What would we do if money was no object??

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0:41Hello, Lou Dog.

0:42Louise: Hi, Ride Dog. Welcome back to the He Said, She Said studio, a.k.a. our playroom. It actually is a playroom. You make it sound like a sex dungeon. That would be quite something. Well, this is the AUA, folks. This is where you get a chance to shoot some shots at us. and question us on all sorts of things. We're going to lift the lid on some intimate moments, maybe. Yes, me. Oh, intimate. Okay, we're going intimate. I don't know. Well, I've got the question, so. Right, Louise's got the question. Let's get started. She's got the question. I've got a coffee. Let's go. If money was no object, what's a business or charity you would start?

1:16Business or charity. Well, I know already that you've got an answer for this. So you start.

1:21Louise: I would love to set up a charity. and whilst I'm no way near being in a position where I can do it at the moment because I've got too much on my plate I am trying to find ways where I can earn more passive income which hopefully later on in life will afford me more time to get into the charity sector it's actually I'm really grateful that someone's asked this question because I do think it's something that I need to speak about more in order to get going with it my life coach and I often talk about my goals when we start working together at the beginning of like a bundle of sessions, if you like.

1:57Louise: And we'll look at kind of short term, midterm and then longer term goals. But normally I focus on things that are short term that I think that I can achieve in the year. Having been through all of the traumatic stuff, I knew at various points along my recovery that I really, really wanted to set up a home, like a facility for women that have gone through maternity related trauma, birth trauma, or who are struggling with really bad perinatal mental health. So kind of a safe place, like a building that feels as close to a home for people where they feel like they've got somewhere that they can be their worst version and not be judged for it that also has access to therapies, conventional therapies, non-conventional therapies, sound baths, psychiatric assistance support, a bit like a mother and baby unit, but there are only three actually around London.

2:53Louise: So if I could find a way to create something that's in central London, that feels like it's a lot more accessible for people, I think it would be really amazing if there was the option for women to stay overnight and with their babies, but also for people that just need somewhere to go in the day. It's like a kind of day drop-in center. I think that would be really, really useful. So yeah, I've got a big vision of what I want it to be but the question is is how do I get there and I know nothing about the charity space one of my good friends actually does work for a huge charity and I know that Sam's well UNICEF and I do work with the birth trauma association and also Crohn's and Colitis UK and I'm learning like little bits along the way but I think initially when I set out when I kind of put this out there in the world and I shared it with with Caroline my life coach I felt a bit scared about it because I'm used to doing to setting my sights on something and then being able to get there quite quickly and she said to me look why don't you set this as one of those goals that you try and achieve by the age of 45 because let's be real like who do we know that set up a charity on the age of 45 anyway and then you buy yourself some time and you could try and enjoy that journey even if I do one percent I focus one percent of my day every day on this cause for a whole year I'll be 365 % closer to that goal of setting it up so I want people to keep messaging me about it and I want people to keep reminding me about it and I think if there's anyone that's listening that could be helpful or wants to act as a bit of a mentor I'll tell you who could be helpful for you is my dad my dad used to run the Prince's Trust which is now the King's Trust so that's a charity that he used to run so he could help you amazing right why have you not suggested that to me before well I probably have but you don't listen to me only on a Wednesday So let me tell you my, if money was no object, right?

4:40This is for the dudes listening, not for the women. So just so you're aware, I'm in a room full of women. They're all going to fall asleep right now. There's a show called On The Roam with Jason Momoa. And Jason Momoa, I think, is just one of the coolest dudes out there. He's an actor. He plays Aquaman. He's in Sea, all the stuff that you see. He's called the series. Anyway, he's got enough money to basically get his best friends who all ride motorbikes and they go to really cool locations. And he puts together these amazing movies. So he shoots content on the best cameras. He then ropes in people of inspiration in his own world.

5:14And because he's got the financial resource to make this happen and to make it beautiful, from that, what I would want to do is get men together, groups of friends or brothers or brother-in-laws, and offer these packages where they could go and do these, I don't know, go and surf in the Antarctica and we'll make an amazing movie and we'll give you just such a rich experience and it won't cost you and then at the end of it you've got all this content that even if you don't work in the content industry you've just got amazing photos videos memories like live things that you can relive with family and it would be a way of like facilitating health mental health for men giving you experiences but doing it in the way that he's done what i'm taking from that is that actually because initially when you said that i thought what jason momoa has done there similarly

6:02Louise: to who are those three brothers the hot ones miley saris used to date one of them hemsworth hemsworth he's done a show that's quite similar i look at that and think you've got oh shit money it's more about illuminating the people in his world and i'm talking like back end of the u.s this tiny little shack where this guy makes beautiful jewelry or like forges the most impressive blades and customizers and it's all about telling people's stories through his platform and he's so he's just so like gentle and subtle about how he does it it's not about it is it's like his passion project isn't it it's oh these are all things i still don't get it i know i don't think i do get it but i think it's okay for us to have a different opinion on this i watch these and i think oh that's so self-indulgent those kinds of shows where they just get to travel around and film but you would like to offer that experience to people that can't afford to do that as a way of helping them connect with you said sort of relatives or siblings partners who may be going through a tough time that might make them feel good maybe like a like a men's retreat it sounds a bit like a men's retreat but where you get to go and do creative things so see people craft motorbikes or guitars or whatever their interests might be what he's done is he's used his platform and he's resources to illuminate and storytell people who have inspired his journey and what he's done is he's got his best mates together they've done incredible experiences and adventures and they just so happen to make like an amazing film of it but you could take that concept and like i could take like my closest friends and sam and i don't know pete and whoever else wanted to come go down to cornwall and do like a retreat almost for like escaping the london world and you know getting a reset for mental health and do like a surfing documentary and like there'd be no charge it'd be like a you know i guess like a retreat in many ways it's like a very creative adventure adventure but with the sort of undercurrent and undertone of like we're going to scoop up a bunch of like guy pals and we're going to give you like something to remember in your brain but also like here's an amazingly shot beautifully crafted film okay here's a question what about doing all of that but then removing the film element because the business could be that you're taking people down to enjoy that whole experience but you don't need to document any of it well I guess because this is something that I'm like I'm dreaming about here like I would love to be behind the camera like capturing these moments for people okay so then you get to enjoy that because you're actually an incredible photographer and videographer okay cool so you would want to set up a production company kind of yeah but was a but was a bit more of an intention towards like you know really really offering something that would benefit men yeah what's a recurring task you hate or dread doing doing a voiceover for a video that's actually a really good one how annoying is doing a voiceover yeah although i've started to lean into it a bit more but yeah typically that isn't that is a that's a tricky one i think we both hate doing that i hate confronting people well who doesn't surprises as people who doesn't also hate doing monologues in front of people what's that you know when you just have to talk so presenting something luckily that's not a recurring task in my life no i don't i try not to do it as often as possible this ad is sponsored by zocdoc hi it's danny pellegrino from everything iconic have you been putting off that annual doctor's appointment because you don't want to make the call, or maybe you've been meaning to find a new dentist, but you have no idea where to start.

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10:32Louise: At Boar's Head, we've been going back to school for over 115 years. And this year, every school lunch is reason to celebrate with the flavors your kids love and the exceptional quality you expect. Helping you make school lunch fresh, easy, and delicious. Ring the bell. The deli is open. orzat committed to craft since 1905 i met my younger self for coffee what am i telling him or her i feel like we should think of something a little bit more original than the sort of like don't worry like there's time yeah you can achieve your dreams it's gonna happen just have fun dude trust in the universe what would I tell my younger self mine would be really cliche like tricky times are ahead you never could have even imagined that all this stuff imagine that this stuff is going to happen to you but you'll overcome it so don't give up it's a bit of a cliche question isn't it I'd say do not settle for the fuck boys wow and have a child with a very nice man so yeah that's what you tell your Keep, keep, my younger self.

11:54Louise: I think that's good advice, isn't it? Yeah, for sure. I actually only learned what fuckboy was the other day. Someone said it to me and I had to actually Google it. Do you ever find yourself Googling definitions? Google's been replaced by chat GBT for me now. If I have a question, like, for example, I'm interested in buying a new lens for my camera. I don't go on Google now. I'm like, chat GBT, here's my camera. What lens would you suggest? take a look at my Instagram and like see my tone of photography and it gives me like the most incredible answer look how proud you are of that that's so gorge no because I'm so slow on the uptake of things like the release of I don't know new trends and new things and when I when I eventually get there in my own pace I'm like holy shit this is actually amazing this is actually amazing trouble is like people are already creating the next best thing and I'm like only just realizing chat gbt uh i would oh mate uh my headlines would be uh find your people early on i'd say don't worry about the sort of credentials qualifications academic lists of things just just be a good human what's a small thing that the other person does that you secretly like oh i've actually got a good one for this i really like it when you read a bedtime story to leo do you know why no tell me why you because you're so sweet and innocent when you read these stories it's you read like you're reading a book for the first time ever and it's just the most vulnerable I've actually ever seen you in your life really yeah you you take a lot of care over it and you You read very slowly and very, oh, it's just really lovely.

13:43Louise: In fact, I actually am going to record you so I can just play out and repeat whenever I'm feeling stressed. Because it's the perfect medicine for anxiety. I like it when you... Do you know what I'm talking about, though? Of course I do. Like, I don't want you to take that the wrong way. No, no, no. I know I do read it slowly, yeah. And I do try and... oh i don't know but i basically basically what when it comes to bedtime reading from my experience of like i don't know seeing grandparents or other people not you but like people tend to go into this like it's like they step into someone else's shoes they take a new voice on there's new emphasis in the words and it's all of a sudden it's like where's mom gone or where's dad gone so when i do it i'm like trying to get like really into like a position where i feel comfortable and i can just tell my story and i think that if i lower the tone a little bit and slow it down it then maybe contributes to him just like shutting his eyes but in reality i'm actually having a great time as well because i'm in the story i'm like oh my god maybe it's when you're really concentrating but you kind of like stumble over some of the words and it's just really just a crap reader you it i feel like i'm listening to a 12 year old first time reader a 12 year old run anything that you can think of i like it when you walk around on your tiptoes okay because that's very cute okay last question super quick quick fire what was the very first thing you told your best friend about me she's rich as fuck shut up who did you tell that to and also that was a joke um well well when i met you i was living i was living with max wasn't i so what did i tell Oh, bloody hell.

15:25This is going back a while. What was the first thing I said?

15:29Louise: I can't really remember because I kept you a secret for so long. I didn't tell anyone anything about you. Then when I did, I think I probably said that you made me feel very comfortable and confident, unlike anyone else I've been with. You wouldn't have said that. That is not the first thing you would have said to your best friend. I didn't say, I might have said you resemble Leonardo DiCaprio. I wouldn't though because I would never hone in on looks. I don't know. You'd probably say he's got a massive... God, now I wouldn't lie. All right, Rizzi, it's been a pleasure. I will see you next Wednesday for the main episode.

16:05Louise: So be sure to give that one a listen. We've got a great one for you this week. And keep sending in your questions. These are actually really fun to answer. So very grateful you'll find the email address to send your questions to in the show notes. I'd like to get some more questions from the dudes, from the men. how can you tell these aren't well i just i have a feeling all right and i just want i want i want the men to really lean into this so if i need to do something different let me know okay because i don't want this to be just about the girls okay so let's just see what happens on the next day you way there's gonna be a lot of loaded questions from the guys great bring it on see you wednesday see you wednesday

17:05We'll be right back.