Sleep Experts: The Truth About Melatonin, Sex, and Sleep w/ Arianna Huffington & Matt Walker | EP #168

0:00Sex is great for sleep. You're welcome. One of the principal reasons that we have insomnia is because of biological and psychological anxiety and stress. I am just so tired, I'm so wired, I can't fall asleep or stay asleep. The truth is that we are living in tumultuous times, learning how to move into the eye of the hurricane. It's absolutely critical for good sleep and for health generally. I don't care how much you sleep. I truly don't. What I care about is the consequences of your lack of sleep, not the lack of sleep itself. When you wake up in the morning, are you looking forward to your day?

0:42Are you experiencing joy in what you are doing? How do you activate my two challenges? Are you empathetic? Are you creative? All these more intangible measures of our life are also things you should not forget to be aware of That is not just the numbers. It's also how we are experiencing our life

1:15Time for your questions All right, John kick us off This is for Ariana. What a lovely woman you are in person. I'm just amazed. I wanted to ask why aren't these items taught in schools rather than waiting until somebody's an adult and then secondly, how may I help? Oh fantastic. I love that you want to help. And there are so many ways. Didn't you say how may I help? Yeah. Because you know, you're all as Peter said earlier, in touch with people who may not have the resources that people in this room have. It could be people at schools, it could be employees, it could be nonprofits, your work with.

2:06Let us know. We have a foundation. We do a lot of nonprofit work. We have like two little slogans. One is health, is what happens between doctor Visi. And when people realize that they are empowered, they take control of what they are doing, and the other is very simple, that behavior changes a miracle drug. And we're in control of it. Peter called it being the sea of your own health. One of the things I love about Matt is that you are such a wordsmith, you're so eloquent. You know, a lot of scientists have a hard time communicating and reaching people and Matt has been able to bridge the science with incredible communication gifts.

2:57So we can do all that, we'd love to work with you and anyone here who wants to reach millions of people who are suffering. Thank you. So, so important, Tom. Thank you, Peter. Matt, thank you. I've read some of your stuff. I love the drug idea, but I come from the world of nutrition and supplements. And there's controversy about supplements. But any supplements that you found that add to the drug that could help with all these sleep analytics, thanks. Yeah, it's a very good question. I think at first one could cynically say if there were some Shangri -Laure of supplement good sleep that promised you the royal sort of night.

3:34the drug companies would have been over it, you know, all over it 20 years ago and making billions of dollars from it. The fact that there aren't, perhaps tells us something. I would say though that right now, one of the principal reasons that we have insomnia is because of biological and psychological anxiety and stress. It is what I would call the tired but wired phenomenon. I am so tired. I am just so tired, but I'm so wired. I can't fall asleep or stay asleep. The, there is evidence for two compounds, phosphatidyl serine and also ashwagandha. Both of those seem to have the ability to tamp down the fight or flight branch of the nervous system and also respectively lower the amount of cortisol.

4:19They haven't been tested in the context of sleep, but they have been tested outside of the context of sleep for both of those indications. So normally working with clients, we will often try to get them on something like that around about three to 400 milligrams, together with two to three grams of glycine. And that seems to help with circadian rhythm, realignment. Other than that, I would say, combine that with behavioral interventions. Anything, as I said, that helps distract the mind, together with getting the physiology straight with those two supplements is probably not a bad first step. Thank you.

4:55Amazing. By the way, when you go home and you receive your transcript of the entire summit, your rag, and you put it into your favorite LLM, and you say, summarize what what Matt said I should do for sleep. You'll get an answer. Mm -hmm. Can't wait for that. All right, Larry. Thank you, Peter. This is for Matt. Do you encounter or have you encountered patients that bring up the issue of restless leg syndrome and neuropathy as it interrupts their sleep. Restless sex syndrome, we see that quite frequently. Restless like syndrome for those who want to wear, you usually get sort of this creepy crawly feeling in your legs, you have to massage them.

5:40It's horrific. Some people get it in the triceps too. It is one of the most undiagnosed sleep disorders out there, or at least I should say, misdiagnosed. You can progressively walk up the medication pathway. You typically start with things like gabapentin or pre -gabbalin. and pre -gablins a bit harder because it will typically make you a bit more groggy the next morning. Next level, you can go up to something like a Prima Pixel, which actually helps tamp down some of the dopamine or modulate some of the dopamine circuits. The problem is you've got to be a bit careful because too much can lead you to become reward -sensitive and risk -taking.

6:18So you've got to be really careful with managing the patient. The final step up because you can become resistant to that over time is certain opioid -like medications and of course people are nervous about those but those are the three tiers right now that typically we progress through to try to pharmacologically help with restless legs syndrome. Everybody, I hope you're enjoying this episode. You know earlier this year I was joined on stage at the 2025 Abundance Summit by a rockstar group of entrepreneurs, CEOs, investors, focused on the vision and future for AGI humanoid robotics, longevity, blockchain, basically the next trillion dollar opportunities.

7:00If you weren't at the abundance summit, it's not too late. You can watch the entire abundance summit online by going to exponentialmastery .com. That's exponentialmastery .com. I have no English, no English, I have no English. Thank you, it's for the public. It's not English, it's not English. Africa. And I'm doing very well, I would say, with most of the steps about sleeping, about the connections, but I'm struggling a little bit on this year, maybe with unrest between countries. I would say maybe just to put it simply and light and neutral. It's been a bit hectic, it is last few months, and I wonder how would you help us navigate that it may be during these months, maybe how to be a bit less stressed, what can happen between markets, between conferences.

7:51Stress around your politics. You know, that is such an interesting question. I'm so glad you asked it, because the truth is that we are living in tumultuous times. And there is so much happening that is unnerving, that learning how to move into the eye of the hurricane is absolutely critical for good sleep and for health generally. So how can we put all these problems? There's so much we can't control. There's so much we can't control. And there are two things that we highly recommend. And Matt would love to know what you think. One is no doom scrolling at night. No doom scrolling. Take a time that you stop reading the news.

8:35Trust me. I stopped reading the news period. No, you could not pay me enough to watch the evening news. Or pick up a newspaper with all apologies to the Huffington Post here. Having someone, you know, my neural net, I don't want to train by that. My mom will tell me if there's something going on in the world you need to know about it. Absolutely. But this is key. And also, and all notifications that don't come from people you know, not just you know, you love. Yes. You only want notifications from people you love. You don't want notifications from the Huffington Post or CNN that are called breaking news, but trust me, 99 .9 % are not breaking news.

9:19So that helps you kind of get into the eye of the hurricane. Andrew, great question. Let's go to Bert on Mike 5. Matt, what are you doing when you're traveling across time zones? Peter, you're hopping to Saudi Arabia and two days later you're back. Yes, yes, it's a question. I do ask tips for jet lag adjustment and all of that. So Matt, you've been developing a new product around that, I think. Yeah, so we are actually creating a compound that is going to be designed to protect you against the insufficient sleep that you will face. A lot of companies out there are trying to develop either supplements or drugs that help you sleep more.

10:03In truth, I don't care how much you sleep. I truly don't. What I care about is the consequences of your lack of sleep, not the lack of sleep itself. So we're actually about to, we've just raised around a funding and we are about to start the clinical trial with a new pharmacological suite of compounds that will protect you. But to your question, what can you do now? There is a two -step approach. Things you do during the flight, things you do after the flight, during the flight, it's the following. As soon as you get on the flight, set all clock faces to the time in the new time zone. At that point, act accordingly.

10:41If people in the new time zone are awake, you need to be awake. If they're asleep, you need to try to be asleep. Alcohol and caffeine are not your friends. Try to abstain. The next is try to wake up at least to create 10 to 12 hours of sustained wakefulness. The following day when you arrive, based on the time you expect to go to sleep. In other words, create enough sleepiness to try to override the lack of sleep drive that you will have when you are in the new time zone. The other thing I would say is when you arrive in the new time zone, let's say I fly from SF San Francisco to London, eight hours ahead, I get on the flight at 8 p .m.

11:22I look at my watch, it's not 8 p .m. It's 4 a .m. London's eight hours ahead. I should be asleep. The next thing I'm going to do is be awake when everyone else is asleep and a sleep when everyone else is awake. Finally, if I really need to up on touchdown in London, I will nap for 15 minutes and I will cook myself off. I can't nap after 1 p .m. I can have one coffee strategically. Then every day I'm in the new time zone. First thing I can use caffeine in the morning. I need to get 20 minutes of daylight within the first two hours. Exercise before midday. Eat when everyone else is eating in the new time zone.

11:59Before sleep one hour before that I need to take a hot bath or a shower 45 minutes before three milligrams of melatonin No less lights out mask and I'm gone

12:12Okay amazing One more thing which is do you really need to go to Ah, that's amazing. It's like we need to ask ourselves these questions. God bless you, that's amazing. You know, the idea that we always think, because we're invited to go to that, or go to that, we got to go, no. And if you want to live long and live healthy, say no more. It... That was a great demonstration of knowledge versus wisdom. Ah. I'm knowing the difference between the two amazing amazing. That's why God created zoom Real quick. I've been getting the most unusual compliments lately on my skin Truth is I use a lotion every morning and every night Religiously called one skin was developed by four PhD women who determined a 10 amino acid sequence that is a a syndolytic that kills senile cells in your skin.

13:17And this literally reverses the age of your skin. And I think it's one of the most incredible products. I use it all the time. If you're interested, check out the show notes. I've asked my team to link to it below. All right, let's get back to the episode. Natalie. I love this panel, but I want to ask you, Matt. I am a nutritionist, naturopath. I use cortisol panels for stress. I use in acetal for sleep, great magnesium glycinate, ashwagandha, phosphatil seren. What about using regular melatonin for inflammation, breast cancer, probation every night? Yeah, I think melatonin is, it's got an interesting story with a caveat.

13:55Firstly, most people take too much, the taking 5, 10, 20 milligrams. That's what we call a super physiological dose. The worry there is like testosterone replacement therapy for males. after you've consistently dosed maybe a year, year and a half, the testes will shut down their own natural production and it may never return. The worry is the same with melatonin. The second problem with melatonin. How much would you take? So really you're aiming for between one to three milligrams. I'm really, right? That's right. So that's what we call a normative physiological dose. There was a study published where they looked at 20 different vendors based on what it said on the bottle.

14:31actually what you were swallowing range from 83 % less to 464 % more than what was stated on the bottle. So it's a bit of a wild west. I would say that melatonin is largely inert as a compound for the most part. My worry also is with a pediatric setting. It's now increasingly used. Melatonin is a bioactive hormone. It's critical for gonadal development. They did a study in juvenile male rats, teenage male rats and they dose them with high amounts of melatonin. It's stunted testicular growth and caused testicular atrophy. By going to a parent and teacher association meeting one evening and say stand up on stage, I'd like to start dosing your children with a bioactive hormone.

15:16In fact, I'd like you to dose them with about something that's maybe two or three X, the natural amount. So no sleep age. Right. It will stunt their developmental growth and start doing it every night, who's with me. So that said, I think it's a cluster of people for whom melatonin does work, but largely melatonin does not help with the generation of sleep. It helps with the timing of the sleep. And that's why it's never being really prescribed for insomnia. Amazing. Let's go to Jason on Zoom. Jason. I'd love to get your take on Modaphanil. I take it a few times a week and want to know what kind of negative impact it might have on your sleep.

15:53Great question. Something I use when I go overseas and have to go on stage. Yeah, it's a fantastic question. Medaphine is awake promoting chemical as well, you know. Right now, we haven't necessarily seen long -term studies that have systematically evaluated what taking Medaphine would be in terms of brain or body physiology at weekly doses. Most people I know and that we work with take it strategically only under kind of break -glacing case of emergency conditions four or five times a year. I think right now we don't have any evidence right now that it has market deleterious effects other than its addictive potential.

16:36I would say though that when you fight biology you normally lose. The way you know you've lost is disease and sickness. That would be my only worry in terms of free lunches, typically in biology that are on to any. Love it. Jason. This question is for Matt. So Matt, I haven't gone to sleep before 12pm, probably in the last five years. 12am or 12pm. 12pm. Midnight. Yes, some midnight. I live on aeroplanes, I travel a lot, which has been very disruptive. Something that I've noticed, I ran an experiment on myself to try and understand sleep, because everyone said, how do you survive, how do you get through it?

17:16And it's really to try and understand a bit of an argument from you in terms of the timing is so I found that consistency was more important than the timing. Yes. So that was the first thing. The second thing was obviously darkness. You needed to create the darkness. And then alcohol and sugar were actually the biggest influences. So it didn't matter, you know, if I had that consistent but I spike sugar, messed up my sleep, alcohol messed up my sleep. And then I could have a coffee 30 minutes before bed. So to the coffee metabolism issue, like it doesn't bother me at all. I can sleep straight after that.

17:50And then with the data, measuring it through aura and ultrahumans and glucose monitors, et cetera. The data showed that my stress was low, my heart rate 44 to 45 or 48, let's say on res mode. And even last night, for example, I've traveled from Dubai. So it's a 16 hour flight. Put the friends headset. I thought maybe the data was incorrect from my previous stuff 12 p .m. Sleep 6 a .m. 1 and a half hours deep sleep. So what's going on with me that's different to I don't know what Data says typically. Yeah, I mean, I don't know if there is anything different going on I think these measures of things like stress There are decent first proxy, but they don't go into the cell and they don't go into the organ systems of the body So if I were you I would be doing let's say blood panels and I would really want to know Can I convince myself that the schedule that I've just described comes with Absent deleterious effects on my biology at that point then I would say that's fantastic And you would want to do the within subject design where you are stable and you're sleeping try to find you know four or five for you maybe try to say a two -week period where you're stable, do blood panel work after that two weeks of good solid sleep, use that as your reference, step and repeat when you are in intense travel and ask yourself the hard biological question, do I see any detriment?

19:21If not, then I would say you may be one of those people who has incredible resilience. All I know is based on the data and this is no slight. The number of people who can survive on at least less than seven hours of sleep, without showing any impairment on all of our measures, rounded to a whole number and expressed as a percent of the population is zero. Interesting. I like the biological, I think it's good. How far is something out of that? Yeah, I just, I just don't know where, you know, you mentioned the proxy for stress. I don't think we should minimize the fact that a great proxy is joy.

19:59Like when you wake up in the morning, are you looking forward to your day? Are you experiencing joy in what you are doing? Are you reactive? I mean, my barometers are not just my order ring, trust me, I track all that, but it's also how reactive I am, I do challenges. You know, we all have challenges every day. How am I handling it? Sometimes when I've had a really good night's sleep, I know that I can say, bring it on, I'll handle that. Are you empathetic? Are you creative? All these more intangible measures of our life? I also think you should not forget to be aware of that it's not just the numbers.

20:41It's also how we are experiencing our life. Everybody, I want to take a short break from our episode to talk about a company that's very important to me and could actually save your life or the life of someone that you love. Companies called Fountain Life. And it's a company I started years ago with Tony Robbins and a group of very talented physicians. You know, most of us don't actually know what's going on inside our body. We're all optimists. Until that day, when you have a pain in your side, you go to the physician and they burn into your room and they say, listen, I'm sorry to tell you this, but you have this stage three or four going on.

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23:24Sex and mentioning no particular gender here to pay attention to. Sex as long as it accomplishes orgasm results in about a 70 to 73 % improvement in subjective sleep quality. If you don't have a partner, all is not lost. It turns out that self -simulation can get you about 50 % of the way there. So in terms of sleep credit, some of you that you're making money hand over fist there. Both are. Look, if you're going to play some music, I'm going to... I'm going to go that side. Oh, my God. I would go that side. By the way, for every one hour of sleep that a woman gets in addition to her norm, her interest in being physically intimate with her partner increases by 14%.

24:11Now, the libido drugs out there, things like Valese, they can increase libido by about 24%. But you can get more than 50 % of the way there with just an extra hour of sleep. So yeah, I'm sure, probably if there are any. How long are you guys here today? Are you here through lunch? All day, and almost all night. Okay. Give it up for these guys. They're going to be here. Find them. Let's give it up for Ariana and Matt Walker. If you enjoyed this episode, I'm going to be releasing all of the talks, all the key notes from the Abundance Summit exclusively on exponentialmastory .com. You can get on to band access there.

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