In short
James Ashford recounts building and scaling a software business (GoProposal) to sell, focusing on sales mindset, customer retention, “stop the leaking bucket,” and how to handle existential shocks (competitor moves, pricing/engagement-letter issues) while building a company “built to sell.”
Guest backgrounds
James Ashford is an entrepreneur/investor who helps other entrepreneurs navigate business challenges, especially those with children. He previously built a software business from scratch (no coding background; designed an app interface) and later became known for solving sales/pricing problems in the accounting industry.
Key claims
Sales is usually the #1 business problem and is often a mindset issue. Discounting trains customers to distrust and devalue services. “Bad clients” are trained by the sales process. A real business should grow without you. Retention should be prioritized over new customer acquisition.
Notable examples
A competitor’s governing-body alliance would cut 25% of customers; James reframed it (“where’s the gift”), created a new engagement-letter product (“Oversuite”), and launched it within a month. He built retention via rapid onboarding, “shock and awe” onboarding, and physical gifts. He negotiated acquisition after rejecting a “win-win” lead deal, and sold after reaching over £1M revenue.
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Chapters
Tap a time to open that second in VOThe Emotional Journey of Success
0:00 to 0:45
Explore the emotional implications of achieving business success.
“It's everything that you've been working towards.”
Facing Challenges as Entrepreneurs
0:45 to 1:40
Learn about the challenges entrepreneurs face and their personal impacts.
“grab a bucket and you crack on pull the car over side of the road on my hands and knees in tears I just got an email and that was it.”
The Entrepreneur's Dilemma
1:50 to 3:00
Discuss the unique struggles of entrepreneurs with families.
“You've got to focus on and make sure you don't mess them up.”
The Sales Process and Mindset
3:00 to 4:55
Understand how mindset affects the sales process in businesses.
“So if you've got two or three kids and a business, you've got three or four startups that all need your attention all the time.”
Training Clients for Success
4:55 to 8:15
Learn how to train clients to appreciate the value of services.
“What are you spotting there and what are the wins?”
Defining a True Business
8:15 to 10:40
Discover what constitutes a genuine business versus a job.
“If I've turned up to have a meeting with you, I don't want you sending me a proposal, close the play on Friday.”
The Journey to Tech Entrepreneurship
10:40 to 13:20
James shares his transition from consulting to starting a tech business.
“But even that definition is, for me, isn't strong enough because you actually need a business that not only runs without you, but grows without you.”
Building a Product from Scratch
13:20 to 14:00
Insights into developing a tech product and overcoming initial challenges.
The Journey of Building a Tech Business
14:00 to 15:36
Learn about the initial steps and challenges of starting a tech business from scratch.
“So the first versions of the app that I developed was actually a plugin for a WordPress website.”
From Solopreneur to Team Builder
16:06 to 18:15
Explore the transition from working solo to building a small team for business growth.
“Yeah, so I approached an external developer that I'd worked with for a few years, and then I was the team.”
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Customer Retention Strategies
18:15 to 23:20
Uncover effective strategies for retaining customers in a competitive market.
“It was like it'd just been a playground and I'd just been getting ready for this moment.”
Understanding the Accounting Industry
23:20 to 28:00
Gain insights into navigating and succeeding in the accounting software market.
“No idea I was going to get there, but I did believe we could do it.”
Understanding Profit Margins and Client Acquisition
28:00 to 29:22
Learn how profit margins affect client acquisition and the importance of clear communication.
“I'm going to probably get a math wrong here.”
Overcoming Business Sticking Points
29:22 to 30:29
Explore strategies to overcome revenue sticking points by focusing on personal growth and mindset.
“There's got to be bits along the way that we're, oh, shit, are we going to keep the lights on or those sort of moments that add to the story.”
Investing in Financial Functions for Success
30:29 to 33:16
Discover the importance of investing in finance functions to ensure business stability and growth.
“So the thing I want to have is to move beyond 18 grand.”
Adapting to Market Challenges and Finding Opportunities
33:16 to 36:28
Learn how to adapt to market changes and find new opportunities through creative problem-solving.
“So I'm going to have to get into the book.”
Building Relationships for Business Growth
36:28 to 40:06
Understand the value of building strong relationships in your industry for potential acquisitions.
“So I'll only do it for you if you update them and invest in them on a monthly basis.”
Negotiation and the Value of Your Business
40:06 to 42:00
Learn the art of negotiation and how to determine the value of your business during acquisition talks.
“And they knew what our profit margin was.”
The Decision to Sell: Insights from a Business Journey
42:00 to 44:30
James discusses the factors that led him to consider selling his business, including market conditions and personal uncertainties.
“So I found out who the M &A company was that they'd used to go through to sell that business.”
The Emotional Experience of Selling a Business
44:30 to 47:50
James reflects on the unexpected feelings of emptiness and loss after achieving his business goals.
Transitioning from Entrepreneur to Corporate Life
47:50 to 51:10
James shares his struggles with the shift from a fast-paced entrepreneurial environment to a slower corporate setting.
“Now, I had apples, and I was shit scared of losing them, having them stolen, some getting rotten, and I had no idea what the fuck to do with them.”
Breaking Down and Rebuilding: A Personal Journey
51:10 to 53:40
James recounts his breakdown post-sale and the healing journey that followed, emphasizing the importance of support.
“We don't have a medicine cupboard in our house.”
Lessons Learned: The Paradox of Success and Inadequacy
53:40 to 56:00
James discusses the conflicting feelings of inadequacy and ambition that many entrepreneurs face, and the importance of focus.
“of life so so looking back on that to use your question where was the gift it was all a gift and I wouldn't have wanted it to be any other way.”
The Entrepreneurial Dilemma
56:00 to 57:34
Explore the contrasting feelings of entrepreneurs regarding their potential and self-worth.
“that were trying to figure out what connects successful entrepreneurs together.”
Healing the Inner Child
57:34 to 1:00:09
Understand the concept of small t trauma and the importance of inner child healing.
“You were just a little brat and he shouted, he lashed out at you, whatever, right?”
Finding Gifts in Challenges
1:00:09 to 1:01:22
Learn how to shift your perspective on challenges to find growth opportunities.
Connecting with James Ashford
1:01:22 to 1:02:21
Discover how to reach out to James Ashford on social media platforms.
Transcript
Automatic transcript. May contain errors.0:00The money hits the bank account. Yeah. It's everything that you've been working towards. All your life. Yeah. I achieved everything I thought I'd ever wanted. It's not the payout. It's not the car. It's not the house. It's not the thing that you want. It's the feeling that you think the thing will bring. The figure we came up with was five million pounds. We're not in this to take part. We're in this to take over. So I'm like, I'm just going to take over this space, right? Our competitor did something that meant we were going to lose about 25 % of our customers within weeks. Where's the gift? Where's the gift in this?
0:28they can fuck off i'm not working with you now and they went okay well could we discuss buying you instead then my confidence hit an absolute all-time low and it got to the point where i had a full breakdown i'm from a rough mining village in south yorkshire if someone had told me they had a breakdown you'd say get a grip and get on with it i'm teaching that if you feel sick you grab a bucket and you crack on pull the car over side of the road on my hands and knees in tears I just got an email and that was it. It was like, thanks then. Just leave your laptop on the desk and you're out the door.
1:00These guys, they were trying to figure out what connects successful entrepreneurs together. What is the theme that connects them? They all wake up at 5am. They all have an ice bath first thing. They all super fit and they couldn't find anything. The connecting themes were... Ladies and gentlemen, if you're listening to this episode of We Have a Meeting, thank you so much for listening. But I have some bad news, but don't worry, don't switch us off just yet. Unfortunately, there were some technical errors. Somebody didn't plug one thing into another thing, which means the first 15 minutes of audio from this episode are, as we say in the industry, pretty crappy.
1:35But stick with it because after 15 minutes, it does get so much better. And it's an incredible episode. You do not want to miss it. I really hope you enjoy this one. James, welcome to the podcast. Thank you. Thank you for joining us. So we kick off the same way every single time big question who are you and what problem do you solve it's a good question there and i always struggle with that one except he's rather than saying who i am i can't tell people what i've done and that's i don't know if that's the right answer but i am an entrepreneur and what i do now is i invest in businesses and support and help other entrepreneurs to kind of navigate the challenges and the bullshit that's out there to ultimately get towards the goal that they want to do what was the second part of the question who are you what problem do you solve yeah so helping entrepreneurs i think specifically i've just naturally gravitated towards this whether it's the people i've been working with or not but entrepreneurs who have children because i just think that's the like you see all these gurus out there who talk about what is they're doing or grinding or working all these many hours a week they don't have kids just like shut the fuck up You have no right to tell me what to do when you're like, if you're raising kids and Daniel Priest has talked about this and gave me the language to understand this, which is if you've got babies or young children, they're startups as well.
2:55They're like your primary startups. You've got to focus on and make sure you don't mess them up. Right. And then you've got these business startups as well. So if you've got two or three kids and a business, you've got three or four startups that all need your attention all the time. So the businesses that you work with now, typically when they when they come to you or you get involved with them when you look at all the bullshit that they might be kind of feeding into or the problems that they're facing what what is like one that's just unanimous with all of them that they constantly come upon where so i built a software business and the way that came about was i was just solving the same problem for business after business which is very much aligned with what you guys do which is around the sales process So if a business can sell more, if they can empower more people on their team to sell, if they can close the deal faster, if they can shorten that process, if they can package more things up, charge more, sell more, raise the price, etc.
3:52That will solve most of the other problems in their business. If you bring it back to selling is nearly always the number one problem. And it's not always like a technical issue or a strategic issue. It's very often a mindset issue because we all have this baggage around sales. And so I was just solving this problem for business after business. And then eventually found my way into the accounting industry and solved the problem for them. And they thought they had it cracked. They thought they had it figured out. And this was like a firm of 13 staff with one partner. yet he was the only person that could price and sell the services and so I set a goal which is I'm going to help the most junior person the most junior member of this team to be able to price and sell the most complicated client you'll ever get within five minutes of them walking in the door so it's priced you're sold you're signed you produce proposal the engagement layer and you're at a point ready to save payment from them in in under five minutes wow so then take a certain
4:50James Ashford:And so the mindset as the barrier, that junior salesperson maybe having some reluctancy to do that. What are you spotting there and what are the wins? It's not normally the junior person. The junior members of the team will want to do it. It's normally like the business owner because they believe that they're the only person that can actually sell, that they're the only person that has the understanding of how to do it. And they may have a reluctance to sell. They may have the issue around that. you know especially you know i spotted this especially if their names above the door if they name their accountancy firm after themselves it creates a huge problem right because then if they try and sell to their client and the client says no because this is what the ultimate fear is the fear of rejection and so it's not just that they're rejecting your company they're rejecting you personally and all the triggering that that may cause so they have this deep fear of selling and they then project that onto the team but very often when i speak to the team so i say to 18 year old sound do you have an issue with selling to your client it's like no get out of my way i'm doing too much work for them as it is i should be charging more for them so they want to be able to do it so the analogy is is like you go to a restaurant you can walk up to any waiter or waitress and all of them can price and sell you the most complicated meal in that place to a complicated table whatever it is that you want there's no issue there's no emotion in it you're not no one kicks off and says i can't believe you've charged me this much for a bottle of champagne like if you don't want to spend that much you can have a prosecco right it's all there for you and but the way that most businesses work is not like that so accountancy firms typically if you look at the restaurant as an analogy it's like walking into a restaurant and saying have you got a menu and they're like no just like what did you have in the last place you went to well i have a burger and fries okay and they then go and pester the busiest person in the restaurant which is a head chef and say we've got someone out here wants a burger and fries what should we charge them and they're like well what do we charge the last person that came in this sounds absolutely crazy right it's exactly how it works in the county firm right and then they'll come out with the price well because no one's confident in it now i can say well it seems a bit much that can we drop the price or do i need to spend this much and now what happens is you lower the price because you want to win my business okay and maybe in this meeting i'm this initial sales meeting, I'm in control now, so it should have been a 45-minute meeting, but now we should run to an hour 15.
7:17And then six months down the line, you're pissed off with me as a client, and you say, this client doesn't respect what we do, he doesn't value what we do, doesn't appreciate our time and all this stuff. It's like, yeah, you train me how to do that when you have to get turned up, because you dropped your price, which proved to me that you don't value your services, and you gave me all this extra time for free, which proves to me that your time is in value. So I've got this big belief that good clients and bad clients don't exist. They're trained. And so one of the key parts of the sales process is not just to sell your services.
7:50It's to train me to become a good client. And very often when you look at the bad clients that you get, it's because you trained to be bad in the first place.
7:58James Ashford:So you solved that problem for one business and then thought, oh, I wonder if there's other businesses. How did that work? Yeah, so I was working kind of a business consultant at the time. well that's a bit of a bullshit name but that type of thing just like working with businesses that i knew and just solving this problem over and over again and i got into some big businesses that were turning over tens of millions even hundreds of millions i don't know quite how i got into these businesses but i did and so i would go in change some mindset make some cultural shifts implement some technology and a bit of a strategy remove friction from the process because very often friction will build up in a sales process and they don't even know where it's come from it's just that they've got this one client that turned out to be bad so they have this step in the way to make sure they don't get any more bad clients like that and then in doing so they punish every other client that comes on board right so all of a sudden over the years it gets layered up with friction and sometimes i just need someone to come in from the outside and say how would us cut through this i think it helps that i'm a really impatient person right i just want it now.
9:04If I've turned up to have a meeting with you, I don't want you sending me a proposal, close the play on Friday. I want to get the deal done because I'm off to do my next thing. And if you can't close the deal now and you're going to let me go because you're going to send me a proposal later, you've got kids. My kids are 14 and 15 and they're into every afterschool club, athletics, netball, football. If you let me walk out of that meeting and then you think you're going to call me and get this deal up when are you going to ring me when do you think i'm going to answer the phone right i've got all this shit going on so what you'll then do is assume that i'm not interested in signing up with you anymore or you assume you're too expensive i'm too much so you'll ring me up and drop the price or whatever it's got nothing to do that i've got life going on right so i'm really impatient i want things doing now and the other thing is i expect an incredible experience.
9:58The ultimate point of any system in a business, whether it's a sales system, a marketing system, whatever onboarding system, the ultimate level of systemization is to create an incredible experience. I want to be wowed throughout that process as well. So I was going to these businesses as an impatient person wanting an incredible experience and solving the problem for them, just doing it for business after business, met an accountancy firm, did it for them, didn't think anything more of it it was only when another accountancy firm had heard about it that contacted me and said how are they doing what they're doing that I just thought this is it this is what I've been looking for all along and I think up to that point everything that I thought was a business that I was starting wasn't really a business it was a job and most people if they're honest they don't have businesses they have jobs and this was the first time that this other accounting firm said can we have what you've done for them I thought this is it this is the business so let's just go off on like a little tangent before we get back into the story because I'm excited to see where this goes but most people think they have a business but they have a job yes well if I'm listening to this who am I what what does that actually mean so they have a job at best and a charity they're running a charity at worst is the life is the likelihood so for me the definition of a business is a profitable enterprise that runs without you and a lot of businesses run and they're just not profitable and very often it doesn't run without you at all but even to have a business that runs without you is still a very low bar which I'll come on to so a good test of this is could you go away for a month in your business and it runs entirely without you could you leave your phone at home go away for a month and know that everything will run smoothly could you go away for three months and do it Okay.
11:47But even that definition is, for me, isn't strong enough because you actually need a business that not only runs without you, but grows without you. Because if it just runs without you, nothing stays the same. It's either getting better or it's getting worse. So if you expect it to just run without you, it will be getting worse and it'll be declining. So ultimately it can't run without you for long. The true definition for me is, do you have a business that grows without you? Does it solve problems without you? Can it innovate without you? Can it recruit staff without you? Could it get rid of staff without you and do all of these things without you being there?
12:21So that for me is the definition of a business. Now, you may have a role in that business that you fulfill that role. So you have a job in it, but you've elected to have that job. So you may love marketing, right? So I kept all of the marketing in my business for a long time because I just love doing it. okay there was a point when I had to hand it over so I had a business but I had a job within that business but it was a decision very often people will have a job within their business that's not a decision it's because they think they're the only person that can do that thing and they've not figured out how to unpack their brain and to put a system in place because we don't no business should be reliant on any person a business should be reliant on systems and then the people should assistance but very often people think that yeah yeah but no one can do this and it's like yeah we can yeah but it might be multiple people like you might be so good at this one thing that we need three people to replace you but you have to start with a premise that yes other people can take this away from you so you've had this apple in the head moment yeah okay and i'm guessing that a lot of your finances was coming from like the consulting work you're doing so paint a picture where were you just before you were like right okay I'm gonna go all in on this idea finance finance wise or well just as a whole I guess yeah so we were just kind of as most people do live month to month and had enough money coming in to live a nice life couple of holidays and stuff but very very modest life um not from wealthy backgrounds at all my wife or I my wife was a nurse at the time so i was bringing like a few grand a month doing this job um and then had this idea for this tech to start this tech business i've never done a tech business before i don't know how to code or anything like that i can design my only kind of training is in product designs physical products but i know how to do interface design so i designed it up all the the app myself
14:22and I had this idea to do it cheaply. So I just hit on this idea. So the first versions of the app that I developed was actually a plugin for a WordPress website. So kind of had a bit of a pricing tool, a bit of a menu on their website and it worked like that. So I had this site, you know, WordPress websites, right? So there's two versions of a WordPress website. There's a conventional standalone WordPress website. Then there's a WordPress multi-site. and i had this idea that i thought the dna of a wordpress multi-site has the same dna as a software product in that it runs off a central database but it has separate secure installs that runs off that central database and also within wordpress you've got the concept of new users passwords like like the engine was already built so the way i kind of pictured it was like rather than building a software a sas business and going and building the engine and everything from scratch i've like gone to mercedes and said can i just take this car like this engine and everything and also will you maintain it for free forevermore for me as well perfect right i'll start with that and then we built the chassis on top for four grand so that was what it took to get above ground and start making money oh god i'm so tired i've just been talking to
15:36James Ashford:qualified prospects all day without any wait time how have you been doing it because i've been cold calling people on my mobile and I reckon I've spoke to one person. No, no, no. Stop that right now and use Nooks.ai. Why? What does Nooks do? It finds me the right people to call and it calls them and it connects with them over and over and over again. So you're saying it's Nooks.ai and I can just be speaking to qualified decision makers all the time? No other better connection, right? Wow. Nooks.ai. Where does the team come into it then? Because obviously so far it's just you. Yeah, so I approached an external developer that I'd worked with for a few years, and then I was the team.
16:16So I did everything else. So I did the marketing, the videos, the social media posts. I did the sales webinars, the sales calls. I did the onboarding, the client support. I just did everything, right? whilst kind of doing some consulting as well until I got to a point where that was making enough money for me to stop the other job. And that happened quite quickly. So the model I did, again, I mentioned Daniel Preece earlier, but I'd learned this model off him, which is you write a book before you launch the product and you build a waiting list before you launch the product. So I wrote the book, looked in the accounting space, launched a waiting list.
16:59So the book and my social post drove people back to a waiting list whilst the product was being built. So at the time of launch, within a month, I had 100 people signing up. And within 30 days, they were paying, I was up to 10 grand a month quite quickly from that initial launch. And so that was how I got above ground. But it was just me doing it. I got to a point where I could do a video, a social media video, film it, edit it. this is like before AI right so it feels like horse and cart stuff without AI right so I used to be able to film it edit it take the copy from it produce an email in my email nurturing sequence create a blog article on the website and a social media post and have it all live within an hour within 60 minutes from turning the camera on to everything being published and going just being really efficient um and so i i was doing everything to start with and then after like i think it was maybe a couple of months that's when i got my first employee to take all the client support
18:01James Ashford:and onboarding off me wow so you got just you and a developer yeah 100 clients yeah wow it's impressive yeah thank you pleasure it felt like everything i've been doing up to that point i'd like because i've been helping other businesses to solve all these problems of sales and marketing of doing video, of writing books. It was like it'd just been a playground and I'd just been getting ready for this moment. So the moment I saw this as an opportunity, all of my training just kicked in at once and I just went for it. Have you found anything then, that top of funnel piece, I mean, we talk about it a lot, but it feels like a lot of businesses go, I've kind of cracked that bit.
18:41James Ashford:It's keeping them around, like making sure they don't just go in with a competitor or leave us after three months or stop using the software after a certain amount of time? What have you found works in keeping them around? Yeah, sure. So if you look at the three ways to kind of generate revenue, so let's say, so bringing in new customers, selling more to existing customers and then retaining customers for longer. Like if you can hit those three things, you're going to really drive revenue. And what a lot of people do is they prioritize bringing in new customers, especially software businesses.
19:11Our priority was retaining existing customers always. It's always the main thing. If ever I go into a business now, the number one thing is stop the leaking bucket. Stop, you're trying to bring more customers in, but you're losing more customers than you're keeping. So fix the leaking bucket first, then let's start selling more to existing customers. And then let's start bringing new customers in. It just makes perfect sense, right? And so our priority was always the retention of existing customers by delivering, by trying to have the greatest impact we could have on them. in their business by deeply caring, by providing the most incredible levels of service and customer support beyond anything that I've seen in the software space.
19:53Like the whole thing from the moment you signed up with us, I just wanted to wow you. So for example, if you signed up for our, so it was proposal software in the accounting space. So you signed up, what our team would do is they would log into your app straight away. They'd go and grab the logo off your website and put it into the app for you. They'd get your brand colors and put those in. if they could get a testimonial off your website, they'd drop that in as well. Then they'd send you a proposal, ideally within like four hours of you signing up for the app. Then they'd ring you and say, hey, I'm just welcoming you to GoProposal, just making sure everything's cool.
20:28I've sent your first proposal over, like let's get you booked onto the first webinar. Then what we'd do is we'd package up what we called our shock and awe pack. So one of my key roles in the business was head of bullshit wanky names. So shock and awe pack was one of the names we came up with, right? And in that was an onboarding booklet that guided you through the journey of using the app and actually getting to what we call the golden moment. Had a golden ticket for our online community to kind of give a physicality and like a turn what was essentially a Facebook community and make it feel like a real thing with a Charlie and the Chocolate Factory style golden ticket.
21:04And then a signed copy of my book went in there as well. So picture this, you've signed up for an app, you've not put your card details in at all at this moment. but because our cost of acquisition because our marketing was so good our cost of acquisition was so low we just saw this as an extension of that that cost of acquisition we'd go and get your address off your website your office address and within three or four days of you signing up the app this gift this physical gift has turned up in the post like no no other software company was doing that wow so if i was sat with you after you've got to this you've all of this training kicked in you've got to your 10k a month which is as we know from bullshit gurus that is the golden land that's where everyone wants to be 10k a month is the promised land so you're there if I was speaking to that James now and I was saying like how much potential do you think this has what what would what would pass James be telling me yeah that's a really good question I felt it had real potential at that point and one of the things that we did at that point was I wanted to to bring my wife along the journey with us.
22:11So not, she wasn't gonna be involved with the business in any way, but I had a previous business that had failed and it failed because we didn't get the finances right. And we didn't have an aligned journey. So she didn't know why I was up late at night doing things and it caused some huge problems. So with this one, I saw the potential and I wanted to get my wife and I on the same page. So we did a financial planning exercise to figure out how much money we would need for the, if we sold this business for the rest of our lives. and the figure we came up with was five million pounds. So if we could sell this business for five million pounds, that would kind of ease the financial pressure off us for life and allow us to kick on with something else.
22:51So in terms of the potential I thought it had, that was as far as I could see. That was like as far up this mountain as I could look to where the clouds formed. I couldn't see beyond that. And so we kind of made some estimations as to what that could look like financially. and I think it was maybe like a million pound in revenue, in annual recurring revenue. So if we could get to that figure of a million pound annual recurring revenue, that was what we were going for. That's what I believed. No idea I was going to get there, but I did believe we could do it. So then when it comes to scaling and like the next steps, what did you have to bring into your wheelhouse that you weren't already doing to take it to the next level?
23:36Yeah, so one of the big challenges was that we were in the accounting industry and it's, as many industries, it's kind of a closed industry. Like if you're an outsider, like I'm not an accountant, like how on earth can you know what our problems are? So I had to crack the accounting industry and win it. And I love the Conor McGregor phrase, which is, we're not in this to take part, we're in this to take over. So I'm like, I'm just going to take over this space, right? So we had a couple of competitors. There was a company that had a bigger proposal, software company that had 76 million dollars of investment seven years head start there were kind of prominent authors in the space keynote speakers etc and I just thought I'm just going to come through the lot because I'm going to what I'm going to do is I'm going to understand the problem deeper than anyone else can understand it and the way I did that was I got closer to my market closer to the audience than anyone else was going to get so we're based in Manchester and the first accountancy firm that I solved this problem in what I did was I gave him 10 % of the software business in exchange for me getting 10 % of his accountancy firm so now I had an inside track into an accountancy firm it also meant I could stand on stage and say as the director of an accountancy what we do in our firm is this right I just had it for like a week but then what I did and this was just an accident but it worked so well was I didn't have any office space so I said to him have you got any office space i just need like a desk in the corner so i set up jack who was my first employee in the corner of the accountancy firm and again i think this was completely unique to us but just worked so well in that the the software company that served the accounting industry was born in an accountancy firm but it meant that when he was going for a coffee or having lunch whatever he was around accountants he was around the people that he was serving and so was i and so if we ever got a question about some bookkeeping thing that we didn't know the answer of we could just go reach across the desk and get the answer so it immersed us in in our market and then from there i just forged great relationships with the accountants and i would ring them every single day for the five years that we were growing to the point we sold i would ring an accountant every day for no reason not to sell them anything just an existing customer because they'd done a post in our community or because they'd like something or achieve something i'd just ring him see how they're getting on and through that and through my understanding of psychology and i say when i say psychology i mean like really basic psychology right but just understanding how humans work doesn't matter what industry is doesn't matter whether i'm outside of the accounting industry or not the human beings with hopes and dreams and fears fear of rejection and fear of all this shit that we're all dealing with right and so i just cut through all the crap and got to the the essence of what human beings are effectively and i think i was i was able to this is one of the big things if i can explain your problem to you better than you understand it yourself you now have to conclude that i know your solution better than you as well because you're like i never i never even thought about it like that i never even realized that that was the problem i was causing so like what i was on about earlier saying that all these clients that you've got, you're pissed off with because they don't value you, they don't value your time, they don't pay you enough.
27:01You've created that. You know you've created that. I'm like, never realized that before. And like, one of the big things was discounting. Everyone discounts, okay? Like if I've, let's say you're about to sign me up, maybe I'm a big client, okay, and it's going to be 550 quid a month for your accountancy firm. And I say, if you can do it for 495, I'll sign up. and you think, yeah, do you know what? I'll do you a favor. I'll sign you up. You cause so many problems by discounting because what happens is that client is happy that you've given them a discount. So they walk out of the office and they think, brilliant, I've got a discount.
27:39I'm buzzing, right? Great, really happy with this. They get to the car and they think, could I have got it for 450? And then by the time they go home, they think, if it was only worth 495, why didn't they charge them that in the first place? Why are they trying to rip me off? So now all trust has been broken. I'm pissed off with you deep down because you've done this, but you don't realize what you've done. Let's say you're an accounting firm and you, I'm going to probably get a math wrong here. You make 20 % profit. So on 550 pound a month client, you're making 110 pound profit. Well, you've just discounted me by 55 pounds.
28:17You've just halved your profit. it so you now need twice as many clients double the number of clients to make the same amount of money and i ate you in the first place i don't trust you so you've just created the worst scenario and this seems like basic stuff but no one was talking into this no one was explaining this to the accountants so i went on social media and explained this problem to them i went on stage and explained it we produced video content and so within a short space of time we were producing more videos than all of the other software providers combined. I was the highest, like the most, what's the number one influencer for a software vendor on LinkedIn.
29:00And I was the top rated speaker at every event that I spoke at. And that was all very intentional because I just spoke into a problem that no one else was talking into.
29:12James Ashford:Wow. So, so far, right, if I've got this as a script, I'm Steven Spielberg, I'm going, there's no friction here. I wasn't going to believe this. It's just all plain sailing. There's got to be bits along the way that we're, oh, shit, are we going to keep the lights on or those sort of moments that add to the story. What would you say those moments are? Yeah, constantly. So I live with a healthy amount of paranoia constantly, right? And I think most good entrepreneurs do. You're always thinking, where does this shit go wrong? Yeah. So I'm always kind of scanning the horizon for what difficulties we could encounter.
29:48just on a very practical level, just trying to grow the revenue monthly, we hit some sticking points. And I just remember certain numbers. I remember 18 grand was just a sticking point. We just couldn't get past 18 grand a month. Well, I would hit it and then just drop back, hit it. I was like, what the fuck? What is going on here, right? 53 grand was another amount that we just couldn't, just hit these sticking points. And I learned from a friend of mine, when this happens and we hit these sticking points in our business, we often think, what do I need to do? and it's not the right question. The right question is who do I now need to be?
30:22So if we can be this person, then we can do this thing and we can have the thing that we want. So the thing I want to have is to move beyond 18 grand. So therefore I need to do something different, but it starts with who do I need to be in this moment? What do I need to let go of? What understanding do I need to gain that I currently don't have right now or whatever it may be? and so when I started to learn to ask that question we started to move through these these challenges more more quickly um there are a couple of real sticky moments along the way like things that I think the big things were things that blindsided me that I just want like you plan for all this shit that can go wrong and then just something comes to smash you on the side of the head because we all have blind spots right and we I had a great a mentor in the business a non-exec who was fantastic in the board meetings with us that would really hold me to account with these blind spots.
31:17So I had a really good team around me. I had a fantastic financial team, not in the business, but we outsourced the entire finance function to the accountancy firm and invested heavily into it. People tend not to invest enough into the finance function. One of the things I learned is that you should be investing between 2 % and 4 % of your revenue into the finance function of your business, whether that's through people you employ direct or through an external team so that you've got full visibility, you know, all of your bookkeeping is reconciled on a weekly basis. You've got all the information that you need to be able to make informed decisions.
31:52So because I've had things to go wrong in the past, I think we got a lot of the things right. But a couple of things that went wrong, not wrong but could have really gone badly, was when people signed up for the app in the first instance, we gave them the difficulty that i saw in our competitors was you've got to build out your price list of services so you get this app that does it all but now stage one right what are your services that you've got and what do you want to charge for it i'm like i don't fucking know like this has been the issue they've had all along so what we gave them was the the list of services and prices from our accountancy firm that we were using and said well there you go that's a starting point go and figure it out from there so we did that for the first few months and then someone said how do you get around price fixing and um kind of monopoly emerges like this you monopolize in an industry you can't do that i'm like fuck can't you shit so looked into that and became really panicked that you can't be seen to be fit i didn't know that's what we were doing i just thought i was saying use this as a starting point and then so what we did was our response to that was I came up with a system that when we went into an accountancy firm I said right you are profitable you're just not consistently profitable so you do have a client that you're charging properly for and that's all really good and what I also concluded was there were three services that all the prices were based off which is bookkeeping that returns and I think it was annual accounts so if i knew what you charge that profitable client for those three services oh payroll was the one sorry book role bookkeeping payroll and annual accounts if i had those three services using this algorithm i developed i could figure out what all of your other services should be charged at that was completely unique to you so we developed this wizard so it changed our our marketing message it gave us an additional message to go with which is this idea that you are profitable you're just not consistently profitable which is really valuable and we developed this system that you went in you gave us your own prices from your business and within a minute it built you out this full pricing matrix so i've always had this question which is whenever something goes wrong or seemingly goes wrong it's to ask the question where is the gift there's always a gift in it even if you don't realize it and it's to look for that gift so another big thing that happened was um i don't it's just boring to get into the i'm not like i'm avoiding it but it's just a quite a boring subject but our competitor did something that meant we were going to lose about 25 of our customers within weeks and also it closed off 25 of our market moving forward and that was just going to be move one the next move it would cut it in half because of this alliance they had with a governing body.
34:48That was it. So I'm going to have to get into the book. I'll try and keep this not as boring as possible. When an accounting firm produces a proposal, they also have to produce an engagement letter and they get their engagement letter from their governing body. So there are various governing bodies out there. Our competitor did a deal with the number one governing body that meant that you had to use their product if you wanted their engagement letter. So it just cut us out. and it was just it was tuesday afternoon i've just got an email and a text off a client said have you seen what they've done what no what's this and i read it and i thought fuck that is so good such a good move uh and i wasn't sure if it was even legal to to have been done and it's so easy to then got caught up in that you could have i could have expelled so much energy like pursuing them or wasting cash or whatever and they'd have beat me because they had deeper pockets than me and people don't talk about this in business enough which is preservation of energy they talk about money a lot and they'll talk about time management but people don't talk about energy and so much energy can get can be lost one of the big ones is like if you've got a bad member of staff like you will just burn through so much energy around that member of staff everyone you talk to you'll you'll expel more and more energy with that you know and so i didn't expel any energy in that direction and after a couple of hours of calming down i just said to myself where's the gift where's the gift in this and i started to smile and said there's got to be a gift in this there has to be a gift so i started asking questions and the conclusion i got to was why do accountants need to go to their governing body to get an engagement letter who who wrote the engagement letters for the governing body like what they must come from somewhere and why can't we create our own and i just did this research and i found the person one person that had written all the engagement letters for all the governing bodies and it was through coven i contacted and i said have you written these and getting should yeah i said could you write them for us and should yeah on one condition you maintain that the health of them and you're developing them on a regular basis because we did this for these governing bodies years ago and they've never updated them since.
37:05So I'll only do it for you if you update them and invest in them on a monthly basis. I'm like, yeah, game on, let's go. So within three months of that issue happening, we developed our own engagement letter. I come up with a name for the product, which was called Oversuite. So I developed this whole new range of products, which was for our own engagement letter, ran a webinar, launched it. And within a month of launching that, I had that at 10 grand a month, beginning 10k a month as well so it launched a whole new product when we came to sell the business the revenue was stronger because of it we had a separate product that could potentially be as strong as the first one in its own rights the valuation of the business increased as well but all from asking that question of where is the gift could you then give us the
37:51James Ashford:the reality there of so you've developed that product and you've come to is it time to sell or is it more someone knocked on the door and said, you've done an amazing job here with that, let's grab that off you? How does the actual selling work? So we developed a lot of strong partnerships early on in the business. In fact, if I just wind it right back to when we first started the business, it was always built to sell. There's a great book by John Warrelo called Built to Sell. And it's the idea of building a business to sell very intentionally from day one. So I was building this business to sell.
38:23Every employee I got, I told them on day one, you are joining a business that will be sold you'll be looked after and on the way and you'll have a place in the business that acquires us but you understand then you're on this journey with us before we got any so the company was called go proposal and i kind of concluded that one of the companies that could buy us would either be zero sage quickbooks or receipt bank could be one of those they were the biggest players in the space so before we'd even got our first customer i got my logo and i wrote underneath a sage company a zero company a quickbooks company i printed it out and pinned it up as like to this idea of manifesting the future that you want people get confused in manifesting they think that manifesting is having a wish and sitting there and hum and getting there the definition of manifesting means to grab something firmly in the hands and to go after it so although i had this vision we then pursued it and one of the things we pursued was developing strong relationships with all of those companies.
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39:24So I spoke at all of their events. Because we had a real proximity to our market, I went and gave fireside chats to their sales teams and helped their sales teams to understand how to better sell. And I just went and met their leaders. And if my team were struggling with anything, I would encourage them to go and reach out to their equivalent in these far bigger companies to learn from them. And they were very kind and shared their learnings with us. So over the years, we've forged very close, strong relationships with all of our potential acquirers, which was half strategic and half luck, looking back on it, right?
40:00And then we were doing, it wasn't one of these companies, it was another company, but we were doing a deal with them where they were going to pass us a load of leads. And they knew what our profit margin was. And when they came back with the deal structure, they said they were going to create this win-win situation for us. They were a huge, huge company. and they came back and presented how they were going to pass the leads to us and what percentage of the sale they wanted for life and like that's not a win-win that's a massive win for you and we're going to lose money with this deal i'm not doing that and yeah okay well it's just a starting point let's negotiate i went no you can fuck off i'm not working with you now because we entered this discussion to create a win-win and you've just like you've ruined it so no i'm not prepared to discuss it with you at all.
40:44And they went, okay, well, could we discuss buying you instead then? I'm like, yeah. We could have that conversation. But it was just standing up for what I believed was right. And then we started that conversation with them. And then they threw me, because they then said, I remember this question. It's a naughty question by them. He said, how much do you want for the business then? I'm like, I don't know. And he went, how much would your wife accept for it? Like, fuck, that is the question. That is the real question. So I knew what the figure was that my wife would want me to accept this business, but I kept her mouth shut.
41:19And then we started a conversation with them. One of the key things that happened at that point, we got over a million pound in revenue. And I think the moment, especially a software business or any business really, gets over a million pound in revenue, you are serious at this point. You've had to jump through hoops. You have to have things in place. There have to be systems and processes. Your branding has to be right. Your marketing has to be right. Your sales has to be right. you have to have a good team in order to achieve that amount so we were considered to be serious at that point and then whether by luck or by judgment within a month of that conversation two of the companies approached us and started having conversations about potentially buying us and this was on the run up to christmas so we were starting to have conversations the numbers that were getting banded about were more than our goal of what we wanted to exit for so i'm like here we go we're in the ballpark and they all fizzled to nothing so i entered entered christmas on this like the start of december on this high and then hit hit christmas with all the conversations ended i mean i mean i hope i can ask a follow-up question ask well it's the new year what's happening i'm on the edge of my seat so don't leave us hanging so another business in our space that was of a similar size to us had been acquired and I kind of got wind as to what roughly an amount that might have been acquired for.
42:44So I found out who the M &A company was that they'd used to go through to sell that business. And I just thought maybe we are at the point to sell. One of the other things that was like, you think you've got, back to your question earlier, you think you've got everything right. You think you've figured it out. You think there's nothing else that's going to blindside you, but you don't know. You just don't know what could happen, right? There could be some technological advancement. You could have had a legal issue. You could lose staff. You could be hacked. Like there's so many unknowns in business.
43:19It's a constant panic. So my paranoia was maybe increasing. My team were asking me questions. We're up to that point. They're like, what should we do about this? And I'm like, right, what we should do is da-da-da-da. What we should do is this. They were starting to ask me questions and I didn't know the answers anymore. I'm like, we're going to have to go and ask someone else i don't i've winged it long enough i don't know what the answer is anymore let's go and find someone else so i was starting to get a little bit more uncertain with what we were doing um and i've seen this other company sell it was for a good amount and i just thought you know what maybe now is the right time we were still really excited about what we're doing had a great team we had a big roadmap of things we were doing still really passionate about it and the team were as well i thought the analogy i had is maybe we just need to put our best suit on and go and ask the girl to the prom like let's go and find the girls we could take to the prom let's get dressed up and let's go and ask them and if it doesn't if it fizzles to nothing as well not a problem we'll have learned something from the process and we'll just dig back in and try again in a couple of years time so went to this m &a company and said um do you think you could achieve something similar for us as you have done for the other company and they said yeah we think we can so we then engage those and then they take you on a a journey so for the first three or four months you're just paying them money to kind of knock your business into shape and what they do is they look at your business through the lens of an acquirer and all the questions that may be asked of your business um and they just ensure you like everything all the accounts are impeccable your tax situation every board meeting you've ever done like absolutely everything they go through and we were already in good shape but that we're in good shape for our business what they're preparing you for is for a plc to buy you and a plc is scrutinized to a far higher level so they're preparing you to withstand that level of scrutiny and that's what we did and then they took us to market we made a list of all the acquirers we thought would be interested in buying us and they approached them six of them wanted a management presentation so you go and sit in front of their board and you make a presentation to them and then two of them gave us an offer off the back of that wow so then we've sat with a few entrepreneurs that have sold businesses and it's all like mixed it's been mixed reviews in terms like the feeling so take us i imagine the the selling process from there is like lots of like hoops to jump through and bits like that you get to a point where the business is actually sold yes the money hits the bank account yeah it's everything that you've been working towards all your life yeah i'm imagining it's more or the same amount as the the money that you agreed that you wanted with your wife significantly more what's the feeling how does james feel in that situation absolutely no different and this was a big problem for me because we were told that we should be working towards these things that we should achieve wealth or we should have time or whatever it is that we're working towards um and so i achieved everything i thought i'd ever wanted and then and what i understood what i've been on a big journey since then is that it's not actually the thing that you want it's not the payout it's not the time it's not the car it's not the house it's not the thing that you want it's the feeling that you think the thing will bring and so i got the thing thought i would feel different woke up the next day felt exactly the same i'm like not like what was the point but what was the feeling that I thought that I thought needed to change like what what is what is this I was looking for Johnny Wilkinson talks about it in one of his podcasts where he like had played football rugby with his brother all his life and imagine kicking the the world cup winning goal playing with his brother in the park and then got to that moment kicked the winning world cup goal thought he'd feel different woke up the next day felt exactly the same and crashed and sports people talk about this a lot um i just want to explain to me as well through a boxing lens where i can't which boxer it was but they they had a crash and it was because all that all their life had trained to become the world champion they'd never trained to be the world champion and so you you get you go through a change and and you achieve this great thing this amount of cash freedom whatever it is however you interpret that but with that also comes loss and though i didn't acknowledge what the loss was at the time it took me a while to understand that there was loss that came with it you've lost your purpose you've lost a team you've lost people that look up to you and ring you and ask you for to for help and support you've lost your community you've lost um your audience i'm a creative person you've lost your ability to create to build things whether it's a business or systems or processes or videos so you've lost all of these things you've gained this huge thing that's way beyond anything in my family or my close friendship group has ever achieved so therefore i have no right to complain as either i can't whinge about it so i felt very isolated and and very alone you go from being making money to now managing money so i've got to be very proficient at making money and now i'm an absolute amateur at managing money and the analogy i came to understand was that before i was a an apple tree with deep roots, strong foundations, capable of producing apples.
48:54Now, I had apples, and I was shit scared of losing them, having them stolen, some getting rotten, and I had no idea what the fuck to do with them. So I'd gone through this. That was a squeaky chair, by the way. So I just had to redo that. And then the other thing is, you then move into a corporate world at the same time. So now I had an earn-out period in a large PLC, and the difference between entrepreneurship and a large corporate is that in entrepreneurship you're playing to win in a corporate environment you're playing not to lose it's a very subtle difference and it's not a criticism they have shareholders they have audits i understand what you know they have more to lose their multi-billion pound company but it was not my mindset and also you know in an environment where you've got all this bureaucracy before you could i could we We prided ourselves on how fast we could move.
49:45We would go to an event, do a wrap up video for a large zero con or whatever. And if the event finished at 5 p.m., my video was posted at 6 p.m. because that was the peak of relevancy of that event. So people don't talk about speed enough in business, but speed has real value. So we became great at moving fast. Fast in a corporate environment does not happen because now I can't, when I published my first book, I wrote it within two weeks, I had it published within two weeks, starting writing it finishing it and publishing in two weeks i had another book i said i would publish and write when once we got acquired you can't do that in two weeks when it's got to go through a legal team and hr team and the other thing as well is like there's policies the fuck policies right i used to post stuff on social media or every day i would post every day on social media and largely it would land rights if i got it wrong someone would ring me up on my team and say, James, you sound like a prick in that video.
50:41Take it down and redo it. Thank you. And you'd go and take the hit and you'd make the adjustment and change it. Now you're in a corporate environment and that's not the case. You get reported to someone and someone has to have a meeting with you and you have to read a policy and sign something. So there's so many changes that you go through from playing to win, to playing not to lose, to being an apple tree, to having apples, to being where you can move quick, to where now you've got to move slow. and so i found it really difficult and my confidence got knocked you'd think that you having achieved the thing you'd set out that very few people achieved that your confidence would go through the roof my confidence hit an absolute all-time low and it got to the point where i had a full breakdown and i just so i don't say this like i'm not saying this lightly i'm from a rough mining village in south yorkshire where if someone says if someone had told me they had a breakdown you'd say get a grip and get on with it.
51:35We don't have a medicine cupboard in our house. We just serve our kids a cup of shut the hell up and get on with it, right? I once had my son school phoned up and said, Leo's feeling sick. Can you come and get him? I went to school and I said, they said, do you want us to bring him out? I said, no, no, I'll go in and see him. He was like eight at the time. I said, all right, buddy. He said, yeah, I just feel sick, dad. I said, cool, wait there. So I went and rummaged around and I found a bucket and I gave it to him. I said, get back into the class, pal. I'll pick you up at home time. and the receptionist said, are you not taking him home?
52:05I said, no, no, I'm not teaching my son that if you feel sick, you go home. I'm teaching him that if you feel sick, you grab a bucket and you crack on. I'll see him at 3.30. And that was it. So I just want you to understand the robustness of my upbringing. And I had a full-on breakdown, pulled the car over, side of the road, on my hands and knees, in tears, thought everything was coming to an end with my wife next to me, consoling me. and I don't think this is just likely for entrepreneurs I think it's inevitable an entrepreneur has to go through this the term breakdown especially I think for a man especially especially a northern man is something that we would say we should resist but really if you're having a breakdown you have to go through it you have to fully break down because the version of view that was in in the first half of your life is now going to be different to the second half of life so you have to go through that full breakdown process which I did um while I was in half time and I then rallied some great people around me a therapist in the first instance and then two mentors in the second instance and they the first person pulled me out of the hole she grabbed hold to start with and I knew she had me she pulled me out of the hole um and then the other people helped to kind of erect scaffolding around me so I wouldn't blow over again or fall down and then it's taken me kind of a year or so to kind of it took me about a year to rebuild up and to understand what I was going through and then to prepare for the second half
53:41James Ashford:of life so so looking back on that to use your question where was the gift it was all a gift and I wouldn't have wanted it to be any other way. I think one of the gifts I've got is, I believe I can help other people on this journey. So if I ever see now someone on socials post, just solve my business, the first thing I will do is I will message them privately and I'll say, congratulations, I just want you to know I'm here. If you need someone to talk to any part of the show, I'm sure it's going to be okay. I'm sure everything's going to be great and all your dreams are going to come true. But if you ever hit a low moment, I want you to know that someone outside of your circle that has got nothing to gain from this, I want you to know there's a person here that if you want to go for a walk, you want to have a chat, you want to offload, we can go through it.
54:28And I just don't think that gets talked about enough. And again, I don't think people think you have the right to be in that position either, yet you've created all this value in the world. Go propose, like I got ChatGPT to figure this out for me, using the most conservative estimates possible. And I think our product over the seven-year period up to when I'd left the business generates over£100 million of additional revenue for the accounting industry. So not only did the accounting industry make£100 million more, but all of those businesses that it served were getting now served to a higher level with better quality services.
55:07The businesses were getting served to a better degree. All of the team that had worked with me got significant pay rises they all got um retention bonuses paid to all the benefits for all the customers all the businesses all their clients all of my team all this value is generated in the world and then you've got the entrepreneur that ultimately sparked this whole thing and when i left that business i rang and told them i was leaving and i just got an email and that was it it was like thanks then and that was the end of it leave just leave your laptop on the desk and you're out the door. And there's no consideration for the support that that person might perhaps need to adjust so they can crack on with their life.
55:50I think I figured it out.
55:52James Ashford:Cool, go on. Tell us about that. What have you figured out? Where's the purpose? I read this thing a few years ago by these guys that were trying to figure out what connects successful entrepreneurs together. What is the theme that connects them? And they looked at everything. I think they wanted to find that they all wake up at 5am, they all have an ice bath first thing, they're all super fit, they all are on carnivore diets, whatever it is, they were trying to find something that connected them, and they couldn't find anything. Like some woke up early, some woke up late, some were fit, some were fat.
56:23They were all over the place. The connecting themes were that they had an unrealistic view of what was possible. They believed they could achieve incredible things way beyond their current skill set that was unrealistic. and then conversely to that they also had a deep sense of inadequacy and didn't feel good enough and it was the fluctuation between those two things i'm going to achieve this i'm going to conquer the world fuck i don't know even where to start i'm no good but i'm going to do this but where and so it's that through those two things that you create this huge momentum and this huge force to drive forward the third thing that you need that i didn't have for a long time was focus because if you're just bouncing about all over the place you will never progress but if you can take that energy that gets generated and apply it in one direction for long enough, you will get to that point.
57:10The feeling that I said that I was looking to change, I think, when I'd sold my business was that feeling of inadequacy, that feeling of not being good enough, of having someone validate you and say, you are good at what you do. I think that was the feeling that I was ultimately looking to solve. So if you look at that and think, well, if that's the makeup of an entrepreneur when they sell that feeling isn't just going to disappear but there has to be a breaking down of you and and you have you have to dig in because you have to think well where does this come from and what i concluded was i found this great mentor in australia a guy called ryan morsby white and he introduced me to this concept of um small t trauma so we've all experienced trauma in our life some people sadly have experienced capital t trauma in their life fortunately I've only had to deal with small t trauma my understanding of that and I'm not a psychologist or a therapist at all but my understanding of that is that as a kid you've experienced things that you couldn't understand as a kid that you couldn't just file away that so let's say for me for example and I love my dad to bits god bless him I love him to bits he's still alive great guy I love him to bits but let's say your dad comes home from work late short-tempered pissed off, and you're just excited to see him as a kid and you get shouted at or scolded for whatever, right?
58:31As a kid, you can't process that. As an adult, you can. You can say, oh, he's busy. They were struggling to make ends meet. He'd got stuck in traffic. He hated his job. You were just a little brat and he shouted, he lashed out at you, whatever, right? As a kid, you can't process that. So rather than be able to file it away somewhere, you just store it internally and emotionally. And then you only need something in life to trigger it and it comes out, right? What they explained to me was, we've all got this inner child within that needs healing. And like these Japanese soldiers that were in the jungle hidden away, and long after the war was over, they were getting letters dropped on them saying, the war's over now, you can come out.
59:12We've got this inner child that still thinks that war's happening, that still thinks that they're being shouted at or they're afraid. And we've all got that inner child that needs healing to some degree. And we need to let the child know that I'm a big, strong man now. It's okay. You can come out. It's safe. We're golden. And so I think we've all got inner work to do. I don't think it should be too indulgent. I don't think you should be in therapy for the rest of your life. But I do think it's worth just unpicking some of these things and why we feel like how we feel. And so the journey that I went on was with this great therapist.
59:46And then she was an equine therapist. We had this crazy therapy with these herd of eight wild horses down south for two days. it was the most mad experience and then i did this work with ryan about healing the inner child that involved breath work and meditation and so all of those things i've taken with me i go and see some horses near me regularly i ground myself on the earth every day when i get up i go and do breath work i do meditations and i just try and kind of process a little bit more each time didn't mean to get as deep as i meant that i'm sorry but no i loved it i don't know if that lands or yeah it does james thank you so i've loved this like i feel like i've been on the edge of my seat and i think like great story there are conversations where sometimes we sometimes we'll do like loads and loads of research and we'll know the full story and i think like just being able to sit here and experience that with you like it was beautiful so thank you so much for being so open and so honest i think there's loads of like lessons in there as well we always end our podcast the same way if anybody's listening to this and you can get them to ask themselves one question what would that be i think if they're struggling with something or something's going wrong at the moment it's to look for the gift though is i think to change their mindset um i think i learned this from tony robbins but it's whatever's going on whatever challenges you're facing even if things seem out of our control and there's so many things that can happen to us that are outside of our control whether it's with the economy at the moment or crazy taxes that are coming out or whatever shit's going on right it's just the thing that is always within your control is what am i what am i focusing on and what does it mean and that is something that you can always shift so whatever challenge that you're you're facing right now it's just to bring to your attention what am i focused on things i can control am i focusing on things i can't control am i focusing on the present or am i focusing on the past like we can always bring it to something that we can control and then once we've we've understood that what is it am i focusing on it's then what does it mean to me does it mean it's the end does it mean it's the start does it mean it's all turned to shit or does it mean that it's a gift that i can use to to grow from love this thank you so so much if people want to find you get in touch how can they find you yeah they can find me on linkedin on instagram with the search for james ashford on instagram i think on tiktok i'm the james ashford i don't mean that to be like it was just that James Ashford was gone and I just needed something else to go at the start of it so the James Ashford on there thank you so much thank you James thank you
From the publisher
How to sell your business: James Ashford built GoProposal from a WordPress plugin and exited to Sage. This is the full story.
For founders, agency owners and accountants who want a business that runs, grows and sells without them.
James Ashford turned a pricing problem in one accountancy firm into GoProposal, software that let the most junior team member price and sell complex services in under five minutes. In this episode he answers the questions every founder types into Google at 2am: how do I know if I have a business or just a job? How do you actually sell a software company? And what happens to your mental health after the exit? He also opens up about the breakdown that followed the sale, and the inner child work that rebuilt him.
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Chapters
00:00:00 Welcome to the Show: Meet James Ashford, Serial Entrepreneur
00:03:19 The Sales Problem: Why Business Owners Can't Let Go
00:05:59 The Restaurant Analogy: How Accountants Price Like Amateurs
00:08:05 The Accountancy Breakthrough: Solving the Same Problem Over and Over
00:14:01 The Four Grand Launch: Building a SaaS Business on WordPress
00:16:32 The Waiting List Strategy: 100 Customers in 30 Days
00:19:54 The Shock and Awe Pack: Customer Retention Through Physical Gifts
00:22:03 The Five Million Pound Goal: Getting Your Wife on the Journey
00:23:49 Taking Over the Space: The Conor McGregor Mentality
00:27:07 The Discounting Problem: How You Train Bad Clients
00:29:30 The Sticking Points: When Revenue Hits a Wall at 18K and 53K
00:34:21 The Competitor Blindside: Losing 25 Percent of Customers Overnight
00:37:11 The Oversuite Launch: Turning Crisis Into a New Product Line
00:38:12 Built to Sell: Manifesting the Acquisition From Day One
00:40:26 The Negotiation That Started Everything: Could We Buy You Instead
00:44:03 Putting On Your Best Suit: Going to Market With an M and A Firm
00:46:02 The Day the Money Hits: Why Everything Felt Exactly the Same
00:47:40 The Loss No One Talks About: Purpose, Team, and Identity
00:48:42 From Apple Tree to Apples: The Shift From Making to Managing Money
00:49:14 Playing to Win Versus Playing Not to Lose: The Corporate Shock
00:51:31 The Breakdown: On Your Hands and Knees at the Side of the Road
00:57:57 The Inner Child and Small T Trauma: Understanding What Drives Us
00:59:49 Equine Therapy and Breath Work: The Journey to Healing
01:00:45 The Final Question: Where Is the Gift in This Moment
FRAMEWORKS COVERED
The Restaurant Pricing Method | Built to Sell | "Where's the Gift?" | "Who Do I Need to Be?" | The 2-4% Finance Rule | Small t Trauma and Inner Child Healing
ABOUT JAMES ASHFORD
James Ashford is the founder of GoProposal, the pricing and proposal software acquired by Sage. He now invests in businesses and mentors entrepreneurs, with a focus on founders raising young families.
Find James on LinkedIn and Instagram, and @thejamesashford on TikTok.
https://jamesashford.com/
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Jack Frimston and Zac Thompson are the co-founders of We Have A Meeting, the B2B sales agency behind the Sales Is Therapy method.
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If you're searching for how to sell your business, how to build a SaaS company with no funding, how to price your services, or what a business exit actually feels like, this episode covers it all. James Ashford shares the GoProposal story from WordPress plugin to Sage acquisition, including value pricing for accountants.
