Secrets we’ve NEVER told our parents…until now

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1:08Louise: Hey guys, welcome back to He Said, She Said, our Monday, I was going to say morning episode, but listen, any time of the day or week, this is our AUA, our Ask Us Anything, and an opportunity for you guys to send us in your questions that are burning in your brain. yes that sounds dramatic enough yep that does sound your burning desires your wishes are command your questions are our answers so fireman i've got some some goodies today i always love asking you these ryan sometimes i slide in a couple of extras that i want to know the answer to see if you can tell which ones okay so let's start with this first question is flirting cheating where's the line so okay so is flirting cheating i'm gonna go with no on that i think we all know where the boundary is where the line is i think flirting is more of a i was gonna say game but i don't really mean it like a game i think it's just like a it's almost like a flex of your personality and if someone clocks it and likes it it's kind of nice but you've got to know where the boundary is because you can't enjoy it too much you're so right it's a personality thing there are people who base all of their personality around flirting with people like it's it's the only conversation that they know do you have guy friends do you know people that are like their whole personality is just like flirting it's normally the single ones to be honest it's normally the ones that like are never in relationships like the banter the banter i used to have i used to have when when i had a bigger group of friends that there were certainly blokes who operated that way yeah it's kind of like the silly people that can maybe get away with it because everything's a joke so it's like it's fine because you're not taking anything seriously so you can also be like oh nice tits that's not flirting but nice i don't know in my mind if i pay someone a compliment yeah as in like i'd quite happily say to jay jay you look really nice there yeah some people and it kind of it can it can be both sides of the fence as in like it can be received a bit odd and people around you can be like that's a bit weird to say i actually from my perspective just think if you've got something nice to say say it i don't really mean it as a flirty thing but i think these days people read into these comments and whatever else quite deeply do they not i think because you're very innocent like it's completely fine for you to say anything I don't know I think you were like pretty well intentioned when it comes to that sort of thing I would never get jealous if you gave another woman a compliment yeah but what I'm saying but then I'm quite lucky because I was speaking to the girls about this if I said it in sorry I was just if I said it in a room of people that I didn't know that well let's say a bunch of your friends maybe someone might read that as oh why is Ryan whereas like in my mind I'm just trying to be nice so I don't know where I don't know how it's received these days anyway what are you saying you say these days as if you're an old man that's about to get like pulled up and like cancelled for something i've been out like you're not even allowed to say like i like your shoes there are girls i know that would freak out if their partner was flirting i've never really been in a relationship with a guy that flirts a lot with other people i've also never really been in a relationship with a guy that has a best girlfriend and i think i'm quite lucky that you don't have lots of girlfriends because i never have to think about that that might be a bit different do you know what i mean do like i don't really have do i have lots of best boyfriends i don't know what do you mean you don't know you care so little you don't even know would you mind if i did well sorry i know the answer no you don't you obviously have very good guy friends i used to have like quite a few guy mates to be fair i do get along well with boys have you ever had a close girlfriend friend who's a girl he's not your girlfriend yeah i have yeah and it got me in trouble because they they read the whole situation wrong oh they then thought that it was romantic yeah like properly thought it was romantic who was that uh i won't say her name but when i was a trainer before i met you i got introduced to like a she was top of her field physio strengths and conditioning coach she was i was like 25 she was probably about 45 okay and i just thought i valued the relationship so much because she was teaching me a lot about the industry and she she thought it was something else yeah and she got very very upset about the whole thing really yeah and actually the same thing happened at school more so the name but you can't maintain a female friendship without them falling in love with you that's what i'm doing should i ask you a question okay fine you're so polite are we very polite well i just like to so i like to orchestrate a conversation what's your most embarrassing celebrity crush from your teenage years i feel like you're gonna have a few um oh god or maybe just remove the word embarrassing who is your teenage crush there was a guy who lived in the garden he lived in the garden opposite me he lived in the garden He lived in not a communal garden and I fancied him and he's not famous and no one will even know.

6:27Louise: So it's not that funny. That was a bit awkward because he then actually ended up going to Edinburgh. So I re-met him a good like 20 years later. Did you tell him? I think I probably did like drunk at a house party, like wasted drunk at a house party. I've always loved you. Yeah, that kind of thing. I used to watch you. Not like always loved you, but yes, I used to watch you like play with water pistols with my brother in the garden. through the like balustrades in the garden fence. Oh my God. I didn't do that. That would be sacrilege. I didn't have many celebrity crushes. I don't know why. I just, I didn't.

7:04Louise: I don't think, I think I was quite asexual for quite a long time. I fancied a girl actually. Sorry, at prep school. I didn't fancy her. I just really, I always went to girl school. So I wasn't around any men. And I, there was a girl and I just remember thinking she is so beautiful. and so i had a bit of a girl crush and i told someone on a ski trip that we went on a school ski trip and they told everybody i told one person in confidence wait is this you doing like a ryan liby like just saying a nice thing or did you actually feel something for a girl i didn't feel something because this would be quite the episode if we just revealed something no i don't think i was a lesbian but i just i just really enjoyed admiring like how symmetrical And then I told someone, I was like, gosh, that girl is very, very beautiful.

7:55Louise: And it happened actually at my, it did happen at my secondary school as well. There's just one girl. Right. Okay. I think we've got a little something happening here. I think it was more like admiration. Fair enough. I didn't ever think like, oh God, no, I wasn't, I wasn't thinking that I wanted to hook up with them. It was more. Didn't feel weird about saying a nice thing. Exactly. I'm the same with dudes all the time. Always have been. Who was your celebrity crush? Nicole Scherzer. I'll give you an example of a guy. Remember Tom Weller? Is it Tom Weller? Tom Wellington? Guy who used to play Superman in the series.

8:31Basically, Jack used to look like him at school. And I'd be like, dude, everything from your hair to your...

8:37Louise: Toes. To your, like, dude. What, and you used to say that to him? Yeah. What, and you'd be like, you're so hot? That's not what I said. What did you say? I'd be like, mate, you look like freaking Superman. Your hair is epic. What product are you using, bro? Nice. Yeah. I love that you, as a bloke, that you can feel comfortable to say that. It's a bit like when you and Sam are together, like, you know, what we spoke about being on holiday together an episode ago. Not like the copying thing, but it's like, yeah, nice pants, bro. Like, where'd you get them from? And then like going and getting the same thing and like helping each other out.

9:13Louise: Like, hey, how do you sew your hair? Oh yeah, I might wear a backwards cap. Okay, so interesting. I bet the listener was not expecting my girl crush to be female and your boy crush to be male.

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11:12What's something that you've done that you'll never admit to your parents?

11:15Louise: Gosh that's a good question. I remember when I started taking TRT to source room replacement I was like I'm probably not going to tell my parents this because they might think that it's for sports performance reasons. Okay yeah interesting. Just because I think there was probably like an assumption around that or lack of education around it and sorry maybe ahead of that they they were just not aware of how low and shit i felt at that time yeah so for them for me to come out like rather randomly and say oh i'm now taking testosterone supplements they'd be like huh i just didn't tell them for a long time i understand that i think that the things i wouldn't and I've told my parents are probably quite similar.

11:59Okay, I've got another one.

12:00Louise: Yeah. I remember, I think I was around 14 and my dad, he had a good friend of his called Fraser. Anyway, Fraser was like very outdoorsy kind of guy and he had these air pistols and air rifles, you know, tiny like two, two, two tiny bullet things. Stuff that you'd shoot beer cans with in the backyard. Yeah, I don't know anything about guns, but yeah. Well, anyway, I was 14, my brothers were like, we'd made like this in the garden this little shooting range and it literally was like string through a beer can hanging off a fence you shoot the beer can and pierce through and i can remember i don't know i don't know who i was exactly with at the time and i don't know if anyone else was was naughty like i was naughty but i basically shot a pigeon oh my god off the roof off the roof of the house your face just went so funny i've never seen that expression from you before I wish the cameras for Ollie.

12:56I shot a pigeon and I felt terrible for like months afterwards. But I couldn't tell anyone. But this thing, like I hit this fucking bird and it flopped down and smacked the garden floor. And I was like, oh my God.

13:10Louise: What, you shot it out of the sky or from the floor? No, on the roof. You just shot the roof. Pigeons don't fly. Oh no, they do fly. He's on the roof. And oh mate, I don't even know how I hit the thing. I must've just got lucky or unlucky. How old were you? I think, I don't know, 14. I felt terrible God don't take this guy hunting or shooting well this is I've been invited to go deer stalking in Scotland and I'm like there's no way I can shoot a deer sorry pigeon let's move on why don't you do a little quick you could like bury something for the pigeon or we could burn some incense well thank you for those interesting questions about your I think we might have had a little snapshot into your lesbian face why are you laughing question mark i do think about it fairly regularly but don't worry you'll be the first person to know sorry you've just reminded me that when we were away on holiday in spain i had a full-on nightmare i think it's all the manchego like all of that cheesy cheese stuff i was eating and all that ham the beota ham i had a nightmare for like hours it was a whole night that you basically had an affair and that you left me but it was with a bloke and I felt so deeply in that dream you believe in that face so you know the feeling when you're younger and you've been cheated on and it's like a really strong strong feeling and then like comes that slight like it's the aftermath it's like the obsession and it's the questioning and it's like looking at the pictures and then it's the closeness or the distance it's like oh i want to bump into them i don't this was like everything that i've ever felt in any aftermath of any relationship but it was with you it was so real and like leo was around and it was as if like we were breaking up and in the morning i literally was like oh my god give him what he wants i was like don't leave me really yeah bloody manchego cheese it will get you yeah it was yeah it really was and i yeah in the dream i really was convinced that it could happen well i can i can tell you this much it won't be happening and it certainly won't be happening with a man okay not even superman on that note i'll see you i'll see you on wednesday for the full episode thank you guys so much for listening thank god there's no cameras on we provided you a little bit of entertainment and um if you enjoyed it then please do tell a friend about the pod and make sure to subscribe and follow so that you never miss an episode.

15:45Louise: And yeah, it means a lot to us that you guys are still with us on this journey a year into the mission. So lots of love. See you next week.

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