ADHD: Harnessing Your Creative Superpower | Nick Bravo

26:28I think it was April or maybe a couple months ago. April, May, June. Yeah, April, whatever. April. Yeah. And Nick did a rap at the, you know, kind of two speakers or one speaker before me, kind of lights the crowd up, motivational, loved it. And that was great. And I loved what you did. And I immediately went and looked up more of your stuff. But that wasn't what captured me by Nick because you can tell something about somebody like in what they do when no one's looking. So for my talk, I went up and all the tech just decided not to work for whatever the plug wasn't working and nothing's coming up on the screen and I didn't really have any AV to help.

27:13And here's this guy that I don't know from Adam outside of seeing you do your thing 20 minutes before me, right, comes up out of the audience, jumps on stage behind the scenes and starts working the freaking computer and gets my deck up so that I could get, I could focus on getting ready and getting the talk off the ground and get the audience going and start delivering value. And he did that to a complete stranger. And my point in saying that is like, when we have a purpose and we live by values, like, you know, really good things. I mean, now we have this friendship and we're chatting with each other and sharing shit and like it's only developing and like that could have gone nowhere.

27:56You could have done that and I could have not even said thank you to you, right? I could have just been like whatever and gone and done my thing and you know you walk away feeling shitty. But by putting yourself out there, right, now we have a connection and you know now you're on the show and we're going even deeper. And it's like these moments are so important in our lives but there's always the chance for a downside and I think we just have to be willing to accept it. And if we can accept it and surround ourselves with people who are willing to support us in the moments that we need them, sky's the frigging limit for our lives.

28:30I think, too, for me, it's, you know, I used to be super arrogant. I think it just came in my early age with the gifts God gave me and my insecurities. But now I just have a lot of empathy. I know. I mean, remember that event? It was a cool event, but they weren't set up for music, bro. So I've been to a lot of events and a lot of them screw up the music because what I'm doing is pretty new, bringing hip hop into the business space. So I'm OK with it. But my sound system was screwed up right before I went before you. And we had talked about our TEDx talks and how the sound got screwed up. And so when I saw that, I just felt terrible for you because I know what it's like.

29:09I'm not a perfectionist, but I like to execute. And I remember the first day when I performed there, I left my wife and said, you did a great job. I'm like, but the sound was screwed up and it just bugged me all night, dude. And it was just because I was just like, you know, I know what it feels like when I did the PHP conference, the greatness conference in January and they had an amazing system in Vegas and we killed it. I know what that feels like. And so I hate when things are out of my control. So when I saw that, I just wanted to help you just from like a fellow person who knows that you're going to be up there scrambling.

29:42And the reason because I'm a speaker is why I would help you is because I know what that feels like. But on the outside, people would say, well, you're a speaker. Why would you go do that? Like you're booked there. That's for the AV team. It's like because I know exactly what it feels like to try to give my best and watch the technology fall apart. I like some of the greatest connections God's given me in my life, though, have been through acts of service, especially ones that are not manufactured so i wasn't i don't dude i don't mean this the wrong way you know i'm not from the insurance space i just started wrapping in the insurance space this year last year so it's not like i know you or a lot of people i just i don't know all the millionaires in this space all the dudes with the lambos and the freaking mclarens i don't i don't i'm not like hyped on anyone i don't know anybody and i don't sell insurance um i don't know who you are i just thought you're you're good dude and uh you know you're driven and i liked you and my wife liked your talk, but I just wanted to help you.

30:43And so I think that's another lesson too, is as a high octane person, I think it's easy for me to sometimes get into the manipulative tactic of positioning myself with people of influence. And especially if you get into bigger places of influence, even though it's like, well, I want to bring them value. Part of it's that, but sometimes it's like I just want to transact for my personal gain. But having moments where there's just genuine, And like, I'm just trying to help you, dude, because you're like me. And I and that I didn't expect anything out of it. But because you emailed your slide deck to my laptop so we could run it off my laptop, we communicated and you email me the next day.

31:23And we're like, dude, thank you so much. And now this is – so I just think like this is cool because the best relationships I've seen are the ones that come out from organic service to one another as opposed to a manufactured kind of – what do you call it? Working an angle to get that person in your network. Does that make sense? Yeah. And not that you can't – in all fairness, it's not – if you're coming from a genuine place, it's not like being tactical or strategic and building relationships. doesn't work too. But I completely agree with you that there is something special about the serendipitous nature of being of being of service to another individual in a moment where they need it and don't expect it that I think so.

32:10So I am I live in abundance, right? I absolutely live in abundance and all the dark, dark moments going back to that concept that I've had in my life. the way I've gotten through them is through I just cannot and do not operate. My brain can't even hold the idea of scarcity, right? And it's just to me, there's so much opportunity in the world. And I feel like the universe, you know, some people, you know, a lot of people say you get one, you know, there's the Eminem song, you get one shot, you know, I don't believe that I love the song, right? I like the song, I think it's a good song. But I completely disagree with the idea.

32:48To me, the universe, God, whatever, God for me, but like, you know, sometimes I just like to frame it as the universe, like, is constantly, constantly presenting us with opportunities. And if we live from a place of me, mine, my feelings, my status, what am I getting, right? The universe skips over you. Sure, you can have some success, but it's usually short-lived. It usually comes with more strain, more friction than necessary. And you can force that function. We've all met people who are very successful and are complete douchebags. But when you really dig in, and I'm sure you've seen this in your work as well, and you really get around the truly successful people, the people who've been successful for time, right?

33:37Who've had decades of success. That is not those people, right? They are thoughtful. They're kind. It doesn't mean they're not driven. It doesn't mean that they won't, excuse me, they will not attack their competitors and, you know, try to win business. It doesn't mean those things. But at their heart, those are people living in abundance and are constantly have their periscope up, searching for opportunities and listening and watching and they're available to opportunities when they present themselves. And I think this idea of scarcity versus abundance is something that is often just kind of, it's kind of mowed down with trite, you know, slogans or quotes and you're kind of, you know, but to truly live in abundance means every day you wake up and you're excited about the possibilities that you might be presented with that day.

34:32And you have the mindset or, or mental models in place to actually take advantage of them when it's appropriate. Yeah, no, it's, it reminds me of, you know, I was trained in this. I didn't come naturally. Me and my wife in our twenties, late twenties or mid twenties, I can't remember. We paid for a program called Clement Associates. It's kind of like a landmark training. I don't know if you've heard of that. Have not. But heavy personal development. And we went to this program called heart and it's just, it's a lot of full immersion experiences where you see how you show up and have breakthroughs, it's hard to really explain.

35:15It was worth the$40 ,000 I probably spent at that time in the couple years because every dime I've made, every thing I've been through, me and my wife wonder, will we still be married if we didn't go to that training in regards to our mindset and the way we see things in abundance? I remember at that time I had spent everything to go to the training, dude. and I was coaching a law firm and my buddy was over saw the law firm so he paid me early and he was like cash flowing early and I just trying to get to that program and they were talking about abundance and giving to others and I remember I was in line and there was a guy behind me I didn't know who he was and I just bought his coffee and um coming to find out later he was the right-hand man for a billionaire Mike Golgana in Montana and he had started a helicopter program called Tuber Air and he was the head of security for him and ran all his assets.

36:12I had no idea dude, I just bought him a coffee. We became friends at that event and he tells me later that I should be buying this guy coffee, not him. The guy doesn't have any money. Well, when I decided to launch, this was like 10 years ago when I launched my company the first time and I just wanted to do coaching and motivational speaking, this is before I do it like I do now. I was being mentored by a millionaire and he was just like, you know, he's giving me all the, you can either write a book, you need to do this. And I was like, dude, if everyone's doing that, I don't want to do that. And I don't got time for that.

36:46So then that was the first time I wrote like a rap song, a motivational rap song. And I called my friend up who had bought the coffee. We'd become friends. And I just called them and I had the balls to ask him a place of abundance. I said, hey, I have this idea. And I talk about going to high in an airplane. Could we use your airplane or maybe your helicopter? And that's really uncomfortable to ask him. And he was like, yeah, come on down. So I got a helicopter pilot in the helicopter for two full days. And then he put me up in his freaking billionaire boss's penthouse who wasn't in town. And all I had to do is pay for my buddy in the film crew.

37:21It cost me like 1500 bucks to go to Montana. and we shot on a helicopter for two days. Two was it started with generosity. I didn't do, I didn't know who he was. I just gave. And then second, because I was coming from a place of abundance and the training I had, I thought the worst, the worst thing he could say is no. And the best was that he actually said yes. And we've become, we actually become just close family friends. And I got him a TEDx. I mean, he earned it, you know what I mean? But I got him, you know, introduced and he just did his TEDx last year. But I'm just reminded of like, I'm just reminded of a place of abundance like you're talking about and generosity.

38:03I do believe in God. I do believe we serve a generous God and I believe we're made in the image of God and God doesn't want to watch a little selfish, narcissistic little versions of him that are not versions of him it's a simple version but he blesses generosity because it is just an attribute of him and I do believe generosity brings incredible amounts of joy too but so I was just helping you as a dude because I know what you're in and it's cool I got a podcast out of it that's cool maybe we'll work together on something together I just trying to hook a dude up with a cup of coffee so I could implement well I only had two dollars in my account to the process of generosity, even when I didn't have money.

38:46Sure. I got a helicopter out of it. That wasn't the plan. And we did, we got a friendship out of it. Right. Um, I think that shouldn't be the motive, but it's kind of cool when you're playing, playing a casino with God because his returns are so much better and the risk is so much lower when you invest or when you bet. Right. Does that make sense? Yeah. I think, and I think the, the lesson here for, for people who are listening is like, give yourself permission to be generous. I think a lot of people have very generous natures, but I think it's being generous is uncomfortable, right? You're exposing yourself.

39:25The person may reject your generosity. They may look at you funny. Other people may, why would you do that? They may look at you skeptically, like you're just trying to, you know, they may perceive it in a way that's nefarious. And I think it exposes you in a way that a lot of people, I think while they may have very generous natures and with people they feel safe, they may be very generous. I think we hold back a lot of times. And I think the lesson that you've shared, and I think it's wonderful, is give yourself permission to be generous, like with zero expectation of reciprocation, right? I mean, that's something that I used to talk a lot about content marketing and marketing in general, like 10, 15 years ago.

40:05And one of the like slogans that I always had, whether I was coaching someone or I was up on stage was the point of content. Yeah, you're trying to grow your business. You're trying to share a message. You're trying to build a brand, whatever. But what you're actually doing is giving without expectation of reciprocation, which means max value without any desire to receive anything in return. Now, it doesn't mean you don't want it. And it doesn't mean it's not good for your business. And it doesn't mean you're not producing the content with a purpose. However, if you approach a situation with an expectation of reciprocation, right, that creates the anxiety.

40:46It creates the success. And if you can just detach from the expectation and just say, I'm going to buy this guy, this gal, a coffee, because you know what? I'm in a freaking good mood today. They got a coffee. What the hell? I'm just going to do it, right? You never know what's going to happen. That person could say thank you and you never see him again. But here's the other thing you don't realize. Maybe they were in a shitty mood. Maybe it's the coffee shop, right? There's in Albany, in the Hudson Valley, there's these Stewart's shops, right? They're everywhere. It's a local, regional gas station chain.

41:18And that's where most people go, Stewart's. And in the past, I bought coffees for people, different things, different times. Never seen anyone again, no problem, right? But I always think in my head, what if that person was having a really shitty day? And all of a sudden, I buy him a coffee. Because I've had this happen to me. I've had people buy my coffees for me every once in a while. Hey, you talk to someone in line. I'll pick up his coffee. Okay, great. And you're like, there's a part of your soul that just unclenches for a minute. And maybe you change their day. Maybe they show up at work or they show up at home and they got a smile on their face or they're a little less frustrated or a little less anxious because they're like, geez, there are good people out there.

41:57There is someone who, you know, whatever. And you don't need to see the result to be generous. And it's the beauty and serendipity of the world that I appreciate so much. And as a believer in God, I also believe it's a big part of his process and his method. But I think we need to give ourselves permission to be generous if that is our nature and is our truth? You know, it's crazy. I never thought about the risk of generosity because I've never seen it as a risk. But I was working for a tech company making six figures and the girl was in contracts and there was starting to have tension with the contracts department and the salespeople because the contracts department makes hourly, but yet they're seeing our money, right?

42:44But this girl, the owner had bought this company where it was a$40 million company, bought this other company. She was integrated. She didn't choose that. I was trying to be very gracious. I was a top salesman in this branch in Montana. And I was supporting her and she was working so hard. I could see that companies do mergers and then they all pretend like it's clean and they're not paying attention to anybody in the merger that's literally freaking drowning. But I'm boots on the ground watching her drown. And I feel her stress. I feel her struggle. I see her burnout. And I remember I just put like 400 bucks in a freaking, you know, card and handed it, like told her, thank you.

43:22And just told her to go out with her husband for the weekend. Now, I never perceived that anything negative could be seen from that. Because for me, I was making, you know, I would make sometimes$30 ,000 in a payout, right? So 300 bucks is like, whatever, dude. But I really cared. and it turns out her dad was a type a like me her dad was a narcissist her dad always gave her money and then so there's all these trauma issues that i have no idea about i'm just trying to be generous and she treats me as suspect she treats me and i can't i can tell you it's a pretty it's a pretty uncomfortable feeling to be like wait i'm coming from such a pure place to like such a gracious thing and you're looking at me as if I'm violating some moral code when really I'm actually like being, this is probably the most freaking generous I've been to some random employee in a company.

44:22So I never thought about the fact that there are even dark roads in generosity. If you're going to do anything worth doing ever, whether it be like what I did for this lady and it didn't feel good, dude. I was just like, whoa, what's going on? I knew she had trauma. I'm like, this is crazy. Later and six months later, I realized all the trauma she had with her dad. But I was like, man, she's living in a trap. If she can't receive a gift, what else can't she receive? But the point is, is everything we do, good or bad, has a level of risk to it. And if we're not willing to take any risks, I don't know how you really love people.

45:02I don't know how you really care for people. I don't know how you really stand for anything. And I'm not saying massive risks. Everybody's wired different, but life is full of some risk. And if your goal is to avoid risk, I think you're going to be very unsatisfied with your life. And it's okay to avoid risk in business, but if you're avoiding risk in relationships or your marriage, the best way to get a divorce is to be passive aggressive for 10 years, you know, to stuff, to have a sexless marriage because you're bitter or she's bitter because you won't ever confront anything because it's too risky, right?

45:41So it's interesting that generosity can actually have a dark road attached to it, which means that there's risk attached to it. I've never thought about that until I remember that incident with that employee that I thought was, I couldn't in the moment conceive how that could possibly be taken as a bad thing. Yeah. Yeah. You know, I think, you know, I think a big part of this too, and you know, I know there's a lot of people who own companies and run companies who listen to the show and, you know, dealing with people is very difficult, right? Incentivizing people is very difficult. Everyone has these demons.

46:16Everyone has these, like you said, trauma from their past that they're, and viewing things from different places. And again, it's why I come all the way back to kind of where we started around authenticity and truth. And I think you get a lot more benefit of the doubt, despite the internal trauma of whoever you're dealing with, if they trust whether they believe whether they agree with you or not, if they trust where you're coming from, and the only way for them to believe that is if you are acting from that place all the time, right? Like we can't, we can't be greedy one minute and generous the next and expect people to appreciate the generosity, right?

47:01It's, it's the consistency of the values. And it's very difficult. I understand that like today, the world moves so fast and there's so much information thrown at us. And we have so many more requirements on our time and on our lives than we've ever had before. I mean, simple contemplation, you know, just is almost unheard of, right? People go on meditative retreats just to get space from their lives so they can think for a few minutes. These are very difficult times for us to be in. I, you know, I turn to God as much as I can. I turn to my own core value structure as much as I can, very imperfect.

47:44But I'd like to believe, and I think this is a quality, and I know this is a quality that you embody as well, is just the consistency of the values in our implementation of those values, understanding that at any given time, someone could view them for the wrong reasons, they could use them against us if they can see somewhere to leverage us. And that's just the cost of being true. and but I don't know very many people or very many stories where over a long enough time horizon someone who was true to their values and consistent through them didn't end up finding fulfillment and happiness and purpose which are the things that we're all shooting for when you know what I mean I look out over the political landscape and you hear all these narratives and, you know, I just come back to this idea that, like, the reason so many people, in my opinion, are unhappy and unsatisfied and unfulfilled and, you know, living through scarcity and negativity and, you know, it's just they're living lives that they didn't choose.

48:53They're not, it's not a life that they chose. They fell into a life and just accepted it. And I don't, we're not meant to live that way. It's very, very difficult, but we're not meant to live that way. Part of the problem is the system is built in such a way. I mean, the school system is the way it is because, you know, the billionaires back in the day, I'm just being honest, they wanted factory workers. We knew that. And they set up the system. And not to get into politics, but we've dumbed down a society so that they can be worker bees. And there are some people who break away from the matrix.

49:38It's not easy. I have a very strong personality. I can't ever go back to a$100 ,000 job, which is what they basically offer. Or like I trip out on people their entire careers. And the carrot is like this guy's worked in a tech company his entire career. And he might max out at$250 if he's the VP. And he's got no quality of life. And you're like, I can run a decent-sized marketing agency and work 20 hours, 30 hours a week and make$250. You know, yeah, sure. I still need team members. But my goal with my team members was to pay them really well. So the point I'm trying to make is that a lot of people don't ever get out of the matrix.

50:21And so that's all they know. And they think that – they believe that is the best they can have. And it takes – they always talk about it. It's like someone getting out of the hood, crabs in the bucket. They're either going to try to pull you back or they're going to be inspired to get out of the hood. It's the same type of thing with the matrix. And my passion is like, you know, do something that's off the wall, outside of the box. Like, I don't think I could have entered the motivational speaking market as a typical motivational speaker. I wouldn't have differentiated. But I entered into rap and with God's blessing on my life, it's only been a year and I'm going to be performing at the MGM.

51:00Well, how is that possible? Well, I think there's providence. I think there's creativity and my willingness to be very uncomfortable and rap at a business conference, which seems very weird. but now it's becoming not weird. A lot of people I think have the capacity to pivot. They just think what their idea is or the way they would approach the market is weird. And then it's like, that's exactly what marketing is. It's what's different. It's not about who's the best. You want to be good at what you do, but I'm not the best rapper, but I'm good enough. And I can hold my own with the best of them, but I don't need to be the best gangster rapper because I ain't a gangster.

51:37I'm a good CEO and I'm a good business coach and I'm a good businessman and I can bring lyrics and none of them can write what I write. So I found my lane. And it's like, there's a lot of people that they may know or have a sense that they're stuck, but they have no idea what they can do or they don't believe in the possibility of their ideas. And so, and then you got the other side of people that are like, you know, they think everything they do is fart gold. And you're sitting there watching them going, oh my God, stay at your nine to five, because if you go do what you say you're going to do, it's going to be horrible.

52:14So you got those two types of people. But I do think in general, I think I do believe in God, and I do believe in the demonic. And I do believe that a free life is one that's abundant of possibility and very useful for God. And a non-free life is one where I can barely take care of myself, let alone other people. And I don't care about anybody else because I can't. And I think there's so much more. And I think you see it in the government systems with the inner cities and they just want people to have the bare minimum mindset. Hey, we'll just cover, you know, we'll cover your food and just don't get married.

52:56You know, have as many kids as you want and just to bored them and not trying to get into politics but the point i'm trying to say is that it's a tactic it's a tactic to bare minimum life it's a tactic we'll take care of your most basic needs and i think you and i are owners of companies and you need people that can work hard you can't pay everybody the world but i also think the system is built in such a way that the top of the food chain makes all the money now mind you we do take all the risk but that they want everybody being content with 60 grand a year, 70 grand a year, 80 grand a year. It's a control mechanism.

53:28It's a control mechanism. We are easier to control as a population. If what we believe prosperity looks like for us is$65 ,000 a year. If what we believe is the best thing we can ever have is$65 ,000 a year. And look at different times in your career and different seasons of your life, it is what it is. But again, going back to living in reality, But the point is inside of all of us is as much as we want to go. And hey,$65 ,000 a life positioned against a lifestyle in which you get to live your purpose or find meaning in what you're doing is fantastic. It's also fantastic, right? But I think what you're describing is the friction point between I need and or want more in my life than I have today, but I'm accepting less because I believe that's all I'm capable of or all the opportunity that is acceptable to me.

54:23And I think the message that I hear in your work, in your story, and one of the reasons that I just immediately connected with you was that those things, that's not a true narrative. That is not reality, right? We are all capable of these incredible things. And, you know, I, you know, not to go conspiracy theory on the control stuff, but, you know, I do believe that, that there are power structures set up to control us because if we're all pushing in our own direction, building, growing, getting better, then mass mandates cannot be pushed down upon us because we're all free thinking, independent individuals who are able to take care of ourselves.

55:07So therefore, that control mechanism is completely lost. And it's what made this country so amazing for so many years. And something happened in the 70s. I still don't know what that is, although I research it constantly, that changed this in our country. But if my great hope for so many of the people listening to this show, and the reason that I do this show and bring people on like yourself and have them share their stories and try to introduce you into this audience's world is because - It is only through the pursuit of what makes us unique, special, and interesting. And it doesn't have to be monetary or job.

55:44That could be, I want to be the best little league soccer coach that I can possibly be for my kids during their golden years. That's what I want. So I'm willing to work this job that maybe I don't love it. Maybe it's not my purpose or my meaning. But man, I get so much meaning out of being a great dad or a great mom or a great spouse that it provides me to do it. That's great, but that's your choice. You chose that, right? And I think what I find, oh, there's so much anxiety and lack of fulfillment associated by living a life that you didn't choose. Yeah, you feel like, yeah, I hear you on that.

56:23And I think it's right to clarify that I'm not just talking about income. I've always said, I worked with a lot of people at Costco in 2020 when everything went, I lost a job. And I got like, that was not my lowest point because my wife was proud of me because everybody was out of work, dude. And it was a scary time. But I really worked with a lot of really good, loyal, humble people that work really hard. And some of them, their skill sets were this is about the best job they could get. And it's pretty sweet. They're making 60 plus they get bonuses and if they want to work up in management, absolute grind to work up in management for a very low pay increase.

57:03So, you know, if you get to store manager though, you're making like half a million, right? I mean, so like, it's crazy. You can, you can get, you can get up there, but I remember just doing life with them and I wasn't supposed to be there. I mean, I was supposed to be there for a season because during COVID and I got into scarcity mode. I was like, what are the places that are going to stay open? What are the places that I can, places where there's food? I just like real, real scarcity. And I remember when I had to move on and someone recruited me and was like, hey, you can make six figures at this company.

57:34And I'm in Montana, by the way. There's only 100 ,000 people in this city. I'm like, they're full of shit. I don't know if I'm a lot of cuss on your thing, but I apologize if I'm not just bleeping out. But I'm like, they're full of shit. But I'm like, you know what? I'll get a 60 base and go. And sure enough, I remember when I hit the six figures and I broke records and I grew the market I didn't know that existed. And then I was surrounded with everybody that was making 150 to 250 as a normal way of life. And I wasn't just making 150. I was making 150 working less than 40 hours a week in Montana, which was incredible.

58:13Paid off a bunch of debt. I hadn't seen paychecks at 30K, dude. I'd never seen that before, just breaking off. But that opened my mind to what's possible. And it wasn't about the money, but it was about the freedom. It was about the freedom, the time freedom, working with them, my gifts, building something that helped me understand. And then my mindset became, it's not about the money. It's about what is my capacity. And so then I started working on some film and then I got connected in the film industry. And it was like, well, if I'm capable of doing something that makes me 1.2 million in film or something, and I settle for$250 ,000 a year, that's actually settling.

58:57So it's not about, if the guy in Costco, if that's his lane, it's not about the money amount, it's about your capacity. If my capacity is I can make$1.2 million doing a film, I can make$300 ,000 or half a million speaking on stages, and I could be impacting these lives and doing this, and I choose to just settle at$250 ,000. for me in the skill set and the wiring and the mindset and the background I have, my life is a waste because I've allowed myself the comparison. Oh, VPs in corporate companies make$250, so I'm up there with them. Your life has nothing to do with anyone else and what they're doing.

59:37It has to do with what are you capable of? What is your capacity? And are you truly living? And you may be the money's right, but maybe you're a terrible father and you're okay with that because you've convinced yourself that all executives are terrible fathers bullshit why don't you go take an approach towards fatherhood like you do your executive job and make some adjustments to figure out how you can be an 8 out of 10 as a father and take it seriously right maybe it's not money but the point is is for me the only thing I know how to do and I think you're wired the same way and honestly I don't think this is people's natural wiring I think it's some people's natural wiring so it's easy for us to tell people they should do this because I wake up and I think this way Does that make sense?

1:00:17I wake up and this is my default setting. I told God the other night, I said, I don't really care what to do with my life. As long as when I go to the grave, I empty the tank in every area and I know that I fulfilled my full potential of whatever you have for me. dude it's just like i can't explain it that that's like that's what i my biggest concern is is that i left anything on the table that's it and if that's financial if that's in my marriage if that's in my family if that's in contribution if that's in you know any opportunity i have um i think the good thing about people that are wired like you and i were so intense that some people may not not as intense and maybe they're at 90 of their potential and they're low key, but they're like, I got another 10 % in the tank.

1:01:02And our extreme intensity will get them another 5 % out of that tank, even though it might be a small margin to us, it's a huge margin to them. And so whether we're helping somebody, you know, who's low key, not super ambitious, get another 5, 10 % out of life, or whether we're helping the freaking balls to the walls guy, who's just been discouraged because he's failed to get back on the horse and go freaking conquer the world. You and I are essential to society, just like everyone else's. But our role is to motivate, elevate, inspire. And in doing so, we're also going to piss a lot of people off because people who are comfortable, people who don't want the truth, won't value it when you bring it to them.

1:01:49But we can't just pick and choose who we bring the truth to. We have to bring the truth and let it do its work and allow the people. And then we have to be humble enough to understand that when we are the bringers of truth, we will be loved and hated at the same time, depending on the people that actually want the truth. But that's our rule. And we're built for it. We have big enough egos. We have the frame for it. We have the skill set for it. And I have people tell me like, they're like, well, you're built for this. And I'm like, I get it. Sometimes I'm tired, God. Sometimes I don't want to be the deliverer of truth.

1:02:21Sometimes I don't want to confront things. Sometimes I don't want to be in conflict. Sometimes I don't want to be the guy who saw that and the only guy who's going to speak up about it. Sometimes I don't want to enter the unknown. Like this is true, dude. But it's just like I can't help the fact that I'm, you know, an F350 or 3500. Like I'm built for a max load. I can complain about the bricks in my truck bed or I can go build something. But you and I don't get – we don't get the luxury of saying we just want to be a Prius for a day. You're not, you're not, you can't, you won't ever be. And if people don't like, if people don't like F, you know, F 350s or 3500s, that's cool.

1:03:02They don't like duallys. That's cool. But that's who you are. That's who I am. Our job is to fulfill our purpose that God's given us, do it to the best of our ability, help as many people as we can and be okay with the people that hate, hate, hate big trucks. Dude, I am such a fan. I'm so glad you came on the show. I know a lot of people who put events on. listen. If they want to bring you in and anybody who does events, I highly recommend you reach out to Nick. What he does with his raps are incredible. I've seen you tailor them. The messages are deep. They're rich and you just present it in such a great way.

1:03:41Enormous fan. I know that we are going to work together in the future. How do people get deeper into your world if they just want to be around your content or if they want to reach out and potentially bring you in for they can follow me at I am Nick Bravo on Instagram Nick Bravo speaks at YouTube you can hit me up on LinkedIn I'm pretty low-key I mean if you know him really well and they hit you up you can give my cell number that's one option but I also it depends as far as the booking goes and music and performance events that's www.nick-bravo.com and maybe you can put that up here when you do the podcast um in regards to like the whole marketing ags agency i have on all the google ads and stuff we do for a lot of big brands that's levelup.global either way i mean you can get to me on linkedin instagram tiktok i'm not on tiktok as much because i don't know if it's gonna get banned uh and facebook just message me or hit me up or get my number from you and for sure, dude.

1:04:45So I appreciate it. I resonate with you, man. I resonate with you. It's not easy. People think that we just make money and we're go-getters and that we're just out there. I'm in my head all the time, bro, trying to survive. And that's why my music's so good because I write about what's in my head. So sometimes people can look at me and you and think, yeah, they look at us and they just think, oh, it must be easy, they're strong. Dude, we're all struggling. It's just don't ever give up. Keep fighting. We all have our own issues. So hang in there. So, all right, dude. Well, hey, I appreciate this.

1:05:20We were meant to meet for a reason. Stay connected, Ryan. Let's stay in touch. And, you know, Ryan, if you ever need, you know, a rap song for your brand when you're speaking places. Oh, I've already been thinking about it. I love it. I love it. I'm in conversation with Ray Lewis right now about writing his story into a and it's only because he's going to be at the PHB event so he's interested potentially in me writing his story into a rap song but yeah I don't know it's always good to have a 90 second intro of your story before you walk into stuff or I don't know podcast for your podcast if you need some I love it I love it man alright bro hey appreciate you be good

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