When You're Tired of Everything, Listen to This

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1:41Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I'm your host, Rob Dial. If you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so you never miss another episode. And if you're truly ready to change your life, not think about it, but like actually do it, then you need to be at my live event later this year. It's called Freedom Live. It's in Austin, Texas. It's three days and it's in person. Here's why you need to be there. You already know what you need to do. You're just not doing it. So at Freedom Live, we're going to map out the life that you want. We're going to find the fears and limiting beliefs that are holding you back from creating it.

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2:50Like I'm so tired. And it's every single day. If this is happening to you, I want you to know that you're not alone. That's for sure. And you're definitely not broken. You might just be missing some of the really big signs that your life is putting in front of you that you need to change some things. And there are obviously physical reasons why we feel drained. Like maybe you don't get enough sleep. Sure, maybe you're eating junk food. Yeah, that's probably not good. Maybe you have zero movement throughout the day. Nah, that's probably gonna make you tired as well. Maybe you have too much wine and not enough water.

3:26Yeah, all of those things are going to make you tired. All of those things, if you're not fully taking care of yourself, your body, you are going to be more tired. We're not really gonna talk about that today though. But what if you're one of the people who is trying to optimize everything and you're biohacking and you're doing quote unquote everything right, but you still feel like you're not at 100 percent. You still feel like you're wiped out in some sort of way. I know I found myself like this years ago. I ate really healthy. I worked out six times a week and I was like, why am I still, I get so much sleep.

3:58Why am I still so exhausted? Why do I need four cups of coffee a day? And what if it's not your body that's tired? What if it's your being that's tired? And this is where it's going to get much deeper because your exhaustion might not be about your body at all. It might not be about your sleep. It might not be about your food. It might not be about your water intake. Your exhaustion might be your body's way of trying to speak to you. And you're thinking that you just need to optimize another thing. In other words, your body can't speak to you in words. so it gives you messages through feeling because that's how the body communicates.

4:38And then we sit there and we're like, well, what do I need to optimize? Now I need to get a cold plunge and I need to drink this type of water. I need to make sure that I have this type of organic thing. No, maybe it's your body speaking to you in the only way that I actually can, which is through feelings. And that fatigue that you feel, that exhaustion, that stress, that anxiousness, those are some of its favorite languages of trying to speak to you. but maybe you're just missing the hidden messages that are there. And let's kind of pull back the curtain and talk about there's three different types of exhaustion that I want to talk to you about to really dive into to hopefully see if we can figure out why you might be so tired all the time.

5:16So the first one is mental exhaustion. Do you ever feel like your brain has like 47 tabs open at one time and not one of them is even loading correctly? That's the mental exhaustion I'm talking about. Your brain feels like it's always just trying to load, but it's never fully getting there. It can sneak up on you in many different ways, but it can sneak up on you and you're stuck in decision fatigue over the tiniest things. You're trying to figure out what to eat for lunch, and you're like, I don't know. I'm not, maybe this, maybe this, and you just can't really make a decision. Or maybe you've got a really long to-do list, and you know you've got to take action on it, but your brain just keeps looping on one thing and you can't concentrate on one thing at all.

6:03Like your focus is just kind of all over the place. Or maybe you're like stuck on something in the past. Like you're rethinking something that you said at a meeting three days ago. Again, you're thinking about this thing. Here's something that's really wild with it. And I want you to understand is that your brain, as it's working, it's not just sitting there idly, you know, thinking about things. It's burning calories as you're thinking. professional chess players burn up to 6 ,000 calories a day during tournaments. 6 ,000 calories. That's three times what the average person does. And they're just sitting.

6:38And so think about how much thinking can drain you. And so if you're an overthinker, if you're a ruminator, if you're that type of person that just can't let yourself get past something that you did in the past, you're probably playing mental chess with your job and with your family and with your schedule, with your to-do lists and with your fears and with your limiting beliefs. But if we go even deeper, those all might be kind of using your brain power. But what if you're also bringing yourself to a job that you hate every single day? People always tell me, they're like, man, it's a lot of work to build a business.

7:14I'm like, yeah, it's a lot of work to build a business. It takes a lot of energy to build a business. It takes a lot more energy to go to a job that you hate every single day for the next 50 years. to wake up in the morning and have to get out of your bed when your alarm goes off to know that you're gonna go to a job that you don't enjoy or that's not fulfilling to you or that's not your life. It doesn't even have to be a job that you hate. It could just be a job that's not fulfilling to you that doesn't feel like it's your purpose in some sort of way. Then you've gotta drive there and you gotta sit in traffic for 20, 30, 45 minutes.

7:46You gotta go to the job and you've gotta pretend and then you gotta drive back home and then you gotta sit in that traffic again and you gotta go home and you got to turn on Netflix and eat something just to turn your brain off from the fact that tomorrow you're going to have to do it again. And it's not just today's dread. It's this looming thought in the back of your head, whether it's conscious or unconscious of, I have to do this until the day I retire. I don't even know if I can retire. So you're not just tired. You're also tired of like tolerating a life that you don't love. You're tired of living a life that doesn't fit you anymore.

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11:50Maybe it's not the sleep. Maybe it's not the water intake. Maybe it's none of those things. Maybe it's like your being is just exhausted from doing this. That will exhaust you. So that's the first thing is that mental exhaustion. The second thing is our emotional exhaustion. You know what really drains us, people. People will drain the hell out of you. Not all people, but the wrong people will really drain you. The unfiltered, boundaryless, expectation-loaded people that want everything from you, the negative people that want to just talk down about everything. There's a quote that I love, and the quote says, before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, make sure you are not in fact surrounded by assholes.

12:34So I think that's the best way of thinking about it is people will drive you crazy. So before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, make sure you are not in fact surrounded by assholes. So here's what emotional exhaustion might sound like. You might say something like, oh my God, I don't even know if I wanna go home for the holidays this year. Or like every time my phone rings, I get anxious because it's him again. Or why does everybody need something from me? Like, can I just get a break? Or if like my mom asked me one more time why I'm still single, I'm going to go insane.

13:12Those are emotional exhaustion. But let me be real with you, right? You're not a doormat. You're not a vending machine for other people's needs. And you can't keep giving from an emotional bank account that's already been overdrafted. You have to look at your life and realize that there's two different types of people in your life. And I always say there's vacuums and there's batteries. The batteries are people that you're around. You can be around for 15 minutes. You have a great conversation. They make you feel fired up. They're awesome. They support you. They're motivating in some sort of way.

13:43And you leave the conversation with them and you're like, oh my God, I feel better. I feel more excited about life. I feel like I have more energy now than I did before that conversation with that person. That's a battery. They give you energy. A vacuum is someone that just sucks all of your energy from you. Like you can have a five minute conversation with them and you're like, I need a nap. Like I don't know what to think about myself in my life. Or even this, you can even think about having a conversation with them right now. And you're like, oh God, that is a perfect example of a vacuum. The number one indicator of how long somebody is going to live is not how well they take care of themselves.

14:22Although that is important, not how much water they drink in the diet or in those types of things. the number one indicator of whether someone's going to live a long life or a short life is the quality of the relationships that they have. There was an 80-year study that Harvard did on this, and they found out that the people who lived the longest had great close relationships, and the people who had toxic relationships in their life actually lived shorter lives than the others. So you can't tell me that that's not an emotional exhaustion. So that's number two. And the third one we're going to talk about is spiritual exhaustion.

14:55This is like the deeper layer, the deepest layer, the one that doesn't show up when you do your blood work or it's not in your schedule. It's the one where everything outside of you can look fine, but something feels off. This is the one that I had when I decided to start the podcast. I decided to quit my job where I was making a bunch of money. I had this spiritual exhaustion. and I remember my girlfriend at the time, who's my wife now, was like, hey, are you starting to get depressed? And I was like, I don't know. Like, I just feel like where my life is headed is not what I want. And I remember feeling this way and I was like, something's got to change.

15:35It's this ache that's in your chest when you think about your future. It's that tension that's like in your stomach when you're like, is this it? Is this all that life is? you know and spiritual exhaustion happens when you're living out of alignment with who you want to be or who you're supposed to be when you wake up and you're just going through the fucking motions like you have been for the past 17 years in some sort of way you're just like i don't know anymore like you're showing up in your life and everything looks great on paper and you might have a great family and a great great bank account and you travel and you do things but you're like you're showing up with a version of your life where you think you're supposed to be and you're not necessarily who you want to be.

16:22Your soul, your being, your consciousness, the spirit, the thing that's behind all of this knows better. And it's whispering. And as time goes on, it starts to yell. And it's like, this isn't it. And it's like, get me out of this fucking life. And so let me say this loud and clear. You're not lazy. You're not failing. You might just be very misaligned with what you should be or what you want to be doing in this life. And this misalignment can feel like this chronic fatigue. And the reason why is because your soul, your being, whatever it is that you want to call it, is trying to give you the message of like, dude, you need to do something different because this ain't it.

17:07Sure, you liked being an accountant for the first couple of years, you went and got your degree, and now you're going, oh my God, God, I don't know if I could do this for another 40 years. I'd rather be doing something else. I'd rather be doing something that excites me. There are things that I love in this world and I'm not getting any time to do them because I'm too busy working at something that I don't want to be doing. And so here's where we really start to work through it. Like, what do we do about this? Well, what I would recommend is not making any massive, like, don't just go quit your job today.

17:34But what I would do is start noticing these things, like become more aware, start noticing like the small little things that start popping up for you of like, I don't feel like this is right. So the first step is like, notice what's draining you. Don't get judgmental of yourself. Get curious. Ask yourself like, what's the moment in my day where the energy tank like just hits empty? Or you could ask like, who in my life makes me feel heavier after talking to them? Or you could say like, what do I just not love doing anymore? What commitments do I dread or avoid or secretly resent in some sort of way?

18:12Because exhaustion is often instant. It's like touching a hot stove. Like that's the message for you right there. You don't need to get a journal out of times to know what burns. You know, it's like you just need to pay attention. When I think of this, I immediately feel exhausted. Okay, well, that's probably not something that should be in your life. So that's step number one. Step number two is to ask yourself why. Why is my body reacting this way when I think about doing this? Why is my body reacting away when I go and do this thing? What is this fatigue trying to protect me from? Am I just doing this because I've always been doing this?

18:44Or is this what I want to be doing with my life? Or am I doing this just to like keep the peace while losing my own? Like you have to realize your body is brilliant. Like your body does not lie. It doesn't beat around the bush. It doesn't care about your social calendar. It doesn't care about your boss's opinions. It doesn't care about your mom's expectations. It cares about keeping you safe, alive, and aligned. And so what do you have to do? Start listening more because the answers are there. You know, your body's trying to shift you in different directions. So that's step number two. Step number three is to then identify what gives you energy.

19:19This is the fun part. Think about the things that actually give you energy, that actually nourish you in some sort of way, like being outside or watch going to a comedy show or making music or painting or dancing around your kitchen to, you know, 2000s throwbacks. That's what we were doing last night. You know, I put on 2000 throwbacks and we were like jamming in the kitchen while I was cooking chicken, right? So it's like, that felt amazing. The baby was dancing, Lauren's dancing, I was dancing. Everyone was like, this is an amazing moment, right? Things like that. You don't have, like, that's not my purpose in life, but obviously it gives me energy.

19:51You know, creating something with your hands. Maybe it's going on a quiet walk, going on a walk, period. Like what gives you energy? And start to write them down and think about them. And seriously, keep a list of them so that you can put them into your day. This is like your personal battery pack where you're like, okay, I'm going to do this in my day, this thing in my day, and this thing in my day today because they give me energy. And so you just ask yourself, like, how can I sprinkle more of this into my life every day? Even if it's just like five minutes at a time. And you don't have to quit your job or to move into the mountains to get your energy back.

20:27You just have to stop ignoring what your body's been begging you for. What this is really about is to start paying more attention to what's going on in your life. Start paying more attention to your body. Your body is the messenger. It's not asking you for another espresso. It's asking you for the truth. Like saying, this isn't working. I don't feel safe here. I don't want to be around this person. If you say yes to this, you're saying no to me. You've been strong for too long. It's like, it's good time to rest. Your body's trying to give you these messages. So maybe you're not fully exhausted.

20:57and maybe you're just not listening. And that, my friend, is the beginning to literally everything. And so what I want you to do when this podcast ends, take three minutes, do some deep breaths, put your hands on your chest, and just ask yourself, what am I pretending not to know? It's there, you know it, it's ruminating, it's in the back, and you ask yourself, what am I pretending not to know? The answer is there, you're gonna find it. Write it down, and do one thing today to move towards more of your peace. because you deserve that. Not someday. You don't deserve it someday. You deserve it now.

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