How to Change Your Life in a Year

0:07Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor podcast. I'm your host, Rob Dial. If you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so you never miss another episode. I put out episodes four times a week to help you learn and grow and improve yourself. So if that's something that you wanna do, hit that subscribe button so you never miss another episode. Today, I'm gonna be talking to you about how to change your life in a year. And let's get real, change your life in a year, it sounds like some Pinterest-worthy slogan that's like slapped on the back of a picture with a sunset, right? But under the right conditions, with the right mindset, with the right strategy, a year is plenty of time to radically shift the trajectory of your life.

0:47And so the point of this is to be intentional and to understand that every action that you take that's in the right direction compounds over and over and over again with each one of them that you do. And so this is a system that's for rewiring a lot of you, rewiring your mindset, your behavior, and also your identity of who you think you are from the inside out. And so we have five different steps that we're going to go through of how to actually change your life in a year. Okay. Number one is to accept total ownership of your life. You've heard me say this on the podcast before, if you've been listening for a while, but before anything shifts externally, you personally have to shift internally.

1:28And what that starts with is you taking radical responsibility in your life. What I mean by this is no more blaming, no more excuses, no more waiting for the perfect time, no more outsourcing your results, none of that. If you're going to really step up, you have to be the CEO of your life, which means that if your life crashes, it's on you. If your life is amazing, it's also on you. And so you have to have this sense of radical responsibility. I think that one of the things that's kind of a tragedy for growing up in the West is that we kind of just go from living with our parents to kind of going to college to kind of getting a job and stuff.

2:13But there's never any real big moment of you are now a man, you are now a woman. That is a full break psychologically, not just like I moved out of my parents' house, but like a psychological breakup. I'm now a man or I'm now a woman. You know, years ago in tribes, they used to have rites of passage. where there was this really hard thing that you had to do. And that was a symbolism for you now becoming a man or a woman. And we don't have that anymore. And so a lot of people are 45 years old and they're still like, well, you know, I'm waiting for my life to change as if someone's going to come and change their life for them because they're kind of unconsciously still like waiting for mommy and daddy to come and save them.

2:52And so you can't say anymore, like, I don't have enough time. Or I'm too young to do it. Or I'm too old. or it's the government's fault or the economy's not in the right place or you don't understand how my parents treated me when I was a kid or, you know, I have children so I don't have enough time. What it means is you cannot blame anything externally outside of you. Total ownership is what I want you to brainwash into yourself. If you don't fully adopt the mindset of total ownership, nothing else that I say today is going to matter at all. And so without it, you're kind of just like stuck in the waiting room of life.

3:35Just like hoping someone's going to come in and call your name and go, hey, you, I'm going to save your life. I'm going to make it amazing. And so I want you to try this. I want you to set a rule. You're not allowed to complain ever again unless you're actively doing something about it. If you're like working towards something, you could complain about it. But if you're just sitting on the couch, you can't complain about anything anymore. No more excuses, no more complaining, total ownership of your own life. That's the first thing that you need to really burn into your brain if you're going to change your life in a year.

4:10The second thing is to clarify in extremely vivid detail the real vision. So clarify the real vision. Most people try to change their life without really knowing what they're actually building towards. And so it's really weird because it's like getting into your car and going, well, I want to drive to the next town over. And then you just start going on random streets and hoping you're going to end up in the next town, not realizing the next town could be east and you're driving west. If you get into your car and you say, I want to go to the next town over, you can simply take out your phone now, go to Google Maps, type in the next town over, and it's going to take you there directly.

4:49So when you know exactly where you're going, it makes it easier to get there. But so many people are just kind of like, like the analogy I always give, it's kind of like most people just like get in a sailboat and they just lay down and they just let the tides and the winds take them this way and then this way. And they're like, I hope my life is going to be what I want it to be. But really, they're just going with the winds and the tides. When in reality, you can step to the steering wheel and go, no, I'm going to drive myself to where I want to go. I need to know exactly where I need to go. And so what happens when you don't have a real destination?

5:23You can work really hard, but it doesn't feel like you're going anywhere. You're kind of like spinning in circles. And so you're kind of like hustling for a goal that you've never fully defined. And hard work is really, it's definitely necessary in life to get what you want. But it's not the only thing. Like I can work really hard at digging a hole in my backyard. But at the end of the day, I only have a hole in my backyard. So it's like, what am I doing in this hard work? Where am I going? So instead of sitting there and not being clearly defined on what it is that you want, I want you to sit down and do some breath work and close your eyes and think to yourself, one year from today, picture yourself.

6:02If you had 365 perfect days in a row, where are you? How do you feel? What do your days look like? How do you speak to yourself? Who do you surround yourself with? What time do you wake up? What time do you go to bed? What's your life look like? If you can wave a magic wand and you have the best 365 days in a row, the most productive 365 days in a row, where could you be 365 days from today? And you write it down. You don't just think about it. You do think about it first off and you visualize it. And then you write it down in extreme detail as much as you possibly can. And get very specific. Like, I want to be happier is not a goal.

6:42It's not. It's a trash goal if we're being honest. If you say, I want to wake up excited and work 30 hours a week doing creative work and feel confident in my own skin and have an extra$10 ,000 in my bank account. All of that is much more detailed than I just want to be happier. And so I want to make more money. That's not clear. That's not a good goal. I want to make$50 ,000 more this year. That's a goal. And you have to get very, very clear because you cannot hit a target that you cannot see. Like one of the things that I first realized when I was first in coaching people in sales is sales reps would come in and I say, hey, how much do you want to sell this week?

7:24And they would always say as much as I can. And I'm like, that's not a goal. That doesn't make any sense. Like you can't hit the target because you have no target to go from. Like give me a number. Get clear on what it is. Write it down. Speak it into existence. Revisit that goal every single morning. So it's top of mind. It's omnipresent. and it's always in front of you because you're reprogramming your identity, not just making a to-do list. You're thinking to yourself, this needs to be everywhere. I need to see it every morning when I wake up. I need to have it on the back of my phone or my screensaver, my wallpaper on my phone so that I see it 100 times a day.

8:02And I'm going to have sticky notes and I'm going to put it on my mirrors. It needs to be omnipresent. So you're just constantly reminding yourself of these goals and constantly reminding yourself what you're working towards. And the more clear you are, the more likely you are to get it. So that's number two, and we will be right back. And now back to the show. Then number three is once you get very clear on the life that you want, you reverse engineer what it's going to take to get there. So once that vision's locked in, you start working backwards. If the future you is a confident speaker and you're, you know, maybe a great speaker 365 days from today, how do we work backwards?

8:41Well, I'm going to start Toastmasters. I'm going to go on YouTube and I'm going to look up videos of how to become a better speaker. I'm going to start doing Instagram lives in order to become better at public speaking and kind of start off slowly where I'm not in front of people, but I'm kind of in front of people. They're not physically in front of me, but they're kind of on the internet in front of me. And I'm going to practice at home every day with no one around. And I'm going to buy a course on how to become a better public speaker. Cool. Well, now we're starting to work backwards and from working backwards, we start working forwards to the goal that we want.

9:14And we come up with a plan. You know, if you say, I want to be financially independent. Cool. Well, what does that mean? Well, I start learning how to save my money and I get good at saving my money. And I listen to podcasts and YouTube videos around saving money. And then I want to learn after I start saving money, how to invest that money. You have to learn how to make money and then you have to learn how to save money. And then you have to learn how to invest your money. I want to cut out all the pointless expenses. I want to put a budget together. I want to build a side hustle now so I can start making more money.

9:45Okay, cool. Well, that's a lot more clear. You know, maybe say I want to live with more peace, just more relaxation in my life because it's just I'm so stressed out in my own head. Okay, so then what do you need to do to get there? So I'm going to start scheduling some boundaries. I'm going to go to therapy once a week. I'm going to spend more time in nature. I'm going to make meditation a real practice that I'm actually going to do. Not like, hey, it'd be nice to, and I do it twice in a week, and I forget about for a month. But I'm going to meditate every morning for 15 minutes, and I'm going to prioritize my peace.

10:17What I'm trying to say to you is everything is figureoutable. So you've got to ask yourself, what would my future me do today? This me that's in 365 days from today that I saw and that I wrote down on a piece of paper, what would they do if they were in my situation? What habits and thoughts and boundaries and priorities would they have set? What non-negotiables would they have set? And you plan it out and you actually put it on paper like it's a business plan. Like imagine if someone tried to create a business plan just in their own head. That'd be insane. You got to put it on a piece of paper so you know what you're shooting for and everybody else knows what they're shooting for.

10:52So you figure out the goal. You work backwards and you make a plan from there. So that's number three. Number four, become the scientist. In your life, you don't need to have it all figured out. Most people think that they need to have like the perfect plan before they start taking action. It's completely impossible. There will never be a plan to create the life that you want to that is 100 % perfect. What you need to do is you need to experiment. You in your life, you are the scientist and you're also the experiment. And so it's not about being perfect or perfection or having the perfect plan or planning it and then planning it and planning it and planning it for you planners.

11:30What it's about is about going, okay, this is something I'm going to try. and I'm just going to experiment. And you just experiment everything that you possibly can. And you treat the next year like you're in the lab and you're going to try things and you're going to fail and you're going to fail forward. And you're going to have some results and you're going to see what works. You're going to see what doesn't work. And you make adjustments as you go. But you are the scientist and you're also the experiment at the same time. You don't need a perfect map. You don't need a compass with you. You just need to try new things.

12:02As I was writing this episode, I was like, what are some examples of like a one-year experiment? Like maybe you launch a side hustle and you go for it on the weekends. Like, you know what? I want to start a candle business and start selling my candles. Cool. Okay. Well then maybe start formulating what types of candles and smells that you want. And you start putting it together and you find YouTube videos about how to make better candles and healthier candles. And you start using beeswax and you get everything that you need. And on the weekends, you're like, I'm going to make, try to make the best candles I possibly can.

12:31And then you start getting better at making candles and your friends come over like, damn, these candles are really good. Okay. Now what I'm going to do, I'm going to start to go to farmer's markets on the weekends. And then you decide that you want to do that. So you have a side hustle that you start. Um, maybe another way that you experiment is like go alcohol free for 60 days and just track how you feel. How does your skin look? What about your energy, your mood? Maybe you, um, you say, like I said earlier, you're going to go to therapy once a week for the next 52 weeks and just try to try to heal the core wounds that you know are there that are holding you back.

13:06Maybe it's trying 12 different hobbies. Like you pick one new hobby that you've never done before that seems interesting to you and just see if you can find something that you're passionate about. Maybe you try fasting and you fast 24 hours for one day out of the entire month. And then Monday through Friday, you fast until 2 p.m. just to see how you feel. Just try new things. Like stop doing the same shit every single day. Like try things. You're supposed to have experiences in this life. And you don't have to stay the same every single day. In order to create a life that you've never had, you're going to have to do things you've never done before.

13:42And so just try some new things. Be the scientist. So that's number four. And number five, just please do this. Just burn the backup plan. There is no backup plan, right? I'm going to quote the great philosopher Marshall Mathers, success is my only mother f***ing option, failure is not. So you've got to go as if that's your mindset. I'm going to commit. Not like, let's see what happens. No dipping my toes in the water. I'm going to burn the backup plan. There is no reason to have a plan B because plan B distracts from plan A. I'm putting all my eggs in one basket. Most people that say don't have your eggs all in one basket, don't have the life that they want.

14:25And so this next year is the year for you. You don't need to act like, hey, I'll just try it out. You need to act like the bridge behind you is on fire and you've got to run across the bridge into your new life. Because the only thing that is worse than the pain of hard work is the pain of regret. And the last thing that you want is to be like, man, you know what? Like I had that idea a couple of years ago of like really trying to change my life for a year. And I didn't. and I'm stuck in the exact same place. And so you have to go at it the same way that there's the old parable of, you know, the ships came over from Spain and they landed in the United States before it was the United States.

15:04So they landed on this patch of land and he could tell, the commander could tell that all of his guys in the ships were just a little bit hesitant. They wanted to go back home. They didn't seem fully committed. And so as soon as they landed on shore, they all had wooden ships. He said, all right, everybody burn the ships. And that's what they did. They burned the ships. There could be no going back at that point in time. That's how you mentally have to think about your life and what it is that you're trying to create. And so I want you to understand as you do this throughout the course of the year, like you don't need to be perfect.

15:35You don't need to wait until the planets align. You don't need to wait until you're fearless because that's never going to happen. You just need to create a strong vision that excites you, that is enough to pull you through the fear and this willingness to take one step after another. Not to have all 100 steps figure out, but just like one step. What's the next step that I need to do to change my life today? And so what I want you to do is I want you to pick one of the things from the list that we went over and I want you to do it today. Not Monday, not next week, not when, you know, like Mercury's out of retrograde.

16:10Today. Take action towards it. You've got one year. Do it now. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please do me a massive favor. Share it on your Instagram stories. Tag me in at RobDialJr, R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R. The only way this podcast goes is from you guys sharing it. So if you would share it, I would greatly, greatly appreciate it from the bottom of my heart. And with that, I'm gonna leave it the same way I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission to make somebody else's day better. I appreciate you. And I hope that you have an amazing day.