you bring and how you show up. You're responsible for waking up every day and doing the work to make progress on what matters. You're responsible for defining what matters to you. You're responsible for telling the truth, even when it's really hard. You're responsible for paying for your life. Nobody owes you anything, but you, you owe yourself everything. I love that. Nobody owes you anything, but you, you owe yourself everything. And one other thing I wanted to point out is that, you know, there's this saying that you've heard me say a lot, no one is coming to save you, but no one is coming to stop you either.

40:05Isn't that interesting? No one is coming to stop you. like really just like let that sit for a minute who exactly is stopping you from writing the book right now who is stopping you from breaking up with somebody who exactly is stopping you from learning new skills so that you can change careers who is stopping you from applying to nursing school or putting your song on social media? Who's stopping you exactly? Because there's a lot of fear that we have of other people, but let's be honest about who's the one who's actually stopping you from doing the things that you're capable of doing. The one person that's stopping you is you.

40:54So no one's going to come and rescue you from this situation. No one's going to come do it for you. No one's going to come and fix this. And you don't need anybody because the one person who is going to get it done is you. And by the way, there's also no one stopping you from

41:11Mel Robbins:doing it. All of the fear that you have of what other people are going to think and whether or not you look stupid and whether or not you fail, you know who's manufacturing that in your mind? you. And so one other thing I'm going to tell you is don't ever kill the part of you that's cringey. I want you to kill the part of you that cringes at yourself because you're the one that's stopping yourself. If anyone is ever going to show up and magically change your life, don't ever forget that person is always going to be you. And isn't that an amazing epiphany to have? Because the second you realize you don't need to be rescued, that is the second you stop waiting to be rescued.

42:03The moment you recognize the truth that no one is going to just spoon feed you motivation, nobody's gonna hand you self-respect or do the healing for you, you realize you're free. You've freed yourself of this awful burden of waiting. And it sounds harsh until you realize what it actually gives you, control. Control over your life, over your decisions, over the actions you take, over the time that you're spending. The second you stop expecting other people to make you happy or pay for your life, you stop living disappointed and you start living on purpose. And living on purpose means you stop playing victim to your own life.

42:52Not because bad things haven't happened, not because it's easy to create the things that you want, but because you realize, oh my God, staying stuck is a choice.

43:03Mel Robbins:I may not be responsible for where I am right now, but I sure as hell am responsible for what happens next. That's the fastest way to change your life is take ownership of what happens next. So here's what I want you to do. What is one area where you've been waiting, waiting for permission, waiting for the right time, waiting for someone else to change, waiting for like you to feel ready, waiting for it to be less scary, waiting to not care about what people think? What is that thing that only you can make yourself do? because ironically, you're the person who's been stopping yourself from doing it.

43:45All the excuses, aren't you so sick of it? Aren't you sick of holding yourself back? Aren't you sick of being the one standing in your own way? You are so much more capable than you're giving yourself credit. It drives me crazy to see you holding yourself back like that. So today, I can't make you do it. I can only remind you that you're the one person who can. One small step proves you're not waiting. You're in charge. One email, one boundary, one no, one yes, one walk, one honest conversation. See, nobody owes you anything, but you owe yourself everything. That's the moment that your power comes back.

44:38When you stop waiting for everybody else to make your life better or to pay for it, when you stop resenting people for not being what you want or doing what you want, you'll start owning your life.

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48:09Mel Robbins:Welcome back. It's your friend Mel Robbins. Today, I am sharing eight simple reminders. Oh my gosh, I say these on repeat. I know you're loving them. And that brings me to reminder number six, which you are going to love. You can't change what happened, but you can change what happens next. This is so important. You know, I hate that saying everything happens for a reason. I don't think that's true because I believe there are terrible things that happen to you in life that you don't deserve. Life is very unfair. It is cruel. The saying that I prefer is everything doesn't happen for a reason. You find a reason to move forward despite what happened.

48:56And how do you move forward? You look for the lessons. You look for the things that this experience taught you. You tap into this strength, like there's strength that you develop in life

49:10Mel Robbins:from proactively building skills and pushing yourself and showing up. And then there's the strength that you build because life knocks you down and it's the getting back up and the pushing yourself forward that builds strength inside you. One of the things that I love about life is that at any moment, you can decide that you don't wanna spend the rest of your life as this version of you. I want you to just stop and really consider that. You don't have to spend the rest of your life as this version of you. If there are parts of you that you don't like, you don't like your job, you don't like the relationship you're in, you don't like you.

49:54Like that was me in my 30s and 40s. I did not like myself. I was a very jealous person. I was very insecure. I was petty. I was the kind of friend you didn't want because we were good friends if I was doing better than you. But if you're doing better than me, then I'm not such a great friend because I'm so insecure about me. And no one was gonna change me. I had to make a decision that I didn't wanna spend the rest of my life as that version of me. And so if you've ever said to yourself, like I've said to myself, this is not how I wanna live for the rest of my life, and you meant it, I'm proud of you.

50:28It takes a lot of clarity. That takes a lot of courage because you can't change who you've been in the past. You can't change the things that have happened, but you absolutely can and you should change what happens next. And next, it doesn't have to be some huge dramatic reinvention. It means the next sentence you say. Next could mean, I'm going to pause and I'm going to start asking myself if this is worth my energy. It might mean the next choice you make, the next boundary you set, the next time you pick up your phone or you put on your sneakers and go for a walk. You get to decide what the narrative is going to be.

51:17Mel Robbins:And if you want to rewrite it, you are not stuck as this version of yourself. You're not stuck in this job. You're not stuck in this relationship. You're not stuck in this apartment. You're not stuck in this financial situation. You are not stuck with this mindset. Absolutely everything about your life can be changed by making a decision to change it, by defining what it is exactly that you want to change. And then you put your head down and you pour your time and energy every single day into doing what needs to get done until you become that change. So if you take nothing else from this reminder, take this, you can always change what happens next.

52:05Next requires you to get serious about what you want and who you want to be and to start protecting your focus on that. And it requires you to stop handing your power away. Let's take it back and let's change the future. And that brings me to number seven,

52:24Mel Robbins:one of my all-time favorites. And boy, do we need it right now. Maturing is realizing other people's bullshit is not about you. Let them. See, one of the things that people really get wrong about the let them theory is they misinterpret let them as somehow allowing something. Let them isn't allowing disrespect or bullshit. Let them is the opposite. When you say let them, you're drawing a boundary. You are saying out loud, I recognize what you're doing and I also recognize I can't control you and you're not worth my time and energy. So when I say let them, I force myself to recognize you're gonna do you, I can't change you and trying to change you is a complete waste of my time so I am going to recognize that.

53:12Mel Robbins:Then I'm gonna take my power back and say, let me. Let me protect myself from this bullshit that I now recognize when I say let them and let me decide how much time and energy I give to people who consistently bring bullshit in my life. And there are gonna be times in your life where you choose to spend time and energy with people like that because maybe you value family. But here's the thing, because you can say, let them, you see it coming. Because you know what you're walking into instead of diluting and gaslighting yourself and thinking that people are suddenly gonna change, they're not changing.

53:47Mel Robbins:Let them be who they are. Force yourself to recognize it. That's how you stay in power, by seeing the world clearly. And if there's one thing that you will never be able to control, it's other people. What they say, what they do, how they act, their childhood trauma, whether or not they're emotionally immature, let them, let them, let them. It's not about you. And you can't control any of it. Let them sit in their frustration, in their wounds, in their immaturity, their stress, their need for control. Let people say what they're going to say. Let them do what they're going to do. Let them be disappointed.

54:22Mel Robbins:Let them misunderstand you. Let them gossip about you. Let them judge you. Let them choose the hard way. Let them, let them, let them. Because you don't have power over other people. So why would you spend an ounce of energy defending yourself to people who are intent on misunderstanding you? Don't fall into the trap. The best way to prove who you are is to put your head down and live your life according to your values and your actions. Your actions are what speak volumes. That's the let me part. You do not need to convince people who are committed to misunderstanding you of anything. Let me protect my peace because you do not need to spend your one life in a state of tension over people who are creating wars with you.

55:13Let me choose what I participate in. because not every conversation deserves access to you or a response for you or even an explanation from you. And let me set the boundary and hold it, not set it and apologize for it. And then fold the minute somebody gets mad because here's the thing, your boundaries aren't for other people. This is a big one to understand. Your boundaries that you set, the no's, the time limits, the I can't make it there, those boundaries are not for other people. Those boundaries are reminders to you of what you will do and what you won't do. And when people get upset, I'm gonna say this again to you.

55:56When people get upset, when you say, I will not have this conversation when you raise your voice with me. When they get upset when you say that, it's a sign that the boundary's working. That's right. Because you're drawing it and they're not used to it. let them. And let me walk out of this conversation. Let me take my energy back from the group chat,

56:18Mel Robbins:from the drama, from the guilt, from the overthinking. Let me focus on what I can't control. And there's so much you can control. You can control your attitude, your effort, your choices, your time, your energy. We've talked a lot about that today, how to protect your energy. Hit the pause. Is this worth my energy? Let me ask myself that. Nope. Then it's a no. Let me be the kind of person that I respect, even when it disappoints someone else. Because here's the truth underneath all of this. Let them is what you say to stop yourself from constantly trying to manage other people and their reactions and mood and their opinions and expectations.

57:02Let me is how you take responsibility and you begin leading yourself. And that brings me to the final fantastic reminder. I love this one. And this is something that I shared in an episode on the podcast that we did earlier this year. And you loved this so much when I posted it online that I want to share this one again. Repeat after me. Today, today is going to be a good day because I'm going to make something good happen. I'm gonna bring a good attitude. I'm gonna have good energy. I'm gonna have good boundaries. So I am not going to let the stupid stuff drain me. Today is gonna be a good day.

57:45I am convinced that waking up every day and just forcing yourself to say this, this reminder, today's gonna be a good day. Today, I'm gonna have a good attitude. It puts you ahead of 99 % of people on the planet right now. it's true.

58:03Mel Robbins:Do you know how many people wake up and they spend the whole day in a bad mood for no particular reason? There are going to be days where you have terrible things happening and you should be in a bad mood because it's mentally healthy to be in a bad mood or to be down or sad or grieving because of what's happening. But on the majority of days that you wake up, When you say to yourself as a decision, today is gonna be a good day. I am gonna bring a good attitude. I'm gonna make one good thing happening. This is you deciding I'm in charge. And notice, I'm not saying my day is gonna be perfect. No day is perfect.

58:43You're saying I'm gonna have a good attitude. You're saying I'm deciding that I'm gonna make today good and I'm gonna spend the rest of the day figuring out how. Here's your assignment. Make one good thing happen today. Text someone you love. Go outside for five minutes.

59:04Mel Robbins:Clean the kitchen counter. Say no to something draining. Ooh, here's another good thing you could do. Say yes to something that matters. Do one thing you're avoiding because a good day isn't something that you stumble into by accident. A good day is something you create. You know, I love this saying from MIT's Dr. Joseph Coughlin. Your life is made up of Tuesdays. You know, it's so easy to get so obsessed with the big picture, you know, the big moments, the vacations, all the promotion, someday when everything comes together, calmed down or my dreams come true or I move or I fall in love. No, no, no, that's not your life.

59:49your life. You want to know what your life is? Your life is an average Tuesday. That's it. When you wake up, what you eat, who you hang out with, that's your life right now. Your life is what you make of it when you're tired and the piles of laundry are staring at you and your inbox is chaos and you've, you know, somebody's in a weird mood and you're thinking, oh God, when is this going to end? How am I going to get through today? An average Tuesday, that's your life. Most of life is ordinary. Most of life is you waking up, showing up, handling your stuff, loving your people, trying again. So when you say today, today's going to be a good day because I'm going to make something good happen.

1:00:41You're not creating a magical day. You're talking about an average Tuesday. You don't need to wait for perfect conditions to start living a better life. You just need one small moment. That's it.

1:00:56Mel Robbins:One good decision, one boundary, one text, one walk. You could literally, I did this yesterday. You want to know why I had a great day yesterday? It was the kind of day where the sky was a bluebird sky and the clouds were the kind of like puffy, like super puffy clouds and they were kind of white, but then they had like gray. and then there was a little pink underneath. They were like, I always call them like painterly clouds. And we had been in the car for like five hours in traffic, but I looked up at the sky and the good thing, oh my God, what a beautiful day. That's it. That was the one good thing that happened to me yesterday on an average Tuesday.

1:01:35And you wanna know what? It made it a good day, made it a good day. That's how you build a good life. You do one small good thing at a time. It's not in the giant reinventions. It's in the tiny choices, the kind of choices you make on a Tuesday. So here's what I want you to do right after you finish listening to this. Just pick one reminder from today, the one that really was like, ooh, I needed that one today. Yeah, that one, that one right there. And I want you to write it down or put it in your notes app. These reminders, they're not just words. They can become anchors, reminders that bring you back to yourself when the world makes you start spinning.

1:02:23And if you're anything like me, you already know all this. But, you know, I don't really need new information. I kind of just need reminders because it's easy to forget when you get busy. So give yourself grace. Be gentle with yourself. you and I were just human. And like everyone else, you're doing this thing called life for the first time and you're gonna be okay. Use these reminders.

1:02:50Mel Robbins:Say them out loud. And I know, and I can feel you already thinking, Mel, remind me what they are again. You got it. Here they are. 20 years from now, you'd give anything to be this exact age, this healthy, and back in this exact moment. So take a second and enjoy this moment right now. You want to know what's great about that one? That's how you make an average Tuesday good. You allow yourself to enjoy it. Reminder number two, underrated life skill. Pausing to decide if it's worth your energy. And I think we learned today, most of the stuff that's draining you is not worth your or my energy. me.

1:03:39Mel Robbins:Third one, learning how to take nothing personally will change your life because most of what people do has nothing to do with you. Let their mood be theirs. Your life is yours. That's where you take your power back. Reminder number four, if you wait until you feel better to start living, you'll wait forever. Go live your life. If you feel sad, do it sad. If you feel anxious, do it anxious. If you feel uncertain, do it uncertain. Because healing, happiness, change, it doesn't always come before the experience. It's the experience that heals you, that makes you change and that makes you happier.

1:04:26So go do it. Reminder number five, you are responsible for your

1:04:31Mel Robbins:own happiness. You're responsible for the energy you bring and how you show up. You're responsible for waking up every day and doing the work to make progress on what matters. You're responsible for defining what matters to you. You're responsible for telling the truth even when it's hard. You're responsible for paying for your life. Nobody owes you anything, but you, you owe yourself everything. Reminder number six, you can't change what happened, but you can change what happens next. Reminder number seven, maturing is realizing other people's bullshit is not about you. Let them, because you, my friend, have more important things to do.

1:05:16And finally, reminder number eight. Today is going to be a good day because I'm going to make something good happen. I'm bringing a good attitude. I'm going to have good energy.

1:05:29Mel Robbins:I'm going to have good boundaries. So I am not going to let stupid stuff drain me. I want you to grab the reminder that really hits today. For me, I think it's reminder number one. And I would love to know which one of these hit you. I want you to write it down, say it out loud, share it with someone you love. And here's what I also love about this conversation today. You can come back to this episode. Anytime you need to stop spinning, to hear these reminders, get your head and your heart back on in the right place so you can start moving forward again. I'm so excited that you listen to this.

1:06:09I'm so excited to see you get your power back and to see you moving through this moment and also being present for it, because that's a really good thing. And in case no one else tells you this today, as your friend, I wanted to be sure that I did. I love you and I believe in you and I believe in your ability to create a better life. And sometimes it's just the simple reminders of the things that you already know that help you do that. Alrighty. I will see you in the very next episode. I'm going to be waiting for you the moment you hit play.

1:06:50Okay.

1:06:52Mel Robbins:Suck down these greens. Here we go, everybody. Now, do those taste good? No. Ew. That did not.

1:07:02Mel Robbins:And at some point, you might see my daughter sneaking up the stairs to hand me a coffee, which I would gladly accept. Can you believe we used to do two of these a day? Uh-oh, here comes the printer. The number one word is printer. Nope, that's not what's happening.

1:07:20Mel Robbins:Okay, we'll let it color calibrate for a minute. It's exhausted, everybody. Let's give the printer some grace. The printer's exhausted, too. She's done color calibrating. Okay, here we go. I'll start at the top again. Let's eat lunch. Let's go.

1:07:35Mel Robbins:Oh, and one more thing. And no, this is not a blooper. This is the legal language. You know, what the lawyers write and what I need to read to you. This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. I'm just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist. And this podcast is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I'll see you in the next episode.

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