Your Parents Are Making You Poor Without You Realising | Mitesh & Indu | FO464 Raj Shamani

31:51But only the pattern of the pattern is not changed. The third level of the pattern is belief. And there is a particular type of belief that people don't know what is called identity belief, which is the biggest world. Yeah. What I said last time, I am. That it's the belief system of itself. Whatever the identity patterns are. Until that pattern is not going to raise level, until it doesn't solve anything. That's why in all my podcasts, I say stop solving, start evolving. People say that it's not logical. Yeah. So my answer is, logical negative thinking, you get to meet today.

32:3380 % of humanity is doing either logical negative thinking or illogical negative thinking. Illogical. If someone's late at home, they haven't come. There's no logic in it. I've failed the last time, but I'll do it again. Where is the fact that someone's failed the last time? There's no fact that someone's failed the last time in a match, the next match will fail. There's no logic. 80 % of our negative thinking doesn't have logic. okay so if you have illogical negative thinking and you're allowing that in your life now allow this illogical positive thinking I like it illogical negative thinking what side effect will be?

33:13in the brain in the brain in the brain in the brain but tell me what's happening with the girl now so now like you said about the guy this girl right now the girl did her change not happen successfully for now technically she starts 최 paralysis she is going she is going she is going she is finally in her life and over she has worked and worked she has worked and RM Zap identified then she has its cash when she takes care also she is doing everything she is the woman of the house or the man of the house of whatever you want to call it but now she also is dominated on her Why what is that not happen in her what is the change not happening it's important to feel to be helpless feel it's a habit it's a bad thing addiction it's a way of drugs like drugs like cigarettes like cigarettes it's a habit that's a habit but any amount of money status anything can change so when does real change happen the real change happens when the pain becomes unbearable problem is the bearable pain and what's the threshold for bearable pain.

34:22For each person it is very different. For each person it is very different. For each person it is very different. I have seen it's different. Some people just chill and get different. Some people are enough to chill. And some people are eating and they don't change. Men and women both. Many men are angry at home but they can't talk about it openly because it's not manly to get hit by women. So they don't talk. And women also say, okay, my husband is here. is fine, now better is not left in the hope. Correct. It's a threshold. If you have seen a movie then you can see it. He just hits once. But she takes a divorce.

35:02That's not acceptable. So that was her threshold. How does threshold become more and less? So, threshold becomes more and less than someone becomes more and less. But if we want to change it. Think of this lady for example that we want to change it. inside a human being there is this weird wire and he says you don't need to change people you need to give them better options they automatically choose the best you need to change someone you give him a better option he will choose you give him a little example it will make sense a girl is a teenager I told him two days ago he said he is a platinum I was talking to him that I was very proud of the pawn.

35:50What do I do? I said, son, your problem is pawn. What do you think of pawn? What do you think of pawn? What do you think of pawn? Sexual satisfaction, pleasure. At a core, pleasure. Pleasure. Sexual satisfaction, pleasure. Now, tell him about sexual pleasure, tell him something else. Satisfaction, pleasure. The word is pleasure. Take it deeper into it. Dopamine.

36:18is dopamine or pleasure a requirement of human survival absolutely 100 % agreed so there is something called higher quality of dopamine and lower quality of dopamine higher quality pleasure lower quality pleasure the person living in lower quality pleasure he doesn't know his visibility has not yet that his pleasure is good true when you give him an option he will choose you how do you give him an option visibility to higher options first itena hi kar do do baut platinum is this lady join kya i'm now coming back to this lady is nne kya platinum is ko yeh boli maynne platinum is this lai join kya kwa ke maynne aapke kisi video mein sun lya kisi or lady ki story joh platinum mein hai aur jisne apne ghar mein yeh badlao kya hai maynne endo mem ki story shi nahi usne badlao kya hai toh is story so usko kya pata chala it's possible pleasure option there is a higher quality of life that is possible if you don't know that there is a higher quality of life possible, then what will you do to change?

37:21Nothing. You don't do anything. You give two options. Three-star hotel, five-star hotel. What will you do? Three-star hotel, three-star hotel. What will you do? Something. What will you do? Give two husbands. Give two husbands. What will you do? This is not a question. But give two husbands. So, she was going to kill and she was going to love a amazing call. What happened? But there are options available. No, there are options of men. You change people like that. No, there are options of men. Options of possibility. That it is possible. That in any person there was such an abuse problem. And now she changed.

38:02Now how did she change? She joined Platinum. And now she realized that, oh. Because now she had access to that other woman in Platinum. but she has told me that I didn't change my husband I changed myself my husband changed now I don't give him that husband because I am like my husband now she knows how to control her husband in a healthy way so now they have a respectful relationship now they have a healthy relationship can you have a respectful relationship after that one time of course why not create like okay so let's look at it this way like in a wild thought okay if a girl and a guy guy hits the girl or the girl hits the guy after that there is no lost cause no there is no lost cause but how are you going to respect like like I if ever forbidden guilty I'll lose respect for myself forget others like I won't be able to live in front of the woman true like women I touched her, I would have to be a sin that I would have to cut my hand.

39:12That's the kind of level of sin in my head. I can't hit her. It's just, and if you do, how can she be okay with it? True. It's possible. It depends on who has the higher visibility, who has the higher perspective. If there is a higher perspective, for an example, do you know that there are people who work with terrorists to reform them? And many of the Kashmir soldiers right now are but reformed terrorists. Yeah. Converted into Indian soldiers. And these Indian soldiers are today helping catch more terrorists, not to kill, but to reform. I agree. It's a possibility. The question is that who has that perspective, and the question is that who wants to do it.

39:55So everyone has a different mission. I'm not saying that in this couple, that will be a mission or a perspective. But coming to this point of conversation, what should they do in this conversation? I don't want to respect her. No, no, no. I'm not saying that. Because if she starts respecting abuse, she'll attract more abuse. Exactly. I'm not saying that. I'm saying first, why is this disrespectful person in my life? The day she is able to upgrade her own pattern where she's no more helpless, she's on a higher frequency now. But tell me, if this woman starts working on herself,

40:47So, people who are watching, they may feel that while she's changing, she's still with the guy. And the guy might continue hitting. So, we are kind of saying that you keep saying. You keep saying. You keep saying. We don't say saying. In fact, we're saying don't do it. We're saying don't do it. Don't do it. Don't do it. So what does she do in the meantime period? In the meantime period, when she's working on herself, either she can start pushing back that guy immediately or she can step out and then work. And that happened with many of our platinum members did that. They simply stepped out. They stepped out of the relationship.

41:25They worked on themselves. And then they decided whether they want to go ahead with this relationship or they want to discontinue with the relationship. but tell me I wanna go deeper in that like and I wanna ask you that you have talked about we have talked about the girl who has a lot of relationships where women are dependent on the man so true and men are killing her and they are chup chup because now they feel like I can't go home because probably parents are old or death so they are helpless that they are where they were born that you can go there, you can go home. Sometimes it's a way where parents don't accept that you're your husband, you handle it.

42:07You're a new house, all that bullshit. Then you're going to go away. So that's the second thing. Third is, they think that my child, my family, what's going on, you're fine, you're going to live your life, you're going to live your life, you're going to live your life, you're going to live your life, it's fine, whatever. They go through it. So where women are completely dependent on men's people, financially, emotionally, socially her identity apart from the man what's this situation she can't be she can't step out she can't do outside of the house why can't she do she can't do she can't do she can't do how much time let's say 50 year old women who first of all if she's reached she's reached 50 years I mean I must say that she's she really need to work 100 % she's reached in this stage generally she's reached in 35-35 years if she's reached 30-30 years old.

43:02So she just needs to step out. At least in India, there are so many avenues to make work. I mean, I say this, it's very simple. I've told many people in Platinum Members. We have told many people here. Many people have told them. You have studied. You can go to work anywhere. You can do a lot of jobs. Like you can become an executive assistant. You can do cooking. You can start now cloud kitchen. You can teach something. you can do hell lot of things this is easy for 30-35 year old for a 50-55 year old woman who didn't work today she was a housewife she didn't know a concept she learned only now that threshold will end her my child is grown she just has to but she is dependent how do she leave her family she just needs to make her own mind if she has a threshold she has a frog story and put water in water, after one point, the frog jumps out.

44:02If she is 50 years old also, she just has to jump out. The moment she will step out, she will find her way. We have a case right now. A friend of a friend is married, she is 18-20 years old. She has a husband-wife. She has left her home. After that, That girl never did a job. She has read it. She never did a job. She never did a job. She has to get out of the house. She has to find a job within one week. She has read it. She has read it. She has read it. Let's take another example. cooking you know is India is dos some do Florida

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44:58.... of the 30 thousand months happening from home . You an 4 2 self-esteem you will keep on the crores. If you have put on the crores on the crores, then it's easy. Then you are looking at money, then you are looking at lifestyle and you are hitting your self-esteem. And you are paying the cost of that abuse in the crores. If your self-esteem is high, then you will step out. You will have a job at 10 ,000 and you have 10 ,000 rupees to work in a house. If your self-esteem is high, but if your strength is still working, your threshold doesn't come, and you have branded clothes, and home, security, and money is important, then you don't have self-esteem.

45:51And there is a limiting belief she has, that what I said, that the emotional pattern will be done. 50, 70, 100, or 25 years old, you can upgrade your emotions in any age. Helplessness is just an emotion. It's not a sin. There's no big country which you can change. There's no country which you can change. You can change your belief. You can change your belief. This emotion is an emotion. Helplessness is in it. You can change your belief. You can upgrade your belief. You can change your belief. Step one. Second, that lady has to change your belief. Like you asked, who has been living in 50 crores so why do you believe that that it will not be able to get a crores who said that just because it was 50 this is a limiting belief can we not have such examples in the world who have been in 50 or 70 in business started and a billionaire there are many examples but this is not visibility they don't have visibility the day they get visibility you will choose better you give a person two choices one good one better the person will by default to choose a better choice this is no doubt in today's time if that lady feels like but I have no option there is no visibility that what is possible outside I think probably this podcast has some extent this intention that people know that there is a higher option available but the higher option will not start a better job or a better business or a step to work on your emotional frequency first of all I am not helpless So, as I said in platinum, nothing less than this is acceptable.

47:33Platinum standards. So, when I talk about standards, I'm talking about clothes, money, cars, because generally standards are said to them. But I say that it is a standard, but it is a result standard. If I first change the standard in life, I have to first change my emotional standards. What does that mean? I live life platinum standards. I will not live under it. What does that mean? I woke up and woke up until I sleep. How dare I feel helpless? How dare? I'm saying platinum. How dare you feel helpless? It's not allowed. Platinum is helpless? It's not allowed. But sir, it's not allowed. I had a first example of this.

48:15Unconsciously, we decide something else. That something is allowed or not. So, the brain starts to work on it. You kill your husband. You don't leave the clothes outside. You leave the clothes outside.

48:32no it's not allowed not allowed so in the brain a bad thing is that someone is beating someone is laughing someone is laughing they don't wear clothes simple things they don't have to brush they don't have to drink they don't have to drink so some things in life are allowed we have allowed helplessness we have allowed it's not so simple it's easy for Hindu because there is helpful yang energy domination power is. So, it will be very easy for Hindu. If I abuse it, I will leave it 2 minutes and leave it all over 2 minutes and it will increase it. It will be done. Your question is valid. How will she be 50 years old?

49:06How will she be doing? Emotion on the job. You are not allowed to feel helpless. So, now second step. So, what are you allowed to feel? Choose your standards. Emotion on the job. I was talking about in my previous podcast. I should make a choice. I should feel what I should feel and what I should not. In my life. in the past year, people are making new resolutions. Don't make new resolutions, so you will make the next year again. I am making new year resolution again. The new year resolution is making new year, why do you change the diary? Why do you change the diary? Let me do it. Let me do it with five.

49:45Don't write new year resolutions this year. This year, I will give you a new level of emotions. And I will give you a new level of emotions. I will give you a helplessness. I am going to feel powerful. Just then, I am powerful. I am powerful. Now, your question is, that if she has helpless feeling, how can she do it? Will it be natural next question? Yes, it is a little help. And the first step of the answer is community. It's not alone. It's very difficult to change your emotional habits. Right? So, first of all, let's join a community. Where There is a habit of powerful people. Normally. A habit.

50:29And people there are practice. He feels like I am powerful. Practice. Community like this join. Second, group coaching. You should have a community leader. A group coach. I call this a mentor with a map. A mentor with a map. Who says here, here, here, here, here, here. Go. This is a shortcut. If you have a strong emotional strength. Then if you have a new belief. Create yourself. Then. But this is a cheap way. Everyone can't do it. I understand that. But you don't need to do it only in Platinum. Find all the school friends. And find some kind of people that are Indian. And start talking to them.

51:09Go back to those community friends. They look like Indian. Yes, they look like Indian. They look like Indian. You're not allowed to feel helpless. You're not allowed to feel helpless. They will make them strong. strong bina de ke na ke boli ki hai re to sahi bol re ye to your loud hee nah chi meri sindagi me that is so true but you know I'm just thinking about it ki jo helpless women hoty hai unka jo kitty party group all be so helpless and who are powerful one who are powerful most of the time I don't know if 100 % is true but most of the time it's true it's true most of the time it's true no he will not take all the helpless powerful ladies helpless and helpless and powerful and powerful will run from that group.

51:54Yes, because they don't understand. What's happening? Exactly. So, you are a sum total of people you are surrounded with. If you are powerless, that means people around you are also powerless. And if you are powerful, then people around you are powerful only. So, I'm not surprised if they have a kitty party which is powerful kitty party. And they talk business. Like all my friends, we talk all business. But tell me, those who are desperate in life like very desperate for spending money for desperate love who are desperate but desperately and dying for it they don't get it they don't get it why desperate I have said complimentary emotions complimentary emotions creates complimentary emotional attraction guilt attracts punishment desperation attracts poverty the girl who is desperate in college no girl doesn't give her why is that?

52:50I'm not interested in girls all the girls desperation stink desperation stink exactly exactly a desperate girl and she's a desperate girl a very strange humanity I've always thought about it which I've noticed if I give someone to myself generously it's good I've given it 1000 bucks give me a tip. That man is desperately saying, sir, please give me 500 rupees. He doesn't give money. He doesn't notice himself. Maybe. To notice himself. Any person sees desperation that he says, Lord, I want to work with you. Please, Lord, do it. Something inside is what will stop you for doing it. And that is because that frequency will extract that frequency from you.

53:46which is lack. Desperation is lack, right? It's coming from lack. It's coming from lack. So you will not give him more. You will give him less. So who has anything is not, that will be desperate. Desperation is an emotion. It is not a reality. It's a lie. It's somebody who has not money, nor is it a love life. He doesn't have anything to do with reality. Not true. But somebody who doesn't have money, its reality is no money. Bank balance is zero. So he will be desperate to make money, there's nothing to do with, that any emotion feels good. The reality is that it is a bad thing. It is a bad thing.

54:23It is not a bank. What will it do? I'll give you an example. If it is not desperate, he won't die for it. Then how? No, it's a matter of habit. It's not a matter of what you have. What is it, it doesn't have to take anything from it. What I am, it doesn't have to take everything from it. So, let's take a look at Hindu example. When you were doing the first job, what year did you tell me? You told me in the last podcast. 800 rupees. of money became food. everyone must also grow at on 1, 2,

55:00Oh my seeing my friend who has a coach for one day. One day I said, My friend, I'm a coach for a long time. What happened? I said, I've been a very poor month. I thought that the way she spoke was 10 times of what I showed right now. Okay, 10 times. What happened? 6 ,000 ,000.

55:35her salary when she resigned one year ago was 75 ,000 in corporates as a trainer employee as a trainer employee 75 ,000 I don't completely disagree with your emotion I agree what happened to this girl I was told to explain desperation that it's just a habit and nothing when she understood that for the first time in her life then I said I would have set a benchmark make that who do you want to feel every day it's not about it's not about that it's about who is who is this is more important this is more important so emotion when do I am

56:26when do I am when do I am this is more important this is more important I mean, this is a studio. I am a studio. So look, identity is more important than reality. Exactly, 100%. But majority of people's reality, happiness or emotion is dependent. I agree. Their identity is dependent on their external factors. With majority, it's like that. I think that's what we've been somehow unconsciously taught by the society that it's like that. And I'll tell you, being very honest, right? I'll come to the point. I'll give you one example and then begin through it. Like, my personal example is, when you don't have money, and then you go to the restaurant, you know you can't afford it.

57:18You're scared in a small restaurant. You feel a small person in yourself. You feel a bad person in yourself. You feel something or something. Like, people look at you in a negative way. It's just, you feel certain way. and majority people will agree with that majority people think this is not true or is it true? it is not true correct or incorrect but majority people think that I agree when you don't have money majority people think that I agree and neither people think that you are more concerned about it nor you are scared of restaurant or hotels and when you have money then you have confidence because you know that max what will happen At that time you can't buy a hotel.

58:01Nothing changed. You just have to eat one meal. Just that one emotion. When you are going to a hotel or restaurant, you are going to a 500 rupees or 50 rupees, versus when you are going to a 500 rupees. Insane confident difference. Not true. Not true. I saw people who were poor without money, and they saw people who were poor with money. The hypothesis that you are saying, the hypothesis is that the majority is, it's not right. It's not right. It's not right. It's not right. It's not right. It's not right. I think it's a different answer. We have identity from external factors to the majority people.

58:39The majority people. Last time I was saying that the magic should be everyone who wants to believe. Right? Everyone wants to be exceptional by taking the rule of majority. The problem is not. Fair. How do you become exceptional if you take the rule of majority?

59:04and to prove the point which is a great discussion going on about that if there is no problem then how I feel now I came from Dubai from yesterday and I was looking at the country fascinating I was looking at the country and I thought what is this? I was like this is a different country

59:31So I started doing research. So his highness. His highness. So his highness interview was Steve named in US reporter. Very recent interview. And in that interview Steve asked him. You must watch if you have not watched. Shake why are you in such a hari? When what people are trying to do in 50 years, you say you want to achieve in five years. Why are you in a hurry? So the Sheikh says, why not? Why not? So he says, but most people would say what you're trying to do in 50 years to five years is dangerous. Most people would say it's not even practical. Most people would say it's unnecessary. Most people would also say it's not right and it's not possible.

1:00:22So the shake says, most yes, us no.

1:00:32You first decide yourself, then decide your rule. Most to be the majority, follow the rule. True. But if it becomes exceptional, which I think, whoever you watch podcasts are watching, it becomes exceptional. Health, relationship, career, money. If you need a good thing, athletes follow the truth. Don't follow the majority. don't follow people right you should have a good relationship if you follow people and I really mean it like we are those people who can say we are best friends after going through jhagade yin yang and melons everything we can say today we are best friends possible but you have to follow people who are exceptional good podcast follow no no podcasters follow

1:01:46I agree. it is not allowed let me tell the whole test tell the whole test I want to test I want to do it let's do it let's do it so platinum standard yeah platinum standard I set my platinum standard and all people can do it so what is platinum standards because platinum standards in a way we have made these are our standards but before we understand what is the standards simple concept is standards whatever is allowed and whatever is allowed If you go to a five-star hotel, you can get them to get them to get them. Because there are five-star standards. You go to a restaurant as a customer. How much do you pay for that chai?

1:02:34A five-star hotel. 200-500. Something like that. You get a little bad on the table. It won't. As a customer, you get raised standards. raise that I jeszcze give you 200ús rup которые 500 rup а That man would not have a great deal without any problem press the topic No hygiene means nothing. You can drink it with love. You can also give it a gift.

1:03:04That's a matter of standards. Now, let's see this from a point of view. The hotel has defined some standards. What is the color of the clothes? What is the starch on it? There are some standards of hygiene in the bathroom. So, there are two definitions of standards. Definition one, what is allowed, what is not allowed. The second. It's a benchmark. mark chosen by us so standard second criteria is my choice it is not a global standard unless you are competing with it you can't say that my standard now we are talking about Oscar so Oscar has a standard so all communities have a standard Hollywood community everyone has made a standard So we have in our community, Platinum which we have given, choose and we have made standards.

1:04:00Higher than average human being standards. That these are Platinum standards in four areas. Health, relationships, career and money. I'll give an example. This is a Platinum dashboard which we have built recently. Platinum members. We have given people in this dashboard. that you have to reach the standards before you have to reach the standards. Okay. After reaching the standards, you have to maintain it. Because if you don't maintain it, then it's not the standards. True. But you will maintain which thing you choose. So, platinum is the person who does the platinum standards. I believe in platinum standards and want to believe it.

1:04:43Okay. Example. Here I'll tell you about health. Health in health. First standard is, I always maintain my ideal body weight as per my height and age always always always always not allowed not allowed so platinum overweight not allowed underweight not allowed so ideal what is your height and age doctor will say my height and age is different but standard is global standards medical standards which is ideal height and body weight you should not exceed that but if you don't then then when they join platinum, they agree to reach those standards. He will reach those standards and then he will maintain it.

1:05:29Two-shrie. I exercise every day without default. Ten minutes minimum. Tenny minutes. But I will do it a day. There is no Saturday or Sunday. There is no Monday. I am busy. I am traveling. I am going to Dubai. I am on holiday. No one is giving me. There is nothing in 10 minutes. In 10 minutes, there is no difference in life. If you have to do it, then do it. These are the standards. third standards of health fitness standards so we have made fitness standards that you know platinum fitness who you are in 10 minutes you should be able to achieve 100 push ups and 100 squats now I don't say that these platinum standards will get you when you join platinum I say you decide what you will do so let's take your example although in your case more or less it is matching your ideal body weight and high age right now.

1:06:23So, that's your first standard match. Second, do you exercise every day right now for minimum 10 minutes? Do you have to test? 5 to 6 days a week for sure. 100 % So, it's not 7 days. But, you have chosen 5 days that's my clarity in my life. if your benchmark is clear then you have 10 on 10 right? Third, are you able to do 100 push-ups every day in 10 minutes? Very easily. Very easily. So 10 on 10. Plus 25 pull-ups along. Plus 25 pull-ups along. I think we should compete.

1:06:59Then we are able to. This is a very important one. How many days in a year I am healthy without any sickness?

1:07:11This will come. I will have a bad two days every three months. No, not allowed. So it should be in mind and it should be written. not allowed. When we write that in the year I am not allowed to be ill then your body starts to work on that. It won't happen but every 2-3 months because of allergies the weather changes and 2-3 rates So now the pattern of allergies is not allowed. But you have accepted it. Allergies are here. I can do it. Allergies are here. Acceptable is now acceptable. If you have platinum join I will say not allowed. But before I accept it, you leave the drug. But allergies not a lot.

1:07:56How do you get this? Do I have allergies? But I have allergies. But when I was young, doctor had taken a stamp. Allergy. Lifetime. Raj Chhmani. I've never come to talk about hereditary or something. Not a lot. See, I get what you're trying to say. I'm trying to understand how. Okay. I'll come to the how part. I promise I'll come to the how part. now we are just making benchmark let me ask you a question what does the path you want to live without allergy 100 % guarantee just until the standard will not be made it will be possible I want to have a disease if the standard will not be made it will be acceptable but if it will not be acceptable then it will not be possible you will not make any you will not make any benchmark you will not reach you will not reach you will not reach you will not reach then you will maintain because the standard has a big criteria that is a lifestyle it is not something that you achieve as a goal.

1:08:48I don't say it's a new year resolution. I tell it's a benchmark and I'll live in life. Okay. So from that point of view it's a physical health and now it's emotional health. If I ask for some negative emotion staying in that emotion for a whole day is not allowed. It's not allowed. You can be proud of platinum but you can't say it that I'm proud of four days. Boss is not allowed. Four hours. Four hours. It's our record and we time it. In half an hour, recover. Tension is half an hour max. 30 minutes is not allowed. That's also for new platinum members. After coming to our level, 7-8 minutes is not allowed.

1:09:31Something is needed to give comfort zone. Half an hour, go. I say it's an emotion. I don't have long term. It's not for a day. But if there's a negative emotion, before bed, if I get it, I get it for a while. 20, 30, 40 minutes. And I sleep in it. Now, next day, Now, sometimes it's 20, sometimes it's 40, sometimes it's not. So, this is standard. One, decide that I have no negative emotions in my life. I don't think that in a day. But when you feel emotions, time is not done. When you make a benchmark, you always get it. It always comes. When you decide that I will drink 3 liters of water in a day, you always get it.

1:10:13But you have a benchmark. you need to decide that I don't need 30 minutes so you don't need it we start it in the platinum we give people a count this is a count this is a dashboard where this is health I'll show you health and this is 7 you can't give more than 7 every 7 days you need to check in relationships We do it.

1:11:12but we are doing介cal in their pre-credential contract for developing the system every weekly every month one day and the people say pay around accountability and then after 4 after tax in a second like your health average 1 to 10 when you get it only that emotions under 30 minutes Pruples don't happen 30 minutes then the luxian Then, you have to get the allergy from the healthy health. Emotional health is fine. Physical health is fine. What do you give the average rating? 1 to 10. 7, 8. Okay, 6. Why? Platinum has all boxes ticked for minimum 4 weeks. This is for 7. This is also a benchmark. If you had a month in one month, the rating will be 6.

1:12:05You need 7. चाहिए, चारो हफता consistently, सारे box इस टेक होने जाए. But tell me, अगर emotion अब suppress कर रहे हो, तो यह किस अब हाओ पर नहीं हाओ, हाओ पर आओंगा मैं, I promise मैं हाओ पर आओंगा. अब suppress नहीं कर रहे हैं? Suppress नहीं कर रहे हैं. मैं तुछे suppression नहीं सिखा रहे हैं. The one who wins on the Olympic level is a little bit. The expression is different. The relationship after the best friend level is living on the 22 years. The one who doesn't suppress anything about the other. Our expression is very different. Your average is 6. Why? Because one point is less than the allergy.

1:12:41I won't give it 7. Until that allergy, it will not be 4 weeks consistently negated. Not allowed. Then the subconscious will work on that side. So this is where I say, logic and some things will play which will not be strategically correct logically correct not be the whole DNA test will be allergic no one will we will work towards not be so platinum another very important like these all benchmarks are for HRCM there are some benchmarks for emotions beliefs also what are you allowed to feel what are you allowed to believe so one of the things we always believe is illogical positivity. I like that.

1:13:24I like dream and illusion. Dream and illusion. Just allergy and illusion. Like Harman Preet when we coached and were doing during that coaching before the match and before the final World Cup final one day before the World Cup final Indian women team captain. Indian women team captain. So we coached in the hotel in the last evening so Harman says but sir logically speaking Australia is a better team No, that was before semi-final That was before semi-final Logically speaking, they are a better team They have more matches They have a support system They have a lot of support They are a physically stronger team So logically speaking, I'm afraid It is not possible So I said I'll prove this That everything is according to the world Including sunlight because in the whole way nobody understands logic sunlight so there are some things that we don't understand you have to allow that in the magical world so which I say, illogical positivity is allowed in platinum where you are going to say so I and Harman have practiced here which we do in platinum we do different ways here our practice was that I tell Harman this match if you have to die and she is supposed to react sir match we will win and this is our 15 minutes practice and then at one point it was normal practice is finished then I'm talking about something else then I'm going to kill the other side but if the climate is bad then and she's thinking Arman we won't win so I have to keep testing her but I'm conditioning her mind and just the way I'm doing in platinum we won't win anything

1:15:18This is fascinating. How will it happen? We will decide later. But, you don't need to have allergy. You are telling me that just this illogical positivity. Not just. Not just. And. Like today, when Harman said, when Harman said, Sir, magic applied, but all checkboxes were necessary. need to do the tick boxes. When you go to the field, you need a strategy, you need a calculation that in the match in the first part there are so many runs. It's all. Not just and. But it's exceptional when you do something and you do something extra. It's extraordinary. It's extra. It's magic extra. So for you, six is the rating right now for health.

1:16:04Okay? Now let's get to relationship standards. So first relationship standards, I have a great relationship standard. This is allowed for all platinum members. Compulsory. That I have a great relationship with my mom and dad both. I can't say that you're with mom, but not with dad. Not allowed. Why? Your parents are the roots of your relationships. If there's a problem with your parents, I'll give you a guarantee on the stamp paper. The problems you have with your parents, the problems you have with your parents are the problems you have in your current life. Explain. If I have a problem that my father dominates me too much.

1:16:45You have dominating people in your life right now. Because your father was trying to teach you a lesson of being assertive. The skills you are missing in your life today are the lessons you did not learn with your father earlier. Wow. And I can write it. I have proven it to people again and again and again and again. Whatever my complaint is from my mom, whatever my complaint is from my father,

1:17:20you can never run away from your parents how do you then manage this go back to time what was the lesson in this problem what was the lesson in this complaint my dad always had a bad relationship with my mother he used to always hit me he used to always shout at my mother he used to always drink what was my lesson in it? to be happy in that moment of my life if I write all the lessons and make them and develop them and develop them my problems will disappear in today's life I guarantee that because those skills will not come so I am at a higher level of skills so the problems of life's old get worse

1:18:04wow okay this we teach in relationship mastery okay let's let's go deeper this is very fair okay let's do his ratings first no but we will go there deeper this is very fascinating once we take your ratings we can go deeper by taking your example okay let's take your example in this conversation to go deeper any of your biggest problems in your relationships would be a reflection of some of the complaints you have with your parents in the past and if those problems have been resolved in your relationship today it's because that problem has also disappeared in your conversation with your parents in the past you've either forgiven them for it or you've accepted them that way for it or you have learnt a lesson because of which that doesn't bother you anymore and because of that today that problem has disappeared from your current relationships if you don't solve that problem in your and your father then it will come to your life in your life, in your boss, in your friend in your friend, in your client in your mind's form, and if there's anything else, you'll come inside.

1:19:10What you hate the most, you become the most.

1:19:15I understand what you're trying to say, but I'm trying to find out what's in my life. How do I find out? Because definitely... Okay, so the easy way to find out that is not looking at your problems first. Look back on what are the complaints that you had either with your moment at for a long period of time. You probably have resolved that today because I know you've worked a lot on yourself but look in your past look in your past

1:19:44probably this in this example relevant thing I don't know but the constant problem that I'm able to think it's like have you have you heard of a thing called caretaker's trap I have in psychology we also call it mother teresa syndrome that is true probably right it's like so you have at least I have a sort of caretaker's trap that I am the responsible one and I if my mom is unhappy then I have to be happy if my brother is something with my brother then I have to be happy if my dad is something with my brother like it's me and it's more between me and my mother than anyone else in the family if they can't solve can't solve it, it's on me and I feel guilty even if she's wrong.

1:20:38Even if she's like I know this logically doesn't make sense and it's wrong and I should probably be like you should deal with it. I'm like no no no. I am responsible, I want to help you. Because if I'm not the caretaker in this then what will happen to her, what will happen to her, what will happen to her, what will happen to her. And I'm going to take guilt after that. I'm not going to do it, who will do it? I'm the son, I should do it. correct and if my happiness is or not I try to go deeper in that and try to solve that problem same thing this is my relationship if my partner is let's say if he has a problem and if I'm not happy about it or whatever that thing is I don't care I'm like what's it going to happen I'm responsible for that so I need to make sure that I go out of my way to do this I will surprise myself I will surprise myself I will surprise myself just to make sure that because I am the responsible one same I do with my brother same I do with my employees so you have realized that guilt is your pattern yeah yeah I will tell you something little different from what I spoke about parents because that conversation is on relationship mastery this is not just relationship mastery this is your whole life emotions this is emotional pattern conversation say this with me repeat with me loudly because then a fool will open in your mind.

1:22:04So repeat with me. And if anybody is watching this, take any of your emotion or you can take the same emotion and repeat it with me loudly. Guilt is heavy. I have a suggestion. All of us, tell me with guilt and with Raj. To give you more example to make it easier for people as well. If I have taken a decision or made a decision I will find a way to find guilty for it because the person is hurt or the happiness didn't happen or the emotion didn't get time I was like oh I shouldn't have been that assertive and straightforward or maybe I shouldn't be that self-centered and selfish I shouldn't be this I shouldn't be that and I keep in guilt that I will do my life correct do you agree that life more or less interconnected if something happens then something happens to the other you must have heard about the butterfly effect tsunami So everything is connected.

1:23:03Fair? So repeat the statement with me. Because I have the capacity to feel guilty. Because I have the capacity to feel guilty. Listen to that statement carefully. Okay. Because I have the capacity to feel guilty. Because I have the capacity to feel guilty. I have to create a problem in their life. I have to create a problem in their life. Hold. Don't say anything.

1:23:33don't say anything let it sink I have to manifest a problem in their life say it, say it I have to manifest a problem in their life so I can feel guilty say it so I can feel guilty because there is no other way because there is no other way for me to feel guilty me to feel guilty is it true do I yeah you do a mother who worries for her daughter to not get married manifests her daughter's not getting married so she can worry about her daughter I have taught this to people in platinum they stop worrying they create their pattern and their daughter gets married in three months I am not joking is this what I create without that you can't get guilt without that you can't get guilt without that I make people in my life I make them hyper dependent on me you will you will they are like extremely dependent on me because I do everything go out of my way financially socially psychologically to become that space that pillar in their life that and as a result of that many of them will not grow in their life because of you yeah because they're dependent on me forever because no because you need to continue feeling guilty you're not doing it for them to be dependent that's not your intention in fact your intention is to make them independent you will not make them independent because you need to feel guilty it's nothing to do with you wanting them to be dependent or independent that's your desire that's all surface level conversation the internal thing is i need to feel guilty so i have to create an environment to feel guilty and for that they have to be dependent on me the day a mother is strong enough to say go live your life get out of my house she has lost she has willingly disowned her capacity to feel guilty for the child and now suddenly the child has no choice but to grow up and become independent but that cannot happen until the woman is ready to stop feeling guilty.

1:25:49But when mom doesn't do wrong with that? You know, mom is blind. She's talking about pattern. Someone ask to ask to the smoker, if she doesn't do wrong with that, what would she say? But in a relationship, if someone has become dependent or if mom is dependent or son is dependent on the son, or father is dependent on the son. On the unconscious level, she knows this. Or brother is dependent. Unconsciously, she knows this. So it's wrong. Unconsciously, Raj also knows. No, but then we, if we cut the relationship because I don't feel guilt, then... No, no, now you're going to the conclusion of what to do to remove that guilt is to cut the relationship.

1:26:26This was an example. That is not the solution. The solution is to heal. Okay, repeat with me. Tell me this. If I heal my capacity to feel guilty. If I heal my capacity to feel guilty. I also have to develop the capacity. I also have to develop. the higher version of guilt. To feel the higher version of guilt. The opposite of guilt. The opposite of guilt. Tell us what that is. Don't do it. It's a pattern that helps. Opposite of guilt. Yes. What happens? Problem vocabulary is not the problem. Problem is the pattern that doesn't practice. The word doesn't come. There is no neurological link. Think about it.

1:27:09Take it. Take it. Guilt is what happens. I don't remember you I do this every week No Now I'm a grammar teacher You kill me Satisfaction is the opposite of guilt That's the opposite of dissatisfaction What's the opposite of guilt? I can't Not guilty

1:27:38Then I'll kill you I'll sit first fit raha hon. Paap, paap dekh raha hon. Kya hathah guilt ka? Ab jab bataunga na toh tu bho like, aray, yaar. Kya? Innocent. A person who's not guilty is innocent. Joh katgharay mein khada hai, woh guilty. Or joh guilty nahi hai or johsko katgharay se bhej diyaja jata hai, usko karar diyaja jata hai, tuh innocent hai. You're not innocent. You don't like being innocent. that is not a pattern that you have practiced you have practiced being guilty in your life that word doesn't come back to that that practice

1:28:23if something wrong with mom is happening it is difficult for you to practice being innocent in that point and to feel what an innocent person would feel in that point because that's not your pattern it's easy for you to feel guilty because that is your pattern so because I have the capacity to feel guilty I will create an environment for my mom to go into a problem so that I can feel guilty. So guilt which has healed or what? I have healed my capacity to feel guilty. And it has been upgraded. I have developed the capacity to be innocent. The day the Lord has done it. The Lord has done it. The things that are all about the things are unnecessary.

1:29:06Then what is happening is that it is a pattern. What I resist I persist what I accept disappears interesting let's do more of that okay so relationship the first lesson was just a benchmark that mom and dad both relationship should be good because of all the reasons we discussed there are many reasons say the line again it is really good the problems I have with my parents are the problems I have in my life today the thing that I hate the most is the thing that I get the most and become the most become the most so the complaints I have with my parents are the problems I'm attracting in my life today if I go back and resolve my complaints with my parents I will suddenly develop the skills to resolve the problems in my life today wow nice it's complicated it's not when you take an example so when I do the relationship mastery course I have to give an example and then I ask people let's tell you what complaint is Papa with you?

1:30:12Write. I will do everything. Now write, this complaint is your life. Who is from now? Now 99 % of people who know where is the complaint? That complaint is the life partner. Spouse. All the complaints from Mommy was from wife. All the complaints from Papa was from husband. Where will you run? Papa can't run. Mommy can't run. Why? They are the roots. They are the roots. This is they are the roots papa and mommy all imperfections were the lessons we were supposed to experience through their bad habits so we can develop as skills so that when we grow up we don't experience those problems but we have criticized that lesson and criticized by the parents and converted this is more nuanced version of so I believe that what you see in mom and dad the thing that you hate in your parents let's say if somebody if something about your dad you dislike you unknowingly become that if you don't work on it that's true right but yours is even more nuance that their complaint will be such complaints as you will be with your partner that is and you have to that skill that is brought on that is that skill you will not be able to run and you will not be able to run and you will not be able to run until the next year you will also get the parents back to the next year I can write it I have studied it that you will be able to run

1:32:05This is wild. and it makes sense this is crazy girls fall in love with I probably knew in the last podcast that girls fall in love with boys who physically look like their father and boys fall in love with girls who physically look like their mother it becomes your type practically or at least psychologically who makes you feel like your mother or feel like your father of course because 10 years old one person who has seen your eyes I'm looking at the point, but I love you, but I love you, you're my prince, you're my princess. So that type is in the subconscious. So that person can see in the bed, that person can see, oh, I love you.

1:32:44That person can see. And their habits are wild. 100%. So if they're positively applied, then they're negatively applied. If you have narcissistic parents, you attract narcissistic partners. If you have victim parents, you attract victim partners. It's true. If they keep hating their mother for being the victim of their father, they will either become the victim or they will attract people who will make them a victim. I'm going to say, if it's abuse you, check it out. And did you judge her for it? Why is it? Why is it? Why did you stand up? Why did you stand up? I will never be like you. There you are.

1:33:22You are gone, right? Mom, go and love it. Mom, go and say sorry. Mom, go and own it. Mom, go and accept it. do what was the mother and father that was not you you did not judge from the mother you did judge from the mother now you will become her spot on in this relationship master people cry then I will write a letter there is a completion lesson people will go through that lesson when they watch the video so if you guys want this lesson link is in the description or you're free this is this is a good gift it's crazy A completion letter Likna ho ta hai mammi ko A completion letter Likna ho ta hai paapa ko Jis se woh saare complaints Ko hum dissolve kar pahain Jab woh saare complaints Dissolve ho jate hai To usi moment mein Mere guarantee hai Usi moment mein Letter liknene ke end mein Tears will roll down Your eyes And you will feel A meltdown Of emotions That you have never Experienced before And woh meltdown Ke aane wale 24 ghunte mein Kuch loog Aapki zindagy se Ya to disappear ho jayenge Ya to onki Aadat te disappear Hoonay shuru ho jayenge Guarantee

1:34:36it's crazy every time you come and say something you say something like a past my play is being played in a movie and your talk will be less you're thinking your thinking increases your talking reduces like I go from I want a question I'm curious to

1:34:58I have tears in my eyes right now because I'm it reminds me of my own conversations I have gone through hating my father I have gone through hating my mother all of that and it's still real for me this is wild the complaints that you have from your parents is the complaint you have with your friends with your partners with the people who are really close you will if your father has not taken responsibility in his life and he's not financially successful you will have people in your life who will not be successful, they will not be responsible and you will judge them all the time but you will attract them all the time and you will keep getting irritated at them again and again and again and again and again, why do people not take responsibility but it has nothing to do with them it has everything to do with you complaining that same thing from your father I did, it's my story but the fact of life is today i am so proud that my dad is financially not successful because he's taught me one thing by looking at him today and and i'm saying this so comfortably on video my dad is financially not successful i love him i'm proud of him and i'll tell you why raj today my dad has lived more than 60 countries he's traveled more than 60 countries in the last three years he's the happiest man i know he's the most peaceful man i know he's the most relaxed man i know he's the healthiest man I know.

1:36:21At the age of 60, close to 70 now, 70, he rides on a bike, goes to Lona Vala every few days. He's the most amazing man I know. And he's financially not successful and he's not done most of the responsibilities that a man is supposed to do in his life for his wife, for his children, even for me. But, today when I loved him and accepted him the way he is, I've realized, Salah, what my dad does, you do it by doing it. That without being successful,

1:36:59today I have appreciation for my father for the same qualities which I used to think are negative about him so I today saw the other side of it so now I don't complain now I appreciate so that's me resolving my complaints with my father so now when I see any person in life who's not financially successful I don't judge I appreciate

1:37:24true spot on I like this perspective shift that's called upgrading not solving okay next what is more yes first of all relationship mastery we have told you mom and dad you should be good another standard in relationship mastery I should be able to spend time with myself alone without getting bored I should be able to go for holidays regularly once in three months for two days without any loneliness experience. Alone? Not even with partner? No, no, no, partner. Basically, love yourself. But you don't use phone one? No, no, phone alone. But I'm alone. But people say, I always want someone. I'm not.

1:38:11No, that's not. You always have a loving personality with yourself which you've not discovered yet. It's not who you are. It is just who you have made. yourself to be. I like being alone but I love being with people. That's fair. But if I go to three months and go alone two days, I can't live alone. There's no capacity. That's not a love. Because I live alone so I crave people. No, that's a lot. I want to be with people that's fine. But when I am alone how comfortable am I with myself? That's the point. I started getting comfortable with myself being alone very recently. So, test yourself as a benchmark that I go to three months for two days without being in touch with anybody for two days.

1:38:53No conversations with anybody. No phone calls with anybody. Phone laptops are allowed but with me. Two days. If I'm comfortable that benchmark meets. Very low. So that's a relationship with yourself. Right? Third and the most important part of my relationships I get along with my siblings and I get along with my friends. Absolutely. So, I'm comfortable with my colleagues. Okay? I'm comfortable with sickness and death both this is relationship with yourself by the way I'm not and I'm comfortable with sickness and death of my near and dear ones no not at all then I got to drop the category on 4 I don't do a thought I don't think I don't think I don't think I'm very uncomfortable with just this thought because I have the capacity to be uncomfortable I create uncomfortable situations to be more uncomfortable

1:39:50that is why that is part of relationship mastery like just thought makes me cry that is the level of disconnection you feel with them at a certain level that their connection has got to do everything with their physical self The physical body. The physical self, the physical world, the physical being. What do you mean? Yes, but I think... It's going to be a topic. But okay, I'll tell you in a short video. When a person dies, the person's... All the qualities that you... You don't miss a person. When a person dies, you cry for the person. But you don't miss the person. You miss all the qualities they deal with you.

1:40:41And you think those qualities are gone. And that's why you're missing them. But what you do not realize is the moment the person is physically dead. This is something I learned from Dr. Deemartani. This is not mine. The moment that person is dead, all the qualities of that person gets staggered into multiple people around you. Through that person. And now that person comes to you through multiple people. But we don't acknowledge it because we are not present to it. And because we are not present to it, we can't feel those qualities and they are love. So we feel lack of love. So example is, there's a 50 or 52 year old lady, I don't remember her age, very successful lady, corporate lady, has an amazing relationship with her husband.

1:41:27Platinum joined, after a month she died of her husband. And she was under depression and healthy, like healthy man, not there. She said like, what do I do? He's just gone. And the problem is she said, I am always taken care of by him. I have never taken care of my bank. I have not done anything. What will I do? I don't understand. What will I do? So when I had a conversation with her on the weekly call, I said, you do not miss your husband. Even right now as you're telling me, you're not telling me about your husband. You're telling me all the qualities about your husband. I have never taken care of me.

1:42:03He has taken care of me. I have never loved me. He has loved me. I have never done this. He has done this. Who will hug me? Who will talk to me? I have never slept alone. Who will sleep to me next to me? So you're not talking about a man. You're talking about all the qualities of the man, right? So when you divorce a person how do you divorce a person? When they stop doing all the qualities that you like about the person and they start behaving all the qualities that you don't like about the person. So you divorce a person the person is what? Dead to you. Divorce. Divorce. So you don't hate a person.

1:42:37You hate the qualities they are showing you. You don't disown a person. You disown the qualities you don't like about the person. So you don't miss a person. you miss the qualities they have gone away with in the physical form. But Dr. D. Martini research said to me and I have seen a lot of proofs, I have seen a lot of proofs, I have seen a lot of proofs, I have seen a lot of proofs. The moment and I proved it to her, can you give me a list of all the qualities of your husband that you miss? I have a list of Anvayuski. I said now tell, and this is 24 hours of within her husband is dead. I said tell me all the people in your life right now who have suddenly started demonstrating these qualities and they have never done this before.

1:43:14She's like, hold on. And then she started making notes. She's like, yeah, mom has started doing this. And brother has started doing this. And oh shit, my neighbor has started doing this. And I said, all that is your husband. He's present. He's here. He's saying, I love you, baby. I'm here. You're not looking at him. You're not listening to him. You're not acknowledging him. He's here. The moment she acknowledged it, I said, I want only one promise from you. keep acknowledging his presence through his qualities which are appearing in front of you through all these people in your life including animals she did it and three days she comes back and she says I have never been so close to him as I have been before and this is true story Raj hands on my heart she's listening to me right now all platinum members are listening to me right now they know this story and this is not one time platinum in platinum it's been 50 times

1:44:16and I'll tell you whose example I'm talking about when I said brother I lost my brother three years ago you said something in middle of this divorce means dead when someone says I have divorced then this person died for me why are divorces growing up all of a sudden why are so many people unhappy why are they reduced the tolerance level or why are they going to be a tangent No, no. The answer is. Three reasons are behind this. One of the biggest reasons is all the skills that are required for relationship mastery, people don't have the skills. A relationship, a marriage is a lifetime project. It's a million dollar project.

1:44:53It's a hundred million dollar project. There's no skills for people. It's like hiring a project manager for a hundred million dollar project with zero skills. What will that do? It's not your problem. You are a vegetarian. Hiring is wrong. Hiring is wrong. So, you die, right? So, the big answer is that in relationship mastery, we teach people, learn all the relationship skills that are required for you to be successful in a happy marriage. To attract a partner. Think about how many girls are good-looking, educated, well-to-do. It's not going to be married. Why? Girls are good. Why not? It's not going to be married.

1:45:32It's not going to be married. The relationship is going to be broken. It's going to be broken. It's not going to be married. It's not going to be married. so those skills have to be learned only affirmation will not help second reason parents relationship with parents never comes to the problems in life which is the complaint with parents third reason this is the young frequency that is also a major reason that is a big reason which we talked about in the big link there is a fourth reason which is again but all of these reasons are part of the number one reason of skills so all of these comes into manifestation skills in the previous podcast if you remember we did the test on seven needs so their love need is also less so they keep crying I don't have to do my affirmation I don't have to do my affirmation I don't have to do my love need so all of these are so many relationship skills so in relationship in platinum these all benchmarks are saying I get along with my parents I get along with myself I get along with my friends and family I am comfortable with sickness and death both if you have to complete this benchmark you have reached a level which I call 7 out of 10 on relationships I have a question this is based on purely observation of majority of the people I have a podcast so many times people will get angry I'll ask this question I was just going to say that that's why people are going to say he could be saying that majority of people okay those ultra successful people are they?

1:47:04Their relationship is screwed. Correct. Those ultra successful people are more than relationships are screwed. Why do they do that? So first of all, that data is skewed. Very skewed. Towards what we observe the most. I have observed ultra successful people with great relationships. Let's just put it, I'll make it easier because this has been done a lot on the podcast so I'll make it easier for you. 10 fields. Okay. Entrepreneurship. Suppose. Yeah. Musician, actor, whatever, whatever. 10 fields. Let's talk about 111. Number one. And if there are 10 cases. 10, which comes to top one. Probably 6, 7 would be.

1:47:53Have gone through some sort of. So I'll tell you what. Instead of working on the generalization. Why do you think the most important question is. Why do you think the relationship is bad? whether they are successful or not or even if they are ultra successful fair I want to understand why people are so successful in one place in one place in one place why are so successful why are so successful why are so successful I'll tell you that again the reason is people have not made 4 areas in life people are not obsessed behind one or two areas and then they tell you what they are about so I'll give you an example So there are four areas of life that I am talking about.

1:48:34Which I am writing in my dashboard. HRCM. Health, Relationship, Career and Money. Platinum is not allowed to be obsessed by one area of life. You have to balance in four areas. Balance doesn't mean that four are perfect. Balance is what happens. More or less you are on the higher side on both. All four. So if you take my example for an example. If you ask me that I could have gained the last year. I could have doubled it in this year. Why did I not double it? So I reached about 60 % growth of my last year business, not 100%. 100 % could do it. Why did I not do it? Because I was busy having fun in life.

1:49:10That's the truth of life. I've been a kid with four years in this year. I've been gone, I've been gone, I've been gone, I've been gone, I've been gone, I've been gone, I've been gone, I've been gone, I've been gone. I've been playing with Jeannie, which is my bird, parrot, I've been playing so many times. If she doesn't do it, she'll have 100 corroded. 100 % on the place, 70 % on the place. That's okay. but I am clear platinum standards are not about so I say success is success only if it is holistic in all four areas of life otherwise it is not meaningful it becomes meaningless in my first podcast I have told you that if someone has relationship, career, money and health meaningless relationship is not meaningless career is not meaningless anyone else will be meaningless so ultimate success is you have to choose to be but this is consciously choose because I learned that there is nothing called maintenance.

1:50:05You are either growing or dying. Consciously, you have to grow in four areas. Those who are ultra successful are not saying that you can be successful in four areas. You are saying they have this visibility that if I want 100 billion dollars, I will have to sacrifice some of those. they don't know that's not true they may logically know it but they don't experience that's true example Raj has heard Mitesh logically he agrees one can be successful peaceful with families death, sickness, everything logically he understands it but experientially he doesn't know it so true knowing is not knowing it in books true knowing is experiencing it so all those ultra successful people don't know that it is possible to be rich and loved both.

1:50:57So they are bad in their relationships. Ask them, would you love it if you had both? What would they say? Absolutely, yes. It's just the path. It's not the option. It's not possible. But there are people who like, for example, Narayan Murthyji, Sudha Murthy, they are brilliant in relationships. They are super successful. Their health is fine. Shahrukh Khan, Amitabh Bachchan, Warren Buffet, all of these people, there are many examples. Many examples. Many, many examples. they are super successful in their health relationship we just tend to look at Elon Musk, Steve Jobs and all of these because again the way you say majority word even in ultra successful there is a majority there is a majority who is average in that?

1:51:37so there is average who is up and down and there is ultra successful who is balanced so I would prefer looking at those people who are super successful in all four areas of life fair but I think that the only answer it boils down to again that people don't consciously work consciously work 4 options what is the problem is that people look for affirmation for opportunity attraction for that they make vision many of my platinum members I have seen don't even do affirmations everyday they don't even have a vision board but they are successful in 3 to 6 months they achieve more than they have achieved in their last 5 years because every week benchmark, every week raise your standards, raise your standards, raise your standards.

1:52:28But where do you raise from when you don't So that's the benchmark. Final benchmark every single time for your career. Career will final do not. For career final, I am excellent at influencing people. This is very important in career. If a person is not good at influencing people and that goes with how good are you at influencing people at home? How good are you at influencing people in your friends? How good are you at influencing people in your career? All three. If you say that people don't listen to me, sir, what do I do? No, not allowed. You have to learn the skills to develop the ability to make people listen to you.

1:53:04If you don't know how to make people listen to you, you're not a platinum member yet. You are a platinum member, but you're not at platinum standards yet. Go there. Okay, those are measurable standards and maintainable standards. I mean, after six months, if someone's back home, come here. My papa doesn't listen to me drop your rating. Yes, drop your rating. But then you teach them how to learn all of this? These are all skills. Every weekend is a workshop different. Every Saturday, Sunday is a workshop different. It's a skill. It's a major, major skill. Yes, a very big skill. Influencing is such a huge skill.

1:53:39Very difficult to learn. But before that, you have to stop talking to people that people don't listen to me. What do I do? It's a learnable skill. It's a learnable skill. Very doable. What do I do? What do I do? But very difficult to do it because you don't have to do it from your mind. Exactly. So communication skills, assertive skills, conflict management skills, influencing skills, these are all that. That is the criteria. That is the need to match. Then going to the money skills. Most people fail at this. Mostly you have no problem. Maybe one will come. You'll get 10 on 10. Yes, you'll get satisfaction.

1:54:14That's why you have satisfied. Congratulations. Finally. At one point, I'm sitting at health. I was saying that my relationship was a little. Four. Then, health was six. Relationship was four. Relationship is four. Career is seven. Seven is highest. Seven is highest. You don't give ten in platinum. Seven is the standard. You improve. Keep raising your benchmark. Then, first criteria is I make double income compared to my monthly expenses. Of course. Most people are able are failing at this. When Platinum joins in the first half end of the year it gets all over the year. So second criteria is I'm a master at making money.

1:54:59I love making money. I'm a master. Like I know if you have so the criteria given here to Platinum is today if I take all your money are you a master at making money? I leave you to China I don't have language are you a master at making money? Yeah. Good. then the criteria rates at 7 otherwise you don't learn money making time like a new language in the place but it'll become it'll become you know let me leave it in Pakistan I'll take it how I'll take it I'll take it I'll take it I'm a master at making money certain fundamentals of money making are the same as influencing skills learn money it's easy I have to leave people's vision I have to leave Pakistan I have to leave I have to leave I have to leave

1:55:42I have minimum 10 sources of income benchmark minimum platinum are not allowed less than 10 and sources of income yes Wow 10 sources Because all millionaires are most if you are taking the equity from say 10 companies it becomes 10 sources

1:56:08so if you look at just businesses you may look at two businesses but you do have investments as third podcast, YouTube these are sources you are getting YouTube AdSense then equity brand endorsements, sponsorships academy, a bunch of stuff that we have so minimum 10 sources of income and then you keep raising that benchmark. The next is, I'm a master at the game of investments. Like, I understand investments, I study investments and I'm a master at it and I don't need an investment advisor anymore. I may want to, I love to, I keep getting that advice but anything they talk, I understand. Like, if they are saying, I should have a fund, I should have a fund.

1:56:48And I should have a master on analyzing funds. No, analyze me. You can study. But I understand where my money is going, how is it growing. and how much is it growing or is it growing at a better standard rate than average market then yes. Okay. And I understand that how to do it without investment advisor. That is correct. So that means you can invest in a mutual fund without a mutual fund advisor. Absolutely. Fair, fair, fair. That's good. Absolutely. So you know that game. So then so people have to study that. People have to learn to do their own investments. They don't have to be dependent on other people for their money investments.

1:57:22And the final one is I'm financially free. I don't have to necessarily work for money. And I, or at least I have a plan. Initially, obviously, it won't be a plan. Or at least I have a plan of financial freedom. Financially. Numbers-wise. Which again, you are financially free in your case. So, you have come here 7 up. No, no. There are 10 sources. No, 10. So, 6. So, you have come here because it's 3. So, it comes to average to 5. So, now, you rate this every week. Even if you do it alone, it's fine. Even if you do it with your life partner, it's fine. We do it together. so when our platinum members are doing it on platinum we do it with one another and then our rating so out of 40 I have gotten 22 yeah that's bad man that's horrible the minimum required is for a regular platinum standards life is 7 out of 10 on all 4 areas 28 basically but consistently consistently so that doesn't achieve it and then you raise the benchmark so that 28 doesn't remain 30 every week then I will raise a little bit of 100 pushups 100 squats then I will raise a little bit of 10-15 platinum members this is the standard initially because it's not that much so for them it's like a minimum benchmark when they enter when they do it they will probably increase but can you do something like this like this is 4 in 4 is 7-7-7 phases wise not do that.

1:58:56Some people are now in that phase over-optimized health because money is not a good idea. Or maybe they have in that life very early relationship not optimized only career established or money. Because unconsciously this area you have to leave it once again and say this is a big deal and leave it the moment you took it for granted. Sometimes it will be after that area that you have to that you won't get the deal. These are four pillars of your house. If you grow one, grow one, grow one, and three, not grow one, then the house will get down. And then it troubles. How can people get this test? Are we giving it to people?

1:59:40We'll give it to people. We'll give it to people. Your community is the first time we are going to give. So this is platinum level standard. Actually, platinum which is our first lesson. It's 90 minutes. I'll explain it all. We've never given this test. People do it. So, we'll do it in the 90 minutes. We'll give you this test. But your community, your audience are exclusive. So, we're going to give it free. Perfect. Done. So, my community is going to go down. We'll give you the whole lesson. We'll give you the test. We'll score it. Then, they'll find out where they stand. My score is very good.

2:00:1822 22 are not good 22 are not bad trust me I'm who ambert and 38 I'm whose

2:00:48way But here's a question which I thought I'll start as a podcast but I want to end it like that. Some people who were talking about starting, all the law of attraction, manifestation, they learn skills, courses, podcasts, books, they do everything in the world. And then their lives are going on. They are not able to achieve any result in their life. Why? What is wrong with people that no skill, no tactic, no hope, no visualization, no tricks in the world, no knowledge of it doesn't work. Correct. Why is it like that? And it works? Two big reasons. I have told you the first reason. But I'll tell you the reason first.

2:01:40A single person can't solve the problem himself. Einstein said this, you cannot solve the problem at which you created it. creator. He created himself his problem. How can he solve his problem? The most stupid conversation is the world. A simple example is how to take health. I'll see. People say weight loss. I'll see. How can he do it? You've never done weight loss. You've never done weight loss. How can he do it yourself? You can't do it. People say marriage is bad. I'll see. How can he do it?

2:02:19So the biggest reason is that why people are doing it alone and they are doing it alone. Please stop doing it alone. First of all, I always say this. Stop doing it alone. So how do you solve it? A solution, a platinum, a strong solution, a smooth solution. Go and find a good friend, a community, and find a leader of that community. Take these two things. take it. Community and community leader. Problem is, people are what do wrong. Sometimes people find community, but they find such a community where there is no leader. That is more dangerous. This is what is called a cult now then. It happens at different levels.

2:02:55What happens in that? People are making something else. There is no guided format. Don't make that mistake. Find such a community. Where you think that the majority have, not all, the majority have the people who want you. health should look at a community where all cabs have all cabs and in gus jaws they don't give you a big face and give you so they will so they will become their body and

2:03:31was the world cup winning captain was part of the community of course the team is the community no like with you yeah What did you guys do with her? I'll tell you about this. It's incredible by the way. It's crazy, right? That India women's cricket team was the first time in the World Cup. His captain was your client. Yeah. Client is a wrong word. Student. Student. And they started way before the World Cup. Yes. Last WPL, precisely. In the WPL. Before winning the world. WPL. before and she won the WPL she gave the credit for that so my name last year she joined and then you set the goal that we will win the World Cup she said to me explain this she said that I will win the World Cup this is my goal

2:04:32so I will narrate basically she knows the real story she saw all the videos in the whole group they share the videos I am very happy with our family. Today he told us that our morning information video is... I am very happy today. He told us that he's always in the morning and he's always in the morning. He listens to his whole house. He was in the house and he thought that he was in the state of mind. He thought that he would approach Mitesh Khatri. He was a friend in Nupur. He said that why don't you reach out to Mitesh Khatri and tell that if he can help. So she reached out to me and then I obviously did the research.

2:05:16We don't do one-on-one. So, but she was a captain, so I had discussed with Mitesh. She told me, let's do it. It was an incident that our wedding anniversary. We were out for lunch. And then when we were coming back, she spoke to Mitesh. And she told her objective, two objectives. One, immediately, WPL won. And the other objective was to win. World Cup won. She said I want that support. So we started from there. We did WPL support. She won WPL. Then there was a small gap in between coaching. She was busy. We were busy. Then we went back to World Cup. Almost a month before. A month before. Almost a month before we started coaching.

2:05:56And then during the World Cup. Almost every day she was talking to her. We gave her the access. She was also attending DMP. She was also attending 9 o 'clock DMP. which is our famous which by the way we forgot to tell you we are giving that free to your community as always. The world's winning captain gave it free. You don't know it but she's attending many times almost every day. So everyone is attending on the same link? She was attending at 9am and she practiced at night and then at night she called Mitesh. If I said calling the format it was anytime. Odd hours at night, day, morning, early morning Adirat whenever she got time she got time she was travelling different countries so they had calls that time and she Mitesh helped her out with her emotional frequency with her stance how she behaves how she reacts if I say a small thing Mitesh told her that on the ground smile she used to never smile on the ground so I would watch the match and I would catch her patterns and I said next match do this give me two three examples this is very interesting so actually this was the first recognition of Indoo because we are watching so she said I am a cricket fan by the way we all are no no he is not guilty guilty guilty you are not a sport I am behind him you have trained and you have trained and you have not seen I have seen I have seen I have seen women's team captain and you have seen and you don't watch cricket.

2:07:35What the hell is that? Shock me. It's like that. But I see when I know that I have to get something to get something out of there. Okay. Then I see. Then I see something that I have to get something out of there. Something is wrong. So, smile is not in the whole match. It's a frown. So, then we said, okay, so every time something goes wrong, double the smile. Then, every time. And they got compliments by the way. They said, they said, you started smiling. End of the match. End of the match. when the last interview the interviewer said that there's a difference in your energy then the coach said that she's been much more happier this last one week coach complimented her energy is different your energy is different she's very happy and the interviewer said that we saw you smiling we never saw you smiling on the ground she started getting compliments for that her manager said small things like her manager said that always who's also her very good friend she said every time she would check we will win.

2:08:33Then after our coaching the first match which she won she said first time she never asked we will win. She just won. And now she doesn't say she says we will win. We will win. So that's our practice the match we will win. Then how you react after you lose the match is how you prepare for the next win. And then you have to process how you will You have to lose gracefully. It's very important as a sports person for her. as an athlete that she has to lose gracefully she's not allowed to lose and feel bad about her loss sports star beat as you said majority conditioning but she's not majority she wants to be exceptional by the way on record Harman is by far the reason she's the captain the reason who she is she's one of the most humble the most exceptional student I have met exceptional very grounded I have told many celebrities that nobody has come to DMP today.

2:09:34Why? When we coached celebrities, we don't get credit. Because they are celebrities, we don't expect them to come up openly and say that we are being coached. Because sometimes it gets a taboo that they are taking counseling, coaching. Harman is not that much. You know what she did? She literally touched his feet. After that, one week, she calls me, sir I came to DMP and I came to thank you she came on DMP on call on video live zoom and I still have the recording send me I'll put it up yeah seriously I came to thank you I want to thank why the last three days we all had a decision no one would not do no one would do we would do it so three days we were just manifest in DMP that we would win and then she realized that she was she said I was sleeping and I thought I was grateful to everyone but I remember that in DMP everyone had manifest I should come and say thank you next day she told me I want to come and say thank you and she came and said thank you she's very humble we are privileged to have her we are privileged now coach you have a big big deal in this person because of who she is the universe has created and given I think we are privileged to be part of her so what's next for you guys now the world cup won now the world cup won now the world cup won so she has a long way to go now the start of life she has a lot of more goals which obviously we can't list I think Indian cricket women's team now the start of the world we are starting now the women's power now the women's power the same thing Australia is logically good now the logic will be out We will lead and kill.

2:11:27But you are saying that we will win the match. How are you feeling? It's a good time in the TANY KAMRI. Are you going to take 2020? Yes. The next World Cup. Congratulations. Thank you so much. You made us all so proud. You didn't have to be in the world without you. We love you. How long have you been? Thank you so much for watching this episode to end. Now I have to do three things. First of all, subscribe to this channel. Because as much as you subscribe, we will get better and valuable guests for you. Number two, tell me in comments, what did you feel good and bad about this episode? So that we can repeat those mistakes.

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