I Kicked Off Her Abusive Husband | Financial Audit

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25:44Okay. Which is great. So, yeah. Yep. You're class two obese. It's interesting because she's just like, she looks bigger than like the class three obesas and four obesas that we've had on the show. But listen, I am glad that you are going down. Okay. Also, why are you calling me rude? You were calling her fat. You call her fat all the time. You were calling her fat in the pre-interview like 50 times. You're like, she's such a fatty. What a fat. She's so fat. Yeah. Oh, yeah. I mean, I'll admit, I'm not skinny. I've never been skinny my whole life. I've been fat and overweight my entire life. I'll admit it.

26:16Okay. I'm not picking on you anymore. It's him who was like insulted that I called you fat when he calls you fat like every five seconds. So what the fuck? I mean, that's probably the reason why he decided that other girls are more important than me. Oh, it isn't financial audit. Without that, what happened? And do you blame him? But what happened? He's been cheating since like six months into our marriage. Why have you guys been married? We've been 17 years. 17 and a half. Brother, what the fuck are you doing? I have no excuse. Incredible response. No. How about you just actually answer the question, what the f*** are you doing?

26:57I don't know you. We're not friends. Tell me what you're doing. I don't know what the f*** I'm doing. I have no idea. You don't know what you've done? You don't know the cheating that you've done? Then tell me! I don't know. I don't know you. I know you don't know me. I'm just saying, I don't know what I was doing, to be honest. Making stupid, poor decisions. Oh my gosh. Do they not understand the question? What has he done? What has he done? We weren't even, we didn't even make it to our first wedding anniversary the first time he cheated. He walked out, moved in with another girl. So on that note, on that note, let's see.

27:33I was lied to when I got to Arlington in the first place because I was told that I had a job lined up. And then he said he had a good job working with his cousin doing polls and stuff. No, that was way after that. That was way after that. The first time we moved to Arlington, we were there a whopping four months. And before we even moved to Arlington. I'm so confused. You were lied about your job working with your cousin, so you moved there with her husband? No, it wasn't my cousin. No. So her mom got a job when we moved up to Arlington. I was told there was a job lined up, and I was lied to about it.

28:12And we didn't know until we got there. It's not like I put that on you. And I already had a good paying job already doing it. How does all this make you move in with another woman and start f***ing her six months after marrying her? Because I was pissed off. That's why. What? How'd you meet this other woman? Through my cousin. Through a different cousin. Was the woman a cousin? No. I don't do Alabama. Sorry. No. She's just a psycho bitch. Literal psycho bitch. Which one? The cousin? No. No. The girl that he moved with. I've been with. Psycho bitch. Okay. Why'd you move in though? Were you in love with this woman?

28:49No. Okay. Did you even know what was happening? Oh, I found out quick, fast, in a hurry. How'd you find out? What happened? Because I found out when he got a ticket for no insurance because he was still on my insurance and didn't have a copy of it. And he needed me to send it. And I was like, why am I sending this? Why do you need it for a court in Humble? Because I was like, send me the ticket information so I can see exactly what you need. Where'd you think he was? I had no idea. He told me he was moving back to his parents' house. No, actually, I moved in with my grandparents at the time. He told me his parents, but I guess it was his grandparents.

29:19Did you think you were still together? He pretty much quit contact. So it sounds like he left you more than cheating. Well, so no, he had cheated before this chick. Oh, yeah. What was that? So we rang in the New Year together. You got married one month? We got married in May of 2009. Okay. And we're ringing in 2010. I went to sleep and he left to go cheat on me with the chick. And the only reason I found out was because I woke up and he wasn't in bed anymore. And how did you meet her? Online. Yeah. What were you doing? No, never heard of that. What were you doing? Online? Chat rooms, stuff like that.

30:03What the fuck? Okay, what'd you do? Just chat, I guess. I don't know. I just chatted with people. No, when you met her. First time he met her and they went screwed around. Okay, you f***ed her. Mm-hmm. Okay, no remorse? Look at you. My goodness. He doesn't give a f***. Hell no. What the f*** is this relationship? You guys are crazy. This is insane. So then he gets in two accidents. No, he got in one accident. Before the new year? Right after the new year, before he leaves. Okay, well, he already cheated at that point. He's cheated. He gets in an accident. And while I'm dealing with that whole mess, because he didn't deal with it, He decides that he's going to move out and basically goes non-conduct.

30:46Okay, so that accident that happened in Plano was not my fault, thank you very much. I don't really even care about the accident. I'm just like, you're... Well, she's blaming me for it, so I'm going to defend myself on that one. He gets the ticket, and he's like, hey, do we still have insurance? And I was like, because of Texas law, yeah, you still have insurance. And he's like, can you send me a copy of it? And that's how I found out he had moved in with a girl because the ticket was out of Emble. And I said, what are you doing there? The first one was obviously inexcusable cheating. It sounds like he broke up with you and like moved out.

31:17But I didn't know that. He didn't tell me that. He told me we were just - Well, he was gone. Right. He said, we're going to take it sometime so I can get a good job back home. That's definitely cheating. Why'd you lie about it? Oh, you're incredible. Okay, so he moved out. How'd you guys get back together? What happened? So the Mother's Day, he shows up to his parents' house with the girlfriend at his parents' office on Mother's Day and brings divorce papers. And he's like, here, I want a divorce. I regret the day I married you. In front of his parents. I get it. How big was she? Who? Her? Lighter than she is now.

31:50Oh, a hell of a lot lighter back then. That's what I just said. A lot lighter now. I was like 260 maybe. Wait, how much do you weigh? Actually, I don't even think I was at 260 at that point. Wait, wait, wait. Are you 347? 342. Oh, I put in two. Oh, or seven, because we have to add. Oh, I was going to say, this makes no sense that you look like that, but you're only class two. Oh, no shit. Okay, 347. Okay, so she was class two obese. So, I mean, that's fine. Yeah, you regretted marrying her. I think we all would. That makes sense. So while he's with her, she steals my phone that apparently he had taken, and I didn't know it.

32:30That was my phone. The Blackberry was mine. No, the Blackberry was mine. Then how did it have all my stuff in it? I don't know. Because it was my Blackberry. You had the black one. I had the maroon one. Yes. You had a black one. I had a maroon one. She took the maroon one. Okay. Anyways. So because she had my phone with all my stuff in it, she started trying to steal my identity. And the only reason I ended up finding that out was because her address was showing up on my credit report. Okay. But how did you guys get back together? So after that, I was like, hey, I can't sign these divorce papers because my name's not correct on them.

33:04Okay. And he's like, what do you mean? I was like, I never changed my name. You knew that. I knew that. This paper is not legal. Did you not read it? And he's like, I'll get it fixed and get you to sign it. Well, anyways, we met back up at my parents' church. In November, at Thanksgiving. And he's like, I made a mistake. Of 09. Yeah. You owned up. Yep. What made you regret it? Man, I don't even know anymore, to be honest. Incredible. Okay. Yeah. And you're like, sure. So we spent some time talking and took a while, and then we ended up getting back together. Yeah. And things were good for a while until they weren't.

33:46And he has continued. We got back together, and I thought he had quit talking to her. And I realized that wasn't the case because he was in the Army, and she started calling from my phone. She had my family's phone numbers, his family's phone numbers, his command staff's phone numbers, and was calling our families in the middle of the night, called his command staff, and said, you have to convince him to come back to me. She's wrong for me. It's official. We have our first class four obese person. This is incredible. At least I'm sort of to start getting better and healthier. And I compliment you for that.

34:30I absolutely do. I wish you took more accountability that you got there because of your f***ing eating and not because of a disorder. Stop pulling that shit. I think stress is probably also a big thing. Okay, maybe you did eating from your stress, but it was still because of what you f***ing ate. Yeah, I used to eat horribly. I did for a long time. Okay, until two months ago. Yes. No, the nine months. Nine months. Nine months, but two months ago you changed your dinner. I get it. But this is like— I was going to say two months was my surgery. One of the best things that will help you continue that trend is actually recognize that it was you and your behavior that got you there in the first place, not a disorder that didn't actually contribute to it, and not stress.

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35:34Good. And again, I'm complimenting you for that, but I do not want you. At the beginning, you were blaming it on any other thing except for you, which, again, only fat women do. Fat men do not do this. I don't know what it is. I'm a girl's girl. I'm on the woman's side usually on this show. F*** you. You're being a stupid p***h. Okay, but I'm glad you're losing away. That is behavior. That is good. You are still class four, which is very impressive. Maybe you were classified before. Okay, so you brought him back in. This was years ago. You guys have been good since? Oh, no, he's cheated. It's been multiple times.

36:07I'll own up to that. I know of at least. Oh, will you? Yes, I will. Will you own up to something you factually did? What a hero. I know there's at least 10 women. One reached out on Facebook. What? What? How's that possible? Why were you with him? Why were you continuing to reproduce with him? 10? Because sadly, I listen to everybody else but myself. I listen to the church. I listen to my family. Your church said be with the cheater? Yep, sure did. What church are you going to? A church I no longer go to. I'll be flat out honest. And who else said stay with the cheater? His parents told us to stay together.

36:47Well, his parents aren't a reliable source of opinion. My family told us to stay together. My own attorney told me to stay with him when I filed for divorce. Well, maybe. Oh, you filed for divorce. I later then filed for divorce, yes. Oh, okay. After he moved back in, when did you figure he cheated with woman number three? I don't remember how I found out about like three and four and five. Six messaged me on Facebook and said, oh, are you married to— There's four more after that. Where were you meeting these women? Online. Yeah, but like what? What platform? or platforms? I don't think the platform's even around anymore.

37:28It was only one single platform? Yeah. So that one reached out on Facebook and then tried to backtrack and say, oh, she was reaching out to the wrong woman. And then I was asking her questions and she described my car in the car seat and he ended up admitting it. And so I was like, honey, you can't lie now. I know it was you. He admitted to it. What was causing you up to the six times? Like what was this going through your head? As best you can. I know it was a bit ago. As best you can. What was like, what was pushing you? I can tell you what caused supposedly his excuse for one of the others, which was his ex-fiancee and her husband.

38:03Three-way? Yep. Yeah. You ran a train on your ex-fiancee? I wouldn't say a train, but okay. Choo-choo. Anyways, that was an ex-fiancee that he, before we got ever met, he said he dumped her because she cheated on him. and so I found out about that and then he told me that they were done oh it gets better with her oh does it oh yes wonderful because after she got divorced he decided to have a relationship with her and uh after I found out I was pregnant with number five because he promised me he wasn't going to do anything again um oh it gets worse he promised like the 50th time okay go on yeah I was at work before I injured my back, and he brought her to the park with my kids there and then brought her to my house while I was at work and told my kids not to tell me.

38:59She calling me crazy. I feel like some prince ain't back in the 80s. I'm talking like some shady. You working at you? And, uh. Woman, why are you still around? This is insane. This is insane. So after that, that was like the end of us being in a relationship together. So we live in the same house. We are still legally married. We are no longer in a relationship, though. Oh, today? The last four years since that one, we are not in a relationship together. We live in the same house. We are still legally married, but we do not have a relationship. We co-camper. Yes, as of today. Oh, yeah, we are not.

39:29Oh, shit. She has her room. I have my room. We're both separate rooms. I've never experienced this before. Yes. Whoa. Because of his work schedule, I compromised for us to currently stay together in a house. So I have my room. That's also where I work from. You're out there bitches without cheating. No. What? I haven't touched anybody since that incident. Why? You can't. Now you're actually not together. Because we agreed. We agreed. The agreement was in order for us to stay in this position, nobody has a boyfriend or girlfriend. What? Nobody brings another person to the house because - That part's fine.

40:00I got pissed off. But go somewhere else. Because here's the other thing. In order for him to go see somebody, he's either going to have to do it in his work truck or he's going to have to take my car. And it's her car, bro. No. I can't afford an Uber. Hold on. Ask him how much money he gets per paycheck right now. because of the finances. No, no. That he gets his spending money. I get on my own spending money. That is his play money that he was. Okay, you guys are literally not together. Nope. But she's getting your money and then she hands you a part? Because I agreed to pay all the bills. This is, hold on, hold on, hold on.

40:31This was the agreement so that he did not have to pay because of how long we've been married and everything. You went from extreme cheater to extreme c**k. Let's put it this way. The reason we agreed to this is because we also agreed a few years ago that we would never do child support. So he decided. Because the court makes more money off of you than you make your own child support. All right, bro's thought about this for a while. Almost like he's been sticking it in 50 women a day. Yeah, no shit. So the agreement was that in order to avoid spousal support and child support, we would live in one house.

40:59When you were getting into these chat rooms after every time you promised not to, I just want to know what was going through your head. Try your best. Absolutely nothing. That's the problem. What was, what are you feeling, unsatisfied? He told me I was born in bed, but he wouldn't try anything new. Probably. Shut the fuck up. You can't move. So, she pretty much said it. I was bored. Okay, okay, that's something. That's something. So you just wanted more, a little more freaky, a little more, you know. Well, back then I was. No, he wouldn't freak with other people. Hmm? Freaky with other people.

41:27Yeah. He wouldn't, if I asked to do something, he wouldn't do it. What the could you do? Oh, a lot, apparently, because then he'd come back and complain about how poor it was with him, is what he would do. Okay. Well, it's not just because he regretted cheating, but really all he can do with you is stick it in the blowhole.

41:44I guess so. I don't know. I don't know. Okay. So you guys don't. No. Oh, no. No. Good on you. So. Good on me. Good on her. Because that boy and the whole time we've been together. Yeah, he probably has AIDS. Yes. Yeah, you probably got the AIDS. So, okay. You weren't exciting. So, I mean, you were just like, when you guys were married, how frequently are you guys? Well, you are married. But you mean together. In the beginning, it was quite frequently. Of course, in the first year. But let's talk about the majority of the— No, I'd say about half of it. It was still quite— It was several times a week.

42:19And then the second half? It pretty much almost died off. What changed there? The more frequently cheating. You found out every time? How? I don't know if I found out about all of them. Did she find out about all of them? Yes. Oh, okay. Okay. Did you ever go, like, get with anyone else? No. So why can't he be with anyone now? Like, that actually doesn't make sense. That was his. That's my doing. That was his saying. That's my doing. I think, honestly, bro just gets off on there being a rule to not be with people, and then he's with people. But I'm not with anybody. That's the problem. Uh-huh. Yeah.

42:53Uh-huh. Mm-hmm. Sure. So. I can't say if he is or not, because, like, he knows the passcode to my phone. I don't hide anything from him. So then, like, what am I doing? And then he hides. What are we looking for? Because this is, I've never had a relationship like this in four years of this show. Four and a half almost. What we're doing is trying to figure out why we're struggling so much with our finances. That's what we're doing. Guys, your marriage is a f***ing joke. If your marriage is a f***ing joke, finances is one of the first things to go. It's so complicated. There's no trust in this household.

43:23It's impossible. And finances are built on trust. Yeah, they are. Okay, but if she's controlling the finances, right? But let's also discuss. And clearly we're in this situation. Why are you allowing her to control the finances then? Hold on. Answer this, because how many times have I asked you to sit down so you can see what's going on? Several times. Many times. He won't. Why? He goes, you just deal with it. I don't care. As long as he goes, just let me make sure I get some money when I get paid. That's exactly what he'll tell me. I feel as long as the bills are paid, I'm fine. Why'd you get with her, dude?

43:59She could have, and I know I've been memeing on you a lot on this episode, and you consented to it, right? Oh, I'm good. Yeah. There you go. Am I talking about the thing you said not to talk about? I'm good. You're good. Exactly. Chat, we do this in a consensual, happy way. That's why I was allowed to bully her. Because she's... She also asked for permission to bully me back. And I said yes. So before all the TikTokers freak out, the Instagram comments are like, protect the fatty. Which I am too, so protect me. The thing is, even with all the memeing on her, she could have been building a life with someone who loves her, with someone who respects her.

44:37Matter of fact, I told her to do that when we finally separated. Yes. Think about the f***ing decade before then that you f***ed up. Now she's locked into the situation with like two handfuls of kids. So it's not as simple as at that point she produced five kids with you. Yeah, five. Five. Five kids with you. Go be on your own. No. You locked her into that situation, and that is so pathetically unfair because you decided to prioritize your nuts. But you want to, see, this is the worst part of that. When I got pregnant the first time, he swore up and down I was cheating because he swore up and down that his doctor's word was gold.

45:17That you were cheating? That I was cheating. That his doctor's word was gold that he couldn't have kids. That's what the doctor told me. And yet, and yet we have five together. Did you ever do a paternity test? No. And why? Because he swears there ain't no question about that those kids are his because they look so much like him. And I said, I'll do one. There ain't no question about it. I don't have anything to hide. And he's like, I don't need to. They look just like me. But the thing is, she never brought it up. She never got the package or anything to do it. And she says she volunteers to do it.

45:48Oh, so now you think, now you have questions about it? No, I never said I had questions. I said, you never brought it back up. And you never volunteered to go get the damn things to get it done. Because why should I pay for it? I know that I didn't do anything wrong. But who'd be paying for it to be me? Because it's off of my finances, as it is. Okay, but that's what my thing is. If you're saying we need to have it done, then why don't you make the effort if there's any potential question in your mind? All right, fine. If you want it done, I'll get it done. Did I say I wanted it done? Why do I need to have it done?

46:14I have no question about it. Yeah, that's fair. It's your question, right? So just do it if you want to or let it go. I've let it go a long time ago. You have objectively locked her when she could be with someone who's loving her for the past 15 years and have those five kids with someone who loves her, pleases her, respects her, doesn't cheat on her, isn't a complete f*** up. What you've done is disgusting in this relationship. And now she's stuck. Like she gets stuck in the doorway, am I right? Still had to come back and get you. Sorry. No, you're good. It's f***ed up what you've done. It is.

46:58And he doesn't care. I can tell. He has no remorse. Sometimes I wonder if he is actually happy being a parent. Doubt it. You're probably a psychopath, right? Like in the non-insulting but clinical ways. You don't care for her though. Like I feel like you face no remorse. You have no remorse. I mean in the more clinical way, a psychopath. Not like, you know, just throwing it out there like a buzzword. The fact that you have no regrets and you just continue to do shit. If you or your child spent years growing up on social media and experienced serious mental health struggles, you should hear this.

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48:46But if you've proved you can budget, check out these programs from personal loans to car insurance to see if you can save a shit ton of money across the board. Go to Calebhammer.com or the Caleb Hammer Financial Resources part of the pinned comment or description below and save a shit ton of money. She told Devin, the producer of the episode, that you're a bad dad. Why would she say that? Because I don't always interact with my kids sometimes. I will admit that. You don't interact with your kids? Sometimes, not always. What does that mean? He's a big gamer. Okay, well, there's nothing wrong with playing video games.

49:20But here's the difference. When we lived before we moved into the house we were in now, his room became the living room. When we walked our separate ways and he was no longer in the same room with me because the kids needed space, he took the living room. And he couldn't hide from the kids because he was in the living room. Everything circled around the living room. Now that we're in a house and he's upstairs and he has his own room, that's where he stays. Here's the thing. Ask her how long she always stays in her room. But the kids come in my room. But you lock the door. I lock the door when I need time, when I'm working.

49:54How am I supposed to have my kids in my room when I'm working? I didn't say against when you were working. No, you're talking about that my door's locked. Okay, how about after you get done with work? Your door still stays locked. And who brings you your dinner? How often do you actually go in the kitchen and grab your own dinner for yourself? Okay, if I come in the kitchen to get my plate, you're like... How often, I said. Hold on, let me finish. If I go in there to get my plate, you tell me I'll take care of it and bring it to you. Not always. But 90 % of the time, I bring you your food to you, or one of the kids bring it to you.

50:25Because normally I'm just getting off from work. And then you ask them to close the door and lock it so nobody else goes in there. Just so that I can breathe for a few minutes after work. Because I literally, I get up in the morning and I have the kids. If I am on a break from work, I'm taking care of the kids. I get off from work and I'm still taking care of the kids. On your days when you're off, you stay in your room. Do you not? Do I ever get a chance? No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. I do not always stay in my room. I didn't say all the time. I said a lot of the time you spend it in your room.

50:50Do you not? I spend a lot of time in my room. But also, I do deal with the kids. I didn't say you don't do it all the time. But see, that's the thing you're making it sound like I'm always in my room 24-7. But when I went to D.C. and I came back from D.C., the kids told me that you made them eat nothing but sandwiches while I was gone when I left meals prepared for you to make. Oh, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. I did not make them just eat sandwiches. You even said that's all they ate. Maybe in like two days. I'm just going based off of what you and the kids told me when I got back from D.C. But I did cook their meals.

51:21Okay. All I can do, though, is go based off of what y 'all told me. Right? I guess so. But I did cook their meals. And I'm not the one who always says you're the bad dad. The kids say that you don't seem to think that you don't love them. What? Your kids say that? Yeah. Why? What's the reason they bring up? Well, yeah, I mean, again, like, I think you are some kind of, like, psychopathic a little. Right? Because you don't show remorse in this conversation for what you've done to her. If you've done anything bad around your kids, you probably don't show remorse either. You're very flat. They probably don't feel love from you, right?

51:57Not that you've done something bad. I don't know. Has CPS ever been called in this house? Fuck me. Twice. Fuck me. And who was the reason why? Can you tell them what the first time was? It was the same reason both times. Okay. Okay. And who was the main one? We're not going to go on that topic, though. We already said we were going to discuss that topic. That's right. That's right. Okay, we'll get into that. We'll get into that. That's the post show. We already agreed to that. Okay, I guess something's coming for the post. Well, okay, stick around for that. Well, now I'm excited, but does he at least help clean and do dishes and stuff like that?

52:37Who's doing that? Who's doing the work around the house? The 12-year-old's the one who has agreed to do the dishes. What? What are the parents? Well, I can do some chores, but you guys don't do anything? I just said the dishes. That's what she has agreed to take on. Who cleans and stuff. I do help clean, yes. If you're locked in. Okay, so. We both help clean the house. I'm the one who does most of the laundry. He's really just locked in his room all the time? When he's home. If he's cooking for you and if he's cleaning. But he doesn't cook all the time. I don't clean all the time. And he doesn't clean all the time.

53:04Not all the time, but you're making. Maybe. I can't tell how egregious it is him hiding away. On his days off, that's where he spends the majority of his time off on his days off. Not like... This episode is brought to you by Google Chrome. You think you know a browser, but Gemini and Chrome? That's new. It can help you with practically anything on the web, like restoring a vintage motorcycle from a 50-page restoration block, or finally break down that long article you've had open for weeks. Gemini and Chrome is here for it. Ready to make anything online make sense? There's no place like Chrome.

53:36Check responses set up required, compatibility and availability varies 18+. You only take the kids to the park when you have another one with you? park. There's a park somewhere. You live in DFW. There's parks. Just don't go to them. Yeah, unless you have another woman with you, right? No, I don't have another woman with me at all, period. That's because that's when the last time you took him to the park was. He doesn't get the reference. He was homeschooled. I gotcha. Can we get these kids out of the house and not homeschooled? I think they need human interaction, man. But the babysitter out there is probably the first human interaction they're getting in years.

54:12Oh, no. This is not the house. Mom, make sure they get space. This is not space. I mean, like. No, I want them in a classroom with kids and going to the playground and lunch, building those social skills, getting away from their toxic parents. Good f*** this household. I'm sorry. I know you don't trust the school system or whatever, but even just like throw that all away, there is a benefit of human interaction. There is. In sports and all the s*** that comes with schools, learning musical instruments, art. And we talk about like, you know, how great he is and how, you know, everything. Who is?

54:51This one he thinks he is. Oh, he thinks he is. But we talk about the gaming. Why don't we talk about how he was so engrossed in a game that he didn't realize our now six-year-old completely stopped breathing in his arms.

55:10Yeah, I was in another room. He had him in his arms playing a game, was so engrossed in the game. And if it wasn't for the Owlette, my son probably wouldn't have made it. It wasn't for the what? He had an Owlette on. It's an Ox. It's an Ox. Oxidation monitor. Yeah. That goes on their foot. So it started beeping. The alarm went off on it. So he has breathing issues. No. No. Why was he wearing that then? Well, because he had some complications. He was breech-born, and his foot was stuck in my ribs when he was born. And so they had to physically force him out. Why did he stop breathing? So he was holding him, and the way he was holding him like this while he was playing his game got him chin to chest, which cut off his airflow.

55:52Oh, okay. I'm sorry. Nothing makes me more angry than when it's like kids and pets. Thankfully, because of my training, I was able to get him to start breathing. But he literally had no clue. Like he was actually, lips were blue by the time it registered enough for the alarm to go off. You're a piece of shit.

56:12I want to hear about the CVS thing, but I have to start getting into these finances. Yeah, let's go. So we'll get into that in a moment. Whatever you have saved for the post show, I don't even know. They're hiding it from me too. Okay, what do you guys think your combined household financial score is 0 to 10? 0 being the worst, 10 being the best. 1. A 2, maybe. If you want to figure out what your hammer financial score is in depth in each category. Take the assessment for free. It just takes a few minutes over at calebhammer.com. And if you don't want to be like a guest who ends up on the show, make sure you download the DollarWise budgeting app.

56:49It is the best budgeting app for the average American. Check it out. There's a free trial to see if you like it, and most people do. That's why they take the annual version. It saves nearly 50 % on your money, and you get the physical version of my 30-day meal plan, which you guys f***ing need, signed by me, mailed directly to you, and the digital version of the cookbook as well, which you guys f***ing need. DollarWise.com. Links in the description below. or just download the app. Okie dokes. I have Office of the Attorney General. Yeah. That goes to the post show. This is for the post show? Oh, yeah.

57:23Okay. That's for... I'm even more excited. Attorney General's getting involved. What the f*** is happening here? Okay. Ken Paxson, do you need to call in for the post show? What's going on here? Loan to the family. What family? Whose family? His parents. Okay, 4 ,000, 1 ,350. What the f***? The 4 ,000 was so that we could move. From and to? We moved out of Baytown. What? What? Yeah, moved from Baytown. Oh, Baytown, Texas. Yeah, up to Arlington. Okay. Okay, very good. We were in a place that was mold. We found out had mold, and that was why I was super sick for a long time. That's why we have fully funded emergency funds.

58:06What the f*** are we doing? We don't have an emergency fund. That's why I said you need to have one. And he quit when we separated everything and he told me he was going to take care of his bills. I didn't know that my car was financed to an account attached to his car loan and a credit card that he quit paying. And so the cars got repazzed twice that I used the emergency fund to bail him out. The third time I no longer had an emergency fund. So you guys separated your shit before you moved to Arlington? We once had our stuff separated. And after that all happened, that's why he had me take it over.

58:38So you guys got your stuff together again and then separated again? So we didn't, we had separate finances at that time because that was after the girlfriend. I need you to get away from this man. That's why I'm here. To get away? So I can get my stuff in order since most of this has fallen on me so that we can - Don't you want to be free in a way? You hate being around your kids. You hate being around your bitch wife. Don't you want to be gone? If she wants me gone, I'll step out the door this day. No, I'm asking what you want. I don't give a f***, to be honest. Really? Yes. You don't want to just be blowing loads in women?

59:12No. I do. It's fun. What's wrong with it? I have no need for it. Need? No, I have no need for it. But it's fun. Okay. He doesn't give a f***. No. So it's the income, Cy, because he brings in the income for the household. Right. Such a weird dynamic. What do you do with someone who doesn't care? Doesn't even care about the kids. Do you care about your kids? Yes, I do. Well, then how are you telling me you don't care? Because that is a part, isn't it? It is, yes. But I do care about my kids. Then why do you care if you're there or not? Because we always fight, so what's the point of being there if we always fight?

59:51Are you guys fighting all the time? Not all the time. We do have our arguments at times. Yeah. Now, your guy's just rules. You can't see other people or whatever. Do you feel like he's living up to that? Do you suspect anything? Yeah. Why? Do you want to know why? Oh, I guess sure. So, Mr. I sent a text message to the wrong person. I'm sorry I can't get you a birthday gift. It's not in the finances right now. And then started to break down our finances to somebody. But hold up. It gets better. In 17 years we've been married. I've never gotten a birthday gift. That's insane, by the way. He got me a Christmas gift one time that he told me he got out of the trash.

1:00:33He's never gotten me anything for our anniversary. What the hell did I get out of the trash for you? That was the very first Christmas we were together. What was it I asked? Not when. Candle birdhouse thingy. It's like green. I don't even know what it was. If you don't know what it was, why are you trying to describe it? I don't know exactly what it was. It looked like a little birdhouse and it was made, it was like a blue green teal color. And you could put like a candle I think inside of it. I don't know what it was actually supposed to be because you're the one who got it, not me. and but his birthday falls right before christmas and i've always made sure that his birthday and christmas presents are separated no that's good yeah you do seem like the better partner don't get me wrong by far um but he sent that to somebody um i even once and you know but he sent it to you on accident yeah he sent it and deleted it thinking i didn't see it and he's like oh i didn't mean to send that to you and then i was like oh you mean you didn't mean to send to me that you couldn't afford to buy somebody a birthday gift?

1:01:31Who'd you send it to? A friend. Which is a friend. That's it. That you stick it in? No. Have you ever loved her? Yes, I did. Would you let her go through your Snapchat? Probably not. Why? Because I believe that our phones are our last safe space for anything. Is this the 10 times cheater? Get the f*** away. he's never going to follow that rule. Dude gets off on the kink of cheating. But I haven't cheated in the last four years. I haven't done shit. That's the problem. Except for text someone and not let her go through Snapchat. You won't? Well, let her prove it. I don't even go through her phone because I don't want to go through her phone.

1:02:14She's never cheated on you. It doesn't matter. I don't want to go through her phone. I have no need to go through her phone. This has nothing to do about her phone. I'll be honest. You want to hear one thing? I was with somebody one time, but let's say when this happened. Did he know? Oh, yes, he knows. When did it happen? I don't know. It happened after he handed me the divorce papers, one I thought we were completely done with. So I didn't cheat because he had already handed me the divorce papers and he was still living with the girl at the time. That's the only time I've ever been with anybody else in the 17 years we've been together.

1:02:41And you went and got that South Dallas black dick. Not South Dallas. Well done. Good for her. She's getting blown out by that BBC. I see. But that's the only time I've been with anybody else. I don't even care what you're doing. Yeah, but I'm just saying, if he wants to try to say I cheated, there is no cheating because he had already handed me the divorce papers by the time that happened. And then he turned around. Well, Dick finally got his catch, huh? And then apparently it wasn't grass, wasn't greener on the other side.

1:03:13Because there must have been something good if he kept coming back. What's your relationship with his friend? Platonic. Would you let me go through the Snapchat? Probably not. Okay, he's cheating Okay, yeah A thousand to his family, what's that for? That was supposed to be for our That was for us to go to a family member's funeral For my family $350, what's that for? The alternator on the suburban So you guys never have money, to be clear Okay Well, that$350 wouldn't have happened Had he actually taken care of the car like he said he had And it stranded me coming home Bro, he's never done anything right in his life So I don't I don't know why you would trust you to do that Okay Some Amazon on a firm What's the total load on Oh 2 ,723 What the f*** are you getting That has been a whole bunch of stuff for the house There's like three things that are for me on there Listen you need to take care of shit And that means Similar with your weight The reason I spend so much time on that Is it does come down to accountability Even if it's stuff for the house that isn't stuff for you is the stuff that you 100 % need.

1:04:21It is still choices in the end that you are choosing to purchase that might not be 100 % necessary for the survival of the household that is putting you further into debt to where you can't afford a$350 repair on an alternator. So what is it? The HEB one was literally right after we moved in and he had to have extra money because he was staying at somebody else's house because he couldn't transfer for work. And that one's still getting paid off because I had no money for food. There are two... One. No, there's three on there that are strictly just for me. And I'll admit it. And you'll admit it.

1:04:57And I did pay off one this past week, made the last payment on it. Okay, I'm sorry. Listen, this is more of a concern. I don't want to insult you. If you've noticed, I've been doing this a lot this episode. When's the last time you've been to the dentist?

1:05:15It's been years. Years? I'm sorry, that's the nastiest shit I've smelled in my life. I brushed my teeth this morning again. It doesn't matter. Go to the f***ing dentist. It's blasting me with like f***ing, it's bad. And I sit across from a lot of stinky people. I'm just telling you. No, I understand. I'm just telling you. Your minimum fee, it's like$78 a month. I don't know. This is f***ing crazy. There's more firms. Yeah, yeah, it's f***ing crazy. They're all in my name. Wait, they're all$2 ,723? No, that's the total of everything. Oh, I understand. That's your minimum payment. Okay, so it's 10.

1:05:50Yeah, that total is everything. I assume your minimum is about$350 ,000 then. Across the whole month. That's crazy. Yeah, pull up your Amazon. Let me see if this is totally due for the house. Most of the Amazon. Your affirms are insane. You're just affirming forever. 19 different ones. Yeah. Show me. Yeah. I'll tell you which three are mine, actually. Let's see if you can win me back. What do you play? What video games? Mostly survival and resource management. Like what? Like Dyson Sphere Project or Program and Seven Days to Die. That game, Seven Days to Die is great. I used to play Ark, but I got bored with it.

1:06:37Seven Days to Die is fantastic. You've won me back slightly. Not enough for me to think you're not a complete piece of shit, psychopathic maniac, but, you know. This is insane. This is Amazon, Amazon, HBP, Target, Amazon. It's like you affirm everything. What about Rust? Try to get into it. Pussy. Let me see. And everything on Amazon isn't just for me. I'm sure. Yeah, it's all Amazon, Target, BruteMe, all this shit. Helio. What's Helio? It's just like it's every other thing. BruteMe. This is crazy. Well, I'm going to say the left-hand side is just. All the firm that I'm going through, all the firm purchases, guys.

1:07:17This is crazy. I'm not going to spend the time going through every single little thing here, but the whole balance goes up to that nearly$13 ,000. Brutemade cups? What's a Brutemade cup? 50. You have 50 of them being told. What the is a Brutemade cup? Brutemade. Huh? Brutemade. Oh, my fucking... I'm sorry. It's war! Hold on. He can't be completely out of it. He has two, and the kids have some, too. You have 50, though. That's the whole entire house collection. And they have a couple, and he has a couple? Yeah, and I did sell some of mine in order to help pay some of our debt. Sell them all! You freak!

1:07:56Okay, you're getting some workout bands. As long as you use it, it's fine. We really need all these oral swabs, though. Who's sick? That oral swab was because it was recommended to be able to clean my ice machine that I have at home to get in all the little crevices. You know the little Sonic ice that you get from Sonic? Great, that was a critical purchase. I've had it for a long time, and the one that I have now was— To be more brute mate, endless brute mate. So you're affirming brute mate. Stuff for the house, go f*** yourself. Just like the morbid, morbid, morbid, morbid— So those bruit mates I paid by cash.

1:08:25Obesity. Still, that is money. The cash that could have been spent on the other things instead of having to affirm them. It still offsets. Just like your morbid, morbid, morbid, morbid, morbid obesity. It is choices in personal behavior from the ice machine to the ice popsicle makers to the collapsible stool and the meat grinder. The collapsible stool was his because he broke one and had to replace it. I don't care. It still purchases you don't 100 % need to do the glucose monitor. Yes, you actually do. That's his. Because you definitely both have diabetes, right? No. No. I don't. And I just had a full look.

1:08:55I just had a complete workup done, and I'm not even pre-diabetic. What's your blood pressure? Was 76 over, I mean, 121? Over 121? No, flip the numbers, 121 over 76, sorry. All right, let's check it. It's probably going to be high now. I'll admit it. It's going to be high. It's probably going to be high right now because she's in pain. I'm not just in pain. I'm pissed. Well, fair enough. Well, we'll see. But you're pissed all the time. Yeah, dude, you're just getting so much bullshit. Relief cap? Like, come on. The pads? That's fine, obviously. But good grips? Containers? Go f*** yourself. Glass bottles?

1:09:31Go f*** yourself. What are we doing? So the glass bottles is what I have to use to put my iron in because it can't be exposed to—it has to stay in the amber bomb. F*** your iron. I don't give a s*** about you. What iron? She was anemic. That's why I have a blood transfusion. Okay, that's fine. I was anemic and had a blood transfusion. 90 % of it was bullshit that you don't need, that you need to take accountability for, or else there will never be anything. Never be anything getting done in this house. The pouches, the food pouches that you saw, like the plastic, they're reusable. Some of it was okay.

1:10:00Right, and I'm just saying, I got those so that I don't have to keep buying with the sport. The majority of it wasn't. So shut the f*** up. Take accountability instead of making excuses. Or else you're going to be fat forever, or else you're going to be in debt forever. You're managing the household finances and you're affirming everything. Come on over. Don't be scared. She's not that big. Wow. I'll probably have to go down here. Does that work like that? Down here? That's where the doctor always does them. Oh, Mark's doing it his own way, baby. Dr. Mark's here. Dr. Mark's doing, you know, his own.

1:10:34You know how the drill works. Yeah, keep your feet flat. Mm-hmm. it's going to be really high.

1:10:45181 over 109. Yeah, I knew it was going to be high right now. Say it again. 181 over 109 right now. It's because she's in pain and she's pissed off. No, I'm pissed. That's a hypertensive crisis. Yeah. That's our first hypertensive crisis. That is, you call 911 hypertensive crisis. I'm good. Objectively not. No, it's been worse. No. It's been worse. My doctor says as long as I don't stay there, I'm fine. I get this. When we've had a fight, it gets this high. Oh, yeah. No. It's been a lot worse than that. What? Her blood pressure has been a hell of a lot worse than that. No, like what? My worst was.

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1:12:37You're technically - I didn't even know there was anything wrong. My doctor actually had me drive to the hospital because there wasn't even an ambulance within 45 minutes of us. To clarify absolutely everything, and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. I am not a doctor, I'm not a medical expert. Okay. All that being said, I'm glad you're starting to lose weight because right now you're technically, at least according to this chart, okay? Oh, yeah. And a hypertensive crisis, and that is, I'm scared for you. You're a mother of children. Right. That's why I'm working on myself. That's a— That's why I've gotten serious about working on myself.

1:13:09They advise 9-1-1. Yeah. Mm-hmm. I know. Am I f***ed up by not calling 9-1-1 right now? No, we're good. I know my body. I will tell you if I get concerned. No. No, she will. I will agree with her on that. She will. Yeah. She will let you know. She knows her body more than you think she does. I call 911 if someone's BP is... What was it? 181? Over... 109. 109? 109. Okay. I'm going to follow its advice. You can take that off. Because I do not want to... Fuck something up. No. I understand. And I'm just, I'm not willing to allow a guest. I understand. I'm not. So I'm just, I'm going to follow the advice of what is given here.

1:14:06You can call 911 if you think you're concerned enough. Listen, I don't know. I'm just not willing to lose someone on the show. No, I understand. If there is, do you have chest pain or shortness of breath? Nope. No headache? Nope. Fusion? No vision changes, no. Okay. Okay. That's what it says, call 911. Like I said, I will let you know if I get concerned. I appreciate that, but I don't really give a shit about your concern. Because I am in the position where this is my office and I do not. So I'm going to die in front of me. No. Okay, that's Capital One,$4 ,490.65 with$156 minimum payment. Are you sure we should continue if this is pushing you to that limit?

1:14:47I'm good. Okay, you're purchasing, who is this? The card's in my name. That is A. Who's purchasing? Both of us. Well, it's maxed out. You're purchasing on a card that you're only putting minimum payments to. It's going to take 20 years to pay off. You will not be alive on this current trend, to be clear. And you will be out there like children or something. I don't know what you do, but you look like it. Apple, Apple, real short. That was when I was recovering from surgery and I was on a binge of watching shorts. Buddy, it's... Yeah, I know. I should have done it. Well, that was two months ago.

1:15:21Chick-fil-A and an Apple bill. Like, what the f*** are we doing? Like, all the purchases are for, oh, that's the Smutty videos? Yeah. They're romances. Oh, he's not giving it to you, so get down there and f***. Make sure you wash those hands because I know. No, I don't do that. That's, I don't do that. Masturbate? I don't. It's okay to masturbate. I'm going to let you know. I know you're approaching 40. You're still allowed to. I think, right? Is that, is it? Devin, is it legal for 40-year-olds to masturbate? Yeah. I'm just concerned. Okay, you're good. Lightning's not going to get you, maybe.

1:16:02These are not life necessities. Right. Okay? Gooning is not a life necessity. Chick-fil-A, all these Apple bills, they're not life necessities. Yes, sir. Discover, who's Discover? Hers. The card's in my name, yes. Not all the charges are mine. No. $805.73 with a minimum repayment of$33, but we're purchasing only making the minimums towards the wall interest is accruing. Car scores are low 600s. Like, what the fuck are we doing? What did we purchase on? Some gas, but also probably getting into bullshit in deer run. Trump, true med deer run? So that was part of the cost to cover my treadmill. It was the only small part that our FSA didn't cover.

1:16:41Okay, well, that part's fine. Because FSA covered the majority of the cost for my treadmill. Okay, we don't know who said it, but Mika is actually saying that you deserve some good dick after this, after being with this man for so long. So I don't know if he's volunteering, but you go out there and DFW again. Oh, speaking of that, why was CPS called? Because he hit one of the kids. How is this episode getting worse?

1:17:12I've never heard that in this show. I don't even know what to do. Just tell me the story. Just tell me the story. I don't know exactly what happened. I wasn't there when it happened. I don't trust his interpretation. And I got conflicting stories about what happened. Okay, well, tell me both stories. I don't want to hear from him. So I got told at one point that she wasn't doing what she was told to do, and she was talking back. What age? Eight. Okay. Go on. And so the first time he supposedly, yeah, there were two different ones. First time he supposedly just laid into her spanking. He just wouldn't stop.

1:17:54From what I understand, yes. And the second time he said he hit her in the face. You were present for the second time. No, I wasn't. Yes, you were. It was in your bedroom. I was not in the room when it happened. It was in your bedroom. You were sitting on the bed doing. You were sitting there looking at your damn phone. You weren't paying attention. She raised my hand. She raised her hand at me while getting angry at you too. And I slapped her across the face. But like I said, I did not actually see what happened. But you were there in the room, not paying attention.

1:18:29You were there. So I'm supposed to pay attention to you every second of the day? Oh, I didn't say that. Okay, that's what you said. It was at night in your bedroom. No, that was our bedroom back then. Don't try to say that was my room. Anyways, the bedroom, you were there when it happened. Okay, if I was, then I guess I wasn't. Because you literally inspected her face, and there was not a mark on her face, but you get a phone call from the school saying there was a handprint across her face. And the picture that they took was a bright red print like it had just happened. And the picture didn't, when CPS showed up to him.

1:19:02Was it hand size? Oh, no, it was a lot smaller. So it was probably from school. School, yes. Okay, but the first one, you just wouldn't stop wailing? No. Yes, I whacked her across the butt, and I missed, and I got across her waist and said. Exactly. but they did because cps had him show up to the mark that was on her face at that time and his hand print did not match it and that's why i said i cannot say exactly what happened because they were like this just happened and i was like according to what she told me and he told me it was the day before so i didn't know and the the attorney that i had that was when i actually right after that was when i actually filed for divorce and everybody and it stayed He was on vile until, what?

1:19:43I don't know. A few years ago? Something like that. But everybody convinced me, even my own personal attorney convinced me to stay with him. I have to ask. And I did have the papers drawn up. I have to ask. Has he ever hit you? Yes. Do you promise to beat your wife and abuse her in sickness and in health? I do. Tell me. Once I got knocked out. I did not knock you out. I don't know what happened. I don't know what happened. I don't remember what happened. I woke up to an ambulance there and a police officer. All right. So what happened that night? You and I got into a full, long-blown argument.

1:20:23You tried to stop me from going out the door. I pushed you aside. I did not hit you. Okay. Like I said, I don't remember what happened. You had a panic attack, a severe one. Okay. I called 911 to have him check you out. Okay. Like I said, I don't know. I don't remember that. I called the sheriffs after I explained what was going on. I got arrested. Stop. Why? I'm explaining what happened that night. I want you to get the fuck out of my studio. I never want to see you again. Security's here. I don't want you here. You're a piece of shit, evil, disgusting creature. Please make sure he doesn't talk to anyone.

1:21:01I'm concerned for your safety after this show, to be completely honest. I'm concerned for your kid's safety. I had to message him and tell him to come. I was concerned of kicking him off if he would lose a fit. He'd go crazy. This man is the most evil mother that has ever been on the show. Beating kids. How many times has he hit you?

1:21:24I am so sorry. And sadly, I tried to leave. And everybody told me I was better off with him than without him. I even got divorce papers drawn up. And they told me I would regret doing it. and sadly I stayed. They are, everybody was wrong. Everybody was wrong and everyone, I don't even know. And sadly, once I lost all my family through everything, it was like, I couldn't. Lost your family? So my mom passed away and after that I went no contact with her parents because I found out they'd been lying to me my whole life. Jeez, for f***ing sake, what is happening? I found out that they were protecting a registered sex offender and exposing me to him, and I didn't know.

1:22:12God, I can't. I can't. What is this? So I'm working on bettering myself because I've been through hell and back, and I didn't give up. Let's start with the first thing to better yourself. That's why I came to you, because I need to get this done, too. Get this man away from your kids yesterday. yesterday. Get yourself away from him. I'm a dude. Listen, this show gets crazy. It gets wild. I don't want him to be triggered and lose his shit after this. Okay. I get you. I understand. I appreciate somebody. Somebody is finally taking my side and not telling me to just deal with it. I appreciate it.

1:22:53People are saying that. Yeah. They told me that he was a good guy. He didn't mean what he's done. He would get better. They said he took anger management and everything would get better. And I'm sorry. Someone who cheats 10 times, someone who won't let you go through his phone right now, even though you've made that deal. Someone who literally has knocked you out and was gaslighting. I'm sorry. No one knocks someone out from the story he told. He is gaslighting the f*** out of us right now. There is no, right? He knocked you out. Okay. You tell me what really happened. Cause he's not. I don't know what led up to it.

1:23:26I don't remember a lot of that day. I know we've gotten into an argument. Because you got hit? They don't know exactly what I hit on the porch, but I was out when EMS arrived. You were out, and that's why you can't remember anything? They said that's possibly why. They don't know if it was because of the trauma of what happened, and my body was just trying to protect me from it, or if it was that I hit something that hard. Okay, sorry. You tell me exactly what you think and remember then. I know. We got into an argument, and I was outside. We were talking, and I thought everything was better. I don't know if he hit me.

1:23:57He pushed me. What? But I was knocked out. EMS arrived. I woke up to a medic attending to me. And he got arrested for a warrant outstanding for a ticket he didn't take care of that I didn't know about. And I ended up getting checked out. And they told me everything was okay. There was no, they couldn't find any injuries in the ER or anything like that.

1:24:21Poor woman. I'm so sorry. And the second time he had hit me in the face. Jeez, what happened? You remember that time, right? We got to an argument, yeah. What were you fighting about?

1:24:36I don't remember the exact argument. It's been a while. But I remember that he got mad and I tried to walk away. And he shut the door. And we kept arguing. And then he smacked me and I had a handprint across my face.

1:24:54Okay. Well, just first things first. Listen, I've worked with my therapist for a while, and he's helped me a lot. I'm going to get you to sit down with my personal therapist. He's not an employee of mine, so he doesn't report to me or anything. You would be a client. I'm just paying for it. Okay. So you need to work through some deep shit that has happened, and I am so sorry for everything that has happened.

1:25:23And I know this doesn't, I mean, I'm just, all the resources I can give you, right? Obviously, budget and app, course career certification to get a better job. I got to get you everything. But we're going to send you as many resources as we can to, like, resources to get the f*** out. Al, personally, I want to verify some extra things that has happened here to make sure nothing is lying. I will get you$5 ,000 for myself to make sure you're able to get a place and get away from him. Whatever it is, I'll give you$5 ,000. We have to verify a few things before that happens, but I'll do that. No, you're fine.

1:26:01But I'm literally being told he ran out of the building. My security guard's standing outside of the building right now, and we can't... We've lost him. Hopefully he doesn't go too far because he's got the key to the rental car. Do not drive with this man. Uber or something. But I mean, all of our stuff is in the rental car. No, no, no. I need you. I'm scared. So. I'm scared. I need to get our stuff at least. But he has the key to that rental car. Security said, he said, quote, I don't give a f***. I'll just walk home. Dude, this is. Did the police believe you in all this? No. Cool. Well, I don't deny it.

1:26:42But the officer told me, flat out told me, that if he didn't care and he didn't regret what he did, he wouldn't have come back and called them for me. Because I was still out when the officer arrived as well. What else has he done?

1:26:59Biggest thing has just been the cheating. No, I think the biggest thing is hitting the kids and hitting you, I would say. And the constant cheating. But even the. It's his phone over there, and we wouldn't be able to get in anyway. Because I don't know his code. Of course not. Okay. Listen, in this situation, this household, this is the actual reality of what is happening. Oh, I know. The income that came in, the payroll hit of$5 ,500, and then payday advance hit of flex. You flexed$1 ,700. That's our rent payment. Okay, so you split it in two? I split it into two to make sure. That's crazy. The spending here was$7 ,065 on a household that brings in$5 ,560, which was less than the$4 ,200 I'm calculating from what you guys gave me.

1:27:49Unless I'm missing something,$4 ,700. Maybe he worked more hours. Maybe you did. So the last paycheck he got in August, he had their quarterly bonus. Yeah, so exactly. And then he worked every time. So you should make less than that. Listen, you will never be able to get away from him or get him away from you and rescue the kids and be able to take care of the kids if you spend that much more money than you bring in. Nothing will ever be fixed. You will always be dependent on him. You'll never be able to get away from him. This man has trapped you into, you're the one that's 39, into your four decades now, four decades of not having freedom with a terrible family, terrible man.

1:28:31The only way out is to get your finances under control, and I'll help with that a little. Yes, and we'll get the resources and we'll try to get you a place. You take control of your health. You take control of your finances. You cannot spend more than you bring in or you will never get away. You will always need someone to come in and take care of the bills. I appreciate that. Listen, at the lower income level, when it's just you and not him, you will, which by the way, I know what you guys agreed, report all this to the court and drain his ass of child support. I don't give a f*** about that agreement you guys did.

1:29:02Dude, it's hit the kids and he's hit you. We'll verify with some police reports before we go further in helping to make sure you're not lying. But either way, yeah, drain his asset house support. Get them in daycare that is subsidized and funded. I know we do that here because you'll be on a lower income. Get all the help. You're the kind of person where I don't complain about the government benefits of people like you that fall back on it. You're the ones that it's there for. You can't be getting your Chick-fil-A nuggets for lunch every day. You can't afford that. You can't be getting your little refresher.

1:29:37You can't afford that. You are on a strict meal plan and following a hardcore budget and going crazy, okay? The fact is, listen, in here, we have 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20. 20 individual different loans, not including the individual firms. That is just one. We have a 401k loan. You have student loans. Okay, his 401k loan, he can go f*** himself. From medical loans to upstart, repossessed cars, auto loan, Open Sky, double Open Sky. You have a self loan. You have a credit builder loan, a mission loan, Navy Federal Credit Union, and all those firms. Rooms to go.

1:30:28All of this stuff. You will be forever trapped. Trapped. No, no, no, no. Trapped of he's only there because the money, right? If he wasn't making money, would you still be with him? No. Exactly. So the further you take care of this and get rid of the risk over your head, then he's done. Can I tell you something? Do you want to hear what his solution to this debt was? Sure. When I mentioned that I had applied for this, he told me, well, we're going to pay off the 401k loan and then we'll take out a new one to pay off all this debt. And then the loan can come strictly out of my paycheck. That was That's his solution.

1:31:02That's not fixed behavior. That's the issue. And I told him, that's why I said, well, I want to come on here because at first he didn't really want to come. I said, because I need another perspective because apparently I can't get any help from you on trying to get all of this cleared. And I want to get rid of this because I know this is not beneficial for us to have. Why did he come here today? I don't know. Probably because I asked him to, but I knew he wasn't really, didn't seem like he really cared. Because he didn't. Why is he still with you? I don't know.

1:31:32Wait, actually, I do know because he can't do it on his own. I don't care. F*** him. I'm being told from Devin right now that he was lying the entire pre-interview about things he was telling our story producer and all this stuff. He's just a liar. He's a gaslighter. He's a cheater. He's a beater. He's a bad person. He's a toxic individual. And he's someone that there's only a few people we've had to put into a system. I'm going to put them into a system. And my people are keeping an eye out for him everywhere. Because I'm scared. I'm scared about him. He's going to get his fucking head blown off if he gets anywhere like 50 feet of me.

1:32:10But I'm concerned about it. I saw the truth now. That's important. Yeah. Because I was stupid enough to continue to believe his lies. Yeah, his ex-military. Jeez. Yeah, I'm even more scared. Luckily, my security, the ones that we keep around my house are also ex-military, and they'll blast them. I bet they're a better shoot. Better shot. Um, uh, man. Um, so like, what is he doing right now? You've been around him. What is he feeling? He's probably upset that he got caught. He didn't think he would get caught on here? I don't think he thought it would all come out. What the f***? Is he? Okay. So he had only seen the little bitty TikTok clips of your show.

1:32:49He's never actually watched a whole show. Yeah, but he saw the onboarding videos. I don't think he ever paid attention until the one today. I don't think, I don't know if he actually watched the other ones. Yeah. Why? He didn't watch it with you? Mm-mm. What the f***? Well, I guess that's not my fault. He told me to take care of it. Oh, great. Well, okay, that's on him. I don't give a shit then. He can go f*** himself.

1:33:12I'm concerned for you after this. I am. Are you afraid of what would happen after this, after you leave today? Oh, well. Because I don't know. What did we do then? He's hit you before and knocked you out. I was stupid enough to listen to everybody to just keep going that he didn't mean it. It was just a mistake. That's like when everybody's drilled into my head. And it's hard when everybody, including your own personal attorney that's supposed to be there to protect you, convinces you to stay. Okay. I think we're going to have my security help deal with that then. Because I don't know what the fuck he's going to do.

1:33:55Listen, the reality is this conversation took a turn that I don't think any of us were expecting and that I wasn't expecting and there's a lot here Right? I'm going to pay for my financial advisor to sit through with you and go through all this in detail and make a budget with you and give you a lot more in-depth shit than we would even do on the show So that's going to be more beneficial to you I appreciate it So that's what's going to happen, the therapy and everything, course careers and Chime, all the good stuff, it will get you all of it Okay? Yeah. Okay. Whatever the f***. If that wasn't crazy enough, I guess she has something else for the Poets Show.

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1:34:54You have another child you're not telling me about. All right, we'll get into that in the post show. me. I can't even imagine what's possibly coming in this post show if that wasn't crazy enough, if she wasn't willing to talk about whatever this is. I also think that he was trying to kill the kid that stopped breathing in his lap. What is hap... Why is life like this to you? I don't know. Why is life like this? Well, I would say that's the reason for cutting them off, isn't it? He was supposed to get four years in military prison. and he only served two that gave him good behavior. I think he might be the most evil husband we've had on this show, which is saying a lot.

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