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18:40Courtney Miller:You'd be at the doorway with a blanket. Have a little walkie-talkie. Please, come over. Please. What are you doing? Please, Arasha, come to my room. Oh, okay. All right. Our next story comes from Am I Overreacting? This comes from March 21st, 2026. A package from an adult toy company arrived at my house addressed to another woman. Am I overreacting? Woo-hoo! How does she know it's a sex toy? She broke a federal law. Whoa! That's right. I need an outside perspective because I genuinely can't tell anymore if my instincts are off or if I'm being gaslit into thinking they are. A package arrived at our house recently.

19:26Courtney Miller:Right address, wrong name. A woman I've never heard of. I looked up the return address out of curiosity. It's Adam and Eve, an adult toy company. I brought it to my husband calmly. No accusations, no yelling. Just showed him and asked if he knew anything about it. His response was immediate and defensive. Instead of being confused or trying to figure it out with me, he turned it on me, started questioning me about why something like that would show up here. I was so caught off guard, I almost started apologizing. What? Here's where it gets harder to dismiss as coincidence. I looked at the name on the package.

20:03Courtney Miller:She works in the same professional world as my husband, in the same area he frequents, same field, specific enough that when I saw it, my stomach dropped. He has a history of being dishonest when confronted about things that are hurtful. This isn't the first time I felt like I was being made to feel crazy for asking a reasonable question. So I'm asking strangers on the internet, is this nothing? Is there some totally logical explanation I'm missing? Because from where I'm standing, it feels like a lot of dots connecting in one direction. Am I overreacting? Whoa. Okay, okay. Okay, I'm jumping. I'm already five steps ahead.

20:39I'll wait. Jump. What if guy is like, you know, trying to cheat and girly? This is a hey, girly, but as a package.

20:52Courtney Miller:Oh. The hey, girly message. Oh. You're saying that the woman that he's cheating on, or cheating with. That we think he is. Yeah, that is maybe having an affair with. Sent that package. She sent that package. Find my name. Find me. That's what she did with Adam and Eve. Like if she didn't know he was married, she found out he was married and was like, oh. I'm gonna send some shit to the house. Yes, yes, yes. That's so it. That's so it. That's a very, very, out of all the horrible scenarios that this could be, that's probably one of the more positive ones. The best case scenario is that this is just somehow a complete mistake.

21:23Courtney Miller:But it's the right address. So it's not like a neighbor, right? It's not like you go to your neighbor's house and you're like, hey. Right. And he being defensive. Oh, the defensive is the worst part of this, right? Yeah, that's it. Everything about it is one thing. It's the defensive thing. Yeah. And I also just want to flag, I hated the sentence of he's been dishonest with things like this before. Whenever OP writes something like that, it's like, okay, he has a history of being the worst boyfriend in the world. But you guys, he's hot, right. It's like, well, we're gonna lean on the side of this is probably a pattern, and this is the day that we're calling it out.

22:02Courtney Miller:Right. I was hoping that it's like, oh, like, you know, everybody accidentally sends a thing to their old address when it's, especially like a website like that, you're not ordering from often, because stuff, you know, it'd be lasting. It'd be lasting. If it's good quality product. Then all you need is a good wash. Lashes more. Yeah. A good wash. A good wash. So, you know, when you're like, okay, six months later or however you've moved, that's one of those random websites where you forgot to change the website or the address. Yeah. And then she, like, this is possible that it's a coincidence, but it's also possible it's a coincidence and he's being unfaithful regardless of what it's with the coincidence or not.

22:44Yeah.

22:45Courtney Miller:I don't know. Yeah. Suspicious altogether. The fact that it's a woman who just so happens to work in the same field in the same area as him, it's a crazy coincidence. Yeah. Tis. But he could be helping the case if he were to just respond with that kind of argument. The immediate defensiveness and turning it on her where she's like, I felt like I needed to apologize. I was like, that's the suspicious thing about all of this. Yeah. Because that is what people who are guilty tend to do sometimes. Totally. And this is a physical thing. It's not like, oh, I saw that you were looking at, I think I saw you looking at a woman for a long time.

23:23Like this is a physical thing that arrived at your house. Yeah. How can that be turned on her? Right. Like how can that be turned on her? Of just like, you know, oh, how could you doubt me? How, like, why would you think that I would possibly cheat on us? Like this is crazy. Why would you bring me this box? And then it makes you feel like, I'm so sorry. I didn't mean to like shuffle that up.

23:40Courtney Miller:And it's a very common thing to get a wrong package sent to your place. Yeah. I feel like there's not a good scenario where he's being defensive. Yeah. Right. But let's see. Yeah. The verdict is not overreacting. Comments, not overreacting. If he immediately gets defensive and has a history of being dishonest, does she work or live in a town he travels to? OP says, it's about 30 to 40 minutes from where we live. So the name on the address works so far away from where they live. So far away? Why would she order a package? To her co-workers. To a person who works in the same field as her. Oh, I see.

24:19Not even co-workers.

24:21Courtney Miller:Just same field, but it's a very specific field. Yeah. Someone said, the defensiveness is the real issue. If this happened to me and I showed it to my husband, he'd be having quite a laugh. And unless you were like some kind of super religious prude who thought these were like the devil's toys or something, I think most people would react that way. Opie said, I'm no prude. I'm no prude. Harriet Queen? Okay. Harriet Queen. Harriet. Someone said, you're not overreacting. You're a cheating moron of a husband, ordered adult items for him and his girlfriend, and auto-filled his own address. Mail them to her and say, these were delivered to mine and my husband's home and see what happens after that.

24:58Courtney Miller:OP said, I like your thought. Maybe I take it to her work and give it to her. I am considering sending her an email. Due to her field, the info is public. I'm pissed at him for his choices. I don't know what she knows or what he told her. I don't want to ruin her life, but I want to know how long it's been going on. Oof. Yeah, to be clear. Don't show up to a workplace. Yeah, don't put this on her. That is an HR issue. If you have to show, like, don't make this, don't bring this personal issue to her workplace. We don't know how involved she is or if she's aware. Put the blame on the husband, right?

25:28Courtney Miller:Like, put the pressure there. Yeah, yeah, definitely. I mean, I feel like maybe I'm coming at it, too, from, like, a communicative standpoint. but I feel like maybe I would try to give the information that she found about the woman being in the same field and bring that back to the husband first too. Like I think the email is more productive too to like try to get that line of communication started. But also just like, I don't know, I guess I'm also just thinking about it in my standpoint of like if I were to bring something up like this, the natural reaction would be like, let's have a conversation about how this possibly could have happened and just see how he treats that information.

26:04Like does he also try to like tangle that up and make it something that doesn't make sense? Or is he like shocked by that? And you know, I don't know. It's like the whole like sleuth of it all, it feels like it's a little scary.

26:16Courtney Miller:Because I mean, at the start we were like, oh, is she being a girl's girl, this other woman? And trying to like throw her a hint, like, could she reach out to her? And it's like, hey, what's going on here to get some clarity? Because I don't know if she's going to get the truth out of her husband, who is famously dishonest. Right. So if you're writing a post and you're going, yeah, my partner who is dishonest with me all the time, then I'm like, that is a little bit of me being a Redditor where I'm like, why are you with this person? Like, that you cannot trust? The writing's on the wall. It is.

26:47Courtney Miller:Update. Yeah! Yeah! What do we think? Do we think that this is all a big misunderstanding or do we think he's cheating on it? I mean like my heart wants to be like it's a misunderstanding. Totally. You know? And like the sex toys were for him. And that's his alias. Yeah. What if it was his drag name? You know, we don't know. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. That's what we're going with is he's in drag. I'm scared. All right. As it turns out, I put two and two together and I was wrong. I had a burner email and reached out to her. I had receipts, metaphorically. She emailed me back. She's been staying at her mother's house down the street and fat fingered the address.

27:31Courtney Miller:It was one number off. The package was for her and her husband who are reconciling. I had essentially asked an innocent woman if she was sleeping with my husband via a carefully crafted email from a secret account while she was out here just trying to spice things up with her spouse. She apologized. I told her it wasn't necessary and I apologized. I invited her for coffee because I clearly have no survival instincts. My husband was defensive because that's just who he is, which is its own fun problem. So am I overreacting? Technically, yes. But also our marriage needs work. So maybe a stranger's typo was the universe's way of handing me a wake-up call wrapped in a very awkward package.

28:13Courtney Miller:Literally. Wow. Okay. But here's the thing. There is a lesson that she needs to learn. Stop blaming yourself for all these things that are happening at you. You, girly, you know not to be apologizing to this other woman. Like, I messaged an innocent girl. You're an innocent girl. You're also an innocent girl. Yeah, yeah. We're all innocent girls. Yes, yes. Okay? Yes, say it, Shane. I'm an innocent girl. Yes. We are all innocent girls. We are all innocent girls. Like, I feel bad that this person is so used to going, ah, dang it, I can't believe I did that. No, you were so reasonable for it. No need to apologize, you know.

28:52and when you have a defensive partner who just is defensive as a treat, what? Yes, yes, you're so right. Like truly let us validate this person and that like anybody, if that pattern had lined up, would be like, what is going on? Like this is a crazy situation. And she didn't like bring it to him being like, this is over or anything like that. She was like, do you have an explanation? Like she opened up a conversation, you did the right thing. And then also again, didn't storm into the workplace, just, in her words, sent a carefully crafted email. It is. Like, you handled things right, girly. It is.

29:27You're good.

29:27Courtney Miller:But I'm glad she is acknowledging that there's stuff to work on in her relationship because clearly there is. Can we talk about the fact that someone sent, by accident, sex toys to her place, and she asked them out to coffee. Yeah. It's just like, hey, man, if someone accidentally sent sex toys to my apartment, I'd be like, what's the quickest way I can give this to you? Oh, yeah. And simply not make eye contact. Oh, I'm in a ghillie suit. Throwing it to your porch. What? You guys wouldn't know. What? I'd be like, matcha? I'm boxing in front of me. Are we getting matcha? Matcha? What do you like, the rose?

30:04Courtney Miller:Me and a paraglider dropping it off. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. And me like moving in. Yeah, yeah. She's like, all right, let's hang out. Yeah. Moving on. Okay. Okay. Okay. It's a good one. It's a good one. Nobody's overreacted yet. No. But we've had misunderstandings. Yes. Our next post comes from the subreddit Nanny. I think this is a first. Oh, this is going to get good. Oh. This is going to be so good. This is going to be nuts. No, this is going to be good. I used to be in a Facebook page of babysitters and families and stuff like that, and people would just fully post screenshots of the obscene things that families would ask.

30:44I can't wait for this.

30:46Courtney Miller:Oh, God. No, I don't nanny anymore, but I used to nanny. So you nannied as well then. I nannied. It's so fun. I loved a nanny. I nannied these two sisters and my favorite part was every morning I'd go help them pick out their outfits and then drive them to school. Oh. I used to nanny like a little baby too and my favorite thing like in the mornings is you would like walk in the crib and you go, good morning.

31:08Courtney Miller:You're sobbing.

31:12Okay, I'm not overreacting. All right, ready?

31:16Courtney Miller:Okay. Let's do it, nanny. Nanny! This was posted in October of 2025. Am I overreacting about my nanny family having sex during the day? Okay. Okay, nanny fanny. They're making more work for her. Yeah. Which is great. Creating job stability. Hey, we're working here. Yeah. Hi, everyone. I'm a full-time nanny for a stay-at-home mom with an eight-month-old baby. The baby is honestly perfect. So sweet and happy. Nap's great. I've been with the family for about seven months now. The mom and dad are both amazing employers. They're super nice to me. The mom gets me Starbucks and acai bowls, even makes me lunch sometimes.

32:03Courtney Miller:I make$32 an hour with great benefits in a MCOL, medium cost of living area. So overall, this is a dream job. Here's my only issue. I'm pretty sure the parents are having sex during the dad's lunch break, maybe every day or every other day. They go to their room, and I never see anything inappropriate, but sometimes I hear what I think might be the bed moving. It's not loud or anything, just enough to make me realize what's going on. Afterward, her hair is messy, clothes change, that kind of thing. Today, I asked the mom what she was up to when she came out of the room, and she didn't really say much.

32:40Courtney Miller:I kind of jokingly said, oh, were you napping? and she got a little red and awkward. That pretty much confirmed it for me. I know they're married adults and it's their house, but it still makes me a little uncomfortable since I'm there taking care of their baby. They're not being disrespectful or obvious, but it just feels weird. Would it be totally out of line to ask them not to do that while I'm working? Or am I overreacting and should just let it go? They really are such a great family and I don't want to make things awkward if this is just me being overly sensitive. What would you do? Whoa.

33:12That's tough. Yes. To go back. Yep.

33:15Courtney Miller:She's saying, I think they're having sex. They go to the room. I don't hear much. I think I hear the bed moving. I think. And then when they come out, she's maybe changed clothes. It's just whatever. And so she's thinking this is happening and she's uncomfortable with the thought of them having sex. Yeah. It's almost like her own hypervigilance has brought her to, well, now she can't unknow it. But she's also paying attention. And like she's really like, and when they're coming out, she's like, what were you up to? Right. It's like, oh, were you napping? Yeah. I'm just kind of like, what? Right, right.

33:48It's like, what do you think they would tell you?

33:51Courtney Miller:She does not have confirmation of what's happening. Right. And yeah, she's also like, they're a married couple. Totally. They're shutting the door. They're going to another room. Every day. I'm impressed. Or every other day. Good for them. Wow. After a baby too? Seriously. I do think, like, I'm thinking about roommate life. You know what I mean? And how it's like when you got roommates and like life is happening, it's just kind of happening and you don't, you can't really put rules on that kind of stuff when it's like, like you can, and I think since this nanny is like aware that it's happening, but not so much so that it's a problem.

34:26It's just the fact that now she knows that it's her problem. Yeah. Yeah. It's like maybe she just needs to like put some music on and then maybe then they'll be like, wait, does she know? And then it's like this unspoken, okay, we're aware and maybe we need to either be a little more discreet or be more conscious of when. Totally. I don't know.

34:45Courtney Miller:And I don't necessarily fault her for feeling a little weird about it. Yeah. No, that's valid. That's totally valid. For sure. I'm fine. But she's at a place. I'm like, don't push when they come out of the room. Don't be like, what were you doing? Like in the hall. I'm just picturing in the hallway like, this is me. Yeah, yeah. I'm going to go all the way over here. Yeah, yeah. what were you doing were you napping yeah like actually looking for answers and it's like the parents just even further into the dark what were you doing listen bouncing up and down I think it's also we just like to jump on the bed yeah we're just feng shui I can only assume to I mean I feel like in order to afford $32 an hour.

35:33Courtney Miller:This nanny's a full-time nanny, has been there for months, getting paid$32 an hour. I can only assume this is a bigger house. A full-time nanny, is she living there? I don't think she's living there. Yeah, she would have said live-in, I think. I'm a full-time nanny. I don't think she's a live-in nanny, but I think she's a full-time nanny. So this has got to be a nice house. Yeah, truly. I'm also trying to picture, because I'm picturing, I'm like, this is at least a house. I'm like, how close proximity is all of this? also. Yeah. There's a few layers, but I mean, ultimately, I'm just like, you're getting paid$32 an hour.

36:06Courtney Miller:There is a degree to which I would be like, yes. There is a line that can be crossed here. Yeah, I think that's definitely just how you view it. Totally. How you look at it. It's like, depending on where you stand in it, if you're in more conservative and you're like, oh, it kind of gives clutching my pearls a little bit how this is written. Totally. Where it's like, I don't know, maybe if I was in that situation I'd start to go like oh lunch is gonna be soon I'm gonna like hang out with the baby on the other side of the house so I don't hear it or it's just like get it girl good job yeah get on them that their love is alive and this baby hasn't slowed things down like yeah just kind of now you know when it happens and you can just go hang out with the baby in the backyard yeah yeah like the way I think about it too right is like with these nanny situations it's so often now that we have work from home that so many parents are just staying home but somebody is still coming to specifically take care of the child.

36:59And when that's the case, the parents are allowed to do whatever. So like if they were taking like a work meeting, you wouldn't jump in there and be like, hey, you can't be doing that right now. What are you doing? What are you doing?

37:11Courtney Miller:Like napping. Are you working? Yeah. It's like they kind of have this ability to just like be around. You're getting paid to specifically watch the kid and the parents are free to do whatever in their own house. Yeah. Yeah, they're shutting the door. She's not hearing a lot. Just the bed moving. If she wants, I don't know if they got a stroller situation. Maybe she just goes for a nice little stroll. One time. Totally. Yeah. Yeah. It's been seven months working with them. And I don't know how recent it is. I'm assuming this can't have been for that long. Yeah. Let's see. So the verdict is overreacting.

37:49Okay. Good.

37:50Courtney Miller:I think overwhelmingly so. Comments, you are way out of line confronting the mom boss. because you suspect the married adults may have taken advantage of what they expected to be private time to do private things. Really, OP, the kids are napping. Instead of taking a break or focusing on cleaning up or preparing for nanny kids' activities, you are being creepy, eavesdropping, listening for bed creaks, generating offense that they might have, probably did, enjoy a private, intimate, mutual activity in the most private space in their private home. You're the problem, the whole problem. Someone said, oh girl, LMAO.

38:25Courtney Miller:At$32 an hour, I would just put on headphones while baby naps and mind my business. Personally, I would let it go. Maybe that's the reason you're paid so well in the first place. Let mama lay it down on him so you can make$64 an hour. Hey. Someone said, you are overreacting. I don't think you should make comments to them about what they are doing behind closed doors. I personally feel you should not ask them not to do that. You're overstepping and making it an issue. You said they aren't loud nor making it obvious. Adults do adult things. OP said in response. Uh-oh. But I'm working. You don't think it's disrespectful to f**k while someone's taking care of your kids under your roof?

39:04Courtney Miller:It's making me uncomfortable. They both go into the bedroom and come out with messy hair and smiley faces. It makes me feel weird. Okay. I don't know what to tell OP. Ooh, that they're happy and blissful and happy. Right. I think it goes back to what you were saying is like it's how you're viewing this. If you're kind of treating it like he, he, he, or like, oh my God, sex? I don't know what to say because I'm like, I understand if people are like, oh, what boundary of yours are they crossing? What are they doing to you? It's like they're not doing anything to her. Right. They're going to another place.

39:39Courtney Miller:They're closing the door. You're not hearing anything and then you're upset that they're coming out with a different vibe. I'm like, that's not really a problem. Right. I guess I'm trying to understand her perspective and like, okay, We talked about roommates. We've talked about neighbors. Yep. Now let's talk about the workplace, you know. And like how you'd be weirded out if your coworker in their office was like watching adult content. Sure. During the work day. Okay. So that would feel like if you caught them or even saw them, they would like report to HR and be like, hey, this is making me uncomfortable.

40:16role so but it's it's purely that she was so like checking in and is suspicious of this really seeking it out and like it's a really great job she'd maybe like because i'm i'm trying to understand like the the like the parallels of like how this could feel like sexual harassment for some reason but it's not like but it really feels like they need her now more than ever like Like they're trying to maintain a household, a marriage. And like what does she want them to be doing all day while she's working? Does she want them to also be working the whole day?

40:52Courtney Miller:Because if she's a full-time nanny, when she's done working, she leaves there now in charge of the kids. Right. They're probably not. This might actually be the only time where they're not worried about the kid and they get this. Yeah. And they're together. It is. I can't relate too much to this because I've only worked in shared workspaces like this, which is a very different beast than like this, you're working in a private home. Yeah. Like, I don't know. That's, it's a little different. And so much of this is not, I am hearing this. I am seeing this. It's, I think you guys are doing this. Right, yeah.

41:24Courtney Miller:And I'm uncomfortable by the idea of it. And it's like, I don't know what to tell you, man. But it's like, but if you're. Has she ever had roommates? But if you're also uncomfortable, then like, what are you seeking from getting your answers? Yeah. Why are you going to the door being like, what were you up to in there? I know, like you're pushing it. Hearing from them, oh, we were having sex. Would that make you more comfortable? Yeah. No, because she wants to ask them to stop at that point. And it's like, do you understand the impact you have on other people when you like are trying to police their lives like that?

41:56Right. Yeah. No, it's so true. Like that's probably the only time where they feel like they can have that time. Yeah.

42:01Courtney Miller:Yeah, it's interesting. It is. We have an update. Oh! Update, Thunder. Update, update, update. We're being fed. Yes, we are. We are fed. As we're reading this, apparently it is thundering and lightninging outside. Yeah. So cool. I'm sad I'm not outside. The power going to go out again? Should we continue from outside? Cut to us outside. Just we somehow bring the whole set out there too. Yeah, yeah. We know OP is going to push more. I can't wait. I can't wait. OP's got to push more. And I hope they push more to each other. All right. Okay. That Friday morning, I told my mom boss I wanted to talk during the baby's nap.

42:44Courtney Miller:And she said, okay. I brought up how uncomfortable I felt about what I thought was going on and mentioned how I could sometimes hear or notice things that made me think they were having sex while I was there. I told her it made me uncomfortable, and that's when everything went downhill. She was very direct with me. She said my only job was to take care of the baby, not to worry about what she and her husband were doing. She told me if I had downtime, I could watch TV or read a book. I told her it just seemed weird that she'd come out with messy hair or different clothes. What is with the hair being a mess?

43:18Messy hair. Messy, messy hair. Like, just get her a hairbrush.

43:22Courtney Miller:Jesus. And she explained that sometimes they do workout videos in their room. Sometimes it's sex, sometimes cuddling, and sometimes she's just napping. She said whatever happens in her bedroom is none of my business. Period! After that, things got really quiet. She wasn't mean, but I could tell she was uncomfortable and hurt. Then she told me I could go home for the day, and I just knew that meant I was done. Later, she texted saying they were going to move in another direction, and that was it. I feel horrible. I know I crossed a boundary, and I regret bringing it up so much. I miss them terribly.

43:56Courtney Miller:The money was amazing. My mom boss was so kind, and their baby was absolutely perfect. I really wish I could fix this and somehow get my job back. How do I get my job back? Oh, girl. I'll get my job back. Go to a different Reddit. Enough questions. Different Reddit for that one. This is really a case of like, look, I do sometimes disagree with the majority on Reddit, but you went to Reddit for a response and you got an overwhelming reaction. And it sounds like you didn't take it into consideration at all. Yeah, you actually like doubled down. Yeah, I'm like, what were you coming here for? I'm so proud of the mom boss.

44:29Yes, mom boss. No, mom boss, actually. to send somebody who's already working the job that you're moving in another direction is so tough.

44:37Courtney Miller:Brutal. Because you already have this job. You're working it. And now it's like, and we're going elsewhere. Yeah. I love that she responded being like, sometimes we do workout videos, which I'm like, oh, that makes a lot of sense. Like P90X would sound like that or whatever. Totally. But it's like, and then she's like, and sometimes we'd be f***ing. And sometimes I'd be bouncing up and down on that c***.

45:00Oh, my God. And how does that make you feel? And how does that make you feel? Okay, we're moving in another direction. And I just styled my hair this way. This is how I like my hair. Yeah. The hair has nothing to do with it. I tie my hair back every time. That's just how my hair is. Yeah.

45:14Courtney Miller:Sometimes I have a crazy nap. That's crazy. Yeah, and I don't think there's any coming back from that. No. Because it's so uncomfortable, right? You shattered a wall. That cannot be fixed. I think you guys brought it up earlier, and I think it's true that it's like, oh, if something's happening, you're like, oh, I'm a little uncomfortable by this. It's like, what's the most subtle way? Like, oh, you turn on a little bit of music. Like, some way that it's just like, oh, I know about it, but I'm not saying that I know about it. Yeah. Or just freaking change your perspective on it, guys. We've heard stories of worse things.

45:46Oh, my God. Where it's like, oh, there's a world where there's a couple doing crazy loud activities.

45:52Courtney Miller:Also, I would guess that nine out of ten times on subreddits about nannies that the mom boss is the bad person. This is just one of the rare occasions where I'm like, I'm not on the nanny side as much. But nannies get treated awfully so often. The boundaries can feel rough, yeah. It sucks too because it sounds like she really does realize all of that now. It sounds like after the fact she's like, well, I shouldn't have brought it up and I shouldn't have done this. which is, of course, frustrating because everybody told her not to. But she's now broken the seal where they can't have her there because they're like, well, she now is thinking.

46:32Courtney Miller:She's paying so much attention. She's caring about how my hair looks when I come out of the bedroom. Like you should be using that energy toward the kid that we have hired you to care about. Yeah. No, like what did she think was going to happen? What did she think was going to happen that the mom was going to go, oh, sorry, okay, we won't anymore. She reminds me of Jesse Plemons' character from Game Night. We're just like, what are you guys doing in there? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Oh, yeah. Just like creating your own problems, not solving anything. Perceiving a little too much. Rough. Update number two.

47:05Whoa. She's back. She got the job again.

47:08Courtney Miller:Let's see if she, do we think she got the job again? No, f***ing way. Okay. I sent a text message to my mom boss on Sunday morning, and she responded this morning saying she forgives me and that she hopes I take this as a learning experience, but they will not hire me back. I love Mom Boss. Mom Boss is indeed capital M, capital B. I want to hear about Pop Boss. She continues, I miss her so much. She said she talked to her husband about everything and they decided to give me a month's pay until I find a new job. I honestly didn't expect that. It was really kind of them even after everything that happened.

47:41Courtney Miller:I miss my unicorn family so much. I was completely in the wrong and I take full responsibility for that. I know I hurt people who trusted me and that's something I have to live with and learn from I will not be filing any sexual harassment report the people who are telling me to do that were not giving me good advice and I will be keeping my distance from them from now on I miss my nanny baby so much I can't believe I won't be going back it breaks my heart because they were such a big part of my life I keep replaying everything in my head and wondering if there's anything I could say or do to make things right I know trust once broken is hard to fix but I wish I could show them how much I've grown and how truly sorry I am.

48:18Courtney Miller:I'm trying to find a new job now, and honestly, everyone's been so rude. It's really been hard. I can't believe my old employers still paid me$5 ,200 after letting me go. That was so generous of them. I really didn't deserve it after everything that happened. To be honest, maybe part of the problem was that I was a little jealous of her. I knew it. I knew it. I was about to say that. Uh-oh. I knew it. Show us pop boss. We need to see the boss. I need to see the bosses. I knew it. I knew it. I knew it. Her hair is messy because he's a sexy man that's messing it up. I need it. I feel like, I don't know how old OP is, but they give like this situation, like how the rest of their, the frontal lobe of their brain, they went, oh, and then she like realized all of the consequences and all the things.

49:04Courtney Miller:She had her Grinch moment, but it was with her brain. Yeah, like, oh my God. The consequences of my actions. I knew it. Jealous? See, I'm telling you, man, I do think, okay, this is going to sound a little, I don't know if it'll sound crazy. I think Reddit can be a good place for advice, but you need, it's anonymous, so you need to be so honest about all the aspects you think are going on. If she had written that in the initial post, it would have added so much more of just like, and yeah, I'm a little jealous of this person. It's like, all right, now we can all work a little bit more. to not have sex with anybody.

49:44Courtney Miller:The amount of times the update, OP is like, all right, so here's actually what's going on. I'm just like, God damn. Seriously. You can hear so much regret in that update. I feel really bad for them because they really are like, I think I really like a moment of ego and like, that just totally clouded her. Like, I wish she could have just Doctor Strange of what could have happened and just chosen not to burp the bubble. Yeah. And look, And here's the thing. Here's the thing. I do think it shows like what this mom boss is doing is so important for people to do of like, hey, man, don't. Sometimes it is important to like bring the fucking hammer down on people when they cross a boundary.

50:24Courtney Miller:Yeah. So that they have to like learn. Because now this is huge for OP. Totally. I hope OP finds a job. Me too. Because it sounds like they needed a wake up call to be like, okay, I need to respect people. I need to like tune in with myself a little bit more. Yes. Yes. It's so huge. They will be a better person for this. Yeah. and they're being accountable which is awesome like that that's just always like the best case scenario is you hear somebody doing something that you're like oh and then they come around i also want to say too it sounds like maybe what was going on because of the jealousy thing maybe they knew what they wanted to do which was try to make it stop so despite there being an overwhelming amount of comments telling them don't do it don't do it they probably were weeding out the ones that were like you're right girl because they were like oh it was the sexual harassment once.

51:10Courtney Miller:The verdict was so overwhelming. Now they continue on. They go, to be honest, maybe part of the problem was that I was a little jealous of her. She's a stay-at-home mom, beautiful, only 28, rich, has a gorgeous home, and she and her husband are truly happy. She's such a good mom, and it just felt like she had this perfect life, her dream life, and I'm the same age, and I think that made me feel small in ways I didn't even realize at the time. I hate admitting that, but it's true. Now I just feel so lost. I miss them so much. I keep wishing I could go back and do things differently. I know I can't, but I still hope one day I can find a family even half as good as them.

51:45Courtney Miller:I don't know if I should try reaching out again down the road or just accept that it's over and move on. Part of me wants to hold on to hope, but part of me knows I need to respect their decision. Any advice on what I can do to maybe get them back or should I just leave it and start fresh? I'm really debating and feeling lost about what the right thing to do is. Learn from my mistakes, guys. Don't leave a good family. Let everything go. don't let jealousy or pride get in the way of something real. Some things just aren't worth losing the people who truly care about you. Appreciate what you have before it's gone.

52:15Courtney Miller:Okay, so she's 28 and the mom is 28. Not that it matters. For some reason, I picture nannies. I guess I picture any age, right? But I think I was picturing OP being younger than the mom. Me too. For some reason, I was. Yeah, like 16. I didn't have that. but it kind of adds another layer to like when this 28 year old walks out of a room and another 28 year old's like, what were you doing in there? I'm just like, I thought I was picturing like a 22 year old and like a 30 year old mom and the 22 year old's just like young and still just like feeling weird about things. But now we know it's a 28 year old who's jealous of the 28 year old.

52:54Which is precisely the reason that you should not reach back out. There are feelings associated. So even though it was a perfect situation, which by the way, shout out to that family for being so wonderful. Paying her after the fact too, like forgiving her, all of that stuff is just showing green flags for this family. So she is right. She did leave a perfect situation, but she should.

53:18Courtney Miller:And I think OP is learning a lot, but I don't like that they're like, how can I get them back? Is there any advice? I'm just like, no, this is, stop. But it sucks. It sucks. It is so awful when you mess up a good thing and you have to let it go. You have to go, okay, I did this. I have learned from it. I'm not the same person anymore, but I can't have that thing back. Yeah, it's like, I don't know how long OP has been nannying, but it's like really assessing your situation and being like, okay, how much worse could this be and how much better could this possibly be? I would be uncomfortable if I could like hear them audibly.

53:54Yeah, well, when you brought up roommates, that's what I was thinking too. Of like, you know, we've always, we've all heard like a roommate and their partner doing it in another room. and it's like, you're gonna hear some bumping. You're gonna hear some yabbles.

54:04Courtney Miller:See, what she could also done is when they come out, she could have just been like, Nice. Sick, dude. Like, get it, girl. Okay. All right. How was it? Who came first? Yeah. She lights cigarettes for them. You guys need these? Yeah. Two cigarettes. Some towels. And they're like, where's the baby? Oh, shit. The baby. The baby's already lit up. She looks over at the dog door. She's like, oh. Yeah, she had every opportunity to make this funny and awesome. You could have made this so funny. You could have made this so funny. No, while they're in the bedroom, she messes up her hair and changes clothes.

54:42Because it guys, me too.

54:42Courtney Miller:And they come out and she goes, guys, I had some crazy sex. Guys, Adam and Eve package came in. That's so good. All right. Yeah, but she f***ed it up. Our next story comes from Amory Overreacting. This was posted in, oh, April of 2026. Oh, that's now. And it is now. Am I overreacting for ending things with my date after he accidentally texted me this? This. Screenshot? Okay. Oh, I love this. Also, I think you're allowed to end a date for whatever reason you want. Yeah. Oh, yeah. I'm bored.

55:21No. Yeah, so what I was talking about with my family. I'm bored, I'm bored, I'm bored. Okay.

55:28Courtney Miller:All right. I, a 22-year-old woman, went on a first date with this guy who's 22. I met on Hinge. The date was amazing. He's super attractive, and we had great chemistry. At the end of the night, he dropped me home, and we kissed. Uh-oh. A bit later, after I got home, we were texting, and suddenly things got weird. He sent me a pic of myself, and I was confused. No. Then these texts followed. He sounded like a totally different person, and I was puzzled. Here are the texts. Okay, so he sends a photo of her. No, no. Oh, no. Yes, oh, yes. Oh, no. Oh, no. Oh, no. Oh, no. What could it be? What could it be?

56:08I have literally no idea.

56:11Courtney Miller:He sends the photo of her. Why are you crying? And then he writes, 11 out of 10, bro. Soft skin, big titties, smells good. She's got that mommy aura for real. LMFAO, I unironically jizzed a little when we kissed. LOL. Oh!

56:34I mean like a little bit, like period. A little bit I'd be like, wait, 11 out of 10, big titties? Okay. But mostly that, mostly this. No, 11 out of 10 bro, I'm like aw, it's like soft skin, I'm like aw, and big titties like aw. No, mommy aura is ah.

56:57Courtney Miller:She's got that mommy aura for real. Not mommy. LMFAO, I unironically jizzed a little when we kissed. Ew, no, no, no. Who are you texting that to? His mommy. Clearly he thought he was texting a friend, a bro. And then he sent it to her. I'm a pa. So she writes back, excuse me? And he goes, W-D-Y-M, what do you mean? Question mark, question mark, question mark, question mark. Still don't realize who you're texting. And then he writes, in all caps, holy, I can explain this. It's not what you think it is. No, yes, it is. I think it's exactly that. It's exactly that. And then he says, I must begin by offering my most sincere and profound apologies for the profoundly unfortunate and embarrassing incident that occurred earlier this evening.

57:56Courtney Miller:Through an egregious error on my part, I have inadvertently exposed you to a series of private, highly inappropriate, and frankly juvenile remarks that were never meant for your eyes. The fault lies entirely with me, and I take full responsibility for this lapse in judgment and basic etiquette. Please allow me to express how deeply mortified and ashamed I feel at this moment. The content of those messages, while never intended to reach you, was crude, disrespectful, and objectifying in ways that no woman deserves to encounter, particularly following what I had hoped was a pleasant evening spent in your company.

58:29Courtney Miller:Referring to you in such reductive and objectifying terms reflects poorly not only on my manners, but on my character as well. Furthermore, the tone and immaturity... I'm going to jump somewhere far! Furthermore, the tone and immaturity displayed in those texts do not align with the respect I genuinely wish to extend toward you. The line regarding the kiss in particularly was entirely exaggerated. I did not experience it. It was actually awful. Unironically? It was not my intention to make you feel objectified, sexualized, and in an unwelcome manner, or disrespected in any way. Yet the reality is that my careless action has likely done exactly that, and for that I am truly sorry.

59:10Courtney Miller:I want you to know that our date was genuinely enjoyable for me. I was excited, perhaps overly so, and allowed that excitement to manifest in the most inappropriate and childish private outlet imaginable. That does not justify it, but I hope it provides some small context for my lapse. In no way does it excuse the disrespect inherent in those words. I ask you to give me a second chance. That is all I am asking for. Chapter two. No, no, no. I'm just kidding. Oh, my God. I'm kidding. Oh, my God. What? She continues to write, now just in the post. He immediately apologized, but I'm really frustrated and upset.

59:48Courtney Miller:I was really into him and looked forward to our next date, but now I don't want to continue anymore. I just feel like he has no respect for me whatsoever and doesn't even see me as a human being. I cried a little to my friend, and she said I'm being dramatic and that he's just really attracted to me and he's hot, so I shouldn't take it seriously because that's how guys talk. Oh! Not any guys I hang out with! No, no, no, no, no. No, no, no, no. There is a version of that text that he sends to his friend that is fine, I think. Not this. I'm saying like if he'd actually sent her in and he's texting his buddy, he's like, dude, she is so hot.

1:00:23Courtney Miller:Sure, sure, sure. Oh my gosh, she's amazing. It's just the way he was like talking about her. Who was he talking to? What's worse? Probably a friend. Grok. He's talking to Grok. What is worse? His initial text to his buddy or the chat GPT apology that goes on for quite literally pages. I think it's just embarrassing the stark difference in the language. Oh, my God. Who is the real you? Who is the real you? A person you're texting who was your friend who's known you a lot longer that you're talking to like that, or this insane paragraph that just feels like a thesaurus on wheels? Well, and the apology, it's clearly AI because it gives no more details.

1:01:03Courtney Miller:It's just running in a circle over and over again because it has no information to play off. I actually wanted to give a lengthy apology. It could have been like, when we were laughing about this on our date, I remember thinking that you were the, like, whatever. But instead, it's just like, my lapse in judgment actually indicated that you are upset by me. Yeah. Yes. It's like, he couldn't, like, I'm so sorry, like, me and my friends, like, it's an inside joke to just be outrageous. Like, he didn't, yeah, like, you're right about, like, no new info at all. Yeah, bro. Yeah. Ugh. Okay. Stupid, stupid, stupid.

1:01:33That is, oh, verdict was what?

1:01:36Courtney Miller:And nobody sucks here. Not overreacting. Yeah, and also the friend is the asshole in this too. Yeah. For being like, that's just how guys talk, girl. Like, get it. Yes, absolutely. Fucking awful. Goodbye. He's hot, so let him be the worst person ever. No, right. Because I've always said, as long as I've been in the dating world, which was a brief time, but I had a while there, where I cared a lot about seeing how that person acted with their friends. Yes. And with other people that weren't me. because that's where you really learn about that person because it's so common for people to treat their baby different than the rest of the world.

1:02:09Yeah, yeah. And she even described, I think, in the original post that he was texting and it sounded nothing like him. And that's also just such a red flag of he can clearly manipulate his personality to be like, oh, I'm the perfect guy that's going to make you think we have so much in common and all this great chemistry, but then I'm going to go home and actually be myself around my friends. And that was revealed to her. Yeah. Right.

1:02:32Courtney Miller:This is insulting her intelligence so much. Oh, yeah. He objectified her and then he insulted her brain as much as possible. By sending that and thinking she'd fall for it. But I understand her, like, not, I get her kind of being like, is there any hope? Because it's like if it was an amazing date and like the context of like, you know, when you're dating, you're wanting it to be working out. And this guy did work out. But now this weird situation, you're like, I definitely should stop, right? It sucks so much. I feel like first dates, first few dates, you really don't know the person at all. People are putting on a show.

1:03:06Courtney Miller:I can't imagine, too, because I feel like from what I've heard about the dating scene, especially the L.A. dating scene, is like dudes put on such an act, right? And it sucks. Yeah. It's like, what can you do? Because it doesn't take much to just be like, yeah, I love that, too. Yeah. God. Yeah. I agree. And now knowing like the switch between how he spoke and what we can maybe likely assume was a chat GPT of some kind, like all the messages leading up to the date, do we know? Does she know? How, like who she's talking to? Yeah. I mean, it's looking at it, reading this, it's so obviously chat GPT because it is just one massive paragraph.

1:03:50Courtney Miller:And it's literally broken up into paragraphs within the text. And I know people text in all sorts of different ways, but when he texted his friend, it was singular sentence text. Yeah. And then his entire style changes so much. Yeah. No, he's just, you know, he's stupid. You know? He's actually just... Okay. He's stupid. I think I've got it. He's stupid. Because he thinks just a lengthy response is going to be a better apology than him actually just owning up to it. He quickly went to chat GBT or something and was like, I fucked up and I really need help. And it has to just include so many details and show how apologetic I am.

1:04:32Courtney Miller:He went from saying mommy aura for real with an FR to writing, please allow me to express my deeply mortified and ashamed feeling at this moment. It literally felt like we switched to pride and prejudice. Totally. Suddenly. I must begin my profound apology by profoundly apologizing. By profoundly apologizing. Shut up. Shut up, you're stupid. Shout out if you're stupid. Comments. Is that an AI-generated apology? Someone said absolutely. Went from jizzing his shorts to egregious error. Someone said never underestimate the power of post-nut clarity. Someone said not overreacting. Guy here. This is not at all just how guys talk.

1:05:10Courtney Miller:LOL. Some guys, sure. But this is not how me or my friends have ever talked about a woman we were interested in. It is in no way a most guys thing. It's a some young assholes and dudes that never grew out of being a shitbag thing. Someone said, I unironically jizzed when we kissed as opposed to an ironic jizz. How does that work? Yeah, way. Yeah, dude. I don't think he's using unironically correct. Yo, like no joke. I jizzed. No, no. We figured this one out already. He's stupid. Right, right, right, right. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. All right. It's time for our final story. No, nothing more to say about that one.

1:05:45Courtney Miller:Damn. We got it. I wanted an update. We got it. All right. This last post comes from Am I Overreacting? Posted only a few days ago. Am I overreacting? I'm mad that my boyfriend, who's 20, wished me happy birthday 25 minutes late. Okay, 25 minutes late. Does that mean it was the next day? Like midnight? Oh, oh, oh. You're right. You're right. You're right. Uh-oh. Shane's getting sassy. Guys, if you're listening, switch to YouTube. You need to see this. Here we go. So I, 19, overreact about my birthday and it's important to me. I keep posting about my birthday month on my private Instagram. It just has like 15 close people.

1:06:26Courtney Miller:And I think everyone knows my birthday is important to me, including my boyfriend. We've been dating for four to five months. He's sweet and caring. His cousins are visiting from London, so he's been busy with them and that's okay. I don't mind it. But how much time does it take to drop a text saying happy birthday at 12? Okay. 10 people wished me between 12 a.m. to 12.15 a.m., including people I haven't even talked to in months. Most of my closest friends wished me a bit later, by the way, and I don't mind that because they were planning something else. I wasn't even mad in the first place, so even if they hadn't planned something, I wouldn't be mad at them for not wishing me at 12.

1:07:04Courtney Miller:But me and my boyfriend can't meet on my B-Day because of the said cousins. He could have at least dropped a text. Even that was 25 minutes late. Then he called, but I declined. He called again, and I didn't pick up. And that's all I got for my birthday. To be fair, we do plan to meet this weekend, and he asked me what I'd like as a gift and such. But even then, a birthday is a birthday. My boyfriend doesn't take his birthday very seriously, by the way. He doesn't even like to celebrate and gets kind of annoyed if his friends celebrate for him. He texted me twice in the morning too, wishing me a happy birthday, but I had to get ready for my party, so I didn't reply.

1:07:39Courtney Miller:I did call him and talk to him for a while though because my mood was better because I looked pretty. I gotta go. I gotta go. I mean, that's... Sorry, that's relatable. No, totally. Sorry, that's relatable. I looked pretty. No, it's relatable. No, but I felt a little better because I was looking really good. I was looking pretty, so I talked to him. That's real, but... Then all day radio silence. He had sent one meme to me all day. I was out the entire day with my friends, but I had to get back home around 9 to 10 p.m. to celebrate with my family. He knew that. even then no texts asking if I'm home or what I'm doing.

1:08:15Courtney Miller:I think he would have asked that if he wanted to talk. You know what I mean? Especially since I'd definitely be drinking at home with my family when we celebrate. So he could have dropped a text to talk before all that started. Then I was drunk, but I was home in my comfy clothes. So I was texting in this mutual group chat we have. He could see those texts too. Then my friend called me. He wasn't there with me on my B-Day. And we talked while I was drunk. But my boyfriend didn't even bother with a single text. He called me at 1 a.m. I had been home for 3.5 hours at this point, and I answered. I was really mad, and I had sobered up for the most part, too.

1:08:48Courtney Miller:He asked why I'm upset, and I just said, I don't want to talk about it. Then he went to sleep. We were on a call for about 20 minutes with him, just asking me why I'm upset and trying to talk, and I wasn't saying much because I didn't want to ruin my day. In the morning today, I woke up to three reels sent to me. He did ask two to three times over text why I'm upset, but a lot of it is like buttering me up by saying I'm so pretty and all that. I don't know if I'm overreacting about this or not. Some guy friend of mine said he'd order me a cake at midnight when I said my boyfriend hasn't even wished me and that he does it for his friends too.

1:09:21Courtney Miller:It's not that he's doing it because he likes me but to be honest, he does hit on me so I didn't agree to that. I already have three cakes so it's not like I needed it. But then it makes sense too because my other friends got me a cake. Yeah, she's spelling because with a BCS. But it makes sense, too, because my other friends got me a cake and flowers and such to surprise me. And my boyfriend couldn't even drop a single text. Am I overreacting about all this? Broken heart emoji. He wasn't sleeping. He sleeps later than I do. Oh, so still going. He was up till like 3 a.m. He isn't working. He doesn't have a 9 to 5.

1:09:54Courtney Miller:He has generational wealth. That's it. Edit. I think there could be some cultural difference because I posted this in subs in my country and they're telling me to dump him. LOL. Okay. I think people are telling her to dump him to just save us all from the agony. Just save this man. No, save us. I'm surprised to be 19. And for this to be what's going on, you know? Right. You're in high school. Like, you're still, all your memories are back there. Yeah. Like, it is all. And I know that it varies. Yeah. But this 19-year-old, 19 going on 13. I felt like I was watching an episode of Buffy the Vampire Slayer and Cordelia is just going off.

1:10:37Courtney Miller:Modern day Cordelia? Who can't spell? That was a lot. Yeah, I can't, I cannot stand her. I cannot hear that. I cannot. I cannot. I think this is funny though. It's hilarious. It's pretty funny to read. It's funny in the way that like, I want to kill you. Like, I can't believe we're hearing, Like, it's just, it's so angering to hear like, and he can't even drop a single text. After he called her mom. In the same breath we've gotten, and he called me twice, and he texted me at this time. But then he can't even send one text. Like, nothing would have satisfied her unless it was like this huge grand gesture.

1:11:20But even then, she would have been like, but it wasn't right at midnight. And it wasn't here.

1:11:25Courtney Miller:You know, we're talking a lot about her being 19. but I will also say I have heard stories from people I know about their moms going on, like who are single, going on dates, and acting the same way. There's a very real possibility that 30 years from now, she is the same person. Yeah, which again, there's some merit to like whatever is important to you can be important to you. That's totally fine. it's then putting that on other people and expecting them to know that and embrace it and just express it at the highest value. That's what feels so inappropriate. And you've been dating for, she said, four to five months.

1:12:09Like, that's still pretty early in a relationship to expect somebody to just show up, know exactly what they're saying. I'm going to take a wild guess and say that she hasn't expressed how important her birthday is to this person because he's over here like, are you upset? Did I do something wrong? Like, is there something that you want to talk about? And she just doesn't want to say it. Right. That's not helping anybody in this situation if you're going to refuse to talk about your feelings, even if they are a little unreasonable. Yeah, like all the pieces were right in front of her where she's like, some people don't care about their birthdays.

1:12:42It's like, yes. Yeah. Yeah. She's like, but I care about mine. Like, if somebody was texting me at midnight, happy birthday, I'd be like, damn, like, why? Whoa. Why are you obsessed with me? Why are you obsessed with me?

1:12:53Courtney Miller:I will say, I think that was, I remember when I was 19, I felt like it was more common for people to do that. At midnight times, yeah, when you're young and alive. At 30, you're waking up at midnight. I'm like, what the f***? Stop. Dude, the paragraph where she's like, some guy friend of mine said he'd order me a cake at midnight, and I was like, I don't even need that. I already have three cakes. I don't even need any more. I'm like, what is happening? Right, I'm like, I think we lie. My theory is I think she's drunk writing this. She might be. She sounds drunk to me. But sometimes when you're 19 and you're just like, I remember being on Tumblr and just go.

1:13:25Yeah, it's also true. And you're sober as a day. She's just free writing. Yeah, it's the day. This is an exercise.

1:13:30Courtney Miller:Yeah. So, verdict overreacting. You declined his calls at 1225, didn't reply to his morning text, and then complained about radio silence for the rest of the day. You were self-sabotaging. You effectively shut down his attempts to celebrate you and then got mad that he stopped trying to shout into a void. Someone said, you're overreacting. I wouldn't even talk to you after this. It's 12 in the morning and you need everyone to say happy birthday to you immediately and then leave everyone who doesn't on read. You refuse to talk to him for hours over such a minor issue. His feelings are probably hurt and you sound so entitled.

1:14:02Someone said, you're overreacting.

1:14:04Courtney Miller:He didn't wish you a happy birthday late. He wished you a happy birthday 25 minutes into a 24-hour day. I sincerely hope this is rage bait and not actually how you treat your partner. Opie said, wow, this is real. Crying emojis. Wow. I knew people like this when I was 19. Right. And a lot of people are shaking their, or like nodding their heads in here. Yeah. I think a lot of people know someone like this. Totally. At some point in their life. And listen, like you, hopefully the goal is that you get that insight and are suddenly like, oh my gosh, I've been so hollow. Yes. I knew people who were like this, extremely so, who then cut to 10 years later, you would never have guessed they were like that.

1:14:44Courtney Miller:Right? I mean, like people evolve so much. And some people don't at all. And some people get worse. Yeah. And some people go good and then bad. And then bad. It's actually, by the time you're in your 30s, it's crazy. Right. The amount of like fluctuation you will see. Totally. Humans are fallible, but we grow, we change. Yeah, like you said, we evolve. We're gonna be in different versions. So it's like, it's easy for us to critique and be like, oh my God, girl. all but yeah at the same time it's like for me as long as I hear eventually like a a sense of responsibility or like oh my gosh of course like you know what guys I was being entitled for me it's always like great awesome we've moved on you have caught up to date like we're good yeah yeah absolutely I personally have never cared about the happy birthday texts because I'm really bad at them myself I'm so bad at it but if people I'm like if you're in the first hour or even by like 9 a.m.

1:15:41I'm like, wow. Yeah. That's really sweet. Especially if she did communicate that. I think a 30-minute grace is valid.

1:15:48Courtney Miller:I would say 30-minute grace is valid for sure. In the most minimal sense. Okay. Totally. Totally. I could unpack that for days. Yeah. A lot to unpack from today. Yes. Thank you both for joining me. You're welcome. You're welcome. And thank you all for watching. Let us know what your reactions were to these stories in the comments down below. and we will see you next Saturday. Good night. Bye. Bye next Saturday. Bye. Bye.