#590 - Fathers and Voices

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30:31View important disclosures at acorns.com slash T-H-E-O. As always, the hotline is 985-664-9503. Let's take another call here. Thank you. I just wanted to get your thoughts on a topic regarding what's going on with the ICE raids down in L.A. I was a victim of a sexual assault when I was in college, And I never got to go to trial or any of that because I never reported it. And thank you for sharing that. I'm sorry. I'm sorry to hear that. Thank you for sharing onward. Anyways, I I was just thinking about in this country how there's I mean, I don't know, at least twenty five thousand rape kits sitting in evidence lockers that are not tested.

31:21and that while this is happening, people are being pulled from their families. And that's what our country has decided to spend their money on. Like, what do you think about that? Do you really think that there is value in what our government is choosing to do? Do you think that the citizens of this country who have actually committed crimes are better than people who have existed illegally uh you know doing picking fruit like having families like being good people like i know you love mexicans i love mexicans like they are like how matters all the whole food moms gonna be when they can't afford strawberries like this is hilarious to me yeah i mean there's a lot here sorry there's a lot in this voicemail Yeah, I love Mexicans.

32:15I would like to be Mexican next time. I've prayed for that. God knows that. So if something ever happens to me, please look out for me. And if you see me in El Barrio, say, bienvenidos, te adoro. But yeah, sorry to kind of joke, but you were kind of laughing there at the end as well. Yeah, I'm sorry about your sexual assault. I don't – yeah, it's heartbreaking. It's heartbreaking what – let me look up about those rape kits. I didn't even know that.

32:54How many rape kits are awaiting testing in the U.S.? This is a site called USAFacts.org. the federal government spent over 1.3 billion dollars to clear the rape kit backlog since 2011 but usa facts analysis uncovered thousands of rape kits awaiting testing in 2022 at least 25 000 untested rape kits sat in law enforcement agencies and crime lives across the country untested rape kits have significant consequences both the criminal justice system sexual assault survivors not only can rape kit testing provide crucial evidence that helps identify perpetrators and bring them to justice it also can connect perpetrators to other assaults It's unreal.

33:32Yeah, I was not even aware of that. Thank you for bringing that to our attention. I'm always mesmerized by what our country appears to do with funding. When I was a kid, I know my mother was like, why are we sending this money to these other places? There's always been this situation like, why are we sending? Why? What do we need over here? you know with this money we're sending to israel we could do so many things right we could do so and i just picked that place because it's the one that you know i think we sent them 12 billion dollars already this year um but yeah like what what are we why why right why that and knowing that people are sitting there way just in a the stress of waiting for a kid like this to come back.

34:25I just can't even fathom. While the perpetrators out there may be doing more crimes, the alleged perpetrators out there doing more crimes. But let's talk about the ICE situation, you know, because I feel like that was more the focal point of your call. I think a lot of things on this. So one, I think a lot of what you see, not a lot, I would say I bet half of what you see, the videos and stuff out of Los Angeles are not real. I think a lot of them are seeds that are planted to create conflict, right? To create more videos, you know, caring people show up, caring for a cause, they create more videos.

35:02And then there's all this extra videography. But I believe that the, whatever you would call it, the Duralog, whatever starts that, that that is kind of staged. I feel like even a lot of the videos are probably staged. Not saying all of them. I'm not saying that deportations aren't happening. I'm not saying any of that. I just don't trust things that, uh, a lot of some of the, a lot of the stuff in Los Angeles. I believe that, that a lot of things in our world are staged and then we see videos and then we believe them. I believe them. You believe them. We believe them. Obviously there's a lot of deportations going on.

35:37It's sick when you see like children crying and people being taken from their parents. It's heartbreaking. It's, you know, it's, it's, it's, it, anybody thinks that that's heartbreaking. Now there's also in the country, there's, you know, you have rules, you have laws, you have like, these are the rules, right? And some people are here, they're illegal. They're illegal by the letter of the law. Technically they're undocumented, right? Now 40 % of people that are here illegally are Mexican, right? 60 % or not. We're just coming off a huge influx of people that were just led into the country during the last political administration.

36:27There's no, we've had border patrol agents on, it's undeniable. A lot of them are not even from Mexico. A lot of them are not laborers that were just coming over for fruit season or for farming season and then coming back. A lot of them are not that. So, you know, when Trump is a he's heavy handed, that's who he is, right? We've also had a broken system for a long time. So when the hammer starts to come down, or the guillotine is this is, it's not going to be comfortable. and at first it's going to be messy it's it's not going to be smooth and i think that and i know trump spoke the other day that there needs to be a way and i believe wholeheartedly there needs to be a way where um people who are productive citizens uh are allowed to get amnesty or uh create a path for them to have citizenship i believe that undeniably um there's also people are like, well, when someone says they shouldn't be in our country, right?

37:34You hear that they shouldn't be in our country. Well, you know, this or this is our land, right? This, I believe that that our land is still, that America is still fully entrenched by the ghosts of pain from what happened to Native American people. I believe that, right? I believe that the land doesn't forget. I believe that. I don't believe that we've made amends to those situations. I think there's other situations in history that we haven't made amends to. I believe that. at the same time like i believe and this is a bigger belief that in a few years there's this plan with uh it was spoken a few weeks ago that that trump picked this company palantir to create this digital database right this to use like ai technologies to create this whole database of everything i had asked jd vance about it so i believe in a few years in america that everywhere you go, there's going to be facial recognition.

38:36They're going to be, it's just going to be all built into our society, right? I mean, built in. So I don't think in a few years you would even be able to be in the country if you're not supposed to be by law, right? By the letter of the law. I don't even think it's going to be possible. I think that's where we're headed and we're headed there quick. And I think this is just one of the early stair steps you see of that, right? Is the organization the documentation everybody you have to know who's here you have to and i don't think i think in a few years it's you you're it's not going to matter the system will know right i think it's palantir is the company that's going to do it uh they've also been accused of a lot of dangerous stuff in gaza um but that's that's the company that's we're going to be surveilling basically ourselves, right?

39:31We as citizens, whoever we are, are going to be under surveillance in our own country. That's going to be bonkers, dude. So I believe that it's a bigger thing that, that these are the stairs. These are the baby steps of it is first is you got to know who's here. You got to figure everything out. And yeah, I, I, I agree. The stuff's gross. It's sick. It's, it's heartbreaking. Um, you know, the stuff in Gaza is heartbreaking us watching this and becoming immune to some of the, or not, you know, and then you're so overwhelmed. Sometimes you don't even know what to speak up about. And you still also, most people have to take care of their families and, and, and get to school or worry about this or worry about that or do okay at their job, you know?

40:16So, and then some people just stay out of it and they just go on about their lives. And are they, are they bad for doing that? I don't think, you know, I don't think so. It's all a lot. It's all a lot. That's what it feels like sometimes. It feels tough. It feels tough to navigate. What do I do? How do I do this? But we feel, we see and we feel everything now. Emotionally, I think a lot of shit gets pretty overwhelming at times. Or we just start to get immune to it, which is even scarier. Because then you see something really messed up and you don't even say anything. You literally move past it with your thumb.

40:57So anyway, sorry to be a downer right there with a lot of downer stuff. There's also people that have been in the country technically illegal, right? Like by the letter of the law, whom I don't know if over the years they've had the opportunity to figure that out. Is there, you know, have there been opportunities? I don't know enough about it. I'm not an, um, I don't know enough about immigration policy to know if they've had where they could go to an office and get that figured out over the years. I don't know. I don't know what that's like. I bet it's also miserable to be like living in the shadows and like worried all the time that this isn't going to be able to get figured out or this won't be able to be figured out.

41:40And you also have to believe that different political parties, they will use these things as kickball. They'll use certain videos and stuff as kickballs. to get us all to watch the ball in the air, right? And even though sometimes it's horrible, some of the situations it's horrible, oh, we're watching the, you're watching the monkey juggle. Meanwhile, the monkey's stealing all your shit. The monkey gots all your bananas, baby. You down fruitless, you down bad.

42:08But prayers, if a Mexican person needs to hide at my house, man, I'd be willing to discuss it. Fuck, I don't know if I should say that out loud or not. Ugh. but I, yeah, I, I just, and sometimes people are like, you got to speak about, you got to speak about this. You, you, you, you speak what you feel you need to speak about. Okay. You, you speak what you think you need to speak about. Cause also I don't sit there all day looking at everything. I, you know, I don't sit there all day looking at every single thing and moment, some stuff I'm not even attuned to. There's other genocides happening in the world that I don't even know about, right?

42:49And that you don't even know about. And that's okay. You know, so anyway, there's a lot going on there. That's all I'm saying. And I think this is all part of a bigger, this is, this is just the beginning step. This isn't, while we're all watching this, so many other things are going on. And the crazy part about all of, of everything is, of everything is that it's always the same shit. You look, it's always like, oh, here's a racial issue. Here's a this issue. And, and nothing ever changes. It feels like nothing ever changes. And that's sometimes I think maybe even with that Vance interview, I'd be like, is anything going to change?

43:31Cause if not, just tell us it's not, you know? So, you know, I can go back to using and doing a adult kickball or whatever, just tell, you know, but anyway those are just some thoughts and i don't have any perfect answer for you and if you're coming to me for some perfect answer go to yourself what is your thought what do you feel what do you know you want you a magic guy you a wizard then do wizard shit another call that came in here sorry to get hot happy belated father's day dude and el dia de las papa Hey Theo, I just had a question I need to invite. I have a pretty right-leaning boyfriend and he's not super fond of gay people.

44:24And my really close cousin, he's like a brother to me, he just came out as gay recently and he's been acting pretty gay. So I'm just trying to figure out how I can mend things between them. um he's my gay cousin is coming into town i'm trying to set up some plans well look i think i wouldn't just take a gay around somebody that's anti-gay for you know like you know what i'm saying like you don't fucking you don't just take a pitbull in at a bird shop so that's one thing i wouldn't do right there i mean you know i think i mean i you could just play it play uh dude you could play that song uh i'm gonna take my horse to the old town road i'm gonna ride till i can't know i got the horses in the back you play that shit bro i bet they both gonna fucking grin a little boy man you got your bag and if you ain't ready to go full not little nod you could fucking start off with a little cotton eye joe get after with cotton eye joe that's a fucking little you know that's a fucking little you know sometimes if you if they drop that on at the country club you could see who might have a little bit of fucking zest in they uh in they bandana you know so yeah those are some options but don't be you know what i'm saying you ain't fucking don king you ain't dana white baby girl don't be out there fucking you know, don't be out there trying to start a, um, trans swimming event or something.

45:58You know what I'm saying? Don't get crazy. You know, you, you ain't the NCAA. Don't try to fucking, um, pit different people against each other just to start shit. You know, don't get like that. So blessings to both of them and, uh, praise God right there. Let's hear another question. Oh, we got a question here about, uh, gay and hi theo this is garrett stewart hey garrett thank you for calling brother onward california and i was just calling to ask i uh well i'm secretly gay and i oh secretly gay the fella said let's hear more i i haven't told a lot of people and i want to figure out how i can tell my mom and I thought I could get some advice on here.

46:47I'm hoping she'll listen and maybe find out this way and it'll start out the conversation. But yeah, I mean, thank you for the space to talk about this and I hope to hear something about it on the next one. Okay, brother. Yeah, thank you for calling, dude. And congratulations on your gay ship or whatever it's called, gaydom or whatever, being gay. I mean, there's different ways you could go about it. You could do something, you know, kind of fun. You could do just like a knock-knock, who's there? I'm gay, you know, that old trick or whatever. Or you could get a deck of cards, right? You could write, I'm a gay son on each one.

47:33Put them like that. Have her pick one out, say pick one out and read it. And bam, you don't even say nothing. She says it. And then you could be like, what the fuck do you mean? You know, you could roll switch or whatever. So that's it. You know, that's reverse psychology, dude. So that's something that's crazy. But I think in reality, dude, what would I do here, dude? I would sit down with her. I would sit down with your mom. If you got to tell her that you are, I would sit down with her. I would say mom I have something really important to tell you and just ask I would say hey do you know do you love me no matter what do you love me no matter what and she will say yes right if she doesn't say yes I would not tell her but if she says yes then I would keep moving forward um and then I would just tell her say look I'm a you know I'm a gay man or whatever um or I'm put I'm Pretty much gay.

48:38That's what I would say. Don't ever fully commit to anything. That's a trap for everything. I'm pretty much gay, right? That way, what if they come out with a cream or something or a topical a few years from now or something or, you know, because you don't know that they don't or a peptide or something. That'd be un-gay in people. You want to have, you just want to have that little, you want to leave that door ajar, baby. You know what I'm saying? You want to leave that, you want to leave that door ajar, poppy. so that's what I would then I would just tell her and I would just let her know if it's scary to you to say that I would say mom I've been really scared about saying it to you and then I would say do you have any questions about it because it's a surprise it might be a surprise to her some moms are surprised about it what percentage of moms know they have a gaze oh it says a lot of parents know because they study their babies closely as they grow.

49:38So, hell yeah, bro. Yeah, so if they might have some ideas over the years. If you invite another little dudes up in your crib or whatever, they might have had an idea or whatever. Or you got a bedazzled diaper or whatever. They're going to have a little inkling. Some parents. It doesn't say every parent. So then, that's what I would ask her because it's going to be new to her. So she might have questions. She might be scared, too. She might be, you know, she might be kind of rattled. And then if you guys have a dad, I would say, well, how do we break this to dad? What do you think we should do?

50:12And then that way it kind of creates a little bit of an accomplice there. Yeah. Yeah. I just think that's it. That just as probably learning you were gay, it's probably a journey for them to have this information. so I'm not saying that just because that people need to adapt to you or anything but I'm just saying some people it's a bit of a surprise you know my buddy told me he was gay not long ago and I was like damn bro he's gay you know so it's a surprise sometimes to people you don't you know it's a little bit of an adjustment it's not bad or anything or it doesn't mean anybody's bad but thanks for asking about that man uh we've learned a lot about gays here over the years you know we've learned a lot about uh drug-induced homosexuality um altitude-based gays um weekend gays uh footwear gays a lot of times you're looking at your buddy's shoes or whatever and you're like damn your boots is gay as fuck son you'd here come the zest step you know so it's like we've learned a lot about it dude there's full-time there's part-time there's uh Wednesday only gaze underwater gaze sometimes you feel something underwater you go down there somebody's blowing you what is that so there's a lot there man anyway sorry to ramble but but i bet i bet i don't know i bet that's a tough tough experience for a lot of people man i bet it's a tough experience so just thanks for calling and sharing about that uh let's get another call in here yo what up ceo um this is your boy i'm gonna keep this one anonymous for obvious reasons here in a bit but uh just want to give you a call and see if you had any suggestions for me um this morning i received a message from somebody that i had uh made love to about two years ago and oh yeah honestly at one point she this woman she was my boss.

52:28She's about 10 years older than me, I believe. Okay. You climb in the corporate vagina, brother. All right. Onward. Got a message this morning that she says there's about a 75 % chance that her one-year-old daughter is my daughter. I asked her, well, what's this other 25 % chance is that just to soften the blow or what she's like yeah there's a 10 chance that it was my ex um i don't even know if she had a boyfriend at the time when we did it but maybe um but yeah it was just like kind of soften the blow and so obviously i'm gonna do a paternity test, but I'm 25 years old. She lives in a different state, thousands of miles away from me.

53:29I asked her what she would expect if I am the father, and she says, I'm not planning on changing anything. It's up to me. But she's going to be happy, healthy, and well taken care of, which I truly do believe. but I don't know I just don't know what to do I feel like I myself had both parents growing up and I'm fucked up as is I can't imagine bringing a baby into this world and just leaving her out there high and dry without a father yeah you're saying you can't imagine that right so it sounds like from hearing you that that's not part of you that's not part of the plan that you want. So I think starting from there, you'll be able to figure this out, man.

54:25I wish I had more of a suggestion to you. Actually, I'm going to open this up just to callers. I know maybe that's impersonal because it's your call, but I think this is important. If somebody's in this situation, if you've been in this situation before, what did you do? And if you made mistakes and you were in this situation, what were those mistakes?

54:47you know I think this is an opportunity to share those and we can do a follow-up call on the next solo episode where we'll we'll package some of those answers up for you but just hang in there right now man hang in there take care of yourself and I would just try to also live in like you know get information so you're gathering you know you have real-time information what's going on is this really, you know, if you have a paternity test, is that really your child? You know, figure those things out so that you can be at least operating from a place of real information. And then you're not just living in your head as much.

55:24But I can't tell you a ton because I don't have experience right there.

55:31But I have had experience thinking that I might have had someone who's pregnant, and that can be very tough. It can be scary. It can be very scary. Even if that person's a great person, it still can be very scary. And especially if you're going to be in a place that's far away. But everything is, if there's a problem, you can usually fix it, right? If there's a situation, you can usually figure it out. So even by calling, man, I think it shows kind of where, where you're at. You're already in a space where you want to start to figure this out, you know for yourself and possibly for your future child so um yeah thank you for calling man and yeah we'll put some together it might be a few weeks before we get that episode out uh just let you know it could be a month to that next solo but uh yeah but love you bro and hang in there and uh thanks for calling this is an ad by better help men today face immense pressure to perform, to provide, and to keep it all together.

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57:27Talk it out with BetterHelp. Our listeners get 10 % off their first month at BetterHelp.com slash T-H-E-O. That's BetterHelp.com slash Theo. Let's take one more call right here. What up, Theo? My name is Alex. I'm from Cleveland, Ohio. Okay. O-H. I was just asking for some advice with a girl from Latin America. I've never been with a Latina before. I don't know if you have any experience with one, but I met this beautiful girl from Colombia a few nights ago at the club. And it was this whole romantic experience. You know, I bought her a drink. I was making her laugh. Before you know it, we're doing the tango.

58:16Oh, yeah. Dancing. I was even speaking a little Spanish. I don't know what got into me. I had game I've never seen before out of myself. But now it's a few days later. I've been texting her. I want to take her on a date. But I feel this pressure to be the guy I was that night. And honestly, now that the drink's out of my system, I don't think I got it anymore. Yeah. Yeah. I would just thanks for that call, man. I would here's what I would do. I would just take her on another date. And she already knows that that happened, right? So I don't think you got to replicate that. I think you take her to do something else to take that pressure off.

58:56Go for a walk. Go to a bingo hall and do a bingo night over there. What else could you do? Go for lunch, right? Do a completely different environment. because I've done this a lot in my life, man. It's like, man, if this date with this girl, if it's not perfect, I don't want to stand a chance with her. I either do or don't stand a chance based on who I am though. I mean, it's easier for me to say that just because like I've learned that in my own life.

59:29But that's really what it comes down to. Just say, hey, the other night felt awesome, felt magical, right? I'm nervous. I can't replicate that. Tell her that right out of the jump. Now, you already have that magic night you made, and now you're a real guy. You're right there. You're in a real space. Because otherwise, dude, we spend this time, dude. I've spent so much time. This has to be perfect. I'm going to fucking get this. I'm going to rent this van or whatever. I'm going to do all this shit. You know, we're going to get a couple oysters or whatever. You know, all of this fucking shit, this van oyster bullshit and then i end up i can't ever nothing's just like i'm i'm just i've already loved i've already lost because i set the expectations too high so that's what i would do just be real with her and if it doesn't work out it's not because you didn't do things magical it's just because it wasn't gonna work out that's it you know do but be creative i think that's appreciated but that's it man don't make it so it's impossible for you to even do you know i do that sometimes fuck i make shit like oh dear god uh all right let's get out of this we got to get done here soon um let's take one more call hey pio um i want to congratulate you on your success man I'm a huge fan.

1:00:58I just had a question, man. Well, not a question. Just wanted some advice, man. I'm 28 years old. I'm an Army veteran. Thank you for your service, man. I'm a veteran. I recently got out a year and a half ago. I went through a divorce, man.

1:01:20The problem is that I have two kids, man. both of them have autism and mom decided to step away from their life you know and it's just me raising them alone I was just wondering if you can just give me any advice you got brother just how to deal with that man you know trying to do things alone and if you just had any advice man but

1:01:48I just want to thank you for your podcast man it's been extremely helpful and yeah thank you and uh hope you reach out back man praise brother thank you for the call man thanks for calling and just uh man that's a journey you're on dude congratulations bro congratulations on you know showing up but man i want to say uh happy belated father's day to you And I applaud you, man. I applaud you for showing up for those kids, for being able to let them have somebody they can look in the eyes and they know that that person is there for them, that that person is a caretaker, that that person thinks about them when they're not around.

1:02:40You know, I think as children we take that for granted even, and we should because it shouldn't even be a question. But I commend you on that. I know it's your job as a dad, right? That's part of it. But, man, maybe as men we don't say that shit to each other enough. You know, I don't know.

1:03:01But, yeah, having dad there when, you know, you try to learn to ride the bike or you want to do fishing or whatever. Or if y 'all like doing a video game or reading your kid a story at night, you know, Or even picking your kid up and helping him get to the second or third step. Now, make your kid do one of the steps. Some people put their kid all the way to the fourth step. Put that bitch on the third step. You know what I'm saying, bro? Life ain't that easy. If they crawl and set that bitch on the south side of a speed bump, let him work. Let him work. But I'll say this. It makes me feel good just knowing that there's a man out there who's out there battling to do his best with his children.

1:03:45and this is also kind of interesting. We're making these Cat William nutcrackers, and we're going to make a package pair, just like me and Cat William had talked about doing it, and they're going to be one of him, one of me, and you can just get him if you want. That's fine. I will not be upset, but we're going to sell them, and the proceeds, we're going to go somehow to help parents of children with autism um so we just started looking at the prototypes and uh i don't know what that looks like right i don't know how i don't know if it'll be in what way or something but when that comes along man maybe i could have you help us out somehow or um i don't know maybe we can think of something to do you know in that space but yeah now we're hoping to have them plant for the end of the year i don't know how it all works but i do know that we've already gotten back like um drawings we haven't gotten back or an actual item yet but uh i do believe that we're making progress so uh there you go that'll be something that's a that's not advice but that's my belated father's day gift to you is that if we can get this to fruition, then let me see if I can't find a way that we can, or do like do a nice thing for you or something.

1:05:13I don't know what it is yet. Yeah. But just know that people are thinking of you, man, you know, know that I think a lot of us go through the day and, you know, I think most people, this is the funny thing I, most people I'll run into, they say, I want to be helpful to people, you know? Most people are thinking of that. And I think that's what's in the heart of most people, man. But happy belated Father's Day, brother. And praise God. You might also be Mexican, so you sounded a little bit Mexican. I'm judgmental when it comes to voices and shit. You know that, bro? But feliz papa. Let me see what that means, actually.

1:06:00Feliz papa. Happy dad. Happy father. So, el día de feliz, papa. Happy dad's day yesterday. Oh, yesterday y... Yesterday dos, I'll say that. Two yesterdays. Yesterday dos. El día de feliz, papa. Ayer dos.

1:06:28Happy belated father's day to Rhett Powers. That's the man that took me in when I was young and gave me a place to stay in high school and stuff like that and has been a role model to me. Charles Alder, he was a teacher of mine that I had when I was young. He passed away a few years ago, but he was the first person ever even talked to me. Talked to me like, I don't know. He really cared about me. Um, there's been a lot of men in my life. I could, you know, I'll forget. I don't want to get into like a naming spree and a lot of men who have filled in the blanks. You know, sometimes I go, you know, uh, if there's something going on, I'll call this friend's dad or I'll call this person is a little bit older than me.

1:07:21Sometimes I even get little pieces of fatherhood from friends. Right. Uh, yeah, I think sometimes it's like building, you build that relationship inside of other pieces of fathers that are still here or moments that are still here. Um, so anyway, yeah, just learning to use my voice, dude, it's crazy this late in life. And maybe that's me just having a cop out. I have no idea, but I'm going to keep, uh, I'm gonna keep showing up. Let's do that. Um, praise God, man. Be good to yourselves out there. There's a new song right here and we We might have to edit this out if they don't clear it for us.

1:08:03But this is by Evan Bartels. And he has a new album out that I want to support here. And this is Evan Bartels. The album To Make You Cry, which, yeah, dang, it's the last thing I needed. But it is what it is, baby. But this is a voice. This is somebody using their voice, right? So, anyway, I don't know. But you guys be good to yourselves, man. We got some exciting episodes coming up. I'm grateful. I want to get more grateful. I want to be more grateful in my life. I'm going to ask God to help me with that this week. I'm going to ask myself to help me with that. Sometimes I try to put it all on God's shoulders, and I don't do shit.

1:08:45So I'm going to try to pull up for God. Praise God, baby. Here we go. You guys be good to yourselves, man. You deserve it. Happy belated Father's Day, gang.

1:09:00This is called Death of a Good Man.

1:09:23Southern Baptist preacher, sang like a Pentecostal choir, said he always done right by that woman, and ain't no man could call him a liar. Some nights when his spirit got heavy He'd dream of that lost promised land Said it looked like back home in Virginia But he'll never see them all his again

1:10:05He said I blame it on the damn tobacco I blame it all on the booze And I blame it on the fella Sitting up in heaven Giving me the right to choose

1:10:29He said I reckon I'll die on a Tuesday And I hope the sun's gonna shine And I can't take it with me So I drink it right here My whiskey, my beer and my wine And he spoke like a southern Baptist preacher Sang like a Pentecostal choir Said he always done right by his mama And ain't no man could call him a liar But some nights when his spirit got heavy He'd dream of that lost promised land Looked like back home in Virginia He said, I'll never see them more years again And I'd sit at the bar while he's talking Just like me and him was old friends And promised I'd always remember The life of a good man

1:11:58Now on each side of Nashville I said And I get stoned