If You Have a Hard Life, Listen To This

0:07Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor podcast. I'm your host, Rob Dial. If you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so you never miss another podcast episode. And if you're out there and you love this podcast, please do me a favor. Give us a rating and review. However you listen to us, more positive ratings and reviews that we get. The more those platforms actually present this podcast, people have never listened to it before, which allows us to grow and impact more people's lives. So if you do that, I would greatly, greatly appreciate it. Today, we're going to be talking about something real sexy.

0:34We're going to talk about how hard life is. We're going to talk about how hard life can be. And I talk about this usually every couple of years because I feel like it's so important for people to really grasp and really understand. Life in some sort of way is about sacrifice. There are sacrifices in life. There are things that you do sacrifice that you don't sacrifice. And whether you decide to sacrifice or whether you do not decide to sacrifice, either way, believe it or not, you're going to be sacrificing something. So even when you decide in the moment not to sacrifice something, you in the long run will be sacrificing something later on down the road.

1:15You might be like, what the hell are you talking about? Let me give you a couple of examples, okay? Let's say that you want to build a brand new business. You've decided, you know what? Screw it. I'm going to build a business, the business of my dreams. I'm going to put the work in. I'm going to achieve what I've always wanted to achieve. In order to build a business, you must sacrifice something. And you're probably going to have to sacrifice a lot of things at different points in time. You're probably going to have to sacrifice some time. You might have to sacrifice some time when you normally would spend time with hobbies, with people that you love.

1:49So you're going to have to sacrifice some time at some point in time in order to build this. To think that you're going to build a successful business and nothing in your life is going to change is crazy. You know that it is. You might have to sacrifice your time. At some point in time, you're going to have to sacrifice it. You might have to sacrifice your current job. Some of you guys are like, well, that sounds great. I actually want to sacrifice my current job. You might have to sacrifice some sleep at some point in time. You might have to sacrifice partying with your friends. Super Bowl weekend, you might think, oh my gosh, I really want to do this.

2:23Go out and party, have fun with my friends. But you might think, you know what? it's actually more important that I wake up tomorrow, Monday, and have a really great day because my business needs it. So you might have to sacrifice that. I remember one time my business, I had won a trip. I was with a company and I had won a trip to Jamaica and I was all good to go. And then the next couple of months, our sales were not where they needed to be. And I could have left for my one week free trip to Jamaica and been like, I'm gone. Peace. See you guys later. I could have done it. But there's a part of me that's like, I can't do it.

2:56I'm not happy with the state of my business. I'm going to have to skip the trip. I had tons of my friends from the company that were going, all of that. I skipped the trip. I sacrificed the trip to Jamaica. I still to this day, I've been all over the world. I've never been to Jamaica. Still haven't been there yet. So I had to sacrifice that week for free with my friends from the company in Jamaica because I wanted to make sure the state of my business is going to grow. You might have to sacrifice to start your business, that toxic relationship, right? That relationship might not make it. So a new business is going to require some sort of sacrifice right now, right?

3:34But if you decide not to start that business, there will be sacrifice later. There will be. There will be a little bit of mental health where you're like, man, you know what, I could have done it. You go to that job that you don't enjoy and it's not filling you up and you're like, I could have. I had that idea five years ago to start that business. Where would that business be now if I would have just started it? And you have that in the back of your head all of the time. What if that business would have been a massive success? Well, you have to sacrifice your bank account because your bank account is not where it could have been had you decided to sacrifice earlier on in life.

4:12You might have relationships that sacrifice. So it's like you're, you know, if you would have made a bunch of money in that successful business, you might be able to take your children all over the world, but you didn't do it. You might be able to provide a different life for your family, but you didn't do it. So there is sacrifice later on down the road because you didn't sacrifice. You also have to sacrifice your potential. Think about that one for a second. You sacrifice your potential long-term because you decided not to sacrifice in the moment. And it all comes down to life being hard. Life is either hard now and easy later or easy now and hard later.

4:53There is nothing that's in between. It's either easy now and hard later or hard now and easy later. The beautiful thing about life though is you get to choose Choose which hard you get. You get to choose your sacrifice. So your business, there is a current sacrifice. Yes, but there's also some things that could come from it. Financial success could come down the road later on down the road. If you sacrifice now, if you have current sacrifice, you might have massive financial success. You might have financial freedom to not have to work later on down the road. Imagine if you could build a business, be able to remove yourself, and then not have to work again.

5:32Well, that would be financial freedom. That would also be time freedom. Freedom to do what you want, when you want, with who you want. You might also be able to get a lot of things down the road. You might be able to travel to every country that you want to. Maybe you want to start a successful business, put a lot of time into it, grow it, remove yourself, allow it to still keep running, and you just want to travel the world with almost like unlimited funds, right? Also, you might be able to sacrifice now and build an amazing life for your family. You might be able to give your children a better education.

6:03You might be able to get them into a better part of town. You might be able to give them all of the dance classes or the athletic classes or the coaches or whatever it is that they want and they need to be able to better themselves later on. Or if you don't start, you're stuck with your salary. You don't have freedom to travel. You have to go to work every single day and not feel fulfilled. Maybe never be able to retire. maybe die with regret. So there's always a sacrifice but the beautiful thing is that you get to choose what your sacrifice is and now you're aware of it. You can't get to the end of your life and pretend that you didn't know this now.

6:43I just let the cat out of the bag. Secrets out. There's sacrifice. It's going to happen. It's either hard now and easy later. Easy now, hard later. You get to choose which one you want though. You know if you want to get into shape you're going to have to sacrifice. You're going to have to sacrifice the food that might taste really good, but might be really terrible for you. You're going to have to sacrifice watching Netflix when you should pass, you know, shift your entire schedule a little bit later so that you can wake up and work out in the morning. You might sacrifice hanging out on the couch.

7:15You might sacrifice naps. Oh no, the naps are going to be gone. You might have to sacrifice time with friends. You might have to sacrifice alcohol. You might have to sacrifice tasty but shitty food. You might have to sacrifice comfort and put yourself through some temporary pain in order for you to be able to build the body that you want. You might have to sacrifice the time, the energy, the money that it takes to go to the gym day after day after day after day. because you don't see results right away. It might take a few months. It might take a year. It might take multiple years. When you see someone who has an incredible body, that takes four, five, six, seven years sometimes to build.

7:55You might have to sacrifice the comfort and go and get hurt, destroy your muscles, be sore for days and days and days, not be able to put your arms all the way down because you worked out your biceps so hard. So that's your sacrifice now. It's either hard now and easy later or easy now and hard later. But if you do all of that and you do make yourself get more in shape and you do work on that, you set yourself up really well later on down the road, right? Better mobility, better health, longer life, being able to play with your grandchildren when you're 70, 80, 90 years old. And we will be right back.

8:36And now back to the show. So it's hard now, but it will help you make life easier later on down the road. See that? Let's say you don't get in shape. There's still sacrifice. There's sacrifice later on down the road if you do not get in shape. Sacrifice now, sacrifice later. What's the sacrifice later on in life? Maybe you have a shorter life. Maybe you're less mobile. Maybe you can't do all of the things that you want to because you're not able to anymore. Your joints are too used to sitting down and not being in shape, right? Can't walk around all of the time. Maybe you have to get a walker.

9:13Maybe you have to get a wheelchair. You're tired. You don't have as much energy because you didn't work on your energy throughout that time. Maybe some sort of disease creeps in. Both of them are hard. Both of them require sacrifice, but you get to choose which hard and which sacrifice you want, right? If you work hard, you can provide for your family. If you work hard and you work on your body, you can live longer for your family. and so you realize you know the harder if you decide you know what I'm going to work really hard maybe you don't have your own business I gave the example of a business maybe you don't have your own business that's fine but you go I'm going to work really hard in my business so that I can make sure I get promoted I can make sure that my employer knows that I'm serious and that I want to be promoted if you're in sales you could just hit quota if you want to you could just get by check the boxes and be average or you can go you know what I'm going to be great at my job I'm going to prove to my employer how great I am and that I am somebody who deserves a promotion.

10:15I'm somebody who deserves more money. And you work hard now and that will set you up for more money down the road, more freedom down the road, everything. And that will then affect your family's life as well. What else is hard? Relationships are hard, right? Oh, yeah, they're definitely hard. You have to put in work to have a really good relationship. relationship. It's a lot easier to not have tough conversations in a relationship. It's so much easier to not have tough conversations. So you're making it easier now. But if you don't have the tough conversations now, don't you think that it's going to be way tougher later on down the road when things blow up?

10:56So you can decide, you know what? All right, I'm going to make it hard now. I'm going to have the tough conversation. We're going to sit down. We're going to plan a relationship. We're going to plan what we want to be. It's going to require work. It's going to require effort. It's going to require both of us coming together, but we have to decide that we're going to be a team together. That's hard now. It's hard to just decide that you're going to do it. It's hard to have those tough conversations and not let it build up. But think about how much better your life is going to be when you have the hard conversation now.

11:25And instead of just going, yeah, I'm just going to scoot around and act like that thing didn't happen in the relationship. Think about that for a second. Think about how different your life would be if you always chose the hard route. If you decided, you know what? I'm not going to take the elevator anymore. I'm going to take the stairs. That's not very easy. It's not going to be easy now, but it's going to be pretty hard now. But do you think it might allow you better mobility, better movement, better training, better heart rate, all of that stuff? If you decide to take the hard route and go up the stairs, sure.

12:01Now, think about that though. If we take that idea and that analogy, how many places in your life are you trying to take the elevator when you should be taking the stairs? How many places in your life have you been taking the elevator when you should be taking the stairs? You know the stairs are there. You know you should go up them. You know that there's a massive benefit of you going up those stairs. But for some reason, you keep turning a blind eye and going, I'm just going to take the elevator. How different would your life be if you decided, you know what, I'm just going to finally buckle down and I'm going to do what I need to do because I know that I need to do it.

12:30if you decide to take the hard road, doesn't have to be every single time, but if you decide to take the hard road way more than you take the easy road, your life later on down the road will be so much easier. I don't know about you. I'm only getting older. I think that things are going to be a lot harder to do. Working hard, working out, all of those things are only going to get harder as I get older. So I might as well go, hey, maybe God gave me a body that works, a brain that works, some muscles that work. So I could go, you know what, I'm going to take the hard road in the beginning of my life because I know if I take the hard road in the beginning of my life, the end of my life will be so much easier.

13:10Think about how much easier your, think about how much easier, but also how much better your life will be if you decide to take the hard road. now if you broke through the laziness, if you decided to put in the work, when an opportunity arises, you took the path of least resistance, how much better would your life be? Now start to think about how much better your family's life would be, your children's life, your spouse's life, your mom, your dad, brother, sister. How much better would your family's life be if you decide to finally step up to the plate and take the hard route? Think about the people that you're closest to.

13:46Think about the community. How much better would everybody's life be that you touch in some sort of way if you decide to stop doing all of the easy stuff, if you decide to stop making excuses, if you decide to finally step up and do something with your life, how much better is your life going to be? Because when you step up, it's not just your life that improves, it's also everybody else's life around you that you touch as well. It's everyone around you. And at every single moment in your life. You have options. Do I take the easy route? Do I take the hard route? Do I take the easy route? Do I take the hard route?

14:18And just because you happen to be a lazy person, or you happen to be somebody who hasn't taken the hard route in a really long time, and it's not something that's built into you, you can learn to push yourself. You can learn to choose a hard route. You can learn to decide to do what you need to do, even when it is uncomfortable, because at every moment in your life, there will be some sort of sacrifice. When you're saying yes to something, you're saying no to something else. When you're saying yes to working out, you're saying no to the couch. When you're saying yes to the snacks, you're saying no to the body and the health that you want.

14:50When you're saying yes to the tough relationship conversation, you're saying no to the hard acting like nothing's the issue, acting like everything's all good to go. But you're also noticing that later on down the road, your life's going to be so much easier when you have that tough conversation, when you decide to work out, when you decide to get rid of the snacks, when you decide to build the business, when you decide to work harder, your life will be better later when you decide to take the hard route now. And just so you know, most people don't take the hard route. So if you decide to do this over and over and over again, you will set yourself apart from everybody else around you.

15:26There will be no competition because they will not be able to keep up with you. So when you are presented with the easy route or the hard route, if you really want to create the life that you want, I hope that you choose the hard route. So if you love this episode, please, please share it on your Instagram stories. Tag me in a Rob Dial Jr. R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R. And if you love this podcast, you want to learn more about coaching with me outside of this podcast, you can go to coachwithrob.com. Once again, coachwithrob.com. And with that, I'm going to leave you the same way. I leave you every single episode.

15:57Make it your mission. Make somebody else's day better. I appreciate you. And I hope that you have an amazing day.