My Fiancé Broke Off Our Engagement Because Of My Money Habits

28:25And so what I want you to - He's also currently living out of state. So the custody will most likely be like a 90-10. Okay. To you? Yeah. Which means you're going to - I'm pretty much - Which means you're going to have a big paycheck coming in every month. Yeah, you'll be fighting for that alimony and that child support then. Yes. So all of that should be reckoned on. And you need to feel good about that. But you need to know legally where you stand for you to have some peace, right? Because I feel like the pieces right now, which I don't blame you. I'd be in complete chaos, too. The pieces are all over.

28:53I'm hiding all of it because I don't I need to be strong for my kids. Yes. Yeah. Well, yeah. Yeah. So I would, though. I think facts here are going to help you have some peace to know what rights you have in this. And he doesn't get to, I think the biggest fear you have is he's going to just leave in the middle of the night with nothing and you're left with literally nothing. That's not going to happen from a legal aspect. The courts will step in. Or just like the fact that I didn't go to college, so I don't have a degree. And I have nothing for my name when it comes to 401k or pension or anything.

29:29So it's like I feel guilty taking his money, but it's like he doesn't understand that his money is my money. There's going to be no guilt here. You are entitled to probably half or more of the assets. And so there's no guilt there. You said, well, he provided for the house. Did you not provide for the house the last 11 years? He doesn't see it that way. It doesn't matter. I don't care what he thinks. I'm just telling you, you need to release the baggage of, well, I don't deserve this. because now it's taking a turn to where you're feeling guilty for things you don't need to feel guilty about. Okay.

30:06This is what narcissists do. They gaslight and make you think you were the problem the whole time. You're the crazy one. And you're the one that made this all fall apart. When is enough enough? I've given you everything you wanted. This is what they do on the way out. They have no other cards to play, so they just try to drag you down into the muck with them. Okay. That's all he's doing. So on top of all the lawyer stuff, counseling and therapy is going to help as well. And I want you to paint a picture for like in the next five years, once you have some facts, like where is Brie going to be even in the next two years?

30:35Because, again, I don't know what's going to happen, Brie, but there may be a situation where you are a receptionist at a dental office. I'm making this up. Right. For four days a week. And you're, you know, when and when your three year old starts kindergarten, you drop them off at school. You may go to work and you may bring home a paycheck. But you are capable, Brie. You're capable of doing something and earning money if it comes down to that. OK, so just know that in yourself, the things and the tools and the giftings that God's put in you, Brie, is valuable. It is. And so you're going to survive this.

31:07But getting some facts on your side, I think is going to bring you some peace right now in the midst of all this chaos. But we are so sorry. Call us back if you if you need more help.

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33:02Donald is in Toronto up next. Donald, what's going on? Hey, how are you guys? Great. What's your question today? Hey, so just how to get comfortable with using my emergency fund when an emergency has happened as I recently got to baby step four. Cool. Congrats. Nice. How much do you have in the emergency fund? So I have 15 in there and slight job, not change recently, but better security recently. So that may be a factor as we go into this. Great. Okay. So let's talk about this emergency. Give us the most recent one where you went, I just can't dip into that. I got hit by a bus yesterday and - Good gracious, Donald.

33:43Donald, Donald, stop. Stop. Are you being for real right now? I actually am. Yes. I'm not lying to you at all. How are you? I'm okay. Luckily, the incident was completely fine, and that's why I'm much more focused on the finances at this point. Did you go to the hospital? Because it's like, I'm okay, everyone's okay. Yeah, I got checked out. I'm all right. Oh, my gosh. I got hit by a bus. No one can ever say, well, man, I feel like I got hit by a bus today. Donald's like, no, I really did. I raise you. Okay. Oh, my gosh. Well, that would be a reason for the emergency fund. I think we can all agree on that.

34:20Okay. So just answer these three questions. Is it urgent? Is it necessary? Is it unexpected? I think we can all agree getting hit by a bus is all three of those things. You with me? I think it's a little unexpected. I think it checked that off, yes. You didn't plan for it? There was no maintenance you could have done to avoid it? Maybe look both ways, but no. Now, was there police involved? Like, are they going to cover your ER bills? It was the city bus? It was a city bus. unfortunately due to how old the vehicle is. Like it's a beater. Because of it, how the insurance claim would have worked.

34:54Oh, your car got hit by a bus. You were in a car. Yeah, yeah. Donald, can you lead with that next time, bud? We thought you physically got... I thought you were walking across the street. No, that's why I was talking about the car. Okay. Oh, Donald, you almost gave us a heart attack. No wonder. Okay. Oh my gosh. I'm glad we thought the same thing, George. You tell me, hey, I got hit by a bus yesterday. I assume you were walking. Okay, so Donald, you were in a car. Thank God. Okay. So the car is not, wait, so go back. Tell us about the car, car situation. So car's old, but it's obviously not workable shape anymore.

35:31It's done for. Okay. Yes, I expected a car upgrade to come in the future. I got 4K aside for that, but I obviously now I need to kind of pull the trigger on it much earlier than expected. Gotcha. Is insurance going to write you a check? I can't really get anything out of the insurance because my comprehension and collision wasn't on. I had enough insurance to be legal. I didn't have the proper insurance to get much out of this because my car is so old. Basically, they're just going to write it off. And then I might get$2 ,000 out of it if I'm lucky. But again, because I don't have collision, it'd be a lot of fighting with the city.

36:05And we all know that's never easy, no matter your municipality. Yeah, sure, sure. Okay, so you're just saying it's a wash. It was an old car. I have money saved. how do I use this emergency fund? Yeah. Yep. Okay. So, um, what kind of, so you, you are, you're obviously low maintenance when it comes to the type of car, cause you're, you are currently driving an older car, right? So how much, how much money do you think you need to have a car? Maybe it's a little bit of an upgrade that'll last you longer, but like what price range feels right to you? For safe reliability purposes, um, our markets out here, I would say between 8 and 10 is going to get me a car that's between 2015 and 2020 and somewhere between the 60 to 100 ,000 mile range.

36:51Okay. So take the, yeah, I would take the 4K and then 5K of your emergency fund, go get a 9 ,000, you know. It still leaves 10 in your emergency fund. And then you begin the process of replenishing the emergency fund. And that's how you feel better about using it. It's not a, this thing is depleted forever. It's all right, now I got to rebuild it. That's not fun, but hey, at least it's an inconvenience instead of a crisis and you're going into debt on a credit card at 25 % APR. So that's the move. And the truth is, the better you get at this stuff, the less emergencies you're going to have. Like when you're broke, you have everything is an emergency.

37:25And as you get to this place, baby step four, you buy a better car. You have nicer stuff that you can maintain better and pay for repairs and all that. And so I think it's sort of in your head that you're going to have to dip into this emergency fund all the time. I can't tell you the last time I used my emergency fund because at some point you go, oh, we can probably just cash flow that at a next month's budget. It'll be fine. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. So use some of this for it though. So hear us say that. Please. Please. Yes. Use enough to make sure that it's reliable, but don't go good and crazy off yourself.

37:59You don't need a$25 ,000 car because yours got totaled. So that's what most people do is they go to the dealership and say, I need a brand new car because look what happened last time i had a beater car i got hit and it got totaled yeah and that's what like my brother and others have already said to me about like possibly paid in the future not now and i'm like that just doesn't fit my lifestyle so no totally yes so you do you pay cash yeah take four or five thousand out and then yep how much do you make a year um 60 awesome i would work on upgrading that nine thousand dollar car in a year or two so set a sinking fund I'm going to go put$500 a month.

38:36Yeah. We were trying for a$15 ,000 car, and then this obviously made it that I couldn't. I was planning to be able to do it by October of the end of this year, but now here we are where I kind of got to, I guess, finance myself as compared to finance with somebody else. Exactly. You are the bank, and it's 0 % interest with no payments. That's a deal, my friend. So thank you for the call. I'm glad you're okay. I'm glad that you were in a car. Next time you tell the story, make sure you lead with, hey, a bus hit my car. He probably thinks we're just crazy. He's probably like, duh. I was just, the mental image was just, it was like replaying over and over my mind of what happened to poor Donald.

39:10Okay. Glad he's okay. We're going to get through this. Thanks for the call. Crystal's in Boise up next. What's going on, Crystal? Hi. So as a family, we've been reading Total Money Makeover, and we've been working to implement the principles and just started Baby Step 2. But my question today is regarding term life insurance. So I've had a whole life policy with a term rider for a million-dollar death benefit since like 2016. It has a monthly premium of$315 a month. And I called Xander, found out that I can get a 20-year term policy for a million dollars for 104 a month. Awesome. I'm 45. My spouse is 55.

39:52Our kids are 16 and 17. So my question is, do I do the 20-year term or should I do less with the kids being older? It's a good question. You need life insurance until you no longer need life insurance. So think about the kids are grown, house is paid off, retirement's funded, your spouse would be okay without your income. And so if that's 15 years for you guys saying, hey, the house is definitely going to be paid off, we're going to have a serious nest egg, the kids are grown and gone, they're not going to be relying on us, I would say 15 years sounds a lot closer. Okay, what would be a serious net day?

40:26I mean, I'm just saying if something were to happen, is your spouse going to be okay? Okay. The kids don't need to inherit$5 million to be okay. They're going to be just fine. It's if something happened, you lost your income, now we have this policy plus this retirement. Okay, they will be okay if they need to take some time off or not work. Okay. So I would go 15 based on what you've just told me. I don't have all the full picture. Do you both work, Crystal, you and your husband? Yes. Okay. Yeah. Because if something, you know, realistically, if you're past that 15 and the house is paid off, there's no debt.

41:01And you guys have, I don't know, three, I'm just making up a number,$300 ,000 in retirement. And you still wanted to work. You know, you still had the ability to make an income if you needed to, right? So that factors into it, too. Okay. I'm proud of you. I know that hurts because you've paid into this whole life policy for, what, 10 years now? Yes. Oh, my goodness. I'm so sorry to whoever sold that to you. Who was it? Was it a family friend? Yes. It always is. It's always a friend. I don't know how I guessed that. They are, though. Everyone we talk to, like, well, my brother-in-law or my cousin or, you know, yeah.

41:37And it's always a dude. Let's make that clear. Some dude out of college. 99%. Went, oh, dude, I got this sick job. I sell insurance. The women do the MLMs. That's true. The men do the whole insurance. We all have our toil in life. The guys go insurance. It's cool. Oh, my gosh. Oh, my gosh. Well, it's a good reminder to anyone listening out there. If anybody relies on your income, you need term life insurance, not whole life, not permanent life insurance, term. So that's for a specific amount of time. 15 to 20 years is good for most people, maybe 25 if you're really young or you got young kids, because the goal is, hey, once this term expires, we are self-insured, meaning we don't need this policy anymore.

42:14We're going to be OK. And you want to make sure that you get 10 to 12 times your annual income on that death benefit on the face value of the policy. So you make$100 ,000, you need$1 ,000 ,000 to$1.2 in term coverage so that you could invest that money and the growth of that could help create the income and replace it. That's all insurance is. It's a risk transfer to replace your income. Xander are the folks that we trust, the people I have mine through, my wife has hers through. Xander, you can call them at 800-356-4282 or just jump on Xander.com. Get it done today.

42:52Dave, we got a lot of calls on this show where life happens. One day someone's healthy, they're working, providing for their family, and then a curveball hits. You know, we hear it all the time. A car accident, a cancer diagnosis, a heart attack, and suddenly everything changes. Yeah, and that's why you've always said that having term life insurance from Xander is essential because it protects your family if the worst happens. Yeah, that's right. Right. You need 10 to 12 times your income in coverage. No gimmicks, no whole life junk, just straightforward term life protection. But there's another piece that people often overlook, and that's long-term disability insurance.

43:31Yeah, it's important to understand the difference between them. Life insurance steps in when you die. Disability insurance steps in while you're alive but can't work. So it replaces a large part of your income so the bills still get paid while you get back on your feet. Now, if your employer gives you free disability insurance, great, take it. If it's discounted there at a better price, take it. But if not, Xander can help you find the right plan. Whether you're single or married, it's not optional. If you're going to be out of work for a while, then you need to make sure the money's still showing up.

44:03And that's why Xander is our go-to. They make it super simple to get the right coverage at the best price, no pressure, no upselling. I've trusted Jeff Zander and Zander Insurance for over 25 years, and so has my family. So don't wait. It's fast, it's easy, and it could make all the difference. Go to Zander.com or call 800-356-4282. Protect yourself, protect your income, protect your family.

44:40Welcome back to The Ramsey Show and the Fairwinds Credit Union Studio. I'm George Camel, joined by bestselling author and my co-host of Smart Money Happy Hour, Rachel Cruz. We're taking your calls at 888-825-5225. Up next, we head to Charlotte, who is in Columbia, South Carolina. Charlotte, welcome to The Ramsey Show. Hi, how are you? We are doing great. How can we help today? My question is, well, my husband and I, we have$100 ,000 of student loan debt that we just started paying off. And my dad had promised that he would help pay this debt off. However, in the last year, we had to cut time. Sorry, you're breaking up with us, Charlotte.

45:25Can you speak directly on your phone or try to get to a better spot? I heard you're$100 ,000 student loans. Dad said he would help pay them off, and you recently had to cut him off? Yes, we did. We had to cut ties with him. And so we are now— Like the relationship is over? Mm-hmm. Okay. Yes. Got it. Correct. Yes. So we are now just looking into this debt now for our own to pay off. And my question is, what tips would you have to pay this off quickly? I don't want this to be looming over our heads for longer than it needs to. We agree. What did you get your degrees in? My husband got a law degree.

46:13Oh, gotcha. Okay, perfect. So is he practicing law right now? Yes, he is. Okay. And how much is he making a year? He is making a little over$100K. Okay. And what are you making a year? I'm just making a little over 20k I'm working part-time we just had our first child back in October okay oh congratulations thank you um okay great so um yeah I mean the the most efficient way to do this Charlotte is um is if you have multiple student loans do you or is it all one loan it's just one loan okay yeah so it's just going to be you know taking the mountain throwing as much as you can every month on top of the minimum payment just throwing as much as you guys can so it's make as much as we can every month spend as little as we can and use that difference, that margin to knock out this debt fast because if you guys make$120 ,000 a year if you lived on$60 ,000, Charlotte and you guys basically had no lifestyle you're just like, listen, we are just going to live on what we got and you threw$60 ,000 at it I mean, in a year and a half you guys will have this paid off okay okay so just you got to live like a broke law student and not like a lawyer and that might be a i don't know what your lifestyle is like but that's going to be a big shift yeah yeah do you guys have margin every month in your budget we definitely could we could have more um yeah make it a goal let well could you this month with the next paychecks coming in throw$4 ,000 on top of the minimum at the debt.

47:55Yeah. You're done in less than two years. I mean, that's the math of it. There's no like life hack shortcut. Now, if you're doing the debt snowball and you had multiple debts, we'd say attack the little one first, minimums on the rest and create some progress. This is a little bit harder because it's just, it's like paying off a mortgage. You're just staring down this mountain going, all right, I would celebrate the wins. Every$10 ,000 you pay off, you guys have a little fun, whatever you decide to do. And that'll keep you motivated along the way. Maybe make it visual. Maybe you have like, you know, rings and chains across the house and, or on the fridge, whatever you guys decide to do, making it visual, having a deep why, maybe this child is your deep why of, I want this kid to grow up in a house that doesn't know debt, that has financial stability.

48:39Yeah. And it probably is, There's probably a painful element too, right? That it came, you guys are doing this because of a relationship that was fractured. So every, you know what I mean? It's kind of like the sad reminder too of having this around of like why we have to pay this off. So there is a part two of like, oh, I just want to have it. You don't want it to drag out. I just want it out of my life, you know? Definitely. Is your husband on board with this? Yes, he is. we're in the very beginning stages of really talking about it, which I feel, I feel behind because it's been almost a year that we've had to cut ties with my dad, but it really does just kind of feel like the dust has now settled more with that.

49:21And then with having our son, but so yeah, I've, we're just in the beginning stages of like really coming up with a plan. Tell me this, Charlotte. Your dad wasn't paying your husband's debt for law school, though. Just yours, right? He never paid any debt because when all of this came out with my dad, we had just maybe for two weeks been put on a payment plan for the debt. Okay. Yeah, but was the expectation that he was going to pay your husband's law degree? he had said he would oh okay okay okay so it was the whole day because i was thinking is if he just promised your debt and yours is 10 000 of the 100 000 you know i was going to ask why you didn't address but he's but but it was said out loud that it would even so this wasn't on your radar and all of a sudden relationships broken and now you've got 100 000 sitting in your lap to pay off on top of the grief and so this is a lot yeah it is sad and it's going to be it's going to be tight But, you know, less than two years, the baby won't remember it.

50:27It'll be a memory for you guys. I remember that time we worked our tails off for two years to get to a place of financial stability. And you will not regret the sacrifice you're making right now. I'll tell you that much. Yeah. Yeah. Would you take out – we have a high-ish amount of money in a CD account. That's a two-year CD account. So I don't think – we can't touch it for like another year. How much is in there? Like a little over$75 ,000. Fantastic. Well, I would also look at what the penalties are for taking it out before it matures. Because if you're going to pay more interest in student loans than the penalty is, then it's worth cashing out.

51:10Okay. And that gets you out of debt so much faster. Yeah. What was that money earmarked for? we didn't we didn't really have any sort of plan for other than just to kind of keep it in there and then maybe once it was done divvied up more we were probably going to buy another house or like sell the house or now buy a little bit bigger house as our family grew um we that money actually was given to us from the death of my grandfather. So it was kind of unexpected. So we really didn't have much of a plan. And then it was like, I got that. My husband started paying the student loan debt and then everything happened with my debt.

51:55So I haven't thought about it that much. Okay. Gotcha. Well, the other part you have to grieve is, hey, this was going to be like house upgrade money and now it's paying off debt money, which is less exciting. But I would do that in a heartbeat, Charlotte. I would look into that tonight to see what the penalties are. And then depending on how aggressive you guys want to move up in house, still look at cutting back some lifestyle and saving up some margin and say, OK, if we were to replenish this, you know, you could do that in a year and a half still and get that money back. But I would go ahead and yes, I would plan as we're out of debt six months by the summer.

52:31We're debt free. Yes, I would do that in a heartbeat. And then you guys save your income and decide how quickly you want to save, how slow. But no one else is determining that for you. Or you guys could say, no, we're good. And for the next year, we're going to just enjoy our life. And maybe you can quit the part time job. But no one's making you do it. We're a student loan. You have to make this payment. Yeah. Life is going to be on your terms soon enough. And so far, life has just been happening to you and everything's been unexpected. And I hope soon you can start to get intentional and happen to your life, Charlotte.

53:02We're rooting for you. Thanks for calling. Thank you.

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54:47Scott is in Bowling Green up next. Scott, what's going on? Hey, George. Rachel, how are y 'all today? We're wonderful. How can we help you? Hey, I am completely debt-free. Yeah, you are. Great job. Baby Step 7, paid off house? Paid off house, yes, sir. Oh, everything. Oh, my gosh. Well done. I could tell in his voice. He had an ease and he was kind of flexing. He's like, I am debt free. How old are you? I am 65 years old. Wonderful. Good for you. Okay. What's your question today? I'm at that point. So, you know, well, let me go back. I do have to replace some money back into my fully emergency fund, a fully funded emergency fund.

55:40Okay. Because I pulled that out to pay the house off about$12 ,000. Nice. So, anyways, a little over$12 ,000. But my fully funded emergency fund is, my goal is$50 ,000 there, and I've got about$25 ,000 into it right now. Okay. So, I've got to put$25 ,000 more into it, and I'm completely out. So a couple things here. My questions are, at this point, which I've already got a traditional IRA that has about$214 ,000,$215 ,000 in it, and I've got two mutual funds that is probably about$36 ,000 in that. I want to be able to go in to put more money into mutual funds. I think from the total money maker, there was something about a high cap, low cap, mid cap, and a foreign cap or a foreign mutual fund.

56:36And I want to learn more about that. And then also put some, I guess, part of that$50 ,000 into a high yield interest savings account. Are these the smart moves that I need to make? And also, I want to look at maybe doing a Roth IRA to kind of balance out the taxable versus the non-taxable. Yeah, I would be focused on those retirement accounts right now, you know, taking advantage of those tax advantage accounts first. And so that would be the strategy here. And do you have a 401k through your employer? No, no. It's something I've done for the past 15 years. You're self-employed? No, I'm not. I work for a company, but we don't have a 401k program.

57:23Okay, no retirement program. I have done that all of my own over the past 15 years. Good for you. Okay, so your options would be then maxing out that IRA every year. What is your income? Yep. My income is about 100 grand. Fantastic. Okay, so maxing out the IRA is a great start. That'll get you pretty far, and I would keep that emergency fund in a high-yield savings account. and you can open one up with our friends at Fairwinds Credit Union online on your phone within minutes and keep that parked there. I think the rates are currently over 3%, and so you're at least keeping up or beating inflation with that money instead of it sitting at 0 % in your local bank savings account.

58:07So that's a piece of homework. Fairwinds Credit Union, you can go to fairwinds.org slash Ramsey, and they've got a bundle there with an online checking and the high-yield savings, and there's no fee on that, and they've been an awesome partner because they have the same goal in mind. They want people to be like Scott, financially free with a paid off house. Okay. So you've got that. So once you've funded the emergency fund, parking the high yield, maxing out the IRA, the next move would be a non-retirement account if you've run out of retirement options. And so like you said, those mutual funds and a taxable brokerage account would be the move.

58:40And we do say to diversify across four different types. So a mutual fund just is a giant basket of stocks. And we're going to even go further by going into a growth and income fund, which that would be kind of your high cap. Then you've got the growth fund, which is more the mid, aggressive growth, which is the lower, and then the international fund to balance it out. Because what we've seen, which especially 2000 to 2010, that period, the US market took a dive and the international market kind of balanced it out. And so that's what you want to kind of de-risk your portfolio. That's kind of the foreign account, right?

59:13That you were asking about, Scott. Yeah. Do you work with a financial advisor or have you ever? I do. I do. I've been working with this guy for about 15 years. That's what kind of got restarted on things and doing this. That's why I've been – as a matter of fact, I was in Sam's the other day, and he was walking through Sam's, and we got to talking to him. I told him where I was at and everything. He's like, cool, let's work. Let's talk. Awesome. Yeah, you're in a different place now. Baby Step 7, it's live and give like no one else, build wealth, and so you can max out all the accounts you can.

59:43You could pay cash for real estate if you wanted to do that. The world is your oyster at this point, especially making$100 ,000 with no debt. How much is your house worth, Skrya? It's about$325 ,000. Okay, amazing. Well done. Yeah. That's so great. What is your plan for retirement to sort of replace your income and cut your expenses? Work. Just work. I'm going to work until the good Lord says, hey, look, you can't work no more. Or somebody, and I'll just say this, pisses me off, and I'll say no. There we go. So far, that hasn't happened. That's good. But yeah, that's the Dave Ramsey strategy is, why would I stop working?

1:00:21I like what I do, which is great. And so maxing out those retirement accounts, if you work another 10 years, I mean, that nest egg will just continue to grow with compound growth. And so we are rooting for you to have an awesome retirement. Yes, that's one thing I know, too, is I mean, I'm 65 now, 67, I can double dip so I can go in and, you know, get my regular paycheck and then also get, you know, draw Social Security. and that's just more money that I can start. Yeah, and the longer you delay it, the more you'll get in that Social Security. So if you don't need it, just, you know, kick it down the road and take it at 70 to get the max amount.

1:00:55And so you've got a lot of options here and you have catch-up contributions, which is great because of your age, you can actually put more into those retirement accounts than the average person, the young bucks like me. Love it. I needed a win today. I love talking to you, Scott. That was awesome. John is in Cincinnati up next. John, how can we help? Hey, George, how you doing? Doing great. Can you hear me? Yes. Great. So my question is, me and my wife were just hit with a little other$15 ,000 bill for a car that was repoed that she had signed off on in a previous relationship. She was the co-signer and her ex didn't pay and got repoed and now dinged her credit.

1:01:38And now the deficit is back to you at$15 ,000. Exactly. Gross. I'm sorry. Yeah, it's okay. The dilemma is, though, we're nine weeks pregnant with our first baby. Congrats. It's super exciting, but we're unsure how to tackle this deficit. We don't know if we throw some emergency fund at it. How much do you have in savings? About$10 ,000 in an emergency fund. Okay, great. And you guys have no other debt? No, we do. So I owe$6 ,000 on my truck. She has a car that we owe$20 on and then some student loans. So we have a significant amount of debt that we were paying on before the baby. And then we kind of pivoted into saving, you know, trying to stack up some money for the baby.

1:02:35So we're a little unsure on what direction to go in right now. Yeah. Well, the good news is you don't need to just keep saving for nine months until the baby's here. you don't need$50 ,000. I would figure out what your out-of-pocket max is going to be on your insurance and your deductibles and make sure that you at least have that as your baseline. And then I would move on and hit play on the debt snowball. Okay. And so smallest to largest balance, and when you get to that$15 ,000 bill, you'll get there. Got it. And maybe they'll settle at that point. I don't know. If you say, hey, I've got$10 ,000 lump sum cash or$5 ,000, will you take that?

1:03:11Got it. But you've got how much in student loans? About 20. Okay. And what's your household income? A little over 100. Oh, fantastic. Will that change at all after baby? Is her income part of that? It is, yeah. She makes about 40. She's a teacher. Okay. And I make about 70. Okay. Will she go back to work, do you think, or will she stay home? We're unsure. Okay. Yeah. We're trying to figure that out. Yeah. It's all a little new to us. Yeah, totally. No, that's great. Yeah, well, I would definitely keep a big emergency fund in place considering babies on the way. So, yeah, what George said, if you get to a comfortable spot that you feel good and you want to throw some extra cash to get that credit card paid off, or I'm OK if you guys pause it and do stork mode is what we call it, where you kind of just stay current, but you just keep saving and saving and saving and saving.

1:04:04And then once baby's here, mom is good. Everyone's good. Throw all you have at the debt, which means you'll probably knock out, I would say, the truck, or I'm sorry, the credit cards and the$15 ,000 bill for sure. And maybe part of that truck. So either way, you guys are doing great. It's going to feel good to get that behind you.

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1:05:31Welcome back to The Ramsey Show. I'm George Camel here with Rachel Cruz. And in studio this segment, we have a very special guest. You know him. You love him. Mr. Ken Coleman. It's always good to be here, George. I got to get my ears in. I wasn't quite ready. It's fine. Hey, take your time. Take your time. It's your show, Ken. We're here for you, Ken. Well, here's what we're doing. Here's why we thought Ken should join. We are about to do some 2026 financial predictions. I love a good prediction. And we're going to play this back at the end of 2026 and find out who was right. Because Rachel's very competitive.

1:06:02That is fun. Is that right? We are going to do that? We should. We have to. I think we should. Okay. You guys are in trouble. This is going to be 2-0, Ken. Now, if we're wrong, we're like the weathermen. It's like, it's fine. You get to keep your job. So there's no stakes here. We're just having fun. Don't hold us to this. But here's what we think will happen for your money and in the economy. Okay. I'm going to go first. All right. Okay. I think mortgage rates will continue to slowly go down. That was a safe prediction. I like that. We started at around 7%, and now it's sitting around 5.48 % on a 15-year fix is what we pulled.

1:06:38That's actually incredible. That's pretty great. People were waiting. I mean, that's pretty good. So I think we're going to slowly throughout the year keep seeing that creep down. I don't think we'll get back to 2 % to 3%, but I'm going to see. I'm going to rest in the low fives, high fours. Yeah, the Fed has been moving pretty slowly on this, Ken, with good reason. You can't do it too fast. That'll mess up the economy. And you can't do it too slow. And so they're just incrementally doing their thing. Not to mention the political tension that has gotten fever pitch, as in like WWE wrestling match back and forth between President Trump and Jerome Powell.

1:07:15So Powell expected to step down. So new chairman expected in 2026. What will that do? What's he going to do? I actually, I don't agree with Rachel on that one. Wow. You think they're going to go up? I think they're going to hold. Okay. So you think it's going to be at 5.48 % in December of 2026? That's what I'm holding you to. I think what anyone would call a hold, I think it's going to hold. All right. Okay. Moving on. Here's mine. Sports betting will continue sabotaging young men's lives. Wow. You guys are really going out on the end of it. Again, it's a safe prediction, but we've just been seeing more and more of this.

1:07:51The stupidest. And as more states legalize sports betting, as more people jump onto these apps and the companies ramp up their marketing. They make so much money. That's right. A 2025 Pew Research study found 36 % of men under 30 had placed a sports bet within the past year. So it's becoming normalized. It's just socialized gambling. It's, hey, I'm having fun with the buddies, and we're kind of going to see who's going to win the parlay. That's right. And this is a higher rate than any other age group. So these young men under 30 are going to get hit the hardest. Who don't have money. Who are already broke.

1:08:19I can tell you, as a father of a high schooler, I hear stories all the time of Chase's buddies. Oh, my gosh. And they're betting on crazy stuff, like stuff you wouldn't think. It will become some kind of fun game of like, is he going to be wearing blue or red today? What shoes is he going to be wearing? It is so stupid. It's disheartening. I think it's so stupid. Wow. Mama Rachel with a strong opinion. It's the most unattractive thing. It's unattractive now. I don't own a home. Oh my God, the housing market. You heard it here first, boys. Who can own a home? But I'm going to go and freaking sports bet because I'm not athletic enough to play the game.

1:08:53So I'm going to have to just... Can't afford to take my girl out because I've lost the parlay last night. I like that. No. All right. Very good. Strong prediction. I feel like you guys went really, really safe. I think it's so stupid. I'm going to step out a little bit. So stupid. This might not be a popular prediction. Let's talk about Airbnbs. All right. Became a very popular real estate venture. As you know, everybody thought, this is my path to prosperity. And it's going through a pretty complex shift. In other words, demand still remains pretty strong. But what we're seeing is the cheaper Airbnbs, less cost, smaller, smaller areas, you will see a continual decline.

1:09:31But your luxury listings will go up. Oh, you're going to double. The people who have the money will still be spending. Yeah, other people are more price conscious. That's right. So if you're in the Airbnb game, if you've got a luxury listing, I think you're probably in good shape. The demand will remain strong. Which is a small percentage. Small percentage. But if you have over leveraged yourself, do not think that you're going to eventually rebound in 2026. In other words, if you can sell, I'd sell. Yeah. Well, people just go, well, it's easy money. People are going to be booking this 30 days a year.

1:10:01And it doesn't always work out like that. The reason that the cheaper market, just to give you a why really quick, is because there's oversaturation. Everybody got in the game thinking, oh, I'm going to buy a place down at the beach. So anyway, too saturated, too much supply. That's why. You know, it's the same dude that sports bets that's also on TikTok. And it's like, I own like eight Airbnbs. and I'm like, you are so annoying. Rachel, you're right. Rachel is exhausted by you young men. By the way, Rachel's coming for the bros today. She's got the bros and the crosshairs. I feel like y 'all need a little shakeup.

1:10:29I agree. Because you're not cool. She probably hates creatine too. I take creatine. And my protein shakes when I work out. Good for you. Look at you. The bros and you can agree on one thing at least. All right. Here's the next one. I think the stock market will actually stay relatively consistent. We've had a few good years and everyone now goes, there's going to be a crash. It's all coming down and everyone's got their predictions. I think the U.S. economy is strong. I think AI and tech will carry us for the foreseeable future. And if it went, it dips. Everyone's going to assume it's a crash.

1:10:59It's going to be just a little low. I think we'll come back up pretty quickly. So you're not saying steady throughout the year. You're saying it ends the year pretty much at a level mark. At what it was. Yeah. I don't like we had a few years that were, you know, negative 20 percent. And in the past few years, it's been plus 20 percent, plus 16 percent. I think we're going to have a positive year. Wow. No, no camel crash. No. Okay. I think the trend of buy now, pay later. So I'll get mad at the girls who shop, okay? Because sometimes he uses this. I think they're going to become worse and worse and worse for the consumer.

1:11:30Meaning I think there's going to be more fees. I think that you're going to be able to loan sack, take multiple, keep moving. They are making so much money. Stores are making so much money when people take the buy now, pay later option. They end up spending so much more. So they see the money, the banks and the stores, the retailers, and they know I'm going to make so much. So they're going to continue to expand that. Can I affirm your prediction? Yeah. Pun intended. I just saw a firm is rolling out a rent buy now, pay later option. So you can put your rent on buy now, pay later. That really frightens me.

1:12:06Your housing. With the amount of money that you're putting on a short-term loan, that frightens me. So I think you're right. Can I tell you, I want to tell the viewers and the listeners, I have never seen the lovely, sunny disposition of Rachel Cruz so cloudy. I can see it across the desk. She's just sour. I was mad at sports betting. And it's not because of her. It's this topic. She's got sports betting, buy now, pay let's. She is disgusted. We're pushing all of her buttons. I love seeing disgusted Rachel. America needs more of that. Let's get you back on the horn, Ken. Last, let's talk about the job market.

1:12:36This is the biggest. Everybody's always thinking, what's going on with my job? It's not been great. We saw a slowdown in 2025. Here's my theme. You know me. I got to go with a little phrase. You love a theme. I love a phrase. Is it a... 2026 job market will be, you ready? Low hire, low fire. In other words, you won't see... Now, she's laughing. Kelly says, oh, well. You know what? Kelly doesn't appreciate that this is rooted in accuracy. Low hire means we're not going to see a hot job market. It's going to stay pretty stagnant. I think you're going to be in the 4.5%. You may see a spike getting near 5%, depending on some situations.

1:13:15We still don't know where all the tariff situation, where all those tariffs, how is it going to shake out? We're still in a wait and see mode, which is why a lot of companies are on the sidelines as it relates to hiring. So what I mean by low hire is I don't expect to see companies hiring a lot of people. I think it's going to be a wait and see for 2026. But here's the good news. Because companies are also in a wait and see, they're going to be reluctant to fire talent. okay so it's kind of a we're okay with who we got and we're going to stay in a holding pattern so that's what i mean by low hire low fire now a couple quick things growth sectors i think there will be hot sectors regardless of low hire low fire that is health care skilled trades don't sleep on the trades they're blowing up logistics and some ai adjacent roles oh so it's not replacing jobs but they're connected white collar jobs right now specifically white collar tech is getting killed because that's where we're seeing already how ai is beginning to kick people out i mean are you seeing numbers yes yeah you're not seeing a lot of a lot of young people that'll be in moving into the technology sector as what we would call white collar tech they're not getting the jobs because those jobs have been replaced by ai and we're seeing private equity come in buy it clean house and go we don't know what i like to say about private equity what's that private equity equals public misery this is why we bring ken on guys he brings the heat ken is he's all about the words.

1:14:36I appreciate it. I'll be here for 30 more seconds. Here's the truth. Nobody knows what's going to happen, so just stay the course. No, no, no. I do. Okay. I take it back. Take those predictions to the bank. Yo, we will come back December of 2026. Oh, we will run the tape. I forgot how competitive you guys are. Let's see. I was going to put Ken on hold. That's my dream in life, to have a hold button for Ken. Thank you for joining us, Ken. We had a great time. Hope you appreciate our predictions. Control what you can control. That's all you can do.

1:15:12Thank you.

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1:16:05You can take control of your money. You can change your family tree. You can live like no one else. Go download the Every Dollar Budget app for free in the App Store or Google Play. Amanda is in Toronto. What's going on, Amanda? Hi. Hey. This is my question. How can my mom and I budget our emergency fund and travel expenses given that my father's ICU expenses are climbing? I'd like to still have some left over for my dad's rehab, since not everything is covered by our Canadian health care coverage. I'm so sorry. He's still in the ICU? Yes. Basically, what happened was that earlier this month, my dad had a stopover flight in Seoul, South Korea, where he had a cardiac arrest and is now in the ICU.

1:16:54My mom and I would like to fly over and bring him back to our hometown in Canada once his heart procedure is scheduled. We have travel insurance, but we're not sure what would be covered since my dad's claim is still under review. I've already paid$18 ,000 Canadian dollars. And the translator said the total cost of the hospital would potentially exceed$47 ,000 Canadian dollars. But of course, that's just a baseline and it could go up from there. So I'm overwhelmed navigating all of this as an only child. Wow. Gosh, Amanda, how old are you? I'm 25 years old. Okay. What is your parents' financial situation?

1:17:41Like where your dad and your mom, what they have built as your parents, where are they at financially? um so my father um he um has been on the disability for quite some time so he's unemployed um and received disability payments from the government my mom is the sole breadwinner i believe she earns about 65 000 canadian per year okay um and they do have a mortgage for the condo that we live in um so that's their um financial situation at the moment okay do they have savings at all? Yes. I don't have access to my dad's bank account, but from what I know, my mom has $71 ,000 in an emergency fund.

1:18:30$10 ,000 was borrowed from her home line of credit. And she borrowed$10 ,000 from her sister and$5 ,000 from my grandmother. Why is she borrowing all this money when she has the money to just pay for it? I just found out about this after the fact, so I wasn't looped in on it. I think my mom is just, I think, maybe panicking, given that the hospital keeps calling us every other day, asking us to pay a deposit. Yeah, how much is owed right now? What sort of gets you guys by right now? Because the other medical bills, you can get on a payment plan and pay that off over time, but what are they demanding right now?

1:19:14um so they were demanding um 17 million korean won so i believe that was um i'd say 16 to 7 thousand 16 thousand or so canadian dollars okay and is that it like um at this point do you know how much longer he'll be over there before you guys can bring him to canada no we don't have that information okay the doctor said they want his inflammation to go down um before they start the procedure so he's just an observation at this moment wow okay well i would make sure to use your dad and mom's money before you're using your own is that the case are you expected to pay out of your own salary for this um Um, what my mom and I discussed is that, um, for my own travel expenses, I would be paying for my own.

1:20:16Okay. That's fair. Um, that's what we have decided. So how much will the travel be? Oh, so travel. All in for this trip. For my mom's and I. Travel, lodging, transportation, all of that. About 5 ,000, um, just for travel and lodging. Okay. Yeah. So Amanda, I mean, if I were in your shoes, you know, we would never tell someone to like go into debt and all of it. But when there's a health crisis, our number one goal is for your dad to be okay, right? And so what do we have to do to create that? And then we can deal with the money stuff on the back end. Now, we don't want to be irresponsible or make bad decisions in the process.

1:20:55We want to have a clear mind about it. But yes, I mean, I would be 100 % spending five grand to go with my mom to see my dad, who's in a different country, who had a horrible medical situation, get him as healthy as possible. Sounds like the surgery is going to be there. There's going to be a lot. There's going to be a lot. And then getting him back to Canada. Like, those would be my priorities. and I would ask, and I don't know how, you know, the communication with the hospital there, but a part of me would be hesitant to start paying something until we know and have some answers, right? Like there's something, there's a part of me that I would want to get there in person and to know how their, I don't even know how their healthcare works, right?

1:21:38Yeah, you got to figure out the insurance claim and all of that and make sure that everything's verified and you're not paying for things that didn't happen. So there's a lot of pieces on the back end you can do. And I wouldn't worry about that right now. Before you start writing checks, right, though? I mean, I would... If they're needing a deposit for whatever, that might be the one thing to cover today out of mom's savings. Leave her debt. Don't allow her to go in any more debt, but just pause on her debt right now until all of this is squared away. We got dad home. We know next steps. She's covered the medical expenses.

1:22:05And maybe she pays over time and whatever's left of her savings, she uses to knock out the debts and then she rebuilds the savings. do you have 5k for the trip saved up or are you going to save up quickly yes i have 5k for the trip saved up okay good well the key is that you are not mixing finances together and they have the money so you don't need to you know give money to your mom and hey this is a loan i would just cover your trip like she said and let them handle the medical expenses out of their savings and then pay off whatever debt is left when you get back. Do you have any debt personally?

1:22:47No, I have no debt. Good. Okay. Yeah, Amanda, I mean, I think George is exactly right that they're, again, a boundary sounds so harsh in a situation like this, but your parents have$71 ,000. You know what I mean? Like that needs to be taken, that's the pool at which you pull from. And it sounds like your parents have had separate finances because you can't get okay so so your mom I mean is she under the emotional awareness of that this is my husband and even though it's quote-unquote the my savings that I'm going to be spending some of this on him right this is will she do that she will um I think she's a bit I guess panicky about it but she will um mm-hmm okay yeah because that's I mean that that's it right if you're if your husband has a medical situation you have 71 ,000 we're not going to go to my sister to ask for money she has the money and so that's I would not be spending your money right now Amanda now if all this gets drained and there's something horrible and you feel like as a daughter you're like I want to contribute and help like that is totally your prerogative um but I I would not be paying money out of pocket for any of his medical expenses again right now because they have 71 ,000 $1 ,000.

1:24:05Yep. And then it's up to your mom to figure out, hey, what's going on with dad's financial situation? And we need to make sure that he's able to communicate all this. If he's incapacitated, she needs financial power of attorney. To use his money. To use his money and access it all if it is not tied to her name. And so there's just a lot of other pieces to this, but I would just take it one day at a time. Let's get dad well. The money pieces will solve themselves. We just don't need to go further into debt. We need to limit the damage financially and just take the trip, make sure he's good, get him back home, and deal with the medical situation.

1:24:38But, man, I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. That's a frightening situation. That is so tough. And then being in a foreign country, different language, different health care. Yeah, as a translator. I mean, that's difficult. That is, that's a lot. That's a lot, Amanda. So, oh. For a 25-year-old to be dealing with. I know. Well, we're wishing the best for his health and the financial peace we will figure out. And that's why we have an emergency fund. that turns this crisis into an inconvenience to drain it, but at least we're not in crippling debt coming out of this thing.

1:25:36welcome back to the ramsey show in the fairwinds credit union studio i'm george camel here with rachel cruz taking your calls at 888-825-5225 elizabeth joins us in columbia south carolina what's going on elizabeth hey how are y 'all doing we're doing great what's going on with you today Well, my father, 87 years old, he's a widow of seven years. He's a widower, and he's been seeing a widow who's 88 years old. They live about an hour away from all of us here, and he is buying a house at 87 years old with a VA loan.

1:26:26and we're trying not to read into it. We want him to be happy, but this is one of the worst financial decisions that he will be making. He's not married. He has no intention of being married. Where does he live now? What's his home situation now? Well, he doesn't live in our town. He's been living with her for about six months. Okay, so he doesn't have a home. He doesn't have a home. He does have a home. Yes, he has a home here. He has a home here. An hour away that he's not living in because he's living with girlfriend. Okay, is he going to— Because she refuses to move to his town. Okay. Yes.

1:27:05Does—is he going to sell his home where you are and pay for this home? Oh, I only have a few minutes for this call. I mean, we could get into—I mean— Well, I'm here. I'll eat some popcorn and listen up, Elizabeth. You, it's you. Yeah. Very long story short. Well, my younger sister had financial problems and she got recently foreclosed on and moved into his house and didn't tell anybody. And so the last thing he's going to do is kick his daughter out into the street. so so he's going to take on originally told him we have no problem whatsoever if you sell your house right yeah use that money and buy something down there we have no problem with that whatsoever but now that's not going to be the case and he's still going through with it and he didn't tell anybody and learned about it the hard way and he promised me face to face that he would tell me if he did anything financially like this.

1:28:05Because I'm his executor. I'm his power of attorney. I'm on his account. Yeah. And he's, I think she's manipulating him. Wait, you think the girlfriend is? Why else would he be buying? Well, because he wants to be near his girlfriend. Why didn't he, you know what I mean? Who's manipulating is the sister living in the house that he needs to sell. Well, I don't. Now, the girlfriend's not going to be on the house, right? Right. The loan and the deed. We don't. I don't know. He won't really. He hasn't really talked about it because. He hasn't really talked about it. I mean, I had to call him out on it when I heard about it.

1:28:43And he won't. I don't know. Yeah, it's hard. She doesn't have she doesn't have money. She needs his money. Oh, OK. How much money does she have? She's living with him. She's got a house. She's renting. And she's renting. Okay. So she has no money. She's broke. Yeah. At 88? Is she 88? Yeah. Her husband, I think financially, his health wiped them out. Okay. I mean, I feel horrible for that. Sure. How is she health-wise at 88? She's got her issues that, again, my dad has now become, it seems like a caretaker. Oh, shoot. So you do see your dad. You're like, Dad, you're 78. You could have another 10, 15 years.

1:29:28Well, he's 80. You said 87? He's 87. Oh, he's 87. Oh, I wrote down 78. I'm sorry. Okay. Oh, man. This is a wild one. Well, here's the deal. It sounds like you've been pretty, like, combative, accusatory, and he's sort of getting defensive, right? Well, to a certain degree, but this isn't our relationship, and that's why it's so hard. Yeah, it's heartbreaking that he did something that you guys promised. You know, the integrity of the situation, Dad, you're going to tell me, and he didn't. That's hurtful. That's hard. even though he's a grown man obviously but uh have you encouraged him i'm sorry have you just encouraged him hey here's here's the things that i'm personally worried about this isn't about me i'm just worried about you here's what's on my mind of you know keeping finances separate what happens if the relationship goes south you know making sure that it's in only in his name and not her name and not you know all co-mingled at this stage of life while they're not married well he Hopefully he's at least doing that.

1:30:28I mean, but he shouldn't be doing this, period. I mean, it's my concern. Yes, my concern. We just want him to be happy. I mean, there's four children. We all just want him to be happy. What is his financial situation, Elizabeth? What does he have? What's his net worth? Okay, well, he's got his house here. And if he had to sell it outright, I'd say he'd get$400 for it. And he's got about$200 in an IRA. Okay, what does he owe on his current house? Nothing. Oh, he owns it outright. Correct. Okay, and then how much, do you know how much the house he's looking at when he's going to pull the VA loan?

1:31:05$425 ,000. Oh, gosh. And that's going to be nothing down? Correct, because that's what he keeps saying, the VA doesn't need anything down. I'm like, that's not the point. Well, how is he going to afford a$425 ,000 mortgage? um i guess between you know sharing sharing expenses i mean you told me she's broke and it doesn't sound like he's rolling in money apparently well she's got enough apparently to live on for the next five years and i haven't asked her exactly what that means but um so i mean she's got enough to be paying her rent so i believe that they are sharing some expenses but My concern is what if my father passes away and she's living in this house?

1:31:49Yeah, it's under his name. I mean, you know, if she. We need to clear. She goes back to renting, right? Well, I mean, what if. What if. Let's just say a year after they move in, my father passes away. Then what? I mean, you know, I mean, I doubt we're going to be able to boot her out. and if she fails to make the mortgage then I'm sure he's putting up his current house. I mean if they're not married at that point and the estate plan is clearly laid out then you have options and so that's where I'm saying the best thing you can do right now is say dad I can't stop you from doing this but I need you to slow down and think clearly and we need to put protections in place because I'm the executor I'm gonna have to deal with the fallout of all this.

1:32:33Correct. And so I just need to make sure we're updating wills we have the correct beneficiaries we're looking at the whole estate plan so that we all have a clear plan of what's going to happen when inevitably one of them passes. Because he's creating a nightmare for the girls that he loves. And what are you going to do with that? And what are you going to do about the sister? If he passes away in a year, what's your sister going to do? Because she lives in... Oh my jeez. She lives in the... Now we have to evict her? It's the most of his whole estate is this$400 ,000 paid off house. And then that's got to be split four ways.

1:33:02So she's not going to buy y 'all out. So that's going to be... That needs, these are the conversations that need to happen before he passes away with the sister and him and his girlfriend. I do feel like, yeah, I'm with you though, Elizabeth. I'm like, how do you kick out a, you know, if this is in two years, a 90-year-old woman? Yeah, exactly. I mean, you do, I mean, from like. I would sit down with an estate attorney as a third-party mediator because between you and dad, it's going to get too contentious. and just say, hey, dad, we have an estate attorney coming by. He's going to look at all this and make sure that we've got our I's dotted, T's crossed before we make any financial decisions so that it doesn't create a nightmare for all of us down the line.

1:33:43But the hard thing is, too, George, is that he is a grown up. Like, he can do this. He's a grown man. So you're going to, that's. You can't stop people from doing dumb things. Yeah. But you can try to slow him down. When an 87-year-old has his mindset, I have a feeling. Gosh, man. That's a wild time to fall in love. But, hey. You know what? Good for him. Again, you want him to be happy. Thanks.

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1:35:18Welcome back to The Ramsey Show. Rachel, it's time for a question of the day. and it comes from Y-Refi. Defaulted private student loans, they don't fix themselves, but they can be fixed. Y-Refi helps you by refinancing defaulted private student loans into a low fixed rate payment that fits your budget so you can clean up the mess and move forward with a plan. Visit Y-Refi.com slash Ramsey to learn more. That's Y-R-E-F-Y.com slash Ramsey. May not be available in all states. Today's question comes from Derek in Vermont. Excuse me. What's the point in marriage? Okay, here we go. Start strong. What's the point of marriage?

1:35:54My girlfriend and I are not religious, and we think traditional marriage is an outdated religious ceremony. We don't like the idea of spending money on everything that surrounds a wedding. We thought about doing a marriage at City Hall, but we already combined our finances, do our taxes together, and call each other husband and wife. So what's the point of getting the official marriage certificate? Okay. Well, Derek. A pointed question, but a fair one that, you know, a lot of there's a generation of people who are kind of going, what's the point in this? Like, why do we need to make it official?

1:36:26We're cohabitating already. We do our thing. It's been going well. Why move forward in this outdated old timey thing where we have a ceremony and go to the courthouse and get a certificate? What's your take, Rachel? Yeah, well, I would say from like the non-emotional, non-spiritual side, there's a level of protection with getting legally married from a financial perspective. If you ever have kids in the future. I mean, there is something to be said that, you know, you have a system in place that helps protect both parties. And I do think kind of along those lines, George, again, I don't have stats on this, but I'm like, there is something to be said when you commit something, even legally.

1:37:08there's a level of commitment there where yeah this that's like okay the wind blows a certain way kind of not feeling it and one's just out and then you're just stuck with what you got you know um so that's the more legal non-spiritual side but i would say from a from a um gosh i wish i had deloney on here because he's was talking about studying this stuff he was talking about the marriage advantage and there's something um emotional psychological like all of these elements there's benefits in every area financial all of it yes um when you commit yourself to a partner so there's something about that um the long-term trust and the shared sacrifice stability for the kids yes the financial benefits i mean there's a lot emotional safety and if you're a person of faith which you know rachel and i are like marriage is a covenant yeah we believe it was designed by god and so there is a reason there of to become one totally and if you don't do that it's fine, but you're, you know, roommates with benefits at that point.

1:38:08And some people make that work. I'm not saying that you can't have a successful relationship. I've just found at some point, one of you wants to go to the next level and have that commitment and there becomes resentment and it doesn't work out. We've seen that where we've been dating for nine years, but he just doesn't see the point. I'm like, yeah, because you've been cohabitating for nine years. So he's going, why go further with this? I can just, you know, I can have all the benefits without having to have the full commitment. And so there's a lot there. But again, I think the better question for you is, why are you scared of commitment, Derek?

1:38:39Come on, Derek. Step it up. There we go. You know, there's a rebel in there that people are like, oh, I'm going to do something totally different, this outdated religious ceremony, you know? So yeah, I would go to City Hall, make it official, be husband and wife, because you're not. It's not about the ceremony, the wedding. No, no. If you want to skip that, whatever. Fine. Yeah. But it's about building a life together, and I don't think you can fully do that when you're cohabitating. And I don't think from an emotional spirit. Yeah, I don't think that. I don't agree. So, Derek, I don't know if we helped you.

1:39:13We said what we said, Derek. That's how we feel. To each his own. All right. Dustin is in Indianapolis up next. Dustin, what's going on? Good afternoon, George and Rachel. It's a pleasure to talk to you guys. You as well? I just started listening to you not too long ago. and long story short, I don't want to get as much of your guys' advice as I can. I'm about 40K in debt right now. I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired. I've been listening to you guys' memos, and I want to do something really different, you know, this year with my money. To be honest, I really suck at budgets. I just downloaded every dollar yesterday, just bought Total Money Makeover yesterday as well.

1:39:53Awesome. Good for you. I've been very blessed with the opportunity job. I'm expecting to make about$120 ,000 to$140 ,000 a year starting this month. And I just want to know how can I attack this rapidly right now? Guns, blaze, and rambo. I was on a side hustle. I started doing it in December, so I'm able to squeeze like an extra$2 ,000 to$3 ,000 as well a month. Amazing. Break down the debts for us. So I have$40 ,000. I have about$15 ,000 in the car. I have about$25 ,000 in credit cards. $8 ,000 of it will be paid off the end of March, and then the rest of the$17 ,000 will probably be paid off in about May, give or take.

1:40:43Yeah, good for you. I want to be able to get emergency fund as well. I hear people talk about that a lot. And I'm behind in my 401k. I only have about 10, 15k in that. And I want to know how can I max that to catch up from the years. How old are you? I'm 29 years old. Turn 30 next month. Oh, amazing. Good for you, Dustin. You got one of the biggest blessings of all, which is time. And that's what you need to build wealth. And you will do that if you follow the principles that we teach. Because guess what? But by the end of the year, if you follow this plan, you're out of debt with a fully funded emergency fund with your incredible income.

1:41:19Yes, sir. A little bit here. Can I ask, Dustin, what are you doing for a living? Because I think this 120 is new, you said. Yes. I'm a truck driver. The past couple of years, the pay has been fluctuating, but I've landed a great job, luckily, here. I travel for work. I'm going to be able to travel two, three weeks at a time. Okay. So it's pretty guaranteed, the 120. It's not like if you sell this, you could make it. It's like it's a pretty locked in. Like, okay, if I do the work, I'm going to get it. Amazing. Okay. So Dustin, you're incredible. Okay. So George is exactly right. I think all of this can be taken care of.

1:41:55You want to be paying your debts off smallest to largest. So the 17 ,000 that's going to be left in credit cards, is that multiple credit cards or just one? Just one. Just one. Okay. So what I would probably do, Dustin, is pay minimum payments on it, and then I would actually probably pay off your car, your$15 ,000 car loan, and then go back to that$17 ,000. I mean, it's a$2 ,000 difference. It's not like the end of the world. Yeah. The way you're headed, it's going to be so aggressive. It really won't matter all that much, but the momentum you create by using the debt snowball to a T and just smallest balance is next, smallest balance is next, freeing up the payment.

1:42:30But if you do that, are you bringing home like$9K a month, you think, with this new gig? Give or take about gross about$10K. Okay. About$19K a month. So then if you think about it, could you throw$5 ,000 at your debt every month total? Yes, sir. Okay. Definitely possible. That means you are done in like seven months. Yeah. $5 ,500 gets you done in a little over seven months, and it'll take you three or four months after that to get a fully funded emergency fund. Yeah, what's your expenses every month, Dustin? um right now i'd say about 1500 um i was blessed to come to stay with a family because i'm a truck driver so yeah so real low expenses okay and any um you married kids anything single single okay okay because a fully funded emergency fund for you could be more if we say three to six months of expenses yours could be on the three month side yeah um because you're pretty nimble yeah you don't really have a lot of people to take care of i mean you can make it 10k and be done in two months.

1:43:28And so I'm telling you, man, by the end of the year, this thing's over. Just chunk as much as you can at the debt every month, minimum payments on the rest, smallest one, attack it with a vengeance, and you'll be done in no time. Yep. And then once you get your emergency fund, then you can start looking at your retirement that you're asking about. And you're going to have plenty. Can you pull up a calculator, George, for us? Yeah. 15 % of 140, that's 20K a year you'd be investing. So think about that. You're investing 1600 bucks a month. And if you put that into an investment calculator, George is going to do it.

1:43:57You're 28. Let's say by 29, you start investing, right? We'll give you a year. And he's got$15 ,000 already in his 401K. $15 ,000. We're going to contribute$1 ,600 a month, 10 % rate of return. Are you ready? Okay. Dustin, are you ready for this? Big reveal. If you do this, guess how much money. What's the age? 29 to age 60. So you can retire at 60 if you want to. How much do you think would be in your account, Dustin, at 60 if you did this? Just take a guess. I say about 1.5. You ready for this? 4.3 million. Triple it. Okay. That's not like us making up numbers. That's just, if you follow what the stock market has done and you do this for 30 years, you never get a raise.

1:44:37This is the amount you make and you consistently invest. You will have multiple millions. Well done, Dustin. Congratulations. Read Total Money Makeover. Do every dollar budget. You're going to freaking kill it. We are cheering you on.

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1:45:50Well, tax season is upon us. Rachel, I've got my appointment scheduled. I'm very excited. We're making it a date. My wife and I are going to go get a nice lunch afterwards to celebrate it being done. And do your taxes. Yeah. So if you need help with this, we've got tons of resources, free checklists and guides that will help you file. Just go to ramsaysolutions.com slash taxes, and you'll feel a whole lot better about tax season. Maybe you'll even get excited about it, like I do. You're so excited. I can't wait to see what I owe. Will I get a refund? Who knows? I know. Do you usually - Will I get close to zero?

1:46:22I'd say we usually owe. Yeah, I've owed the past couple of years. I go on the other end of the spectrum versus wanting a refund. You want to hang on to your money versus the government hanging on to it for you. Put it in that fair winds, high yield checking account, high yield savings account. I like to get it done early. Because here's the thing. The money doesn't come out of your account until April 15th. That's right. So I want to know ahead of time how much I'm going to need to pull from savings to pay the bill. So don't wait until the last minute. Go ahead and at least get your ducks in a row here.

1:46:52RamseySolutions.com slash taxes. All right. Ashley is in Atlanta up next. What's going on, Ashley? Hey, how are you guys? Great. What's going on with you? So I bought a car and I don't struggle paying the payment, but I mentally struggle with the payment. Like are you mad at yourself? You feel like it was a mistake? Yes, because I drove a paid off car. I was doing the total money makeover. You went back to the dark side, Ashley. I lost the wagon. And I went back, yes. What caused that, do you think? I'm curious. Well, I needed a new car, or not a new one. I needed a car, and I made the mistake of buying a new one instead of just getting something that I could pay cash for or even less expensive than what I went with.

1:47:41so the our car your heart went ahead of your bank account and i went he wants it now i'm like oh this is awesome it's so nice and it's comfortable and it has so many options yeah it's so beautiful it's a brand new car you know right you sit in it smell it see it and you're like wow it's enticing and then now i get in it and smell it and won't run up because my kids I've already destroyed. Yep. Yes, and amen. That's the problem with cars. What did you get? I got a 23 Palisade Limited. Okay. Nice. All right, so what do you owe on it, and what's the payment? So I owe$37 ,000. The payment's$805 ,000 a month.

1:48:27Is that how much a Palisade costs? Yes, so... Goodness gracious. It thinks very highly of itself. It does. It really does. So if I keep going with the payment, it's actually going to be$41 ,000 after interest. Interest, yep. Yes. So I got on Carvana, put in the information, and they offered me whatever. It was like a$3 ,100 difference that I would have to pay them. Got it. So they were offering like$34 ,000. Yeah. So my question is, do I take the$3 ,100 loss and just know I made a mistake three years ago? Yes, because that's like basically four months of car payments. Right. The other option, if it feels like too much to take the hit, you could always go private party.

1:49:20It's going to be a little more work because you have to deal with it and list it and all of that. But you'll probably get$37 or more for it. Yes. Because Carvana needs to make money. So they're going to give you less so that they can then jack it up to$38 and sell it to someone else. Do you have any money saved, Ashley? I do. We have three months emergency fund. How much is that for you guys? $20 ,000. Okay, good. Yes, get rid of this car. If you want to do the work, do a private sale. Yeah, do a private sale if you can. If you don't want to do the work, you want to take the hit, you can. and then take, girl,$6 ,000 out of your emergency fund and go buy a car.

1:50:02Well, so we already have two other paid-off cars like that now. So when I got the car, we needed a seven-passenger vehicle, but, like, our kids have grown up. Some of them have grown up and moved off. How many kids do you have? Oh, okay. Yeah, so we have five total. Oh, my gosh. So you have a car sitting there that you could drive. Great. Ashley, sell this car. Your problems have been solved for you. You've done it. You didn't even need to call us. You have, yeah, you don't have to work. It's all right there. How much do you guys make as a household? Oh, you broke up on us. Oh, wait. Yeah. How much?

1:50:41Sorry. Around 140 a year. Amazing. Oh. Okay. And what's the total value of all the cars in your life right now? Everything with wheels and motors. Oh, they're, I mean, they're older. The value, I don't know, probably$20 ,000 if we sold to other cars. I was going to say, if you love the car and just hate the payment, you could always aggressively pay off the car. Yeah, you could, yes. But that's another version of sacrifice. Yeah, do you want to sacrifice lifestyle for a few months and throw money at this? Live like you're broke and pay it off in four months, five months. yeah i've considered that too because we do i put i do this the 10 into our 401k and then i do 2 ,100 into our high yield savings account so like it's not that we struggle to pay it it's just like i don't know if i want to pay it anymore and and i didn't know if it was better to just get it's okay to not struggle to pay it and want to get rid of it you know there's a lot of people who take on the payment going, well, I can afford it.

1:51:46It's fine. And then life happens. And so you're kind of getting ahead of this going, Hey, let's, let's nip this in the bud while it's still fresh. Right. And eventually you can get your dream car, just save up and pay cash. You've got the savings muscle down. That too. Or if you, if you guys want to, you could drain the emergency fund and sacrifice lifestyle for a few months, pay this off, build your emergency fund back up and keep the car if you want but if every time you get in that car you're like oh i don't regret yeah if the regret it's not worth that but financially you guys are in a place you're not oh yeah you're in a place that you would be able to to keep it if you wanted it you just got to pay it off right okay just the draining the emergency fund it kind of makes me panic like it's like i need that just in case you know like dave says it's not if something happens it's when something happens.

1:52:38So I need that there when something happens to be able to like care for my family. Sure. Yes. There's just a false sense of security when you owe this lender 40 grand and you have 20 grand sitting on the other side. Right. You're still a negative net worth in that sense. You know what I mean? If you're just looking at those two numbers. So it's not really real because it's not really there. It's because you have debts. On paper, it's a net negative here. And so you know what to do, Ashley. You got two options. You guys make enough that this car is not a huge part of your world and income, but there's sacrifice on either side.

1:53:10I got to get rid of this thing. Got to drive this other older car. Or do you want to drain the emergency fund and go to town paying this off? And when the kids trash it and you're paying$800 a month towards it, you're just like. I realize that as an adult now because I got little ones and dogs and they've just destroyed all of this beautiful furniture and the vehicles. And you're just like, stuff is going to get deteriorated. I know. I know when we bought our minivan in 2020, it was right after Charles was born, October of 19. We got the minivan and I said, this is my five-year car. Because I didn't really want it, but I was like.

1:53:46In your head, you could justify it if it was temporary. Yes, yes. Where I'm like, I just, you know, I want the cool mom car later. But like for now with Littles, we'll do the minivan. And George, can I tell you, we are five, we are six years into this minivan. And I can't budge. I could not imagine buying a new SUV right now or, you know, a nicer car. Yeah. And with it, with my kids. You've told me the stories. I mean, Sharpie on the white seats. I'm like, oh my goodness. The OCD in me. And they're not bad kids, but I mean, and I'm definitely not the mom that's like, no snacks. You know, some moms do that.

1:54:18I'm like, no, eat your goldfish. Like we are going to, you need to be happy back there. Starve until you get home. Do whatever you need to do back there, you know, to be happy. But then that just creates, I mean, just nasty, nasty, nasty. So I don't know. It's a good reminder. That minivan, that odyssey will be in our lives. I also feel like the danger of buying a new car is that becomes your new baseline mentally of what you're willing to drive. Because going from a new car. Oh, that's a good point. So I always, here's what I've done. I drove like an 09, then to a 13. Because I was like, if you jump too far, you're done.

1:54:49You're not going back to a 2016. Yeah, that's a great point, George. You just feel like you're going back in time. You're like, I'm a pioneer woman here with my, I don't even have car play. What world is this? And so there's a real danger to the lifestyle. She said in the new car and she's like, look at all this amazing stuff. Right. Her baseline. I've got a heated steering wheel. How did our parents survive without the heated steering wheel? Got to put gloves on. What is this place?

1:55:29Thank you.

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1:56:47Our scripture of the day, Romans 12, 9. Don't just pretend to love others, really love them. Hate what is wrong. Hold tightly to what is good. Elon Musk said, For quality of life, it is better to err on the side of being an optimist and wrong rather than a pessimist and right. Did he say that? I don't know. They just give us these quotes, guys. Who knows what's real anymore? Not on timing either in life. Let me just say that out loud. Good, good call, Rachel. All right. Mary is in Grand Rapids up next. What's going on, Mary? Hello. How are you? Good. What's going on? My question is, I know that Dave is a proponent of long-term care insurance, but I wondered if you ever can get to the point where you're self-insured and you don't need it.

1:57:36Absolutely. I'm 63. I'm still working part-time. My husband retired last June. He's 62. He doesn't want to take Social Security yet until he can max it out. And we have about 2.3 in our retirement. Awesome. So we called Xander, as Dave always recommends, and we talked to a wonderful lady that spent a lot of time with us. And she gave us a quote for like a standard policy from one of the better companies that they work with. And it would cost us about$6 ,800 a year for long-term care insurance. And that would be going up by about 15 % every seven years, the premiums. And it would cover about$500 ,000 for both my husband and myself to dip into when and if we need it.

1:58:28But the first three months would come out of our, if we did go into like an assisted living or needed long-term care help, the first three months are out of pocket. So I'm thinking by that time, if we needed it, probably the cost would be like$12 ,000 to$15 ,000 a month. And the first three months are not paid for by the insurance plan. So I was kind of shocked at that. It's still going to cost you. It's like a copay there. Yeah. Okay. Well, you got$2.3 million. And so the question is, would you guys be okay if you need to dip in and pay$500 ,000? Yeah, I mean, I don't know. I just think that$6 ,800 a year seems steep to me, and then it's going to increase.

1:59:14And I don't know. I just don't know if I feel comfortable paying that much. Mm-hmm. But then again, I would like— That's the race you'll see anywhere for that at your age. And so it is expensive. There's no—we don't hide—there's no hiding that fact. But the truth is 70 % of people turning 65 will need some from it. And, you know, the multi-year cost can reach six figures. So that's the fear, isn't it? Yeah. But also remember, every seven years, Mary, your money doubles. So you guys will have$5 million, right, in seven years in your investments. So you won't need it anymore. So it's not, you're not going to pay this the rest of your life, or maybe you pay for it for a few years and then decide, you know what?

1:59:52That's what I'm thinking. We're at the point we don't need it, but right now we're still on the fence. Because it really depends on your expenses in retirement. If you guys are living pretty frugally,$2.3 million will get you very far. And so that's the question mark. How much do you guys plan to spend in retirement, and how long do you plan to work? Well, I'm working part-time. I figure I'll work 65 so that we can go on the Medicare or whatever and not have to pay health insurance out of pocket. Yeah. Because COBRA is pretty expensive as well. Oh, yeah. What about your husband? He doesn't want to.

2:00:29He retired in June. He's 62. Okay. He doesn't want to take Social Security until he can max out on it. So I think that's 67. And you guys don't need it. You're not desperate for the cash right now either. Are you guys debt free? Yes. And what's your household income? So right now I'm just bringing in about$4 ,000 a month working part-time. And that's plenty for you guys? You're bringing in$4 ,000 a month part-time. That's great. $4 ,000 a month. I've been having to dip into the investments a little bit because we've had some kind of big chunks of money that we've had to pay out lately. We took two trips, and my daughter's getting married in the summer, so we're giving her some money.

2:01:08Yeah. I mean, you've been investing for a long time. It's okay to dip in now that you're in your past 60s. There's no penalties or anything like that. So have at it. If you want to sit down with a SmartVestor pro to crunch the numbers and projections of where you'll be at and when Social Security will hit and how much your expenses will be, that might give you some confidence on not needing long-term care insurance. And I think based on what you've told me, I think you guys would be okay without covering it. But the truth is$6 ,800 a year out of your income is a lot, considering you're only making$4 ,000 a month part-time.

2:01:43So I understand your concern. Yeah, I think so too. Yeah. And so it's okay to say, we're going to just have to cover that. And you just need to make peace with that too. We might need to dip in a few hundred grand in retirement to cover ourselves. And there might be less that we leave to our kids or grandkids. And that's totally fine. Yeah. But you guys are not destitute. Our financial people are just pushing us to get it. They just think that it's a real good idea. It's smart. Well, the risk transfer, when you look at it, I'm going to pay$6 ,000 a year for the risk transfer of$500 ,000 that I don't have to pay out myself.

2:02:17So when you look at it that way, it's not a bad buy considering age. It gets more expensive as you get older. I mean, even if you did it for 10 years, that's$60 ,000, right? $70 ,000 for$500 ,000 in the long run. And you could dip into your retirement to pay it if you don't feel good paying it out of your income, and you'll still be okay. You're not going to deplete the nest egg. And so I think you guys have created a healthy financial picture where you may not need it. And if it makes you feel better to have it for a few years, get it. And if not, again, just make peace with the fact that this will be on you.

2:02:49Thanks for the call. Jared is in Cincinnati up next. What's going on, Jared? Hey, appreciate you taking the call. Yeah. What's your question? So I found myself in kind of a tug-of-war situation, being offered a very generous gift with stipulations from my mother, and my wife doesn't want to take it. Nothing like a gift with stipulations. And nothing like a mom and wife situation. What's going on? Yeah. So my mom has offered later in the year to purchase me my dream vehicle. and we are currently new in baby step two we have our own debt that that money could be used to pay off so my wife is unhappy with the decision but the gift can only come in the form of this one particular vehicle why i'm just curious what's is it like a family car or something or what no no so the the brief backstory my grandpa was um a very good wealthy businessman and And he offered this deal to my mom and uncles about a year before he passed away.

2:03:58And he kept telling her, I wish I had done this sooner so I could watch you all enjoy having your dream come. Oh, yeah. So now she's retired and she has the funds to do it. So she started with me and my brothers. My brother was first and now it's my turn. Okay. What's the car? Yeah, I don't understand. Why is your mom mad? Just because she'd rather have just the, I mean, your wife, because she'd rather have the cash to pay off the debt? Yeah, it's kind of a history of these kind of gifts. So the car would be a brand new Ford Raptor. Wow. Are we talking like$100 ,000? Yeah, 100%. What is she going to drop on this?

2:04:35A lot. In the area, yeah. How much debt do you guys have, Jared? How much debt do you all have? We have$86 ,000 in personal debt. We just started knocking this out this year, beginning of January. And I have a plan. I mean, our plan is to have it done in 16 to 18 months. Yeah. How much y 'all make a year? So last year was my wife's first year back working after being a stay-at-home mom. Okay. And we grossed$220 ,000 together. Amazing. Good for y 'all. Okay, Jared, I'm going to be honest. I don't know. I'm trying to really. Now, if there's weirdness between your wife and your mom in general, and then this is just another annoying thing that your mom's doing, in your wife's opinion, I get that.

2:05:22Okay. So that's one thing. But if someone offered me a new car, I mean, I think I'd take it. Yeah. The one thing I'm thinking, I think there needs to be a compromise here. No, I think there's more issue. I think it's more the issue of your mom and your wife's relationship. It's not the truck. There's a pattern of her stepping in and maybe crossing a boundary line into your marriage and finances that I think your wife is uncomfortable with. Just, yeah, in a way. My wife, you know, this is our first time having money. Her first time having money. I grew up with my mom doing stuff like this. So this is her first time having money and her first time earning her own money.

2:05:58We've got our plans and goals. And she's thinking, you know, mom could snap her fingers and pay our debt off. But that's not what it is. No, yeah, no. That's, yeah, I'm kind of on mom's side. She's worried that we're going to look in the job. That's not what mom wants to do. She doesn't get to control what the gift is. That's right. The thing to think about is can you afford the higher insurance, the maintenance while you guys are in this debt? And so if you can go, hey, mom, wait until we're debt free and then give us the car, I think that's a great compromise. That puts this hour in the books.

2:06:25Remember, there's ultimately only one way to financial peace, and that's to walk daily with the Prince of Peace, Christ Jesus.