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0:00Well, would you look at that. It seems that it's that time again. Time for me to sit down and share some more of my pet peeves. and I say some more of my pet peeves because this is not my first rodeo. I've sat down many times and discussed my pet peeves with you all but the truth is the list is ever growing. I am constantly adding new pet peeves to my list of pet peeves and perhaps that's a red flag about my personality. Perhaps I'm too easily annoyed and that's why I so easily can add to my list of pet peeves but I'm not here to discuss the red flags about my personality because that's no fun.

0:38You know what is fun? Complaining about little things that don't really matter. That's fun. And so that's why we're going to do that today. So without further ado, here is the newest extension of my list of ever-growing pet peeves. Starting with something that literally happened to me five minutes ago that caused me to re-record this intro like three times. Cat hair stuck to my makeup. I mean, listen, I have cats and cat hair being all over my clothes, all over my face is sort of inevitable. And I absolutely adore my cats. They bring me so much joy. There's nothing I love more than getting in bed after a long day and my cats climbing up into the bed and getting all cozy with me and us going to sleep.

1:27And then if I'm lucky me waking up and they're still there on the bed. There's nothing I love more. There's nothing I love more than walking around my house and randomly noticing my cat laying down and being like, oh my God, what a cute little cat and sitting down next to the cat and petting it for like anywhere between 60 seconds to probably approximately three minutes. Like I love having cats. however the hair is a huge issue to be honest if I would have known how bad the cat hair issue would have been I still would have gotten the cats but I would have honestly I might have gotten a hairless cat breed no I wouldn't have that's very unrealistic and I don't even know where you find those and I wanted to rescue my cats and it's very hard to like rescue a special breed of a cat would anything have changed like would I do anything differently I guess not when I think about it.

2:20But I'm trying to express to you how frustrating the cat hair is. I mean, it's annoying enough and frustrating enough when it's on the clothes. But when it's on the clothes, it's really just an aesthetic issue. Like it just looks kind of bad. But I don't really care about that because I'm at home by myself most of the time. And before I leave, I just lint roll and the issue is sort of solved. Although I will say the lint roller gets off like 90%. There's still usually a little bit of cat hair left, but again, like it's worth it. I love my cats. I love, it's worth the annoyance. The thing that really bothers me is when the cat hair gets stuck on my face.

3:04Okay. This particularly happens when I'm wearing makeup, but it also occasionally happens when I'm wearing particularly sticky skincare, but for the sake of simplicity, I'll just talk about it getting stuck in my makeup. I make an effort to avoid my cats when I have makeup on. Like I'm not sitting down on the ground rubbing my cat's tummy when I have a full face of makeup on because I know that little hairs will fly up into the air and get stuck on my face. And then for the entirety of that makeup wear, I will feel the hairs on my face. and it is so itchy and so tickly and so uncomfortable. But even when I avoid my cats with makeup on, somehow the cat hair still sticks to my face.

3:50It must just be that there's cat hair floating around in the air at all times. And the second that my face is sticky, it just attaches, but it's so annoying. And it particularly happens, or I particularly notice it when I sit to record a podcast because my microphone has some cat hair on it. Like I have one of those foam things that you put on top of your microphone. I don't even know what it's called. Pop filter or whatever. And that thing kind of, I don't know, cat hair really sticks to it. And then I put that thing really close to my face. And then I guess from breathing and talking into the mic, like the hairs get loose and stick to my, to my face.

4:33It is so frustrating. Again, as we've discovered together, I wouldn't go back and change every anything, you know, like I love my cats more than anything. I just adore them. They're the light of my life, you know? I mean, I have more lights in my life than just my cats, but okay. Like, let's not start calling me a crazy cat lady. Everybody relax. I love my family. I love my friends. I love, there's many people in my life who I love dearly. It's not just the cats. I'm actually not, okay, see, now I'm about to go off on a tangent. I'm really not a crazy cat lady. Like I love my cats. They're very important to me.

5:10They do bring me a lot of joy, but I wouldn't consider myself to be a crazy cat lady. Like that stereotype doesn't really resonate with me because I'm not like obsessed with them. And I really don't think that I make them a personality trait. I think that that's what, well, what makes a crazy cat lady? Number one, the cats are the entire personality. They're discussed very frequently. That's number one. Number two, addicted to adopting more cats. I definitely don't feel that way. I'm very happy with two and I don't have an unwavering desire to get more. and number three I don't think I'm that crazy so I don't know I don't think I'm a crazy cat lady but I do adore my cats and so it's totally fine that their hair is in my makeup but it is fucking annoying speaking of the feeling of little hairs all over you my next pet peeve is when I get a haircut and no matter what I do to avoid the feeling of prickly little hairs on my neck and in my shirt, I inevitably will have prickly hairs in my neck, on my neck, and in my shirt.

6:19There's nothing, I've never been able to figure out how to prevent that. No matter how tightly I have my hairstylist clip the cape around me, no matter how quickly I take my shirt off after the haircut, I have to rinse after a haircut. I have to get in the shower and I have to rinse and I have to put every single piece of clothing that I was wearing into the hamper, into the dirty hamper. I've tried before to go from a haircut to something else, like to get my haircut and then like go to dinner. And like the discomfort from the prickly hairs wasn't so bad that I couldn't handle it for a night.

7:02But like I was so uncomfortable that I really, I have to shower. I have to shower and sometimes this is a very niche random occasion but sometimes when I'm going to an event right and I'm working with a professional hairstylist makeup artist while we're doing my hair and makeup for the event perhaps I have a little straggly little piece of hair or I have some breakage so my hair is a bit uneven we might choose to give me a little trim and it is so anxiety inducing for me because I'm like, we cannot get this hair on me because we're in the middle of doing my hair and makeup for this event. I can't get in the shower now, you know, like I, we're in it, we're in it now.

7:47I can't get in the shower. And so I'm like holding my, like, I'm like bending over and being like, can we cut my hair like while I'm bending over so that it really doesn't fall on me? Or actually the most memorable occasion of this, I actually did get in the shower. It might've been my second Met Gala. We decided to give me a trim and I was so itchy. I was like, you guys, I don't know what to tell you. I have to get in the shower right now and like rinse my back. Cause there was hair on my back. I was like, I can't handle this. I'm going to be doing interviews for like four hours. And if I have this feeling, if I feel the hairs on my neck, I'm not going to be able to feel like, I'll be able to feel like I can get over it, but I'm going to be kind of thinking about it and I'm going to be feeling it and it's going to really bother me.

8:34So I fully in the middle of glam, getting my glam done, got in the shower and had to rinse my back. It was very anxiety inducing, but it totally worked out and everything was totally fine. But I really don't like that feeling. I'm very sensitive about things being itchy or scratchy or pokey. Like I just cannot handle it. I've talked many times about how I feel about tags in the back of shirts that aren't soft. Can't handle it. When I was a kid, I was so picky about my socks because I really didn't like the feeling of the seam on the top of my toes. Couldn't handle it. Although I have grown out of a lot of those things.

9:09I feel like I'm less sensitive now. I still do experience. Maybe it's like a sense of sensory overload or maybe it's just classic physical discomfort and it's not that deep, but I don't know. Anyway, okay, moving on. Next pet peeve. This actually will start with a story, okay? So a few months ago, I went to an orthodontist appointment because, fun fact about me, I have Invisalign on my bottom teeth because, do you really want to know why? Should I really get into that? I'll tell you. Because I have really thin gums, okay? Like genetically thin gums. and because of that, I'm experiencing gum recession earlier in life than I probably should, right?

9:56And so my dentist brought this up to me and was like, you should go to an orthodontist and get your bottom teeth straightened out because your bottom teeth are a little bit crooked and a little bit crowded and that's causing worse recessions. So you should fix your bottom teeth and get your teeth straight because if your teeth are straight, then your gums will recess less. And then from there, after you get that sorted, go to a gum specialist, a periodontist, and then assess the way that things are currently and see if you need grafting or whatever. So anyway, I'm straightening out my bottom teeth, long-winded way of saying that.

10:36So I went to a routine checkup at my orthodontist. After that, I went to the cafe next door to sit and get some work done at a coffee shop because I rarely do that. I usually just work from home. But when I'm already going to be out for the day, like sometimes I like to just be out for the day. And I had a workout class planned for later. So I was like, you know what, I'm going to spend like an hour and a half, maybe even two hours at this coffee shop working. I think it would be a fun experience. Get out of the house, you know. And so I sit down at the coffee shop. I get everything all set up.

11:11I have my drink. I'm stoked. I'm like, oh, I haven't gotten to do this in so long. This is so exciting. And I put in my AirPods and they died. And I was like, fuck. Well, that's okay. Whatever. Then a few moments later, the speaker placed right next to my table that I was sitting at, started blasting, blasting. I'm not being dramatic. Blasting EDM music. Top volume. It is 10 a.m. on a Tuesday morning. I am at a coffee shop where there are tables for people to sit, chat, work, do whatever. The second that that music turned on, chatting, working, all of these things became nearly impossible. It was so loud.

12:01I was bummed, to say the least, because this is not the setting for blasting EDM music. This is like a cute, trendy cafe. What's happening? The magic of a coffee shop is the subtle, cool, calming ambiance. And listen, I'm not shitting on this coffee shop. The coffee is really good. I mean, I also haven't said what coffee shop it is and I never will, but I like this coffee shop. I really wanted to spend my afternoon there. But after 20 minutes of trying to focus and get work done, I had to leave. I had to leave. And I was sad. And I was sad. And you know what I ended up doing, which is so weird in retrospect.

12:38Like I could have driven around and found another place, but I ended up just working. This is so bizarre. I ended up working in my car for like an hour, but that was because I had a workout class that I was going to after it like didn't make sense to go home and then leave immediately to like go to the workout class. I was like, I shouldn't really go home. So I just ended up sitting in my car, but it was such a bummer. Moral of the story is it is a pet peeve of mine when coffee shops play loud music. Coffee shops are not for loud music to me. Unless there are a few occasions where it maybe makes sense.

13:15Like if it's the kind of coffee shop where there's not a lot of seating, you know, it's more of like a just pop in, get your drink, pop out. In that case, fuck it, play loud music. You know, it's not an environment for sitting, chatting, working, but for sitting, chatting, working, come on, like some chill, some jazz some cute like soothing alternative music at a low volume something vibey it's for the it's vibe vibes anyway like listen is it also a pet peeve when my airpods die yes but like that's my fault that can't even really be a pet peeve I mean yeah it's like a pet peeve it sucks when you show up somewhere and you want to have your headphones and then they're dead like bomber but that wouldn't have been a big deal if the music hadn't been so loud.

14:04You know what I'm saying? So that's why that's really the pet peeve in this scenario. Moving on. I really have an issue with the fact that things close early on Sundays. Though I am technically my own sort of boss and I kind of make my own hours, I still stick to a five-day work week. I work Monday through Friday with almost no exception. And occasionally, occasionally, I will work on the weekends and then maybe take one day off during the week to supplement. But I'm very much on the five-day workweek schedule. I've tried to switch it up and do a four-day workweek where I just work longer hours to still get the same amount of stuff done that I need to get done.

14:54But I think because the world revolves around the five-day workweek, it's just easier to also live my life by the five-day workweek. And also the people that I work with, you know, whether it's agents or the Chamberlain Coffee team, everyone in that space sticks to a five-day workweek. So it just makes sense for me to stick to a five-day workweek, even though I don't technically have to. And so because I stick to the five-day workweek, the weekend is very important to me. It is my time to have fun. It is my time to recharge. It is very important to me. And I think sometimes my expectations for my weekends are too high because, you know, I will really push myself during the week and I just really want to enjoy myself and get the most out of the weekend.

15:39And that can sometimes lead to disappointment. But that's honestly a topic for another day. But I'm explaining to you how I feel about the weekends so that you understand why this is a pet peeve for me. Me and most people have only Saturday and Sunday to truly relax, unwind, shop, eat, do activities, etc, etc. It is the norm to take Saturday and Sunday to have fun. now why the fuck on one of the two days that majority of people have the day off are we going to close everything at 5 p.m like out of out of all the days of the week I think Mondays should be the days where things close early now I think the reason why things close early on Sunday is because of religious reasons for the most part like I think that that's where that tradition came from.

16:38I'm actually going to Google it. Things often close early on Sundays due to a combination of historical traditions, religious observance, and modern business practices. Many businesses offer employees a day off for rest, family time, or worship, as Sunday is historically seen as a day of rest. Okay, I get it. I get it. I don't know if I'm being like, who knows? I might fucking get canceled for this. Who knows these days? But I really just think out of all the days of the week, Sunday is not the day to close things early because that's the day that most people have the day off. You know what I mean?

17:16So that's when it's fun to go shop. That's when it's fun to go and, you know, casually get chores done. I don't know. To me, I feel like if anything, we should choose a weekday for establishments that are sort of fun to be closed. Like who's going shopping on a Monday? You know what I'm saying? That's when traffic would be the slowest. Do you hear what I'm saying by this? Like, that's just how I feel. Okay. I just, I really think Saturday and Sunday, things should have full hours. Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday have the establishment close earlier. Do you know what I'm saying? Because that's the beginning of the work week.

17:56Everyone's locked in. Things start to start to loosen up Thursday, Friday, and then Saturday, Sunday is the weekend. So to me, give your employees less hours Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, and then go full hours Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday. This is my opinion. I might be wrong in this. I might be, this might be like a lack of business understanding or like not having enough data or, or being religiously insensitive. Like if you're a religious establishment, it totally makes sense, but I'm more referring, like, do you know what I'm like, not everyone has the same. Do you get what I mean? I just want things to be open on Sunday.

18:33I can't even tell you how many times I've been, you know, out on the town on a Sunday, shopping around, shopping around. And next thing I know, 5pm rolls around and everything starts closing. And I'm like, what? I was just getting going. I was just starting to have my fun. Anyway, maybe that's a like a not. Maybe I'm wrong. Maybe I'm missing a side of the story. Maybe I'm being like a spoiled brat. I don't really know, but I just, to me, it doesn't make sense. Moving on next. This is a very, very specific pet peeve that has to do with pizza. Okay. I love pizza just as much as the next guy or girl.

19:13Okay. I love pizza. It's great. I do struggle with the crust. Now, a lot of people love the crust. Some people think the crust is the best part. To me, I would say 75 % of the time, the crust is really dry. It's really dry. And choking it down is almost not even worth the effort. Like I'm the type who it's a 50-50 shot whether or not I'm leaving the crust on the plate. You know, it really depends. Like I don't like wasting food. I'm somebody, I hate wasting food. That's one of my pet peeves, but I think I've talked about that before. So that's why it's not on the list. I absolutely hate wasting food.

19:53And so it's a huge bummer to me when pizza crust is so dry that I like can't motivate myself to choke it down because I just, it's too, it hurts. I guess my pet peeve is that majority of the time pizza crust is really too dry, but I have a solution. And so maybe my pet peeve is that everyone knows that pizza crust is oftentimes way too dry, and yet no one's trying to solve the problem. Yeah, you could solve the problem by changing your dough recipe, but that's tough because it's clear to me that this is a reoccurring issue for a reason. It must be hard to make pizza crust that isn't sort of dry.

20:32And the thing is, we need the crust to give us a dry surface to hold the pizza with. That's the fun of the pizza is that you can hold it because there's a perfect spot to hold. I think the solution is that all pizzas that have dry crust, you know, everyone knows when a pizza place has dry crust, there should be a side of marinara sauce for dipping the crust. Imagine I would eat the crust every single time. And imagine how fun, like you eat the pizza and then you get a little side of warm marinara sauce to dip in. And it's like you get a breadstick. It's like you get to eat your pizza. And then at the end of eating your pizza, you get a breadstick where you get to dip and eat.

21:13How fun. I mean, listen, there's probably other solutions like, yeah, changing the recipe of the dough, perhaps even like brushing some olive oil and Parmesan on it. There are probably simpler solutions. But to me, I always just want to dip my crust into marinara sauce. Like I want that. I love marinara sauce. It's my favorite part of the pizza. Honestly, I love the, you know, tart tomato flavor. I don't know. I think that a side of marinara should be more normalized. We should be normalizing that. It's often not an option. When it is an option, I will ask for it because it can make any crust go down easy.

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22:28Speaking of pizza, because you get pizza at a restaurant, This is a pet peeve I have about trendy, cute restaurants. Okay. I live in LA. I go to New York all the time. I know a thing or two about a cute, trendy restaurant and I love a cute, trendy restaurant. But there are little trends that I've started to notice in cute, trendy restaurants, some of them being awesome and wonderful, some of them being absolutely horrible. Now, to start out on a positive note, because I don't like being all negative all the time, I'll tell you some trends that I do like in a cute, trendy restaurant, okay? I love that they serve natural wine.

23:12I love, well, I don't drink anymore, but I used to love a glass of natural wine, okay? Natural wine, I don't really even know what makes it natural. It's something in the processing of it all, and it has a slightly different flavor. It's a bit more tart. It's a bit more sour. It tastes more fermented in a way. I don't know. It's more juicy in some ways. I love it. It's trendy. It's like the new thing, hot thing to have at a cute, trendy restaurant. I love that. Even though I don't drink anymore, I'm glad that it's there for other people. And when I did drink, I loved it. Another thing, I love when cute, trendy restaurants become sort of a third space for young people.

23:54You know, it's, I think it's so important that young people hang out with one another and get off their fucking phones. And a lot of times the way that cute trendy restaurants are set up, they're set up for socializing. You know, tables are close together. A lot of times people are standing outside having a glass of wine. Like there's like a social energy to it. I really love that and appreciate that. Also, I find that new trendy restaurants have a tendency to really put together a unique culinary experience in ways that are maybe a bit more unusual and exciting. That's wonderful too. So listen, I love a cute trendy restaurant.

24:35I love it. It's fun. It's awesome. I love it. Now that I've been very positive, I can be very negative. Why the fuck does every cute, trendy restaurant think that they need to have tables that are knee high? Okay. I'm talking about knee high when you're sitting. There's something about cute, trendy restaurants. They want to set out the smallest little table that literally cuts off at your knees so that eating is nearly impossible. And I think, honestly, the reason why, like, that's not to say, listen, a lot of times cute, trendy restaurants will have a handful of like normal tables. And then for overflow, for people who maybe are just there for like a little olive and a little glass of wine, there's like a short little table for hors d 'oeuvres.

25:21But then what tends to happen is that they're so popular because they're so cute and they're so trendy that people end up ordering full meals at these little tables because that's kind of the only option. That is, listen, I'll give that, that's a good excuse, right? However, there have been some other restaurants that I've been at where similar to the sort of knee-high table issue, where it's like impossible to eat, there's also some trendy restaurants that will, they want a sort of casual dining experience. So instead of like a classic table and chairs, they'll do couches and lounge chairs with sort of like a coffee table vibe in the center.

26:01It is impossible to eat dinner in that way. Like eating over your lap, this is a very niche thing I'm realizing as I'm describing it because most restaurants have normal table and chairs, but this is sort of like a trend that I've noticed in cute, trendy restaurants, particularly in LA and New York. And it just, it's impossible to eat at a table like that. You know, I think eating is best done sitting over the food at a table that cuts off at about your breast, you know, or maybe even your abdomen, rib cage abdomen. But it's like, I understand wanting to pack as many people in as possible. I also understand wanting to create a fucking vibe because holy shit, like, what's better than a vibe?

26:45Like, I get it. I get the heart is there. But functionality is so important, you know, and like, I think a good meal can be sort of ruined by not the right seating arrangement, TBH. So anyway, okay, moving on. Speaking of restaurants and food, while we're on the topic, this is a very specific pet peeve. Incredibly specific. Like there's maybe one other person out there who can relate to this one. This is a pet peeve about my algorithm, okay? Particularly my algorithm on YouTube shorts, because I don't watch a lot of Instagram reels. Occasionally, like when I'm, there are times when I watch Instagram reels.

27:25Okay. I can name the times. Number one, when I'm on vacation and I'm just letting my guard down and letting myself use my phone in whatever way I want. Number two, when I'm working, okay. There's a very particular, sometimes when I'm working outside of my home, like I'm doing a photo shoot or something, or I don't know, I'll let myself go on my phone a little bit more. I don't know why. I think maybe because sometimes it can be sort of high stress and not in a bad way though, but like photo shoots, for example, it's a very like high energy environment and there is a lot of sort of stress, but in a fun way.

28:07It's not like not in a fun way, but it's like a scheduling thing. Like, like we'll have two hours to do hair and makeup before the first shot, but then something will go wrong in hair and makeup. And then we'll need three hours to do hair and makeup. And then, you know, the production team is like, hey, we got to go, we got to move, we got to move, we got to move. And then the hair and makeup team is like, yeah, but you know, we can't start shooting until the hair and makeup is in a good place. And it's not quite there yet. So like, we need to move things around. And then everyone's kind of butting heads and it's tense.