Decode Love, Lies & Leadership Through Body Language | Kanan Tandi | FO366 Raj Shamani

50:26I've noticed that और अगर interaction, तो now अगर एक partner crack कर रहा है कोई जोक और दूसरा हास रहा है this is also a sign मतलब वो fake हसी नहीं हाँ ऐसे हसी नहीं होनी चाहिए, वो सच में जेनुइन हसी होनी चाहिए, जिसमें कि I believe that you're funny, रइट वैसे, तो हसी को भी लोग नहीं importance देते जादा, दो लोग अगर एक साथ है तो वो आपस में कितना हस रहे हैं, that people don't look at, अगर आप दो लोग एक साथ हैं, तो आपके physical proximity कितनी है तो मैं अगर अपने husband के साथ बैठी हूँ तो एक हाथ मेरा उसके पाउं के उपर रहे गई या तो वो ऐसे मेरे बाल के साथ खेलते है रहे गई so this is where you see that oh they're together तो धीरे धीरे कैसे होता जैसे I'll give you another example the husband is a diamond merchant and the woman is again a socialite person तो यह लोग जो है बंद वो देख के पता चल ला है कि वो अपने एक दूसरे को क्या बोलते हैं बड़दास भी नहीं कर पा रहे हैं वाला चेहरा तो यह वाला जो एक तो पैसिफ अग्रेशन is a sign, flared nostril, when you look at your partner that is also a sign that you are not in the same page with your partner and then disgust वाला face तो वो एक दूसरे को बदास नहीं कर पार है बट socially they are very good couple तो देख करके अभी काफी सारी चीजें आशी है जो आपको देख के पता लग जाता है बट आपको क्या जरूरत है बाँ बनने की जैसे मैं बनी थी उस वाले their body language do you think that they're disinterested okay what is going on this is Kylie Jenner or timothy

52:28can you decode anything yeah see come on it's for body language decoding regularism very visible eyes when visible this name um first visibility is there is no leaning in gesture from the guy okay so this is a very basic yeah and another thing is when she उसको कुछ तो वह हाँ, कुछ तो करता है, तो वो उसको पूरे चेस्ट पैसे अपना हाथ पे रही है, there is no interaction from his end, तो usually अगर मेरा husband होगा, और मैंने उसके पाओं पे हाथ रखा, so his by default behavior is putting his hand on mine, तो यह चीज अगर नहीं हो रही है, मतलब there is no reciprocation, मतलब भी नहीं टिकने वाला है वैसे हाँ भी भी बोल रहे इंटरेंट वी नहीं टिकने वाला है वो बिखे लग रहा है but before that I'll give you another example Shakira it was very visible right from the time कि वो नहीं चलेगा because of the way they were with each other in public and एक और है Hannah Montana उसका नाम नहीं पता हुझे Miley Cyrus yes yes yes वो और वो थौर का भाई यहाँ यहाँ आप बेरी सॉरी मैं बहुत देसी हो मुझे अपने लोगों के नाम पता है इन लोगों के नाम नहीं पता है तो उन लोगों का भी जो था रिलेशनशिप वो देख करके पता लग रहा था नहीं चलेगा अच्छा ये बिल्कुल हो सकता है there is a reason behind them coming together कि trauma bonding हो मेरे पास जुन नहीं है तुमारे पास वो है दोनों एक दूसरे को जहला करके जहरीला कर देंगे तो फिर बाद में अलव बजाएंगे ये काफी लोग करते हैं तो Miley Cyrus, right तो वो energy से बारी हुई थी और on the other hand जो वो लड़का आदमी जो Liam जो था वो शांत था तो शुरू -शुरू में इनको लगाओ को वाओ क्या energy है बट इनके सारे public जो वो थे उसमें एक पूरे दिखरे एक outburst कर रहे और एक शांत तो या तो दोनों outburst करो या तो दोनों शांत रहो तो यह चीज जो लोग समझ नहीं पाते हैं तो initially ही यह पता लग जाते है initial courtship period में ही पता लग जाते है बट फिर भी लोग सोचते हैं कि वो sunken cost fallacy होता है, right तीन महीने दे दिया चो चलो 30 साल दे दो उसको तो यहाँ वाले में तो यह this was very clear, there is no reciprocation and there are again a lot of couples जिसका किदी खरा है कि it's not working but then you can't name them religious leaders जो हते हैं उन पे क्या opinion आपका उनकी body language कैसे होती how are they able to attract people oh so they are very good orators so वो तो अपनी आवास पे वो खेलते हैं जैसे की do you feel religious leaders जो हते हैं वो उनकी personal life बोड़ी complicated होती बहुत complicated होती है हाँ, see in that case I also feel जो भी उस level पर होता है सारे लोगों की life complicated हो चुकी रहती है क्योंकि आपके आसपास अच्छे लोग और कितने ही बचते हैं अपने close वाले तो सभी की life, आप top astrologer निकाल के देख लीजे, top political वाला leader religious leader, top actor सभी की परसनल लाइफ गंदी हो जाती है so religious leaders में let's talk about sadguru ठीक है his body language very calm soothing उनके भी दुश्मन है already वो कही कही पे उठकर के कुछ -कुछ बोलने लग जाते है and when he is speaking his body language is very calm so that persona is something that he has built maybe because of work on himself for yoga or everything now we'll talk about Anirudhaji Maharaj अनिरुदा जी महराज के खूब सारे वीडियो वारल हो रहा है आपने देखा होगा आपको नाम नी पता होगा यह सक अली है oh okay the savage yes yes the savage one initially also when he came into the picture he is also a person who is very genuine so he never talk about him he directly talk about him he was a tapak गए उडगए okay okay yes then you talk about let's say Gaur Gopal Das amazing personality like very chill हाँ एक और है I think Gaurangadas again wonderful personality so these people because of yoga because of they have learnt a lot for example your body language also when you have met a lot of people and because you are a person who keeps learning by default your body language will become very calm so that everything will be done and also you look at your earlier videos where when you are with somebody like 10 years ago your body language is like so much is moving, अच्छा यह हो रहा है, यह हो रहा है, right, because वो, अब वो lack of awareness था कुछ था, जब लोग जादा पढ़ने लग जाता है, तो जादा जानकारी होती है, जादा knowledge होने लगती है, तो body language दीरे दीरे दीरे शान्त हो जाता है, so demeanor maintained हो जाता है, तो जान बूच करके किसी को डॉमिनेट करने वाली चीज खतम हो जाती है because you know that you've got it, you don't have to prove it to somebody but बहुत बार ना रिलिजिस फिगर के लिए the question is that they are fake.

58:00Yes. There are good leaders, There are many good religious leaders who should follow them. And many people who are fake, I don't know the difference. That's what I'm trying to understand from you. Because they have been so much working on themselves, they don't know what to do. They will see their language outside. Their life is completely messed up. They are giving the world knowledge of God. They are talking about old people. And they are... Obviously we have had past many babies who have had many sexual cases molestation cases rapes, abuses money laundering so many people have done a lot of things and there are many genuine so I feel 2-3 bad people are in their mind genuine people question so how can you spot that how can you tell that someone is a fool and a man is a truth I think what you talk a lot about that is a person who we should not look up to more.

59:03I mean, I'm going to talk a lot about it. For example, so the thing is, you look at the gesture. It's very grand. A good religious leader will not look at the grand gesture. So, you reduce that. I mean, you should have to see people. Grand gesture is, when I'm speaking, I'm speaking in a manner that everybody should listen. So, you should put your chin up. You should put your hands like this. You should talk like this. right toploys to have been and for is the

59:55way saying. If someone has something to talk about, they don't need to make such a good thing. They don't need to sit quietly and sit quietly and say something quietly. So, there are so many grand gestures that are also people who have so many grand gestures. So, the gesture has a meaning and it has a very importance. Second is the voice modulation. so if the person is shouting and talking to you that is also another point but again not 100 % correct all the time but we are talking like this, we are saying come to you I will just do it right now, I will just throw you the paralysis of your entire paralysis now, I will just throw you the whole stage, it's completely wrong, when you are watching you all know Now, some people go with that intention that I will go and I will go there and I will go there.

1:00:31I am just going to my mouth and I am going to attack. One of my auntie was a kind of program. She was a disease. She said that no, she was doing everything right. She was going there. She knew that you will do this. If someone did this, you will be fine. It doesn't happen. Okay? So, he went there. And he had serious illness. Then when he came there, I asked him, what happened? I didn't know that he would have been fine. So, he said, no, no, no. Why didn't he? He didn't do the main thing. He didn't do the assistant. He didn't do the main thing. He didn't want to understand. Sometimes you want to be misled.

1:01:10I don't know. There was this dialogue in OMG. Don't have to keep their own attitude. not to be able to make your own self. So I don't have anything to see. I can see on which side of my hope. This is the reason. Body language is very low. What do you need to do? Faith overpowers everything. That's not what I need. Then let's come to professional world. Professional world. Interview give time. What people are wrong? I will tell you, I have a wrong idea. So, I will tell you. Like you are not going to be over smart. Look, we have already told you. We have listened to you. So, over smart doesn't even make a mistake.

1:01:54Second thing is, if you have no answer to any question, then you don't need to go away. Now, I will tell you about body language. Generally, you will get many videos of interview skills. Sit straight, put your hands here, and smile, make an eye contact. all this is happening. What is not happening is that if you have no answer, then how much you have to deal with your hands? Now, there is something called as presentation box. So, it is an imaginary cube, which starts from our chin and goes to our torso. So, if we are doing one on one conversation, then my hand should be able to deal with this because this is one on one.

1:02:40If someone sits there on the sofa, then my hand will extend. Now, if I am alone, and if this is a panel interview, so my hand can extend even more. So, knowing the presentation box, the illustrators and illustrators, who we call hand gestures, have to use this. Those who don't know. So, you will talk like this. So, you are not showing your hand. Now, it is also said, if you are not showing your hand, so the people in the head are getting a message that they are missing so the hand should be seen if you don't even have the hand or not, you don't have the hand to keep the hand in such position where you can see the hand so this people don't do it then, if you answer you have asked me a question and here are two more people when I answer, I will see you so this people should be doing it that they should include them So,

1:03:39I will give you a signal that I am registering that you are here, so I am becoming likeable for them. I don't have to do this. I have asked them, they will not answer them. They don't exist.

1:04:20Don't exist anymore. what I want to say is, you don't see it. It's like this. Then the answer doesn't come. And you have another concept. It's the concept of response latency. If you asked me as an interviewer, even if I'm getting the answer, I don't have to give the answer. I have to give the answer two seconds. Okay. So this means that, maybe I didn't answer the answer, but I'm thinking, and I'm telling you, that this is the answer. so this thing people forget to do this you have asked tell me about yourself I have shot a rope I have eaten a rope the moment you say tell me about yourself I say oh well I am brought up in this place and my father was this I have forgotten everything so I will do a little jazz up tell me about yourself the question general is tell me the last time you have overcome a problem by yourself I have that answer I will understand and then I will say Manushii Chiller example.

1:05:21Miss Universe was asked or Miss World I don't remember that part but she was asked to ask which work is the most important whose salary should be much more. She had the answer because the moment she heard the question she did the smile. So that is the duping delight. I know that I have the answer. But before she took two seconds liya, unhoney suchnay ke liye, aur fir answer kia, to aise jab sawal puchha jaya, to uranth kud karke mat answer dhe do, usko thoda sa time lo, 2 second, aur fir answer karna is much better, oh yeah, one more thing, sorry, sorry, sorry, mothla mujhe abhi yad a gya ki interviewer ko kiishe decode karna chahiye, haan, because main woh bhoul jati, haan, to abhi jaysse mainne aapko eek sawal kiya, aur aapka is poor time phe, because you are a very good listener, now so you have been hmm hmm you have been listening to a lot of attention sometimes it is to ask a next question sometimes it is very interesting so your head nod is very good good head nod right now if you think I am going to get you then your head nod will be fast hmm hmm hmm next so this thing when you start interviewing then you should get into the interview You need to know that I am going to feed you.

1:06:48So at this time, you need to change the topic or to stop. So, the head movement is very fast. When people feel bored, or they know they are not talking about anything. So, this is something. Interesting. And how do you talk about the people in the office? What should be your body language? professionally network how to create people how to talk about people I feel I feel I feel I feel officially I feel I feel that you have lunch buddy or suit partner doesn't have to be lunch buddy and suit partner are the people who become your degree and if it doesn't come or if it doesn't come or if it doesn't come then you will stay alone so if you work in any company every person with your friend you should keep limited he should keep in mind, is what I feel.

1:07:43Then again personal opinion. So, if you have limited friends, people will give you more information as much as you should. So, people don't come into gossiping. If I have told someone, you know what happened to me? And the front of them, what happened to me? That is where it starts going bad. So, when people do this professionally deal with each other, they should know how much limit I should live. there is no need to be a thing so this is one thing second some people who have to do time in the office will come and sit on the desk when you are working so you should have to be in the desk first of all indirectly that they are not welcome so as you sit on the desk you can break the washroom you can fill the water in the bottle you can say that I have some work so you need to break the interaction action break करने की जरूरत होती अगर आपको वो आपके डिस्क में बैटने वाला नहीं चाहिए तो Another thing साथ में आना साथ में जाने वाली गलतियां भी काफी लोग करते हाँ और this also sometimes leads to some serious like sexual assault molestation in case of sexual abuse तो आपको time to time groomed for this thing.

1:09:00Which is from a very subtle way. Which doesn't know people. So, that's why we keep our boundaries from keeping our boundaries. So, limited interaction is my opinion again. You know, you're talking about very unrelated timing of something that I just thought. Because you said that when you're talking about distance, how do you maintain distance? So, usually Especially, many girls are mistaken when they talk to other girls professionally or in a personal environment where they create distance from their girls. And that is, they try to shine a lot more. So, professionally or in a relationship to make a relationship, to anyone, friendly or not so friendly or platonic or non-platonic, if you want to develop connection to someone else, you should keep the attention of the girl.

1:09:57They don't need to boast. So, my principle is to shine less in life. Which I talk to a lot of my clients. Shine less. Whenever you talk about strangers or others, don't shine too much. Don't try too much. Go to what people do, all people have a habit of LinkedIn and the resume. They tell each thing and they tell each thing I create this much impact, I create this and that, I have this car, I have this house, I work this. And they do not show how much we are. In small cases, they show that this is my relationship. They try to do that. It's like, it's my place. Or they will show more money. Or they will do more money.

1:10:39Or they will show more money. They boast this thing and talk about I'm your son, I'm your son. I have a lot of money. This is the biggest mistake that guys make. True. You in a, if you're trying to make connection with someone, shine less. Don't put full limelight on yourself. And if you're a good person of five numbers, let's say out of ten you have five things which are really good for you. Don't talk about all five in just one go. It's a turn off. Talk about one. Talk about two at max. because you don't need it and you should not do it and slowly when you get to know that if you get impressed with that if you get impressed with that then you will get impressed so you don't need to tell that you have a car so come on yeah so much and the professional accolades I've seen I've met people and they are like IT then I am then this position then that position I'm like yes great like wow true true what you have just turned off that you have these two things that you have to call your life achievements and you don't talk about anything else and what are you trying to show off that you are superior I haven't gone to your college so you are watching me below or you feel like you have taken your name so now I will go back to you oh my god you are a ghost correct correct nothing is gonna happen so what you are a CEO of a very large company yes I would love to know the fact but I don't want to know the fact that these are the perks and the power that you have which comes with it in first interaction absolutely this everybody should know that you need to shine less when you are talking to people this is not interview or LinkedIn where you have to talk about all your this is our 15 things please hire us I played crucial role in taking company from X to 10x and doing that don't do this like don't do this yes i have met rishad preem ji okay what a wonderful person or i mean you don't think that he's the rishad preem ji okay such a humble person and he then i was going to pitch something so he also gave me his email idea saying that okay you can reach out to me and if i didn't email in two days then you reach out to me again and it's never possible I don't even email in two days.

1:13:06In a similar room, there was a big IT company head. Oh my god, what you were saying. I didn't think I was talking to a normal person. I thought that all accolades were taken to my room. Again, the head of CTS is very amazing. When I talked to these people, I realized what kind of person they are. and now this is my personal bias if I don't feel a person is genuine enough and they are taking all the certificates then I don't even feel like knowing I don't feel that I have any equivalents to talk about what will I learn from you because you are already showing that this is what I have sometimes even if somebody is impressed they still get turned off and they're like what's the matter true so what this is in your air yes so there's no and trust me I've met so many powerful people because of my podcast and because of now podcast friends and people the kind of dinners and the places they call the more powerful person I meet the more I realize they literally have zero interest in showing power or showing who they are or showing their accolades.

1:14:32I have this course, okay? If you have to identify how's your dates, body language, you do this course. Non-verbal decoding. And I take a workshop time to time that you should see what things in the arranged marriage set up in the arranged marriage. You should see what things in body language and what things should be asked from a person. Some things that Munna bhai told us how to know. In addition, there are some gestures that you can identify I can say, what kind of person is he? In the first meet, you have 15 minutes for half hours, you are talking on video call. And there are, the first thing that a person needs to know is, know your biases and know how to distinguish between your biases and your intuition.

1:15:20So I think all the old people are bad. Yes, I'm the old people. So I can take that example. I think all Udisha people are bad. Now, if you're talking about an Udisha, he's talking about the state. But if someone is talking about Punjab, I'm feeling bad. How many Udisha people have met you? They say, I was in my office. So, you never like anyone else. Because of your biases. Yes. So, you get so many people. So, when you meet also a lot of people, then also people get aware about your own body language, about others, behavior gestures, attitude, how to communicate with people. So, then a person becomes more aware and aware and aware and the intuition becomes higher and the biases become lower.

1:16:16So, what do we do? We take the bias and put it into intuition. ka naam laga dite. Aap chaat toxic relationship mein hai to aapko pangchwa bhi toxic hi insan milega. Because aap ne kuch bhi nai figure out kiya hai usse figure out. To aapne kuch nai identify kiya usse. To ye to ho ga hi aapke saath. To isi liye pata karna baut zharuri hai ki mein kis cheeze mein aware ho sakti ho. Yeah. Wo chahe non-verbally ho like I said outside in chahe wo inside out. Fair. Okay let's talk about celebrities. Yes. Celebrity ki body language decode karna hi question. Okay. There is no guest in our podcast who doesn't talk about Shah Rukh Khan.

1:16:53Because we ask this question. Okay. I am a big SRK fan. Like it's given. My whole audience. Like everybody who watches my podcast knows. Every guest who has come here knows. Every celebrity we interact with knows. Like it's sad. Okay. So Shah Rukh Khan. Talk about him. What do you. Shah Rukh Khan's body language. What do you think? Okay. So So, baseline can start with past. So, a very first interview is with Rajiv Shukla. So, he meets, I mean he is sitting and then he is also smoking during the interview. And another thing, you have to get to get your chair back and you don't go. So, I'll just turn.

1:17:37So, his neck is like this. So, this is called as a cowboy cross. Alpha gesture.

1:17:45so this is the gesture so this is also I am owning the place I am an alpha now this is the same thing when it comes in a few years after your law so this gesture had come to this gesture it is now but now it is like this another thing he loves to sit like that he loves to own the place like I said Salman also owns a place Shahrukh also does that and Aamir toh nahi Aamir does not even want to own a place so so when he is sitting he always sits with a cowboy cross where his right leg is on top like this and this is how he wants to talk but there is always a but factor whenever there is a presence of a woman he does not sit like this so he is very much aware how to feel a woman that is a wonderful thing for a man to do every time when there is a woman he does not sit with a cowboy cross akalya he'll sit like this but then then like this both the feet are planted entirely or aise thoda sa is type se right even jav Amita Bachchan ke saath bhi coffee with Karan mein aya te he was still sitting like this so he knows ki egar koi lardki hai koi senior respected person hai toh kaisa baitna hai that point of time to he knows this very well and plus he was also being blamed of being arrogant and all.

1:19:15Now, the person is arrogant when he goes into the conversation and goes into the conversation. Shahrukh had always been called as arrogant. So, he didn't get arrogant from the beginning. This is his gesture. This is his body language and base lining behavior. So, he always felt that I am somebody. When I was in the circus, I was with such a body language. When I was in the I was with the body language. After that, I changed my body language when there is a respectful senior person or when there is a woman in the presence of me. I have seen a video recently. I think there were other women in Rajasthani.

1:20:03They were all talking about what they had to give some prize or something. so he was very humble right like there is a bow when he is talking to them so he knows how to play with the bottle very charming person in that way yes absolutely because see nonverbal is also a skill it's a skill we can do any skill so if you have to become charismatic there are few things to do starting with what I'm thinking about myself and you need to like yourself first before other person starts liking you I don't like myself if I don't like myself then how do I like myself then starting to record yourself and talking to the camera with a smiling face and it should be the back camera we are self obsessed with the front camera so we have to try to talk to the back camera and talk to the camera third is taking the small little step which is little out of the comfort zone so if we go to the mall generally I'm talking about people whenever we go to a mall then someone comes to help us assist us so the first thing we do we say no no so we cut that so the hesitation is here we don't interact ...

1:21:35... So, this is another thing. Humility to be further. If someone is in you, he will do any work. If you love in your love, then the love of man will reach you. But if you love in your love, you will give yourself to someone. So, charismatic will be these reasons. You cannot put your home on your own. That was not the house. home hall never had always fun so you say more than 25 years than you can't say so these things we can do work next we will talk about another celebrity I want to pick up Virat Kohli ah okay yeah Virat Kohli aggressive nice loud and at the same time softy, nice, family man, pure like proper husband, both sides.

1:22:42What do they tell their body language? Okay. So, like Virat's body language, like Shah Rukh's body language is the same from time to time, Virat's body language has changed. Right? A lot. Yeah, a lot. Now, Shah Rukh is a left over, right guy over left. So, Virat is opposite. Left over right guy. this does not say anything that doesn't mean anything but his initial videos were like this like this and now just recently some months ago some foreigner man took a video he is sitting like this in the video which is a total change now this is I am talking about how many years of his journey camera friendly how many can they talk comfortably talk so that is a place where he is sitting like this and interacting with the other person which is on the same sofa so because his habit is like that his left tongue has been kept on this does not mean that he is blocking the person this is how comfortably he sits throughout the meeting he is standing on the same spot also in his heart or off camera he is a very playful person on camera he does not want to show this so off camera he is a playful person who would want to chit chat talk a lot but the moment the camera is on he becomes conscious so that is one thing that I could find out because someone was trying to try his drone he was like this he was standing so Jesse said he is going to go so he is like this so he was like this so he was like this okay so camera on camera off different personas I think in them a little child that just comes out and that comes out with Anushka's around him yes yes they make a very good and also when he's with his boys so when he's with his boys Rohit Sharma, Hardik Pandya Jodha and people are enjoying he's that only then he's not on off so when he's with his people have seen that time he's this one yes truly like one boy who I relate to who millions of Indians relate to who we all know this is like we do this yes yes yes and then there is this one like that is his persona on the pitch so he has like both yes plus see this is where a person needs to know that you need to be friends with your monster he knows the extent that he can go to and now he's friends with that side of himself so it's like nerdy hulk right this is my extreme version but I would be friends with this side it's my psychological side but I got it yes so when you know this is the extreme and you be friends with that shadow of yours that's when you be better at how to deal with the aggression we can talk well and we can talk in the way we can talk about it.

1:26:00Got it. Yes. Do you think Anushka Sharma's story changes in Virat Kohli? Absolutely. What changes are his body? He's become softer, gentler in that way. Because now there's a difference between a girl. Because now you need to, you have to remember another area. you have to understand. That relationship, long term, marriage, children, how many things are there. Slowly, slowly, slowly, you will learn something and this is another perspective that he is very open to learn. That I am learning so much. Like I said, the best apology is a changed behavior. So, he does not have to apologize or anything.

1:26:46I just gave that example. That means that that change is a lot of times. And a recent video I saw that he was talking to an Australian journalist, saying, I need my privacy, I'm with my family. He understood this value. And he was very respectful of his words. And I saw that the girl or the girl, his aggression is not that. So, when a person has a presence, which you challenge mentally, Dr. Jordan Peterson says, you be with a person who you can mentally wrestle with so we can challenge him mentally and we learn we learn to teach him too I think Virat I had a post on Instagram recently that Virat Kohli was always a star he became an icon after Anushka entered his life which talked about Virat Kohli was a very big player

1:28:15Yes, yes. religious changes about his and at the same time he has become a full holistic person and he talks about all of these things so it was a beautiful post I liked that post makes total sense, you are right it looks like they both have worked on each other and it just shines through see the good relationship is where you constantly work with each other and then you grow also together I know, as they see the screen, they have a very cute presence. Very nice. It doesn't seem like anything. It's just like, wow, this is it. It just looks so good. And you have seen this in their videos, they also take a lot of fun.

1:29:02But it doesn't seem demeaning. Yes, it doesn't seem demeaning. Look, look, look. Yes, that's it. and there was a video with Sunil Chetri where Sunil asked so Anushka said she said she was like she was like she was like she was like and then they started laughing I said wow this is so nice so Virat does not think that my image don't do that don't do that so this is what a good relationship looks like yes interesting and then now they have a clip where where some of his team members are trying to play with his head. Varad is like, don't do it, don't do it. He's young. Okay. And then cut to a clip where Anushka is playing with his hair and he's enjoying his life.

1:29:56How nice. Yes, yes. So, a lot of people don't have this idea. Sir, it's also a private part. so we don't allow to touch someone else so we trust other than our barber we allow our sir to touch oh interesting wow I never thought of it I love when my partner touches I just love it like many people can see my partner because it's intimate but my parents know I'll do this if they do this yes if they try to do that then when we get angry we get hurt we get hurt we get hurt so this is the reason another person Priyanka Chopra many people say about Priyanka Chopra that her Bollywood body language and her Hollywood body language is different do you feel so?

1:30:51yes yes and it is good what do you mean what difference between Bollywood and Hollywood body language so in the Hollywood she is more animated when she's interacting. Right? Very much. And in Bollywood, she's calmed. Okay? Now some people say, what do you say? What do you say? Accent change. How do you travel with your mind? You see, if we go to UP or Bengal, we'll say Rosh Gullah. So how do you travel with an American partner? So how will that change? Now, the thing is, when she's talking in India, interacting, she tries to be her best. But then she's also aware that I'm in India. So, she's a people's person.

1:31:42Very amazing. And her growth you have seen from In My City, there was a song that she released. From there, from there, after the wedding, so there was a whole lot of journey. And time to time, body language changes come from. And when she was in a meeting or interview for Aitras not Aitras before that Andaz so that movie was the interview where she is like yeah yeah she is talking like this and then now where she owns the place when she talks to people she is very confident and she listens she also gives respect and another thing what I have seen in her is she does not shy away to make fun of herself I didn't see the rest of the people.

1:32:31The rest of the girls especially. But she does not shy away. So I was watching a video where they said somebody asked about the accent. So she said, yes, my accent changes every second. And if I'm going to France, I'm going to speak in French. So at that time, somebody laughed in the group. So she saw that microsecond. And then she picked it up even more. that I will give such an example. So that is being charismatic. So when I'm watching and enjoying it, I'll give it a little more, so it will be more happy. No one doesn't know this, but people will learn slowly. You were telling Barack Obama and Michelle you have a lot of...

1:33:13There's a lot of respect for each other, for both of them. Barack never fails to be the gentleman that he is, especially in front of Michelle. I mean, it's like Michelle is the person who is taking a decision, but it is Barack. so in a good relationship it's that a girl is fully feminine when she becomes masculine partner so then they blossom to be the perfect version of each other and small things like hand gesture so Barack's hand gesture is mostly this when he's interacting with Michelle right it's not this he also does this when he's talking about some other things he's pointing gestures or top down gesture so these are also gestures but when he is interacting with his wife it's very different and then he is also humble at the same time so when people talk to normal people if you are giving a small nod if you are giving someone that person's presence that also says that you are humble not in front of camera off camera also so there are instances where he has been captured off camera interacting with people and he is same very humble, nice, smiling, talking so these are other things but did you see some conflict you were talking about it Michelle and Barak no I have not you are saying that both of them are sitting no no that was sorry my bad it was Hillary and Michelle Hillary and Barak then they were sitting like this why did you know Michelle and Barak how not in public place so yeah there are two people we are not with parents we are not with parents we are with parents so it will be obviously so Barack Obama I was reading an insight that when he gets to meet anyone worldwide he gets to meet anyone he makes sure that when he shakes hands he either does this or does it or does it or does it or does it or does it to exert a little dominance and warmth at the same time that hey I am and I am warmly welcome but at the same time I am on top of your hand because Because I am with you.

1:35:25So the world's most powerful president and the world's most powerful country is with you. Wow. And he exerts. So he doesn't touch anyone. So no world leader doesn't touch anyone when he was president. But he does everything like that. If someone gets a competitor, maybe they won't touch anyone. But he would never let anyone touch anyone. So this is like a very small thing. two chances you are giving support to the people. You are welcome in my world I am supporting you. True, true, true. Which can be in a day to day life if you are like this, it shows a lot of warmth and niceness that you tell to the people that you are welcome in my world nice but in the world leader level it just means a different thing.

1:36:15Yes, yes, absolutely. So you don't want to show that in any world country any president in the whole world no country no president who is on their own we don't support you we support you so that was like very interesting for me wow okay then you have seen Narendra Modi yeah so a PM yes when they give speech do you see how can you decode oh so he is a very good orator very good talking about the people who are taking the same thing. So that's the thing that you are talking about. You can also have eye contact, you can keep your body, you can have your gestures. So when they started giving the initial times, they were very pointing.

1:37:17Right. Now, he coached that point and he did this. Then he did this. So, pointing is aggressive. This is not aggressive. So, he did this. Interesting. I never noticed. So, when you are seeing a person, now, I am a good person to talk about this, but if I change this, I will get more support. So, non-verbally, this way we can go to a place with our body language, facial expressions. So when we talk about PM Modi, we can see that we can see one point in the way. But similarly, you don't see the same things in other people. So this is a small thing. We will contact anyone with whom? But then one person, one person, if you are talking like this, talking about this.

1:38:10So, everyone who is watching in the camera, they will think, wow, how many people are talking about this. And, incongruency sign. Where I am watching, I will point it there. I will not point it like this. So, there is another show called Lie to Me. Lie to Me is a show that you can see. There are many body language things. Which case, which way of gesture, how much posture, many things that you will interest. and there is this thing that tells you so if I say something to you and I don't point this I'm pointing this this is a sign that I'm not in sync with what I'm saying a lot of politicians also make this mistake so what our Modi ji body language all gestures there is a lot of connect so you won't see incongruency eyes, mouth, chest, hands and all the patterns are looking at one.

1:39:08Interesting. That's our one business leader, Elon Musk. Oh! Did you decode his body language? Yes. So, Elon Musk is better. Initially it was not. Yes. So, he will work on his own. work done. Now when they hear the words, they hear the whole question, they hear the questions and then answer them. When they hear the questions, they would cut and give the answers. They would give the answers. They would do fast. Again, they could be able to get ADHD or something else. But they did a good job. Now you think that this person can talk about it. Now they don't give the vibe, not give anything. Before he was giving that vibe which will be in the mind now he's masking it well.

1:40:05Say yes. Andrew Tate. I love that expression. Love it. That's the same expression I have. Disgust. What's his body language? Why are those disgusting things that are so influential? It's a very simple reason. I didn't know his answer, but my husband gave me a question. I never thought that he was good. He was Indian, so I can't speak with him. He didn't think that he was good because he was very bad. Now, his image is still running. He didn't even think that he was bad. please so the thing is that people become the target like now I am a girl who is in my teenage time and in my teenage time you will know how you were looking at it everyone is looking at it because it is building under renovation no one can't see it at that time so one person who is very handsome like a cigar like a girl who is like a girl who is a girl and I am not feeling confident and I was going to go to the person who was going to me reject.

1:41:25So now he says that all the girls are like, so for me, this is my idol. So this is what I'm saying. Now there are so many girls who have less confidence, and they don't have to do it on their own effort. These all the things, like the study, charisma, non-verbal, all the skills are. You can learn them. can be done. If you can go to zero, tomorrow you will be two, then four, six, then you can go. But if I am one, and I don't try to do it, then I need to make a decision. I want to make a decision. I want to make a decision. This guy is saying, he is so successful and he is saying, he is saying, he is saying, he is saying, he is saying, he is saying, he is saying, he is saying, he is saying, this is he saying.

1:42:07And we have had to go outside, here we have also people who say, which is a skill that you are you will lose fan following aysi ben jati ki aray ake ake ake thapad do chup ho jay ghi woh to sare loog aise dhiray dhiray dhiray dhiray dhiray dhiray unko to aapka yah yah dhiray dhiray dhiray aap aap aap aap aap aap aap aap aap respect kert kertay ho lda kiyo koo yah dhiray dhiray

1:43:11dhiray who don't work on themselves but want to take a job. This is all the wrong things. So I don't work on myself but I will take a job. I didn't study good because my environment wasn't good. I would go to college if my parents would support me financially. Because you will always find somebody to be blamed. Last character. Yes. And Donald Trump. okay influential leader yes I think Donald Trump is an example of this thing that whatever I have said I will show you like this stays true to Donald Trump like it is nobody can take away you can love him you can hate him but you can't take away this thing yes that you dream big you achieve big and whatever you say you make it a reality you are absolutely right in that manner because is, like you said, you can love him, you can hate him, but you can't take this away.

1:44:15This is one thing, initially, I was not a fan of him. I'm not a fan of him now, but I don't hate him. Before I thought, how dumb a man is he. But he knows what he's talking about. Or especially that debate, Hillary Clinton and his debate. So he is giving these answers and he's very sharp. Very, very, very. very witty so when you use your awareness you become very witty also this is Shah Rukh is also very witty that's the answer you say so Donald Trump's one thing he will say in the face he will not say oh sorry I didn't think because you can't think so he was also a wrestler so first When he started learning body language, he was given a hand-check example.

1:45:12He said, yes, don't do this hand-check. It's a very dominating hand-check. But then he's coming from wrestling field and he actually wants to exert the pressure. That's why. That I am. And by the way, he has also worked on himself. He has become very calm. And some people say, no, no, age. It's not happening. Because he has learned. he might have been coached also the gestures that he used to he had made in the last presidential debate he did not make those gestures in this time this time bhi shant tha but Hillary's time bhi hong bhaot bada bha this time bhi it might be something like na to jitun gai yaar toh thik hai itna bolne ki zharurot nahi hai like that toh Donald Trump as a person I don't know how it is but as a political He is a critical leader.

1:46:07He is very influential in terms of his body language. So when he also is there, you can't ignore him. So you can't ignore him. You can be very comfortable as you have to sit. I mean, sure, if you have a business about this, I will say that's on you. But be completely fine. Actually, I'm going to talk about the hands. Yeah, so do it as well. Be open. Be open. We will talk about this actually. This is a good thing. People don't know how much to use their hands while they talk. Wow. You see, every little topic is getting a little different. Thank you so much for watching this episode until the end.

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