Success is Simple: Do Less!

0:07Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor podcast. I'm your host Rob Dial. If you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so you never miss another podcast episode. And if you're out there and you love this podcast, you want to connect with me deeper, go ahead and text me right now, 512-580-9305. This is for people only in the US and Canada. It's 512-580-9305. And I will text you inspirational messages sporadically throughout the week. Today, we're going to be talking about how the key to getting more out of life is to do less. Now, mind you, now that I'm 38 years old, if I were to have 25-year-old Rob in this room, he'd be like, that doesn't make any sense.

0:48That guy's full of shit. And I want you to understand, up until about three years ago, I actually would have said the exact same thing, up until about three years ago. Now that I've worked on myself more, I've been working on myself now for 19 years I've been in self-development, I'm actually starting to understand that the key to life, to be more successful, is to do less. Let's be real. Life is hard. Sometimes it's really amazing. Sometimes it's torture. It's beautiful. It's fun. It sucks. It's a journey. It's all over the place. It's ups and downs and everything. But at some point, everyone who's listening wakes up and realizes that there's more for us.

1:30Now, there are some people who are in this world, many people in the world that don't realize that there's more for them. But at some point, you are listening to this podcast because at some point you woke up and you're like, I want more from my life. I'm going to start working on myself. I'm going to try to become better. I'm going to try to achieve more. I'm going to try to have more success, more happiness, more love, more joy, more money, less stress, less anxiety. And then once we decide that we want more, we have to, we start to find out that we need to evolve. We need to become a different person.

2:05Like we can't create a new life. If we're going to be the same person, we've got to be different. It's kind of like Einstein said, you can't can create a different life with the same consciousness that created a life that you have. And so it's about evolving. It's not about necessarily, like I used to say, become better because if you think, okay, I need to become better. Well, that automatically implies worse, which means that you are worse right now, which can already make people go into a tailspin and start to get into guilt and shame. But what we need to do is we need to evolve into the next version of ourself.

2:39We need to expand ourself into a different version of ourself. We need to just evolve in the same way that like a flower before it blooms isn't less than a flower after it blooms. It just blooms and it evolves over time. And we must evolve if we want more joy, if we want more money, if we want more peace, happiness, love, if we just want more out of life, we must evolve. But when you first start on this journey of self-development, it's exciting. I was very excited and lots of people are very excited. I can't wait to improve myself. I can't wait to evolve, to get more out of life. And then what happens is you realize that in order to evolve, to get more, you start to become very self-aware and you start to become very self-aware of all of the shit that you need to change, all of the shit that needs to go.

3:29And in turn, you're like, oh my God, I got to get rid of a lot of things. I got a lot of crap that's wrong with me. I got a lot of people in my life that need to change. I've got a lot, I've got to redo my entire life. And there's this Buddhist metaphor that says, you know, life is basically like this. You go into an old attic, you go up in the old attic, let's say, you know, grandparents pass away and you're looking through the house and you go up into the attic and you see this really, really old mirror and it's got dust. It's just covered in dust. Like you could tell it's a mirror, but you can't see yourself.

4:03And then you take your hand and you brush it across the mirror so that you can see yourself in the mirror. And all of this dust starts to come up and you start sneezing and coughing and you're inhaling this dust. And basically that's the idea of self development is that you find this mirror, this dirty mirror that is who you've become. And you start to take your hand and you move and all this dust comes in and makes you cough and sneeze and all of this stuff. The dust, all of the things that need to come off that mirror in order to see yourself is not you. You're not the dust. The things that you've now identified as quote unquote bad with you, that you need to change, there's nothing wrong with you.

4:42It's just in order to become your true self, to see your true self in the mirror, there's a lot of old unconscious programmings, unconscious conditionings that are in the way. And those are the things that we need to start to work through in order to become the best version of ourself, in order to see ourself, our truest version of ourself come to light. Because in fact, there is nothing wrong with you. That dust is not you. The journey that you are on, the journey that I am on, is perfect. It's perfect for us. Your life, I want you to understand, is a perfectly crafted curriculum for you and what you need to go through to learn on this human 3D planet, this human experience that you're in that you signed up for.

5:27I believe that our soul signed up for the human journey that we're currently on and so it signed up, mine signed up to be Rob Dial for some reason. You're signed up to be you for some reason. And so I believe that everything, because I believe that, this is just my belief, it doesn't have to be yours, that everything is perfectly designed for me. And your journey designed for you is far more intelligent than we can understand. And so it's about, all right, my life is a perfectly crafted curriculum, which means on, you know, whatever day, August 17th of my 39th year, I woke up and realized I need to change.

6:04And it was always supposed to be that way. Because naturally we think, oh my gosh, it's been 40 years and I just finally woke up. Well, that's how it was supposed to be. Because then we go, oh, well, I wish I would have learned these things when I was 20. Then I'd have an extra 20 years myself. Well, it wasn't supposed to be that way. When people always say like, I'm so far behind. No, there's no way that you'd be far behind, you could be behind because you're perfectly in the place that you're supposed to be. So where I see people go wrong and where I went wrong, and I did this for years, I'm talking like, please say 15 years of your life right now, is I looked at all of the things that I wanted to create in my life and what I wanted to be and all this stuff.

6:41And what I wanted to do is I started to add things on top of it. And I started to go, okay, well, I need new habits. I need to wake up every single day at 5 a.m. I need to do 53 things in my morning routine checklist. I need to buy every single self-help book I possibly can read the first 12 pages of it and then just decide to buy another one because that wasn't interesting to me and then I need to do this and you do this and this and this and I kept adding and adding and adding and it was my life became all of these things that I needed to do and all of that's great waking up early having a morning routine reading books all of those are great going to seminars getting a coach all of those are great but I want to tell you tell you something that took me a very very long time to understand, and I've been harping on this a lot recently, is the secret to self-development that took me over 15 years to realize is that the secret to self-development is about subtraction, not addition.

7:33And we will be right back. And now back to the show. So for the first over decade of me being in self-development, I was like, I need to do more, do more, add more, read more, learn more, more, more, more, more, more, more is about addition, addition, addition. And then I realized as I've gotten older, as I've hopefully, hopefully, hopefully have gotten wiser, I've read more books, I've gotten into more spiritual learnings and things that I've done. Oh my God, I've been adding a bunch of stuff, but really what I should have been doing all this time is just subtracting things. Self-development is about subtraction.

8:10I didn't know this for years. I had way more knowledge from everything I did, but I felt the same. And so what I realized is it's about removing things from our lives, just the same way that you remove the dust from the mirror, not about adding things to our lives. It's about pulling all of the weeds out of our lives. Like when you look at a computer and a computer gets a virus, you don't add a bunch of programs to it to try to help with the virus. What you do is you try to remove the virus. You try to identify the virus, find it, and remove the virus to get it back to normal working order. Well, when we come into this world, we are a perfect being who is just unconsciously programmed.

8:56Programmed is a very specific word here. Unconsciously programmed and conditioned. And this is what you're supposed to do. And this is who you're supposed to be. And that's how you're supposed to act. And all that can be good, but there is some viruses that are kind of installed there. We need to identify the viruses. We need to uninstall the programs that are holding you back. And so I'm going to say something that might be surprising to you, but what I have come to find is that it's very true. Success is not hard. For me, for a very long time, I thought success meant I had to struggle my way to success.

9:32And when I say success, I mean, whatever it means to you. For some of you guys, it might be like, become a millionaire, make money, run a successful business. For some of you, it's have a successful marriage. For some of you, it's be the best parents you could possibly be. Success in all of those things is very natural. It is a natural progression to get better and to get into, I said the word, to evolve, I guess is a better way of saying it, right? to evolve and to go on to the next version of ourselves. Evolving as a human and changing as a human is natural. To be human means to think something and to be able to create it in reality.

10:12We are all magicians. That is natural for us. I have an idea. I'm going to bring this into reality. Every single thing that you see in our reality that humans have created once started in the human mind, this microphone that I'm speaking into, this desk that I'm at, this camera that I'm looking at right now, everything was once an idea in a human mind. So it's natural for us to have an idea, for us to bring it to reality and to create. But if we're not creating at the level that we want to be, if we're not creating new things, becoming more evolved, creating that business, having better relationships, having a great marriage, all of that, it's usually because we have too many programs, shitty programs, viruses running.

10:57And what we need to do is we need to start identifying those programs and start removing them. Because I want you to understand this. There's something so incredibly powerful inside of you, and you're just keeping it covered up with all of these old programs. There's something incredibly powerful. And I know it doesn't necessarily feel powerful at first, because what ends up coming out is anger or frustration or sadness that you're not further along in life or anxiety of all of that. When you look at anger and stress and frustration and anxiety, all of those things, those are all the things that are just kind of in the way.

11:33Those are things that are blocking you from bringing the incredibly powerful version of you out. Those are the things that we need to start working on. Those are the things that we need to start removing. So your power is covered up with all of the programmings, all of the conditionings that you've been taught over your entire life. All of the dogmas, all of the beliefs. You know, you come from this family, you're supposed to act this way. You're this religion, you're supposed to act this way. You come from this part of town, you're supposed to act this way. You're part of this country, you're supposed to act this way.

12:03These are all these beliefs that are programmed into us. And a lot of times we don't even question our beliefs. We just go off of basic, oh yeah, this is the way it's always been. But if you can understand how powerful you actually are, it would blow your mind. But you have all of these programs running that are in the way. They're blocking you from your potential. So it's the example I've given, you know, I gave a few months ago on the podcast, like the river, right? I've always given this example of like this visual I have in my head is that we all have our own unique life path that we're supposed to be on.

12:36And it's like a river. And so most people are just kind of going through the forest and trying to find their life path. Some people eventually get to the point where they find this river and it's this nice, beautiful, flowing river and it's just calmly going by. That is your river. No one else can get in that river. And if you just jump in the river that's yours, you'll just go on your life path and you'll be able to just pick things up along the way because it is where you're supposed to be. But when we have these beliefs and we have these programmings and I'm supposed to do this and I need to do more and stress and anxiety, each one of those is like taking a boulder and throwing that boulder inside of the river.

13:14If there's enough boulders inside of the river, what happens? It becomes very turbulent. It becomes whitewater. It becomes stressful. The river that was once calm turns into whitewater rapids. And so what our job is to do is to start removing the boulders, to identify the things that are in our way, the people, the places, the things, the thought patterns, the beliefs that are in the way of us ultimately creating the life that we want. and instead of adding more things, it's about removing those things. So instead of going, I need to learn more, maybe it's like, maybe I start questioning why I have so much anxiety around building this business that I want.

13:51What's around this? And start pulling out these boulders that are in the way of you creating a life that you want. It's not about you doing more, it's about you doing less, way less than you've been doing, but doing what you actually want to do. And it should be, success can be effortless if you can find your river, if you can find your passion, find your purpose and follow this thing and get everything out of the way. It is possible to do less and get more. It doesn't seem to make sense. I get it. If I would have said this to myself 10 years ago, I'd be like, this doesn't make any sense, dude.

14:22It is possible to do less, but get more because you're doing the things that actually truly matter. Not the things that are in the way and things that are stressing you out. And so what you really need to do and what we all need to do is just kind of self-analyze. for, and I'm going to go through some things and I really want you to start to think about this, right? I want you to think about, you know, is this helping me grow into who I want to be or do I need to remove it? And so like, I want you to think about the thoughts that go on your head and start to ask yourself this thought, this belief about myself, is this helping me get to where I want to go?

14:55Or is this in my way? The people that I surround myself with go through each and every person. Are they helping me get to create the life that I want? Or are they getting in the way and holding me back? Hell, the people that you follow on social media, are they helping you create the life that you want or are they holding you back from getting in the life that you want? Don't think that you could just follow someone on social media. Don't think you could just watch something on TV and it doesn't influence you in some sort of way. All of those things influence you subconsciously in some sort of way.

15:24Think about the job that you work. Is it helping you get to where you want to go in life or is it holding you back? Think about where you live. Is it helping you in the way that you feel in the way that you want to feel and where you want to go in life or is it holding you back? Think about what you do to fill your downtime. Is it helping you get to where you want to go? Is it holding you back? Think about what you consume, the information that you consume, the TV that you watch, the Instagram, but also think about the foods that you consume. If you consume alcohol, if you consume drugs, think about everything that you consume is is it helping you get to where you want to go or the things that I need to remove?

15:57Think about the video games that you play. Think about the Netflix. Like think about all of these things that are part of your life and just ask yourself, is this helping me get to where I want to go in life or is it holding me back? And I want you to understand before a massive breakthrough in life, there's almost always a breakdown. And sometimes a lot of pieces of your life need to break down for you to clear out and start to actually create the life that you want. There's a lot of things that we kind of, it's kind of like if you've ever moved before, like we just moved not long ago, you move and you're like, we got so much shit everywhere.

16:28There's so many things. Why do I have so much things? And then we just donate a whole bunch. We've been donating things like crazy. I don't need all of this stuff. It's kind of how it is for us as well, where it's like when you wake up at some point in time, you're like, oh my God, I've got so many things in my life. So many beliefs, so many thought patterns, so many actions and habits that I do. Are these serving me or are they not serving me? And I want to leave you with a question and a thought. And I want you to journal through it. I want you to meditate on it. I want you to, if you're driving your car, like think about it, turn the radio off after this and just think about it.

16:59What if success was effortless? Whatever success means to you, what if it was effortless? What if it was the most natural thing that you could do? What would that look like if it was just effortless? What if you're the one that's getting in the way of it? What if this life doesn't have to be a struggle? And so what I want you to start thinking about is like, if my life to success, love, happiness, everything that I want that shows me success was effortless, if it was easier, what would it look like? And then what do I currently have in my life that I need to remove in order to get that life that I have, that life that I have in the future?

17:36And so I want you to think about that. Remove those boulders so that you can start to create the life that you want. What do you need to do to be more in the flow of your life to have less struggle and more success and more love and more happiness? start figuring out what you need to remove because your life isn't about adding more things it's about subtracting a lot of things that are just been in the way for a long time so that's what i got for you for today's episode if you love this episode please share it on instagram stories tag me at rob dial jr rob dial jr reason why is because the more that you guys share it the more we can impact more people's lives this podcast only grows from you guys sharing it so if you want to do a huge huge favor for me for the podcast hopefully for the world share this in some sort of way, I would greatly, greatly appreciate it.

18:20And with that, I'm going to leave you the same way I leave you every single episode. Making your mission makes somebody else's day better. I appreciate you and I hope that you have an amazing day.