In short
Leadership and protection under pressure, using Kenneth Valentine’s Secret Service experience to argue against fear-based decision-making and to explain how political shootings could be prevented through stronger perimeters, environmental “manipulations,” and tighter venue security. He also pivots to protecting children from sex trafficking and online exploitation, citing increased reports during COVID.
Guest background
Kenneth (Ken) Valentine is a retired American Secret Service agent who served full-time with three sitting U.S. presidents. He later worked on child protection policy, helping write the Adam Walsh Child Protection and Safety Act, and now supports the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children and Alabama’s Well House (restoring recovered women and girls).
Key claims
Fear-based leadership causes bad decisions; preparation meets opportunity; the Trump shooting prevention failed at the “prevention” stage (perimeter/buffer and vetting); targeted shots should be made impossible by redesigning barriers and sightlines.
Notable examples
9/11; Reagan assassination attempt (Valentine was in junior high); President Bush becoming ill during an outing; Trump assassination attempt (Valentine proposes multiple prevention fixes); Elizabeth Smart’s recovery and the Adam Walsh Act; COVID-era rise in online child exploitation via gaming/DMs.
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Chapters
Tap a time to open that second in VOUnderstanding Leadership Challenges
0:45 to 2:10
Kenneth discusses his experience in leadership and the importance of decision-making.
“Kenneth Valentine, thanks for being here.”
Staying Sharp in Crisis Situations
2:10 to 3:40
Kenneth shares stories from his time with three U.S. presidents and the challenges faced.
“I love that title and that notion of staying sharp.”
Silent Acts of Heroism
3:40 to 5:00
A discussion on quiet heroism and the unsung bravery witnessed by Kenneth.
“And so what I love to say is that preparation meets opportunity.”
The Weight of Responsibility
5:00 to 6:50
Kenneth describes the pressure of ensuring the safety of the president and the nation.
“And I actually had trouble hearing you when you were talking when you gave that quote.”
Path to the Secret Service
6:50 to 10:10
Kenneth recounts his journey to becoming a Secret Service agent and his motivations.
“So if we can avoid that, if we can divert from that kind of action, then we'll do it every time.”
Reflections on a Failed Attempt
10:10 to 13:00
Kenneth discusses the assassination attempt on President Trump and what went wrong.
“I mean, the, the, the, all the, all the preparation failed that day.”
Preventing Future Attacks
13:00 to 14:00
Kenneth shares insights on how security measures could improve to prevent future threats.
“They did a great job of covering especially.”
Establishing Security Perimeters
14:00 to 16:54
Learn how to create effective security measures for public events.
“And so you can have things that are close up that would help prevent that shot from being taken and then things far away.”
The Importance of Critical Thinking
16:54 to 19:20
Understand the role of critical thinking in high-stakes environments.
“I mean, it is so integral and important to what we do.”
Leadership and Direction vs. Perfection
19:20 to 24:41
Discover the philosophy of leading with direction rather than striving for perfection.
“And if, you know, the president's going to London, we send an advance team.”
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Myths about the Secret Service
24:41 to 27:03
Debunk common misconceptions about the Secret Service's role and function.
“You know, you just keep moving in that direction.”
Lessons from Leadership Experience
27:03 to 28:00
Explore how different leadership styles can impact decision-making.
“Are there anything from a leadership standpoint that have just completely changed when it comes to your viewpoint or your opinion that you once used to believe something and then it's kind of switched the other way?”
The Dangers of Fear-Based Leadership
28:00 to 29:12
Learn about the negative impact of fear on leadership decisions and followers.
“I mean, of course there's two animals, isn't it?”
Personal Story: From Fear to Faith
29:12 to 35:01
Explore a personal anecdote about a pivotal decision influenced by fear and faith.
“So I guess if you were to look back on your life, what advice would you give them and what stories would you tell them?”
Growing Through Hardship
35:01 to 37:25
Understand how challenges can lead to personal growth and perspective shifts.
“But I was, I was filled with fear on the front end.”
Transitioning from Secret Service to Child Protection
37:25 to 41:41
Discover the journey from protecting presidents to advocating for children and trafficking survivors.
“I want to make sure I've got this right in my research.”
Legislative Changes in Child Protection
41:41 to 42:06
Learn about efforts to reform laws for better protection against sex offenders.
Kenneth's Transition to Local Advocacy
42:06 to 43:15
Learn about Kenneth's work with local organizations to combat child exploitation.
“the Secret Service, John Walsh, never forgot, I think, the effort to put that bill together and to get it signed into law.”
The Growing Crisis of Child Exploitation
43:16 to 44:27
Discover the alarming increase in child exploitation during the COVID-19 pandemic.
“It feels like you've lived a million lifetimes in one and there's probably like loads left to do.”
The Urgency of Addressing Child Safety
44:28 to 46:08
Kenneth emphasizes the critical need to take action against child exploitation.
“but they're wandering into areas unknown.”
Connecting with Kenneth
46:09 to 46:55
Find out how to follow Kenneth's mission and connect with him online.
“If people want to follow up and follow you on your mission and get in contact and do all those wonderful things, where can people find you?”
Transcript
Automatic transcript. May contain errors.0:00Kenneth Valentine:I served full-time with three sitting U.S. presidents, so it might give you a little bit of a pucker factor. There is a lot of quiet heroism that happens all over the world. Lots of opportunities to just keep the president safe. Fear-based leadership is the biggest sin. If you're making decisions that because you're afraid, I'm going to go left because I'm afraid of what will happen if I go right, well, that's probably going to be a bad decision. So President Trump, there was an attempt on him. it almost feels like you're watching a movie from the outside, that that's something that can still happen.
0:34Kenneth Valentine:You know, I think if my wife and I had not had that conversation, if I had just kind of gone under my own wisdom here, and I think when my boss called and said, hey, they're asking for you on the president's detail, what do you think? I think I'd have said no.
0:53Kenneth Valentine, thanks for being here.
0:56Kenneth Valentine:Yes, sir. Proud to be on your show. Yeah, I'm really, really excited for this. And loads and loads to talk about. We always start our podcast off the same way. So who are you and what problem do you solve? Who am I? And you want a truthful answer, I assume. Oh, yeah. The most truthful. Who am I? Yeah, yeah. Well, my name is Ken Valentine, and I'm an American citizen and a retired Secret Service agent. And the problem that I solve is really leadership problems. And that, you know, I'm trying to take the education, the training, the experience that I have. And I really want to just help people apply it to their lives and answer the question of what now?
1:37Kenneth Valentine:Well, where am I going? What am I doing? And why? And I love helping people with that. Beautiful. OK, so let's imagine then that what you do, you are a doctor for what you do. If someone's listening to this, what symptoms they need to have to make you a good doctor? Yeah. Well, the symptoms that I would be most likely and helpful to address would be, hey, what's the best approach to solving this problem? And how do I best set myself up for success going forward? so Kenneth I've really been looking forward to this one because I feel like you're going to have a million and one stories to share with us in the audience so you've stood next to presidents during some of the world's most dangerous moments I guess can you think of a situation where everything almost went sideways and how did you stay sharp in that chaos yeah well funny you you mentioned Staying Sharp, which is the title of my second book.
2:36Kenneth Valentine:So I can't let that go. I love that title and that notion of staying sharp. And yeah, I served full time with three sitting U.S. presidents and was there for a lot of interesting times and, you know, a few situations that, you know, might give you a little bit of a pucker factor. But, you know, most of the time it wasn't, hey, we've got an incoming missile, which way do we run? You know, I mean, it was never quite that much of a screaming, you know, kind of situation, but it tended to be the little things that would get us tripped up. You know, it would be the bad weather call where the helicopter can't fly.
3:20Kenneth Valentine:And so now what do we do? You know, we always have a contingency in mind, but, you know, we probably weren't planning on using that. Or, you know, I remember we were out with President Bush and all of a sudden he's just sick, you know, he's throwing up sick. And so now what are you going to do? And so what I love to say is that preparation meets opportunity. And if you prepare well, when opportunity comes, you'd be ready for it. And I think that's true in life. That's true in the secret service it's true probably in in a lot of professions that you know you you we all have idle time um we all have time that we're going to dedicate to our craft whatever it is but if you're diligent about that and you prepare for these things ahead of time think through these things and and do the work of of setting yourself up for success success tends to follow nice when When we were doing our research, we heard you once said real heroism isn't loud.
4:28So when you look back on your whole career, can you think of any of those silent moments of bravery that you might have witnessed?
4:37Kenneth Valentine:Wow, that's a great question. And of course, I don't remember saying that, but that's a good quote. I'll take it. You know, 9-11 certainly comes to mind. And there there have been other situations where where we had to make decisions and we had to act that don't get reported in the news, that don't make the headlines. And and, you know, you you end your shift of work or your your trip, wherever it might have been to and and think back on it and think, you know, that that could have gone a different direction. And it didn't, thankfully. But there have been a few like that. And I actually had trouble hearing you when you were talking when you gave that quote.
5:23Kenneth Valentine:But there's a there is a lot of quiet heroism that happens all over the world. And, you know, whether it's, you know, feeding the poor and the homeless, I think those kind of people are are heroes in a way. And then, you know, there are men and women that do heroic acts all the time that just aren't recorded, aren't heralded, you know, foster parents and, you know, people who are taking care of the sick, the aged, the, you know, all these people that are helpless otherwise. Talk about heroic. I mean, to me, that's real heroics. But in the Secret Service, we had lots of opportunities to just keep the president safe.
6:04Kenneth Valentine:And that was the name of the game is, is you've got to keep the president breathing and living in order to do the job that they've been elected to do. And so failure to do that would, would let down an entire country who are counting on you to do that. And so there were times where, you know, you got that pucker factor up and, you know, you kind of wondered, is it going to happen today? Is it going to happen now? And we would make decisions that would take us down a path that led to us not having to engage an enemy or, you know, not having to endure, you know, some kind of hardship that we didn't want to endure.
6:46Kenneth Valentine:Because trust me, we would much rather not fight than fight. We would much rather live to fight another day and not today. So if we can avoid that, if we can divert from that kind of action, then we'll do it every time. Kenneth, is the Secret Service something that you got into your career thinking, okay, these are the steps to get me there? Or is it something where you're kind of plucked from obscurity a little bit and someone saw something in you and selected you and kind of guided you down that route? How do you end up there? Yeah, that is a unique answer for everyone, I think, who's gone into that kind of service.
7:26Kenneth Valentine:And for me, it was a little bit of maybe both of what you described. I think I had a family history of service in law enforcement. And so my dad and my uncle were FBI agents. So I had that in my bloodstream, but the Kennedy assassination in the books and all the things out there that I read and saw had an impact on me. And then the Reagan assassination attempt had a big impact on me. I was in junior high school and we got on the bus the day of the Reagan assassination attempt. And and our bus driver played the the live radio broadcast of of what was happening for us and and told us what had happened.
8:08Kenneth Valentine:And somebody on the bus cheered, you know, and I just remember that thinking, how do you cheer for, you know, someone being shot? And it just it kind of fired me up on the inside to say that that shouldn't happen. And so I followed that, you know, the Reagan thing very closely. He went to the hospital. He had surgery. His fever spiked. I mean, he almost didn't make it. And I think as I grew and matured, my my dad really pushed me away from the FBI. I mean, he he was right. He was trying to push me away from law enforcement as a career. I remember at one point he said, well, I don't want you to do what I did.
8:48Kenneth Valentine:I want you to go be a success, you know. And so that was fatherly advice trying to push me in a different direction. But it just didn't leave my system. And when, you know, when I was of age and still pursuing this stuff, I think he got behind that effort at some point. But he had worked with some Secret Service agents and really liked the culture there. There's a big difference in Secret Service culture and other federal law enforcement agencies. And so he he pushed me toward people that he liked. And I think that was that was a good push. That was pretty wise. Nice. And then that's probably a nice natural thing to get your opinion on now.
9:25So President Trump, there was an attempt on on him, which is quite shocking, I think, for the rest of the probably for you as well in America. but it almost feels like you're watching a movie from the outside, that that's something that can still happen. So I imagine you're kind of nothing to do with that world anymore, but looking at that from the outside, what do you think went wrong in a way that that's still something that's possible in the modern world?
9:53Kenneth Valentine:Yeah, I tell you, that really made me angry because that, you know, there's nothing else you can say about that except that's an utter failure. Um, they, they managed to keep him alive, but it really wasn't their effort that kept him alive so much as, as, you know, a little wind or, you know, an unlucky shot by the guy. I mean, the, the, the, all the, all the preparation failed that day. And, and so I, I remember the day very well because I was in my mother's hospital room. She was about to have open heart surgery. And, and when I started getting messages on my phone, text messages saying, did you see that?
10:32Kenneth Valentine:Did you see that I really didn't believe that it was real. And so I've been criticized because I, I've, I've said publicly, my next thing was to, to take the TV away from the other person in the hospital room and turn it to a news channel and see if it's, if that's what they're reporting, because I just didn't trust the internet at that point for some reason. And I know that's almost counterintuitive because that's where most people get their, their information now, but I'm still kind of old school. And I was like, if it's not on a major news thing, I'm just not sure if I trust that still. And, and so I turned it to a news station.
11:09Kenneth Valentine:Sure enough, that's what, you know, it was real. There was video. I assumed that I assumed that it was a handgun from someone in the crowd and that they, you know, somehow someone with a handgun had slipped through the crowd and got a closeup shot. I mean, not in my wildest dreams did I imagine that, you know, a long range shooter had gotten a shot off at, at, at the former president. And so I've been very critical of the secret service of my former friend, you know, the director that, that, you know, wanted to assign blame possibly to anyone except the secret service. But in my opinion, when you've been given the mission and the privilege and the responsibility for keeping someone safe and they leave the stage bleeding from a gunshot wound and you failed, I mean, that that is just that's bedrock fact and truth right there that that you failed in that mission to keep them safe because now they're bleeding from a gunshot wound that should have never happened.
12:08Kenneth Valentine:And, you know, my goodness, and I've I've been very public and vocal about this. I can come up with about seven ways to have prevented that, that, that any secret service agent who's being diligent and following the protocol would have come up with that, that would have, could have, should have prevented that. And we should never have seen that. I think this would be fascinating for the, for the listeners. So just to see how your mind works. So how would, if you, if you were there when that happened or pre that, how would, how would you have prevented the assassination on Donald Trump? Yeah. Well, like I said, I came up with about seven ways that I think we could have done it.
12:48Kenneth Valentine:And I do want to be clear that the team that was with Trump, the traveling shift, we call them the shift that was with President Trump, they did a phenomenal job reacting. But, you know, our job once bullets are flying is to cover and evacuate. And they did a great job. They did a great job of covering especially. The evacuation was hampered because the stage was built with an approved, you know, handrail going downstairs. Well, it's only wide enough for one person. So, you know, they they're trying to leave the stage and they come up upon this, you know, approved, you know, OSHA standards approved thing.
13:32Kenneth Valentine:And it's like, no, that that should have been out of there. They should have had a nice wide stairwell to go down to get to the ground. And so you see you saw people jumping off the stage because there wasn't room for everyone to go down the stairs. They had to go one at a time. So that was a bit of a mess, but lesson learned, hopefully. but the prevention aspect is what you asked about Jack and and that's the most important part and that's the part we failed at and so hey we put we we get very creative uh when when the staff says we're going to build a stage right here in this field and it's going to be this high and we're going to put a podium on there and it's going to be this wide well then we start finding ways to prevent a shooter from being able to take a shot at that.
14:17Kenneth Valentine:And so you can have things that are close up that would help prevent that shot from being taken and then things far away. But in between, you've got a perimeter. And inside that perimeter, everyone has got to be clean. Everyone's got to go through a magnetometer. Everyone's got to be thoroughly, you know, vetted from being able to bring in weapons. And it seemed to me like there wasn't much of a of a perimeter established there. Uh, still not sure if he was inside or outside, whatever perimeter they seem to have established, but the, my, I can tell you my initial assessment was since we had counter sniper secret service, counter sniper, uh, officers on rooftops that they had done a full advance that they had a robust perimeter and then a buffer outside that perimeter that no one was allowed to get in and that, that they're looking way beyond the building where the shooter actually got the shots off because that should have been out of play.
15:16Kenneth Valentine:It should have, there should have been allowed no access to that area. That should have been a, a kind of like a no fly zone, you know, no pedestrians in there, no, no people in there should have all been law enforcement. You know, in addition to a robust perimeter, an enforced perimeter and a buffer zone. Look, there are plenty of times, plenty of events where we didn't, we had long range threats that we could not adequately neutralize without bringing in, you know, 50 sniper teams. And we just, we don't have 50 sniper teams. So, so what do you do? You get very creative. We'll park a school bus on that side.
15:58Kenneth Valentine:We'll put boxes on top of that. We'll put an American flag, you know, a big, you know, or a big, you know, some kind of political flag up there, move the stands and put people there as, as barriers, because what you're trying to do is not just stop someone from shooting, but so we really want to stop someone from getting a targeted shot off. And, and this kid was able to crawl onto a rooftop within an easy shot from our protectee, unbothered at all. You know, I mean, nobody even approached him, confronted him, searched him, nothing. And then he was able to get a targeted shot off. I mean, he did his very best.
16:40Kenneth Valentine:No doubt he had some kind of scope on that rifle and he was aiming at Trump's head. The president turned his head at just the right moment and escaped serious injury or death. But he was able to target that shot and that should never ever happen and what he should have been looking at was the back of a of a of a box truck container or a flag so that maybe you can get off shots but they're not targeted you know you you spray and pray uh and we can we can deal with you then but but not a targeted shot and that's what he got and it's really unacceptable i find it so fascinating to to listen to kenneth um it got me thinking in in 2025 a lot of people are outsourcing their thinking to ai so what what i heard you thinking about there was like critical thinking and thinking outside of the box so when you were part of the the secret service how how did you apply critical thinking on a daily basis to to kind of come up with these ideas well it critical thinking is critical, right?
17:47Kenneth Valentine:I mean, it is so integral and important to what we do. And, you know, the Secret Service, just like any other, I think, business organization or a company, there's a ratcheting up kind of system. And so you start at the very bottom, tagging along with senior agents, learning your craft, seeing things you've never seen before, and then having to make decisions about things that you've never even thought of before. And you go through a training academy that that tries to get you thinking along those lines. But you can't you can't read in a book how to protect the president at every venue. You know, I mean, it just doesn't work that way.
18:35Kenneth Valentine:They're there. Every single one of them is different. And so that critical thinking comes with experience. I think the requirement is there. The scenarios are going to change. But once you've developed the ability to think, well, here's my goal. How do I accomplish that in this environment? I'll never forget the first time I heard someone use the term environmental manipulations. And that's what we're doing. We're changing the environment to take away the advantage from the bad guys and give it to us. And that critical thinking is is developed, I think, you know, you've all we've all got the muscle in our in our system, but it gets developed over time and experience.
19:19Kenneth Valentine:And so I would say and we you start with kind of the basics of of an advance. And if, you know, the president's going to London, we send an advance team. And if you get included in that advance team because you've risen to that level, even then you're going to start with the simplest advance, you know, the simplest part of that advance that we have and build your way up to be in the advance agent in charge of that advance team. And that agent should have a lot of tools in their toolbox from, you know, critical thought processes and, you know, really should be on their game as far as, you know, what no curveball should be, you know, raise eyebrows at that point because you've been through enough to know that we can get this done.
20:10Kenneth Valentine:And we just have to be creative about it. We have to to do the environmental manipulations. We need to get people on board with with what we're thinking and make the changes necessary so that so that the story at the end of the day is not about a shooter getting a shot off at the president. But it's about, you know, what what these two countries are trying to do together or what the you know, what the president wanted to do. We always wanted the story to be about the president and not about us. And so we were always trying to set it up to where it just looked like it was easy. So I've done a lot of traveling around the US and I was I'm always quite struck by the different states almost feel like different countries.
20:55Right. So California feels very different than Texas. It feels like you're in a totally different country, which obviously for me, living on a little island in Europe, it can be quite strange. And what I'm struck by is having a president, so a leader of the entire country, almost feels like an impossible job to really kind of unite all those different states together. So what have you learned about what can be implemented to become a leader of all those different states, even when they've got kind of opposing ideas or there's kind of friction points? Yeah, well, I think you're right.
21:30Kenneth Valentine:I mean, you really hit the nail on the head. And and even going back to our country's founding, I don't I think the you know, as much as we would love to have 100 percent agreement on things, you're just never going to have that. And so I think they the the they've used that as a tool for good in some ways. I mean, you try to get a law passed through the U.S. Congress, it's nearly impossible. And it was designed to be nearly impossible because you brought in people from vastly different parts of the country. Even within a state, you might represent a more agricultural group of people versus an urban group of people in a city.
22:14Kenneth Valentine:And so, yeah, you have competing interests. You have different goals. I worked on Capitol Hill as a as a fellowship kind of thing. And and man, I was blown away at how complex all of that really is. And so I my assumption going in was this is like chess. You know, this is a this is a chess match. And I walked away saying this is a chess match in 3D. I mean, because they're thinking about things that that, you know, most people just don't think about. They're having to think three degrees deep on what they're doing on the surface. And so, you know, you asked about how do you how do you maybe garner that consensus?
22:58Kenneth Valentine:How do you, you know, take into account such diversity of thought and and all of that? And my answer to that is that I think in a micro way, we we do the same thing. I have five kids. I'm trying to lead a family that includes my my partner, best friend, my wife. And then these five kids are all so different. And what we have decided and what I kind of gained, even from the Secret Service, is that direction beats perfection. And so I that's what I said in my first book. I believe that with all my heart. In fact, I kind of need that to be true because I am not perfect and nothing that I've ever done was perfect.
23:43Kenneth Valentine:I said one time people got on to me a little bit. I said, even the best Secret Service advance is not perfect. And I, well, you can't say that. I'm like, no, that's the truth. I mean, there's no advance that we ever did that we came back and did a, you know, we do a hot wash afterwards and say, nope, we couldn't have done any better. You know, you can always do better. And so I, you know, I think about a president, what an impossible job to try to lead a consensus of people across time and space and such vastly different people groups across this country. And, you know, if I was the president, I would I would hope that that is true, that it is about direction and not perfection.
24:25Kenneth Valentine:And if you stop and try to nitpick and be perfect or worry about perfection, it's going to slow you down. And so I prefer to say, you know, head up, look towards your goal and move in that direction. And as long as you stay moving, as long as you know your goal and know why you're headed in that direction, then let the let the crap of life flow by and don't worry about it. You know, you just keep moving in that direction. Just keep taking those steps forward. And and I think that gets you to, you know, where you set out to be in the first place. Now, if you've got a terrible goal, that's your problem.
25:03Kenneth Valentine:But I think, you know, certainly politicians and dads and, you know, people who lead companies and all this, you know, perfection is the goal, but direction is the test. I really like that. Direction, not perfection. I'm going to be sharing that with my wife. I've got four children, so I'm catching you up. Oh, strong. I'm trying my best. yeah um what what do you think are the i mean you must have had this so much at barbecues and dinners and all sorts of what do you think are the top myths that come up that you're constantly saying it doesn't quite work like that behind closed doors uh you mean within the secret service yeah you know the the the greatest myth is that uh that the secret service some kind of spy agency and, um, you know, that we're, we're, we're doing any kind of intelligence work.
25:55Kenneth Valentine:And I, and I don't want to say we're not intelligent, but intelligence is, is very different. And the secret service, uh, the American secret service is just a knuckle dragon law enforcement agency. And I love it. I mean, that's, that's what I signed up for. I, um, the, the, the closest, the only part of our job that was intelligence based was the consuming of intelligence. You know, we would take it, but we didn't gather it. You know, we're just trying to get a job done. And we lock up bad guys within the U.S. for financial crime violations or, you know, threatening the president. But our, you know, and then our bigger mission is protecting those presidents.
26:38Kenneth Valentine:But a lot of people assume or think that it's some kind of spy agency and they confuse the CIA with the Secret Service or FBI. And it's like, no, we're just a little bitty protection agency that also does criminal investigations. And so that's the biggest, I guess, myth is that we're some sort of intel agency. You must have seen so many things throughout your career. Are there anything from a leadership standpoint that have just completely changed when it comes to your viewpoint or your opinion that you once used to believe something and then it's kind of switched the other way? You know, I saw a lot of terrific leadership within the Secret Service and could point out and name some great leaders that I had over the years.
27:25And, you know, each leader,
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27:30Kenneth Valentine:you know, you beg, borrow and steal from different things that you see in different people. I said in my first book, leadership is about a person. And, and that person ultimately is you because you, you have to lead, you get to lead. And at the end of the day, every single person has to lead one person and that's yourself. So, but the, the funny thing is when I, when I think about that and my, my knee jerk answer to your question is that, yeah, and it came from seeing leadership that wasn't good. And what, what was that? You know, what, what was that? Well, to me, fear-based leadership is the, is the biggest sin because when, when leaders lean into fear, you, you can't make a good decision and you, you end up turning your, your followers into sheep that are just, you know, sitting ducks.
28:26Kenneth Valentine:I mean, of course there's two animals, isn't it? In one analogy, sheep and ducks, but fear-based leadership is a big loser to me because if you are fearful in your leadership or you're making decisions based on what you fear, you're going to make bad decisions. And I think we, we have to set ourselves up for success. You have to look to your goals. You have to look beyond perfection and, and beyond the fear. And if you, if you're making decisions that because you're afraid, you know, I'm going to go left because I'm afraid of of what will happen if I go right. Well, that's probably going to be a bad decision.
29:06So fear is a really interesting one. And I'm sure there's people listening to this podcast that are not living the life that they want to because fear is holding them hostage. So I guess if you were to look back on your life, what advice would you give them and what stories would you tell them?
29:26Kenneth Valentine:Well, the, the, the, the crux, the, the nucleus of my first book was, and that first book was called cheating death because I, and it ended up being a kind of a bigger thing, but the nucleus was about a decision that I was about to make that my wife steered me clear of. And, and that was, and I'll just, I'll sort of paint the picture for you. We, I'd been in the Secret Service for three years and it was about time to make the decision about what I was going to do for my full-time protection assignment. So I was in Louisville, Kentucky, which was a new state for us. And so we had to decide, am I going to Washington, D.C.
30:09Kenneth Valentine:to be on the vice president or the president's detail? Or am I going to pick at the time you could you could request a former president. And so you had Jimmy Carter in Plains, Georgia, you had Ronald Reagan out in California, you had, I think Ford was still alive, and you had President, well, the older President Bush. And so, you know, in my wisdom, in my fear based thinking, I thought, well, I don't want to go to DC, it's a big city. uh we're we're kind of southern people you know we didn't Louisville Kentucky was the biggest place that we'd ever lived and we've got uh one little girl and now a little boy on the way and I just didn't I was afraid of moving my family to DC because it would the hardship you know I just thought it'd be a hardship you can't you know on a secret service agent salary DC is just not a great idea.
31:05Kenneth Valentine:You know, it's not going to be a big win. But I thought in my thinking, I thought Plains, Georgia might be a pretty good deal. And I could go to the Carter detail and have it made. You know, an agent's salary in Plains, Georgia goes a long way. And it's more family friendly. And so that was my thinking, was I'm afraid of what life is going to look like if I go to D.C. and submit, say, to the president's detail, vice president's detail. But I'm not afraid of going to the Carter detail. Maybe I'll just do that. And I thankfully told my wife what I was thinking. And she didn't say no. She just said, oh, that's too bad.
31:49Kenneth Valentine:I was kind of looking forward to going to D.C. Well, my wife grew up on a dirt road in the middle of nowhere. And I was assuming things for her that she wasn't assuming. And she was kind of excited about the idea of D.C. So I I mean, and and and I don't know where your listeners are coming from, but I I submitted that to prayer. I mean, I started praying about this because I was like, you know what? This is this above me. I can't make a good decision about this. I'm thinking I want to be the family guy and do right by the family. And I'm being pushed this way. And I remember I actually had a conversation with the head of the president's detail while I was, you know, thinking and praying about this.
32:33Kenneth Valentine:And so, you know, providential or not, I end up in Seattle on the midnight shift for President Clinton. And I was not on his detail. I was I was there as a support entity, kind of learning my craft. And midnight shift, I'm in the little command post room and it's early in the morning. It's like 530 in the morning or something. And President Clinton usually stayed out late and didn't get up early. But the head of Clinton's detail, a man named Don Flynn, came walking into the command post. And it's pretty quiet in there, but not anymore because he was already up and dressed and always immaculately dressed and chipper.
33:15Kenneth Valentine:And he takes a seat right next to me and gets up in my grill and says, what is your name and where are you from? And we started talking and it turns out we both lived in Indiana and played basketball and had a few people in common, actually. And so we talked through that a little bit. And then at one point he said, how long you been on the job and, you know, what are you thinking? And I told him, I said, I'm thinking Carter detail. And he said, why would you think that? And I said, well, you know, family, all this kind of stuff. He said, absolutely not. He said, you need to go to the president's detail.
33:53Kenneth Valentine:You need to come work for me. And do you have a business card? And I had one. I had one and I gave it to him. And the next thing I know, he's calling my boss saying I need him. And, you know, I think if my wife and I had not had that conversation, if if I had just kind of gone under my own wisdom here. And I think when my boss called and said, hey, they're asking for you on the president's detail. What do you think? I think I'd have said no. And thankfully, the conversation with the wife led to us praying about this together, being open to that possibility, took the fear out of it. And so now it you're you're I'm not I'm not dictating or or, you know, directing this thing.
34:42Kenneth Valentine:I'm just open. So I'm open to possibilities. I'm not going to manipulate the process, but whatever. let, you know, your will be done, God. I mean, I feel like I was kind of in that position and here I'm being asked for on the president's detail. We submitted to that. And, um, so that's my short winded story for, for that. But I was, I was filled with fear on the front end. I don't mind admitting that and, and, you know, confessing that. Um, but you know, kind of the, the process of collaborating with a wife and, and us, you know, prayerfully collaborating, um, changed that from fear to, uh, no fear open.
35:25Kenneth Valentine:And it, it worked out really well. In fact, I, it worked out so well. I ended up going back to DC three, a total of three times. And so we, you move in, you move out, you move in, you move in. So three times we went back to DC. Third time was a charm. We don't need to go back again, but, but no fear, you know, just take the fear out of it it feels like i mean we've known you less than an hour can but there's something in the different stories and different phases of your life where that thing around not needing things to be kind of neat and tidy and perfect and actually there's some growth in those moments if you're open to finding what the lesson is and what you're trying to be told it feels like that's been kind of a theme in your life do you know that's fair that's exactly right i think that That is the truth.
36:12Kenneth Valentine:And I think, you know, you so many times I think we we think we know the best way. And if we if we try to to manhandle that and manipulate that and dictate that, I think a lot of times things work out pretty well, but you might miss out on something that's even greater. And so even I was talking with a buddy this morning, even hardship, you know, you go through a period of great difficulty, whatever it might be. I think, you know, the perspective that I have now says don't don't fear that and don't shun it. Don't try to get around it. Go through it because it makes you stronger. It gives you different perspective.
36:58Kenneth Valentine:My wife went through breast cancer and I'm not saying we did it perfectly. You know, we made mistakes along the way, but but we came out the other end of that experience and she's fine, but better for it, stronger and greater perspective to help someone else who might be going through that. And it's now part of the fabric of our lives and it's what makes us who we are. And that's all good. I think it's good direction. Yeah, I love that. I want to make sure I've got this right in my research. So let's make sure I have. So you went from protecting presidents and then you moved into survivors of trafficking and missing children.
37:42Have I got that right of my research, Rob? Yeah. So how did that pivot happen? What was happening there?
37:50Kenneth Valentine:Yeah, that's a great question. And I'm glad you asked it. But in my mind, it's a short hop from protecting presidents to protecting kids and survivors of sex trafficking. But the truth is, the hop wasn't that easy. I took that fellowship on Capitol Hill. And I was such an idiot. I mean, I'm surrounded by all these brilliant lawyers who are going to go be somebody someday. A lot of them end up being members of Congress later. And I'm just the knuckle-dragging idiot that showed up up there as a Secret Service agent trying to figure things out. And long story short, I ended up meeting a guy who's pretty famous in the U.S.
38:36Kenneth Valentine:because his daughter had been abducted. And she was gone for nine months. Everyone who knew or thought they knew assumed that she was dead, that they might not ever find her body. And this guy stayed in the fight. His name's Ed Smart. His daughter was Elizabeth Smart. And she was recovered nine months later. She's OK. She'd been raped, you know, every day for nine months, probably, and very traumatic experience. but she got the help that she needed after being recovered and the family was restored. But Ed wanted to talk to somebody. And the senator that I was working for, Senator Hatch, was his senator from the state of Utah.
39:22Kenneth Valentine:So he's in Senator Hatch's office. It's recess. I'm the only one there because I don't know that we're supposed to take our holiday while the Senate's in recess. So, so I'm there, I'm the only one there. And so providential maybe again, but we start talking about laws in the U S regarding sex offenders. And it's, we were kind of coming at it from that vantage point, but with the guise of, of helping kids, really, I mean, if you, if we can lock up all the sex offenders, keep them away from kids, now we've helped kids. And, and so in the process of trying to write that, rewrite those laws and enact that legislation, we worked with the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children.
40:03Kenneth Valentine:And the engagement with them was tremendous because these people were like the Secret Service of, you know, kid protection. They are all about the mission, the mindset. They're like low-paid workers who have the greatest mission in the world. That's what they believe. And they go after it with their whole heart. So it was easy to work with them. I just found them very engaging and, and, um, very good at what they do. And so together we, we wrote, uh, the Adam Walsh child protection safety act, named it after, uh, John Walsh, who, uh, has a, had a show for many, many years called America's most wanted.
40:44Kenneth Valentine:And his son, Adam had been abducted and murdered in Florida. And they, they really started the national center for missing, exploited children out of the trunk of their car, because there was no one to help. There was nobody they could turn to, to say, Hey, my kid's missing. Can you help other than law enforcement and law enforcement at that time was really, uh, not that helpful, uh, uh, shameful to say, but they, their hands were tied a little bit because they needed, you know, before they could determine a kid that was missing, their time had to pass so they could say it's not a runaway and all this kind of stuff.
41:22Kenneth Valentine:So we changed all that and wrote laws that affected not only sex offenders, but states trying to up the game in terms of their looking after them, their reporting that they had to do with the state. And if they didn't want to abide by the state's rules than we required the states to make it a felony not to so that they couldn't just run from state to state with impunity because the the states wouldn't extradite on a on a misdemeanor and in most states it was a misdemeanor to not comply with your with your parole as a as a sex offender so we we tried to change that i think as i as i transitioned out of the Secret Service, John Walsh, never forgot, I think, the effort to put that bill together and to get it signed into law.
42:16Kenneth Valentine:And so he nominated me to be on the board of directors at the National Center for Missing Exploited Children. And so that engagement was good. We moved to Alabama, which is pretty far away from Washington, D.C. And so I kind of still had my nexus to D.C. through the, through the board, you know, at the national center, and I wanted something more close to home. And so I got involved in a group called the well house and they're on the, you know, kind of boots on the ground. The national center is a clearing house for information. They, they take in information tips, you know, millions of tips a year about sex offenders, about kids being exploited, kids missing, kids found.
42:55Kenneth Valentine:And, but the well house is a local effort to restore women and girls who've been recovered from sex trafficking. And so I feel like I have my local outlet and my national outlet for still doing that job of protecting because that's now part of my DNA is to protect. And so I enjoy both of those endeavors to try to help protect. It's incredibly impressive, Kenneth. It feels like you've lived a million lifetimes in one and there's probably like loads left to do. You do a few of these things. So I guess what's the one question that people never ask you?
43:42Kenneth Valentine:That question. I thought you might say that. Yeah. No. You know, I think going forward, we're going to have to decide what we want. You know, I, I, of course, I'm naturally thinking about now that we've, I've been talking about it for a minute, but the whole sex offenders and, and all this stuff, it has done nothing but get worse. So I, it's, it's, it's frustrating for me to see it get worse. I think COVID with a shutdown doubled the number of reports that the National Center was receiving about exploited children. And so I think sex offenders were having a heyday. They've got kids stuck at home who are on their computers because the schools required it, but they're wandering into areas unknown.
44:36Kenneth Valentine:Their parents are busy working from home on their computers all day long. And kids, you know, kids are curious. Kids are finding ways to communicate, to connect. These sex offenders can reach kids through gaming portals and things like that. And next thing you know, this kid who's been playing this game with someone they think is 15 years old, turns out it's a girl and they send a picture and it turns out it's a really cute girl who says, send me a picture of yourself and I'll send you one of me. And it's not a girl. it's not a cute girl for sure it's a 38 year old scumbag sitting in their mom's basement who's a sex predator and they're getting kids to send them photos that they shouldn't be sending and once they do that they scam them out of money uh they're they're causing suicides and look this is not getting any better and so i i you know i would appeal to to people everywhere to to say, Hey, we we've got to wake up to this because the, this is happening in your neighborhood.
45:44Kenneth Valentine:It's happening in your school district. Uh, it, it's happening to, to people that, you know, I guarantee you it's happening to people, you know, who have kids because it it's an epidemic. And if we don't, if we don't rally and get back in front of this thing, um, uh, you know, kids are just being impacted, uh, to the nth degree and, and we're, we're already behind. It's going to be hard to get back in front of that. Thank you so, so much, Kenneth. If people want to follow up and follow you on your mission and get in contact and do all those wonderful things, where can people find you? Yeah, I'm at, I'm at Kenneth Valentine.com and you can, internet search finds me pretty easily, but there's a couple of books out there that I've written and, and, And, but that website's kind of got, you know, most everything that they need to know about me.
46:39Kenneth Valentine:If they want to know anymore, I'd be glad to connect. Amazing. And I'm on social media too. I'm on LinkedIn and what, I don't know. My kids could tell you, Facebook, Facebook and Instagram. So I'm out there. Easy to find. All the links in the description of the episode. But thanks so much, Kenneth. That was incredible. Oh, I enjoyed talking with you guys. appreciate you having me on your show
From the publisher
In this episode of We Have A Meeting, we sit down with Kenneth Valentine, a former United States Secret Service agent who spent his career protecting Presidents, world leaders, and high-profile figures under constant threat. Kenneth pulls back the curtain on what really happens behind the scenes when it comes to assassination prevention, political shootings, and the split-second decisions that save lives.
From scanning crowds to understanding attacker psychology, Kenneth shares the methods, drills, and instincts that agents are trained to rely on. He also reveals the pressure, the adrenaline, and the unseen sacrifices that come with guarding some of the most powerful people on earth.
Whether you’re fascinated by history, leadership under pressure, or just want to understand how the Secret Service prepares for the unthinkable, this conversation is full of rare insights from someone who’s been on the frontline of national security.
⏱️ Topics Covered:
How Kenneth Valentine became a U.S. Secret Service agent
The tactics and training used to prevent political shootings
The psychology of an assassin – and how agents anticipate threats
Real stories from protecting Presidents and world leaders
Why the smallest details matter most in high-stakes security
Lessons in focus, discipline, and resilience that apply far beyond protection work
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