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13 Nov 2026 · 1h 17m · 30 chapters

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The Interview: Sylvester Stallone Hid His Struggles for Decades. Now He’s Coming Clean.

In short

Sylvester Stallone’s memoir The Steps and his candid account of a painful childhood, the emotional cost of fame, and how rage and grief fueled his work (Rocky, Rambo, and later acting). He also discusses anxiety/panic episodes, regret, parenting, body image and steroid use, and the death of his son Sage in 2012. In a follow-up, he adds that he evolved from being an “avatar for war” in Rambo to becoming personally anti-war.

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Sylvester Stallone (actor/writer; Rocky and Rambo franchises; also Tulsa King; Oscar-nominated for Creed). Interviewer: Lulu Garcia Navarro (NPR journalist; host of The Interview).

Key claims

He coped by “putting memories away in a box” and moving forward; he felt emotionally deprived and “unbreakable” after brutal reform-school confinement; fame made him combative and spiteful; therapy “doesn’t help” because the pain returns; he became bulimic during extreme fitness phases and says steroids were necessary; he regrets hurting people and himself.

Notable examples

birth delivered with forceps causing facial impairment and speech issues; boarding house upbringing with rare parental visits; abusive father (beatings, polo-match humiliation, “shot the cat”); “Snake Pit”/padded cell assault by “Jay Bird”; writing dialogue in a tiny movie-theater room; Rocky casting his father as the bell-ringer; anxiety episodes in crowds and at the mayor’s office; Sage’s death after an undiagnosed heart condition.

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Chapters

1:29

Stallone's Early Life and Challenges

Stallone discusses his difficult childhood and formative experiences.

“Since the movie that started it all, Rocky, came out.”
2:16

The Impact of His Parents

Exploration of Stallone's relationship with his parents and its effects on him.

“maybe in one way, that was the motivation to do something extraordinary as opposed to, you know, just being very languid and, oh, I had a nice relationship growing up, but I have no angst inside of me, that fuel.”
4:28

Living with His Father

Stallone recounts his tumultuous relationship with his father and its effects.

“Did you see yourself back then as having a disability when you were young?”
6:47

The Complexity of Love and Toughness

Stallone reflects on the concepts of love, toughness, and his upbringing.

“It really is, because I was so consumed with not being another bum from the neighborhood.”
9:13

Reflections on Love and Connection

Stallone discusses the lack of affection in his family and its long-term effects.

“I mean, there's something there that is quite painful.”
14:00

Exploring Family Dynamics and Love

Sylvester Stallone reflects on his complicated family relationships and the lack of affection he experienced growing up.

“With all that drama and all that violence, was there any love between you two?”
15:20

Experiences in Reform School

Stallone recounts his chilling experiences in a reform school, including a traumatic incident that shaped his resilience.

“You know, you went to many different schools during this period.”
19:45

Aspirations in Acting and Writing

Stallone discusses his early years in New York City, his obsession with film, and his determination to become an actor.

“So when I got to the city and everything that came after that, I always felt I was unbreakable in that way.”
22:20

The Duality of Emotion and Art

Stallone reflects on the balance between his volatile emotions and his appreciation for art, highlighting how they inform his creativity.

“How did you understand these two sides of yourself?”
24:35

The Journey to Rocky

Stallone shares the challenges he faced in pursuing his role in 'Rocky', his determination to succeed, and the crossroads he encountered.

“Because that is what my father used to say.”
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28:00

Facing the Crossroad

Sylvester Stallone reflects on a pivotal moment in his life and career.

“And I don't know if it was spiritual, but I said, God, man, I know in my heart that I will regret this for the rest of my life, and I will be more of a broken man than if I had never done this in the first place.”
29:10

Family Ties in Rocky

Stallone discusses the complexities of casting his father in Rocky.

“Can I ask you just about this thing that happened during Rocky?”
30:49

Difficult Relationships with Parents

Exploring Stallone's challenging relationship with his mother and her psychic career.

“So then you call her up and you say, hey, this film, I might win an Oscar for it.”
33:18

Anxiety and Personal Struggles

Stallone opens up about his experiences with anxiety throughout his life.

“And that's just the way it was to the day she died.”
35:31

Parenting Without Role Models

Reflecting on Stallone's challenges and learnings in parenthood.

“And then it always seems to happen as you're ready to go on the Today Show.”
37:43

The Impact of Loss

Stallone shares the profound impact of losing his son, Sage.

“I don't have that gear of just abandonment of your own personal self for someone else.”
41:16

From Obscurity to Stardom

Stallone reflects on his sudden rise to fame and its implications.

“And it's not just the film, but you end up capturing the public's imagination because it was this fairy tale story.”
42:00

The Sudden Shift from Obscurity to Fame

Sylvester Stallone reflects on the drastic change in his life from anonymity to stardom.

“at this transition from becoming a struggling actor to suddenly becoming the hottest star in Hollywood because in the book, there is this picture of you, which is very poignant.”
44:18

The Competitive Relationship with Arnold Schwarzenegger

Stallone shares insights about his challenging but ultimately collaborative relationship with Schwarzenegger.

“It made me very, I told you so, revengeful, spiteful.”
47:14

The Complex Relationship with His Body

Stallone discusses how his physique became a source of obsession and its impact on his life.

“You need that thing that brings you to the surface that more than any other person, it's not even hatred.”
50:41

Reflections on Regret and Forgiveness

Stallone opens up about his regrets throughout his career and the journey toward self-forgiveness.

“Because at several points in your career, you were exceptionally muscular, which wasn't your build before Rocky.”
56:00

Forgiveness and Personal Growth

Sylvester Stallone reflects on forgiveness, regret, and personal transformation.

“When you forgive yourself for being a bastard, no.”
57:55

The Evolution of Sylvester Stallone

Stallone discusses his shift from action star to anti-war advocate.

“So the next day I spoke with Sylvester Stallone again.”
59:36

Stallone's Vulnerability and Empathy

Stallone shares his experiences with vulnerability and empathy in storytelling.

“You have the most in-depth interview I'm ever doing.”
1:00:58

Hollywood's Rejection and Resilience

Stallone talks about facing rejection in Hollywood and his resilience.

“They're never, you know, like, I'm just here filling space.”
1:04:28

The Legacy of Rocky Balboa

Stallone reflects on his relationship with the character Rocky Balboa and its impact on his life.

“And I just felt like, God, this is the perfect opportunity now.”
1:10:05

Character Development and Personal Reflection

Sylvester Stallone discusses the evolution of his iconic character and personal introspection about his past roles and their implications.

“But then the character over time turns into this avatar, right?”
1:11:28

The Futility of War

Stallone expresses his changing views on war, reflecting on its costs and the harsh realities faced by soldiers.

“Does Rambo represent a part of like your worldview at that point as well?”
1:13:18

Navigating Hollywood's Political Landscape

Stallone shares insights on his political views and their reception in the Hollywood community, emphasizing the naivete of his early career.

“I know you don't want to talk about politics.”
1:15:26

Reflections on Mortality and Legacy

Stallone discusses aging, legacy, and the urgency of making meaningful connections as he reflects on his life.

“At this point in your career, what keeps bringing you back to the screen?”
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0:00Sometimes that one thing you've been putting off becomes the thing that can change your life. Whether it's earning a master's degree, building leadership skills, or preparing to take your career in a new direction, Southern New Hampshire University can help. With flexible online graduate programs designed for working professionals, SNHU makes it possible to earn your degree while balancing your busy life. So stop putting off your education. Start today at snhu.edu slash NYT. I'm Gilbert Cruz, and this is the Book Review from the New York Times. Today, we are delighted to share an episode from our colleagues over at The Interview.

0:39It's a conversation with Sylvester Stallone. As star of the Rocky and Rambo film franchises, Stallone became one of the biggest movie stars of the 1980s and 90s. The story of how he got there is genuinely fascinating, and he recounts it all in his new memoir, The Steps. Stallone's conversation with Lulu Garcia Navarro is truly one of the most open and vulnerable celebrity interviews I've heard in a very long time now 80 years old he talks about so many things his painful and difficult childhood the physical and emotional toll of being a famous person in the world and he talks about what he's learned over the course of his very long career it's a revealing conversation it's a moving conversation I hope you enjoy it It has been 50 years.

1:31It's hard to believe, I'm sure. Since the movie that started it all, Rocky, came out. You're now 80 years old, which I'm sure is also hard to believe. It is. You know, in reading this memoir, one of the things that struck me is that, you know, some of these memories are quite painful for you. And you wrote in the book that at difficult moments in your life, you told yourself to, quote, put those memories away in a box and avoid them, just move forward. What was it like to go back and revisit some of these things for this book? You know, it was a mixed emotion. There used to be some like, you know, tears, there'd be some laughter, there'd be some anger, bitterness.

2:13And then I thought, you know, maybe in one way, that was the motivation to do something extraordinary as opposed to, you know, just being very languid and, oh, I had a nice relationship growing up, but I have no angst inside of me, that fuel. So I've always been on that cusp, like, you know, the guy punched you in your mouth, but did he do you a favor? Because now you go to the gym and you become a tough guy. You know, those things, I truly believe that the parents are the mold makers. They're sculptors. They don't realize it, but they're sculptors. It's their Rodin's, and they're sculpting their masterpiece or their disaster.

2:57Yeah. I want to start, actually, at the very beginning, because you came into the world, in many ways, how you have inhabited it. Well, you know, with a lot of turmoil, a lot of drama, it was a rough entry. Can you tell me about the day you were born? Well, it was my mother really, she also came from a lot of turmoil. And she really wasn't mother material. And she had grandiose plans for her life. So her pregnancy with me was a big time interruption. And I don't think she wanted to really believe it was happening, even though it was in the ninth month and she was finally on a bus and she goes into labor.

3:43And she said, I want to have it here. It was bad. And then we just happened to be near a medical center, you might call it, like a charity award. It's like there weren't even doctors there. We were just mainly interns and one doctor. And that's my first breath on earth. Yeah. I mean, here in New York City, it was a bus right here. And the people who delivered you used forceps and they partially paralyzed your face, right? Could have been worse. because sometimes you get brain damage from it. Maybe that happened too. I don't know. But it was a terrible thing growing up because I slurred and I mumbled.

4:23It's like 10 times worse than Rocky. It was rough. Did you see yourself back then as having a disability when you were young? Yeah, it was. You're not aware of it. Even if you have a lisp or a stutter, you're so familiar with it. But other people, you know, what? What? Jesus. Say anything. What language is that? Oh, God. You know, in the book, you seem to suggest that both your parents saw your arrival as having ruined their ambitions in some way. You wrote, can you really make people proud who never wanted you in the first place? And when you were very little, you were sent to go live in a boarding house.

5:09I mean, you were very little. Yeah. And your parents only visited you once a month. I've got to say, this is, by modern standards, pretty extreme stuff. And, you know, it's very clear that when you were young, you never got the love, you never got the support that most children need. I mean, how did you understand that as a kid? How did it make you feel? I don't know if there was some preventative thing or some blockage of being kind of completely abandoned or forlorn or whatever. I just was raised by strangers, you know, in a boarding house, and it became sort of a natural environment. And my parents really were never nurturing, so this was actually a bonus compared to where I was living.

6:02I think if you are emotionally deprived when you're younger, you learn to lock things away, which is why I started with that quote about you locking things away. Do you think it made you tough? In the wrong way, it made me very tough. And I literally haven't figured out real, real, real, real true love until like 70. It really was. Because you have different incarnations of love. if you think this is it or this or that, but to really have unequivocally, like, true love that I love for my wife and my kids, I mean, that total abandonment, that reckless love that you would jump into a volcano for them, that came late, and that's a big pity.

6:48It really is, because I was so consumed with not being another bum from the neighborhood. I was very, very competitive, like a pit bull. Like, it's just, that's what got me going. It's not healthy. And I would have conversations with my wife and my brother or anyone at the time about why I was so competitive. It really was. But then again. Made you who you are. Yeah. And you've had quite a life. Your parents had this very hostile and violent marriage in many ways. Very. And they divorced when you were about 11 years old. Is that right? Yeah. 10, 10 and a half, 11. Yeah. I mean, what do you remember about that separation?

7:34And how did they decide to split you and your brother up? It was traumatic. I'm not sure about how my brother reacted, but when she goes, I'm leaving. I won't be living here anymore. And I go, where are you going? Because I'm going to live somewhere else. I'm moving out. I remember holding onto her leg and like being literally dragged. It was like, you know what I mean? Like, hey, mom, come back. And this way you guys were all living together. Yeah, she pulled her leg away, out the door, and that was it. And my brother came home a little bit after that, and there was nobody there. I guess my father took me to the shop or something, so he was abandoned.

8:16And he never got over that, ever. That scene, I'm so sorry, I just want to linger on it, of just you holding. It was rough. I'm telling you, it was one of those things where your legs buckle, you drop down, You grab her around like a leg, try to tackle her. What was going on, do you think? I don't know because she never was a loving person. I know I'm not alone in this, that there's a connection at birth that some people have that's so palpable that no matter what, you cannot break away from this ability or need to have this person's attention. It's like electric and then being deprived and put into the dark.

9:03It's a terrible syndrome. It really is. It's 100 % true. You can never get rid of the connection to your parents. So is that blood thicker than water? I used to say, no, it's just stickier. But it is thicker. I mean, there's something there that is quite painful. It really is. You go to Maryland and you end up living with your dad. He loved horses. He played polo. But what was it like living alone with your dad? Because we've talked a little bit about your mom, but that didn't sound like a great time either. It would be, I guess, these constant bombastic explosions and then total silence. Because if he were talking and then he said, you know, I don't know if I agree with that.

10:01He'd start spinning his fork and suck his teeth and you knew what was coming. The next thing you know, wham, he had very big hands. You just learn to duck a little bit. But there are some times I'll never forget. God, you know, I don't know. It's poor Sly. No. All right. No, I read it. This is what made you. I didn't put a lot of stuff in the book because I didn't want a pity party. But it was insane. For example, it's church. Before we go to church, go to the store, which is a block way by, some bread. Okay. I go down there. I see a couple of my friends. Oh, I got to get back. And I bring home sandwich, sprit, nut bread.

10:46And he kicked me in the stomach and laid me out, got in the car and went to church. I'm there in the street, Thai, this kind of thing, with mayonnaise. It really is. It's unbelievable. It's unbelievable. Did you ever fight back? This is going to sound very, I guess, Greek tragedy kind of thing. Like, when I was, say, 43, 44, and he was 25 years older than me, he goes, yeah, you know, you're doing this, you're doing that. Is there anything left in your life that you'd like to do? I said, I wish you and I could be the same age three minutes. and he goes, well, I said, because I'd like to give you some of your own medicine, and you would know what it'd be like to have your ass kicked.

11:48He goes, takes off his jacket. He goes, don't wait. Let's bring it on right now. This is on Sunset Boulevard. Pull the car over. You don't have to wait. Come on. He was ready to go at, you know, 68 years old. so when people go where do you get the ferocity to play Rambo kinetic

12:18I mean your dad was not only abusive but he was competitive with you oh yeah I mean he often tried to one up you sort of humiliate you you talk about what you've just discussed you know him beating you up in front of church but also So, you know, you became a very good polo player and at a polo match in front of everyone, he dragged you off the horse and beat you up in front of everyone. Why do you think he was that way with you? I don't know. You never asked him? I don't know. You know, you keep what his father was like. His father was a very stoic barber with a mustache. You know, they say like a fly sitting on a ton of cow shit thinks himself a king.

13:07So he was like, yeah, so I'm the king of the street. And so he had this sort of imperiousness. And I think he was cold as hell. So my father was very, very cold and tough. For example, there was a cat just making noise outside the house. He went inside and went out, got the cat, took it into the laundry room, shot it, and left it in the wash tub. Now, I think he did that to impress me, like, holy grail, you'll never be as tough as your old man. And I won't. There is no chance. That's a whole other leak. It's funny, though. You keep on using the word tough. Yeah. And I don't hear tough. I hear messed up.

13:57You know, you're right. Because I'm using tough as a masculine banner for something much more perverse and weird. And dark. Dark. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. With all that drama and all that violence, was there any love between you two? Did you feel any love? Only on his deathbed. That's about it. I never, you know, it's so weird. My mother never, and my brother will attest, hugged me ever, ever. There was never like, oh, hold you to the breast kind of a thing. Kissing, forget it. Like nothing. It was always an air thing. And my father wasn't, well, he wasn't any better at all, but I'll never forget.

14:41We were, I was maybe nine years old. And he would always have me like take care of it. So it was his feet and so it would never ride. his horses. And so we were coming back from the barn. He's driving and I kind of fell asleep. So he put my head on his knee and his hand on my head. I never got over that. That was the epitome. Like I went, wow, that's what it feels like. You know what I mean? It's like, wow. Like, You know, just a simple stroking of your child's hair. But that was it. It was one and done. So much so that you remember it. One and done. You know, you went to many different schools during this period.

15:30I did. And one of the ones that you talk about is for kids that needed discipline. You got sent to sort of reform school, it sounds like. Devereaux. Yeah, and you talk about being put in a psych ward. And I have to tell you that this was one of the most chilling things that I have read. Can you tell me that story and why you included it? You know, as an adult, I saw one floor of the cuckoo's nest. And it looked like a bunch of like kind of eccentric old guys. You know what I mean? No. At this school, there were five different departments for different ages. And in my age, it would be like the teenagers.

16:29If you ever snuck out to see a girl or do something like that, you'd be reprimanded by taking to a place called Park Lodge or the Snake Pit. which on the outside looked like a Tudor-type big old Tudor home from the 20s. And then you walked inside and you now entered the heart of insanity. The smell, the filth, people running around naked and clawing, hands tied, drooling. And this is what they thought would impress you never to break the rules again. And then they marched me, and I mean, they're gone. And this is called the lifers, where these people, there's no going home ever. Everyone had straps.

17:21They'd be tied down at night. The windows were covered with bars or grills. And they took me to a cell. And it was a padded cell. And I'll never forget, it was that high. so you could never get off your knees. And inside, I'd look up right here, and you'd have these elements like dust constantly falling down, and you'd see the real, it's been clawed at and clawed at by the predecessors of this particular dungeon and clawed at. And they left you how long? I was there for a couple weeks. It was wild. But this, to me, was one of the better things that happened, too. I said, I know they're going to try to break me.

18:12I was attacked there. I was trying to rip my groin off. It was bad. What do you mean tried to break your groin? Like they assaulted you? Yeah, they were a guy named Jay Bird. Actually, he was the son of an actor named Lloyd Nolan. And he was put in there. He was big, had no hair, always naked, just rotten teeth. because, you know, I never brush the teeth. And he made sounds. And they called him Jaybird because he's always naked as a Jaybird. And I go into the bathroom on the way to Food Mess Hall, which is really just a bunch of troughs. And I'm there, and he comes in. This fucking smelly bear comes around me.

18:58And he's, like, ripping my throat, and he's going into my pants. And he's grabbing my groin. And I luckily, you know, got around to do this stuff in the face. And then the two guards come in and beat the crap out of him with razor straps. And I go, what the hell's wrong with him? You're in a crazy house, boy. Nothing's wrong with him. He's crazy. You know, that kind of thing. And I went, wow. So let me just get to the point I won't be labored anymore. warm. I felt when I came out of there and I was standing before the school president, I mean the principal, because you learned your lesson. I said, I learned a lot more than that lesson, much better lesson.

19:43You can't break me. You can't break me. So when I got to the city and everything that came after that, I always felt I was unbreakable in that way. My heart could be broke and all that kind of stuff like every human being but i'm talking about will you end up showing up here in new york city um in your 20s yeah and you have dropped out of college at this point you have backpacked around europe and you have no money right and you have a dream though that you want to become an actor and you take a job as an usher at a movie theater yeah and i I have to say this was so interesting because what comes through is what an obsessive you became.

20:34You start writing down dialogue from your favorite films. What were you trying to do there? What was going on? I was trying to learn. I said, you know, I'm non-existent. I put on this monkey suit and people don't even see you. But you're in really a temple of wisdom in cinema. You can see what the audience reacts to, where they laugh, they don't, who gets up, why do they get up. You listen to them talk about the film, and every day was different. And then I started to record it, write it down. And I lived literally in a, it was almost like a cell. It was a very tiny, like maybe eight by nine foot room.

21:10So I'd sit on my bed. That's all we had. And I'd have these old record albums of traffic and blood, sweat, and tears. And that was my desk. and I would just translate notes and notes and notes. And sometimes I go, ooh, what if this is it, Si? You're sitting in the middle of a bed like a fool doing something that sounds so stupid to anyone else. What are you just postponing the inevitable?

21:41Then that fear would come. It's like the thing in the psych ward. I'm not going to be, no, don't go there. Take the fear, swallow it, move on. Yeah, I mean, you had an apartment where there were blacked out windows, where you would write scripts for days on end. I mean, it's just this absolutely kind of manic intensity. And in this period, you were also getting into altercations. You were living rough. But you were also spending your days not only writing, but going to MoMA. All the time. And you had this deep appreciation for art. How did you understand these two sides of yourself? I don't know.

22:24It just seems like if you're open, really open to different experiences, I just go on by this place and I look in there and for some reason I go, wow, the energy of the art. And you look at Le Gé and all these incredible drawings and Monades and Starry Knights. I go, what makes them so special? I could do that. Then I go, no, you can't. look at it closer, look at it closer. And it just started to invigorate me. And then I developed this unbelievable thirst for art, which is to this very day. And I started to paint. And I went there so many times, I didn't even pay anymore. I just knew everybody, like, come on in, get out of the cold.

23:07It's almost as if you're going to the church of the brain. You're the most wisdom in the world. It's right here. And if you were walking around like in a fog, what am I going to do with my life? Go in there. You might find something that will give you a little spark and interest that gets you going in that direction because you're going in that direction. You wrote in the book, at my core, there is this simmering cauldron of emotion that can overflow with volatility, but it can also be directed towards deep artistic purpose. And I was thinking about that, those two sides of you, the I'm going to hit you if you hit me, but I'm also going to go to MoMA and I'm also going to sit there and pray at the Cathedral of Cinema.

23:53I mean, do you think you ever learned how to control that cauldron? It's very, very explosive. I mean, I'll tell you the truth. When sometimes in certain moments, like in cinema, even as an adult, I'm going, like, at the end of First Blood, there's a big nervous breakdown. And it wasn't written that way. You know, I hadn't written it that way, but it came out. I said, this is coming from that cauldron. And it's a self-indignation of being run down, dismissed. That's the way I felt. The worst thing you could say to me, the worst. You call me ugly, call me this, call me short-comer. Don't call me stupid.

24:35Because that is what my father used to say. And literally, it would turn me into a maniac to prove I'm not stupid. And I would just work and work and work. For example, this morning, I'm 80 years old. I'm up at 5 in the morning studying my dialogue that I don't have to do for a month. That kind of thing. You know, it's funny that you mention that scene in Rambo, which is just an iconic scene. I was just watching it again yesterday. Already? Yeah. And nobody would help. Nobody would help me and say, please, I want to go home. I want to go home. He keeps calling my letter. I want to go home, Johnny.

25:17I want to drug my Chevy. I said, well, what? I can't find your fucking legs. You are just filled with rage and grief. Yeah. And it just translates viscerally onto the screen. It wasn't written that way, though. You just were tapping into that cauldron? Yeah. You know, I thought I started, it was, the way it was written is I'm supposed to commit suicide in a very cool manner. I said, no, wait a minute. There's thousands and thousands of men missing parts of their bodies that literally actually thought they were doing something worthwhile. They were following the rules and orders of their country.

26:01Then when they come back, they're looked at as aberrations, Frankensteins, monsters. Then I started to identify that's what I felt like growing up kind of a thing. And this kind of rage that they must feel that it's not their parents, it's their country that is scoring them. They're real parents. The ones that literally lost blood and friends and died for and were mutilated. And you can't say, nice try. Thank you. Nothing. So this kind of, and I really identified with this dismissive attitude that I grew up with all the time. And boy, when I look at that footage, I look distorted. I mean, it was the eyes.

26:46I mean, I was gone. for a few seconds. And lucky enough, sometimes in acting or painting or writing or anything, where you just subliminally lose yourself. You do not know where you are. You know, people say, oh, maybe it happens in sex for two seconds, where you're literally blanked out. What was that? You know, kind of a thing. Well, when you have that moment in acting where, is it over? was it one take or was the one take wow um just to just to come back to this period that you were in your apartment with the blacked out windows and you're trying to make it as an actor you get a lot of rejections because of the way you look right and you write rocky for yourself um and the studios are very excited for the script and it's well known the story that the studio ended up trying to pay you more and more money not to be in the film.

27:48They wanted James Caan. They wanted Ryan O 'Neill. But they give it to you because you hold out again because you had this sense that this was like your last chance? This was it. I was done. I had less than$100,$106 in the bank. And there was something. And I don't know if it was spiritual, but I said, God, man, I know in my heart that I will regret this for the rest of my life, and I will be more of a broken man than if I had never done this in the first place. And I don't know why I knew, because I had no success. You know, I was green, really green. And they had every right not to want to use me.

28:36If someone came in to me and did the same thing and looked like me and slurred and all that, I'd go, come on, man. you're not acceptable to a lot of different people in this country. But I don't know why. I just knew that this is the crossroad. This is the bridge. And if you don't cross it, man, then jump off it. Because I'm not going to have someone else do it. Because I know I hate myself. I would kill myself. I really wouldn't be emotionally that is. No, I get it. I get it. Can I ask you just about this thing that happened during Rocky? This is your big break. Yeah. You have sacrificed everything for it.

29:19They give you the part. Yeah. You're a nobody. This is, everything's riding on the movie. And you cast your dad as the timekeeper who rings the bell in the climactic boxing match. I mean, this is what the whole movie is going towards. and you bring in someone with whom you've had this incredibly difficult relationship and it turned into a mess. I mean, why did you let him back in? I just want you to love me for a little bit. A little bit. Like, look what I did. Share it with me. I know you thought I was a fool my whole life, but here we are. This is not a joke. and he didn't ring the bell properly and I kept fighting and fighting and fighting.

30:10You know, when everything's choreographed, it's a one, two, three, four, bell. Not six, seven, eight, nine, 10. So Carl Wethers is like, what's going on? Like you're throwing punches and you're trying to ad lib and then it looks really fake. You know what I mean? I could ring the bell. It looks like you ever yell at me. And it became, like I said, oh God, a really bad Italian drama. And of course it ended up in an altercation by the end of the round. You know, it got really nasty. But for a moment, I thought, Jesus, he'd be proud. And later you end up inviting your mom to the Oscars. Yeah. For Rocky.

30:51So then you call her up and you say, hey, this film, I might win an Oscar for it. Who's in it? And she blows you off. Can I ask you about your mom specifically? Because as we've discussed here, she was difficult. This is putting it lightly. You're quite scathing about her in the book. And then in the 1990s, she becomes like a celebrity psychic. I'm Jackie Stallone, psychic astrologer to the stars. I have predicted fame and fortune for movie stars and celebrities all over the world. And I just wondered, to jump a little later into your life and your relationship with your parents, how did you manage the dynamics when, you know, she sees proximity to your fame as a financial opportunity?

31:46I mean, that must have been a hard dynamic to manage. It was very hard. It was very hard because she had been married three more times. And then I saw her posing as a psychic with a turban and rhinestones and this overinflated sense of like buffoonery. Or she would go on Howard Stern and mock my father and call him like terrible things. And then they'd get on the phone and I had my father and mother fighting on Howard Stern. I'm going, what other guy has to go through this? Yeah, this was 1992. They had this horrible on-air argument. But you two produced a movie star. Let's say you guys did produce a movie star.

32:28No help from him. Any guy could have done the job in three seconds. He didn't even want Sylvester. He tried to get me to have an abortion. It's unbelievable. Why would you go on and humiliate yourself? You're humiliating me and my children. Stop. I'll pay you anything to do whatever you want. The finest restaurants, anything. Just live your life and just try to be proud. He goes, why aren't you proud of me? I went, there it is. I'll never forget. And I asked, I said, have you ever done anything wrong? I mean, do you have any regrets? He goes, no. Why? I went, wow. I live on regrets. I can make a castle out of regrets.

33:11I mean, when people say I have no regrets, I go, bullshit. Come on. Really? You're that perfect? Everything was just right. And that's just the way it was to the day she died. And the last effort at the Oscars, I thought, 10 months earlier, I was basically homeless. Now we're with incredible competition, and you don't want to go. See, here it is. I'll put it in a nutshell. She never wanted to be alone with me, ever. And she didn't go. And she stuck to her guns. And it really hurt me hard. I won't go there anymore. You know, that kind of... But it does affect you. My wife... I know, it's hard to get over it.

33:58It's very nagging. It's a nagging scar that won't fully close. And every now and then it weeps. But again, that's your cross to bear. Maybe that's why you had this certain sort of selective rage. Did you go to therapy later in your life? No. I said it's not going to help. It's just not going to help because it doesn't go away. You cover all this subterfuge and ideology and intellectual this and that and breathing and meditation until that moment late at night. And you're right back. And now you're in an anxiety. Do you ever have anxiety? Oh, yeah. All that anxiety everyone has, it's coming from something that's so deep-rooted.

34:52Tell me about when you first suffered anxiety. It was the first time I did. It was when I was 36. Mm-hmm. And I was watching dailies. And then all of a sudden, I stood up, and the hair on my neck went up. I started getting hot. I go, I'm dying. This is it. I'm on my way out. Heart. Bang down, I went. took a knee, crawled, rolled over, and then now I'm in this dark movie theater. I go, oh, what now? Where the fuck did this come from? And then it happened again and again and again. They went away for five years. And then it always seems to happen as you're ready to go on the Today Show. Like, oh, boom, eight seconds.

35:39And you feel it coming on. Yeah. Anybody got Xanax? It's too late. So you're just sitting there holding his chair going, I feel for it. I mean, it's not a joke. No. You know, anxiety. It's like, no. I think people would find it very heartening that you have experienced that. Oh, my God. Especially as I got older, and it was weird. when I'm in a crowd I'd be with my wife at an art exposition and the room is filling up. It's getting more and more and more. Then I go, I'm going. I'm going down. She goes, let's get out of here. And literally I just make it to the alley. Boom. Get down on one knee.

36:25Did it again and I was at the mayor's office of Philadelphia receiving some award and everyone sort of crowded me in the corner. I said, I have to go. Thank you very much. and I just made it out of there. And I go, hmm, what is that indicative of? It never bothered you before. So there's something still bubbling inside, festering. It's a marvel, for example, that we still have magma and lava four billion years later in the center of the earth. How long does it take to cool an egg? I mean, my God. So the same thing, our emotions are always on the verge of eruptions. Despite having such a, I don't even know the word anymore, upsetting upbringing, you've become a father of five.

37:19Yeah. What did you learn about being a good parent, considering you didn't really at all have role models for that? I really wasn't a very good parent. My wife, Jennifer, is the greatest woman ever before. I mean, seriously, she's just like my guardian angel. I would have been dead like three times, for real. And she just is the most giving. I don't have that gear of just abandonment of your own personal self for someone else. It's really unbelievable. And she raised my daughters that way. In my first marriage, it wasn't like that. And I was in my warrior mode. I was like, oh, let's conquer the world.

38:06You know, this is your moment. And everything fell by the wayside. And it was just a measly manner of existence. It really was. It was reality was the movie set. The surreal world was my life. I have no control out here. I'm at everyone's beck and call. I don't like it. I couldn't wait to work again. Terrible to say that, but it's true.

38:41You suffered an unimaginable loss in 2012 when your eldest son, Sage, died. He had an undiagnosed heart condition that killed him when he was only 36. And I just want to say I'm so sorry. Thank you. I imagine that must have profoundly changed you. Oh. You know, the thing is, you know, you have so many episodes of guilt. Like, what could I have done? Should I have been there if I did that? If I went right, right, left. I had no idea that, I mean, it was stunning. Like, I'll never forget. It was so cold. my mother's new husband. I never met. He was a doctor. I get a phone call Friday the 13th. He goes, Sly, Stephen, he's gone.

39:40He's gone. He goes, Sage, he's gone. I went, gone where? He's died. He's gone. I'm sorry. Click. I said, is this possible? That's how you found him? That's how, yeah, that's how. He's gone. He's gone. Dead, sorry. And it wasn't, you know, because of the funeral. Because of all the, again, you know, dealing with the mother, dealing with your life in the present. And it just takes you into a whole other world. And I'll never forget. I go, wow, I'm holding it together. When's it going to happen? And then, about a week later, I was all alone in my room, and a wail came out of me. I've never heard before or since.

40:38It was just such pain and grief and guilt. And it was just a, it was not human. It really wasn't. But all I can say is that he was a very kind kid. He had a great mother, a nice, you know, he would have done wonderful things in the future. I just had no idea that he had something that you would expect a very advanced adult to have. But no, you don't get over that. No.

41:22I'm sorry.

41:30Back to Rocky. Back to Rocky. It got 10 Oscar nominations. It ended up winning Best Picture.

41:46And it's not just the film, but you end up capturing the public's imagination because it was this fairy tale story. And I'm very interested in you looking back at this transition from becoming a struggling actor to suddenly becoming the hottest star in Hollywood because in the book, there is this picture of you, which is very poignant. And the caption reads, my last day of being anonymous. That's right. And I thought, what an interesting thing to put in a book that you can delineate that moment, you know, where you could walk the streets and no one would know Sylvester Stallone. And then after, that was never going to be the case again.

42:38No. It was a tsunami. The movie started at 12 noon. and at two, people started coming, they saw me and it was a deluge of being completely obscure for 30 years about, just walking through being a non-entity to now being this celebrity and someone who has tapped into their hearts in more than just a movie. Like, hey, that was a great action film. It was like, that's my story, that's this, that's that. I went, oh, my God. And I could hear the applause. Applause in a movie theater? It was like an event. And I'm looking at my brother. He goes, oh, you're in for it now, pal. And it really was just overnight.

43:31It was just overnight. I don't know if it's never happened again, obviously. It's the rarest combination of obscurity to fame in a matter of two hours that's documented. Like, whoa. Did you look at fame as something in the same way as the psych ward? And let me try to explain what I mean, which is, this isn't going to change me? Or did you look at it as, this is everything I'd ever wanted? Hmm.

44:09Well, I don't know if it changed me, but it allowed me. Because fame breaks some people. Well, it didn't break me. What it did is it made me combative. It made me very, I told you so, revengeful, spiteful. And all the rejection and everything else, it was, oh, my God, it was so insufferable. I really was. Even with the New York Times, oh, Madame Boverty, anyone could write that. It was just, I don't know. I mean, Lily was, I became a petulant child. I really did. And years later, I mean, I despised myself. I'm surprised I'm still here. I managed to alienate the entire press. I really did. And people that believed in me and so on, I just was not, I was just not humble.

45:10There was no humility whatsoever. Again, it's just childhood eruptions coming to the surface at the most inopportune times. I want to talk about some of the people you worked with and came across in the 80s. And of course, we're going to start with Arnold Schwarzenegger, who you're now friends with, we should say. But he was a huge action star back then. Mm-hmm. And you've said you couldn't stand to be in the same room. No. I mean, why did you hate him so much? What was it the, what was it the, like, take me back before the friendship. Because he was a challenge. He was, I thought I had something going on, and then I could see this guy, this immovable force, a very confident human being.

45:52I think even more so than me, and more psychological in the way he would manipulate and do things very cunningly. And not in a negative way, but just shrewdly. He's a smart guy. When I was blunt force, he was Machiavellian cool. And I went, God damn it. And he's winning these awards, and he's a bodybuilder, and I consider myself somewhat more of a... A thespian. A thespian, a dramaturge, you know, that kind of thing. A peripatetic dramaturge just wandering the country acting. And I went, wow, this is my guy. this is the guy I know I'm going to have trouble with period and sure enough we did we're just going at each other which turned out to be fantastic and you know I've had some moments with him and I'm regretful for some of the things I've said about him but he antagonized me in a creative way and I did to him I was a thorn in his side he was a thorn in my side but it just forced us to keep moving higher, bigger guns, louder moves, more action, more bodies, everything, until I think we really carved out a niche that'll never quite come around again, that certain 80s, over-the-top action genre that he and I sort of pioneered.

47:13You did. Yeah. It's like a creative marriage in a way. It is. I mean, so it's like Ali and Fraser. You need that thing that brings you to the surface that more than any other person, it's not even hatred. It's this guy, he woke away. I dream about him. It's like I'm on his mind. He's on my mind. It's very rare. You know what I mean? Men get it. I'm sure women get it too, but two alpha men who I can only relate to, it's like you can't wait to go against him that kind of thing and then he does better than you and then he just gloats on it oh i see the stallone's film didn't perform very well oh oh oh you know and then vice versa and then eventually we end up working together in expendables and i go on the campaign trail for him unbelievable when was the moment that you two that you thought we put this to rest?

48:15I mean, did it just come with age and him moving into politics and just sort of? Yeah, yeah, yeah. At first I thought, come on, actors in politics, this is oil and water. You know, because we tend to, actors really very, very self-absorbed and politicians, if they're really good, should be just the opposite, publicly absorbed. So I saw there's a conflict there. but he was definitely sincere about it and I don't know why but he asked me we were at a cigar place, would you like to be at an event and I went, yeah why did I say that? And then sure enough then we hit it off and he's a very, very unique I mean he's one of a kind, forget it So until that moment you really hadn't spent time with him, you didn't know if you even liked him I'm telling you, we always came to blows.

49:12When we were at Planet Hollywood, we couldn't stand to be in the same arena. Right. Because in the early 90s, you founded with Bruce Willis as well, Planet Hollywood. And you couldn't even, you were in business together, but you couldn't stand being in the same room. Oh my God. I'll never forget. There's a picture of he and I dancing. And it was, I think, was it Total Recall or something? And it was at the Hotel Du Cap in the afternoon. It's festive. And everyone's there. Oh, no, take a picture. OK, slide. Take a picture. OK, take a picture together. Director, why don't you come in here and get in the middle?

49:52I went, oh, man. And then I grab him. And like, we're waltzing. And he goes, to me, it's the greatest picture because I said, Let's put this, let's stop. You know what I mean? Let's just do this dance because that's what it is. But it's never going to be, you could do a movie about this, for real. You really could. All right. We don't have much time. That's why I'm going like that. And I'm upset because I have so much to ask you. So I'm going to skip asking you about working with Sandra Bullock and Demolition Man and Sharon Stone and The Specialist. So we're going to move on. Bye, ladies. Yeah, bye, ladies.

50:35Indeed. Sorry. Sorry. Yeah. What I do want to ask you is about your body. Body? Body, yes. Your physique. Now you're getting personal. Because at several points in your career, you were exceptionally muscular, which wasn't your build before Rocky. And I was really curious how your relationship with your body has changed over time. How, you know, you saw yourself and then how when you turned into this big action star with big muscles and everyone was sort of venerating that. How did you see yourself? How did your relationship with that change over time? It became very intimate, you might say. It was my armor.

51:21I looked at like Rocky, Rocky, very smooth, very normal looking guy. And then I said, if we move on, you have to, I think the character would start to become a bit more vain. And then if Rambo, you're playing a warrior, you'd be a little bit more animalistic. You wouldn't be so smooth. So I started to think, design your body like a jaguar, a cat. Not big like Arnold, but more feral. and aggressive and very limber and move and athletic. And then it became an obsession, really bad. It became to the point where I became bulimic. You didn't know that. Okay, you heard it here first. Yeah, because it was like, you know, you would eat.

52:09I got down to 2.6 body fat when I was doing Rocky III in the opening scene. Literally like, go for it. You know, like hollow. and I couldn't hold anything down. Or if I did, I didn't want to keep it down because I became so obsessed at staying at that point of fitness. And then finally, you know, I just broke the cycle. But it got to me. Literally an obsessive body worship kind of a thing. And then, you know, nobody does it without, you know, additives and drugs, period. I don't care who they say. Bullshit. It has to. But then again, it isn't as though you're a junkie. But if you're going to work and try to stay in shape for six months straight, and you're eating yogurt and pudding, it's not happening.

53:01You're just not. So you're taking steroids, you're saying? Oh, my God. You have to. But you do it in a sense, in a way, six weeks on, six weeks off. And people go, oh, you don't get that way naturally. No, you don't. You don't. Unless you're just a freak of nature. So everyone who says it, I can see a mile away, you know, what is obvious. But that also took a terrible toll. Terrible toll. Emotionally, too, because it affects your moods and everything. It wasn't until I did Copland where I had to, like, divest myself of that and play the weakest guy in the room, partially deaf, overweight, everything, that I really felt somewhat liberated.

53:42Then things went sideways. and I don't know, I just fell out of grace with Hollywood. But yeah, the body has played a, but I've abused it. I've had nine back operation, two shoulder operation, three neck fusions, everything. Everything is held together with bailing wire, but I still have that, want to stay in good shape. Do you still see it as your armor? No. No. Because you're still fit. You're 80? I'm sort of fit, but I've got all kinds of, take a lot of pills to keep going, that kind of thing. It's coming at a terrible price. If I could do it over again, I would say, let someone else carry the banner.

54:30Don't do your own stunts. I don't know what it was about just hurting myself all the time. I mean, all the time. Is it masochistic? Yeah, very masochistic. It's not like I'm self-flagellating, but if someone's going to dive onto the canvas and Rocky, they take a hit full force and go backwards and land, thud, because there's no padding. You're like landing on a board with a little thin canvas. It just jars you and jars you, but you go, I can do better, I can do better. And this is all going back to dad and, you know, back there in the polo field. Like, no, you're not going to break me. But it does break.

55:13You do get broken a little bit physically, not mentally. We're going to talk again. But I want to end with something that you said about regret. Yeah. And that you don't get to be your age at your career without a mountain of them. And we've kind of touched on that a little. Yeah. It's horrible. It's horrible. It really is. Because, you know, it's the fog of war, the war of trying to succeed. And you can blame it on that. Or just self-pedi, self-absorption. And you go, wow. And it is painful. But yesterday is dead. The future is unknown. All we've got is today. You keep going back to that philosophy.

56:01And you go, you know, forgive yourself. I go, no. When you forgive yourself for being a bastard, no. You just regret. You know, I wish I hadn't done that, wish I hadn't done that. So I'm not going to do that anymore, but God. Because what you did, you hurt yourself. You really did. Yeah, you denied people your love and this and that. But you also did worse to yourself. Have you forgiven your parents? Hmm.

56:37I've accepted that they are who they are, you know, to forgive. I guess you could say, yeah, I do. I mean, it's definitely a delicate peace treaty. But, yeah, I have to. You know, what is it, walk around yelling at ghosts? Come back here. You know, we're not finished. Oh, we can't. That's about the regrets, you know. So all I can do is cherish every second because, let's face it, you know, I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. There it is. And I'm incredibly fortunate to be doing Tulsa King. And, I mean, it's a gift. And David Glasser, you know, like giving me this new breath of life and a whole new character.

57:28Imagine playing like, oh, yeah, we're doing Rambo. at 80. Oh my God. Who's he fighting? He's fighting Mr. Arthritis. I go, what are you, you're kind of out of, you're out of opponents. You're fighting, oh yeah, brain disease. Okay.

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59:14This one to me is that. It's a very classy piece. It's very sleek. I was just sitting here, you know, kind of thinking while you're speaking. like the 1920s, that's 100 years ago, right? 1929-ish. And that looks effectively the same as the one from 1929. Listen to Reframers from Audemars Piguet now on your favorite podcast platform. See how excited I'm? My voice got a little higher just now. Hi. Hi. Back for more. What is wrong with you? I'll give you my word, though. You have the most in-depth interview I'm ever doing. So take that to the bank. Well, actually, I wanted to thank you so much for your candor yesterday.

59:57You have always been this person who has exuded invincibility. That's been your persona in your life, and that's been your persona in many of your roles. And so it's kind of astonishing to see you be so vulnerable. even though I put on this you know facade of being armor I have an armor like when you see Rocky and I'm writing for Adrian I really have a lot of empathy for people that just didn't get a break in life and I've always thought boy there's so many stories in these people but they're never going to get out. So that's why I think Rocky was such a success, because everyone has that character that very few people get recognition for.

1:00:52You know, they just, you know, they live in quiet suffering. They're never going to get any recognition. They're never, you know, like, I'm just here filling space. I'm just another seat on the bus. Hmm. You know, you've been in so many iconic films, franchises, Rocky, Rambo, The Expendables, now Taylor Sheridan's Tulsa King. You were nominated for another Oscar for Creed in 2016. What's your most underappreciated performance, do you think, that you're most proud of? Copland, for sure. Because I had been basically reduced to a lump of meat, like you're not that smart, you're an action guy. And I've always looked at action, when it's done well, as modern mythology.

1:01:38We don't have scribes running around and carving on stone tablets about the Hercules and so on and so forth. So I decided to delve in that by accident because first blood I never imagined would transition me into more physical life because I wasn't born this physical specimen at all. And it just became so frustrating that things are slowing down. I was 50 years old. It was 1996. 1996, I thought I would like to go into the arena of, you know, the guys, the top athletes, the top actors, and see how we, you know, bounce off of one another. And it became that kind of challenge. There was definitely a dichotomy between the serious actor and that guy, meaning me.

1:02:31And I really welcomed it. I really did. I did the whole thing for free because the experiment was well worth it. You know, in our first conversation, you also talked about how no one would return your calls in Hollywood for a period of years in the late 1990s when things were pretty rough for you there. And this was a period when you had movies that didn't do well. Judge Dredd, Daylight, Get Carter Driven, Detox, Avenging Angelo. And I came across an interview you gave to The New York Times in 1992 just as you were filming Cliffhanger. Cliffhanger. The article quotes one prominent Hollywood agent, and I'm going to quote here, who said, I think he's a diminishing asset.

1:03:10With every film he does, he goes down a little further. He's the new Burt Reynolds. And Cliffhanger then went on to do really well. And it seems like there were these number of moments in your life when Hollywood was trying to write you off and you kept having these comebacks. I mean, how did you deal with this thing of having to keep proving yourself to this industry? Actually, I took it as somewhat invigorating, because now I had a purpose. It's one thing to sit there and be, I guess, slowly, you know, your image is diminishing right before you, you're evaporating. But for some reason, I just I said, this is a call to arms.

1:03:58And what am I going to go back to? I'm going to write another Rocky at 60 years old. And it was just the most ridiculous, like 60-year-old boxer, like a 120-year-old can-can dancer. It just doesn't work, you know? It doesn't work. But I was able to get out the portion of what people go through as they're going into their later years, which is grief, the sense of loss. It had nothing to do with boxing anymore. And I just felt like, God, this is the perfect opportunity now. And, of course, it was rejected everywhere. I mean, I had studio heads actually say, Rocky's done and so are you, Sly. You're done.

1:04:45Just go off fishing. Okay. I get it. And I go through rewrites after rewrites. But I've always had this sense that you have to go down swinging. How do you explain this period of not so great films? I mean, did you know the films were bad at the time? Was it a quality control issue? Yeah, it really was. I mean, I didn't apply myself to the actual quality and who were the components. So even though each project had a great ability to be successful, I don't think I really focused on the fine strokes, which is what art is made about. In other words, the right director, the right this, the right co-star, the right advertising, the right theme song.

1:05:27These are things that I used to really apply myself to. I suppose I just got lazy and started this whirlpool. It makes me wonder what it does to the soul of an artistic person to make movies that aren't good. Oh, boy. It's a death in the family because it's not as though you didn't sell a vacuum cleaner today. It's all over the world. And there is a part of human nature that revels in that. You know what I mean? And again, I don't take it personally. I think that quite often human nature says, okay, he's had enough time. let's bring on the new generation okay move over slide stop hogging the screen so i get it so it's when you reach a certain age in this business it becomes a very very very competitive delicate and tenuous uh career it doesn't take much to boom so that's why i think uh it's it's a very neurotic business at times because the product is you it isn't like oh you rejected my leather jacket no we don't like you but i realized i go you know here you go again you have to do it for yourself you have to like go out there and find the firewood and start the fire no one is going to knock on the door and go here here's an oscar winning script love you no and so it it really did It helped me because, you know, when you finally hit bottom, you have two choices.

1:07:14You can't go any lower and you just eventually stop breathing. And I've always said the artist dies twice. You know, the second death is the easiest one compared to the career death, which is, you know, you're being dismissed. But it just woke me up and I was so invigorated starting to write. So the hardest and the proudest moment by far in my life is Rocky Balboa because nobody wanted it. I was done. When I say done, I mean agent fire me, managers fire. I was done. I go, okay, this sounds very familiar. Let's start over again. Let's see if you can do it in 60. So it was a fantastic, you know, voyage into the unknown.

1:08:02Literally, I said, this sounds very familiar. When you were 29 years old, same thing. Like, this is it. You know, listening to you talk about this, can you articulate your relationship then to the character Rocky Balboa? Because that character has saved your career, launched your career. you are defined by it in many ways America is defined by it. Rocky is kind of like my imaginary male role model. It's my father. It's what I wish I could be. So when I created him, I put every component in there, this self-effacement, this kind of humbleness, the ability to also take loss. How he's very philosophical about life is very difficult.

1:09:00And so I adapted that, and it always came to the rescue because it just pours out of me. Really, it does. I mean, writing other things, especially if you're writing something like Rambo, which is very difficult because he's monosyllabic. Like, his is lack of expression. Rocky's is everything he's thinking comes out. You know, it's not about how hard you hit, it's about how hard you can get hit. Like, all these things that most people would never talk about. So I found this to be like a therapeutic beyond anything I've ever, like you asked, you know, you go to therapy. That was my Sigmund Freud right there.

1:09:44I have another question about Rambo. You know, as we had discussed, the first movie was quite complicated. You know, this vet that was discarded by his country who had PTSD. And you told this incredible story about how the last scene comes about with the movie ending with him being arrested. But then the character over time turns into this avatar, right? This classic action movie hero, perhaps with a little less depth than the original character had. Absolutely right. That's my fault. That's my fault. This is where this kind of vainglorious pomposity that like, now if you're like that, wait till you see this.

1:10:30And I didn't really focus on the depth of what he was still going through while trying to save POWs. He's trying to save his own soul. We never got into that. It's just like bravado, bravado, bravado, bulletproof. and that's all me. That's all me. I mean, that was a problem. This is when you get really hung up on kind of like clandestine narcissism. It works its way in there. Then you realize, hell, this is a lot easier than showing your soul, flexing your muscles. See what I mean? And it was terrible. Kind of, you know, like a cartoon. It came to define also this projection of American power, you know, and I'm going to quote you to you in an interview in 1985 when you were talking about your view of war, your politics.

1:11:27You said if you have the power like the United States, if you're going to talk tall and carry a big stick, eventually you've got to use it or they'll think you're bluffing. Does Rambo represent a part of like your worldview at that point as well? It did. It did. And now I realize all war is futile. It's stupid. It's a mechanism to make tons of money for the War Department and manufacturers. And these kids are just going out there into a gristmill, being chopped up. And then when they come back with no arms, oh, sorry, you're on your own. I hate it. I hate it. And I'm bitterly opposed to it. But at one time, I was truly gung-ho, really gung-ho.

1:12:16And I don't know if I was just trying to go against the current. You know, in Hollywood, there's a certain dynamic, as you know. But again, I admit it was, I think it was just naivete, really. Because I read a lot, especially after First Blood. and I go, wow, this is brutal. This is horrible. There's no glory in war. None. None. When did you become anti-war? It's, if you're under attack, of course, you have to defend yourself. But I don't want to get into politics now, but all wars basically destroy both sides. I mean, it really creates this horrible history. And, you know, a lot of people don't get over it.

1:13:10They just don't. Grudges are held and, you know, continents are—I mean, countries are destroyed and lines are redrawn. For what, though? I know you don't want to talk about politics. But I am interested in something you just said, which is this idea of Hollywood being liberal and you being seen as a political conservative. Did that put you at odds in what was perceived as a liberal industry or is that perception actually wrong? I mean, it is wrong because I totally understand why the perception is like indelible. When Rocky came out, I was so naive. I'd never even voted. I was like pushing 30 years old.

1:13:57I had zero. I didn't even know the difference between Democrat and Republican. I functioned in another universe. But when Rocky wrapped himself in a flag and that sort of thing, and every movie we were up against at that time in competition, it was very, very heavy, very political. I mean, just extremely erudite intellectual. And Rocky was not that. It was emotional. And I think that right away put me over here. And then when I did First Blood, again, I had no idea that there was such a chasm between the left and the right and me being jingoistic. He's a saber rattler. It was, again, naivete on my part.

1:14:53But yes, it caused a major rift. And I wish it wasn't like that because I really think a lot of these actors have great empathy, great heart. And they're really more for the working man kind of thing. They're just down in the trenches. And that's where I live, you know what I mean? But I'm not considered that. And sometimes, you know, you say things that you don't realize the long-range effects. So you're currently in Tulsa King, which is a Taylor Sheridan series. It's coming up on its fourth season. That's right. At this point in your career, what keeps bringing you back to the screen? I mean, this is no longer that you have anything left to prove.

1:15:43It's not about proving. Well, not proving, but this... No, but I know exactly what you mean. Like, what do you got to prove? It's like a racehorse. You just keep going until it falls down. It doesn't know how to walk. It knows how to run. And it's like, it's almost like breathing. You know what I mean? It's like I talked to Albert, you know, De Niro, these guys. This is the, you are that animal. You cease to exist. without this format. It's what gives you life. You said something in our first interview that really caught my ear. You said, quote, that you can see the light at the end of the tunnel, which I took to mean sort of the end of, you know, your life.

1:16:34And I was wondering how you feel about death and how you feel about that there is less time in front of you than there is behind you. Yeah. in panic mode. Really? Well, because that's what I said before. You know, I built a castle with thousands of stones made of regrets. And I'm trying to make up for it in my own petty way. And I don't know if there's enough time. And then I go, there is not enough time. What I have to do is just focus on the ones that really need me and the ones that I want to go on and have their own life and legacy. and I'm at the point now, you know, at 78, you're kind of like chow.

1:17:16It's where the insurance company goes, you know, that's the average. So I'm two years on borrowed time and I'm making up for it as much as I can. You're never too old to be in love, never too old to dance with the great memories that you've had and not wallow in the worst swamp of all, which is the swamp of loneliness. that is truly premature burial. Hmm. Well, thank you for the gift of all those characters. And thank you for your time. Sylvester Stallone, I appreciate it. Thank you, Lou. I appreciate it. Keep punching.

1:17:58That's Sylvester Stallone. And a note, we reached out to Devereaux for comment after this interview, and a spokesperson replied that while they've not read the book, they respect Mr. Stallone's, quote, write to tell his story his own way, take his account seriously, and are sorry for any trauma he remembers experiencing. His memoir, The Steps, will be published on September 29th. To watch this interview and many others, you can subscribe to our YouTube channel at youtube.com slash at symbol the interview podcast. This conversation was produced by Seth Kelly. It was edited by John Woo, mixing by Sophia Landman, original music by Dan Powell and Marion Lozano, Photography by Philip Montgomery.

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Today we are delighted to share an episode from our colleagues on “The Interview,” originally published on Sept. 26. Lulu Garcia-Navarro spoke with actor Sylvester Stallone, best known for his starring roles in “Rocky” and “Rambo.” In his new memoir, “The Steps,” Stallone looks back on his difficult childhood, his early struggles as an actor and the unlikely success of “Rocky,” which he wrote and starred in. Now 80, Stallone reflects on the physical and emotional toll of fame and what he’s learned over the course of his career.

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