From Dishwasher to 1,000+ Units — Then Nearly Losing It All ft. Jarek Tadla | Coffeez

0:00I heard this voice and it says like dude you have absolutely everything you can imagine and you want to take your own life? like you helping so many other people you cannot help yourself and i'm not you right now 30 seconds later jessica my girlfriend comes into the room and says word for word i'm like are you kidding me and she opened the blinds you're done you're coming out like you're done you're not sick you're good you got to get out of the bed welcome to another episode of coffees it's a pleasure having you we've had some great uh discussions uh before the show and uh you know um what what you've told me so far has been truly truly inspirational you know coming from poland to america not knowing the english language how did you come to a you know this this country and really break through into entrepreneurship so quickly it's funny i i did it like everything happened unconscious like you know on unconsciously because when i got here you know start washing dishes and going through school and doing everything and i truly didn't know like my entire life i was always doing something on my own like selling bottles you know looking for like like little deals when i was in poland like you know always looking for something but i didn't know i have the skill and when i got when i moved here and if anybody's listening to this i want to know one conversation like even the conversation i have right now one sentence changed my life because i was selling my cars and i was like buying cars at the auctions so i was working full-time as a dishwasher then i was going to school to college and then i was buying and selling cars at the you know after the accident with the you know with the salvage title and selling them for like you know buying them cost me like around five grand selling them for six grand, so on each car I make a thousand dollars.

1:57So there was always a real estate bag in my head, but it was just a real estate. If I buy a home for 50 ,000 and sell it for 60, I make 10 grand, right? Instead of a thousand. There was one conversation, one sentence, changed my entire life. One sentence. There was a family of my girlfriend at that time, and they said, yeah, they have a fourplex, they live in one of them, and they rent the other three. And I'm like, what? say it again yeah we have a fourplex and those three people pay for our rent that's it i got home i told my my girlfriend hey by the way we're getting married next year we're moving to colorado because you know i was in school in upstate new york rochester if anybody knows what it is it's a hateful place it's miserable it's always raining over there and moved to colorado by my first fourplex you know owner occupied then a few months later i bought another fourplex owner occupied but the first one i bought it i have no idea what i'm doing so i bought it with fifty thousand dollars i sold all my cars uh borrow money and bought my first fourplex the second fourplex six months later i bought owner occupied and i only paid five grand i took like you know 97 percent financing.

3:13That third one I bought using my X credit and that's how it started. So those three four plexus then it turned to 16, 12, or 17 units, then 50 units, then 100 units, 200 units, 500 units, thousand, two thousand, it just took up. Wow, so you've just been buying multi-unit properties for decades yeah but i remember i'm a long-term holder i'm not a i'm not a flipper i'm a long-term holder i buy and hold there's not the uh the margins on those aren't much though you know you're only making you know after your mortgage and everything but what happens is when you buy something and then you hold it you know and then it pays out because what happens the interest goes up, the interest goes up, and the rent goes up, and the equity grows, and then you just take the money free out, you know, equity, you know, without taxes, and you're just reinvesting, reinvesting.

4:11And then you have, if anybody's listening right now, have a good track record, then people will throw you money. There's so many people out there, they don't know what to do with money. You know, attorneys, doctors, people that are successful in their own businesses, they truly don't know how to turn money into more money. and you know if you have a track record and you know how to leverage money i mean sky's the limit this guy's the limit yeah wow so what was that 21 year old version of you you weren't an entrepreneur you were just a you know i got an immigrant i didn't even know the word brother you know when i learned the word like maybe when i was 40 i didn't even know what it means like i think everybody does that's what you have to do you have to you know we just be good in business or there was like i i always treated my business like work uh you know and and and i was i was sedating with work you know and like everybody thinks sedating is a drug alcohol no i was sedating with work because i worked like 20 22 hours a day because that's the thing i was good at something suddenly like you know i was good at something And I found completely like a high out of it until I completely, you know what?

5:24I have enough. I think I have enough. You know, I was waiting. 2008 came in. In 2008, I just bought a lot of properties, 10 cents on the dollar. I won lottery. So I won lottery when I moved to the United States, getting a green card. And I won lottery when 2008 happened. When Lehman Brothers out of business, I just bought more and more. And in 2010, it's like that's the second time I'm like, I'm done. I retired. I don't do this again. And then two kids, three kids, four kids, I'm gonna be a dad, I'm gonna be a dad. That didn't pay out, you know, there was not enough, like you know, I was built for more than that.

5:58So I started doing Ironman. When I started doing Ironman, then I started sedating with workouts. But by rules of society, you're doing something good because it's like, wow, Yarek is successful, Yarek is doing this. But the only thing, I was escaping truly myself. I didn't want to deal with the demons and all the not enough the voices the inner dialogue that i couldn't control so i need more and more and more to prove the whole world that i'm enough that i'm love and guess what it never happened and in 2020 when covet happened i got divorced and covet happens so of course in the covet i knew about covet that is gonna happening like in october because they asked me to move my money so when covet happened i just went back to work i start buying more real estate and 2021 i completely crushed like i'm on the top like on the top of the mountains you know i'm mentally strong i'm emotionally strong i found a connection with god i don't drink i don't sedate with drugs and alcohol i found the love of my life i built relationships i'm physically fit and i'm broken inside you know i got sick three days six days suddenly end up in day in in my bed for 40 40 40 40 days and it's time to go the demon got me you know almost got on my boat and do the last day but i don't wish anybody to go through the pain what was the catalyst for you to have that spiritual awakening you know that when i was laying in bed and when i was going through there was a lot of wake-up calls were out of like niches like touching on me and and i i call it is the voice is that you know like i have like the good angel the bad angel but when i almost commit suicide i heard this voice and it says like dude you have absolutely everything you can imagine and you want to take your own life like you helping so many other people you cannot help yourself and i'm not shitting you right now 30 seconds later jessica my girlfriend comes into the room and says word for word i'm like are you kidding me and she opened the blinds you done you're coming out like you done you're not sick you're good you got to get out of the bed and i'm like I gotta share my journey you know my entire life I was looking for validation from outside sources you know to get successes to get the kudos and I'm empty on the inside and if I have it none of the hardship happened, none of the death, none of the betrayal, none of the loss, none of the financial struggle, I have everything and I go through depression and suicidal thoughts, what about people that truly truly have reasons to go through it yeah they have not but you have nothing and exactly and they're happy so so i started looking for the journey for the happiness and follow my voice but it took me it took me probably two years to recover from all the stuff you know i mean i'm still i'm still you know what i'm telling that i'm like i'm like alcoholic i'm workaholic um and now i'm a recovering depression holic so it's like you don't mean everything i've done it was always to to more more more and i just realized now the more is less so you know the life if like if we could just get our life to be more simple we'd be more happy and the more we complicate the more that we desire things that we don't need to impress people that don't care about us that's really and but i'm you know what i a lot of entrepreneurs because that was my bubble right we are people pleasers okay yes we do this for ourselves like you know but but we just do it just this for employees this is for the kids this is for wives this we do everything for everybody we don't do it for ourselves can you imagine a 53 years old man that i you know i every single day I date myself I truly take myself on a date and it's my time how do you date yourself?

10:25I'm curious for myself I truly like this is an hour nobody can interact I don't do the phone and I stay with my own tasks with myself I don't run the errands you work out I don't no no no I do that anyway that's what happens when you stillness and boredom for entrepreneur is the best shit ever but because we cannot we only we think we can only work chaos. Chaos is our friend. No, chaos is not our friend. We hate to be bored and we hate to be still. And this was the best idea, the best creative comes. And we feel uncomfortable. When I sit down first time, when you're successful you have a lot of you know enemies right?

11:08So I have a deal that went sour in the American Republic and I got under you know the guy got me on the red notice, Interpol notice. So I'm flying to Panama. And, you know, when I landed, there's like, you know, come with us. I'm like, for what? I'm like, do you have a business in the American Republic? I'm like, yeah, I do. I just came back last week. Well, there is a problem. We have a red notice, Interpol red notice. And I'm like, okay. I didn't do shit. So they stopped me for the interview for 24 hours, which 24 hours end up 30 hours in prison, like not in prison, it's like an airport jail.

11:49Can you imagine being 50 years old, first time in my life I was alone for 30 hours. The first two hours I was pissed as hell. I can buy this aspo, fuck those assholes, they don't know who the hell I am. And then I just spent the time with myself. When I got home, Jessica was like, how are you doing and crying, all this stuff. My kids, dad, dad, dad. I'm like, this was the best time in my life. First time in my life, I was alone, without any devices, without anything, just sit with myself, with my own thoughts. My whole life, when finally the meditations, everything came in, the prayers, and I finally connected with myself.

12:29We don't give ourselves a time. When we get bored, when we get sick, we always want to do something, especially entrepreneurs. I'm not useful. I'm not, if I don't do anything, I'm not contributing to the society. Shut the fuck up. Sit with yourself. Listen. Be bored. Be still. Talk to you. Spend the time with your own thoughts. Find out who you truly are. Why are you doing all this stuff for? Because there's no amount of money that's going to make you enough. There's always somebody with a bigger yacht, with a bigger jet, with a bigger helicopter, with more houses, more businesses, with pretty wife.

13:08You know, it's stop. You truly got everything within you and just listen to the voice. Listen to who you truly, truly, who truly you are. What you're saying resonates so much with me because I am that guy who cannot sit by myself. Like, I just have to be stimulated all the time. Are you sitting? 20 minutes now? The only stillness I get is when I podcast. Okay. And I get to interview someone. I obviously have my phone for the questions, but I'm on the go. Multiple businesses, podcasts, content, this, that, the other, four kids, activities, and they're all in multiple sports. It's like running a million miles an hour.

13:57But when I do get five minutes to sit with myself and reflect, when I drive home, I don't put music on. it's like therapy to just be in silence and there's still just a million sounds in my brain but for an hour of just pure stillness which is an incredible goal for me that would be life changing it doesn't have to start with an hour it doesn't have to be an hour brother because what happens you know how to build new routines it can start with 10 minutes 10 minutes become 20 20 becomes 30 but it's uncomfortable telling grown ass man to sit with yourself like what the hell is wrong with you and the thoughts are coming and I'm telling you everything who the hell come up with this shit like I was when my coach first time sent me to the do you have like any any homes your favorite homes I'm like there's a beach home that I absolutely love it he said go there for three days and sit there without anything what are you talking three days like dude I cannot find five minutes.

15:04You know the bullshit story we tell ourselves. Dude, you have no idea about my schedule. I don't have five minutes. He goes, that's the problem. That's the problem. What do you mean you don't have five minutes? You know, all the stuff that I created in my head is like, that's what I have to do. This is this. This is this. And guess what? We cannot multitask. If the men are listening to this, we men cannot multitask. It's over. We cannot fucking walk and chew the gum because we bite the fucking tongue. We cannot. But guess what? That's what we're doing. So we don't do nothing. We're not present with our kids.

15:39We're not present. That's why so many divorces. We're not present with our kids. We're not present with our wives. And that's why we're not present with the employees. We're not present with ourselves. We're not present with anybody. When you connect with yourself, brother, there's nothing better. It's like you're overflowing. But what happens is our bucket is getting empty and emptier. And you cannot satisfy with all this money. Oh, we're not a businesses. Oh, we're not a book and not a title and not a medal. It cannot. You get empty and you break like me. How do you fill your cup? I was having the same discussion with someone at the dinner table two days ago.

16:18It's like this Gen Z cannot work in like customer service because they have nothing left in their cup. They're so stimulated by phones and all the things around them. By the time they go to interact with humans, they don't know how. You know what happiness is? We want the instant gratification. And here, what happens is when you want the instant gratification, you're scrolling the phone, that's the instant gratification. Having a drink, getting a line of cocaine. The dopamine level, it hits so much. the happiness when the doping level is for the next 20, 30, 50 years. That's what the happiness, but we are not patient.

17:00We want everything now. You want a car, let's buy a car. Well, you cannot afford it. Well, fucking, let's get a credit. Let's buy a home. Let's buy a business. Like everything, and we over leverage ourselves financially, emotionally, mentally, spiritually. Yeah, yeah, God, yeah, I got the time for this. Read the Bible. Yeah, I got the time for this. What about the kids? Yeah, you know, we're trying to rush it. slower brother is faster try to build a business when you slow down it's next level try to build a relationship with the wife or with your partner or with the kids when you take when you slow down it's amazing but the problem we gotta find connection with ourselves I could not connect with myself I could not connect with God so I could not connect with the wives and I'm not the guy that gives you like a marriage devices I'm on third one so I I definitely have I'm zero for three brother so I don't have a good track record you know I mean even my own kids stop talking to me for a year or two so it's it's I'm not the guy to give you advices on that I'm the pro I'm the working progress I'm the working progress we're all working progress yeah but your progress is further than mine and your wisdom is much more profound than mine right now so it's Like I'm all in on listening to you and applying it.

18:18It's awareness and a consciousness level because we are energy and we got to raise it. You know what I mean? Having the awareness and understanding that we the energy and we have to connect with ourselves. It's everybody will benefit from you. Everybody. You guys will love to be around you. Everybody. How do you slow down? How do you slow down when you're fed so much from society and you're this high performer and you're a big CEO and you got all this other stuff and everybody's asking for this and the other and you got kids and this? How do you slow down? Boundaries. Look at this shit, the boundaries.

18:58But if you don't have a boundaries with yourself because you never give time to yourself, how can you give a boundaries to somebody else? We want to give, give, give. There's nothing else to give. boundaries. I didn't even know what it means. I didn't even know what it means. And the problem is I was never present. Everybody needs to have access to me. My phone's got to have access to me. This is like we are addicts. And show me any successful person, I can guarantee you he's an addict. I can guarantee you that. It's an addictive personality. That's why I don't drink anymore. That's why I don't do drug anymore.

19:38Because I started drinking very late in my life. Very late. I already retired twice. And I knew if I go this way, it's not going to work. I mean, now I come to L.A. And of course, I'm in L.A. So let's do podcast. Because this is my new mission. I know I'm an addict. Now I want to serve. I want to help 8 billion people to realize that the inner world, that we create our outer world through the inner world. But we don't take care of ourselves. that's why so much toxicity so much hating disorder so much killing so many more we are divided by the politics by the religion by men, women by transgender by color by social status by financial status and I know today we just want to be loved and connect with other people that's what we were born here for but we're playing this comparison game social media is the biggest gift brother and guess what we're just looking we're scrolling like i can look at like the the algorithm and i know who you're gonna be three five years from now like i tell my kids give me tell me what you read give me your routines tell me show me what you're looking on it because social media is the biggest gift if you know how to use it how would you recommend using it based on your own analytics well mostly I give you definitely I will go back to the question and it's a true story and and love you brother I know you're gonna you know what I'm talking who I'm talking about I have my my my amazing friend he's my attorney right and he's in Colombia something through my feet came a feat as like Colombia yeah we don't say Papa, we said, Papacito, you know, cocaine, drugs, alcohol, blah, blah, blah.

21:28What? Goes to Colombia, stay in Colombia. And he moved to Colombia. And I saw the clip, and I sent it to him. I said, Joe, it's like, oh, that's why you're in Colombia? Brother, for the next three days, my whole algorithm changed. I have only Colombia, I have cocaine, I have alcohol, and all this stuff. But that's what we do to ourselves. we gotta change the algorithm with us what we what the thoughts what thoughts process we put in what love we put in what food we put in what drink we put in what the exercise we put in what boundaries we put in and the stillness and what how do we treat ourselves you know I'm a 53 years old man that goes in the mirror every day like I love you mother fucker I'm gonna take care of you today I neglect you for so many years I will fucking take care of you I will put a good thoughts in you lovable thoughts I will talk to God I will put a faith in you and it's just you do that every day just affirmation every single day every single day we do if you are full everybody will benefit can you imagine like running on an empty tank in a car and you're on the highway it's like it's a traffic and there's nothing like fuck fuck how am I gonna get there I don't know how to get full I don't I don't know how to fill my cup it's like especially after you get a divorce and you're kind of like searching again for meaning because I'm like you it's like here I am it's like success money all that we got that now here I am like building a brand podcasting it's like a totally different venture not paying it's like my contribution to society you know trying to like impact the world yet you're still trying to fill your cup Because see what happened is When you get to divorce Like when that happened Right to me Divorce happened six years ago Right You have to understand My My definition of love It was my wife And my kids This was my definition Yeah And now suddenly I'm 48 years old man And it was taken away 48 It was taken away from me Yeah Anything I ever put a vocabulary in love.

23:51That's what it is. That I need somebody to love. And the little Yarek was, fuck you asshole, what about me? Where are you going to take care of me? But it took me years after divorce, after all this stuff, to find out that I'm the most important. If you tell people selfish, it's a bad word. You know what? Maybe, but if you don't take care of yourself, you're not going to be able to care of anybody else. Love is loving you. You are love. You are abundance. You don't need anything from the outside. Anything can be taken away, not you. You know, if there are bankruptcy, you know, there's bankruptcy, there's, you know, a hardship, anything that's going on, the kids, the wife, you know, you lose close one.

24:37It's normal. It's going to happen. But nobody can take away you. you know the you contextualize it in a way that's so understandable it's like your wife can leave you your kids will leave at some point your business partner leaves your everybody uh moves on and it will happen but you don't move god will send you the obstacles to teach you a lesson god loves you and you you were you were you were you were you we are on this on this world to serve. We're not entitled to shit. We already got our body. We're already alive. That's the biggest entitlement you can possibly get. And we're not thankful for that.

25:19You know that I started thanking my body after the ski accident when I ended up in the hospital six months, 13 surgery, almost lost my leg. I was always grateful. I never thanked my body. I never thanked my heart to beat. I never said that I thank you that I have hands, that I have a brain, that I can comprehend. Never said that. I have to go through tragic accident to like, holy shit, I'm alive. I have a leg. I have a hand. I have everything else. Was it the ski accident that created this transformation? Was that a catalyst? It was. You know what? It was. You know what? It was the first obstacle that I missed that got sent to me.

26:02It's time to wake up. Get out of the bubble, the reality, the delusional reality. that you know from the outside world that was the first but i did not get the message so this was first was the skiing then then it was divorce then after divorce was losing my kids for a while that was like that that that was like how do you lose your kids for all they just decided not to call you or there's an issue i remember i have two older kids so what happened is you know they remember when i never played because remember i played the world i was never present father so when i played the world well yeah yeah dad i want to do this this well you got everything you know so it's like well but i want to go to daddy uh uh father dance i'm like well i don't do that but all the fathers do well do they live like us no so you know i was like dad i want to talk to you and i was like i'm in the men cave i'm i just did 100 miles on the bike i don't have time for My kids want me, so they never have a message for me.

27:06They always have a, you know, mom is to raise you. I'm here to protect you and make sure that you have everything, you know, provided. So I did my work. The kids' language, love, is not a love, it's time. But I never give them a time. So when divorce happened and mama had all the dialogue for, you know, 10, 15, 16 years, they were older, guess what? They listened to mom. They don't listen to dad. Who are you now? Are you going to own now your father? Where you were for the last 16, 18, 12 years of my life. And I own it. I deserve it. Because I was never present. But I didn't know how to be present with them because I didn't know how to be present with myself.

27:48There was always something. So they listened to the dialogue that they've been listening. I was always raising my kids on the back seat. Not even on the driver's seat. On the back seat. Yeah, go to mom. Go to mom. go to mom you know i mean i just wrote the check we all you know mom is the primary caretaker there's not much we can do as as fathers no i have my kids now seven seven and and it's like you know what i i believe again that's that's that's what the society wants us to to to believe but what happened is we are the kid because what is we can spend time and be present with our kids and we never are because we're busy.

28:32Yeah. You know that my dad, I was going, Natak, I love you, but I'm going to say it. A year ago, six months ago, I was driving with my oldest daughter. She got a job in Montauk. And I was driving to... Where's Montauk? Montauk, Long Island, right? Montauk. Okay. Right? And I'm like, let me drive with you so I can go, you know. I drive with you. I love it. So we and I, you know, spent, you know, father-daughter time. She told me a story that she learned how to ride a bike, some kind of trick. She remembered detail for detail that she came home. She was waiting for me to show me the trick. I got out of the car, out of the garage.

29:18I was on the phone. Brother, I have no idea who the fuck I was on the phone. I don't remember that shit at all. I was on the phone and she was waiting to show me the trick Finally she has to go back She has to go back to bed And you know It was a bad time She never did She still remembered that I have no idea who I was on the phone with Who was my client If I make money or not But she took this experience 16 years later And lived with her My dad never had time Everybody was more important than me I don't even know I don't even remember that but she does I'm just teaching I'm preaching I'm telling all the stuff I'm going on the stages I'm going on the podcast six months ago I'm coming back I have a podcast with some I don't know I was in my group with Dean and Tony and my son texts me that there's a graduation and everybody wants to write a letter for him for graduations.

30:27So that, just make sure that you guys write, the siblings write, the uncles and everybody that know my son because of a middle school graduation. When I got out of the podcast, it was like I have like 380. I remember that. I have 300 text messages. And there was like probably 20 from my kids. But I just scrolled through it about this message. I'm driving from Miami. I was on the stage. I'm driving to Miami with my best friend. My son calls me crying. I can't believe it. I can't believe it. I'm like, wow, what happened? And he's crying. Dad, today they were revealing the letters. Everybody got 10, 20 letters, 6 letters.

31:08I got one. Oh my God, fuck. I start crying like, are you kidding me? now I have to process this for a month because now imagine like he's not important he got you know how many uncles he has he's got four siblings he got one letter just out of my house he could get six he got one he trusted me he sent me the text messages because he knew I'm going to send to my brothers just for my brotherhood he would get like 100 letters he got one because dad wasn't present dad scrolled through the text messages because you know he got another 278 text messages and that's what we do and I could hurt my son for the rest of his life I wasn't ever important I was never enough my dad never cared my dad never loved me dude I was in the podcast I got 380 text messages I can give you a lot of excuses.

32:16He doesn't care about those. No. But that's what we do to ourselves. I'm getting goosebumps. That's what we do to ourselves too. The loved ones are waking us up, but we don't listen. Son, daughter, you don't get it. Like I have a, you know, my third wife goes like, I don't care about the money. I just want you here because we have all the money. Shut up. Where am I going to learn the lesson? we want to do everything for everybody nothing for ourselves when we become priority when about when we become present with ourselves then suddenly even being at this i'm present i have a lot of this going right now i can be my head somewhere else and be here i'm like when the fuck this is gonna finish it took me years to learn this too i have a high i'm on the high spectrum of adhd me sitting here it's like a more than you can imagine yeah me too super high performers are always at the highest it's a gift matter of fact I was talking to my son's teacher and I by design I tried Yadik to go to everything now for my kids I don't care about money anymore I'm going to go to practices but do you go when you're on the phone that's the problem you're not going there I'm still working Can you imagine like you were doing this podcast right now, I'll be on the phone?

33:43Can you imagine that? Or like going to the dinner and have the phone and be on the phone. I can tell you, you go to dinner with me and you on the phone and we can make a hundred or billion dollar deal. I can guarantee you the deal is not done. We're done. I'm not doing deal with you. You disrespect me. If the phone is more important, I'm in. You disrespect the server, the boss boy, the anybody. we're done and we do it so i'm there another story i met my girl and my son went to the uh dentist and i told him that's a good one and i told him son uh after the dentist we're gonna go rollerblading and we're gonna go for breakfast and i'm gonna take you to school we went roller wedding went for the breakfast i just met this girl right it was like five six years ago and and we've been dating like six months and she asked him a question patrick so what do you like to do with your father i'm like oh watch this watch he's gonna say we're going to the you know all the lake i mean all the miami heat games you know we on the floor or the boxes we go to the hockey game to the Dolphins game, Denver Broncos game.

35:05We fly our jet, we're going skiing, and the same day we're going skiing and scuba diving. Wow, tell her. I'm thinking in my head, you're not going to believe this shit. He goes, I like to watch TV with my dad. I'm like, yeah, tell her more, tell her more, tell her, tell her all the stuff we do, the games, this is like, no, I like to watch TV with you dad I'm like well there must be something more ready yes dad I like to watch TV with you when you don't touch your phone so I can stop the TV and ask you what you see and I can talk about the movie brother my teardrop like what the fuck what the fuck like what do we do brother what the fuck do we do

36:01we do this shit unconsciously but we do it with ourselves too

36:10it's a rude awakening for me personally

36:16and that's what your kids want you know it's like that undivided attention that's it

36:27yeah

36:31and mastering that is so hard what are you feeling now because I see your body's doing nuts right now this is your podcast I know brother by the way I make people cry on my podcast me too it's always emotional but it's like I can just hear my son's voice saying that to me it's like dad get off your phone my five-year-old telling me that. You know, like, I could see him, like, at football, like, did you see me pull the flag? I'm on the phone. But I saw him pull the flag. Give him a thumbs up. I could see the disappointment, you know.

37:20Sucks. Remember, we're all guilty. Yeah. The devil gives us bribes, a little bit, this, this, this, and then we're just in it, and we're in the game. Yeah. And remember, they're going to raise the kid. I'm a father of five. Listen, consciously, unconsciously, my parents, my teachers hurt me. They didn't know. They programmed me the way they were programmed, by the pain, by lack of knowledge, by lack of wisdom, lack of awareness. I did the same thing. And now I'm speaking to wake the people up that we have everything within us and we need to be present. We got to connect with ourselves. We got to connect with our kids.

38:06So there is less suicides. People are happier. People don't look for the instant gratification. You know what I mean? Because they're going to model exactly what you do. you know like i read 12 books a week and what happened i was always reading the books on audiobooks so they can you know i mean my friend told me a few years ago it's like like dude you read so much like dude your kids read right and i'm like no and he goes you read so much i'm like oh no i don't read the audiobooks like i i don't have time for that like i like the audiobooks and he goes so how What does your kids know? Your kids think that you on the phone all the time doing business or scrolling or social media or something.